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4 yo dd shows a lot of love towards 1 yo ds but at the same time, has some anger in there which i can see because she plays games that involve pushing him or knocking him over etc. and she's starting doing rude things like that to other (generally young younger) kids at the playground (not her friends though). tonight ds pinched her (he was playing) and it hurt her and she cried and said "i don't like him. every time he comes into my room i want him to go away!" now i feel awful because i think that is really the way she feels...her room is where we all play (he has a tiny nook of a room) and she seems to want to play by herself & have him leave her alone a lot. what do i do?
7 replies [ Reply | Watch | Options ]acknowledge her feelings. tell her "i think you love your brother, but i think sometimes you don't like having him around because it's hard to share". let her have time alone in her room. let her know that her feelings are not 'bad', and that you still love her. then do what you can to make situations where the 2 of them can have fun together.
[ Reply | Options ]that's pretty much what i said to her tonight. i told her " i understand it's hard to have him around all the time and getting into all of your stuff. i'll try to make more time for you to play in your room by yourself and have your privacy". then few minutes later, ds made a loud fart and dd started laughing and said "i love him even when i'm mad at him".
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Normal for her to have those feelings. Have you read Sibbling Without Rivalry? Very helpful about this stuff. allow to have those feelings and be able to voice them.
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