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I posted a few weeks ago that my younger sister is battling and eating disorder (bulimia) as well as OCD and depression. She's OK but it's time to finally stick with therapy. This is the question: She works at a small fund about 40 people. The manageme is in it's employees' business in a good way. They are always paying for things and take a real interest. She has a 6:00 appointment with a therapist once a week and does not know what to tell her employer. If she lies and they find out she's toast. If she's totally honest she's pretty screwed too. wwyd? tia.
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04.14.08, 06:09 PM [ Flag ]
- just say she has an appointment. that's it. they'll figure it out.
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- ^^ sorry this was not well worded. We need the advice so I was in a hurry.
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  - Can she do therapy in the evenings? why would the fund care?
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    04.14.08, 06:11 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - you mean later than 6:00? If she leaves before 6:00 apparently she needs to give a reason.
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      04.14.08, 06:12 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- I think she should tell them she has a standing medical appointment at 6pm to address depression and anxiety. Period.
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  - ^^ she doesn't need to get into the whole ED or OCD detail.
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    04.14.08, 06:12 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - No! Don't say the reason.
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    04.14.08, 06:12 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - np: i don't think she should have to say to address depression and anxiety
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    04.14.08, 06:12 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- still waiting for the "in a good way" part
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  04.14.08, 06:10 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - She tells me that her management offered to pay for an exterminator when they found out she had roaches in her apt. They apy for dinners out when employees socialize etc.
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    04.14.08, 06:16 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - ^^pay
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      04.14.08, 06:16 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- agree. She needs to be able to look at them and say, I hae to leave, have an appointment. And leave. I can't believe they'll demand to know what it is
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  04.14.08, 06:11 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- It's illegal for them to ask why she is seeing a doctor
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  04.14.08, 06:11 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- I'd go to my manager and say "I've got a standing appointment at 6pm to work through some personal/family issues. This will not effect my work and I'm dedicated. I just need you to know that I need to leave on Wednesdays at 5:45pm"
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  04.14.08, 06:11 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - This is good.
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    04.14.08, 06:15 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - OP: This is where I was leaning too. She should also ask her manager to keep it confidential
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    04.14.08, 06:17 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
    - Does it really matter? I mean, shes' not going to discuss it with anyone no matter what. And, people will notice her departure so...who cares what he tells others? That is the whole point of therapy.....to settle into yourself and forget what others are saying. Right?
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      04.14.08, 06:20 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- Perhaps the therapist can accomodate her at another time? The last thing your sister needs is the ADDITIONAL stress this will cause her.
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  04.14.08, 06:16 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
  - I know! She does not need to feel any scrutiny. The poor thing is trying to do everything right.
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    04.14.08, 06:19 PM [ Flag | link to this post ]
- OP: Thanks all - you're good sisters!
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just say she has an appointment. that's it. they'll figure it out.

^^ sorry this was not well worded. We need the advice so I was in a hurry.

Can she do therapy in the evenings? why would the fund care?

you mean later than 6:00? If she leaves before 6:00 apparently she needs to give a reason.

I think she should tell them she has a standing medical appointment at 6pm to address depression and anxiety. Period.

^^ she doesn't need to get into the whole ED or OCD detail.

No! Don't say the reason.

np: i don't think she should have to say to address depression and anxiety

still waiting for the "in a good way" part

She tells me that her management offered to pay for an exterminator when they found out she had roaches in her apt. They apy for dinners out when employees socialize etc.

^^pay

agree. She needs to be able to look at them and say, I hae to leave, have an appointment. And leave. I can't believe they'll demand to know what it is

It's illegal for them to ask why she is seeing a doctor

I'd go to my manager and say "I've got a standing appointment at 6pm to work through some personal/family issues. This will not effect my work and I'm dedicated. I just need you to know that I need to leave on Wednesdays at 5:45pm"

This is good.

OP: This is where I was leaning too. She should also ask her manager to keep it confidential

Does it really matter? I mean, shes' not going to discuss it with anyone no matter what. And, people will notice her departure so...who cares what he tells others? That is the whole point of therapy.....to settle into yourself and forget what others are saying. Right?

Perhaps the therapist can accomodate her at another time? The last thing your sister needs is the ADDITIONAL stress this will cause her.

I know! She does not need to feel any scrutiny. The poor thing is trying to do everything right.

OP: Thanks all - you're good sisters!

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