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[ - ] Thoughts on quilted vests? I think I want one for the fall. Just procrastinating and making small talk. I'm not preppy or outdoorsy, but I like the look. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Buy one. It's useful. [ Reply | More ]
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the first one. the second one seems like an oxymoron. short-sleeved, down? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:23 PM Flag
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Uniqlo...I love mine! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:21 PM Flag
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Good call! Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:23 PM Flag
[ - ] I believe in predestination. Flame me. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:14 PM Flag
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I believe in preboarding. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Yay! Vince Vaughn confirmed for True Detective! So excited. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:13 PM Flag
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Really? He sucks. [ Reply | More ]
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vince vaughn and colin farrell, i wonder if it'll be as good as last season. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:14 PM Flag
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No chance in Hell. Colin Farrell is terrible too. [ Reply | More ]
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I kinda think both of them are "has beens" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:10 PM Flag
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ITA! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:24 PM Flag
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I have a celebrity crush on him. I'm not sure why. I just think he's sexy. [ Reply | More ]
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he's puffy. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Anyone own an inexpensive house in the Hamptons? Do you feel excluded from things? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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You mean excluded from sweltering summer weekends in NYC? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:13 PM Flag
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You know what I mean, The TT moms laughing at me and my kids, etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:14 PM Flag
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DH and I have been looking at second homes in the $400,000 price range. We think the houses are beautiful and spacious compared to our Apartment in Tribeca. But I am worried we will be scorned. Anyone BTDT? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:13 PM Flag
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Where in the Hamptons can you buy a house in the Hamptons for $400k? Even in the cheapo area like Hampron Bays or the Spring can you get a house for that little money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:15 PM Flag
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Follow the link. We just saw this super cute totally move in ready house for in the $400,000s. Sag Harbor which has a cute downtown and the most diverse group of kids in all of the Hamptons [ Reply | More ]
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Is diversity a plus? [ Reply | More ]
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Eh if you hate diversity, spend your summers in Nantucket [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:16 PM Flag
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Who scorns? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:18 PM Flag
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I am the op - here is one of the houses we are looking at - we would have three bedrooms and two baths http://www.zillow.com/homedetails/12-Walnut-St-Sag-Harbor-NY-11963/32721525_zpid/ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:13 PM Flag
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why would you be scorned?? this looks like a lovely summer home! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:16 PM Flag
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np No pool. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:23 PM Flag
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Traffic getting there and back will suck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:04 PM Flag
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Cute house! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:18 PM Flag
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THX!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:19 PM Flag
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Cute! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:07 PM Flag
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Are you buying a house there because you want one, or because you want other people to know that you have one? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:03 PM Flag
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We just want to enjoy time as a family, we do not care if anyone in Manhattan knows we have one. The issue is, will the other moms be snobby at the ice cream parlor and the playgrounds [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:17 PM Flag
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Are you planning to have a t-shirt emblazoned with a photo of the shack-ish house you're planning to buy? How on earth would they judge you for a house they don't know you own? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:23 PM Flag
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how wil they know where you live? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:11 PM Flag
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x2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:25 PM Flag
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The North Fork is way lower key if you're worried about this sort of thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:05 PM Flag
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Thanks you are right but DH and I love the restaurants and cafes of Sag Harbor and East Hampton. North Fork is beautiful but lacking in variety of restaurants [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:18 PM Flag
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You obviously haven't been there lately. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:21 PM Flag
[ - ] No Tip Mom: Another example of why I hate tipping just happened: 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:11 PM Flag
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We ordered 2 pieces of furniture from a local furniture store. They say delivery would take 2 weeks. They charged our credit card immediately. After waiting 6 weeks, we called last week to check on the order. They say they will deliver this week. The delivery guy comes alone with this huge box, and no equipment to get it up 5 stairs and into our elevator. I got my neighbor to help me bring it in. I would rather eat dirt than tip this delivery man. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:00 PM Flag
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Just give him a cold bottle of water. Done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:16 PM Flag
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You sound like a cultured Southerner, and I appreciate that. It's only 71 degrees here today. It's not hot at all. I don't have any bottled water on me. I would surely offer him some water, if he comes up to my apartment. He basically, refuse to come up to my apartment. Also, they pretend they don't speak english when it's necessary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:19 PM Flag
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Perhaps if they had delivered when they said they would, and perhaps if we didn't have to chase them, and be put on hold, and coordinate with them, I would be willing to lay out a few more dollars for the delivery man. But to pay a delivery man, who is essentially refusing to move the delivery without payment. No way. It's bordering on sleazy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:04 PM Flag
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I mostly agree with you but the late delivery is the company's fault, not his [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:04 PM Flag
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It's not mine either. I don't pay more for bad service. I'm already ticked off a situation that was supposed to be painless. There used to be a time when bosses took care of their employees. He should say something like, "Sorry this delivery is so late." Etc. Do you think he said a word of apology for being late? Maybe he didn't know the situation. I don't know what he knows....but I'm not tipping. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:08 PM Flag
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Agreed that he didn't do anything deserving of a tip. But the prior "bad acts" about the furniture store's lack of contact and communication isn't his fault. But certainly delivering anything basically anywhere in NY would involve some steps and elevators, so that is just unacceptable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:05 PM Flag
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Exactly. How did he plan to get the piece to the elevator? It's not like I'm on a 4th floor walkup, and he would have to strain his back. We have a perfectly working elevator. An old carpet, or an old slab of wood that I see plenty off delivery guys putting down when they need to make an incline. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:10 PM Flag
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The problem is, that guy just gets a truck and a list. He has no idea what he's delivering until he rolls up to your house. So he's just a pissed as you are at having to move that box by himself. It's not like he arranged the deliveries for that day and decided to not bring someone else with him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:20 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:11 PM Flag
[ - ] What would you do if you won the lottery tomorrow? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:08 PM Flag
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Tip every waiter 25% [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:09 PM Flag
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Create a twin UB website that requires zip code verification and a college degree for posting. Then we can get back to the important topics like: is 300k middle class in NYC? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Friend de-friended me on FB, and then she shows up in my add friends advertisement. Does FB have a brain? Didn't happen with anyone else who de-friended me. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:05 PM Flag
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You spent way too much time pondering this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:54 PM Flag
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Op: It was disconcerting seeing her picture show up as an add, so I checked. [ Reply | More ]
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Who is still on Facebook? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:13 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone here have trillotrichomania, aka ocd hair pulling? what do you do when you find a sweetspot on your head and you have to pluck all hairs out but you don't want a noticeable bald spot? do you do it anyway and just use makeup to cover it up, or do you lightly poke a hot sterilized needle into the scalp to simulate the feeling of a pulled hair? trying to help my younger sister, she picked a whole patch of hair clean list night stressing over a round of layoffs at her job. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:04 PM Flag
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yes. it is a horrible, horrible habit. it is very hard to break but I have cut down considerably. She can do CBT and there is some medication which can be helpful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:57 PM Flag
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Spread it out. Nobody will notice. [ Reply | More ]
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After my old boss got fired we found a huge pile of her hair under her desk. Gross. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:02 PM Flag
[ - ] If you are a teacher, and 15% of your students fail a test, how do you judge whether 1.) test is too hard 2.) students aren't doing their job to learn the material 3.) you are failing as a teacher because they didn't learn the material. Assume this is a class of 8 and 9 year old kids, not high school. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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assuming it was a post-test and not a pre-test, whether it was 2 or 3 would not matter. I would need to review with the 15% who did not pass given that they are 8 and 9 and likely leaning skills they need to be sucessful for the rest of the year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:15 PM Flag
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Thank you. Yes, post-test. Post lots of review, but I agree, it can always be more. But if another test is given, and the same 15% fail (or perhaps only 12%) does the teacher keep trying? I am curious when a teacher's obligation to teach stops, or is the assumption that every student should be able to learn it, and if he/she does not, the teacher is doing something wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:19 PM Flag
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at 8 or 9, i don't think it matters. isn't it material they need to succeed for the rest of the year? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:21 PM Flag
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look at the scores of the other 85% who did not fail. if some kids did well, you can rule out 1. if most kids did "average," not particularly well but not spectacularly bad, then maybe it's a combo of 1 and 2. Scenario 3 is only going to be true if a lot more than 15% fail a test. there are always slow kids who fail every test, in every class, even with the best teachers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:16 PM Flag
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Use the Bell curve statistics: Mean, median, mode and standard deviations. Since 85% passed, you can assume it was a valid test, but the stats will demonstrate it on paper. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:22 PM Flag
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OP: You have said something interesting. This is purely hypothetical, if that wasn't clear. I just think this is an interesting UB discussion to have, and anyone not interested doesn't have to participate. But are there always slow kids who fail every test? And how do you decide whether it is the fault of the kid being "slow", or the teacher just not understanding how to teach a kid who is a bit below average? I have seen good teachers work miracles with struggling kids. And I have seen mediocre teachers who couldn't teach them, but other students were more or less fine with that teacher. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:24 PM Flag
[ - ] I am beginning to think that whole grain bread is really not all that healthier as compared to white bread. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:52 PM Flag
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True. Both are unhealthy. Bread baked daily is more healthy bc it will actually go bad after a few days whereas bagged and sliced bread takes ages to get mold bc of the preservatives and sugar in it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:42 PM Flag
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You're right, if you are talking about supermarket crap where it's mostly all sugar and preservatives anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:42 PM Flag
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The issue is more of how its processed. Fresh baked bread of any variety is better than processed break of any variety. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:42 PM Flag
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it's not. stay away from carbs in general. and there are studies out saying that brown rice is not better for you than white rice. look it up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:46 PM Flag
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Brown rice does maintain its fibrous sheath so if you are looking for fiber rather than binding, brown rice is better [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:49 PM Flag
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OK but isn't there some kind of very dense, grainy bread that has massive fiber? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:15 PM Flag
[ - ] Under what circumstances would you consider a SAHM ambitious. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:47 PM Flag
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single mom SAHM [ Reply | More ]
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How would that work? Who would pay the bills? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:48 PM Flag
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The government so she definitely isn't ambitious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:02 PM Flag
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um, no. You are clearly a stupid and jealous WOHM [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:51 PM Flag
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All right. So the majority of single SAHM are not on some kind of assistance? Sure. [ Reply | More ]
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You can't get government assistance unless you are working full time. Go back to watching Fox News and building more strawman arguments, crazypants [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:12 PM Flag
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Maybe she had an inheritance. Maybe she saved up enough to retire early. Maybe she got an insurance payment when DH died. Maybe DH left her and send child support payments but is not involved in any other way. Maybe she got pregnant and the guy paid her a lump sum to disappear and not ever contact him again. Is you brain really this limited? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:49 PM Flag
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How common is that? Odds are that a single SAHM is on public assistance. [ Reply | More ]
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np True. But my mom was a single SAHM with no child support. The beneficiaries (her mother and two uncles) of the trusts she would ultimately inherit nicely gave her an income. [ Reply | More ]
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Not OP: it may just be my circle, but I know a few SAHMs in the very situations OR above mentioned. One was basically paid off to never contact the dad again, and she is staying at home until DS goes to school. The other's husband died when she was about 30 weeks along and the life insurance will enable that she will be able to be at home for a good long while (which is totally reasonable, talk about having your life flipped upside down). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:21 PM Flag
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And what makes such a person ambitious? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:11 PM Flag
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That's just unemployed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:59 PM Flag
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many are - about keeping their asses tight. i don't begrudge anyone that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:48 PM Flag
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If she created something that other people regularly and continually purchased. I'm not talking about a SAHM who sells dumb soaps she makes to her friends, I mean someone who makes art or clothing or furniture or writing or apps that get sold to strangers. [ Reply | More ]
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then she is a WAHM [ Reply | More ]
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oxymoron [ Reply | More ]
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I wouldn't but why does it matter? [ Reply | More ]
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I'm trying to think of circumstances where I would not consider her ambitious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:24 PM Flag
[ - ] I don't understand. If thimerosal is not harmful, then why did they take it out of vaccines for children? But not adults... http://www.cdc.gov/flu/protect/vaccine/thimerosal.htm?mobile=nocontent 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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They are phasing it out for adults too but apparently the dosage is not as harmful in adults (bs IMO) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:48 PM Flag
[ - ] Any podcast as good as This American life? There is an amazing on done last week about a Hasidic takeover of a school board if you haven't heard it. Would like other podcasts that are this good...Thanks in advance. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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If you go on their website they have a list of genius podcasts or something like that, can't remember the name. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:33 PM Flag
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Looking for a good podcast outside of This American life. Have listened to most of them. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, this will help you. Freakanomics, here's the thing, wait wait don't tell me, etcetera [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:37 PM Flag
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Excellent and thank you. I, at first, misread your list and thought you were taunting me. I need to get off UB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:54 PM Flag
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You're welcome. Try Brian Lehrer, Leonard lopate, fresh air, food talk, and all things considered [ Reply | More ]
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Yeah they tried to take over our neighborhood school back in the 80's. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:53 PM Flag
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I listened to that. It was interesting for sure but I felt left out some valid points. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:05 PM Flag
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OP: Like? I was directed to the podcast in a discussion over conservatives taking over school boards and trying to introduce text books that supported their world view. I looked at it more as a cautionary tale about any majority voice imposing their ideology on children. [ Reply | More ]
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I enjoy stuff you missed in history class and the bowery boys. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:09 PM Flag
[ - ] So India send the spacecraft to Mars orbits in just 74 millions dollars while NASA spend $ 670 millions. No wonder that I see Indians in all technical jobs in US. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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36 % of the NASA scientists are Indians anyways !! [ Reply | More ]
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In other words, science is a completely foreign field to you? right? [ Reply | More ]
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Wrong! I am engineering graduate. Most of my colleagues are Indians. I am just wondering if their education system is better than us. Microsoft CEO is also indian. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:49 PM Flag
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no, we just have unions. lots of unions. you should have taken some econ, too. [ Reply | More ]
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At least they're our friends, not enemies who want to behead us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:19 PM Flag
[ - ] How far in advance should invitations be sent out for a destination wedding? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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6 months at least. [ Reply | More ]
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op: what if the engagement is only 4 months long? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:46 PM Flag
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maybe reconsider having the DW. or pay for part of it or expect not as many people to attend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:49 PM Flag
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yes- you need to allow time to purchase plane tickets/reserve hotel rooms at decent rates. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:59 PM Flag
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Depends on the destination. Save the dates should be sent basically immediately. Then you have a little wiggle room on the invitations [ Reply | More ]
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Trick question. You shouldn't have a destination wedding. [ Reply | More ]
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This. [ Reply | More ]
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huh - why [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:59 PM Flag
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As soon as possible if you want people to come. Otherwise, just tell those you really like. And as I've posted before, you're getting married too quickly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:07 PM Flag
[ - ] Are there any Saint David's moms on who have advice about the parent interview and tour? I am applying my DS for prekindergarten and tour next month. For some reason, I am nervous. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I'm a St D mom and don't have any inside knowledge but from what I see this is good advice - dress conservatively, be appreciative of the warm, homey feeling of their facilities (they are very proud of the townhouse feel), be prepared to say why you think st d is a good fit. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Thank you for these tips. [ Reply | More ]
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If, in fact, you do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:25 PM Flag
[ - ] Assuming you are not black, would you under any circumstances a. sleep with b. date c. marry a black guy? 52 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:26 PM Flag
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Sure, if I liked/loved him. [ Reply | More ]
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+1. What an odd question. [ Reply | More ]
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Truly. [ Reply | More ]
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this. [ Reply | More ]
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
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I am a nice shade of chocolate brown can I still participate? [ Reply | More ]
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lol [ Reply | More ]
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Do your homework. [ Reply | More ]
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sure. i mean ,not now because i'm married, but if not, sure. [ Reply | More ]
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OMG are you serious? If I had any balls, in a heartbeat. They are so sexy. [ Reply | More ]
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(a) no because they have much higher rates of STDs. (b) no because they are all cheaters. (c) same as (b). [ Reply | More ]
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Oh please, I am black and never had an STD. My white college roommate got Herpes from her white frat boyfriend. Those icky diseases are everywhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:32 PM Flag
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+1 UB has gotten so dull with all the liars and fakes. We're supposed to believe that if Van'Go or Ja'bruandel showed up at their door with flowers and a box of condoms, they'd be all over that. lolololololol [ Reply | More ]
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All black guys are named Van'Go? You are an idiot. [ Reply | More ]
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yeah, because that's all black men. they aren't banging jed the Walmart greeter either. [ Reply | More ]
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You obviously don't know any black people. Sad really! [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, all three. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:30 PM Flag
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Only if he liked pink women. [ Reply | More ]
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I love you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:40 PM Flag
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Of course, if I had feelings for him. Although I wouldn't sleep with someone I didn't love of any color. [ Reply | More ]
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Why not? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:34 PM Flag
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White girl here, did #1. But wasn't asked to marry. Doesn't mean I wouldn't. I marry the man not the tan [ Reply | More ]
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was he large? [ Reply | More ]
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Go away [ Reply | More ]
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where should i go - [ Reply | More ]
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Idris Elba tops my list of celebrities I get a pass to fool around with. Sadly, he hasn't taken me up on the offer! [ Reply | More ]
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Oh lawd. Idris Elba mom is on! Lol. [ Reply | More ]
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Oh lawd. Idris Elba mom is on! Lol. [ Reply | More ]
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Oh lawd. Idris Elba mom is on! Lol. [ Reply | More ]
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Honestly, I've never mentioned him before. For the celebrity crush questions I always pick Colin Firth because my DH kind of looks like him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:00 PM Flag
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I think she means me -- I am always saying he is smokin' hot and Luther is my favorite show -- sorry. And yes -- IN A HEARTBEAT! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:07 PM Flag
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depends on how big he was - [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:26 PM Flag
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Of course (assuming I were single) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:39 PM Flag
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I give every man a chance regardless of skin color. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:43 PM Flag
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eyeroll. so you are not attracted to any particular types, huh. But I bet your okcupid profile specifies no men under 6 feet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:35 PM Flag
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Eyeroll back! Race isn't a factor to me. I have a type...Nice guys. Back when I was single, I did not discriminate men by race. I'm sorry your little racist, flyover mind can't handle that but the world is becoming more and more brown. When your daughter or son brings home someone not white, you are going to have to deal with it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:51 PM Flag
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Racist is not synonymous with flyover. Honest to God. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:49 PM Flag
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OR: It's a big part of it. UB used to be well educated women 1) gone to college 2) travel the world 3) been exposed to all sorts of cultures and races. Now it's filled with badly educated women who have never left the US and you can tell by the response that people give to questions like this. If you think most black men have the name Van'Go, you are probably flyover. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:53 PM Flag
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or being deliberately inflammatory. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:18 PM Flag
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I did C. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:45 PM Flag
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but not a and b? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:50 PM Flag
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How is this not offensive? Just wondering. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:33 PM Flag
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It is offensive - but I answered because I think it's important for idiots who think this is a legitimate question to see how many people don't judge by skin color. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:49 PM Flag
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OP- I think it's legitimate to ask questions that probe people's level of racism. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:54 PM Flag
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I don't buy that as your motive, sorry. Otherwise I think you would have asked if respondents would sleep with/date/marry a man of a race different than their own. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:56 PM Flag
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Agreed. OP is full of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:45 PM Flag
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It is but luckily the author is in a dying demographic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:53 PM Flag
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Is it Reggie bush? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:42 PM Flag
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Such a weird thing to ask. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:59 PM Flag
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I dated and slept with the hottest guy a few years ago who was black. I was going through trauma and ended up cheating on him. We broke up. But I have so much respect and good will for him. Stand up guy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:48 PM Flag
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have done a and b but married now to the pinkest of white guys [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:00 PM Flag
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a. Yes, but not after college. a. answers b. and c. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:16 PM Flag
[ - ] Big law wives - any of you have a career you didn't quite want to give up, but did so because you jointly needed to support DH's career if he was going to excel? DH will not say it, but I think he wants this. Need perspective. 35 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:25 PM Flag
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PS This is directed at wives whose husbands are partners. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:25 PM Flag
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Why are you reading into what he might or might not want? Why don't you just ask him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:28 PM Flag
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We are incredibly open with one another. DH doesn't want to say "quit" and then risk my resenting him later. I'd say it's a fair concern. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:32 PM Flag
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How many kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:33 PM Flag
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1, will possibly have another. I worry that if we stay at 1, it gets very easy and then quitting will have been silly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:47 PM Flag
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Just trying to understand here - you are worried about only having 1 child and quitting your job to be more available at home and it being too easy so you're going to have more children to fill up your time? Maybe try separating the issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:50 PM Flag
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Ha. Funny way to put it. I'm predominantly worried about quitting. Let's stick to that point for analysis. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:52 PM Flag
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I would say she is worried about having given up her career for what is a relatively short-term challenging period (the years before early elementary school), but if she chooses to have more kids, it extends that 'challenging' period and makes the sacrifice worthwhile. At least that is what I felt [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:42 PM Flag
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Is this the secret reason why people have a third child 4 years after the second one? It seals the deal to stay at home? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:44 PM Flag
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That was my fear. But then we had #2 and #3. I wouldn't have given up after 1. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:41 PM Flag
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That was my DH. He said "I would prefer it, but I can't ask it of you". That's why I didn't quit until after #3 when I realised just how hard it was on everyone and that my career had to go on hold for a while. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:34 PM Flag
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Did you go back? If so or if you plan to, do you feel like you have missed out on years of growth and are now behind the moms who stayed in the workforce? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:37 PM Flag
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I will go back (#3 is still only 2 yrs old), but it will be hard, and I will be WAY WAY behind. Though it turns out it might not matter as DH and I may be starting a practice together when we leave NYC in 3 years and #3 is in kindergarten [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:40 PM Flag
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I take it, then, that DH is not a big law partner? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:48 PM Flag
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partner at a Big 4 accounting firm - I didn't see the need to quibble between the two [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:51 PM Flag
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yep, that's what I did. First I took an in-house role when we knew we were going to have kids, then I went part-time and in the end I gave it all up after #3 because it was just getting too hard on him. His firm actually has a dinner each year to recognise the partner's partners and always makes a point of the fact that the partners generally could not be there without the support they get at home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:28 PM Flag
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Does this Firm not have female partners? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:30 PM Flag
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That's why I said the partner's PARTNERS not their wives (and not spouses, as they are not all married). Of the female partners all the ones I know who are full-time, their spouses/other halves have less demanding jobs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:33 PM Flag
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That's pretty amazing. We're feeling this way with one child. Do you regret it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:45 PM Flag
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nope. If anything, I maybe regret not giving up after #2? After #1 it was still OK (but we were not in NYC then), but I kept hanging on, whereas I shouldn't have gone back after #2. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:39 PM Flag
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How condescending! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:43 PM Flag
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Nope, its not, it never comes across that way. Its true - without my support, DH could not have become, nor remained a partner and still know who his children are [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:45 PM Flag
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np. Its not condescending. Its true. Lots of firms are like this - and recognize that without a strong support backbone at home, the professional would not be able to function at the level needed to succeed. Just life. Its why so many high powered DW's have SAHDs, or partners with lower profile lower stress roles. And why so many high powered men have wives who SAH or have lower-power jobs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:50 PM Flag
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The firm doesn't care whether or not your DH has your support at home. You think you guys would know this, having been lawyers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:52 PM Flag
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No, but they know that people without support would not be there, they would have disappeared long ago [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:09 PM Flag
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DH. I have a less demanding job than DW, who is a biglaw partner... and I do the lion's share of managing our home life. But my job is still demanding, and we have a Lot of help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:43 PM Flag
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Do you feel like you should give up your career in order to make her life easier? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:45 PM Flag
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Neither of us would want that. But we both recognize how hard it is to have two demanding careers. And we are fortunate enough to be able to afford help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:00 PM Flag
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You both work so you can afford the help. Your demanding jobs allow you to pay for the caretaking. There's nothing fortunate about it, it's just the facts and logistics of two working parents. If one of you got laid off for a long period of time you would let the nanny go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:52 PM Flag
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OK, so then the OP doesn't need to quit her job? Just hire more help? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:53 PM Flag
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She already has 1 kid at home and works full time, so probably already has the nanny. What's the issue? This post is annoying me - it sounds like she's fishing for a reason to quit her job. If she doesn't need the $ b/c her DH is big law and wants to stay home, then fine, no one is judging. Her original post didn't talk about spending more time with her kid, or growing her family, so that's not what pulling her to quit. What exactly goes into supporting a big law DH? Being home at night and on weekends for the kids and manage everything? That's what WOHM's with set hours do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:01 PM Flag
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How much help? I'm in your boat. I try to do a lot, but it's clear I'm not doing enough. DH still feels overworked and needs to focus on career alone. And I still like to have "a life" outside the home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:07 PM Flag
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NP: If he wanted to focus on career alone, he shouldn't have had a family! Do you really think it's the best thing for your kids for you to quit your job so he can spend all his time at his and pretend they don't exist? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:57 PM Flag
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You don't know my DH. Incredible, loving husband and dad. If he could maintain our lifestyle and play with DB all day, he would. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:15 PM Flag
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OR. Lots of help. We have 2 nannies during the week - early and late - just in case we need the cover. Means I never have to worry about a critical late meeting, yet I am still home for bedtime most nights. We also have someone come for 6 hours on Sunday - gives us a few hours of adult time, and then fixes dinner for us all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:07 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm a lesbian. Since many of you seem to make false assumptions about us, any questions? 38 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:24 PM Flag
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ever slept with a man? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:25 PM Flag
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voluntarily, only once [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:25 PM Flag
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is the rape the reason you are a lesbian? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:33 PM Flag
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*sigh* [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:34 PM Flag
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^my rape was the product of my lesbianism, not the result of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:34 PM Flag
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*my lesbianism was not the result of it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:35 PM Flag
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Corrective rape? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:41 PM Flag
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Something along those lines. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:29 PM Flag
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What does your family think? Are they tolerant? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:26 PM Flag
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Well, I was raised in a conservative Christian home, so it didn't go over well. They seem to be a little more tolerant now that I'm married with kids but I can tell how uncomfortable they are around me. Oddly enough, they don't seem to mind male gay couples as much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:27 PM Flag
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when did you come out? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:18 PM Flag
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When I was 24. I had been openly gay with my peers since I went to boarding school, though. My parents to this day lament allowing me to attend a 'liberal' boarding school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:32 PM Flag
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Do you use penetrative toys during sex? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:14 PM Flag
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Yes, sometimes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:28 PM Flag
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Do you despise white men walking around in suits? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:26 PM Flag
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No? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:28 PM Flag
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I'm a closeted lesbian married to a man, and I've noticed there is a lot of random ignorant stuff on here regarding the gay community. Kudos to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:18 PM Flag
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Wow. Why waste time w/him if you're gay? Seems unfair to you and to your family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:25 PM Flag
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Is one of you butch and one of you feminine? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:22 PM Flag
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Not really. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:35 PM Flag
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Same here. People don't seem to get that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:11 PM Flag
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Nope [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:35 PM Flag
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What's your favorite color? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:27 PM Flag
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I don't have one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:40 PM Flag
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how do you define sex? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:27 PM Flag
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There are varying degrees of sex, in my opinion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:41 PM Flag
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understood - but DH here, with 2 men, or man/women sex = pentration with penis - what is it with lesbians - [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:49 PM Flag
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Do you like Korean food? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:40 PM Flag
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I prefer Thai, as far as Asian food goes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:40 PM Flag
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NP. Is this some stereotype I never heard of, or just completely random? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:30 PM Flag
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What?! Lesbians are supposed to like Korean food? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:13 PM Flag
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Which question annoys you the most that you get asked? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:43 PM Flag
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Ooh, that's a hard one! I think the most annoying questions come from men who offer to "straighten me out" in one form or another. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:33 PM Flag
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Offensive much? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:53 PM Flag
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OR: That is super annoying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:14 PM Flag
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If you're married, are you monogamous? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:03 PM Flag
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NP: yes but have a wandering eye [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:11 PM Flag
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What are the types of women you're attracted to? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 08:12 PM Flag
[ - ] DH is sooooooooo prettyyyyy 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:23 PM Flag
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are you drunk? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:23 PM Flag
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noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo just a smidge [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.23.14, 07:23 PM Flag
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