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[ - ] 170lbs, 5'3". I ran 3 miles this morning. I need to do this every other day. If you exercised today, what did you do? I need encouragement. Have a great day!!! 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:47 PM Flag
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Couch to 5K. Got to shift this baby weight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:51 PM Flag
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well done. I am about to hop on the treadmill and do a weight workout in my basement [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:51 PM Flag
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You're eating too much food. For weight loss, eat half of what you eat now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:51 PM Flag
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and vomit if you can tolerate it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:53 PM Flag
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np: Not even remotely funny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:57 PM Flag
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Don't eat lunch with overweight friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:56 PM Flag
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Good for you! My favorite exercise is spin class. I went last night. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:52 PM Flag
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Great job! I am the same height and weight. Plan to jog 2 mi at lunch so thank you for the inspiration. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:55 PM Flag
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Great job! I am the same height and weight. Plan to jog 2 mi at lunch so thank you for the inspiration. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:55 PM Flag
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Great job! I am the same height and weight. Plan to jog 2-3 miles at lunch so thank you for the inspiration. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:55 PM Flag
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ok, we feel your enthusiasm. keep upping the mileage. but then go actually do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:57 PM Flag
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Tracy Anderson. She is a cruel she-beast, but she will make you look good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Sort or a re-post: (I'm the poster below who is dealing with guy who is angry at me) How do you deal with anger from men? Do you tolerate any of it at all? How do you think about it in your own marriage/relationships? I'm trying to decide/learn what's acceptable, and normal, and healthy. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:44 PM Flag
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I've read just a bit of the thread below. Run, don't walk, away. Read Lundy Bancroft's book, Why Does He Do That. If I knew your address I'd send it to you. Have highlighter ready. note what he says about well-respected men who are angry only in private. Please get out now. Things will only get worse if you marry this man. Good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:59 PM Flag
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I didn't see your original post. I am/have been dealing with anger from my exH for years, and am really having to deal with it at the moment. My approach is to recognize that his anger comes from a place that truly has nothing to do with me, and that I am simply a target. I recognize that he will always be mad, so mad + 1 isn't really any different, and that there will never be any appeasing him, so I just continue to do the right thing and ignore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:59 PM Flag
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^^just saw the post below. Walk away, quickly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 01:00 PM Flag
[ - ] Have been dating this guy for a year. He is really quite nice but when he gets mad he stays mad for a really long time, like a day or so, while I apologize over and over again. And he gets really negative about the relationship, but then he bounces back. Anybody dealt with this before? It's hard for me to hang back and wait for him not to be mad anymore. Don't know if I'm being immature or if this is a bad sign... 42 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:26 PM Flag
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if it helps, yesterday he was mad that i didn't return a phone call when I said i would. though it was because i was driving my ex-husband to get a rental car. So i get why it was annoying. But he just wouldn't relent until last night I broke down crying about it and turned into a total mess. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:28 PM Flag
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Gay? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:33 PM Flag
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Overly sensitive? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:41 PM Flag
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pondering [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:42 PM Flag
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huge red flag, you're lucky because you are only dating him, if you were married to him it would be 10x worse [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:29 PM Flag
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thank you for perspective [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:31 PM Flag
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ITA this will turn in to controlling behavior. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:37 PM Flag
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thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:42 PM Flag
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Are you 13? Don't you have some self-respect? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:29 PM Flag
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that's helpful, actually. but (and I'm asking this genuinely) what would you do ideally in that situation? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:31 PM Flag
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Dump him and move on. He hasn't matured emotionally, something you can't fix. How can he hold it together at work? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:33 PM Flag
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it's confusing because I think i've driven him to this point. he's pretty well respected and beloved by people who know him. so i don't know if i'm just difficult to date. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:39 PM Flag
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OMG you sound like a victim already. Do not continue to date this guy. There are red flags everywhere from what you are saying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:40 PM Flag
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This! Geez. You have not driven him to this by not returning a phone call exactly when you said you would. He may be well respected and beloved by people who know him because he doesn't show them his true nature. This will not improve. If you marry him, expect to spend a lot of time begging forgiveness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:42 PM Flag
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thank you. mini-therapy session. i appreciate it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:45 PM Flag
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thank you… v. helpful [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:45 PM Flag
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thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:49 PM Flag
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Get out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:38 PM Flag
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Dump him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:38 PM Flag
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He's nuts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:32 PM Flag
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unfortunately, i think if you knew us, you'd think i was more nuts and he was quite steadfast. that's why i'm confused. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:34 PM Flag
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How is that relevant? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:37 PM Flag
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Please, read Lundy Bancroft. I posted in the other thread. And get therapy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 01:02 PM Flag
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That's girly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:35 PM Flag
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:) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:42 PM Flag
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one word. RUN ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:40 PM Flag
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TY! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:47 PM Flag
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op: just clarifying this for myself. I guess the thing I would love to know is how other women think about anger from men. I had an intermittently angry husband that I divorced partially for that reason (plus infidelity), so I feel really allergic to male anger. But then part of me thinks that I should allow men to have a full range of feelings, as I expect the same myself. So i wish there was some algorithm that some of you follow-- how much anger do you tolerate. Maybe none! I don't know, I'm a little at sea. I used to be a powerhouse feminist and would not have tolerated any anger from men, but I've softened, maybe to my own detriment. Sorry so long... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:42 PM Flag
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Despite the fact that he cannot manage his anger in an appropriate manner, this is not you allowing him to express his feelings. This is him childishly punishing you for not doing what he wants/agreeing with him. You are already blaming yourself and doubting your dating worth which means he's screwing with your self esteem. This will not get better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:46 PM Flag
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Yes. That is so intelligent. thank you so much for thinking on my behalf when my thinking is all kind of murky this morning. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:48 PM Flag
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Good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:54 PM Flag
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It's not about tolerating anger. People are allowed to be angry. But he is being manipulative about it. That is NOT okay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:47 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:48 PM Flag
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thank you. he would never think that, so it is hard for me to believe that on my own. but it helps to hear from an outsider. thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:51 PM Flag
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this is something I would love to talk about more as my dh is "volatile" and I'm very even keeled. he has vastly improved in the 10 yrs we've been together due to me harping on his behavior. I've tolerated a lot over the years to answer your question but, I don't like his behavior and I tell him that. taking the good w/ the bad. if he hadn't changed some over the years I would have considered bailing. his anger ramps up very quickly, he snaps at me, etc. he's high strung but, also laughs more, is more gregarious, etc. just has more of a range of emotions than me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:48 PM Flag
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it sounds like you've figured out a way to work it out. I admire that, even if it's imperfect. It does seem that marriages have little crosses like this to bear, and it's good that you've figured out a way to do that but also express yourself and make life better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:52 PM Flag
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GET OUT. Stop blaming yourself for his issues. He is acting like a child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:43 PM Flag
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thank you... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:46 PM Flag
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Nexr [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:45 PM Flag
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Run. Can only get worse. Trust your instincts; you deserve better! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:46 PM Flag
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thank you; gaining strength... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:49 PM Flag
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Bad sign. Can you imagine how he'd be with kids??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 01:00 PM Flag
[ - ] Moms who have NP evaluations for dc - did you consider doing additional testing for areas where dc ceilinged? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:22 PM Flag
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what is NP? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:29 PM Flag
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neuropsychological testing, or IQ testing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:31 PM Flag
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No I didn't. The eval was very comprehensive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:41 PM Flag
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who did you use? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:48 PM Flag
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We had a Developmental Ped eval with Jennifer Cross and later a NP with David Salzberg [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 01:00 PM Flag
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They are by definition comprehensive. My question was whether you do further testing in areas where your dc ceilings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 01:02 PM Flag
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No. I think if you commit to a neuropsych, you do your homework and trust the person who does it. Give them a comprehensive summary of what is needed and by all means ask questions when you get the results. But since most people don't get a neuropsych unless there are problems, focusing on the ceiling areas sounds like avoidance of the problem, eh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 01:02 PM Flag
[ - ] s/o mattress protest. a perspective from another Columbia undergrad... http://jezebel.com/i-am-not-a-pretty-little-liar-1705996719 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:10 PM Flag
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Give this a rest, sleep on your mattress and leave us alone [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:16 PM Flag
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This story sounds like a total overreaction to me. Sorry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:21 PM Flag
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You asked for anal on facebook. Once he dumped you you cried rape [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:22 PM Flag
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This, boo hoo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:23 PM Flag
[ - ] I am working with really nasty people who use anything and everything against me. They start email discussions/analysis of a problem but if I say anything that isn't perfect they ascilate to my manager as proof of my incompetence. If I don't reply it's an issue as well. I am so overloaded with carrying most of the work for the project that I honestly don't have the time to be perfect. If I don't reply it's a problem as well. If I start playing politics like them the actual work will not be done which they will use against me as well. What do I do? Help! 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:04 PM Flag
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^ escalate [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:05 PM Flag
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Why don't they like you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:06 PM Flag
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I have wrong personality for this group. They want someone very competent yet extremely obedient who will do everything the way they want even if they recognize it as total incompetence on their part. I am too direct and unable to do this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:13 PM Flag
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Start looking for another job and document what you can [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:17 PM Flag
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The thing is that they are much better at documenting. It all seems so patty to me. I am just not the type to play these silly games. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:22 PM Flag
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Just document that you are meeting deadlines and deliverables. Let me guess, they want docile Asians or foreigners in this role? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:25 PM Flag
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I don't know what they want... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:48 PM Flag
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What industry is this. Can you afford to quit. Until then just keep going with the flow or until you find something. Don't forget you may need a future job reference as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:21 PM Flag
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Yes, I can afford to quit but I prefer they let me go to get some severance or at least unemployment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:23 PM Flag
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That is not a good plan unless you are desperate for money. BTDT. don't make my mistake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:42 PM Flag
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Can you explain/elaborate? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:48 PM Flag
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Just start looking for another job. Life is too short. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:49 PM Flag
[ - ] House is so cold, heat is on. What's with this weather?? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:02 PM Flag
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Don't laugh but I'm going to rock a fur vest today, so cold! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:04 PM Flag
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Winter running tights and a big hooded sweatshirt: warm as toast. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:10 PM Flag
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Where are you? In NYC, the sun is shining for the first time all week and it's going to be 75 degrees today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:19 PM Flag
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UB Antartica? How's the Avenues campus down there? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:22 PM Flag
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They teach Spanish, mandarin and penguin [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:27 PM Flag
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We're still officially in heat season until the end of this May. This means NYC landlords must provide at least a minimum level of heat once the outside temp falls below a certain number. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:27 PM Flag
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They always have to do that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Perfect birthday gift, unique, spiritual and sensual. Uptight UBers need not apply. http://newyork.craigslist.org/mnh/cas/5019280905.html 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 11:37 AM Flag
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Wow! More memorable than flowers but might be too much [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 11:43 AM Flag
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Not for me, gross [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 11:56 AM Flag
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A true Kardashian birthday gift. Assume this is what Kris is having (and maybe Belinda too) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 11:45 AM Flag
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Spiritual? More omg [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 11:53 AM Flag
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DH would never allow this. Too kinky and would make him feel inadequate [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:07 PM Flag
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OMG [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:30 PM Flag
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For the girl that has everything! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 12:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Apparently CBS threw out most of the David Letterman show's set. What a waste. They should have auctioned pieces off for charity. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 11:26 AM Flag
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Who cares, overrated man, give it a rest. Now's your chance to dumpster dive! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 11:29 AM Flag
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Overrated, yes. But they could have done some good with all that crap [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 11:30 AM Flag
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Burn it baby before a dumpster diver gets it. Could also be in the plot line for storage wars. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 11:38 AM Flag
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Not really. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 11:55 AM Flag
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surprised it's not Smithsonian worthy...like some of the sets from other long running shows [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 11:30 AM Flag
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Dynasty set is museum worthy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 11:41 AM Flag
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I bet! That was crazy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 11:55 AM Flag
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So fashionable and over the top [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 11:59 AM Flag
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If my experience is anything, the tossed pieces were probably scavenged ASAP by people who will be happy to sell them. Probably not for charity, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 11:36 AM Flag
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Ebay [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 11:39 AM Flag
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Yep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 11:56 AM Flag
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David Letterman is NOT Jewish, stop saying that he is. You are stupid and ignorant! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 11:44 AM Flag
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Nobody cares about old chairs with celebrity butts on them. Gross. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 11:55 AM Flag
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Would take DNA swabs to either clone a celebrity or see how old Catherine zeta jones really is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 11:58 AM Flag
[ - ] "Kids eat your crusts, only criminals leave them behind. Do you want to grow up and look like this? (show kids pic of DC thug) I thought not." 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 11:20 AM Flag
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"No crust left behind", like the ring to it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 11:22 AM Flag
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Love it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.22.15, 11:42 AM Flag
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