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DH in a sexless marriage here (it's been 10 months, alot has to do with stress from me being out of work, and DW's grandmother died), any tips on how I can restart it or questions?
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we haven't talked about it in a while, so I don't know what she is thinking.....I am back at work now and really want to restart it
[ Reply | Options ]i'd say go slow. be willing to be affectionate w/out immediately expecting sex. my dh and i went through a long dryspell and no sex meant no physical contact from him. if i hugged him, he thought "yay! sex!" and wanted to get right to it. so annoying to me. i felt like we kind of needed to start over, go slow and all that. i wanted to get comfortable being physical in general before we actually had sex.
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np: you and dh/dw haven't had sex for 5 years??? Medical reasons?? How's your marriage holding up?
[ Reply | Options ]We are very happy, shockingly. I put on 30lbs after my 5yo was born and am taking steriods for a medical problem so I can't lose it. He's just not attracted to chubby women although he compliments me daily. Strange but when I lose weight, it'll be bett
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I know but he's aways been very visual and honestly wouldn't be able to perform. He's great in every other aspect and would never cheat.
[ Reply | Options ]You are kidding yourself. 5 yrs is absurd. I think you are not seeing the problems with a man who only will have sex with you if you are perfect for his eyes.
[ Reply | Options ]It goes both ways. He has a low sex drive to begin with. Lost his virginity at 23 and did not masturbate until he was 20. I am also not that interested. It;s okay, really. We are very close and loving
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go out and have a good time. drink, party, come home and have sex. there is not much to it
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A lot of it was my own stress......and I couldn't sleep and to be honest had trouble keeping an erection or had no interest....worries, etc. with her grandmother, DW was just upset about that
[ Reply | Options ]Well, was your sex life good berfore that? Tell her you miss that. Does porn help you maintain?
[ Reply | Options ]It was very good before, usually twice a week, sometimes more.....porn is helping now....there was a period where to be honest, nothing could help, I would lose it within seconds of getting it
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