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[ - ] I feel like the main difference between chicago and NYC is that prople get shot in the TT neighborhoods of Chicago but not in TT Manhattan neighborhoods. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:45 PM Flag
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I know Chicago moms will defend their town but I know for a fact that this is perhaps the most TT neighborhood in all of Chicago and a man was shot and killed right on the street....http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/local/breaking/ct-south-side-man-identified-in-old-town-fatal-shooting-20160706-story.html [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:46 PM Flag
[ - ] NYC private school parents: DCs (12 and 10) and I were talking about colleges over the weekend. I told them that I would be happy with where ever they went. But that's actually a lie. After all of this tuition money, I would be disappointed if they went some where that is not difficult to get in to (like the school I went to after education at a mediocre Catholic school). Do you feel the same way? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:43 PM Flag
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It's 100% their choice. I obviously want what they want for themselves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:45 PM Flag
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But you wouldn't be even a little disappointed (even if you'd never say so to them)? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:46 PM Flag
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I went to Harvard (in the 90s, when it was much easier to get in) and I skipped 2/3 of all my classes due to intense social anxiety. Soooo... I wasted maybe 2/3 of my tuition, which back then was about $100k without room and board. You'd probably be disappointed in me too, right? Maybe most kids just disappoint? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:46 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone here tried cyrotherapy? A friend goes and says it's good for increased energy and relieving aches and pains. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:40 PM Flag
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Anything Yolanda Foster does, I kind of cross off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:42 PM Flag
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A brisk 25 minute walk is better and you don't have to pay for it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:43 PM Flag
[ - ] What's on your sideboard? I just refinished mine and I'm trying to upgrade my style for a more finished look. So far I have two matching lamps on either end, an antique vase and teapot that belonged to my grandmother and a potted plant. It's meh. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:40 PM Flag
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A stack of DD's birthday gifts from her party in June, none used yet, my knitting basket, the charging station. I don't think I can help you with "a more finished look" in other words, sorry! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:41 PM Flag
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I think that's more than enough. Sound like it might be getting cluttered already. But I like a simple look. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I want to take a nap, have a glass of wine, and start prepping dinner but like an idiot I told my super to be here "anytime after 1", so instead I'm going to be waiting around for him all afternoon. I need to remember not to do this! 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:31 PM Flag
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Ask him to call you first? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:33 PM Flag
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Can't you do those things while waiting? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:33 PM Flag
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No, if I nap I probably won't hear him knock. If I have a glass of wine and he comes to the door it will look like some bad MILF porn. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:34 PM Flag
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Lol. Put the wine in a plastic cup. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:35 PM Flag
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A red solo cup? Hah. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:38 PM Flag
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Exactly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:38 PM Flag
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You think too highly of yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:35 PM Flag
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I didn't say good MILF porn! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:40 PM Flag
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Take a nap on the couch and put the wine out of sight before you answer the door [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:36 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:43 PM Flag
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I hate when that happens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:34 PM Flag
[ - ] For over a year I went to the same office weekly for chiro, massage, etc. I like the staff and online booking. But last week was off: I was removed from the waitlist for an earlier appointment. I paid in advance and the 60 minute massage was 25 minutes after talking. Chiro was late and had to leave before being seen. When I left I was told they would refund that chiro but they haven't called, texted or emailed (which they usually do). I cancelled my future appointments. What would you do? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:29 PM Flag
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I wouldn't have cancelled all my future appts so quickly. Call and email, and then in your next appointment I woudl go talk to the boss/owner. Only if they *then* don't respond would I bail. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:31 PM Flag
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Late once? Relax. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:33 PM Flag
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It's because of people like you that I don't go into the service industry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:34 PM Flag
[ - ] why do people go into debt for schools like Salve Regina University 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:28 PM Flag
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it boggles my mind as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:31 PM Flag
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Is it free? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:34 PM Flag
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Because they didn't get into SUNY Purchase?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:36 PM Flag
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Ha! This post made me laugh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:38 PM Flag
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It is a really pretty school though [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:39 PM Flag
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Because small private universities can offer great opportunities and education. Because not everyone cares about a "name". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:40 PM Flag
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college debt is a peculiar thing - i don't really understand it at all, when people are getting degrees from private colleges to go into lower paid fields. how in the world do you pay off $80K of debt on a teacher's salary, unless you are going to live at home or very very frugally for a good number of years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:44 PM Flag
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Because they are dumb. [ Reply | More ]
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Salve Regina, eh? Maybe they want single sex dorms, no black student union, and no (openly) gay people. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Why isn't gabby Bernstein pregnant yet? is she having fertility issues from being too skinny? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:28 PM Flag
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WHO? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:31 PM Flag
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who? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:31 PM Flag
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This is the last thing I would ever wonder or give a shit about [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:39 PM Flag
[ - ] Where would Lottie doll go to school if she went in NYC? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:26 PM Flag
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? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:31 PM Flag
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Three posts in a row - this one, Gabby Bernstein above, Salve Regina above that - and I haven't a clue what the poster is talking about. Never heard of any of these people or places. Weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:34 PM Flag
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It's a troll. ignore [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:36 PM Flag
[ - ] What are some ways to talk to young children about using the word 'fat' when describing someone? Think young enough where they don't mean to do any harm or hurt feelings, but they state it as a mere observation. What do experts say is the best way to handle? Thanks! 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:25 PM Flag
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We just say heavy-set. Don't know if that's proper or not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:26 PM Flag
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Rude. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:29 PM Flag
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We don't say it to someone's face, but in describing someone, may say "about 6 ft. tall, heavy-set, dark hair." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:31 PM Flag
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I taught my daughters from a young age to never hurt anyones feelings so they should describe fat people as "curvy" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:26 PM Flag
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If a woman hears a little girl say " Mom that woman is so curvy" it is like a compliment not a hurtful thing to say. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:27 PM Flag
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Same thing when describing the different races! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:27 PM Flag
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Even though we all know that curvy is a euphemism for fat. As long as being overweight is viewed negatively by the professional class in our society (and, no it's not a health issue unless you hit the morbidly obese level), no change of words will hide the fact. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:29 PM Flag
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If a child is old enough to be taught euphemisms for fat, she's old enough to be taught that it's rude to comment on someone else's appearance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:31 PM Flag
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This. I told my kids it is rude to comment on people's appearance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:43 PM Flag
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even men? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:31 PM Flag
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especially men. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:45 PM Flag
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What if the child uses the word "fat" because they heard it somewhere? You re-direct them to use another word? Does that create a negative connotaction with the word 'fat' like it's something bad? I don't want them to think it's a bad thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:30 PM Flag
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Is she describing the person in that person's earshot? Or just describing to you? Nothing wrong with using fat as a descriptive term, imo, as long as the fattie can't hear you. When it comes to talking to people directly, we've taught DD the old rule of We don't talk about what people look like. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:34 PM Flag
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We told ours that some words can hurt and that includes calling people fat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:41 PM Flag
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I don't think there's any reason a kid needs to describe someone's BMI. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:41 PM Flag
[ - ] want to buy co-op around 1.7M in UWS, can put down around 900K. Both income is around 250K and currently own 1br condo (willing to sell it). Ater purchasing, we prob. have around 200K in saving. Any chance we can afford this co-op? Any experienced broker out there? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:23 PM Flag
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A mortgage broker can answer this question. But is total HHI $500k. If so, you can afford it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:24 PM Flag
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honestly, I think you are over-stretching things. Our HHI is just a little over $200K but recently bought a home in the $ 500-600K range in the burbs 50% downpayment). We are left with around $300K in savings now (liquid) not including investments/retirements. Most of our mortgage payment is going to taxes. I wouldnt feel comfortable putting down more 900K when you can prob use that for retirement. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:28 PM Flag
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Good point. OP- how old are you and DH? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:30 PM Flag
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Do you have other debt? What is maintenance? Mortgage would be about $5200 a month without it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:28 PM Flag
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I'd say less, I pay less than that on a slightly bigger loan. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:36 PM Flag
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If you have kids, just watch out for the zoning clusterf**k that's happening on the UWS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:33 PM Flag
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Each coop has different rules regarding post closing liquidity. You have to ask your broker to ask the selling broker. Also, how stable are your jobs? that is very important to these coops. Finally, they will likely make you sell your current apartment first. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:37 PM Flag
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250 total? 800k mortgage on that is a big stretch. On 500k it is very comfortable. 200k is plenty to have after buying and should satisfy the coop. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:38 PM Flag
[ - ] Poll: does your dh where jorts? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:21 PM Flag
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Wear not where, ok [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:22 PM Flag
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He wears jean shorts that are loose and hit above his knee, if that's what you're talking about. He doesn't wear short jean shorts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:25 PM Flag
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whoa had no idea what jorts are [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:26 PM Flag
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I'm not sure, either. did a quick google search and there were jean shorts that ranged from loose and long to basically daisy dukes on men, so I'm not positive what OP is talking about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:30 PM Flag
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oy. How old? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:45 PM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:26 PM Flag
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I had to look the word up. No, he hasn't worn them since I've known him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:27 PM Flag
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gay [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:41 PM Flag
[ - ] How much work would a second home in the catskills be? DH keeps talking about buying one. However, we are the most coddled city dwellers ever -- we don't know the first thing about maintaining a house. The "work" we put into our apt is calling the super when something needs to be fixed. We have FT jobs, two young DCs, we don't need any more work, I'm skeptical. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:20 PM Flag
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It's fine if you can afford to hire it out. The biggest issue is yard maintenance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:21 PM Flag
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OP: forgive my complete lack of knowledge of such things, but can you hire a property manager to look after the house when you are not there? Assuming that it's not in a complex that has one. I think yard maintenance is not enough, I think we'd need someone to go in, make sure pipes haven't burst, trees haven't fallen roof, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:35 PM Flag
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Sure. Or, if you know someone trustworthy and handy in the area, you can just hire them to do that sort of thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:42 PM Flag
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OP: I doubt we would know anyone there, I was hoping there would be companies that do this sort of thing. Maybe in areas where vacation homes are common. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:44 PM Flag
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My mom has a small house upstate, and she's had her share of burst/frozen pipes, plus typical maintenance issues. They have a property manager, which is a big help, so she's not looking for a roofing company or deck sealer or electrician or whatever from another state. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:24 PM Flag
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(By "they," I mean her complex) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:25 PM Flag
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you are right to be skeptical. I wouldnt do it. Its a major commitment and could be nothing but a headache because even when you out-source repairs and maintenance, you still have to be responsible for ensuring the work is/was done properly and being availble to go there at a moment's notice for any issues. We recently bought a house and while DH is handy, there is no way I would ahve known about the issues behind home ownership if it werent for experiencing them firsthand all the things that you never think could go "wrong' (but do). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:30 PM Flag
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I would be more concerned that you would limit yourself to only or mostly vacationing there and not take DCs to the beach, national parks, Europe, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:31 PM Flag
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It's never ending but usually small things. We have a weekend home and DH enjoys the maintenance, but when I proposed buying a second one as a rental/investment he said no way was he taking on another building. Every weekend we're there he has some little project to take care of. Imagine if you left your most valuable possession outdoors all the time and the damage that would cause. That's what it's like owning a house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:36 PM Flag
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We talked about the same thing off and on for about 5 years and could afford it. But ultimately we keep deciding against because (1) the work of maintenance, etc (we're like you about calling the super only) and (2) fact that it would limit other vacations. Good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:39 PM Flag
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I would consider buying a small second home in Westchester or CT no more than say 1 hour out of the City. That said I am not convinced it is worth it. We joined a country club and it's a production to pack up and go because we go for the full day and usually dinner, but when it's done it's done, no cooking or cleaning and way cheaper than buying a house and paying property taxes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:39 PM Flag
[ - ] I have no energy and I'm tired all the time. I've gained about 40 pounds in the past 2 years. I feel miserable. What's the best type of diet to lose some weight and increase my energy. I know I drink too much, and I'm willing to cut that out, too. Exercise suggestions? I can't really get to a gym. I used to do a lot of yoga, so I can take that up again. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:18 PM Flag
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This is a timely post because I gained about 10 pounds over the last year, much to dismay. Alcohol was a big factor, I'm sure. Was reading recently a lot of literature where alcohol can mess with your thyroid and deplete your body of zinc, which helps with metabolism. I've gone through a few phases in my life as a heavy drinker due to stress, depression, etc. Each time, I gained weight, felt extremely tired and felt a lack of anything good. The minute I started making better choices (not drinking and as a result feeling more energized and excited about just being more active), I just lost the weight over a period of a couple of months. Sorry to ramble, it's just something that I've been going through. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:23 PM Flag
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That's good to know. I was never a drinker until my divorce about 5 years ago. New dh is a heavy drinker and so I've been drinking a lot more than ever before. I'm almost 46, so I know that doesn't help. My thyroid has been checked and it's normal. I did have a period of a couple of months last summer where I started walking and counting calories. I lost a good bit of weight then but put it back on. I'm wondering if it's better just to eat lots of fruits/veggies and grains and calorie count or do low-carb. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:28 PM Flag
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Definitely! Some kind of protein helps too. Good luck, this started happening to me in my mid-to-late 40s. There are so many factors involved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:29 PM Flag
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Why did you marry a heavy drinker? Yuck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:30 PM Flag
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I'll say this more nicely. DH and I both drink, and it's a progressive issue. I wouldn't have liked it if, when I met DH 10 years ago, he was already a heavy drinker. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:41 PM Flag
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Get your thyroid checked. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:36 PM Flag
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I had it checked and it was normal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:43 PM Flag
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I signed up for the Whole Life Challenge to hopefully get me on the right track. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:38 PM Flag
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Agree with Thyroid. Try Bar Method. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:39 PM Flag
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Take flour and sugar out of your diet completely, including whole wheat bread and whole grain cereal. If you are a sugar or carb addict, eat things like melons, corn (kernels, not things made of cornmeal), potatoes. Your appetite will decrease if you cut out all baked goods, crackers, desserts, etc. Whole, unprocessed foods, including carby veg/fruit, eggs and meat will serve you well. Even brown rice is ok. Just no flour or sugar. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:39 PM Flag
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That sounds good -- better than Atkins type diets. I do well with low carb but I miss fruit and vegetables -- and it can be such a heavy diet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:44 PM Flag
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Get a Fit Bit. Make sure you walk 11,000 steps per day. Stop drinking. Try to do yoga 2x a week. Do this for 3 weeks and then add more exercise [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.30.16, 06:42 PM Flag
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