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[ - ] Anyone else a loner? I have married into a large, gregarious family who always wants to hang out together. Like have dinner at MIL/FILs several times a week, all go to each other's kids' sporting events. They even all vacation together and live near each other. (I'm the one with the family where MIL and FIL are downsizing and now helping SILs to buy their current houses and put them on the market and help buy new houses for everyone all on the same street). I grew up as an only child and can't stand all this togetherness and they are constantly expressing concern for me like "something must be wrong with her." How do I handle this? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 12:49 PM Flag
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What does your DH think? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 12:50 PM Flag
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He's not really into all of it, either. He will golf with his dad every once in a while but otherwise only shows up for what he positively has to show up for. I more or less do the same, if it's a major event like Mother's Day I'll go, but I don't want to spend all my weekends caravanning around with the rest of them. when I say they do EVERYTHING together, I'm not exaggerating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 12:52 PM Flag
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I wised up very fast when dating someone similar; knew it would be bad getting married because we were only dating and it had become mandatory for me to join family things and every week had multiple family things - sorry you did not realize earlier this would be an issue...learn to say no every once in a while for your sanity [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 12:53 PM Flag
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Thanks. I actually did think it was a great selling point because his family is so great. I love them all and get along with everyone. It's also not super new, we have one dd, 11, whom they all include in everything, and she loves it and I love it for her. But now that she's old enough where I don't feel obligated to come along with her and not make everyone babysit my child for me, I've started to be able to hang back. If they go to a movie and take her, I give her money but don't feel obligated to go see Secret life of Pets, if you know what I mean. I think they all think I have some kind of secret problem, but I just do not want to spend every single day with all of them. They literally live their lives together and I think it's getting worse as time goes on. Even on vacation everyone does all the same activities with each other. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 01:00 PM Flag
[ - ] Is anyone on? I have a question 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 12:30 PM Flag
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Go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 12:32 PM Flag
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My mother died almost 20 years ago - I am going though a major medical issue and I have been very depressed. I find myself inconsolable in the evenings and when I am crying my cell phone starts beeping uncontrollably - not message alerts or anything just random beeping - and when I am fine there are no sounds - I hate to seem silly but it is possible these are signs from My mom? I've heard electrical disturbances are sometimes caused by spirits? No flames - I'm kind of intelligent but feel silly writing this. Thx [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 12:36 PM Flag
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np. which answer will make you feel better? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 12:37 PM Flag
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:) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 12:37 PM Flag
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This is a great response. Whatever makes you feel even a little better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 12:51 PM Flag
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I don't have kids. I'm hanging out with my kind, wise mom right now. I asked her what she thinks (I've never been on both sides of the mother daughter relationship). My mom says of course it is your mom. We both hope that your sadness is lifted and your medical issue is resolved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 12:54 PM Flag
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Thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 12:56 PM Flag
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You're welcome (x2) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 01:04 PM Flag
[ - ] LOL what. Donald Trump tweeted: "Hillary Clinton should not be given national security briefings in that she is a lose cannon with extraordinarily bad judgement & insticts" .... that fucker has 10 million followers and can't be bothered to spell. 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 11:58 AM Flag
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Laugh all you want, but the national polls show a dead heat between Trump and Clinton. I suggest you focus on why people think Trump will help them. Laughing at them isn't going to win the election. I think the Democrats didn't really reach out to people who are hurting in this country. The picture they painted at the convention was too rosy. My prediction is that Clinton is not going to get a post-convention bump in the polls. The Muslim man whose son was killed in Iraq could well have made the same accusation against Clinton: How have you sacrificed for this country? Who did you send to die besides other people's children? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 12:09 PM Flag
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They addressed it by taking about policies and programs and how we need to work together not tear each other apart. All trump sold was anger. No action. Clinton has been in public service for the majority of thr last 30 years. Trump has done nothing at all for anyone but himself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 12:16 PM Flag
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All those policies haven't helped them. That's what they see. That's why Sanders was a stronger candidate than Clinton--he is seen as an outsider. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 12:23 PM Flag
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How has she sacrificed for this country? Are you kidding? She's been working for the country since she got out of law school. Donald Trump has been working to aggrandize himself for the past 50 years. She has been First Lady, a Senator and Secretary of State. That's not serving your country because she was paid for doing these jobs? ok. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 12:21 PM Flag
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Who in her family has served in the military? She voted for the war that killed those poor parents' son. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 12:26 PM Flag
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worse than that she is m ore likely to get us entangled in more wars than Johnson or Trump [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 12:59 PM Flag
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You realize there are other ways to serve than join the military, right? Especially for women, who historically have been denied combat roles. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 01:02 PM Flag
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Making 350K for a forty minute speech doesn't endear Clinton to people who have lost their homes to foreclosure and who are struggling to get into the middle class. When she says she feels their pain--well, that doesn't quite ring true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 12:28 PM Flag
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It's the outside money she's raised that alienates people. The Clintons have become multi-millionaires as a result of a life in politics. They are not seen as having sacrificed by serving the public. They've raked it in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 12:54 PM Flag
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They've raked it in from the ages of 60 on. That's a bit different. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 01:02 PM Flag
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I would actually love to hear specifically how people think Trump will help them. Who exactly is he proposing to help, and specifically how? Because every time someone says "middle class americans who have been left behind," I think, "okay I know who those people might be" but I don't hear specifically how he's going to open up jobs for them. The jobs he is proposing to bring back to "Americans" are the lowest level jobs. Are we going to put middle class Americans to work picking crops, cleaning hotel rooms, working in the backs of restaurants, landscaping? Because those jobs already only go to immigrants because middle class Americans don't want them. Are we going to raise the wages of all those jobs so that the middle class wants them? That's going to hurt the bottom line of business hard. I just don't see where he is going with any of the stuff he says. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 12:28 PM Flag
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People probably don't have those answers. They do know they haven't gained under Obama, and Clinton's embrace of Obama just means more of the same for them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 12:30 PM Flag
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Change trade deals, China manufacturing / India IT outsourcing is not helping the Middle Class, when kids get out of college the entry levelm less skilled jobs are now overseas [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 12:56 PM Flag
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OP. I'm not laughing at people. I'm laughing at Donald Trump. Not the same thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 12:29 PM Flag
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the implication is you are calling people who support him stupid - come on [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 12:56 PM Flag
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NP. Where did you see that? She was citing the number of followers because of the number of people who see his shitty spelling. You're stretching here, buddy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 01:03 PM Flag
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She is more culpable, married a man who dodge the draft, never served herself, and set her progeny up to live in luxury for generations. You know what fine, but don't bring the father of a dead soldier out to wave a constitution in my face; the military overwhelmingly supports Trump or Johnson, FWIW. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 12:48 PM Flag
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Like her or hate her but it was her job as Secretary of State to give the briefings for years. So that ship has sailed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 12:22 PM Flag
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Rumor now is that he's now strategizing to back out of the debates. He has tweeted about them being rigged already. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 12:22 PM Flag
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I would not be surprised at all by this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 12:23 PM Flag
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Mark my words, that's exactly what's going to happen. He will refuse to do them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 12:23 PM Flag
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It's amazing that a billionaire can claim any system is 'rigged' AGAINST him. Our whole system has worked FOR him for his entire life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 12:32 PM Flag
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Exactly. All those bankruptcies? He didn't screw "the system". He didn't pay people he owed money to. You know, people who worked hard for him & got told to suck it. Yeah, that's the guy who has your best interests at heart. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 01:04 PM Flag
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He's saying they are rigged because they're being scheduled up against a couple of NFL games. He's not happy about that because he knows his voters watch football and Hillary voters not so much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 12:35 PM Flag
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LOL, Jesus. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 01:04 PM Flag
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Loose not lose too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 12:31 PM Flag
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Lc, blue collar, lmc, un or undereducated men hate,absolutely despise, the idea of a woman running this country. You see no such analysis of why Trump will turn out to be their worst enemy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 01:01 PM Flag
[ - ] I want to get a gift for a friend/coworker that helped my career in a big way as a thank you. What can I get for under $100? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 11:23 AM Flag
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GC to a nice restaurant in her area [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 11:24 AM Flag
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Thanks. That's a good idea. Do you think spa certificate is good also? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 11:27 AM Flag
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sure [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 11:48 AM Flag
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Flowers delivered to her workplace? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 11:39 AM Flag
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I think better off with something she can use. Flowers are nice but they die in a few days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 11:48 AM Flag
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A basketful of picked-by-you specialty food items is something I always love getting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 11:40 AM Flag
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+1 or restaurant. I may be in the minority here but as a WOHM mom of young kids, a spa just doesn't do it for me. It requires a block of weekend time that I don't want to take away from my kids. I've been sitting on a really nice spa gift certificate from (childless) SIL thst this post just reminded me of. The gesture is very much appreciated but depending on her circumstances, something else might get better use [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 12:11 PM Flag
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Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.30.16, 12:39 PM Flag
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