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[ - ] I am curious as to why parents say that room and board is included when they interview a live-in nanny; isn't it obvious that live-in nanny will need a room to sleep in and food to eat? Or is it a way to short-change the nanny and lessen her salary? And this family lives in a state worth 20 mil, I do not get it. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:23 PM Flag
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I am a nanny and this makes perfect sense to me. It's not short changing. If I didn't live with them, I'd have to pay for rent and groceries. Those are huge expenses! Of course they'd be factored into the salary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:15 PM Flag
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(also...overall I think I still come out ahead. My weekly pay (not including room and board) is less than a live-out, but if you really calculated what I'd pay to live on my own, I'm making more than your typical live-out nanny.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:27 PM Flag
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np This. It's a beneficial situation for all involved. Parents spend a lot less than they would to actually pay the nanny's rent, and the nanny takes home more than she would overall if she lived out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:17 PM Flag
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below poster: exactly. overall its better package for the nanny but it also gives more flexibility to family and is cheaper to family if they do have room to accommodate. Financially its a win win if the family has room and nanny is interested in this arrangement [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:29 PM Flag
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I will be keeping my apartment and going there on weekends, my expenses are not going away, I still need to pay rent and utilities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:28 PM Flag
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In that case, you shouldn't be a live-in. Why would you? You realize more live-ins do in fact live-in, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:29 PM Flag
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I love living in because I won't have to commute but I also want to be away from work on my days off and I think the parents appreciate the privacy and break from an outsider always being there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:34 PM Flag
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Fair enough but that's unusual and it sounds like cost/expenses aren't as much of a factor for you as they are for many other live-ins. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:39 PM Flag
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If you aren't going to live-in, why would you take a live-in job? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:19 PM Flag
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you aren't a good candidate for a live-in position or you should sublet your room. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:30 PM Flag
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Then you are not the ideal candidate for a live in position. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:23 PM Flag
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Wait, you mean to tell me that because I want to have my own space (apartment) I am not a good live-in candidate?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:37 PM Flag
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np: clearly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:39 PM Flag
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She is probably assuming that the pay structure won't work. clearly you aren't as sensitive to that as most. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:40 PM Flag
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No, because others will value it more [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:30 PM Flag
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I had a live-in. When I interviewed many live-ins really cared about room arrangements (understandably so) and also not all expected to be able to eat anything from the fridge. Not all families do that apparently so it was always something that was discussed as part of the package. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:27 PM Flag
[ - ] Bf moms: I have a newborn on my hands (2 weeks) and am EBF. I know I'm supposed to drink lots of water, but wondering how much more? I feel the need to down 20oz all throughout the day and when I nurse at night, but don't want to overdo it either- let's say you normally have to drink 64oz per day, how much would you need to drink while bf? TIA! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:18 PM Flag
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I never counted exactly, but I downed a glass each time I BF. I also drank juice in the middle of the night for the first month or so because i was starving and needed the extra calories. In know juice is terrible, but I was so hungry and I didn't want to sit up all night eating! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:21 PM Flag
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This. Drink when bfing and you will be fine. Congrats on db [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:26 PM Flag
[ - ] I've officially run out of ideas for entertaining 2 year old dd this summer. We've been to every local park 3x over, the zoo, library, children's museum, the pool. It feels like an endless cycle of the same activities. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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because it is [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:59 PM Flag
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it is and they don't need to be entertained all the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:16 PM Flag
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Parks everyday is fine. Don't e afraid to throw in a bit of PKSkids tv into the mix too. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:22 PM Flag
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beach, pool, transit museum, ferry ride? [ Reply | More ]
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^B [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:25 PM Flag
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Can you make playdates with other people to break up the cycle? [ Reply | More ]
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What neighborhood are you in? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:27 PM Flag
[ - ] No flames please: dd, 4, has a huge interest in art. She would color, paint, etc all day long if left to her own devices and everyone comments on how "good" she is, whatever that means at 4. But she is very focused, meticulous in her efforts, really enjoys it/gets excited about it, deciding what colors to use and where, etc. a few people have encouraged me to look into an art class for her, but I'd want something more focused on developing skills/structured because she does a TON of art every day at preschool that is more get messy and have fun w it kind of stuff. Does such a class exist for a 4 yo? We are in Westchester if that matters (probably wouldn't schlep into Manhattan for anything unless it was something fantastic and on a Sunday). TIA 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:59 PM Flag
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I don't live in NYC but our local art center offered art classes starting at age 3.5 (with adult) and 4 (drop off). My daughter loves it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:02 PM Flag
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I'm not going to flame you, but this is way too young for art classes, even if she is the next Picasso. [ Reply | More ]
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np Disagree. Why would this be too young? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:09 PM Flag
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They are better off being creative at that age, not getting bogged down with "classes" or feeling like it's an obligation. Classes tend to take the fun out of things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:05 PM Flag
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Classes can encourage creativity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:10 PM Flag
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+1 Every few years, some 4yo makes the headlines for having a show and selling enough to pay for college before kindergarten even starts. Go for it. The worst thing that happens is that she is occupied for half an hour twice a week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:07 PM Flag
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omfg. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:08 PM Flag
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Just give her assignments. My DS and I worked on a giant aquarium one summer. He drew and painted the animals, cut them out, embellished them. I gave him books he used to pull images from and copy. We used several different media. We put large paper in the hall and made the sea. Constructed plants. He could add to it when he felt like it. We tore it down at the end of the summer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:15 PM Flag
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i need to do this with my kid next month. great idea: 1 big project. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:17 PM Flag
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np I LOVE THIS IDEA! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:22 PM Flag
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wait till she is 6 yo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:16 PM Flag
[ - ] DS is two months and got all of his first shots yesterday. He's really sneezy today. Coming down w a cold or side effect of the shots? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:52 PM Flag
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Both. All of those drugs at once were an overload to his system and made him more susceptible to a cold. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:09 PM Flag
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This is a gross misunderstanding of how the immune system works and you can't point to a causal relationship in this case anyway. [ Reply | More ]
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Probably caught a bug while at the doctor's office. Happens practically every time we go no matter how much I try to avoid it. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 When are practices going to divide up, so the healthy patients who are just there for checkups and immunizations aren't sitting in the same rooms with the sick kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:08 PM Flag
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Some practices do this but it costs the practice more because it takes both more space and staff. [ Reply | More ]
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Sneezing can be caused by many things that are not illness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:28 PM Flag
[ - ] I keep going back and forth on public vs private. Ds is in a good g&t program. But I think private schools provide a better education (in elementary not by much but still) but the entitlement and messed up values of the students is something I definitely do not want for him. It would be possible financially but it would be stretching. I just go back and forth all the time. 34 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:50 PM Flag
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Welcome to the club. DD is starting private but not sure we made the right decision. GL to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:16 PM Flag
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Op most of the time I am happy with his school. But I'm currently sitting in school r oom and I see postedd signs with multiple spelling eerrors and I cannot believe that I am giving them my kid every day. But I cannot and will not give the lifestyle that many private kids get. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:20 PM Flag
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I wouldn't worry about lifestyle. It's the education you should focus on. If your kid is being well educated where they are--that's great. We live in bad district, so we really didn't have a choice. Hoping it works out. [ Reply | More ]
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Op I went to a private and lifestyle and values were terrible. I do not want to expose ds to that. Your attitude is the one my folks had. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:25 PM Flag
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Maybe choose a less tony private for HS? Or private boarding for HS instead? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:19 PM Flag
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Boarding school isnt our style. I dont know of a solid private that doesn't have a significant proportion of these types. If you do I'm all ears [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:31 PM Flag
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The PK-8 schools tend to be less like this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:23 PM Flag
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I hope it works out for us. We are at a private that is not UB friendly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:20 PM Flag
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Good luck. I just go back and for th and sometimes fwel like a good burb public is in our future but I dont want the commute [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:34 PM Flag
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It's only worth it if you are guaranteeing a spot for later grades (MS) that you might not be able to get then. If you will or could leave NYC before then, not worth it, unless you're saving $$ on housing by living in a bad zone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:16 PM Flag
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may I ask why you feel privates schools provide a better education in elementary? i don't see it with my friends kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:17 PM Flag
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she said not by much-- [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:09 PM Flag
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by enough for her to go back and forth so I would like to hear her thoughts. I am truly interested in why she thinks this and the question isn't meant as a flame [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:22 PM Flag
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I think most people understand public schools do better for elementary. But once in private, it's easier to matriculate. [ Reply | More ]
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agreed but that isn't what OP is saying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:24 PM Flag
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I don't think this is true at all, many public elementary schools fail to teach basic foundational skills needed to succeed at the high school level. At some point kids are so far behind they can't really catch up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:24 PM Flag
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Every single child I know in 4th grade private reads and writes below average level of our public school where kids are actually younger. IA public schools don't teach some fundamentals and we do try to compensate for this which ultimately costs us a lot less than 40K. I think the traditional privates teaching the basics are for the most part a myth these days. Progressive education has done away with the basics. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:38 PM Flag
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i do not see it that way. but it is okay if you do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:40 PM Flag
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Op we went with public because he is a fall bday and was ready for academic experience which would have been 2 yrs away with private. I think the benefit of private in elementary is student teacher ratio. In terms of keeping up with the stimulation ds needs, I think public has been better up to 3rd grade. [ Reply | More ]
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is your dc going to 4th grade? [ Reply | More ]
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Third but this I what I've heard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:17 PM Flag
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My dc is going into 5th. The best years so far have been more dependent on a teacher than grade. The best year academical in our case has been 4th grade which UB typically knocks as the worst. I still don't understand how your dc would have been getting a better (even if not by much) education if he started private 2 years later or even if he could start at the same age as public. Can you explain? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:32 PM Flag
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^^ Also, if you can afford private but its a stretch put 42K into a separate account and use the $$ for private MS and HS. This way tuition is fully funded and its not stretch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:34 PM Flag
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PP: Private mom here. We have a fall bday too, did not get into G&T or Hunter. Wish DS was going into regular public but we have to do another year of Pre-K. I am telling myself it will give him time to mature, but he is also ready for intellectual work. Think we may have to supplement on our own. We are considering retaking G&T and skipping K, fwiw. [ Reply | More ]
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Op I would not recommend skipping for a boy. Ds is one of the youngest in his class. It is starting to matter less but in k and 1 it mattered a lot [ Reply | More ]
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I know--it's so difficult. He got accepted to pre-k and K for private, but we liked the ongoing with pre-k much better. It kind of stinks either way. [ Reply | More ]
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Our private does a better job by far as evidenced by the fact that only 40% of the children in our public graduate from high school and less go to college while at our private (k-12) 98% of the children earn the IB diploma and nearly all go to college. [ Reply | More ]
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She is talking elementary. Not HS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:36 PM Flag
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I am comparing good public elementary schools (g&t and gen ed) vs private. Not average public data vs private data. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:41 PM Flag
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If you really feel that all children in private schools are entitled they are probably not the place for your children. You should consider actually looking at the schools though and decide based on what you see instead of relying on stereotypes that are in many cases incorrect. [ Reply | More ]
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way to go hyperbolic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:21 PM Flag
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Op im basing it on my own experience growing up in private in nyc. There are a couple I would consider but ds got into the g and t before they had openings (fall bday so...) but there are only 4 or 5 I think fit this mold. [ Reply | More ]
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ITDA with you, both that private schools provide better education and that all the kids are messed up and entitled. [ Reply | More ]
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Op. Could you tell me why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:29 PM Flag
[ - ] That devil statue they want to erect in Oklahoma next to the 10 commandments is being made and warehoused in Brooklyn! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Haha that's awesome! [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Negative. That thing looks like a pedophile's dream. [ Reply | More ]
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Why is is awesome? [ Reply | More ]
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creepy [ Reply | More ]
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The devil made me do it! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Best facial cream to use at night? I'm 40 and have pretty normal skin except for the melasma on my forehead. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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What's melasma? [ Reply | More ]
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Dark spots from sun, prior pregnancies, or birth control. Like a lot of freckles but more intense/dark. It's referred to as the mask of pregnancy. I've done IPL to lighten it but I'm on the pill so it'll likely never go away. I don't really care about it, I just want some kind of cream that will be good for my skin overall. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:16 PM Flag
[ - ] Does one need to collapse a stroller on the subway? Going in at 11am so not rush hour but want to plan ahead. Thanks. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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no [ Reply | More ]
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no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:55 PM Flag
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I don't think so but a bus driver yelled at me two days ago because I didn't fold up my stroller and carry db on board. So I would call 311 if you want to be 100 percent sure [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:56 PM Flag
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on the bus you do, on the subway, no [ Reply | More ]
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nah, I wouldn't. the bus is a different story-- I always collapse it on the bus. the subway, almost never. [ Reply | More ]
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According to the rules yes - even while taking it up and down stairs and escalators. In my opinion that rule is stupid though. I think it is less safe to have a kid under the arm and the stroller under the other, than the kid strapped into the stroller. I never folded my stroller, when the kids were young, and I don't see anybody else do it either, and it does not bother me. Buses - yes - always fold. [ Reply | More ]
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No. No one is going to give you a hard time. It's good that you're going during a slow time. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] At this point, no one should have to spend 12 hours a day with my 2yo and 4yo. This is such a difficult age. So they go to camp for the day. And i go to work. A newborn and 2yo was ok. A 1yo and 3yo was not bad. But 2 and 4 is too much. 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:31 PM Flag
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Yep. I was a sahm of 2 & 4 yo. Tough times! [ Reply | More ]
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I can see the 4yo slowing down, and focusing. But the 2yo? No. The 2yo brain and body does not rest. [ Reply | More ]
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How many 2 yos at camp together? Hmmm [ Reply | More ]
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Yep. And it is the best decision i ever made. [ Reply | More ]
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What? I have 3 dcs and younger kids are now almost 2 and 4 and its finally easier. Camp for 2 yo? You worry about "someone" more than your own dcs? [ Reply | More ]
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Incoherent. [ Reply | More ]
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Coherent: you are doing something wrong if it got more difficult [ Reply | More ]
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If kids like camp and seems good for them, sounds good, but many many people can and do hand and enjoy kids these ages. [ Reply | More ]
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Good for them. Godspeed. Yes, my kids enjoy their summer program. I need to vent. Just the process of getting them to/fro is exhausting. [ Reply | More ]
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2 and 4 is when I felt like things got SO MUCH easier for my family. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 In fact, it's probably the time I most miss! [ Reply | More ]
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OP: if youre dealing with teenagers now, i can see why u would feel that way. [ Reply | More ]
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If I was like you, wouldn't I be missing nb and 2 yo more? [ Reply | More ]
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I think most people find this age easier than when they're younger. The exception is those who are raising super brats. [ Reply | More ]
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Even more coherent. TY [ Reply | More ]
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This. [ Reply | More ]
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Agree. If they're more difficult now than they were as babies, I can't imagine what she'll have on her hands in a couple more years! [ Reply | More ]
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+3 [ Reply | More ]
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If you and your family work best with them at camp and you and dh at the office, great. I love my kids as does dh but neither of us wants to sah. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 at those ages, it is rough. They run you raggedy. [ Reply | More ]
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I love all of these responses discussing how perfect and easy a 2 year old should be! Ridiculous. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't think anyone said that. But 4 and 2 is a lot easier than 2 and newborn. Unless your 4 yo is a massive brat. [ Reply | More ]
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this is the age where the 4 yo and 2 yo need to learn to interact, to share (you attention if anything else), to take turns, to be patient. you are avoiding teaching them all these fundamental skills. it will only get more difficult for you if you don't see it. [ Reply | More ]
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Which responses say that? [ Reply | More ]
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+10000 it's called terrible 2's for a reason. But on UB... It's an alternate universe where 2yos are easy! [ Reply | More ]
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I don't mean to flame, but I have to wonder if those above who are labeling your kids brats are on to something. It's really the only explanation I can think of for finding this age more complicated than when they were younger. Or maybe your two year old is an exceptional hellion? [ Reply | More ]
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Two yr ools are tiring. They dont play by themselves and have opinions. [ Reply | More ]
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I just want to say - hang in there. It will be so much easier a year from now. As long as you don't get #3. [ Reply | More ]
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wouldn't you have said this to OP 2 years ago when she had a 2 yo and a baby? what makes you believe it will get easier for op a year from now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Finalist baby boy names: Henry, Charles or Theodore. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Can't go wrong- enjoy your boy!! [ Reply | More ]
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Theodore, love Theo as a nn. Teddy cute too. IME Charlies tend to be assholes and Henry just doesn't do it for me and is wayyyy overused in NYC now. [ Reply | More ]
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Charles. Henry has been overused for a while now and Theodore is trending. If you're open to other suggestions, I'd like to throw out Timothy and James. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 also I love Charlie as a nn [ Reply | More ]
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All good! [ Reply | More ]
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Charles though all are solid names [ Reply | More ]
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all popular/overused now [ Reply | More ]
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Theodore is the new thing. I know two baby boys born last month named Theodore. [ Reply | More ]
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Theodore/Teddy/Theo is uber trendy. Henry is painfully overused. So...I guess I vote for Charles? [ Reply | More ]
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Love all three! [ Reply | More ]
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I would pick theodore but all are good. [ Reply | More ]
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all great! [ Reply | More ]
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Charles nn Charlie [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What is estimated income range for psychotherapist with private practice with two offices? TIA 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Guy you're dating or frenemy? [ Reply | More ]
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OP: New guy possibility [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:22 PM Flag
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I would guess 300 - 600k? If they have "employees" at their practices. My mom is a psychologist and she only made 20% of what clients paid (owner of practice took the rest, and paid costs of course), and still made close to 100k/year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:43 PM Flag
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Only 20% seems really low. I live in Cleveland and 60% is standard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:06 PM Flag
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It is super low. She left that practice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:19 PM Flag
[ - ] What idiot gets on a plane for Israel right now. Stfu Bloomberg. "It's a great place to visit". W the actual F. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:11 PM Flag
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lol THIS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:16 PM Flag
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OP - after what just happened LAST WEEK with that plane getting shot down ? There are a million places in the world right now that aren't a war zone. For vacation, I'm picking the NON war zone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:20 PM Flag
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he is trying to make a statement. certainly not going there on vacation. He just wants to underscore that Americans need to support Israel now. there must be other ways to do this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:32 PM Flag
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What is your issue? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:30 PM Flag
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I know so many people going recently as well. Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:18 PM Flag
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Me too!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:20 PM Flag
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I know people going, and btw, the WSJ headline was so wrong. It said US stops flights to Israel NOPE, it stopped US carriers. EL AL flying [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:17 PM Flag
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Yes, Bloomberg was on an El Al flight. So what? So stupid and irresponsible to encourage this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:29 PM Flag
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What is your problem? He isn't in the office? He doesn't need your approval? Looking at UB and it seems the only people getting hurt ate the poor innocent Palestinians and Israelis are perfectly fine and dandy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:29 PM Flag
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You can always take a ferry from Greece to Haifa. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:30 PM Flag
[ - ] What's the best way to manage an employee who doesn't like to be managed? Very bright, productive but chafes at authority and doesn't follow certain instructions/doesn't respond at all to certain requests, which leads to our team being blindsided by consequences. 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 11:53 AM Flag
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Fire [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 11:57 AM Flag
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Even if really smart? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:05 PM Flag
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If he's that smart then he already knows he's screwing you over and doesn't care. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:08 PM Flag
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Unfortunately, may be right. I get a vibe of her feeling "above the job." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:21 PM Flag
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YES. You don't necessarily want the smartest person. You want someone "just smart enough" who is a team player [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:27 PM Flag
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Manage in such a way that he doesn't feel managed, and try to induce buy-in through discussion/conversation instead of instruction. And let him know his job is on the schneid if he doesn't smarten up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:12 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:29 PM Flag
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Ask that employee how you can best work together? State your observations about his performance and output and ask him what he thinks would make it better given the parameters of each of your roles. Because the current state of affairs is unacceptable. (I'm assuming it's a guy.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:12 PM Flag
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A woman. Very smart but rigid and won't take direction. I've tried playing to strengths and being frank, laying off to give room with clear context, but at some point team dynamic and taking instruction actually trumps raw talent. We'll see. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:17 PM Flag
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Ha! I was wrong. Anyway... If you really want to keep her for her smarts, invite her to be part of the process of managing the expectations while identifying your role as the authority. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:02 PM Flag
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Ditch. Possible short term gain, but long term is just going to get worse and worse. What if you are in a crisis situation where you need him to do something to which he "doesn't respond well?" He also needs to learn how life/society works. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:05 PM Flag
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Explain the "doesn't respond at all" piece. Does he simply ignore your emails and status follow-up? Under what circumstances does he do the work required? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:08 PM Flag
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Just doesn't respond at all to certain emails. Most employees, me included, always say, "Got it" or "Handling." Later, I find out certain things never happened (often the annoying but necessary administrative points of our jobs like turning in forms or expense reports. As managers and senior level employees, we know those are the things upper management doesn't have time to have to track down. I'll have one more clear expectations talk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:24 PM Flag
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Hate to say this but could it be that he doesn't respect and won't report to you either bc you're a woman or bc he doesn't view you as senior enough. Does he respond better to either men or other women with partner/MD, etc titles. I'm not justifying it but rather saying that another talk may do no good and if you haven't figured out the real issue, those more senior *could* view it as your inability to manage/being threatened by this guy if you don't get ahead of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:17 PM Flag
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Fire. Great managers know how to both manage those manageable and cut bait when pointless. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:09 PM Flag
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Wow, sound like my teenager. What do you mean by certain requests/instructions? If they are productive and bright I would not fire yet. Are they just belligerent or are you asking things that they need to have a reason for/ see the outcome? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:20 PM Flag
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She has a chip on her shoulder, likely feels too smart to worry about those things she doesn't do, very passive aggressive. Move on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:21 PM Flag
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Will you team function better with or without him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:17 PM Flag
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I'll consider this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:32 PM Flag
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Do you have authority to fire or does someone else need to do it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:30 PM Flag
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I have authority. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:31 PM Flag
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Is she older or younger than you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:37 PM Flag
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sit down and discuss your frustrations fully with employee, put them on written notice that xyz needs to be worked on and you'll sit down and discuss again in one month [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:12 PM Flag
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THis is a tough one. I've fired people and have coached them back from the brink, but this is the hardest employee to deal with. Honestly, I would encourage them to find another job. They're really smart but they'll always they're better than you and anything you do is a slight against them. You can't win. You can't fight every little jab they take because you look petty, but you can't put up with it either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:40 PM Flag
[ - ] What movie house have you always wanted to live in? 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 11:51 AM Flag
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somethings gotta give? with diane keaton [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:03 PM Flag
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Haha. When I read it I thought you meant what movie house, like movie theater. Was thinking Landmark Sunshine could be a cool place to live! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:08 PM Flag
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Diane Keaton always lives in fabulous houses in all her movies! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:06 PM Flag
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It's Complicated - Meryl Streep's house [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:08 PM Flag
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A great one! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:13 PM Flag
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OP: this is actually the one I was thinking of when I posted this! That kitchen! I also kind of want to be her in that movie when I grow up. The bakery, the daughters who love her, the men chasing after her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:18 PM Flag
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Philadelphia story with k hepburn. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:12 PM Flag
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The Family Stone house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:12 PM Flag
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Alvin & Chipmunks house [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:12 PM Flag
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Fight Club. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:05 PM Flag
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rosemary's baby [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:19 PM Flag
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father of the bride, the Steve Martin version. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:21 PM Flag
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Yes, see Diane Keaton comment above [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:13 PM Flag
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I love around the corner from this house in Pasadena! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:40 PM Flag
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The proposal (Sandra bullock) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:22 PM Flag
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OMG yes love that house! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:27 PM Flag
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The Others (w Nicole Kidman) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:39 PM Flag
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That house is so creepy! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:47 PM Flag
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The Royal Tenenbaums [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:47 PM Flag
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Michael Douglas and Gwyneth paltrows apartment in a perfect murder [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:36 PM Flag
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Np- Good one!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:41 PM Flag
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dh loves that apt too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:56 PM Flag
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Home alone [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:48 PM Flag
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The apartment with the greenhouse in Green Card. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 12:47 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:13 PM Flag
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The Great Gatsby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:20 PM Flag
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If I were to live in the burbs, the moms house in Stepmom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.23.14, 01:28 PM Flag
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