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  • mil is very controlling and it's getting out of hand. dh and i try to create strong boundaries, but lately she's been having a my way or the highway attitude. i'm over it, but i think dh is having a hard time. anyone btdt?

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    05.08.08, 10:41 AM [ Flag ]

    • yes...now i say no and stick to my guns...she is getting the idea

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      05.08.08, 10:42 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • Can't you keep your distance? Don't answer her calls and avoid her as much as possible.

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      05.08.08, 10:42 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

      • op - it's all through dh. she hasn't seen her only grandchild in two months... and he's only five months old. her reason is that she wants to do it on her time (meaning stay over for five hours) rather than get "kicked out"... i can't deal with her rity.

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        05.08.08, 10:44 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

        • if you haven't seen her in 3 months, then you don't have much a problem, honestly. I can see why dh would be upset w/it, but he needs to accept that is how his mom is. You have a baby and your schedule revolves around him now. Tell her when you can see er, end of story.

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          05.08.08, 10:47 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

          • we did. and now she won't commit to mother's day because she isn't in charge of it. do we take back the invitation? i don't want to start a war.

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            05.08.08, 10:48 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

            • then make your own plans if she won't commit. It's already thursday and it's YOUR mother's day too. Do something w/just db and dh. Forget about her if she being a jerk.

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              05.08.08, 10:50 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • that's the nice think about having a bipolar mother in law. You just wait it out, and it all goes away.

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      05.08.08, 10:45 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • Yes, we actually went to couples therapy and MIL was a major issue. It was super helpful. It took DH cracking the whip and setting boundries. It was hard for about a year but is much better now. MIL has chilled and knows her place. Otherwise, she is not i invited and we avoid her. She was a toxic influence.

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      05.08.08, 10:50 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • This sounds like my mother. DH is very supportive when I start to waiver or complain, he just says "I will support you in any decision you make". It is hard to break free after a life time of emotional blackmail, particularly when siblings play along

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      05.08.08, 10:55 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
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