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[ - ] This is petty. I just saw a bachelorette party that was Disney princess themed. There apparently was a dress code for colors. There was an instagram hashtag (that didn't bother so much other than it was disney themed) The words "preggers" was on one of the matching shirts. The kicker to all this: the bride is 35 years old... 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:31 PM Flag
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I enjoy Disney. And just read 2 novels last week. Sue me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:32 PM Flag
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OP: I'm not anti Disney. I like Disneyland but I stopped planning my Disney wedding when I was seven. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:46 PM Flag
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I sort of see your point. But some are fanatical. My ds for one. He's 27 and still loves it. [ Reply | More ]
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Eh, if people find some joy, who cares? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:34 PM Flag
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OP: I said it was petty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:46 PM Flag
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I find adult Disney fans odd. On our first Disney cruise there was a couple taking it as their honeymoon, no kids with them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:40 PM Flag
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Same. There's something a little bit "off" about adults who are obsessed with disney. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:43 PM Flag
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Sounds awful. Reminds me of DH's cousin who had her bacherlorette in vegas and they all wore pink bedazzled shirts with matching slogans. Can't stand that shit [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:48 PM Flag
[ - ] I let DD 9 bike over to the playground alone today and stay for a couple hours. First time. Another little step toward not living in my gu3st room when she’s 25! 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:27 PM Flag
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I enjoy those small things too. [ Reply | More ]
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Awesome! She must have been so happy and proud. Great job! [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:31 PM Flag
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Your heart jumps out of your body and gets on that bike! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:29 PM Flag
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So true. I was really glad when she got home before curfew but had to pretend to be so blase about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:31 PM Flag
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I remember those days. Dc is 16. I cant imagine dropping at college [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:33 PM Flag
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So true. I keep experiencing the "heart out of your body" idea again and again as DS gets older. It can be very tough to watch because sometimes you know something is going to end badly but you have to let them learn on their own. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:36 PM Flag
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NYC? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:33 PM Flag
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Usually yes, but we’re at our second place in CT this weekend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:36 PM Flag
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So was this in NYC or CT? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:40 PM Flag
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CT. In Brooklyn she can walk to the playground. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Reading just now about southwest airline crash. The pilot who landed the plane was a woman. Is anyone struck by how the guys who were passengers and did nothing but take selfies did a media tour afterwards, and yet the woman who saved them all has been silent? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:26 PM Flag
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Probably company policy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:28 PM Flag
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This. There will clearly be legal payments. Lawyers told her silence. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:33 PM Flag
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I wish my Aunt Mary had lived to listen to that recording of the pilot and air traffic control. She didn’t believe women should be airline pilots because “how can a woman handle all that heavy equipment?”. It was as if she thought the pilot had to carry the plane on his or her shoulders. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:39 PM Flag
[ - ] Ugh. DD's boyfriend (17) said that he is going to college because he wants to have fun and enjoy the experience, but isn't that interested in the "actual school part." He said that he definitely plans to join a frat. Still trying to figure out what DD sees in this guy. But I should keep quiet, right? So hard not to tell her my opinion about this guy... 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:15 PM Flag
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I see nothing wrong with this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:15 PM Flag
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OP-it doesn't seem like a very enlightened view. If all you want to do is party and have fun, save your parents the money and skip college. He actually said he doesn't intend to work hard since he doesn't plan to go to grad school and his actual grades won't matter as long as he graduates. I just think he's immature. Do you think I'm overreacting? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:18 PM Flag
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np: yes. half the battle is just getting the degree, which he seems to plan to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:19 PM Flag
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Np: he’s 17 - of course he’s immature. You are overreacting and expecting too much thought from a teenager. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:21 PM Flag
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Especially a male teenager. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:22 PM Flag
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I don’t think you’re overreacting, but I would keep quiet about it. They will most likely break up by Thanksgiving, unless DD decides to prove that you can’t tell her what to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:23 PM Flag
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Yes. I think you are overreacting. I wouldn’t give it a second thought [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:26 PM Flag
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He will learn that women don’t want losers. Does he have money? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:41 PM Flag
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Yes, his family is affluent, but not UB rich. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:46 PM Flag
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Your post sounds completely fabricated, but let's pretend that it's real. He's 17. Do you really trust everything that 17 year old says as far as what their life goals our future plans are? Assume they are going to break up when he leaves to go to college anyway so this will have zero effect on your daughter's life. Get over it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:16 PM Flag
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Why would I fabricate this? I don't know, I guess I've been skeptical about him from the start and this conversation rubbed me the wrong way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:19 PM Flag
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They will break up at christmas [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:18 PM Flag
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At least he's honest. At 17, DS would have said the same. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:18 PM Flag
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Really? Okay, I only have DDs and just don't think either of them would say this (definitely not something my older DD, the one who is dating this guy) would say. I'm kind of struggling to understand what she sees in this guy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:21 PM Flag
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Yes. Boys mature later. DS is now a senior and he got a summer internship on his own and found a job on his own, ahead of all his friends. I wouldn't worry about this comment if otherwise he seems fine. Plus it's not like she's going to marry him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:23 PM Flag
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She’s sexually attracted to him. Grow up. They will break up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:43 PM Flag
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Who cares? He is going to college and he will breakup with DD... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:21 PM Flag
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He is her boyfriend, not yours so butt out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:21 PM Flag
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He won't be her husband so don't worry about it. Just make sure she has enough condoms to not get knocked up. [ Reply | More ]
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They'll end up apart so just give it time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:25 PM Flag
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It will implode on its own. She knows he will either cheat or dump her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:40 PM Flag
[ - ] Need vacation ideas!! Best resort you've ever stayed at? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:15 PM Flag
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Vacation does not equal resort. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:21 PM Flag
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Oh fuck off you miserable hag [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:24 PM Flag
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I recommend a Disney cruise. [ Reply | More ]
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give us some direction... warm weather? Europe? Kids? [ Reply | More ]
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Please start tipping better [ Reply | More ]
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Trisara in Thailand. [ Reply | More ]
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np: went there in December... FABULOUS! [ Reply | More ]
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Do you want best resort or best vacation? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Post-menopausal ladies - how do you get rid of the stomach paunch? Mine is not too big, but I can't take it any longer. Started working out 2 months ago - while I am getting more toned and building endurance, feel as if the paunch hasn't shrunk even a centimeter. Would love ab suggestions for a middle-aged women. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:10 PM Flag
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Crunches and planks have been helping me a lot, plus I cut down on bread and cheese (both tend to go to my middle right away). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:14 PM Flag
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i have cut the bread and cheese, eliminating most carbs from my diet. how many planks do you do a day? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:20 PM Flag
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I do reps of three at a time combined with crunches several times a day. As you build those muscles, the muscles start to burn fat. It takes a while but I've noticed a difference in three months. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:24 PM Flag
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Jogging [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:14 PM Flag
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I had to give up wine, most carbs, and run a lot more. Plus more fiber and water if you know what I mean. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:16 PM Flag
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what do you eat for fiber? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:19 PM Flag
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Hard to find something that isn't loaded with sugar or fat, so it's usually: apples, avocados, sweet potatoes (vs white), broccoli, cauliflower, carrots. Sometimes bran cereal or bran muffins (last resort because of sugar/fat). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:24 PM Flag
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thanks for suggestions. grew up in an apple orchard and am so sick of apples, but guess I'll have to get over it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:26 PM Flag
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Haha I hear you. Dried fruit is good but again -- lots of sugar. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:39 PM Flag
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This "menopot" just appeared on my 48 year old belly, which is rather rude since I'm still getting a regular period. Seems like it should be one or the other. no? I already run 25 miles a week so have been cutting back on carbs and intermittent fasting (which for me is just not eating after 7 or before 9) and it's gotten better. It's really hard, been super fit my whole life but ..... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:26 PM Flag
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i've neither been super fit nor particularly focused on my diet. this menopot now has me in the gym, though i am far away from running 25 miles/week. i've pretty much eliminated carbs and sugar. this has been a real struggle for me. i've lost some weight, but has taken a long time to do so. Would like to lose 7 more pounds. Again, while i can see that my legs and arms are getting more toned, the menopot seems unmovable [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:40 PM Flag
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Yeah who do we talk to about that lol? Are you above your ideal weight or still right at it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:40 PM Flag
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Hormonal, sadly. Look at all the old ladies. Celebs get tummy tucks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:46 PM Flag
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I think you need to be realistic and look at your female relatives. It is very genetic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:47 PM Flag
[ - ] I am in mid-50s and have been out of work force for 5 years. For sundry reasons, I now need to dress business casual on a more frequent basis. My body has changed and I just can't figure out what looks good. I am nearly 5'4", 125, and slightly pear shaped. Please recommend stores and/or looks for me. I prefer pants or dresses/skirts that hit at knee. Knees just too fugly @ this age for a shorter cut. TIA. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:06 PM Flag
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Theory, Max Mara, DVF blouses, Everlane, Zara and I love theses pants https://www.anthropologie.com/shop/the-essential-slim-trousers3?category=SHOPBYBRAND&color=001 [ Reply | More ]
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the model weighs 8 pounds - do you think they'll work for a pear shape? (TBH, really love the look) [ Reply | More ]
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NP. Tight at the ankle = bad look for pear shapes. [ Reply | More ]
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nnp: +1. skip. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:21 PM Flag
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usually, but not always, sometime a wider leg makes me look even shorter! [ Reply | More ]
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I am curvy (OR) and they are super flattering. They are more straight legged than skinny [ Reply | More ]
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TY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:26 PM Flag
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Hi Twin! 55 y/o WOHM here, 5'4", 120 lbs. I wear one of 2 types of dresses to work: sheath (Tahari, Theory, Calvin Klein from Lord & Taylor) or a fit and flare type (also Theory; Banana Republic; Rebecca Taylor). If pants, I find the petite ones from Banana Republic fit (I think the style is "Ryan") without needing to be shortened. For blazers, I like the ones without lapels (more like a structured cardigan). Theory makes them (it's called "Lanai"). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:15 PM Flag
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hey twin! thanks for the suggestions. yes, i should go back to BR. Had a pair that worked, but now need a size up. sigh. pants are what i need the most. have sweaters and blouses, but the pants are the missing piece [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:24 PM Flag
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I find pants IMPOSSIBLE to find. Too much wide leg/fabric and I feel swamped. Once in a while J Crew will fit but then need them tailored. That's why I give up and do dresses a lot. Also Athlete has some work-appropriate casual dresses in soft knits that I like. Good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:27 PM Flag
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TY for all your suggestions [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I feel like just lying in bed all day 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:46 PM Flag
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Go ahead [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:49 PM Flag
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Are you depressed? Go for a walk on the sunny side of the street. You’ll feel better. Then get back in bed if you want. [ Reply | More ]
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Do it. I did that on Easter & it was awesome. [ Reply | More ]
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so beautiful out. spend 1/2 hour walking or outside. then get it bed again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:03 PM Flag
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Are you alone? [ Reply | More ]
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I'm heading over to Waffle house for brunch. [ Reply | More ]
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Bring your weapons. [ Reply | More ]
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Me too....I have bad allergies and feel like sleeping in all day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:24 PM Flag
[ - ] What is this (yes I googled - doesn't fit eczema or psoriasis) -- red scaly bumpy patch of skin on my forehead. Not itchy. Any ideas/tips? tia 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:43 PM Flag
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Could be discoid lupus [ Reply | More ]
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Oh dear...my sister has lupus. Isn't it supposed to show up as a "butterfly" mask across nose and cheeks though? I'll google discoid lupus. Thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:50 PM Flag
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Good luck. I had discoid lupus - after a lot of sun exposure- and I just took some medication for a few months. It went away and never came back. It is not the same as regular lupus. Nothing to worry about. Also, could be an allergic reaction if you’ve recently changed shampoo or detergent. [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks. Glad to hear yours went away! [ Reply | More ]
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Going straight for the worst case scenario [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:47 PM Flag
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Actinic keratosis [ Reply | More ]
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Ok thank you -- I saw that in my google search but thought of AK as only showing up as those bumps on the back of your arms. I should just make an appointment with term while the rash persists. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:51 PM Flag
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+1. very common. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:51 PM Flag
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We’re you out in the sun a lot lately? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:49 PM Flag
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hmmm no -- been home, sick with bad sore throat so actually less sun exposure than normal [ Reply | More ]
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Do you wear a hat? [ Reply | More ]
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Yes when running (which is my main sun exposure time) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:09 PM Flag
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squamous cell carcinoma [ Reply | More ]
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Np: that describes what my scc looked like - it also got better/worse/better/worse over time. I waited years and now have a horrendous scar on my chest. Don’t delay going to a dermatologist, regardless of what it is. [ Reply | More ]
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Oh wow now I'm worried. Will check it out. Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
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PP: you’re welcome - I waited years and it had spread, under the skin, if you just now noticed it, a cream may take care of it (assuming it is scc). My dad had a spot, diagnosed early, and only needed to use a topical. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:24 PM Flag
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Dirtae Accumulatus [ Reply | More ]
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Is there a treatment? [ Reply | More ]
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Soap and washcloth [ Reply | More ]
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Please see a dermatologist. It's better safe than sorry. [ Reply | More ]
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Food allergy? That's what I get when I eat wheat. [ Reply | More ]
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You have Seborrheic Dermatitis [ Reply | More ]
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You have Seborrheic Dermatitis [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:44 PM Flag
[ - ] I can't wait until Wednesday. Handmaid's Tale, Season 2! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Get a job. [ Reply | More ]
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np: you can have a job and be excited about things. get some perspective and find some joy. [ Reply | More ]
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No, thanks [ Reply | More ]
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fair enough [ Reply | More ]
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If we watched season one on a free trial of Hulu and then canceled can we do it again? [ Reply | More ]
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oh its starts wend? I can't wait! Thanks for the headsup [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Not at all. I would love this. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Anal? [ Reply | More ]
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DP. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Not at all. I would love this. 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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[ - ] Not at all. I would love this. 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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[ - ] We are going to London Christmas week. Can anyone rec. an area which would be good to stay? West End? Any tips appreciated. Thanks! 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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t\The Milestone Hotel. Small but good location. Next to train, Whole Foods, Kensington Palace, Kensington Church Street has great restaurants and shops. [ Reply | More ]
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thanks, do you know the area? I am looking into air bnbs, but ill check out this hotel. [ Reply | More ]
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though am assuming Kensington :) [ Reply | More ]
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I don't know it well, but I stayed there a few years ago. It's upscale touristy. Not cheesy Times Square like. [ Reply | More ]
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The location of this place is awesome https://www.living-rooms.co.uk/hotel/no-5-maddox-st [ Reply | More ]
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We did a Food Tour through context trav with the kids that was awesome. We also did a scavenger hunt http://www.thatmuse.com/en/about/ ...breadcrumbs also has an app for scavenger hunts. Buy the advance the line London Eye tickets in advance. [ Reply | More ]
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free backpack adventures avail at the British Museum [ Reply | More ]
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soho [ Reply | More ]
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Durrant's hotel. You are welcome. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:20 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm fascinated by successful parents with children who failed to launch. I immediately Google the adult children of surgeons etc. I need to stop 55 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 03:51 PM Flag
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why be surprised? Each kid gets a different DNA mix so some will get the mix for lazy behaviour. Others get the mix for hard work [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 03:53 PM Flag
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It's a lot more complicated than that. There's no gene for "hard worker" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:08 PM Flag
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My take is those with a silver spoon don’t have a need to try so hard . I am working with a contractor now who does not track change orders . He joked at a client meeting that he is independently wealthy . I found out later that it is true . 3 kids in private, multiple properties which he will inherit from his father who founded the contracting business . [ Reply | More ]
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So he'll ruin the company eventually? [ Reply | More ]
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I work in the construction area and see a lot of this. Third generation takes over and the company goes belly up. [ Reply | More ]
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Nature and nurture only go so far. How do we define "failed to launch" though? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 03:59 PM Flag
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I'm not sure. DH has siblings who are successful on the face of things - good degrees, not drug addicted, working for the most part (some go through periods of unemployment), but they take every single vacation with my in-laws, who pay for everything. They all fly together, stay in the same resorts, eat every meal together, do every activity together. In regular life they all live within 1 mile of each other (that's four houses altogether) and they all eat dinner together every night (either they go out and in-laws pay, or in-laws host). In-laws pay for tuition for all the kids to go to private school together. I married into this family from a pretty independent situation (divorced parents) and all this togetherness has always freaked me out. Is this 'failure to launch?' I don't know. I do know that when my MIL dies, all hell will break loose. [ Reply | More ]
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It's wonderful they get along so well, but yeah that level of closeness is highly atypical. I wouldn't call it failure to launch if the adult children are in principle capable of financial independence at a decent standard of living. [ Reply | More ]
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They are. It's just the emotional dependence that seems so odd. I have known my in-laws for over 30 years and in all that time I couldn't name for you one friend either MIL or FIL have. Their friends are their adult children. Maybe it's my in-laws who have never launched. Who knows. [ Reply | More ]
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np--That's not failure to launch. It sounds like working class Mediterranean background. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:23 PM Flag
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I'm thinking Indian like the poster below. Even in a traditional Italian-American family who lives close by so Grandma can babysit, the adult dcs would want to vacation without their parents sometimes and I guarantee some of their spouses would have set boundaries about the nightly dinners. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:47 PM Flag
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Asian too . Eight houses on the same street built by the grandfather . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:51 PM Flag
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Or Roma. [ Reply | More ]
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not OP^^^^^^ [ Reply | More ]
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Are your ILs Indian? [ Reply | More ]
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np: I thought this too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:46 PM Flag
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I am more fascinated by the children of helicopter SAHMs who fail to launch. [ Reply | More ]
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Because everything is done for them which teaches them that they are not capable of doing it themselves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:25 PM Flag
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Some do too much for their kids therefore stunting them emotionally. Like never letting them problem solve or fail because, etc. I see it all the time in my town. Making excuses if they get a bad grade, disputing with the teacher... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:04 PM Flag
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...hiring three lawyers when the teen gets a DUI. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:08 PM Flag
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yes, add that to the list. or hiring a lawyer when for instance, your child is getting reprimanded by school because he was calling other kids names, giving them the loser sign [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:10 PM Flag
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This reminds me of the famous Blair Hornstine saga. Her dad was so obsessed with having her succeed that he fucked her right out of her Harvard acceptance ... and now all these years later, she is ... working for her dad. Which she could have done going to any college and any law school in the first place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:27 PM Flag
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Her dad was a lawyer who sued the school district when it was proposed that she "share" the valedictorian title with another student because it was so close. It ended up generating so much controversy and publicity that she was ultimately outed as having plagiarized some portions of articles she'd done for local news publications ... and Harvard seized upon that to revoke her acceptance, though they probably just realized they had a real potential problem of a student/parent on their hands and they just wanted to get out of dealing with her later. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:30 PM Flag
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Sometimes I think their parents might be so busy succeeding that they don't have the mental or emotional energy to interact with their kids normally, so the kids don't develop properly and end up with emotional or mental disorders. I was in lots of rehab and outpatient mental health things as a teenager and I met many "fucked up rich kids" as the popular stereotype is. And these people have really serious issues in many cases, but many people bitter about their own lives have no sympathy because they think the kids are "rich" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:19 PM Flag
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My dh has two children from a previous marriage, both near 30 and neither have "launched" yet. Both college graduates, one had straight A's and was highly motivated, I think she just got out in the real world and completely imploded, has never had a job and just turned 30. Living off of her mother. I think they were given everything they wanted as children and were not expected to do anything in return as far as chores, charity work, jobs during the summer, etc. They had a good life and when they got out into the real work realized it was actually very hard and couldn't deal. Their mother was perfectly willing to continue to support them, so why work? It will never end as long as she does this sadly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:24 PM Flag
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Very common for kids from broken homes. They fail at life to punish their parents and stay dependent on them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:30 PM Flag
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PP The kids were 15 and 18 when their parents divorced and away at boarding school, not that this makes it any easier but for much of their childhoods their parents were together. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:48 PM Flag
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did you come from a broken home? it's not easy no matter what age. I'm sure you are getting all together to prove what a superior parent you will be. so much judgment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:02 PM Flag
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why do u think it's the kids punishing their parents? maybe it's god/the universe punishing them all [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:56 PM Flag
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I guess it's all her fault, right? Where's their dad? Did he walk out? Maybe that has something to do with it. I bet their mom is "crazy". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:32 PM Flag
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PP He didn't walk out. The mother wanted the divorce so she could reunite with a college boyfriend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:48 PM Flag
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I'm sure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:51 PM Flag
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PP That is the fact, but I know to expect on UB that there are a lot of women who are terrified their dh's will leave for another women so they get very threatened when a second wife comes on. Or perhaps dh has already left for another women. They make a lot of assumptions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:53 PM Flag
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yes, as a second wife you would know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:59 PM Flag
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PP I do know. It's surprising to me that many people assume I broke up the marriage. I have to address this every single time I post anything on UB related to my family situation. I had to have broken up the marriage. There is no way the wife could have wanted the divorce, had to have been the husband, I must hate my stepchildren and be an evil step parent. You have a very myopic view of the world. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:04 PM Flag
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yes, you are totally correct. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:07 PM Flag
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NP I’m a second wife and have found the same thing. And they assume we were ow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:28 PM Flag
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PP I actually have a lot of respect for her because at the time dh did a lot of travel around the world and she basically raised two children on her own. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:08 PM Flag
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And doesn't this also reflect on your DH as a parent? Why do you put it all on her or is he some pushover weenie who is disconnected and run over? Sounds like a gem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:44 PM Flag
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PP Ugh, no it's not all on her. It's both their fault and dh admits it. They were never told no. He and previous wife had very humble childhoods and they wanted their kids to have a very different experience, so they gave them absolutely everything, made sure difficult things were smoothed over, they simply were not prepared for real life. She is not crazy, I think she just doesn't know what else to do, either write a check or they are out on the street. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:47 PM Flag
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PP He admits he screwed up, but his philosophy is that what's done is done. I disagree but it's not my business. She, on the other hand, believes you give and give and give until there is nothing left to give. It is your child after all. I disagree with this as well, but again, not my business. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:55 PM Flag
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You seem quite invested in the whole scenario. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:00 PM Flag
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PP Oh boy...was trying to help the OP. Have a great day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:07 PM Flag
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No good deed goes unpunished, PP :) I don't have a dog in this fight, but I think your comments are helpful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:23 PM Flag
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NP. My two kids from a "broken home" are both on their own and self-sufficient. DH's kids from an unbroken home aren't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:20 PM Flag
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? If you are in a second marriage, your dh's children's home is broken! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:32 PM Flag
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SAHM? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:30 PM Flag
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no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:32 PM Flag
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but i did for a while* [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:33 PM Flag
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People who appear to have it all together on the outside don't necessarily have it all together on the inside. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:53 PM Flag
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Sing it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:07 PM Flag
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I know several very smart, academically successful who have not been able or willing to hold down a job. Disappointing I'm sure but it could be so much worse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:16 PM Flag
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I know the adult children of a world famous cardio surgeon. Two are nurses (women), but the boys have messed up lives. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:31 PM Flag
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shirtsleeves to shirtsleeves in three generations is a saying for a reason. And regression to the mean explains it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:35 PM Flag
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Seems like a very ill-intentioned interest [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:48 PM Flag
[ - ] If your MIL wanted to dress up your toddler in matching outfits with SIl's newborn, would you find it annoying or charming? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 03:49 PM Flag
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Neither annoying nor charming. It's not my thing but it's not the battle I'm going to pick with my MIL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 03:50 PM Flag
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+1. I can't imagine caring about this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:13 PM Flag
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For a picture or special event? Fine. To hang out at home a little odd [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 03:53 PM Flag
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Wouldn't care. As long as it was an event I already had something panned for (easter dress, outfit to see Santa) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 03:54 PM Flag
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cheesy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 03:57 PM Flag
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How often does it happen- once a year? There are bigger issues in life [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:04 PM Flag
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If you love these people, someday you'll look at those photos and smile. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:09 PM Flag
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Sounds annoying but that's not my style [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:19 PM Flag
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No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:31 PM Flag
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Cute. Maybe not all the time but I get it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:31 PM Flag
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Let her have her fun. As annoying MIL requests go, this is minor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:15 PM Flag
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I'd find it cute. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:28 PM Flag
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Eh. My three SILs and I dressed our kids alike for a photo on purpose. No MIL made us do it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:36 PM Flag
[ - ] I’m a nanny and my ex reached out after five years because the Nanny murderer reminded him of me. How pathetic is my life? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 03:39 PM Flag
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I'm sure it was the nanny part and not the murderer part. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 03:40 PM Flag
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Let’s hope. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 03:42 PM Flag
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Maybe not [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:31 PM Flag
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The first three words of your post clearly demonstrate how pathetic your life is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 03:44 PM Flag
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And now the rest of the board knows you're a cunt. So how about that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 03:48 PM Flag
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So bitchy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 03:51 PM Flag
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What's worse, being a nanny, or hiring people you view as "pathetic" to watch your kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:14 PM Flag
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LOL no nanny for me. Sorry I actually took care of my own kids 24/7. Like I'm going to leave them with some ubeducated whore? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:16 PM Flag
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Did your DH fuck the nanny or something? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:14 PM Flag
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Sounds like [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:18 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:32 PM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 04:31 PM Flag
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Why? Are you ugly as well or just hear voices? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:28 PM Flag
[ - ] I spend so much time on the website of NYC property records and search the names of everyone I know. Totally addictive. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 03:26 PM Flag
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What is the website where you can search by buyer's name? Never heard of this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 03:29 PM Flag
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ACRIS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 03:45 PM Flag
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I remember going through that phase. New homeowner. Now I envy the people who were smart enough to buy entry level homes, manage to live for 10 or 15 years with the family on top of each other, and now they don't have to downsize. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 03:32 PM Flag
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You make me feel better. People around me are all building mansions but I am in a regular nice house. Sometimes I feel a bit bad about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:19 PM Flag
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Not in NYC but do that in my city [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 03:51 PM Flag
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I used to do this. Depressed me immensely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:28 PM Flag
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Pathetic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.22.18, 05:33 PM Flag
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