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[ - ] Sigh, I am turning 45 next week. My husband keeps asking me what I want to do, and what I would like as a gift. I have no frikin idea, help... We live in NYC. Any suggestions... 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:13 PM Flag
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We do not have unlimited funds. I told my DH to stop with bday, valentines day, anniversary and get me on nice piece of jewelery. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:16 PM Flag
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Any hobbies? How about a weekend away somewhere? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:16 PM Flag
[ - ] So bored today, just back from vacation. Any suggestions what to do, with DH and 5 year old. In Brooklyn, but can go to Manhattan. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:08 PM Flag
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Anything. Appreciate the city and pick something to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:10 PM Flag
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Are you on crack? How do you have the energy to have just returned from a vacation with young kids only to be bored by 9am? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:10 PM Flag
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LOL. This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:14 PM Flag
[ - ] private school parents take note: public school exmissions are what they are because many parents need financial aid, there is often a strong cultural pull to stay close to home, and there is a strong anti-Asian bias at most private colleges, especially the Ivys and little Ivys. Something to keep in mind the next time you are looking down your nose at a free ride to SUNY Albany or a Macaulay honors college. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 07.05.15, 01:07 PM Flag
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Macaulay honors? Really? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:13 PM Flag
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Yes. NP. You are ignorant. Honors at the CUNYs can get a kid into a dorm, and subsidy for computers, internships. It also get access to professors. Pre-pro kids will appreciate this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:17 PM Flag
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I think many kids who go to public HS, even in burbs, are basically told, Ivy (or equivalent) or SUNY, but we will give you money for professional school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:14 PM Flag
[ - ] I've been in recovery from alcoholism for 4 years and my life is better than I could have ever imagined. The morning after the 4th of July, at the beach, on line at Starbucks, and I just gave myself a hallelujah that I'm am not the hungover people in front of me : ) 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:03 PM Flag
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hallelelujah, sister sober 20 years and still staying the same thing- are you in NYC? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:06 PM Flag
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OP: You rock sister, well done! Live in NJ suburbs, have a beach house on LBI. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:10 PM Flag
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I am in Brooklyn, good to see another sober person here.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:11 PM Flag
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How did you do it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:12 PM Flag
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4 years clean here too! It is so nice to feel clear headed! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:15 PM Flag
[ - ] I currently have a job and am doing job search. Is it a good idea to put down my salary request in the cover letter? For me, if the money is lower, I don't want to move. Also, I may be overqualified for some position, but if they know my requested salary is within their range, then they may consider me, right? What do you think? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 12:53 PM Flag
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I'm in medicine, and I can't imagine putting that in a letter of inquiry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:00 PM Flag
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The letter is all about what you can do for them. Do not put $$ there [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:08 PM Flag
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CPA, no one in my field would do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:09 PM Flag
[ - ] How much do you think Billy Joel pays in alimony to all this ex wives? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 09:17 AM Flag
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The first wife got a big payout. I don't think Christie got a ton, she left him, and she's been married twice since. There was a prenup for sure with Katie (pretty sure she got a payout and her restaurant). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 11:17 AM Flag
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I looked it up. Had no idea how much he has basically bungled his way through life, and I forgot about the former brother in law who stole 30 million from him. http://pagesix.com/2014/10/26/how-billy-joels-three-wives-stole-his-heart-and-his-money/ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 11:29 AM Flag
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MYOB [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 11:46 AM Flag
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He's an asshole. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 12:01 PM Flag
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Sort of sounds like it. The 1st wife was married to a friend with a baby when he decided he was in love with her. Seems like basically he's just been a sucker his whole life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 12:32 PM Flag
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A brilliant one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:03 PM Flag
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who cares! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 12:36 PM Flag
[ - ] 4 yo with terrible tantrums. Dh fights me on how to discipline (even though I've been doing it for 4 years). I want to send to room to cool down, not give into the screaming and the kicking. He wants to sit there and try and talk to her like a rational adult (while screaming) then start screaming himself and then spank her. I lose my temper too but lately the tantrums are scary. Anyone btdt? What would you suggest? I don't need to be judged, just help. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:40 AM Flag
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I think you are right to send to her room to cool down, but 4 is kind of old for this, have you talked to the pedetrician? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 08:44 AM Flag
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Op. Thanks for the response. We recently moved so I think that has something to do with it but what would a pediatrician say? Don't mean to sound daft... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 09:07 AM Flag
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The doctor could make sure everything is developing normal, however you said you just moved, so that could be it. Have you talked to her about it during a calm time, ask her about why she is doing it? How she feels when she is doing it? And how you could help her not do it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 09:14 AM Flag
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Op. Yes. It's always 'yes mommy I'll try' and a day later were back to the same thing. Yesterday it was over not enough butter on her waffles. Today it was bc there was not enough water in the tub for her bath. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 09:20 AM Flag
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I think your best bet it to walk away or send to her room to cool off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 09:34 AM Flag
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Op. I also agree she's a little too old for this. She's always been an even tempered child so maybe a late tantrum stage? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 09:08 AM Flag
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So this is a new thing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 09:10 AM Flag
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Op. Oh yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 09:17 AM Flag
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For how long has this been going on? Did she have this phase at 2 also? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 11:28 AM Flag
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Think about what this behavior is getting her. Attention? More butter on the waffle? My late 3 is a very sensitive kid. When he gets upset and starts to have a tantrum, I remind him 'yelling doesn't get things done in this house- asking nicely does.' This doesn't work 100% of the time, but almost always works when the tantrum trigger is a small one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 10:11 AM Flag
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Make a chart with pictures that shows her how to calm down (take 3 deep breaths, count to 10, etc). When she is calm, role play an angry situation where she pulls out the chart and uses it to calm down. Do this daily when she is calm and than we she gets angry, try to get her to use the chart. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 10:47 AM Flag
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Oh good god. I think op's approach was already spot on. She doesn't need charts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 11:08 AM Flag
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If the child does not know how to calm down, the mom has to teach her the skill when she is calm. At 4, she needs to do something more than ignore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 12:07 PM Flag
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Disagree. Sending her to her room to work it out herself is how she'll learn to calm down [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 12:17 PM Flag
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Why don't you pick up love and logic or similar and read it together. It pretty much says to do what you do but from a neutral perspective [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 11:32 AM Flag
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DS did this at 2. Timeouts made it worse. I ended up making a chart that had his rules, one of which was no yelling. If he yelled, he would get sent into time out. When the tantrum started, I would pull out the chart and tell him he had two choices - go to time out or give me a hug and calm down. He would choose the hug, and they eventually went away. He is now 5, and in the rare case that he misbehaves I send him to his room to think about it. GL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 12:02 PM Flag
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Does your dh have a temper that she's witnessed? Mine is 'hot blooded' type and dd is as well. Not sure if it's nature or nurture. But if you want a calm child you need calm methods so I'd say your method, if it's working for you, is better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 12:39 PM Flag
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If you guys are screaming at her, I wonder where she learns to scream? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:01 PM Flag
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np Please. DH and I never scream. Like I don't know that I've ever heard DH raise his voice in our 19 year marriage. And all of our kids went through a tantrum phase. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:03 PM Flag
[ - ] Nerds are so gross. Ugh. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:30 AM Flag
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The candy? No, delicious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:48 AM Flag
[ - ] HHI 260K in NYC. Am I MC? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 04:47 AM Flag
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zzzzzzzzzzzz [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:38 AM Flag
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Yeap [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 12:21 PM Flag
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LMC [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:01 PM Flag
[ - ] It is 12:30. I think the neighborhood fireworks can stop now. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 04:31 AM Flag
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Yeah ok [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 04:32 AM Flag
[ - ] Do tweens read Teen Vogue ? What kind of magazines do tweens read ? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 04:23 AM Flag
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interwebs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:02 AM Flag
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DD 15 reads Seventeen and Allure [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:06 AM Flag
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Is this a trick question? Tweens don't read magazines (and pretty much nobody else does either!) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:19 AM Flag
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My 9yo DD reads Twist and identical looking Tean Beat-type magazines. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:25 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 12:55 PM Flag
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My tween reads Girls' World, American Girl, and Discovery Girls magazines. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:39 AM Flag
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Mine just grew out of national geographic kids, she told me we don't need to renew. She used to read some teen celebrity magazines sometimes from the checkout. No interest at all in beauty/makeup mags yet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 11:19 AM Flag
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Teens read magazines? Not mine [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 12:16 PM Flag
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See above. Yes, some do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Aftermath of the weird brother with weird lipoma who DH wanted to come to the beach club but had no bathing suit or rash guard. I was like great but please next time make plans ahead of time. BIL couldn't come out because the parents car was in the garage. SIL and other BIL were supposed to come tomorrow and we left a ton of food and fruit in the cabana for tomorrow and they decided to cancel and now suddenly DH wants to drive home to see his brother at the parents house, leaving the rotting fruit salad and crap in the cabana. I can't organize anything with these people. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 04:22 AM Flag
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Why is he so obsessed with the brother? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 04:28 AM Flag
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op: I don't know. Brother flew in to see parents and DH did not even know until Thursday night. Brother is older but sort of Asperger's, single, religious guy almost 50 year old and when he flies in he expects someone to drive him to jfk at like 4 pm on sunday afternoon which trashes the day. They are immigrants so the first brother is special to everyone but me because i don't get it. I just think he is clueless and rude. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 04:39 AM Flag
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Oy vey [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:07 AM Flag
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cant he go and you stay and enjoy the beach? such a pretty day [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 12:25 PM Flag
[ - ] Does having close friends who are gay make the lifestyle seem more ok to your kids? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 04:21 AM Flag
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zzzzzzzzzzzzz [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:38 AM Flag
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Kids couldn't give a crap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 07:50 AM Flag
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Why shouldn't they think it's OK? It is okay. And no, having a gay uncle doesn't mean my sons are suddenly more interested in penises. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 11:20 AM Flag
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Yes in the sense that it is okay and seeing period that it's okay reinforces this fact. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:18 PM Flag
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Proof. Not period. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:18 PM Flag
[ - ] I think DH just had a full on mid life crisis. he recently realized he is to old to try to move into the job he wanted. We had the most amazing day with friends and their dc and our and beach club with pool and ocean and great dinner after. He went psycho on me on the drive home about not having or going to see a fertility doctor the entire trip home. Talk about ruining an amazing day. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 04:01 AM Flag
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^We are 45 with a 2 year old and I told him 2 weeks after the birth if he would want a number 2 that he needed to look into surrogacy because I would have eggs at 42 but not at 43 when it would be save to give birth after my emergency c-section. He did nothing so I assumed he did not really want a # 2 and we are not super wealthy. He blames be because "we should have done it together." I was back at work after c sect at 7 weeks and so exhausted and he was unemployed at the time. I am supposed to feel bad because he screwed up not moving forward. I kind of think he was not ready to deal with thinking of #2 but just wants someone to blame. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 04:12 AM Flag
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So what's the big deal? Let him blame you, who cares. Sounds like you guys are headed for divorce anyways. At this point, who really cares? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 04:21 AM Flag
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op: I am starting to feel this way at moments especially when I type on UB but in normal life we just entertained friends and had a great time for 12 hours. I know he has this child blame but we generally have a great time. We were just discussing lifetime retirement goals yesterday and how we had to be tight and then he was like "we need to have another child" that he thought of suddenly when it came up that I have an elderly aunt with only 1 child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 04:29 AM Flag
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He's just talking. Don't take it personal and don't make it such a thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 04:31 AM Flag
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op: Yes but it is getting worse and worse because I "refuse to go to the repro doc." Jesus, I am 45 yrs old with arthritis! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 04:41 AM Flag
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So just go and let the doctor be the one DH is mad at you, not you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 05:07 AM Flag
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You were lucky to have a healthy child at 42. Not sure the outcome would be different even if you had a sane conversation about a next child with DC at 2 wks old [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 04:31 AM Flag
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Unfortunately we have a bunch of friends having healthy kids 44-49 (some with egg donors.) Oddly the only kid with problems of our friends was 32. I did do the CVS and I do have one friend who had to abort for Downs and went on to have a healthy child. You would think you would not have to deal with this at this age. Technology sucks sometimes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 04:47 AM Flag
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Oy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 11:54 AM Flag
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Unfortunately? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:04 PM Flag
[ - ] HOW DO WE SLEEP WHEN THE BEDS ARE BURNING 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 03:43 AM Flag
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still? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 06:58 AM Flag
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How can we dance when our earth is turning? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:03 PM Flag
[ - ] My frenemy always asks my child where we went, what did we do etc. No, she's not simply being friendly: she always wants to know our whereabouts and what is she missing out. Is there a way to put an end to it? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 03:19 AM Flag
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What's the big deal? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 03:27 AM Flag
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Whenever she learns about new place from us she wants to tag along. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 03:30 AM Flag
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You sound like a child! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 03:54 AM Flag
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I think OP is the insecure one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 03:58 AM Flag
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What's the issue exactly? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.05.15, 01:14 PM Flag
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