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Should a 23mo understand that hitting his mother is wrong? My nephew does this to my sister all the time, and even though he gets time outs he never stays put & will hit again. Does he just not get it yet? I feel really bad for her, I was over there today and she just broke down. Her dh is always working so she's doing it alone. He's a great, sweet, funny, lovable kid most of the time, but when he's a pita, he's really a pita.
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No, that age is notorious for hitting. I do not believe timeouts are effective at that age though. Better to teach empathy by telling him that hitting hurts or makes her sad or whatever. Then distract.
[ Reply | Options ]op: Yeah, we didn't think that the time outs were doing anything, but she felt like she needed to do something. Thanks!
[ Reply | Options ]I'd really recommend Dr. Sears "The Discipline Book". It's not about punishments but talks alot about typical development, what you can expect and why then gives suggestions on how you might deal with the behavior. In my experience, building empathy is the cornerstone for overcoming any negative behavior. Once they can really internalize that they are hurting someone (feelings or body) then they can understand why they shouldn't do it, kwim? Much more effective than just punishments.
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my ds did this at the same age, the more i asked him not to hit mom, and explained that it hurt, my pediatrician gave me the best advice, call no attention to the bad behavior, protect yourself and quietly move out of the way but don't say anything about the hitting, I did this and he stopped hitting in two days.
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