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[ - ] I discovered this site, by accident last summer and I have been hooked ever since. I would love to share it with some friends, but I don't want to risk outing myself. Happy Anniversary ! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 03:19 AM Flag
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ha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 03:21 AM Flag
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to you too! I just recently searched for the email I sent to a friend saying I had found this wacky site where all of these crazy ladies post about their crazy problems. It was 6 years ago, and I am now one of the crazy ladies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 03:34 AM Flag
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I do remember reading the NY Magazine article about the site 10 years ago, but never had much interest in looking into it back then. How times have changed! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 03:39 AM Flag
[ - ] I think I'm falling into a depression. How can I avoid this? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 03:07 AM Flag
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it was the rain [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 03:11 AM Flag
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CBT (google) helped me with depression - it didn't fixed my life but it allowed me to identify and stop thoughts that were leading to depression. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 03:13 AM Flag
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^fix [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 03:13 AM Flag
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^It wasn't a big time investment - like a few days course or something [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 03:14 AM Flag
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Would that help me, I get overwhelmed like when Microsoft sent me emails about them changing one drive and now I have to spend tomorrow moving files. I'm crying. Np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 03:20 AM Flag
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A job you like? When I feel like that, I kind of prune my social environment, clean in up from toxic people. It always works! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 03:14 AM Flag
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Unemployed. New job starts in september though. Maybe I need a volunteer job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 03:16 AM Flag
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People always told me to volunteer when I was depressed - it became like a joke in my mind - I have no idea what volunteering has to do with depression [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 03:19 AM Flag
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Avoid that kind of thing. Focus on what makes YOU happy. I'd try say, 3 new hobbies, see which one sticks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 03:23 AM Flag
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It's a big commitment but adopting a dog really helped me with my depression. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 03:21 AM Flag
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I thought you were going to say "adopting a positive outlook on life". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 03:27 AM Flag
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Exercise [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 03:30 AM Flag
[ - ] LOVE HIS DEDICATION TO US! "Alexander Skarsgard reveals he ate 7,000 calories a day to build up 25lbs of muscle for Tarzan". Will definitely watch this movie... I mean, his body in this movie. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:52 AM Flag
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He is so so FINE. I just reminded DH (for the umpteenth time) that we have to go and watch this movie. He rolled his eyes lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 03:07 AM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 03:08 AM Flag
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Boring movie [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 03:22 AM Flag
[ - ] 35 and feeling like a loser lately. I had a child at 19 and have spent the last 16 years trying to make a life for us. I've achieved some great things, all things considered. I graduated from an Ivy League for undergrad and I'm a few months shy of a PhD. But it cost me so much and it feels like it took me a long time. I haven't traveled much. Didn't enjoy going out with friends. And there's so much I don't know about myself because I've been hustling for so long. I feel like I'm behind my peers in life experience. Just trying to process it all, I guess. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:51 AM Flag
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sorry you're going through this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:54 AM Flag
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The upside of doing things in that order (woohoo! about the PhD) is that you have a great number of years ahead to catch up on all that stuff. Your child will be an adult and you'll still be young, able to achieve all these other goals. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:54 AM Flag
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This! Be proud of yourself! You don't have to follow the predictable path to have a great life you're proud of. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 03:05 AM Flag
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Life is not a race, but in many ways you are ahead of your peers in experience. I recognize your story from other posts, and you always impress me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:56 AM Flag
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Did you have more kids or are you done now? She will go to college and you can live your life and make up for what you think you missed before. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 03:02 AM Flag
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Most 35 yo NYC women are still acting like children. You are 35 and have a grown child + PhD. You are ahead of most [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 03:06 AM Flag
[ - ] If you carry an expensive bag or wear a large engagement ring are you afraid to take the subway with these things on? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:44 AM Flag
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I wouldn't flash jewelry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:51 AM Flag
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I turn my ring around, and my expensive bags are understated [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:52 AM Flag
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I do this sometimes too (turn the ring around). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:54 AM Flag
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OP this seems like a good idea. I'm not sure why the subway scares me and walking down the street doesn't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 03:00 AM Flag
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I feel like people have more time to observe you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 03:12 AM Flag
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I don't take the subway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 03:03 AM Flag
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I'm no longer engaged to my husband so I no longer wear the diamond ring. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 03:07 AM Flag
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ok so then I wasn't asking you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 03:15 AM Flag
[ - ] How do I get tickets to the rain room at Lama? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:42 AM Flag
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LACMA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:42 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone else on who has some difficulty socially? I really resent extroverted, outgoing people sometimes. I just hate that things come so easily for them. Anyone feel the same way? Ugh. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:29 AM Flag
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Lots of people have social anxiety. More than you'd think. Some of the extroverts have their own far worse demons. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:37 AM Flag
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Agreed. I am not very good anymore in social settings. I come across too earnestly I think. Or my sense of humour is humourous only to me but I will repeat the joke just to make sure the total lack of response isnt somehow due to my "audience" perhaps not having heard the first time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:38 AM Flag
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Me, too, love. I just did it today and annoyed the crap out of someone. Sometimes I wish I could turn down how perceptive I am to expressions and body language. If I'm going to be so awkward, at least I could be unaware of how I'm received. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:53 AM Flag
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Haha, my mantra is "no one remembers how awkward I am because they are concerned about themselves." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:59 AM Flag
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My DH is very extroverted and outgoing, I am not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:41 AM Flag
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I'm introverted and used to be extremely shy. It was so hard for a long time. But I don't hate extroverts...they are the ones who reached out to me when I was tongue-tied and hiding in the shadows. Now I'm less shy but still prefer my alone time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:50 AM Flag
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I feel like extroverts are annoying. Just yesterday, I was at an event and these people kept getting together randomly and discussing the most inane things. I heard so many useless conversations. I don't know how they come up with so many ways to say nothing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 03:17 AM Flag
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This is very true [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 03:25 AM Flag
[ - ] I married a widower whose wife passed away 4 yrs ago. Their teen DDs live with us. The mom’s substantial life insurance was earmarked for DDs’ (v expensive) private school. I believe that this money would be better spent buying a bigger home in a neighborhood with better schools which could also benefit any future DBs that we might have. DH is opposed bc he is worried the DDs will freak out (he tends to be overly permissive). So when DH was on business trip I suggested to DDs my idea to test the waters and they went running to their very well-off grandparents (mom’s parents). Since then, I have gotten an email from their mother's brother announcing an unexpected visit, an email to DH and I telling us that grandparents would be happy to pay for granddaughters education, etc. DH is furious and blames me. I think they are completely overreacting (there are worse things than getting transferred from a fancy private school to a fancy public school). I honestly feel that the mother's family just interferes with my ability to make decisions about how my family will live, etc. How do I make these ILs less dramatic and regain control? 37 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:21 AM Flag
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Hahahhahahahahahahahaha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:23 AM Flag
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TROLL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:23 AM Flag
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It's got to be a troll. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:31 AM Flag
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+1mil [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:57 AM Flag
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The money from the life insurance was meant for their education, so why would you have any say over what happens with it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:24 AM Flag
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If you are not a troll, you are a horrible person. That money is not for you, but for dd's. As a divorced mother with dcs and an ex that is spineless, you are my worst nightmare. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:24 AM Flag
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Agree. My ex-husband married a person like this. Worst nightmare sums it up perfectly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:53 AM Flag
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You crossed boundaries. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:25 AM Flag
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Fake [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:26 AM Flag
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The children lost their mother and the life insurance money is not for you or your future children, it is for her daughters. The money should be used for their private school education. If you want a bigger home please get a better job and contribute your own money towards this. If I died and my husbands new wife pulled this sh*t I would hope my family would advocate for my children as well as hers are. You sound very selfish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:26 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:27 AM Flag
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:37 AM Flag
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Np: and you said it very politely :-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:58 AM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 03:04 AM Flag
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If this were real, he should divorce you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:27 AM Flag
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Guess what? I am on UB right now and you can expect divorce papers in the morning! On July 4 weekend! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:40 AM Flag
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HUh, are you for real? You are the greediest stepmom on this board. I think this is fake. You want to spend the mother's money on your kids and then complain when they care about their kid? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:27 AM Flag
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Of course it's fake [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:30 AM Flag
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You should be happy- you got some free money- why are you unwilling to take the heat that might come with it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:27 AM Flag
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That is not your money. These girls lost their mother. Not only should you back off, but you should write the in laws and dds an email apologizing for overstepping. Regain control?! Don't be evil. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:27 AM Flag
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I hope you made sure none of her pictures are on the walls or in any way visible. She's dead, right? Why would she even matter anymore? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:28 AM Flag
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yawn troll. the evil step mother thing is really played out on ub. true story though, i actually knew a step mom almost as bad as the character you're playing here. she had dumb kids who went to public school while her step children went to a private school paid for by the deceased mother's family. the step mother said her step kids should go to the public school to make things fair around the house because her kids were jealous. well at least she wasn't a gold-digging thief but still pretty bad to insist her step kids get a worse education. luckily the dad had some balls and put an end to that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:31 AM Flag
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What the hell was her redeeming quality? Why marry someone who thinks like that?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:35 AM Flag
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hhahahahahahahahaha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:32 AM Flag
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Is this is take off on the Stepmother stories that pop up every day or so? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:34 AM Flag
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It's fake because if it were earmarked like OP says, she couldn't touch it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:35 AM Flag
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Yep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:39 AM Flag
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OP: Dammit! You got me. This was a thinly veiled rewrite of https://live.washingtonpost.com/carolyn-hax-live-20160701.html#4305363 - introducing the earmark was my mistake. So be it, UB. I love how smart you guys are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:40 AM Flag
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Well, what was Carolyn's reply? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:41 AM Flag
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OP: It's right there in the link if you just scroll. "I'm not even sure what to advise except to look in the mirror..." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:48 AM Flag
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Points for coming clean [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:48 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 03:00 AM Flag
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You're a stupid, f'ing asshole. You are the problem with this site. Congratulations on being a worthless loser who ruins things for everyone else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 03:21 AM Flag
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Lighten up. I think it's refreshing in two ways. 1. She fessed up, 2. We collectively gave the correct answer. For ub this can be seen as a win! We have morals! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 03:43 AM Flag
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Fake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:37 AM Flag
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If you are not a troll, you are an asshole. Either fictionally or not, it's the DD's money, not yours, so have your kids and get your own life insurance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:39 AM Flag
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This forum is becoming a place for just fake posts. Go away [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:41 AM Flag
[ - ] What are some things you do when you are bored with your life (despite having a job and young kids). Feeling unfulfilled 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:17 AM Flag
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I'm preparing my one month trip to Italy with a ton of enthusiasm, as if it were the last one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:19 AM Flag
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Are you going to be in Florence? If so, how long? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:26 AM Flag
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No! I don't like Florence during the summer. Unlike most other Italian cities, it gets super hot with its stone streets and lack of decent trees. BTDT! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:49 AM Flag
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I know of what you speak! I used to hang out in the Duomo for the cooling effect. I was going to give you a restaurant suggestion but it sounds like you don't need it. Enjoy! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:50 AM Flag
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Just have some gelato! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:52 AM Flag
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Thanks! All the locals know to avoid Florence in the summer. My 1st husband is from Lucca, nearby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:53 AM Flag
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Set a new goal. To work out a few days a week, read a book each month etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:24 AM Flag
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Op: I like this idea [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:39 AM Flag
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Try something new. Take a class. Or re-decorate a room (not necessarily super fulfilling but end result is nice). Or do what I do and spend money you shouldn't! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:40 AM Flag
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Op: that's what I do too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.02.16, 02:41 AM Flag
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