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[ - ] DH here. Any questions? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:47 AM Flag
[ - ] Did anyone read the book Lust and Wonder? The author describes the most complete love....it took him a long time to find it, but it's just so...genuine. It made me feel sad for myself that I don't have that with DH. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 04:09 AM Flag
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Manage your expectations better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 04:46 AM Flag
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This love is very elusive. Yes it's possible. No, not everyone gets it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:52 AM Flag
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You're not alone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 08:13 AM Flag
[ - ] I am watching old satc episode, the one where Carrie goes to the shrink and meets Bon jovi in the waiting room. Everyone on the sidewalk in the background is carrying Kate spade bags and Kate's paperie bags.. Missing pre-9/11 nyc! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I miss the old Kate's. I suppose we have Paper Source now but the last I saw of Kate's they were crammed into a tiny shop. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:52 AM Flag
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They did my wedding invitations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:56 AM Flag
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Paper source doesn't compare ;( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:56 AM Flag
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OR: I know. It has its place but Kate's did it well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:58 AM Flag
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And h+h bagel! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:56 AM Flag
[ - ] My little one is 5 months old and i will soon start her on cereal. Please recommend cereal brand/type. TIA 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:33 AM Flag
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Whole foods baby aisle has the one I used. Can't remember the name now. Sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:36 AM Flag
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Omg they are all the same ingredients: rice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:36 AM Flag
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OP: Heard rice is no good for babies, was thinking of oatmeal instead. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:37 AM Flag
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Get a good blender, start pureeing. Kids love avocados, sweet potatoes, carrots etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:50 AM Flag
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Anything organic [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:36 AM Flag
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My baby is five months too! EveryOne on UB told me last week to start with fruits and vegetables and pass on the cereal which is apparently like eating cardboard from a nutritional standpoint. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:41 AM Flag
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This this this!!! Start them on fruits and veggies. You can mix a bit of baby oatmeal or rice in with them to add a bit more "bulk" to them but there's no need to start with cereal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:43 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:57 AM Flag
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My baby is five months too! EveryOne on UB told me last week to start with fruits and vegetables and pass on the cereal which is apparently like eating cardboard from a nutritional standpoint. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:41 AM Flag
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Sorry for the double post [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:41 AM Flag
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No need to do cereal. Start with avocado. I think that is what most people do now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 04:12 AM Flag
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And should also say it was what most people were doing 11 yrs ago when ods was 6 mo old too. Been the new way for awhile now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 04:13 AM Flag
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Frosted flakes or fruity pebbles, or perhaps fruit loops if you can afford TT cereal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 05:25 AM Flag
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We did oatmeal. One part oatmeal, two and a bit parts water. You can shred some apple into it as well. Cook until almost all liquid is absorbed (it will continue to absorb liquid while is cools off). You can add a little bit of formula or breastmilk (whatever you are giving her) at the very end. Once he was 12m we switched to milk instead of water when cooking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 05:32 AM Flag
[ - ] If you saw your doctor, lawyer, financial advisor going into an AA meeting would you go back? 42 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:24 AM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:27 AM Flag
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they're all together [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:27 AM Flag
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I laughed so hard I snorted. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:35 AM Flag
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i actually thought it was going to be a joke [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:37 AM Flag
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+1 lolol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:39 AM Flag
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Yes. I'm not a judgmental witch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:28 AM Flag
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is it judgmental to not want your doctor to be an alchoholic or addict? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:40 AM Flag
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No! You need good decision makers for these 3 professions. The singer of a CD you like to listen to... who cares? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:43 AM Flag
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I'd be more worried about those who don't make that step actually, and there are far more of those. There are countless dead people because addicts and alcoholics never accepted that they had a problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:45 AM Flag
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and, also, a lot of people are simply not addicts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:46 AM Flag
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How do you know the people you deal with daily aren't addicts? You don't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:47 AM Flag
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I prefer non addicts when their decision making maters. For entertainers, I couldn't care less. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:47 AM Flag
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Again, how do you know they're not addicts? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:48 AM Flag
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You can tell, I don't have any of those in my circle. I do fast face with their first cocaine offering :-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:49 AM Flag
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Hmmm, you don't know much about it at all. Not your fault, I suppose. Addicts, especially professionals, aren't going around offering cocaine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:51 AM Flag
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When somebody offers you coke, believe me, they are junkies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:54 AM Flag
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They are called coke heads. Junkies are heroin addicts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:54 AM Flag
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drug addicts = junkies [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:59 AM Flag
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People are very open with me (wrongly so many times! lol). Don't assume they are with me, the same way they are with you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:54 AM Flag
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Uh huh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:55 AM Flag
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Yeah, no. You think you know, which actually proves you don't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:59 AM Flag
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Actually you can't tell. I have a very demanding professional job and no one knew. Even my friends were shocked when I told them I was going to rehab. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:58 AM Flag
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I was the PP and was the same. Lawyer. Not a single person knew in my firm and I had to tell one of my colleagues and he was shocked. I hide it extremely well. I fortunately had a DH who helped me get back on track. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:59 AM Flag
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Did you go to rehab? My dh was not supportive at all and completely pissed that I went. He is ok now. Are you in AA? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 04:02 AM Flag
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np: Even my DH doesn't know. I'm that good. Kept recovery to myself as well. Online only. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 04:05 AM Flag
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Effing proud of you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 04:09 AM Flag
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DH was the one who had had enough...I just kept spiraling down. I went to a three day detox and then outpatient. I could have messed things up so much. Sometimes I can see clues in others and I suspect they are going through something. I know, because I know myself. I'm sorry your DH wasn't supportive, but I'm glad you got the help you needed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 04:08 AM Flag
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Mine did not want me to go. I did a whole month rehab. I am impressed you could do it just with detox as I think I would relapse. Do you go to AA? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 04:13 AM Flag
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I was in an outpatient program for six months (they had a special program for working professionals and we had to go three times a week in the evenings - it was like AA). Did some actual AA but haven't done it in a while. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 04:16 AM Flag
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Sounds good. Can I ask you the name? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 08:57 AM Flag
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Me too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 04:01 AM Flag
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Was it just alcohol? You in AA? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 04:04 AM Flag
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Agree. Especially if they publicly go to AA they are not drinking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:47 AM Flag
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People who go to AA are recovering... It's the active addicts you don't know about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 04:00 AM Flag
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no to the dr [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:30 AM Flag
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Yes, because they were smart enough to take control. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:31 AM Flag
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Define AA meeting? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:33 AM Flag
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wtf [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:38 AM Flag
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There are many...so if it's exclusive to a particular group let us know [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:40 AM Flag
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Pffftt well since I go to them, no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:35 AM Flag
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Of course. People in AA don't drink anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:45 AM Flag
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Actually I would rather since so many people try to hide alcohol and drugs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:48 AM Flag
[ - ] "My DH is insufferable in social settings too. Being with him the past 12 years has made me a complete recluse." Isn't it better at some point avoid every social setting with DH? Isn't it a better strategy to go alone with the kids and say that DH is working? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:24 AM Flag
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Need more information. If you are 50/50 contributors or you contribute more to HHI, then you should negotiate a schedule. If DH has been out of the picture for years, do what you want [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:35 AM Flag
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I'm a SAHM, DH works extra FT [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:43 AM Flag
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My guess is he is good with the kids and you come home tipsy or drunk...no? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:37 AM Flag
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I greatly admire my MIL. She braves embarrassment and ridicule but socializes with FIL because she tried the recluse thing and that's no better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:44 AM Flag
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Why didn't she consider making a recluse of your embarrassing FIL instead? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:55 AM Flag
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He's an alcoholic; they are club members and every event (apart from luncheons, card games etc) is a couple affair. All their friends know of his problem so I guess there's no need to hide any more. She parties alone or with gfs while traveling though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 04:03 AM Flag
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uf sounds like torture! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 04:18 AM Flag
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Yes. And I would totally go the recluse route if I were her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 04:38 AM Flag
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I would have left her home while being out with friends, hoping he will drink on his own and not bother anybody. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 04:47 AM Flag
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* left him [ Reply | More ]
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That's what I meant by recluse route; leave him home not shut myself out the fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 04:54 AM Flag
[ - ] I posted the other day but could really use more advice. We are renting and we took an apartment at the top of our budget in a great building because it was in a good school zone and one of the few doorman buildings in the area. We moved in this week and realized we are directly above the parking garage exit. It's pretty noisy but only about10 cars seem to park there. I barely hear it but dh is the type that it will drive him crazy. Would break the lease and lose $4500 or suck it up. 30 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:23 AM Flag
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how did you not realize this when you saw the place?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:24 AM Flag
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Like I said its max 15 car park there. So we looked at the apt for 10-15 min and no cars went in and out. People living there when we looked said they had no complaints [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:27 AM Flag
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Like I said its max 15 car park there. So we looked at the apt for 10-15 min and no cars went in and out. People living there when we looked said they had no complaints [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:27 AM Flag
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next time go out and look around what is near your windows from the st level. you would've seen the garage exit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:29 AM Flag
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moot [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:28 AM Flag
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so has your dh had issues with it yet? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:28 AM Flag
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Yeah he's freaking out that it's gonna wake him in the morning, bother him all weekend ect. He's very ocd about these things. We lived under some kids a few years ago who make a fair amount of noise and he was up the complaining every day [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:30 AM Flag
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can you afford to cut your losses and leave? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:34 AM Flag
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We will lose minimum 4500 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:37 AM Flag
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you see, this this this. it will always be something in nyc. even if it's fine when you move in, maybe the person above moves out and you get a neighbor who's kid plays basketball in the house or practices the violin 2 hours/day [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:35 AM Flag
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do you think fumes would be an issue? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:28 AM Flag
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This would concern me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:34 AM Flag
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Earplugs for DH: $4.5k. But then, I don't respect my DH a whole lot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:29 AM Flag
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* $4.50 lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:29 AM Flag
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white noise machine. and nyc is not a quiet place, there will be something wrong in every place you move to. this is a princess and the pea situation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:31 AM Flag
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It's just hard not to feel like we are getting screwed u know? Every other apartment in the building is fine except this one [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:32 AM Flag
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but you rented it. you're not getting screwed. you happen to have an ocd dh. but it does sound like you're going to have to leave. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:34 AM Flag
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Talk to the management about changing. It's summer. A lot of rentals open up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 04:04 AM Flag
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you don't really know that. maybe one guys plays his stereo loud, or someone else's neighbor is smoking pot. Or there is a barking dog. This is the nature of apartment living in nyc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:34 AM Flag
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This. We lived in an apartment that was over garages and there was one guy who liked to go out and sit in his car and smoke cigarettes. We had to keep our windows closed then, and it sucked when it was super hot in the summer as we had no AC. Who cares a flip about being over the entrance to the parking garage??? Not a problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:34 AM Flag
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Once upon a time I had an apartment over a handball court. I could hear the ball hitting the walls below when I was in the kitchen. The apartment was hugely discounted because of this. I dealt with it. The gym closed at 10 pm, so it wasn't like it affected my sleep. Bummer about the parking noise, but it's not the end of the world. It's only a few cars and they won't be disturbing your sleep. You already moved. Would you seriously consider packing up your stuff again and moving it to another place over the noise? No way in hell would I do that. Moving is expensive and time consuming. You'll get used to the noise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:33 AM Flag
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We aren't moved actually but came a little early to clean up and stuff. This place was not discounted at all, I think that's another reason dh is upset, it's very expensive for the area and the wouldn't negotiate with us at all [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:35 AM Flag
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OK. I get it. Yes, it should have been discounted. It really isn't a big deal, given that it's not like you are over a high traffic garage. If, however, you think your DH really can't get over it, cut your losses within reason. How much do you stand to lose if you bail? You could try to negotiate lower rent based on their failure to disclose this "defect," but be prepared for them to say no. Good luck! Oh, and I revise my post. It was a racquetball court underneath my apartment. It was a long time ago. Even with the ball being whacked all over as I stood in my kitchen, I got used to it very quickly. In another apartment, I lived next door to an electric bass player. Now THAT drove me nuts. I'd hear the very repetitive bass line and try to figure out which rock song it belonged to. So, look on the bright side. You could be living above/below/next to a drummer or violinist or electric bass player! It's just a parking garage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:46 AM Flag
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Break the lease. You are lucky if you only lose 4500 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:35 AM Flag
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This. How only 4500 tho? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:45 AM Flag
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Sounds like you are looking for people to tell you to break the lease. I guarantee you that the problem is your dh not the apartment, hence the problem will relocate to wherever you move next. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:38 AM Flag
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Haha I'm the op and you nailed it. He is just a complainer and we had to relocate for my job last year and he was miserable and complained the entire year. And I was so happy to be coming back to ny and now this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:40 AM Flag
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Anyone who's not married to a complainer? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:51 AM Flag
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HAHAHAHA ILY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 04:15 AM Flag
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At least you didn't buy it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:42 AM Flag
[ - ] Sending DH and DCs to in laws while I go home to visit own family for a week !!! 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I will never do this, but my in laws are a DISASTER! [ Reply | More ]
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How old are your DCs ? Mine are 9 and 12 [ Reply | More ]
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7 [ Reply | More ]
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Get this, they have a meth addict under their roof, and think it's just normal to demand my DD to stay with them... meth addict included. Hell no! [ Reply | More ]
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How old is your youngest? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:49 AM Flag
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See above [ Reply | More ]
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:) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:00 AM Flag
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Cool. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:56 AM Flag
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At 9 and 12? Time to take them on an interesting international trip. South America and then Asia being picks for dates [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:25 AM Flag
[ - ] DH refuses to keep steady employment and complains that I am paranoid about our lack of retirement and college savings. When I get on his case he just tells me to go earn more. Is it possible he is doing it to be passive aggressive and push my buttons? 42 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:37 AM Flag
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mais oui. but hey, you're an empowered modern grrrrl! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:39 AM Flag
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op: I can chose to leave but I can't believe I have to divorce over refusal to work. If he would perform homemaking work it might be different. [ Reply | More ]
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and you will have to pay alimony [ Reply | More ]
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op: Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:51 AM Flag
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How old are you and how old are your kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:42 AM Flag
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We are very old with a very young dc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:17 AM Flag
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Got it! [ Reply | More ]
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If it's beneficial for your kids college scholarship wise, divorce him. Your kids might be able to get more help that way. [ Reply | More ]
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op: It won't. [ Reply | More ]
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They look at both incomes. [ Reply | More ]
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Even hwen the fathers don't even pay child support? There has to be something for the fathers that are MIA. [ Reply | More ]
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He resents that you earn more. [ Reply | More ]
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op: But he complains that I don't earn more than I do. [ Reply | More ]
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He's a SOB, like most men. Welcome to the club! And work on minimizing the damage he creates. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:53 AM Flag
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op: True. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:18 AM Flag
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Men will resent you when you earn more than them, when you don't earn enough... FUCK MEN! [ Reply | More ]
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they don't resent your earning more. he just wants her to earn even more so he can fuck around some more. very few men would actually resent being able to sah if they could. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:54 AM Flag
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Interesting. Too bad if they resent it, aren't men supposed to be the bread winners? [ Reply | More ]
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they are. but hey, they're as lazy as everyone else. if they don't have to work, why wouldn't they prefer the lower stress life? [ Reply | More ]
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op: Lazy as hell. [ Reply | More ]
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op: He does not resent me working more and would like me to make even more so he has no pressure to work. Then he is "emasculated" because I don't kiss his ass and resent paying for the nanny. [ Reply | More ]
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He doesn't feel emasculated. He feels like being manipulative so he doesn't have to do housework. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:27 AM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:42 AM Flag
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op: True. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:49 AM Flag
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he isn't working and you are paying for a nanny. this guy is a world class loser. see a lawyer and start getting your ducks in a row [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:32 AM Flag
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op: I know. I should do it soon since he has only recently become unemployed again and if I divorced they may still look at his previous income. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:53 AM Flag
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We already heard from you. I'm sorry but this could go on for 15 years. Don't stay with him if you don't want it to get worse. I wish my relative would have threatened divorce. I know he would have found a job. He knows it's not ok [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 04:41 AM Flag
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op: To clarify: Could he keep screwing up employment just to stress me out and "teach me a lesson" to expect nothing out of him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:51 AM Flag
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Yes he could. I am working my way to a promotion in a year and just yesterday my dh told me that due to some issue at work he might take a year or two off to brush up on his books and apply for a higher position. Hm, no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:53 AM Flag
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op: Bastard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:22 AM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:28 AM Flag
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stop being paranoid- if you like him playing offense with you, send some offense at him- tell him he needs to make money if he doesn't slave away at the kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:58 AM Flag
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op: We are paying ft nanny so he can "job hunt" and do "consulting" (ie. read wsj for 2 hours, email and call friends 2 hours, read novels for 2 hours and websurf for 2 hours.") [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:15 AM Flag
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Hey, man. Someone's gotta do it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:28 AM Flag
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So this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:43 AM Flag
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Of courss. He's controlling you. [ Reply | More ]
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Why did you marry him? [ Reply | More ]
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op: I fell in love but I thought he made a livable salary at his "consulting." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:19 AM Flag
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Confused. What are you contributing to steady employment for the rest of your life? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:27 AM Flag
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op: Don't understand. I have been in steady employment and will continue to be until I am old and can't work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:51 AM Flag
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Why don't you divorce him. At least that way there will be an end to you supporting him. He doesn't care about you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 04:42 AM Flag
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op: I still love him and like being a family and 2 households are more expensive to support. I am considering it though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 09:00 AM Flag
[ - ] I think I just figured out how to deal with my DH and in laws who take me and my kids for granted: answer them every single passive aggressive comment with what's best for your kids and for yourself. Even if it doesn't fix anything, they will stop bothering you. :-) 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:35 AM Flag
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or just ignore. not worth the energy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:40 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:40 AM Flag
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Give example [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:52 AM Flag
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Yes. Teachable moment for yours sincerely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:01 AM Flag
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Sounds awful. And bad for all involved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:58 AM Flag
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Given the situation, it focuses energy in something productive, as supposed to in DH's screwed up siblings, for example. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:00 AM Flag
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Need examples. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:44 AM Flag
[ - ] Spin off of the teacher post below. What do most teachers on this board do for 9-10 weeks when there is no school? Not looking for what neighbors or friends say teachers do. Looking to hear from actual teachers, former or present. 39 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:34 AM Flag
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I make all my doctor appointments in the summer, visit everyone and travel [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:40 AM Flag
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I binge watch all the cable shows I don't have time for during the year. Spend time with my kids at the pool. Drink too much. Its awesome. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:44 AM Flag
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This summer I'm teaching summer school for few wks and then going to the country for a month with kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:47 AM Flag
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How much do you guys earn in NYC? I'm thinking about teaching math, special needs, Spanish... a combo of this. Have 2 STEM masters from ivy-leagues, but all I want is a job that accommodates to my kids schedule including vacations. I don't need a ton of $. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:49 AM Flag
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I think starting salary is 46k, FYI if you are good you can write your own ticket, every school needs what you have. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:52 AM Flag
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I'm freaking awesome teaching math adn physics, even my HS teachers had the bad idea to request me to teach their toughest classes for my own class. BUT the fact that I will have to pay for the masters (certification) is a killer. I'm in NYC, it's super expensive. I like and have experience with special needs too (maybe middle school, better high school STEM wise maybe) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:55 AM Flag
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The doe will pay for it if you get in one of their special programs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:59 AM Flag
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This, they really need Spanish, math and sp Ed teachers [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:01 AM Flag
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Thanks! Do you remember the name of this program? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:03 AM Flag
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I would go on the doe website. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:07 AM Flag
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Thanks! I'll look at it again. If it works, I'll be able to divorce. Yeah! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:25 AM Flag
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Nyctf - new York teaching fellows. They are a bit cult-like but a means to an end. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:31 AM Flag
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"Create an account to apply. The final application deadline is Thursday, May 26th." Next year it is! Thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:33 AM Flag
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Which ones? Have only found an extra $5k paid while working (after the degree) if I'm willing to work in undeserved areas, that's all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:02 AM Flag
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Teach NYC I thnk? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:08 AM Flag
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Thanks! I'll look at it again. If it works, I'll be able to divorce. Yeah! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:25 AM Flag
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I'm in a different city. With an Ed.D. and 30 years, as an asst. principal, I'm making 120K. But I also do educational consulting and make another 30K a year doing that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:53 AM Flag
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I just have an undergrad and a few years experience. I'm making about 32K. Southern part of U.S [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:54 AM Flag
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I will need a masters in NYC and none of my course load had included education courses. So there's no way I would be able to avoid student loans to even give teaching a try. It's weird given that I hear that NYC needs STEM teachers so badly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:57 AM Flag
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CUNY classes are affordable. Have you looked into Brooklyn College or Hunter? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:17 AM Flag
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Hunter and Columbia's Teachers College. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:20 AM Flag
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Teachers college is not affordable [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:24 AM Flag
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I know! I got scared and moved on. It's something that I wouldn't mind working at and getting the degree would be very easy... but I'm not willing to get in debt at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:30 AM Flag
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I did this when ds was born. Left finance and did nyctf. Make about 80 but i have masters plus 30. BUT...i will say i work WAY harder than i ever imagined. Love the summers but they are not the panacea i thought they'd be. So much pressure to see all family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:29 AM Flag
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You earn $80k after working for 30 years? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:45 AM Flag
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Actually have time to work out, spend time with my kids, work on my art, attend some trainings, do some lesson planning. Do some road trips. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:57 AM Flag
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Sounds awesome. Congrats! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:58 AM Flag
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I'm a teacher. In the summer I take care of my kids. They've always preferred doing stuff as a family to camp. We go to the beach, Six Flags, parks, Maine to see my parents, Nantucket to see in laws. I love teaching but I also love my summers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:01 AM Flag
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Same here! I wish I would have been told about what a great career teaching is for mothers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:04 AM Flag
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It is and it isn't, no really childcare leave, you have to leave before any childcare is open, you miss parent teacher conferences for your own children because you are working, and you miss many performances because you can not just go to work later or leave early. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:27 AM Flag
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Right. But my area was finance and economics. So go figure. In comparison, sounds like taylor made for moms like me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:31 AM Flag
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I agree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:33 AM Flag
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I work at a school but not as a teacher. I just started so this will be my first summer off. Right now, I'm finishing up my Master's over the summer and working on my dissertation. Next summer, I'll probably visit friends, take trips with my kids, and decompress. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:27 AM Flag
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In NYC? how did you find the job? is hte DOE paying for your masters? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:32 AM Flag
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Yeah. NYC. DOE isn't paying for my Master's but I know others in my field who had DOE pay for theirs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:34 AM Flag
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How did they achieve that? Just checked NYCTF but the deadline was 2 days ago. "Create an account to apply. The final application deadline is Thursday, May 26th." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:37 AM Flag
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I'm not a teacher. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:40 AM Flag
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I work during the summer at other jobs to supplement my low income. It's less hours, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:58 AM Flag
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Fewer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:22 AM Flag
[ - ] Oh god. Do any of you read hellobee? A mom posted about her hearing that her baby has severe spina bifida and multiple brain abnormalities. Had to make the decision of what to do and decided to terminate the pregnancy. My heart breaks for her. So so sad. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:30 AM Flag
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It happens to many of us--we just don't make it public. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:34 AM Flag
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You are truly an asshole. Seriously. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:35 AM Flag
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And you are lucky beyond words never to have been in this situation yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:38 AM Flag
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+1000000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:39 AM Flag
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-10000000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:41 AM Flag
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Me? Of course. But to shame someone for wanting to get support for this awful thing is disgusting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:42 AM Flag
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Np. I think she wanted to say to the pro-lifers, abortion is not as straight forward as you may think. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:46 AM Flag
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Sometimes it is, through. Many selfish woman kill perfectly healthy fetuses because they aren't convenient. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:59 AM Flag
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Why so nasty? I've known 2 people in similar situations. Neither discussed it with anyone but very good friends. One was my sister - she only told me. No one wants other peoples' opinions on this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:42 AM Flag
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"No one wants other peoples' opinions on this"... except for the one's that do. Hello bee is different from here. It's not anonymous and a lot of the posters know each other well. I suppose needed support. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:45 AM Flag
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She's calling the ah an ah because the ah is being dismissive, minimizing the pain of the expectant mother saying "x million people had this, deal with it by yourself and don't seek support on the www". Seems st fwd to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:12 AM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:03 AM Flag
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It was a merciful death. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:38 AM Flag
[ - ] Lawyer moms. Can Trump be held in contempt of court? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:29 AM Flag
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For what- attacking a judge who suddenly saw public interest where there was none before? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:34 AM Flag
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For calling the judge unfit to serve due to personal bigotry or political vendetta. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:35 AM Flag
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um, you do realize we have free speech in the us? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:41 AM Flag
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Um, do you realize insulting a judge can land you in contempt? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:45 AM Flag
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um, do you realize it can't unless it is done inside the courtroom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:55 AM Flag
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That is my question. I don't believe the words have to be uttered in a courtroom to land a person in contempt. For example, you can be held in contempt for threatening a judge. Doesn't matter that you didn't issue the threat inside the court room. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:58 AM Flag
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yes, but that's threatening a judge. if you threaten to harm or harass anyone, it is technically a crime. it just usually doesn't get documented so well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:04 AM Flag
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The judge did Trump a huge favor by scheduling the trial for after the election. What did Trump do in return? shamed the judge based on his ethnicity. It's extraordinary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:37 AM Flag
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OR- This isn't a quid pro quo system here. What does the judge lose by being criticized in the media? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:11 AM Flag
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He insulted the judge based on his race. It is shameful, and disrespects a federal judge who has been tough on drug trafficking in California. A judge who was unanimously approved by the GOP Senate. Nice job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:16 AM Flag
[ - ] I'm not really following politics so excuse this question but is there really no chance for Sanders to become the democratic nominee? I'm so afraid that Hilary will lose against Trump... 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:28 AM Flag
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Trump is toast. You would have to be a self-hating Latino to vote for him now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:30 AM Flag
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LOL are you jewish? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:31 AM Flag
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No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:32 AM Flag
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Hillary or Bernie will win the White House. It's over. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:32 AM Flag
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but you believe sanders will not? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:33 AM Flag
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+1 ?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:34 AM Flag
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Bernie is out and Hillary will win. I was a Bernie person, but realize it's over. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:02 AM Flag
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thank freaking god there is someone sane who felt the bern. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:06 AM Flag
[ - ] Important, please advise: my daughter just bit into an apple and her tooth (which was slightly loose) is hanging onto the gums and bleeding. If she sleeps with this, she might swallow or inhale it. If I remove it, the bleeding will increase. What to do. Thanks!!!!! 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:25 AM Flag
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Yank it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:26 AM Flag
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Baby tooth correct? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:27 AM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:27 AM Flag
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Quick yank [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:27 AM Flag
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this. good grief..who posts about this?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:13 AM Flag
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Yank it and have her gargle with cold water until the bleeding stops [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:27 AM Flag
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How old? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:27 AM Flag
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9 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:28 AM Flag
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I promise you she will neither choke nor "inhale" it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:27 AM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:28 AM Flag
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Should I let her go to sleep with it like that? It is partially connected to her gums. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:29 AM Flag
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my ds ate his, i think. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:34 AM Flag
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Yank it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:28 AM Flag
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THANK YOU ALL for your advice. I yanked it. She was so scared, but it didn't hurt and there was not a lot of additional bleeding. I gave her some salt water to rinse with. Thanks again, I was as frightened as she was. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:35 AM Flag
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I'm so squeamish, I can't even think about when I have to do this for dd (she's only 3) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:38 AM Flag
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Her other teeth fell out with less drama. In any case, the worst part was not knowing what to do. The UB replies really put me at ease. I couldn't even come up with the right advise on Google. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:45 AM Flag
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Please remember this in a couple of years. I'll be posting such qns. I'm as scared. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:05 AM Flag
[ - ] Are The Property Brothers gay? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:22 AM Flag
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One of them is. I think the real estate brother. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:35 AM Flag
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I find it fascinating whenever there's a gay identical twin [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:39 AM Flag
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Mmmm... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:49 AM Flag
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Creepy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:59 AM Flag
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Does this happen often? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:00 AM Flag
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He's not gay. He has a girlfriend he lives with in Vancouver. They are so serious, he sold his half of the Vegas house to his brother so he would have the money to buy them a home. They may be married. In some episodes, he appears to be wearing a wedding ring. She's tiny and Asian. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:58 AM Flag
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Then it's the other one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:51 AM Flag
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Funny you should ask, DD and I were just both watching them on demand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:43 AM Flag
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Watching them on Netflix, they are so much fun! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:50 AM Flag
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OR: so charming. I love them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:13 AM Flag
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they are trying to land 17 ton palm trees for their own backyard. They are too much! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:51 AM Flag
[ - ] "Ritalin, stimulants and cocaine are very similar in chemical structure". "Adderall is very similar in chemical structure to meth"... WTF is going on in USA? Are labs making legal versions of drugs so that parents give them to their kids?? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:07 AM Flag
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this is not the case [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:09 AM Flag
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parents drug their kids to make them behave [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:10 AM Flag
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Schools encourage this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:11 AM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:09 AM Flag
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CRAZY! Don't they get that many of them will end up paying for Adderall rehab and the like while they barely have any $ saved for their own retirement? Talk about inviting unnecessary problems into their lives. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:14 AM Flag
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i have known parents who do it. they are incredulous at how effective it can be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:17 AM Flag
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they are just chemicals. depending on the chemical structue of a person's brain, they can be called "illegal drugs" or "medicine." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:11 AM Flag
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LMAO this reminds me of drug addicts who call their bad decision making: self-medicating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:14 AM Flag
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What's wrong with that? The medical field recognized that people self medicate with drugs and alcohol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:16 AM Flag
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I don't know any drug addicts or alcoholics that say this. Hear it mostly through people who aren't addicts or alcoholics who need to take the edge off a rough time or day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:18 AM Flag
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Yup 80% of the worlds scripts on the USA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:11 AM Flag
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I'm not a fan of medicating children, but this makes me laugh. "Very similar" is not at all the same. Small changes in structure could have completely different results. The author of whatever you're quoting might have some kind of point, but it isn't made here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:24 AM Flag
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Oh please. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:36 AM Flag
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Yes. I actually took Ritalin and Adderall and felt such a crash after R wore off and nervous after A that I would never give this to a child. It would be so disconcerting and scary for a child to physically and mentally different and not know why. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:40 AM Flag
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I'm an Adderall addict, but can't imagine giving it to my child [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 02:47 AM Flag
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Really? Please elaborate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:01 AM Flag
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Just like MANY who are on Adderall, it's as addictive as coke. Reminds me of junkies in the 70s and 80s, who didn't know what they were doing to their bodies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 04:49 AM Flag
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Uh yeah. Ritalin is meth. OxyContin is heroin. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:01 AM Flag
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Adderall is meth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 03:06 AM Flag
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