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i am single and doing IVF to have a bio child and I am doing it for EXACTLY the same reasons you wanted to have a bio child. Stop judging me
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05.02.08, 04:13 PM [ Flag ]
- don't listen to the trolls here
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  - ita - do what's right for you
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    05.02.08, 04:16 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- when was I judging you? First I've heard of your plans.
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  05.02.08, 04:14 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- ignore the idiots-no matter what you choose to do, there are always going to be those judge or criticize; live your life the way you want to and ignore them
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  05.02.08, 04:14 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- i'm not judging you. i think we're entering a new era where women choose to have babies without partners. a lot of my single friends are considering this and for most of them, I think it would be a shame for them NOT to have kids if they want them. they be such good mothers.
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  05.02.08, 04:14 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- I am the OP of the post below about it. I was not judging at all. I was asking an honest question. I may do IVF and I've had people respond to me with the IVF being wrong argument.
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  05.02.08, 04:16 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - have those people adopted?
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    05.02.08, 04:17 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - Re: have those people adopted?
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      05.02.08, 04:18 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - OR: No, but they feel like if you can have a bio child naturally, then it's meant to be. They don't need to adopt. If you are going to pay 30K, you should do some good for the world and adopt instead of have your own. It's twisted and wrong.
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      05.02.08, 04:20 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      - ivf is twisted and wrong? or dictating what others should do is twisted and wrong?
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        05.02.08, 04:21 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        OR: I meant their logic is twisted and wrong.
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        05.02.08, 04:23 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      - you need to stop talking to those people
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        05.02.08, 04:22 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      - "meant to be" Then these people should stop using birth control and antibiotics and receiving any medical care. they would find out pretty quickly what is "meant to be"
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        05.02.08, 04:22 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - why would anyone object to IVF? it floors me that someone would pass judgment on this
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    05.02.08, 04:17 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- Sorry, but I don't agree with this. A child excels the best with two parents. Research says so.
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  05.02.08, 04:16 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - you know this is simplistic right? bec research can't capture nuances in an individual situation?
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    05.02.08, 04:18 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - it is ideal I would agree. if something were to happen to you or dh, does that mean your children would have been better off not being born?
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    05.02.08, 04:18 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - perhaps if something happens to OR's spouse she can give her children up for adoption to an intact family.
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      05.02.08, 04:19 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      - but only a family that has never comtemplated IVF
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        05.02.08, 04:20 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        you get it
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  - fortunately for OP, she doesn't need your permission or approval for her life choices.
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    05.02.08, 04:18 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - i think that stat comes from an old model. people have changed a lot in the last 20 years. children can excel in any situation.
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    05.02.08, 04:19 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - this may be true, but what about the divorce rate? should those ppl not have children either (fwiw Im talking about divorced dads or moms who don't stay in the pic)
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    05.02.08, 04:22 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - maybe people who have children shouldnt be allowed to divorce. according to OR
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      05.02.08, 04:23 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      - wow good point
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        05.02.08, 04:25 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- who's judging? not me. I tried to do the same thing, but it didn't work for me. A former colleague of mine recently had her 3rd db via IVF (no SO in sight). More power to you, IMHO. GL.
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  - what did you do? do you have any db?
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    05.02.08, 04:21 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- great and gl! louise sloan's "knock yourself up" is a good read.
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  05.02.08, 04:17 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- don't pay any attention at all to the bitter haters. it's your life. GL!
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  05.02.08, 04:18 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- Not judging - you're just choosing a hard path. Life will be easier if you can afford help. GL.
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  05.02.08, 04:19 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - i make more than most two income families (outside of NYC)
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i am single and doing IVF to have a bio child and I am doing it for EXACTLY the same reasons you wanted to have a bio child. Stop judging me

don't listen to the trolls here

ita - do what's right for you

when was I judging you? First I've heard of your plans.

ignore the idiots-no matter what you choose to do, there are always going to be those judge or criticize; live your life the way you want to and ignore them

i'm not judging you. i think we're entering a new era where women choose to have babies without partners. a lot of my single friends are considering this and for most of them, I think it would be a shame for them NOT to have kids if they want them. they be such good mothers.

I am the OP of the post below about it. I was not judging at all. I was asking an honest question. I may do IVF and I've had people respond to me with the IVF being wrong argument.

have those people adopted?

Re: have those people adopted?

OR: No, but they feel like if you can have a bio child naturally, then it's meant to be. They don't need to adopt. If you are going to pay 30K, you should do some good for the world and adopt instead of have your own. It's twisted and wrong.

ivf is twisted and wrong? or dictating what others should do is twisted and wrong?

OR: I meant their logic is twisted and wrong.

you need to stop talking to those people

"meant to be" Then these people should stop using birth control and antibiotics and receiving any medical care. they would find out pretty quickly what is "meant to be"

why would anyone object to IVF? it floors me that someone would pass judgment on this

Sorry, but I don't agree with this. A child excels the best with two parents. Research says so.

you know this is simplistic right? bec research can't capture nuances in an individual situation?

it is ideal I would agree. if something were to happen to you or dh, does that mean your children would have been better off not being born?

perhaps if something happens to OR's spouse she can give her children up for adoption to an intact family.

but only a family that has never comtemplated IVF

you get it

fortunately for OP, she doesn't need your permission or approval for her life choices.

i think that stat comes from an old model. people have changed a lot in the last 20 years. children can excel in any situation.

this may be true, but what about the divorce rate? should those ppl not have children either (fwiw Im talking about divorced dads or moms who don't stay in the pic)

maybe people who have children shouldnt be allowed to divorce. according to OR

wow good point

who's judging? not me. I tried to do the same thing, but it didn't work for me. A former colleague of mine recently had her 3rd db via IVF (no SO in sight). More power to you, IMHO. GL.

what did you do? do you have any db?

great and gl! louise sloan's "knock yourself up" is a good read.

don't pay any attention at all to the bitter haters. it's your life. GL!

Not judging - you're just choosing a hard path. Life will be easier if you can afford help. GL.

i make more than most two income families (outside of NYC)

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