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I am starting to think that my dd is just not that smart. She is a great kid--creative like crazy, artistic, great imagination, social, friendly, easy going, etc. But maybe she's just not that smart. I'm sick of arguing with her to get her homework done every night, getting frustrated b/c she gets bad grades in school. I know she is smart in a certain way--maybe just not "school smart." Is it okay to just admit that?
29 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]there are so many different types of intelligence. Book smarts is a poor predictor of future success and happiness
[ Reply | Options ]Learning isn't just about intellectual aptitude. Executive functioning of the brain and motivation are key factors as well. She may need to develop those along with better organizational skills. These won't kill her creativity, by the way. They'll enhance her ability to conceive ideas and see them through.
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I think you need to develop a new, non combattive strategy to getting the homework done and then just support and love your dd for whomever she is.
[ Reply | Options ]I absolutely support and love her for whatever or whoever she becomes. 10000%. But it's still hard to see her constantly not understand or whatever. Just makes it hard. At 9 y.o you are not appreciated in school for being great at designing your own clot clothes.
[ Reply | Options ]This is true but I still think you should talk to friends or ask her or read a book on how to get through school/homework without a fight every single night. It will hurt your dd in school and it will hurt your relationship with her if you just fight and fight, you know? My mom and dad (I have no idea how) got my learning-disabled brother through school and he even went to college. Hated it, but did it. I think finding a way to approach learning and homework peacefully is essential for you and your dd.
[ Reply | Options ]Thanks. I'm trying. I think she does not see the point to it AT ALL. She has no interest in lying down at reading. She would much rather play a game, make up a puppet show, design an outfit for a doll, etc. It's almost like torture to have to sit and do more work after having to sit and do work all day long. She doesn't see the point at all. I'm hoping it will get easier with time. We try to make it as nice as possible, but sometimes I feel like I am practically giving her every answer b/c she just doesn't GET IT and then it just seems useless.
[ Reply | Options ]Maybe sit down with her teacher(s) and explain what is going on and ask their perspective? and/or make a one time appointment with an experienced tutor and ask for tips? I am sure it is frustrating. I've got toddlers and haven't gotten to homework yet a I'm dreading it. So, not speaking from my own experience but I know from watching my brother that it only gets harder and more complicated as school continues. Good luck.
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It's her learning style, not that she's not smart. She may need to draw first, then do homework, or be taught the material in a different way: tactile, verbal, etc. it's best to read about what HER style is and then tailor how u handle homework to that There are many books on the nature of your child.
[ Reply | Options ]Any to recommend? Maybe I'll go to the bookstore and see what I can find tomorrow. Thanks. It's really not that I don't think she's smart. I'm just frustrated. But I do think that maybe she's just not an academic kind of kid for now. I know that cha and great if it does, great if it doesn't--whatever.
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