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when can you skip the 3 or 4 am feeding? ped says now (6 mos) but weissbluth stays they still need it up until 9 mos. what did you do? tia
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04.25.08, 05:29 PM [ Flag ]
- are you waking db up for them?
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  04.25.08, 05:29 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - no, he wakes up at 3 or 4 and wants to nurse, so I do it. ped says I'm a nut and that he doesn't need it. not sure
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    04.25.08, 05:30 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - I fed my kids whenever they wanted--that's what made sense to me.
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      04.25.08, 05:31 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      - np - i think its all personal...he won't starve, its whether you want to go thru cio or if you don't mind getting up keep with it.
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        04.25.08, 05:34 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      - the thing is I don't know if he's really hungry. he seems very tired, but he'll always eat if you offer. so maybe I'm just training him to keep waking up at 3 or 4 a.m.? who knows
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        04.25.08, 05:34 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        there's crying, and then there's crying. I just couldn't leave an inconsolable child crying. fwiw, they were relatively good sleepers, though.
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        04.25.08, 05:36 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        we have gone through some awful nights of cio but dh has been doing the heavy lifting. now he's out of town and I can't remember if/when to check. I am SO tired. anyway, point well taken regarding degrees of crying
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        04.25.08, 05:37 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        if db is sleeping now, go to bed!
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        04.25.08, 05:40 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        p.s. what do you consider a pretty good sleeper at the 6 mo stage? tia
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        04.25.08, 05:38 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        or: I really don't recall the specifics. I felt like I was able to get a decent night's rest, so was getting a 4-6 hour stretch, w/maybe a wakeup and then a few more hours or something?
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        04.25.08, 05:39 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        thanks, that is helpful. db is doing 7:30-12:00 or so, then goes until 3:30, then up again at 6. shoot me...
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        04.25.08, 05:41 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        hm. my reaction to that would probably be to keep db up later in the evening.
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        04.25.08, 05:42 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        you know, I've tried and he gets up at the SAME TIMES. maybe I should try again but I'm scared. maybe I'll just have to let him scream his head off. oh, I don't know! thank you though
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        04.25.08, 05:44 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        I've heard that some babies have strong internal clocks. sorry.
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        04.25.08, 05:47 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        I surely have one of those. Have I mentioned that this db only takes 1/2 hour naps during the day? it's pretty nutty
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        04.25.08, 05:48 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        wow. you're a SAHM?
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        04.25.08, 05:52 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        I also never did cio and my son sleeps thru the night and a great napper...i don't think its always the right answer.
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        04.25.08, 05:38 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        op here and I must say the "sleep training" w/#2 is so much harder than w/#1. they're very different babies. this one just doesn't nap, and needs some cuddling and transitioning, no matter how tired, to fall asleep
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        04.25.08, 05:40 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        ditto - I'm having such a harder time getting my 6mo on a schedule - think it's because I'm at the mercy of my 2yo's schedule.
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        04.25.08, 05:43 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        it's hard with two, I'm always shushing the bigger one. i feel bad about that!
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        04.25.08, 05:47 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        np- i think each kids is different- my 5 mo is a great sleeper, on a schedule- my first was impossible and erratic despite all attempts to train
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        04.25.08, 05:52 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        OR: I know. different kids are different, and parents have different needs as well. DH and I honestly aren't organized enough to enforce really strict rules.
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        04.25.08, 05:41 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        your teenagers are going to love you! ; )
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        04.25.08, 05:48 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
        
        we aren't lax or anything--just realistic about what we are capable of enforcing.
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        04.25.08, 05:50 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- i did a final feed at 10:30 and did CIO for the night feed at 4mo
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  04.25.08, 05:30 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - woah, good for you. wish I had that resolve. curious, when did you get your period again after db? was it shortly after you cut out the night feeding? tia
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    04.25.08, 05:33 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - no - when i weaned at 6 mo
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      04.25.08, 05:34 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
      - interesting. they say the night feedings are the ones that suppress ovulation the most effectively. thanks for the info, was just curious. your baby must have been quite a daytime nurser!
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        04.25.08, 05:36 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- he/she doesn't need the food then tons of 6 mo olds sleep thru the night...its probably comfort.
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  04.25.08, 05:31 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - so my ped says. I don't know why weissbluth says they need that night feeding until 8 or 9 mos
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    04.25.08, 05:34 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- OP and while I have a couple CIO moms here, please tell me, do you go check why they're crying (poopy diaper, wet diaper, etc.) during the night, then put them back and let them cry. tia, totally sleep deprived and dumb
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  04.25.08, 05:35 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - Who says moms who do CIO don't go check on their kids??
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    04.25.08, 05:53 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]

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when can you skip the 3 or 4 am feeding? ped says now (6 mos) but weissbluth stays they still need it up until 9 mos. what did you do? tia

are you waking db up for them?

no, he wakes up at 3 or 4 and wants to nurse, so I do it. ped says I'm a nut and that he doesn't need it. not sure

I fed my kids whenever they wanted--that's what made sense to me.

np - i think its all personal...he won't starve, its whether you want to go thru cio or if you don't mind getting up keep with it.

the thing is I don't know if he's really hungry. he seems very tired, but he'll always eat if you offer. so maybe I'm just training him to keep waking up at 3 or 4 a.m.? who knows

there's crying, and then there's crying. I just couldn't leave an inconsolable child crying. fwiw, they were relatively good sleepers, though.

we have gone through some awful nights of cio but dh has been doing the heavy lifting. now he's out of town and I can't remember if/when to check. I am SO tired. anyway, point well taken regarding degrees of crying

if db is sleeping now, go to bed!

p.s. what do you consider a pretty good sleeper at the 6 mo stage? tia

or: I really don't recall the specifics. I felt like I was able to get a decent night's rest, so was getting a 4-6 hour stretch, w/maybe a wakeup and then a few more hours or something?

thanks, that is helpful. db is doing 7:30-12:00 or so, then goes until 3:30, then up again at 6. shoot me...

hm. my reaction to that would probably be to keep db up later in the evening.

you know, I've tried and he gets up at the SAME TIMES. maybe I should try again but I'm scared. maybe I'll just have to let him scream his head off. oh, I don't know! thank you though

I've heard that some babies have strong internal clocks. sorry.

I surely have one of those. Have I mentioned that this db only takes 1/2 hour naps during the day? it's pretty nutty

wow. you're a SAHM?

I also never did cio and my son sleeps thru the night and a great napper...i don't think its always the right answer.

op here and I must say the "sleep training" w/#2 is so much harder than w/#1. they're very different babies. this one just doesn't nap, and needs some cuddling and transitioning, no matter how tired, to fall asleep

ditto - I'm having such a harder time getting my 6mo on a schedule - think it's because I'm at the mercy of my 2yo's schedule.

it's hard with two, I'm always shushing the bigger one. i feel bad about that!

np- i think each kids is different- my 5 mo is a great sleeper, on a schedule- my first was impossible and erratic despite all attempts to train

OR: I know. different kids are different, and parents have different needs as well. DH and I honestly aren't organized enough to enforce really strict rules.

your teenagers are going to love you! ; )

we aren't lax or anything--just realistic about what we are capable of enforcing.

i did a final feed at 10:30 and did CIO for the night feed at 4mo

woah, good for you. wish I had that resolve. curious, when did you get your period again after db? was it shortly after you cut out the night feeding? tia

no - when i weaned at 6 mo

interesting. they say the night feedings are the ones that suppress ovulation the most effectively. thanks for the info, was just curious. your baby must have been quite a daytime nurser!

he/she doesn't need the food then tons of 6 mo olds sleep thru the night...its probably comfort.

so my ped says. I don't know why weissbluth says they need that night feeding until 8 or 9 mos

OP and while I have a couple CIO moms here, please tell me, do you go check why they're crying (poopy diaper, wet diaper, etc.) during the night, then put them back and let them cry. tia, totally sleep deprived and dumb

Who says moms who do CIO don't go check on their kids??

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