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  • My 5 yo DS is jealous of his 10 mo brother. He has been fine so far. I think he finally realized that the 10 mo is a real human being and not just his toy. What do I say to him when he says things like, "I don't love you guys anymore. I just like you a teensy little bit?"

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    04.22.08, 09:08 AM [ Flag ]

    • just grunt.

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      04.22.08, 09:09 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • Say, "Well, I love you a lot, all the time."

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      04.22.08, 09:09 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • I'd just say, "Well, I love you no matter how you feel."

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      04.22.08, 09:09 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

      • yes. I am in same situation. Shortly, 10 mo will start to interact with 5 yo, and all will be right with the world. Or at least, that's what happened for us, db now 14 mo

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        04.22.08, 09:11 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

        • Aw! He does love to play with his little brother. And DB loves to giggle at his older brother's silliness.

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          04.22.08, 09:16 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • tell him to suck it up and deal. seriously, but maybe a little softer around the edges. we have the same age gap, and older dd tries the jealously thing and we just don't let her get away with it.

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      04.22.08, 09:09 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

      • That's my gut reaction. I think he's trying to get more attention.

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        04.22.08, 09:11 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

      • You don't let her get away with it? Jealousy is a valid feeling. It's really not something a person can control

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        04.22.08, 09:11 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

        • OR, and I agree it's valid. But she knows she's loved, and she turns it on and off to make herself the center of attention.

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          04.22.08, 09:11 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

          • OP: I get you. I think my 5 yo acts up on purpose to get attention. He wants to be the star all day long. He started to whine and throw tantrums, and to smother people with his aggressive kisses all day long.

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            04.22.08, 09:13 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

            • Yup - there is this change in bahaviour when the baby starts being a person -- the older kid wants to maintain the title of center of the world. And the BS jealously exhibits (not real, sincere, frustrating jealousy) is one of the ways to do it.

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              04.22.08, 09:16 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • lol, sounds like my 4 yo when I give him a time out

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      04.22.08, 09:10 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • i think i would probably say "i bet it's frustrating for you right now, but we all love you very much."

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      04.22.08, 09:10 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
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