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[ - ] Ha-my office is going from cubicles to open concept. My coworker is all up in arms over it. Guess she is scared that people will see she doesn't do any work. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:10 PM Flag
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I work like a dog and I would hate open concept. People would see that I sit with my one leg under me and I roll my eyes on conference calls. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:22 PM Flag
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I have worked in both and I hated open concept! Could never get focused and concentrate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:17 PM Flag
[ - ] Would you or did you end your marriage bc the sex was blah and always was and always will be and you felt totally and completely hopeless in the department? Thx 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:49 AM Flag
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no but I'm sensing that sex isn't as important to me as it seems to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:41 AM Flag
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Nope. (As I'm still married, and the sex is near-dead and pretty terrible when it flickers) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:42 AM Flag
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Sex is and always has been what you describe in my marriage. It's incredibly frustrating but I'm not going anywhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:46 AM Flag
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It depends what sex represents to you. Personally, I'd stay as long as there was love. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:14 PM Flag
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Have you talked with you dh about it? Or is he selfish in bed? I know people try to pretend sex is not as important, but it is, i had that issue with my dh and we talked about it, the sex is not terrific but i can tell he is trying to please me, for me that is more than enough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:16 PM Flag
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^^ maybe you need to go back to the basics, take a weekend getaway together, go out as a couple more often. GL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:17 PM Flag
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The bigger question is why you got married in the first place if this is something you would consider leaving over now. $$? Biological clock? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:06 PM Flag
[ - ] To Ramona Mario eyes glazing over, mentally checking out poster from yesterday: I totally agree. So what do you suppose the bargain was? What did Mario get in return? I know that now Ramona forgives the cheating, but what about at the beginning? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:39 AM Flag
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I think they have a certain kind of NYC marriage where she fits the bill in a lot of ways. She's in very good shape and is very attractive; she pays very close attention to her sense of style (whether you are 100% on board with it or not, at least Mario seems to like it). If she's sometimes a bit rough on the edges socially (her upbringing peeks through quite a bit), at least she doesn't commit the cardinal sin of being boring or not having anything to say. She's independent and a quick thinker and a good businesswoman. She has certainly proved to be a good choice to raise their daughter. I see what attracted Mario to Ramona in the beginning and what has more or less kept him around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:48 AM Flag
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What has happened in the meantime is pretty common in marriages of 20+ years. Even pretty gets boring when it's the same. Outspoken becomes annoying and always having something to say becomes "give it a rest." She probably never nagged him in the early years and the nagging creeps in. There was probably also a huge power dynamic shift when Ramona became a housewife - she became the "name" in the house and the one people stopped in the streets. Message boards kind of dumped on him for having wandering eyes and she probably got on his case for that. In many ways I think he's been emasculated in a few different directions by the housewives years and the result was that he took a stand and acted out with another woman. Whether he wanted to prove it to her or to himself that it could be done, who knows. I do think it snapped her head on straight that maybe she needed to re-evaluate where their marriage was headed and why. Him as well. Whatever talks they've had behind scenes, seems they have both decided they need to fix some things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:52 AM Flag
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You have thought about this waaayyyy too much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:10 PM Flag
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or. They remind me a lot of a few actual couples I know, including my parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:00 PM Flag
[ - ] My marriage is crumbling. It is scary and painful to think of the future and navigating through a separation and divorce, yet I do not have enough will and stamina to stay married. Is this an indication that I am ready to end it? I am so confused and conflicted. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:29 AM Flag
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I am sorry to hear you are going through this. Do you have children? Yes I think that if you truly in your heart do not feel you have the will and stamina to stay married and work on the relationship then it is probably time to end it. But as always, try everything, if you love him and want it to work, try counseling... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:23 AM Flag
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Thank you. I am in counseling now. The counselor suggested that I think about what would need to happen from my perspective to work on/save our relationship, such as couples therapy, home responsibilities. However, I should only request these things if I want to work on our relationship. If I want out, then it is not fair to him to have him jump through hoops and then ultimately want to still end it....which I agree with. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:41 AM Flag
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Eh. If he did those things it much change the whole dynamic and make the marriage salvageable. I think you need to put your kids feelings above your DH. It's so much more unfair to them not to even try than it is to DH for him to put in a little effort only to have it not work out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:48 AM Flag
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Or he might not bother. Either way, OP will know. I find the whole "I'd stay married if he'd only take the garbage out once in a while" such bullshit....if you're in it, that's not going to move the needle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:48 AM Flag
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At least try to work on it, if after that the relationship still broken move on, at least you tried. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:19 PM Flag
[ - ] OK, this is in St. Louis, but OMG, look at what 1.75mm buys you there. Incredible! http://www.nytimes.com/2014/07/24/greathomesanddestinations/homes-for-sale-in-st-louis-pennsylvania-and-california.html? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:21 AM Flag
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Wow. One thing when comparing things is you really never know the specifics. We moved to Raleigh a few years ago, and though housing cost is lower, there can be a huge variation in a market. Sometimes we look and realize if we moved to a different kind of neighborhood (newer, farther out) from where we loved we would get much more [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:36 AM Flag
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Peobably this. I'm always amazed how inexpensive palaces seem to be in Atlanta on those real estate shoes but it must be the neighborshoods they're in [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:50 AM Flag
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And look at the taxes for the St. Louis and Penn homes! I pay more for my 1150 sq. ft. 2BR condo in a white-brick bldg. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:29 PM Flag
[ - ] On vacation in Switzerland. He told story of having met a young divorcee in south of France this past summer, who had bought a little house from an old widower with two sons. The house was a wreck as apparently the sons did not pay much attention to their father. In the course of cleaning she found two paintings by a world famous artist (he declined to say who, I suspect Picasso but who knows). He said she involved him in dreaming up a way to profit from these paintings -- he is planning to buy them from her for a nominal sum, 10k or so, with an agreement that when he sells them, he will give her the bulk of the money, allegedly as a "gift for being my mistress." The man is married and wife seems on board. The whole thing sounds crazy and totally unethical to me, if not entirely illegal. Any legal moms (or non-legal) care to comment? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:21 AM Flag
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Sorry, the 'He' above is an older man I met at breakfast in the hotel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:32 AM Flag
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Is she actually his mistress? if so, it doesn't sound illegal or unethical at all to me. Just unexpected, especially the part about the wife being okay with this. If you are saying that he is helping her in turn for becoming his mistress, it smells of prostitution. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:32 AM Flag
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sounds like the beginning of a scam [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:48 AM Flag
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Good eye! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:45 AM Flag
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Like the Nigerian princes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:05 PM Flag
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What on earth would an attorney in the US have to say about any of this. Can't believe it wouldn't be easier to just give her money but whatever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:51 AM Flag
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Scam... Did he offer you the "paintings"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:22 PM Flag
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agree. totally feels like a scam. right answer is for her to buy paintings from widower & sons and sit on them for 7 yrs. anything else is fishy. stay away from the scam artist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:20 PM Flag
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Why can't she just sell them herself to a dealer or have a dealer sell them for her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:12 PM Flag
[ - ] I have 3 boys. If we sold our apartment and moved to suburbs we could still afford another dc. I want to have a dd. I am very close with my mom. We are best friends. None if the men I ever dated had even remotely similar relationship with their mothers or fathers for that matter. I am very close with my boys but something must change once they grow up where they clamp up and stop sharing their lives. My MIL tries to corns are by being up my ass all the time. I can't stand her. I think it very unusual to mil and DIL to really be close. Should I do it? Should I have a 4th? I would have to either do IVF with testing to be sure of gender or do IUI which is not so reliable in gender selection. 52 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 10:31 AM Flag
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I don't know. I have three boys, and while having a daughter would have been nice, I am content with the boys. Seems like a lot of effort for a girl. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 10:37 AM Flag
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TY. I am very happy with my boys. I think boys are amazing as children and I am probably closer to my boys than many ms are with their dds. However along the way something does change in this dynamic and boys are never as close to the mother. Many men love their mothers but its just blind love and not closeness. I don't want to have my ds grow up is mama's boys so I will need to let them go. Maybe it's the fact that I am turning 40 soon and this is my last chance. How old are your boys? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 10:43 AM Flag
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they are 9,7&2. this is what life has given me, and i embrace it. for one reason or another, i was not meant to have a girl (and believe me when i say i am not the religious type at all). with each son, i am sure my relationship will be very different. i am 100% okay with not having a daughter. i think dh actually has a more difficult time with this than me. he is a little sad he'll never have a daughter to walk down the aisle, etc. but i say we are truly lucky in so many ways. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:50 AM Flag
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Mine are 12, 5, 2. Maybe you are right and I have boys for a reason but I don't know if I truly believe that. My mil was definitely meant to have more than 1 dc and she should have had a girl. Everyone would have been better off. I think she is the biggest reason I want a girl. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:46 AM Flag
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Why don't you step back and think about the actual child, as opposed to some mythical fulfillment of some fantasy you've created in your mind. Get therapy, really...if you want to create an entirely new life in response to your relationship with your mil, you've got issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:54 AM Flag
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I would. I only have 1 DD and am so happy that I have a daughter [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 10:40 AM Flag
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I understand this. I always wanted a dd. I LOVE having boys but I just can't believe I don't have a dd. I don't seem to be able to come to terms with that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 10:45 AM Flag
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Are you the mom who wanted a DD to take care if her when she is old? If I were you, I'd focus on developing strong, positive, loving relationships with your sons. My DH is one of three boys. All her DS were very involved when she got older. She was a great mom. I am one of three sisters. We all have very tangled relationships with our parents. No guarantee that if you have a DD, she will be your fantasy child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 10:36 AM Flag
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No I am not her. I think my boys will be good to me. My younger boys are still too little to tell but my eldest is 12 and if his fundamental character doesn't change then I have no doubt he will live me and be there for me if I need him. We aren't wealthy but we both work and I think we will be ok financially at retirement. I am not looking for my children to support me in my old age. I too have a sister and our relationship is complicated. Are you and your 2 sisters close to your mother? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 10:52 AM Flag
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np. The big changes come in the teenage years, not at 12. The teen years are when they start to emotionally separate and begin the rocky process of turning into adults. It doesn't come easily and it's super unpredictable depending on where they fall socially in the pecking order. Some mousy girls and tiny boys turn into prom king/queen material and they become overconfident and headstrong; some don't bloom at all in time and they become dark and resentful of their more socially active peers. Weed and alcohol are EVERYWHERE and do not help anything. Long story to say - you've got a long road beyond age 12 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 10:56 AM Flag
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Ok. Not sure how that matters in my decision to have a 4th [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:08 AM Flag
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Lots of us , men and women, don't want to share everything with our parents. Sorry you have a PITA MIL. Don't be an overbearing, needy mom to your sons and perhaps they will be more comfortable spending time with you as you age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 10:39 AM Flag
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OP: I 100% agree with you. If there is one thing I learned from my MIL is what not to do. I am more like my mom personality wise. I am not needy, I have a lot if interests. I wouldn't be like her anyway. I don't doubt my ds will spend TE with me but the closeness I have with my mom is not really possible I don't think [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 10:55 AM Flag
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Work on developing a life and friends outside your children. Don't expect a DD to be your best friend for life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 10:43 AM Flag
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I think the reason my mom and I are close is because she is a very interested busy and self fulfilled person. I respect her very much. I was not raised to be my moms friend. I would raise my dd same and do same with my ds [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 10:58 AM Flag
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We had three boys and went for a daughter because I didn't want to miss that experience. We adopted her to make absolutely sure it would be a girl; that's how serious we were. Turns out she hated dolls; hated barbies; hates dresses - so none of those girly experiences were anything to be had. She does play field hockey which of course is something the boys didn't play so that was a different experience but no big deal. She also came with many learning difficulties which have made raising her to be prepared for her future to be a lot more challenging than we thought it would be. We are still not entirely sure she'll go to a traditional college. Her testing is bound to be very poor. Obviously we love her to death and couldn't imagine NOT having her at all - we wouldn't change anything or trade her. However, be careful to keep in mind the potential differences between the experience in your mind and the potential experiences you might actually have. You can chase your dream, but it might not be what you get. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 10:50 AM Flag
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What you describe are common issues with adopted children. You are amazing for adopting. I would not be able to handle the challenge given that I work, have 3 kids already etc. Also I was never girly and my career is traditionally in a make field but I am still very close with my mom. My boys do a lot of girly things like arts and even knitting. I am not really talking about this type of stuff. More adult relationship later on in life [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:07 AM Flag
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It's true, they're common and we went in with open eyes. Then again, she doesn't have issues like CP or down syndrome or cystic fibrosis or duchenne's MD which are some issues that friends of ours with their own bio children face. You risk some things; you avoid the risk of other things. In the end all children are a risk when you consider you usually picture one trajectory and are just as usually presented with a kid who follows another. Remains to be seen in our family how it will turn out. Everyone says I am emotional twins with one of our sons and the two others take after their dad. Right now dd is especially bonded with DH, she is the apple of his eye and they text all day. I spend more time with her but I think she could take or leave me. I hate to use the word bossy but that's how she is with me .... mom you're late; mom why did you give me a tuna sandwich for lunch; mom I don't like that kind of bread; mom why didn't you buy more eggs. If she's the one who's going to take care of me later ... hmmm [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:12 AM Flag
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PS she does let me braid her hair at least! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:03 AM Flag
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OP: I am not an expert at all so take what I say with a grain of salt. 1. I was also closer with my dad as a child 2. I lived to plan and manage so my mom put me in charge of cooking dinner. Maybe you can channel her being bossy in a productive way? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:19 AM Flag
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Yes, she gives me a break in other ways. She's super independent about things like her school work and projects, backpacks, suitcases for travel and her sports things. Almost to a fault in that she won't let me help with things. If I correct anything on her homework she will literally erase my correction and replace it with her previous wrong answer because she wants it to be "HER" work only. That independence goes two ways, lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:22 AM Flag
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Yes. I relate. My mom put me in charge of cooking dinner and other things. I enjoyed being in charge and in control [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:25 AM Flag
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The cooking is a really good idea, by the way [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:28 AM Flag
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With at least one of the boys, they'd let me "help" them so much that I'd sometimes realize I'd practically done the work for them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:25 AM Flag
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I get what you are saying. I have a DS and a DD. Yes, my DD over shares everything and it is like pulling teeth to get my DS to tell us anything. He is just way more private and a whole lot less dramatic than his sister. But I watched him take care of my parents, when my dad dying. Such compassion. He lives nearby, was in college at the time. Just amazing. Your DS may not share the details of their life like a DD, but they will be there for you in other ways. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 10:56 AM Flag
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IA. My oldest ds is most compassionate person I know. He is just wired that way. He would probably be there for me the most. However it's the emotional closeness I have with my mother that I would live to have. I don't think it's possible with a boy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:10 AM Flag
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But not every woman has that with their mother. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:24 AM Flag
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My DH is very close with his mom. Much more close with her than his sister is. Way to de-value your relationship with your sons. I think you need therapy, not another child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 10:57 AM Flag
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My dh loves his mother. My father was close to my grandmother but its not the closeness I am talking about. I am very normal. There is nothing wrong with my wondering if I should have a dd. it's not unnatural. I love my sons very much [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:16 AM Flag
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You are willing to move your family and also to GENDER selection IVF in order to fulfill this dream of having a girl - and there are no guarantees that relationship will be everything you expect it to be. You do not sound normal at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:12 AM Flag
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I never did until now. I enjoy my children. I am all if a sudden thinking about having a 4th to have a girl. I was not upset finding out it was a boy with all 3 of my kids. The odd thing is that my dh talked me into 3rd I wanted 2 dcs initially [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:27 AM Flag
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Perhaps I don't worry about this because I have a great relationship with my MIL. I also have only boys. I assume they will want me a part of their life once they are adults but I know that I can't be sure. That said, I am not that close with my mom so you just never know. I'm closer with MIL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:31 AM Flag
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This is what my mom tells me. She says I am not like MIL and am likely to have good relationship with my DIL. My MIL is just so difficult. I think if she was normal I wouldn't have issues with not having dd. I was happy to find out I was having a boy when pg. MIL is the biggest problem in my life for the most part [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:37 AM Flag
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It's not necessarily supposed to be a western, 1st world thing to chase down one gender over another for your children; but it's not really unusual. It's common to hear "finally you got your boy/girl" when people have two or more of one gender and finally get the other. The lengths to which OP is considering going under the circumstances might seem unusual, but you only live once, and if there's anything that some parents will move heaven and earth for, it's the child in their mind that they don't have yet. It's instinctive. I'd give OP a break before calling her crazy. Plenty of women here ask if they can get pregnant at 46 and over. I think using a surrogate is a lot more OTT effort than anything OP is considering. And she hasn't even done it yet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:34 AM Flag
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Exactly!!!!!! Many women go for IVF at 40, what difference does it make to select gender. Hypocrisy at it's finest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:39 AM Flag
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+1 given the option most western women would opt for a girl and if they want more than one child a mix of genders. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:00 PM Flag
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No, you're not unusual for wondering. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:26 AM Flag
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I am pg with DB#1 and it's a boy. I know exactly how you feel. I always only wanted one child - a girl. So I think about it a lot - give up a dream of only having one child or give up a dream of having a girl. I had a very very difficult time coming to terms with his gender when we found out. And with therapy it got a lot better. I can say that I love my baby, I know I will have a ton of fun with him doing things (I have a lot of interests that are "gender neutral") but I worry about the same thing. That there comes a day when he leaves, builds his own family and we won't be close anymore. Don't get me wrong, I want all that for him but I also want the closeness that only seems to come with having a girl. Perhaps this generation of boys will be different, since their dads are different than their dads were. I am not sure. I thought about the adoption as well as doing gender selective IVF, just like you. I am not sure. I have some time to figure things out but it's on my mind a lot. GL ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:03 AM Flag
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me too. love my toddler ds so much but really wanted the long lasting deep sharing bond you get with a dd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:21 AM Flag
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PP - I know what you mean and I know what it feels like which is why I wanted to share. Esp because it's something that one doesn't discuss IRL. You are supposed to be happy with whatever you get but I think human emotions are a lot more complicated than that. There was a mom on here in a similar situation like you - 3 sons, wanted a girl, went for BD#4 and got a girl. Girl is SN and requires a lot of help and attention. I think about her a lot when I wonder what to do in the future. I think it's hard to come to terms with the "nature's order of things" these days since we are accustomed to getting what we want. With everything else there seems to be "a way", if you know what I mean. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:38 AM Flag
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My DH is very close with his mom and I love my MIL and consider her a friend and confidant. We never would shut her out and my DH would have never married someone that would do that to her. She has an amazing relationship with my DS. Give men a little credit - not all men neglect their mothers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:08 AM Flag
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It's not the closeness I am talking about. I could say my dh is close to MIL. We don't shot her out. She is just a very annoying woman and I can not possibly be close to someone like her even though she is nice and cares too much about us in her own narcissistic way [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:30 AM Flag
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np - I think stories like this are not shared enough, unfortunately, so there is always this stigma of "boy = not close with his mom when he grows up" and "MIL/DIL relationship = bad". Spread the word far and wide. TY. Signed, pg with a boy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:22 AM Flag
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Do you know many women IRL who have good relationships with MIL. You can share unicorn stories but chances if having it yourself aren't very high. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:47 AM Flag
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PP - unfortunately I don't. My MIL hates me and both my mother and aunt are divorced. My grandmother's MIL wasn't fond of her either. So not many happy marriages/MIL relationships around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:08 PM Flag
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My mil has 4 boys. None of the DIL deal with her, she is not close to any one of the girls. we are all very close to our own moms. Part of it is her not knowing how to interact with us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:25 AM Flag
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I think a good relationship with MIL is very difficult and almost requires a dysfunctional or absent relationship with your own mother. My MIL wants a good relationship with me but she almost wants more than my own mom does. It makes me very angry. I think a good and also clise relationship with MIL is possible but incredibly uncommon in our modern society [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:56 AM Flag
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I have 2 boys and love the idea of having a girl . I don't want to to IVF at all, so that won't be an option. I feel like if you are ok with IVF, gender selection along the same lines. Moving to burbs with 3 boys is a good idea too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:33 AM Flag
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I didn't either so here I am a mom to 3 boys [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:48 AM Flag
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You sound annoying, OP. Do you even read this board? Half the women here can't stand their mothers. What makes you think the dd you don't even have won't end up finding you as irritating and smothering as you sound? I have to wonder about the women on here obsessing about how they need a dd to be "close to"....make an adult friend, maybe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 11:53 AM Flag
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That's a lot of (unhealthy) expectations to have on this potential new baby. She will rebel. And what if you're never close? It seems all about you, IMO, and not about this potential child (or your others). What if she's SN? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:14 PM Flag
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The bond between mom and daughter is usually stronger, if you can afford it, and you really want a girl, why not? I would do IVF just to be sure. GL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:25 PM Flag
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