new post »
see more posts »
Moms with one child (and no plans for anymore)--are you completely sure of your decision (if it is a decision) not to have siblings for your one DB? We may be heading in that direction (for a lot of reasons, most of which relate to my problems carrying m a pregnancy). He has started to talk about other kids' siblings and I just don't know how I will make peace with not giving him siblings. I know there are many happy only children, but I am just not sure if I can be completely okay with not giving DS a sibling. Anyone been through this? TIA. (By the way, if not for my physical problems I would definitely want another child . . .)
14 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]I have more than 1 but would you consider adopting. You dont have to be done. If you choose to not have more I am sure your child will be fine as you seem like a caring and loving mom.
[ Reply | Options ]I'm in early menopause so no more for us either. I just know I have to accept reality and go on. I wish we could have some sibs too, but DD is a miracle so I try to think more about how grateful I am to have her than how sad I am not to have others
[ Reply | Options ]OP: I try to do the same thing (focus on the miracle of DS and how amazing he is), and sometimes that is more than enough but other days I am just struggling with him being an only. My physical issues make it difficult for me to have another--but not imp impossible--so I think I am probably also struggling with some guilt about whether I should be more willing to go through the whole traumatic pregnancy thing again . . . thanks and glad you have a great DD.
[ Reply | Options ]I can understand that. I feel guilty that I didn't start earlier! Although of course I didn't know I would hit menopause early! Oh well. Onlies have their advantages. Sometimes now that DD is 3, I think back to the baby days and remember how hard it was Makes me wonder why anyone does it more than once! Glad you have your DS too :-)
[ Reply | Options ]
UrbanBaby Asks...
When I ride in a taxi cab with my DC I:
- Use a carseat
- Buckle him/her in his/her own seat
- Hold him/her on my lap
- I'd never ride in a taxi with my DC, it's much too dangerous!
Already voted? View Results
Boards Help
Abbreviations
More Boards Help
Site Feedback Thank you for your feedback about the new site. We are paying close attention to your comments and we will incorporate them as we make improvements to the site. Please continue to report problems and offer feedback on the Site Feedback Board and visit our Site Talk blog for answers to some of your questions and updates on specific issues.
More Boards Help
Site Feedback Thank you for your feedback about the new site. We are paying close attention to your comments and we will incorporate them as we make improvements to the site. Please continue to report problems and offer feedback on the Site Feedback Board and visit our Site Talk blog for answers to some of your questions and updates on specific issues.
Flashback
