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  • there's this woman who wants to be my friend, and she's perfectly nice but way too needy for me. she doesn't take the hint and just keeps calling and calling. then when i take a long time to call her back, she calls to find out if i'm mad at her. i 't want to be unkind but i also don't want to have to always feel guilty about owing her a phone call. especially since i don't really want to see her at all. i have A LOT on my plate right now and don't have the emotional resources for this. WWYD?

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    04.23.08, 07:56 AM [ Flag ]

    • call her back and tell her it's not a good time to talk and you will call her when you get a moment.

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      04.23.08, 07:58 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • it will only get worse. stay clear.

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      04.23.08, 07:58 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • sounds like your problem is your own guilt and bad feelings about blowing her off. shut that off and you won't have a problem. talk to her when you feel like it and that it

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      04.23.08, 07:59 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • I am in the SAME exact situation. I feel so guilty but something in my gut is telling me to keep her at an arm's length.

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      04.23.08, 07:59 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

      • op: it kind of makes me a bit angry. i'm trying to be sensitive but find her behavior almost aggressive. just take the gentle hints and do us both a favor, right?

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        04.23.08, 08:02 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

        • it kind of makes me mad too. I can't give her as much of my time as she seems to want.

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          04.23.08, 08:04 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

          • exactly. they're so absorbed in their own agenda that they don't even realize, or care, that they're making us uncomfortable.

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            04.23.08, 08:06 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • be nice. tell her you have an extremely busy life but do like her and want to keep in touch, but do not take it personally if you go for long stretches without speaking.

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      04.23.08, 08:01 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • I think it is always best to email thise conversations. She sounds to needy and if you are like me that is annoying. tell her you will call her when plate is less full.

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      04.23.08, 08:01 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

      • yes, this makes a lot of sense. i'm kind of a loner and do find her neediness very annoying. i'll try to compose an email that's gentle but clear.

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        04.23.08, 08:04 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
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