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[ - ] Tell me about Wheaton College in MA 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:16 PM Flag
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Friend's daughter just graduated from there (math and CS). She had a great time. Very good school, lots of traditions, nice campus. She got to do the very prestigious Budapest Math Semester abroad, and since she is brilliant in math, is a rare dual math/CS major. The faculty were very supportive of her. Lots of research opportunities during the year and in the summers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:20 PM Flag
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Did she find a job or did she move home? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:22 PM Flag
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now for the most important (everything else is fluff), does she have a good job? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:22 PM Flag
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Live in Boston for 10 yrs- knew no one who went to Wheaton and plenty who went to the other libarts places in the area like Babson, Bentley, Clark, Brandeis. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Where to find mood rings? Street vendors selling them? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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If I recall correctly, we bought one from the gift shop at Natural History Museum one time. May have been a temporary thing, though. [ Reply | More ]
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St Marks? [ Reply | More ]
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Claire's. [ Reply | More ]
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Amazon [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:16 PM Flag
[ - ] According to a poll released Wednesday by the personal finance website Credit Karma, 72 percent of Americans would rather maintain their current level of debt than gain 25 pounds and be completely debt-free. Just 28 percent of those surveyed would be willing to gain 25 pounds to get out of debt, the study also found. So how about it? Which would you rather be- skinny or rich? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:10 PM Flag
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skinny for sure- debt has a very mild cost these days if in the right form. 25 lbs takes years off my life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:11 PM Flag
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How long you want to live? I hope I check out not much later than my seventies, but anything over 55 will be gravy. I would rather eat and enjoy life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:14 PM Flag
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Not true. Until you become morbidly obese, there's almost no effect upon life expectancy. The "health issue" is used by those who want to stick their noses into the lives of relatives and friends who weigh more than the socially accepted levels. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:15 PM Flag
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I don't agree with you at all- those who reduce caloric intake and go down to 80-100 lbs live for a very long time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:22 PM Flag
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moronic question. apples and oranges. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:12 PM Flag
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Hi aspergers mom. You never get it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:22 PM Flag
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This is really funny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:12 PM Flag
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i'm skinny, debt-free. so the offer is meaningless to me [ Reply | More ]
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Buy you're too stupid to think in hypothetical terms, so... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:16 PM Flag
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that's entertaining to little girls [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:23 PM Flag
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Skinny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:13 PM Flag
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Skinny. You can be rich and still have cheap debt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:15 PM Flag
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I need to gain weight and would gladly take the 25lbs and erase my debt! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:17 PM Flag
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I'd rather be skinny, but I'd never want to be in poverty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:18 PM Flag
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debt-free for sure, even though I am 15lbs over my ideal weight now, but I also have cc debt I need to tackle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:21 PM Flag
[ - ] Don't use stroller much but have to get a new one when db comes. Have a 3yo and she's obsessed with those glider board attachments. What's best for 1 baby and a toddler to ride along? I don't necessarily need the option for older dd to have a seat but will I end up wanting it? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:03 PM Flag
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What type of stroller do you have now? We just got a Buggy Board that attaches to most strollers. Didn't need the extra seat although it would have been nice for long walks in the summer to the zoo and such. Found I ended up carrying DB #2 more and we'd take the subway or bus if too long a walk (even with Buggy Board) for #1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:05 PM Flag
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A hand me down bugaboo POS. Didn't steer straight, I avoided using it at all costs, got rid of it already. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:08 PM Flag
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How tall are you? The buggy board didn't work for me because I kept kicking it and stubbing my toes. I had a G luxe and I'm 5'8. I think I'd only get a buggy board if I were 5'5 and shorter. But maybe I'm just an idiot and it would have worked with a different stroller. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:07 PM Flag
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I'm 5'7" and I've heard this... thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:09 PM Flag
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Do light weight strollers work with buggy boards? For instance, a Maclaren Quest or a Uppababy G-Lite? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:14 PM Flag
[ - ] I pushed very hard to buy a second home, dh was on the fence. Now I am having buyers remorse? I feel like I just bought a money pit and we are never going to go on a decent vacation again :( 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:01 PM Flag
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I think you are right. That's why is never buy a second home. [ Reply | More ]
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We bought a second home and still vacation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:13 PM Flag
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You're probably right [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:03 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:09 PM Flag
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d'oh! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:04 PM Flag
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Homes are money pits. Pat yourself on the back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:04 PM Flag
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But you can sell a home [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:16 PM Flag
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Why what were you thinking? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:06 PM Flag
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We were thinking of the kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:11 PM Flag
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Then sell it- no harm, no foul. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:09 PM Flag
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never understood why people wanted to go to the same place year after year after year after year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:09 PM Flag
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People with small children and dogs. commutable. Kids have a lot of vacations during the year, no working parent can take off work that much time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:11 PM Flag
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Mean and jealous posters above. I would love to have a second country home. Enjoy ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:10 PM Flag
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Not much you can do at this point. Give it a little time and see how it unfolds, but be prepared to sell if it's not working out or if you feel like you are unable to do anything else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:12 PM Flag
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That is what dh says. He says we need to keep it for at least 5-7 years. I am one of those people who hates owning things, so I might just be freaking out [ Reply | More ]
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2nd homes are always a money pit [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What store has the best selection of AG jeans? Preferably UES> Thanks. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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bloomingdales [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:57 PM Flag
[ - ] Figures all the THUGS are sleeping in Baltimore. Now the pastors and people who truly care are peacefully protesting 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:51 PM Flag
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Protesting what? They are idiots. Just go back to Africa where there's racism harmony and peace. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:55 PM Flag
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Lol, right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:58 PM Flag
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Really? Get your head out of your ass. Life is very unfair for a lot of people. Have a little compassion. [ Reply | More ]
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Why Africa? You do realize that there are no Africans rioting. They are Americans. They are a product of the country they were born and raised in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:59 PM Flag
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In Africa, they don't riot. They MASSACRE!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:04 PM Flag
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lol.zenophobe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:07 PM Flag
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There are no Africans rioting? Africans are very busy rioting against the Chinese who have never enslaved them, colonized them or more them. They are also rioting in China. They are like the scourge of the earth. They cannot behave like civilized human beings in groups larger than 1000. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:13 PM Flag
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Yeah. You misread that. There are no Africans rioting in BALTIMORE. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:15 PM Flag
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*or killed them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:18 PM Flag
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you do understand that they are protesting the killing of a young man, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:02 PM Flag
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Looting and Rioting is very different from protesting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:05 PM Flag
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It's a form of protest. Probably not the most effective way to do so, but it is protest nonetheless. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:11 PM Flag
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They are very different from peaceful protesting yes, but, looting and rioting have been a form of protest throughout history by all races. Go watch Les Mis. [ Reply | More ]
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Massacre is a form of rioting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:21 PM Flag
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to her property matters more than life. typical disgusting white KKK [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:14 PM Flag
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Anyone think the worst of the rioting is over now? Hoping it won't start up again [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:58 PM Flag
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knock wood, I am trying to be hopeful as well. I think the state police presence will help in the short term, and that the religious community and business community will hold Baltimore together. Here's hoping. [ Reply | More ]
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Using the term thugs is racist. And they are not responsible for their rage. Riots are the voice of people without voices. This is the result of decades of systemic racism and its not limited to Alabama or Mississippi. The UES is racist, the UWS is racist, Chelsea is racist, the Village is racist, Park Slope, DUMBO, Brooklyn --- racist, racist, racist, god knows Westchester County is racist AF, Fairfield County-- racist. [ Reply | More ]
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What does UES, UWS, Chelsea, Village etc have to do with this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:08 PM Flag
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They may not be responsible for their rage, but they are certainly responsible for their actions. Stop making excuses for these people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:21 PM Flag
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"And they are not responsible for their rage. Riots are the voice of people without voices. This is the result of decades of systemic racism and its not limited to Alabama or Mississippi" BRING IT!!! so many in UB don't have a clue about what's going on, it's a shame content to be in their mini bubbles [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:21 PM Flag
[ - ] WWYD? bought a table from NYC. picked it up, drove 3 hours home, turned out to be the wrong table. bugged them for 1 month, they delievered the correct table to me finally. i asked them to take the original wrong table with them, they never responded. had ugly table in my house for 2 months now. now they want to pick it up after i have been trying to sell it on craigslist. why should i give them MORE of my time? they never came multiple days they said they would to pick up the table. 32 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:50 PM Flag
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theft [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:52 PM Flag
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theft? i ASKED them to come get the table. they never responded. i have waited months for them to come. NOW they want to come get it? how about theft of my time and expensive real estate. my property is over $1,000/Sf! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:53 PM Flag
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If you sell it that will be theft. I think it is worth your time to arrange for pick up. I can't even believe you would consider selling it. I'm sure you could have figured out a better way of handling this situation if you had tried. [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 04.28.15, 01:58 PM Flag
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I am contacting a lawyer. I tried to get rid of the table for a long time. I have a small house, no room for this huge heavy piece of furniture I can't even lift by myself. It's crazy if this is considered theft. They have stolen my time and storage space in a nice high-end facility. I don't run a storage business! This is my home! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:58 PM Flag
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I double dog dare you to contact a lawyer over this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:01 PM Flag
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a 9-5 parking spot is at least $200/mo. i ahve had the table for 2 months. that is about $800 in storage fees. and my house is climate controlled. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:04 PM Flag
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LMAO [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:06 PM Flag
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"expensive real estate" lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:01 PM Flag
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what are you, flyover? [ Reply | More ]
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I'm sure the space a table takes up is costing you a fortune. Maybe next time look at what you're taking home before you take it home. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 Three hours outside NYC? OP is nuts. [ Reply | More ]
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How did you get it into the house? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:15 PM Flag
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No. Just give it back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:56 PM Flag
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And take more time off of work? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:59 PM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:01 PM Flag
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Why don't you leave it outside tor house with a note the day they are supposed to be there [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:05 PM Flag
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Make a time with them to pick up the damned table. Be very, very clear that they must arrive at that time as they've had more than enough opportunity to do so the past 2 months. Call and re confirm with them the week before, the day before and the morning of the pick up. Be a squeaky wheel. [ Reply | More ]
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Give the table back. Don't be a jerk. After I quit a company kept paying me by mistake for 6 months. I bugged them to take the money back before tax season. It took them 6 months to stop paying me and another 5 to take the money back. I did t spend the money and tell them on well, I have a small account and the money was crowding it. [ Reply | More ]
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there is precedent for your situation though. these people were MIA when i tried to get the right table. took several days off of work thinking they would show up, never did. now, they want me to wait around again? i can't put the table outside without hiring someone to move it. it's so incredibly heavy. [ Reply | More ]
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You had no problem picking it up from the store, driving it three hours, and moving it into your house. Why is returning it any different? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:08 PM Flag
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because i have invested way too much time at this point. the drive to pick up, the drive home, the discovery of the wrong table, the time and effort to get the RIGHT table (WEEKS and numerous e-mails, calls, several days off of work when they said they would deliver it and never did), and then i asked them to take the table with them when they delivered the right one. all for a stupid table. and the original table i bought is awful - wobbles, etc.they said zip about that when i bought it. awful company. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:09 PM Flag
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You are bad at shopping. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:12 PM Flag
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How did you take a wrong TABLE home? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:06 PM Flag
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my husband picked it up. wrapped up and packaged. who thinks they are getting the wrong table? they loaded it into my SUV. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:07 PM Flag
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Why didn't you check? You knew you were driving three hours - would it be so hard to take twelve seconds to check? This is all your fault, and now you're trying to profit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:12 PM Flag
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i picked it up on the day of an impending blizzard. you would've been frazzled too. and no, not trying to profit. trying to be fair. i tried to return the table before and they were lazy and disorganized. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:13 PM Flag
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Send them a letter setting forth the facts and tell them if they want it back they must pick it up on a specific date at whatever time means you don't have to take off from work (8:30 or whatever). Tell them if not you will leave it outside the house at that time and any risk of damage is theirs. Copy "in-house counsel" if it's a big company like crate and barrel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:08 PM Flag
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Saw your above post. So don't mention leave outside option. [ Reply | More ]
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thanks. it is so, so heavy. it's sitting in the middle of my LR and i have been trying to get rid of it for a few weeks on craigslist. [ Reply | More ]
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thanks! are you a lawyer? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:10 PM Flag
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Why on earth would you be trying to sell it on Craigslist? That's an incredibly bizarre solution. Clearly the store sucks, but I feel like the way you're dealing with this is wrong as well. If the store is being this lame, then you have to just take it back to them. Don't get stuck on them taking up more of your time. Solve the primary problem...getting it out of your house asap in a way that you will not be charged for it. If you incur fees while doing so, then take them to small claims after the fact. You're trying to get this problem solved in only one way and it's not working. Take the mofo back! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:15 PM Flag
[ - ] Have a DS who is in K and not getting along with the boys in class. DS is verbose and seems to be getting frequently picked on and excluded. Any suggestions on summer play groups/activities that might help him? Are they any therapists that specialize in social integration issues? TIA 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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OP: Manhattan [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:49 PM Flag
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He is very young. Help him with one on one playdates. This really helps change the daytime dynamics. Also, nothing lasts forever and friendships molt and change for years after this. Don't worry. [ Reply | More ]
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That's partly true. The other truth is that full blown bullies (not saying this kid is one) don't just wake up one day and turn into a bully. They start out small and things progress each year. [ Reply | More ]
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Is there more information you can provide? Verbose kids tend to do the picking on and excluding, so this is a little unusual. [ Reply | More ]
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He's very highly verbal, so he has more positive interactions with the girls. When her is verbose, he tends to be "off topic": much too much detail on certain action heroes, space exploration, science, etc. If he is provoked, he will often physically retaliate. His presence to the boys almost makes him into a provocateur. True, he is young, but almost oblivious to anything doing with social awareness and social interaction. High energy, lots of physical movement. [ Reply | More ]
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ivf? [ Reply | More ]
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stfu? [ Reply | More ]
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His parents are supposed to help him with social integration. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Agree totally. One-on-one (parenting or play date) is very different that a group setting. I am trying to help by possibly arranging a summer group activity so he does not repeat his mistakes. [ Reply | More ]
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np. I think you are looking for the right type of thinking - though not getting helpful answers here. I am not in NYC so don't know any place. Good luck. [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you, anyway! [ Reply | More ]
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"Verbose"? This sounds to me like a know-it-all. Nobody likes That Kid. Teach him about how he doesn't have to say everything that comes into his head and he doesn't always have to be the one with all of the answers and opinions. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I think that is true. [ Reply | More ]
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Social skills class? Maybe check out NYU's Child Mind institute and see if they have any suggestions. DS had a friend like this who turned out to have Aspergers--very bright but found it difficult to "read" social cues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:16 PM Flag
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Your kid is probably annoying as shit. Tell him to listen more [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Can you tell me the appeal of that giant Stokke stroller? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Baby is at your height. [ Reply | More ]
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Isn't that less safe? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:42 PM Flag
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Not if it's built right. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, aka wide in the base and heavy. Pita for everyone in the city. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:57 PM Flag
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LOL that thing is UGLY! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:51 PM Flag
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you get to say you spent a lot of money on it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:47 PM Flag
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Buy an UPPA. I always wondered why people bought the Stokke! Good question. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:52 PM Flag
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The xplory? I kind of like that one, trying to decide what to get... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:57 PM Flag
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Great for getting the baby away from the dogs. [ Reply | More ]
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Same as the appeal of an Escalade. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:13 PM Flag
[ - ] We just got the bill for snow removal for driveway-new to burbs--120 plus tax for each storm, including those that were 2-3 inches. I'm sick about it but should have asked ahead of time, assumed it would be like 40-50 bucks tops to plow. Driveway isn't huge and a few times they came late so I shoveled, other times we had cars in driveway (due to garage filled with contractor stuff) so they couldn't do much, and each time they just piled up snow in corner so we couldn't even use one car (get out of garage) all winter. Is this normal prices? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:37 PM Flag
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Sounds high. Not trying to make you feel bad, but you signed a contract without knowing price? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:39 PM Flag
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didn't sign contract. Just said they could come (same guy I got to do yard maintenance and tree work--price for both of those were very reasonable). What would be a normal amount to plow and salt? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:41 PM Flag
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Just tell him. Sound ridiculous. They also love to come every 3 hours throughout the night in a snowstorm and charge by the plow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:43 PM Flag
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ok, what is a reasonable price? Like 50? Westchester. I'm f-cked because he did the work and I didn't ask price in advance (idiot I know ,he seemed so trustworthy and other prices were great), so I think he might have to just pay up but then I'm done with him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:47 PM Flag
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I think your best option is to just pay everything in full, be done with this guy, and ensure you ask in advance next time. Chalk it up to a learning experience, albeit an expensive one. [ Reply | More ]
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I agree that it sounds high. But this is one of the many reasons I'd never move to burbs - so many expenses that people don't properly consider and add up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:47 PM Flag
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It's well worth the hassles to not be in the city. The house, the dirt, the pollution, the summer stench, the rudeness. Everything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:50 PM Flag
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Whatever. To each his own. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:59 PM Flag
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Don't feel bad. I think we spent around 5K this winter for snow removal. Brutal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:49 PM Flag
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That's super high. I have a long driveway and they charge $55 per plow up to 6 inches, then an extra surcharge over that for 6+ inches. And they shovel out the bays by hand. If you want them to do the walkways, it's an extra $15. You can also arrange in your contract for them not to come plow if there is less than 2 inches of snow. [ Reply | More ]
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+1, mine costs $60 for a long driveway, plus shoveling walk (Westchester). Ask around town, most landscape crews plow in winter and you should be able to get a better deal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:11 PM Flag
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Why did you ask for the price? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:50 PM Flag
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Because I'm stupid and I trust people and his prices for the tree removal and yard work were fabulous so I assumed it would be some moderate amount and because it's sticker shock so I couldn't imagine could be this high. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:52 PM Flag
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live and learn!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:55 PM Flag
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if you get rid of him, remember you going to need to find someone else to do the yard work. these guys need to make money also. that being said, the amounts seem high. i would negotiate him down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:59 PM Flag
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also I'm just curious, is there tax on the monthly yard work and snow removal? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:55 PM Flag
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There is in NJ. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:02 PM Flag
[ - ] 15yo ds has been making fake inquiries to buy musical instruments off Craigslist. The seller is a boy he doesn't like from his chess club. We are punishing him for this behavior. Are there legal implications for what he's done? Ds has made several up email addresses and alias' to do what he's done. 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:36 PM Flag
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No, it's not illegal to misrepresent yourself if it stops at that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:38 PM Flag
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Op: Thank goodness. Thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:56 PM Flag
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Make him buy it with his own money. Or work to make that money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:38 PM Flag
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And make him talk directly to the boy and confess what he did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:38 PM Flag
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Op: No allowance for a month, no phone or internet connection for a week. We will not make him buy the instruments. We're addressing his attitudes and feelings for not liking people. I'm unsure about making him confess what he did. He is remorseful and ashamed by his actions. It would be humiliating for him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:49 PM Flag
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Sounds like a good plan. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:53 PM Flag
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"It would be humiliating for him" and that's the point, he will learn that way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:56 PM Flag
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Op: I'm not interested in striking fear into him. I would like to help him deal with his feelings more constructively. He's unable to deal with dislike, humiliating him will teach him to better conceal his actions. And teach him he can't trust his parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:01 PM Flag
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It should be humiliating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:03 PM Flag
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THIS! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:55 PM Flag
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How did you find out? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:40 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:55 PM Flag
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Op: His primary email had a few curious email exchanges. We have a house policy of recharging all devices on office desk. His phone was beeping much more than usual. I checked it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:55 PM Flag
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np. That's a great idea (recharging in one place). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:04 PM Flag
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That's a pretty serious way to deal with someone he doesn't like. Does he regularly lie? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:52 PM Flag
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Op: Not to us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:57 PM Flag
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I see above that you seem to be handling this really well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:59 PM Flag
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That is just active hate. Must be dealt with so he learns a lesson. It's a tough one though. How about making him do community service work too? Really learn about kindness and compassion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:58 PM Flag
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Also, if he's doing that, tell him it means he has too much time on his hands and doing community service will keep him busy. Idle minds... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:00 PM Flag
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Op: Good idea. Can you suggest any programs? NYC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:02 PM Flag
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Your punishment isn't enough. He should but the instrument if it's under $400 or so. This is pretty calculated aggression and needs to be taken very seriously. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:02 PM Flag
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How about he invite that kid out to lunch or to do something? I think it's harder to hate someone when you really know them. Maybe you could insist that he really try to find out the other kid's story--they might end up being friends, or at least he'lll realize there's a human there just like him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:07 PM Flag
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Op: Thanks. Dh suggested this and ds is resisting. We'll keep at it. I agree that hating is hard when you have an understanding of the person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:22 PM Flag
[ - ] Easier to run errands in the city or in the suburbs? Since it feels like that's what I mostly do, I figure I should base my decision on where to live on that fact alone. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:36 PM Flag
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City [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:50 PM Flag
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+1 no driving, clustering [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:54 PM Flag
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city but I hate driving. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:53 PM Flag
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I've done both but prefer the city because I hate driving. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:56 PM Flag
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I've done both and prefer suburbs with kids. But I am in a walkable suburb so don't have to drive if weather is nice. But I like the convenience of a car if it's raining, I have a lot of things to pick up, etc. 10 minutes to stores, 5 mins to supermarket. I also hated driving when I lived in New York but now that I live in another state it is really convenient. Still, all depends on what you're used to [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:02 PM Flag
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Which suburb? Sounds good to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:04 PM Flag
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City because you get everything delivered. Just make sure to have a doorman building...then you don't have to be there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:14 PM Flag
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I prefer suburbs. I hated schlepping the stroller all over in the rain and snow in the city, and I don't mind driving. I like being able to throw everything in the back of my car. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:15 PM Flag
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depends on the errand. i think city is easier for drug store, cleaners, picking up 3 things at the store, clothing returns, last minute pick up of wine or gift. OTOH, suburbs are easier for hardware store, anything outdoor, being able to get 10 unrelated things at walmart or target. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:22 PM Flag
[ - ] DH is seriously ticking me off lately. I SAHM and do 85% of house and kid related stuff. I constantly have to remind him when something needs to be fixed. If a light bulb in a ceiling fixture burns out in his presence, he'll do nothing about it. I actually have to ask him if he can change it. He doesn't inprovise or thinks ahead. It's really starting to get on my nerves. 48 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:34 PM Flag
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^think ahead [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:35 PM Flag
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Don't be passive-aggressive, tell him what you need done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:35 PM Flag
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I'm not. I just hve to ask him the obvious and it's killing me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:40 PM Flag
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Stop acting like a child. Either do it yourself or ask him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:49 PM Flag
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I am asking him. WTH? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:17 PM Flag
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This. You're around most of the time and care more/notice more/get more done. Just give him the list and tell him to do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:41 PM Flag
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Why can't you change a light bulb? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:36 PM Flag
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+1. I WOH and change lightbulbs all the time. Why can't you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:39 PM Flag
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Forget it. You're missing the point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:41 PM Flag
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They are assholes. Just forget about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:45 PM Flag
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Np and fellow sahm. I'm think you're missing the point. Yore stewing and getting angry about something you could just do yourself in about 10 seconds. Really silly to make him change it and be mad about how long it takes. I only ask dh to do thing I can't actually do myself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:52 PM Flag
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I WOH but I'll chime in. OP, I get it. It used to drive me mad that garbage is piling up and DH won't take it out. But you know what, every time I ask him to take out the garbage, unload the dishwasher, change a light bulb, fix the door bell, whatever whatever, he always does it. I stopped expecting my DH to be a mindreader and treated him like a partner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:56 PM Flag
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Why are men like children? If the garbage is overflowing, he can't figure it out? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:18 PM Flag
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Stop treating him like a child. He'll goto the garbage once for every ten times you do (when you're cooking, cleaning, etc) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:21 PM Flag
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And he gets to sit on his ass? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:21 PM Flag
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Is it the point that woman are helpless and can't change a lightbulb. I mean, are we literally turning into a joke? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:53 PM Flag
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OP: of course I can change it. The point is, I'll be doing something else. And he'll just look at it while he's sitting there doingn nothing. So I'm suppose to baby him and be like "jeez sweetie, the light just went out, what you think we should do?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:22 PM Flag
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Oh my!!! A woh mom does things around the house!!! You're amazing!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:41 PM Flag
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Unclench, sweetheart. My point os that you don't have to be a DH to change lightbulbs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:44 PM Flag
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And why is it bad if he changes it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:48 PM Flag
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Why is it bad if *she* changes it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:49 PM Flag
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OP: why can't he?! Why are you pinning this on me. The light bulb will go out in front of him and he just looks at it. But it will go out while I'm serving everyone dinner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:50 PM Flag
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"the cry of the leech" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:56 PM Flag
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So when you calmly look at him and say "hey sweetie, would you please change that lightbulb for me right now since I'm in the middle of serving dinner?" - he says "no"? Or do you spin up a blown out lightbulb in your own head into some sort of a statement about his inability to read your mind? Because men are not mind readers and he absolutely doesn't care or notice the lightbulb. And it has nothing to do with you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:01 PM Flag
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:10 PM Flag
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What? He can't figure it out? Like hmmm, the light just went out and I guess I'll change it. I have to ask him? He lives her too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:19 PM Flag
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I think her point is she isn't home all day and manages to change the light bulb. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:57 PM Flag
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I'm guessing that his side of this goes something like: "I work to pay all of the bills, and DW can't even change a light bulb without nagging me." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:36 PM Flag
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The light will burn out over his head. He looks at it. And says "oh well". Then I have to ask, do you mind changing it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:40 PM Flag
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Did it plunge you into darkness? Or was it just one light of several? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:41 PM Flag
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Np: you're really asking this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:43 PM Flag
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Yes. Because if it's one of several, it's NBD and OP is just high maintenance. If it's the only light in the kitchen... well, I still think OP can change it, but she's probably looking for something to nag DH about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:51 PM Flag
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And why can't HE change it? Because he doesn't live there, rt? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:20 PM Flag
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When you asked him to change it, did he refuse? If not, he did change it. He just didn't do it in a way that you prefer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:22 PM Flag
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What does "improvising" have to do with changing a light bulb? Also, improvising is kind of the opposite of thinking ahead. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:37 PM Flag
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LOL no wonder she doesn't work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:52 PM Flag
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I think she means being proactive. Np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:53 PM Flag
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If you're at home, how much home/kid stuff do you think you should be doing, if not 85%? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:41 PM Flag
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I can't do 100%. We have a 4,2, and 6 month old. I really do most of it. But he'll bring out the recycling and garbage to the garage. Let me guess, I'm awful because he does this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:44 PM Flag
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Ha! That's the only thing my dh does and he swears he should her a parade every time he does it. And do let him do the grocery shopping, I should be ready to have sex with him, dinner and an academy award for his accomplishment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:20 PM Flag
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oh FFS get a job! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:55 PM Flag
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Fuck off! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:20 PM Flag
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Keep a list in your head and then ask him to do it on the weekend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:07 PM Flag
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Can someone enlighten me. Why do we have to wait until our dh is ready to change a light bulb? Why can't we change it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:11 PM Flag
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You women can not be this dense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:21 PM Flag
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Because we're just the women-folk - good for taking care of the kids and making dinner and that's it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:22 PM Flag
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I understand what you are saying OP, my DH is the same way. Although I suspect its not really about the lightbulb per se, its the principle. You really just want him to be more assertive/proactive. You probably feel overwhelmed and unappreciated which manifests itself in getting angry at him over minor things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:18 PM Flag
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Sounds like OP doesn't appreciate DH either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:23 PM Flag
[ - ] I have two kids. My friend has one. She buys each of my kids a birthday gift worth $50, total $100 spent. When I buy her kid a bday present, should I spend $100? Or is $50 fine? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:33 PM Flag
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$50 is fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:34 PM Flag
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+1. They are individual people. And stop counting every dollar. It's unbecoming. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:42 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:51 PM Flag
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who the heck keeps track like that? just buy her something you think her kid would love. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:35 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:39 PM Flag
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I get it though. DF has five DCs and I have an only child. It's hard NOT to do that at Christmas time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:49 PM Flag
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you don't need to buy a present for every kid, just the kid your kids plays with the most. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:57 PM Flag
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My SIL does this. She'll buy each of my 3 kids something under $50 (I try to give reasonably priced suggestions) and then always ask for something that is at least $150 for her child. I don't mind. I would get him a good gift anyway. Just funny bc it's always like that - her mindset is pretty obvious. She's very into "fairness". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:39 PM Flag
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"She's very into "fairness"" that's great, isn't it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:58 PM Flag
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We just had a birthday party for my only dc and there were a lot of siblings and I was glad the gifts were not expensive. There are so many parties for families with several kids so the cost shouldn't be an obstacle. As a host I'd rather a dc's friends come with a small present than his mom worrying parties are getting too expensive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:50 PM Flag
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Please excuse my egregious typing/grammar. Posting while cooking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 01:51 PM Flag
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I would spend $80 ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:12 PM Flag
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I don't think you NEED to spend $100. Thta said, if from time to time there's a great gift for her child that costs more, I would get it. Of course, I kind of feel until kids get older, there's no need to spend $50 on a bday present for a kid - they are really happy with things that cost $20! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.28.15, 02:20 PM Flag
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