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My ds will be 4 iin June and refuses to poop on the potty. He has been night trained and pee trained for almost a year and will not poop. I have tried EVERYTHING to get him to go on the toilet but he won't. Any advice?
53 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]this is your issue. seems like you PTed wrong, made it a control issue. You need to make it matter of fact. he NEEDS to go in the toilet. If he goes in his underwear or in his bed at night, he needs to clean it up. NOT YOU. after a few nights and days of that (he has to wash himself and his clothing too) he won't want to do it anymore.
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if you don't want your 4yo to shit his pants and you don't want PT him at a norma age, don't complain...you made the issue.
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i didn't assume anything. Apparently she didn't do it right the first. time. but thats over, doesn't matter now. now she needs to get her 4yo to use the toilet. To do that he needs a little responsibility in the matter, not mommy to clean it all up and pretend it didn't happen. Wh yare you parents so afraid of giving your kids responsibility?
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or- no its not at all! The mother doesn't have to get angry or upset. it is matter of fact (just like cleaning up your toys mess) you make a mess you clean it. He isn't 2yo, he is 4! He can clean his own mess, or he can go on the potty like a normal 4 y
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potty training is not discipline - that kid will have major issues from that approach
[ Reply | Options ]or- are you joking? Making him clean up his mess is not DISCIPLINE!!! IT is everyday life! Is it discipline if he has to clean his toys? No, it is just the rules! Just like him having to clean his bathroom mess. Not discipline, just what needs to happen. Stop making it worse than it is.
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I disagree that it is "obvious" the op pted wrong- lots of kids get "stuck" about pooping. While I see the natural consequence you are suggesting, its is an approach based on discipline or negative consequence and could lead to a power struggle
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I absolutely AGREE! pre-k teacher here and I have seen this too many times! Basically, it's a control and attention getter, it's manipulation at it's best
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op- how is this harsh? If he doesn't want to sit in it, he will clean it. How is that harsh? He has many options! Go on the potty, clean up the mess, or sit in it. He is making the choices, not you. how is this cruel? You in no way are angry at him for h s accident, but you are not happy or helping either. You are the reaosn this child is not PTed, it is about him taking advantage of you!
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or- 4. all PTed at 18mos. no regression, and no other issues because i was so "horribly mean " to them.
[ Reply | Options ]np. seriously, what is wrong with peaple now a days? afraid of potty training because somehow it would damage them. come on, get some sense.
[ Reply | Options ]they are afraid their children will be 17 one day and tell them they hate them! My kids are as of yet perfectly fine with having rules and routines, not damaged or unhappy at all! They will learn that when dcs are 17, they are going to hate you no matter how much ass kissing they did from birth to then..
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or- why is it crap? Does your 4yo not have to clean up his toys? His dirty dishes? Why not have to clean up the mess he made in his bed? Trust me, he won't want to do it for more than a couple days...he will go on the potty.
[ Reply | Options ]ds is 3.5 and would be incapable of cleaning himself - he can barely get a clean pull up off - you really can't compare a bodily function to toys - you are going to end up with a chronically constipated kid - some kids are easier no matter what the pare t does - it's easy for you to blame the parent when you know nothing about the child
[ Reply | Options ]who said he needs to be spotless? And guess what he isn't 3, he is 4. big difference (i know, i have 4 kids and PTed them all !) He needs to learn consequences for his actions. This isn't punishing, this is just what happens when he makes a mess. he can andle doing an okay job cleaning himself, changing his clothing, and putting whatever needs to be washed in the washer then drying. it isn't the end of the world. stop treating your children like morons.
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I went through this w/ my dd. Told her on the last pkg of pullups, "this is it..." and then when we got down to the last 5 I counted them down. She went 2 days without going and then finally went on the potty and it was never an issue again. I truly believe she would have gone to college still pooping in a pullup if I hadn't pulled the plug, so to speak.
[ Reply | Options ]Is he scared? My ds just couldn't relax to poop on the potty. This is what finally worked for us. We bought him a Leapster game that he could only play while sitting on the toilet. We waited until he was showing signs that he had to go, sat him on th toilet and let him play the game. The game distracted him enough that he relaxed and pooped without realizing it. We made a big deal about it, etc. Once he had a few successes of going, it was fine!
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