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Has anyone ever had courage to tell friend they need to discipline their DCs? Friend does not parent at all & dc is total brat but ppl just stop playdates, ballet class is "full" when it's not. Maybe it would be better to tell this clueless parent (tho 'm no braver than anyone else.
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no, she really thinks the ballet class is full. ppl lie well about their schedules & she believes it. I just think in the end no one is doing her or DD a favor but I don't have the guts either
[ Reply | Options ]it's too bad. i'm not sure what i would do. but i think i prob woudln't do anything. if anything, the class instructors have a good in to tell her. we'd like to take your child, but s/he's out of control. talk to them. i think it's sad they just lie ell ehr the class is full. and it's clear other people know about it and keep it from her.
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I agree it's something that would take a lot of courage and is probably the right thing to do.That said, it is a virtual guarantee that it will not elicit any result other than the mom being really angry with you. Sad but true.
[ Reply | Options ]I know the mother would hate the messenger but if it was said in a sincere way do you think she might think about what was said??
[ Reply | Options ]It's possible, but my guess would be no. How close are you with her? Maybe if you did it reeeaaallly gently it would fly.
[ Reply | Options ]I'm pretty good friends. I guess one reason I haven't done it (besides cowardice & afraid of loosing my friend) is that she would just think I"m off-target & an up-tight mom. She always says how well-behaved my DD is as if she was born that way. I see almost disapproving when I set limits with my DD
[ Reply | Options ]My SIL had some issues with her ds and my other SIL (her own sister) said something and it wasn't well received. Another friend had a mom in their playgroup speak to her on behalf of the playgroup about her dd being too aggressive and my friend not doing anything about it. She ended up changing how she does things but she never felt the same about the messenger. It's a tough place for you..
[ Reply | Options ]if you truly think her dc is losing out bc of it, then perhaps it's a good idea to find a way to talk toher about it. there may be other things going on that you don't know about. you can approach this from many different angles. concern for her dc.
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