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I'm trying to figure out how people make it work when stuck by a serious illness. Colleagues dh had bone cancer, recurrent operations/hospital-acquired infections, horrible situation but she is prob going to lose her job due to frequent absences. How do people manage? What will happen when she loses her job (and insurance)? Should she have given her dh less time to preserve her job and recruited family/friends to help out? Feel so horrible for her.
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05.02.08, 04:14 PM [ Flag ]
- ^^when STRUCK, not stuck, sorry
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  05.02.08, 04:14 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- she needs to take the family medical leave, if her company has more than 60 employees she is entitled to 12 weeks.
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  05.02.08, 04:15 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - we have medical leave, he has been sick for 2.6 years
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    05.02.08, 04:16 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - that's really devasating.
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      05.02.08, 04:16 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      - it is, they are both wonderful people. just trying to sort out how often this happens, what employers obligations are, are they doomed, etc
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        05.02.08, 04:17 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        the best option would be to hire a private nurse to stay with him at all times and for her to keep her job.
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        05.02.08, 04:18 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        do you have any idea what a round the clock private nurse costs? She makes about $50K/year
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        05.02.08, 04:19 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        ^^he obviously is not working
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        05.02.08, 04:19 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        there is assistance for people who need it and it is better than being unemployed and in debt/ losing everything.
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        05.02.08, 04:20 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        well, I'd love to hear who will pay for a 24/7 private nurse. I am a single mom who needs a knee operation that will have me immobilized for 6 weeks - please share
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        05.02.08, 04:21 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        hospital social workers can help. there are all kinds of programs out there. talk to the hosp social worker, they are very helpful.
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        05.02.08, 04:22 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        gee.
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        05.02.08, 04:23 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        that's your response?
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        05.02.08, 04:24 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        I responded below - and you are incorrect. If you own any property, have anything of value - like a car - this does not apply. Once again the "middle" is left out.
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        05.02.08, 04:24 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        they may try but the government is tight with social programs. my dad is a senior citizen with Parkinsons and 3 hernieated discs in his back. all he gets is a nurse for 15 hours per WEEK. and his income is 19K. if this woman kept her 50K job they woul et ZERO
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        05.02.08, 04:24 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        OP - they have a car and a house in upstate NY, which basically rules out any sort of financial assistance
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        05.02.08, 04:25 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        that does suck
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        05.02.08, 04:25 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        ^^and with payments/mortgage, of course
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        05.02.08, 04:26 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        yup. 21 hours a day he is on his own to get around in his scooter to make his own meals to take care of himself. Sat and Sun no help at all
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        05.02.08, 04:26 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- she should have rights under fmla
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  05.02.08, 04:15 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - FMLA gives you time off, but does not require employer to pay you - just hold your job.
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    05.02.08, 04:25 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- She will be able to do COBRA for insurance to hold her over for a while. Possible that she doesn't have family around to help out, and she probably didn't want to spend time at work if she was thinking she would have limited time with her dh.
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  05.02.08, 04:16 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- This was us, we lived off of credit cards as long as we could after I had to stop working and pay cobra. Then we lost benefits, then we lost our house. Now dh is ok, we're back to renting, and it just feels gross. Having all this debt, not owning, makes e feel "dirty" domehow, less than other people. Our health ins in this country really sucks.
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  05.02.08, 04:16 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - OMG (OP here) thank god dh is OK and I hope with all my heart you wiwll recover financially. PLease don
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    05.02.08, 04:18 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - ^don't feel "gross."
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      05.02.08, 04:18 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      - Thanks, I just do though. Hard to explain. Hope your friends will be ok as well.
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        05.02.08, 04:20 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - thank god he's healthy and you will get back on your feet. health ins does suck but be glad he recieved good cre.
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    05.02.08, 04:20 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - Thanks.
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      05.02.08, 04:23 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - I feel for you - that would have been my husband and me, except because he had renal disease we had some addition options. GL to you, and you WILL make a comeback :)
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    05.02.08, 04:27 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- this is why medical bills are the number one reason for bankruptcy. it's very sad. i'm sure your friend made the best choices she had.
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^^when STRUCK, not stuck, sorry

she needs to take the family medical leave, if her company has more than 60 employees she is entitled to 12 weeks.

we have medical leave, he has been sick for 2.6 years

that's really devasating.

it is, they are both wonderful people. just trying to sort out how often this happens, what employers obligations are, are they doomed, etc

the best option would be to hire a private nurse to stay with him at all times and for her to keep her job.

do you have any idea what a round the clock private nurse costs? She makes about $50K/year

^^he obviously is not working

there is assistance for people who need it and it is better than being unemployed and in debt/ losing everything.

well, I'd love to hear who will pay for a 24/7 private nurse. I am a single mom who needs a knee operation that will have me immobilized for 6 weeks - please share

hospital social workers can help. there are all kinds of programs out there. talk to the hosp social worker, they are very helpful.

gee.

that's your response?

I responded below - and you are incorrect. If you own any property, have anything of value - like a car - this does not apply. Once again the "middle" is left out.

they may try but the government is tight with social programs. my dad is a senior citizen with Parkinsons and 3 hernieated discs in his back. all he gets is a nurse for 15 hours per WEEK. and his income is 19K. if this woman kept her 50K job they woul et ZERO

OP - they have a car and a house in upstate NY, which basically rules out any sort of financial assistance

that does suck

^^and with payments/mortgage, of course

yup. 21 hours a day he is on his own to get around in his scooter to make his own meals to take care of himself. Sat and Sun no help at all

she should have rights under fmla

FMLA gives you time off, but does not require employer to pay you - just hold your job.

She will be able to do COBRA for insurance to hold her over for a while. Possible that she doesn't have family around to help out, and she probably didn't want to spend time at work if she was thinking she would have limited time with her dh.

OMG (OP here) thank god dh is OK and I hope with all my heart you wiwll recover financially. PLease don

^don't feel "gross."

Thanks, I just do though. Hard to explain. Hope your friends will be ok as well.

thank god he's healthy and you will get back on your feet. health ins does suck but be glad he recieved good cre.

Thanks.

I feel for you - that would have been my husband and me, except because he had renal disease we had some addition options. GL to you, and you WILL make a comeback :)

this is why medical bills are the number one reason for bankruptcy. it's very sad. i'm sure your friend made the best choices she had.

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