dh has hung up on me 3x today about my questions regarding some financial irregularities (I think he's lying). he only seems to be able to respond calmly by txt (he is away). unwise to introduce the idea that we need to consider separating by txt? he he could think about the consequences of his actions, and the possibility of separation, on his 3 hr drive home tonight.

as far as i know, yes. let me ask you this: is it believable that he, a lawyer, mistakenly had the tax refund go into his personal checking acct rather than a joint acct, and that he now 'cannot remember' what he did with the money? to me, this is a major stretch. the last time he did this, he put a huge amount of $ in an account he 'thought was joint' and then later said actually he was hiding it from me since we had argued badly and he had said if i leave him would i 'go after his money' and i said that it was entirely dependent upon the custody arrangement. so i don't have a firm trust in him in the first place.