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i just had my 2nd child 1 mo ago, and 3 y/o pdd-nos regressing a bit, more scripting and echolalia, mostly because he has been watching more tv. i feel like a terrible mom even though i am just trying to balance everything out right now.
6 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]Try not to go to the guilt place if you can! Keep in mind that if you were just the two of you and sitting reading lots of books on the couch, he'd likely script from the books too. Also, he may appreciate having the break that tv offers - no stress rela relaxation time. You're doing your best! If it would make you feel better, tell yourself "I'm going to aim for x amount of quality time today with DC". Even if it's just 30 minutes while the baby naps. At the end of the day when you're tempted to feel guilty remind yourself about all the good you *are* doing!
[ Reply | Options ]Boy, do I remember this! My SN DD was 3 when DD#2 was born and it was TOUGH. I have visceral memories of exactly what you are experiencing. I'm not going to lie to you, it's a big change and I felt like there was just not enough of me to go around for a while. There was definitely TV to cope and my standards for parenting slipped. However, our DD#2 has been THE BEST THING EVER for DD#1 and for our family. You're taking it on the chin right now, but it will pay off! Try not to be hard on yourself. You're doing a great job!
[ Reply | Options ]Please keep in mind even NT kids regress in behavior when a sibling is born - this is to be expected. Don't stress about using the TV - I did it when #2 came along as well. In a little while you'll get into a routine with the baby and things will get better with #1. Don't feel guilty - as I said, most kids experience a regression - it's just different behaviors that present. My NT DD stopped sleeping & eating when #2 came along. I have a friend whose NT child regressed potty training & asked for bottles again. It's not just SN kids - it's just that with your DS, it's presenting as the scripting. But this phase will pass. Give yourself a break.
[ Reply | Options ]i so remember this. it's actually when we figured out #1 had issues. the regression plus the typicality of #1. it was the worst time. I used to wake up to feed #2 and then be awake worrying about #1. it does get so much better. the regression fades and t baby is great for the older child.
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