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  • I really dont like my dh. sometimes we have great moments. but most of the time I just dont like him. I ahd been alone with 3 dc for 48 hrs and yesterday I went to lie down for an hr. he came in and said he was taking 2 older dc out, db was napping, I said great! as soon as they were out the door, I got up and got so much stuff done, cleaning, etc...dinner...when he came home he goes: Gee, how was yr 4 hr nap? must be nice" 1) it was a 3 hr window 2) I napped for 1 of those hrs and 3) how could you possibly begrudge me a little rest when I have been alone with all 3 and you were away at a party? seriously? this is my life? I dont have a partner-I have an unhappy, competitive grump. this stinks

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    04.21.08, 08:07 AM [ Flag ]

    • go away for a wkend and see how he does, has he ever been alone with all dc's

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      04.21.08, 08:08 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • This is (almost) my life too. Sucks.

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      04.21.08, 08:08 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • did you tell him this?

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      04.21.08, 08:08 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

      • of course. but we go in circles. then he goes: when is my down time? I work all week...wah wah. And I say, I am with the kids all week...and then I say, but you were away, you had time in the car, you were alone at a dinner party, you got to sleep thru the night...and then it's "oh that doesnt count. the car isnt alone time (hell, for me it would be!!!!!!!!!!!) I shared a room with my brother and eh snored...it kept me up" it's like, nothing is good enough

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        04.21.08, 08:10 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

        • np: I really suggest counseling, not b/c you have a MAJOR PROBLEM but it will give you guys tools to communicate, share, etc. It's been wonderful for me.

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          04.21.08, 08:11 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

        • can you go to a few sessions of counseling to help work this out? You both should have down time on teh weekends or after work for him, but it seems he does not understand how much work it is to SAHM (and I wohm and say this)

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          04.21.08, 08:12 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

          • op: I want to-he goes: what? everything is perfect. he works way too many rhs and doesnt have the time (or doesnt want to invest the time in us)

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            04.21.08, 08:13 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

            • you need to explain that you are not happy and can he do this for you, etc. things are not perfect for you and as your partner and mother of his children he needs to at least be willing to discuss it and find ways to help make it even better...

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              04.21.08, 08:19 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

        • this is why people bring nannies on vacations

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          04.21.08, 08:14 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

          • op: lol, he would if I would let him!!!! he wants round the clock help. and btw-he really wanted these dc!

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            04.21.08, 08:15 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

            • so why don't you get some more help during the week if you can afford it? That would give you a break too--or have someone on the weekend so you can have time together. If you have the money, then why are you not getting any help if you feel like you nee a break?

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              04.21.08, 08:21 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • I agree that his comment was nasty, but he did take the kids out -- that's a partner-type thing to do. But his attitude does seem to suck.

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      04.21.08, 08:09 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

      • op: yes, it was so nice...but when it's done with this martyr attitude...he walked in door, dumped them on me and turned sports on. b.c he had them for TWO hrs! and also, he needs to do this, they miss him so much

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        04.21.08, 08:11 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]

    • Your husband clearly has a very limited understanding of what it is to be a SAH parent, and he doesn't seem very emotionally skilled in any case.

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      04.21.08, 08:25 AM [ Flag | link to this post ]
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