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[ - ] Do parents really feel that school is that important in a child's future success? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:54 PM Flag
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I think it is important. [ Reply | More ]
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Are you Mosquito Coast mom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:55 PM Flag
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You don't? [ Reply | More ]
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Money it can buy great schools and a great future. [ Reply | More ]
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Wtf? Of course it is. I grew up in a shitty LMC place. Kids from my elementary who were just as smart as I am went on to the shitty local school, and I went to a very average non-academic local private. I made it to Ivy, they barely made it to college. Just as smart. School isn't everything, but it is still a huge factor, particularly if parents are not deeply involved. [ Reply | More ]
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I think you have hit on one of the key factors, parental involvement. I'm a SAHP with a double-major in physics and philosophy and a master's in education. I have the time and the ability to help our children with their academics and add education beyond their class curriculum. Compare that to a family where both parents work full time and maybe don't have the academic background, and what happens in school can make a very big difference. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 06:01 PM Flag
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Yes, you know. That eddykation thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:57 PM Flag
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Duh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 06:02 PM Flag
[ - ] What to do about UES nyc preschool admissions when you're totally unconnected and not super wealthy? How does this typically work out for "normal" folks? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:45 PM Flag
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btdt. You apply. You turn up to the playdates. You are nice and your kid is nice. You get a spot (hopefully). All the noise in here is, mostly, just noise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:47 PM Flag
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+1. Apply to normal neighborhood ones and to a couple ones that are considered tt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:48 PM Flag
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If you live in Carnegie Hill, then they are all TT ;-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:52 PM Flag
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Did you end up at a place that people consider competitive? Just wondering if certain places end up shutting out "middle class" families [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:48 PM Flag
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Yes we did. There is NO conspiracy. If by middle class families you mean UB style $100-200k HHI families, then yes, of course, there are not that many in the UES preschools, as so many applicants are $$$. But they are not choosing you based on $$$. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:50 PM Flag
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Is this really true--they're not choosing you at least partly based on how much $ you'd be likely to give? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:55 PM Flag
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Yes its really true. Jeez. Here's how school donations work. 80% of the money comes from 20% of the parents. So yes, they are looking to make sure they have a few billionaires among their ranks. But after that, its basically irrelevant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:57 PM Flag
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ok that makes me feel a bit better [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:59 PM Flag
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They will focus on a few billionaire families. The rest are all in the same boat and will get in if the parents and the kid have made a good impression. That's all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 06:00 PM Flag
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No. schools want diversity [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:51 PM Flag
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+1 Being black and nicely turned out helps a lot. Other diversity doesn't really count. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:59 PM Flag
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np here and we did. don't sweat it, honestly. [ Reply | More ]
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What's your zoned public? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:48 PM Flag
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don't even know. [ Reply | More ]
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then you arent normal folk. basic knowledge, sugar. [ Reply | More ]
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op- probably just lazy folk :) We are fortunate enough to be able to *pay* for private school tuition; but that's as far as it goes...no ability to make big donations. I'm fearful that we could easily slip through the cracks [ Reply | More ]
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Hi Ohio mom! [ Reply | More ]
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Is your family diverse in any way? [ Reply | More ]
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not at all (white, boring, etc.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:59 PM Flag
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It works out fine. Every school will court a few very wealthy people but the rest are all "normal" (NYC normal). The connection thing is, in my experience, highly exaggerated on UB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:57 PM Flag
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Massively, hilariously exaggerated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 06:00 PM Flag
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Ok, thanks. that's what I'm worried about- not having the "connections" that you always hear about. DC is lovely and just want him to be in a nice school that's a good fit for him personally. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 06:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Maybe already discussed, but do you think an ebola vaccine would finally end the antivax madness? I can't imagine the government would allow bogus "religious" exemptions. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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No, because I don't think they'll be offering it to everyone, probably just healthcare workers to start. Maybe if there is a big outbreak, they'll offer it to the wider community. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:48 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:57 PM Flag
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You think freedom of religion should be scrapped over one virus? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:53 PM Flag
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oh, fuck yeah I do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:55 PM Flag
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There's no constitutional right to a religious exemption from vaccination requirements to attend school. It is a mere courtesy and since it is being abused, it should be eliminated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:59 PM Flag
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I hate the religious exemption, it's such a crock of sh*t. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't think everyone needs an Ebola vaccine. [ Reply | More ]
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OP-I agree. If there is an outbreak in the US, though, I would reconsider and give to as many people as possible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:58 PM Flag
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^even a localized outbreak, I mean. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:59 PM Flag
[ - ] 3 yr old DS has EXTREME freakouts when I attempt to clip nails. Like nothing you've ever seen kind of freakouts. Think he has Aspergers? or some sort of processing disorder? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:41 PM Flag
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i think he's 3. this too shall pass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:42 PM Flag
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My kid was like this! Especially the toes. Wish I could tell you he got better. The ONLY good news is that at age 7 he could do it himself. I still have to nag, threaten, and cajole, but he does do it. He definitely does NOT have Aspergers though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:46 PM Flag
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If it's only about the nails, I wouldn't worry about it. Do it when he's in a deep sleep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:49 PM Flag
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He's also weird with needing most of the tags cut out of his tshirts, and being an extremely picky eater (more than half of his diet is still soft/pureed/baby-type foods). And he very rarely poops in potty. Wtf is a sensory processing disorder, anyway? Doesn't it sound like these things would fit in it?? [ Reply | More ]
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To the OP: Do you clip your own nails, or file them? [ Reply | More ]
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What do you do when he freak out? [ Reply | More ]
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OP here. Yes cut my own nails. When he freaks out, I try EVERYTHING: bribe with candy, his fave shows, etc. Nothing works. Put him in timeout.Try holding him down but seriously worried he will get hurt bc he's so strong and flailing against me. Eventually just give up bc it's so upsetting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 06:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone else get annoyed at their husbands when they have to travel for work? How do you handle it? 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:40 PM Flag
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Why are you annoyed with THEM when they HAVE to travel for work? [ Reply | More ]
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+1 Some people. Go marry someone with a different job. And please don't tell me you SAH. [ Reply | More ]
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+2. what is he supposed to do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:43 PM Flag
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+1,000. they're f*%king working. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:43 PM Flag
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The situation is totally annoying; but I feel bad for him [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:41 PM Flag
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I don't get annoyed with DH (not his fault), but I find it stressful when I have to manage everything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:44 PM Flag
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How hard is it? [ Reply | More ]
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NP. It isn't. OP sounds like an entitled stress monster. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:50 PM Flag
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ding ding ding ding [ Reply | More ]
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Np: seriously? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:49 PM Flag
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Nighttime is hard. I SAH so I'm used to doing everything during the day, but DH usually helps with baths, putting dcs to bed, etc. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 Especially when he travels over the weekend, it's nonstop. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:51 PM Flag
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Way to lay even more pressure on him. He's working. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:44 PM Flag
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+1 Agree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:52 PM Flag
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I work in entertainment (film). Yes, spouses take out the stress on the traveling one. It's normal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:48 PM Flag
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no it's not! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:52 PM Flag
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So does my DH. He's in St. Thomas right now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:55 PM Flag
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I get annoyed. But usually his colleagues who are also friends have a good time after their conferences. I get jealous! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:48 PM Flag
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So have a good time at home?! Why is that hard? Get a sitter and go out with your gfs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:51 PM Flag
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Right and that's so easy to some people. Not to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:57 PM Flag
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So there we have it. The issues are YOURS not his. You just struggle with life, and now are blaming him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 06:01 PM Flag
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I travel for work, too, so I don't get annoyed when he does. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:51 PM Flag
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I love it. Doesn't happen often but it's so peaceful! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:53 PM Flag
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I'm shocked by these replies. It would never occur to me to get annoyed - he has to travel for his job. WTF? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:52 PM Flag
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DH has been away this week and it's been like a vacation. I'm making small meals for DC and me, watching what I want on TV, staying up late, trying weird beauty rituals and not making the bed. It's great! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:54 PM Flag
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My wife is away this week and I kind of feel the same way. Its actually easier now that the kids are a bit older because I'm doing more or less what I do most days and nights anyway, except I don't have that niggling annoyance of wondering why she isn't helping or why she's come up with something that needs to be done at 7:30pm. Knowing that I'm just going to do it all myself is somehow quite comforting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:56 PM Flag
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Yes! I posted below about the same kinds of thing. [ Reply | More ]
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I spoke with a guy recently who said he enjoys travelling for work because he hates being at home in the same routine every day all week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:53 PM Flag
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When we were first married 15 years ago I got annoyed, jealous, resentful etc. - then I realized this was the life I married into and unless I let it go I would never be happy. So I let it go - and now its a part of life that I have learned to appreciate. [ Reply | More ]
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I admit (but would never tell dh this) that I kind of enjoy it when my DH travels. For one thing, it's a lot less pressure with meals. (I'll get frozen or easy dinner for me and the kids that I wouldn't serve when he's around.) Also - after the kids are in bed, I open a bottle of wine, and there's no one to look at me askance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:55 PM Flag
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I'm the same way. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Sometimes I hate my husband. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:39 PM Flag
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And? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:40 PM Flag
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I'm sure he feels the same way about you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:49 PM Flag
[ - ] Those of you with, shall we say, strained relations with your in laws.......I have to go on vacation with them in a month. We have a terrible relationship, but they are good to kids. Any advice on how to survive? I am already stressed about this!! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:39 PM Flag
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Try to make time for yourself. Talk to DH, get him to run interference for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:43 PM Flag
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Ugh that's my worst nightmare. Plan daytrips away from them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:45 PM Flag
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By myself? This is my worst nightmare, too!! [ Reply | More ]
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Doesn't have to be daytrips, but even an hour walk, whatever, maybe dinner with you and DH/ [ Reply | More ]
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Try to find ways for them to be helpful/spend time with the kids without you being around...for example, have them take the kids to the beach while you are doing something else. Carve out time for just your family - ie, don't spend every waking moment with the in laws. Remember that this is your vacation too and you deserve to have fun, so don't be afraid to leave your DH with them and go off on your own once in a while - I'm sure they would prefer to have some alone time with DH anyway. [ Reply | More ]
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And remember to bite your tongue and walk away when they start getting to you! Any outright conflict will only make things worse. Come to UB to vent. GL! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:58 PM Flag
[ - ] So everyone loves Nina Pham and hates Amber Vinson? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:36 PM Flag
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Correct [ Reply | More ]
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I dont know who either of those people are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:38 PM Flag
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Hi, cave-dweller [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:41 PM Flag
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yep. One is a hero the other put the public at risk same as asshole NYC doctor [ Reply | More ]
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We should blame the CDC for that, not Amber. [ Reply | More ]
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:51 PM Flag
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Pretty much. Amber shot herself in the foot by getting on a plane twice. [ Reply | More ]
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CDC told her she could!!!!! [ Reply | More ]
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I thought that turned out not to be true. And besides, wouldn't common sense tell you not to? [ Reply | More ]
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np: Where did you read that wasn't true? In any case, I would trust the CDC over myself--they're supposed to be the experts at when it's safe to fly and when it's not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:52 PM Flag
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It was reported all over the place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:54 PM Flag
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EXACTLY. Not true that CDC told her she could. It's not true and probably started as a lie she or her family told to cover her dumb a$$. And YES common sense should be to stay the F home. [ Reply | More ]
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Please link to the story where they said it's not true. I must have missed that one. [ Reply | More ]
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Nina Pham potentially exposed only one person, Amber Vinson put thousands of people at risk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:42 PM Flag
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Yep. For a fitting for her bridesmaids. What an asshole. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
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I do not hate Amber Vinson. [ Reply | More ]
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No way. I think they both seem like sweet, responsible young women. Neither did anything wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:56 PM Flag
[ - ] Any single online dating moms on here? What's up with the ‘disappearing after the third date factor’? Is it that I am over 40? That I have a kid? Or that I don't put out immediately? Or could I be boring? Are any of you having the same problem? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:34 PM Flag
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OK. Frame this differently. By the third date, most people have a good idea if they really like each other or not. So lots of people don't bother with a third. Its not a "disappearing third date factor" in any meaningful sense of "factor". Its just that those guys don't like you that much. And there are plenty of people to choose from, so they go looking again. Get over it. Expect to go on 100 first dates to find one man you want to be with who wants to be with you. [ Reply | More ]
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makes sense [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What do you guys think will happen to Nina Pham? Is she going to have 15 minutes of fame from the ebola thing and go back to nursing, or will she be a permanent celebrity and go into talk show hosting or something? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:31 PM Flag
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of course she will go back to being a normal person. there is nothing special about her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:35 PM Flag
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Fame? No one gives a shit about her. [ Reply | More ]
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Well, she spoke at a press conference and is meeting President Obama today, so I disagree. [ Reply | More ]
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Yawn. 15 minutes, and only because she's young and vaguely attractive. [ Reply | More ]
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people who choose nursing and the kind of work she was doing are probably pretty committed to the profession. [ Reply | More ]
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ITA. [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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no one will talk about ebola once the vaccines are here in Dec/Jan. [ Reply | More ]
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She is a devout Christian so she may do some inspirational speaking [ Reply | More ]
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She's a young woman with strong religious beliefs who lives w her parents--guessing not much will change. I wish her well. [ Reply | More ]
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Most of you to imply that fame would be better than a lifetime spent helping others. How shallow. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I didn't mean to imply that. I have a ton of respect for nurses. [ Reply | More ]
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There are dozens of agents beating down her door now. The household name fairly attractive super-Christian selfless humanitarian is a very, very marketable commodity. Think of all the places she can move into - a book ("co-written" by a ghost writer) is a guarantee. There are all those daytime talk shows like Meredith Viera and Rachel Ray, Queen Latifa and Steve Harvey and who knows who else that will have her on to promote whatever she's doing - a book, a miniseries, a speaking tour. Then the churches. OH, THE CHURCHES!!! There are thousands of evangelical churches that will pay her a lot of money to come in and do the whole "God saved me through prayer" thing. She'll fill seats in all these midwestern places, and she's a true believer who will talk the talk and do the praying and get people to give to whatever fake ass charity the pastor is fronting for. [ Reply | More ]
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Fuck me you're good. [ Reply | More ]
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Wow. Couldn't script it better. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Besides the mega rich sahm, why do people believe that the average sahm do whatever she wants during the day? How can someone find time to read/exercise/practice a hobby while taking care of children and doing housework? Between cleaning daily messes, cooking breakfast/lunch and dinner, laundry, dishes, picking up toys, dealing with tantrums, constant whining and taking kids out to activities, there is only time to sleep tbh of course if lo is not sick. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:31 PM Flag
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this changes once kids are in school. [ Reply | More ]
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Op- Yes I agree with this, I am talking about when your kids are at home and you are in duty 24/7. Btw I am not a sahm, not even a mom yet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:33 PM Flag
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Oh FFS! [ Reply | More ]
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Dear lord, speaking of hobbies you need one. [ Reply | More ]
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Other than trolling message boards you don't belong on in the first place, that is. [ Reply | More ]
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Hope so. One DC in school, one in preschool. I have 2 hours to do stuff, some of which is work since I'm trying to get some things accomplished, but I really don't have the time. [ Reply | More ]
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School! [ Reply | More ]
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I have THREE kids but now that the youngest is in preschool I would have a blast as SAHM. There are no kids at home from 8 to 2:30. NONE. I could cleanup, make a fabulous meal, do laundry and still have 4 hours of free time. Now I rush home from work, cook in 20 minutes while all 3 kids want my attention then bed time then cleaning then crazy morning then work. What do you think is easier? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:37 PM Flag
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I have been both a SAHM and a WOHM, and I can tell you that it is simply easier to be a SAHM. That is okay! I don't begrudge them down time. Kids nap, they play, they sit there in the stroller when you take walks . . . There is also plenty of time that is busy - engaging with them, playing, making food, as you said. But it is more flexible, easier to socialize with other moms while you watch kids, etc. [ Reply | More ]
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It can be so mundane at times. You're always on. Kids don't nap sometimes. They don't always sit quietly in a stroller. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:42 PM Flag
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Mundane, I give you. Taxing, I don't. Could just be me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:48 PM Flag
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Depends on ages of kids and how many. How much help you have, etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:50 PM Flag
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Yep. I even had some of that and it was still exhausting. The baby years are tough. Unless your DH really makes $$$, by the time they are over, you need to go back to work bc the cost for your family of zero income is too great for the long haul -- especially if you're a lawyer and could go back in the $150 and up range. [ Reply | More ]
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^tbis was meant in response to the lawyer daydreaming about SAH but still applies here too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:50 PM Flag
[ - ] s/o has anyone conquered procrastination? Not interested in hearing from the Type A's out there. I'd like to hear from people who really had a problem with procrastinating and figured out how to stop. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:29 PM Flag
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Watching this (instead of doing what I should be doing) [ Reply | More ]
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You are me [ Reply | More ]
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I'm not sure why you are asking what has to be the largest group of procrastinators on the planet this question. [ Reply | More ]
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lol [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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I'll tell you, but you won't like it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:36 PM Flag
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Pipe down Adderall Mom [ Reply | More ]
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I won't like it and I probably won't do it, but tell me anyway - op [ Reply | More ]
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I'm going to conquer it next week. [ Reply | More ]
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Not me. Don't need to. I'm going to win the megamillions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:49 PM Flag
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General Topics 10.24.14, 05:56 PM Flag
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I am a procrastinator and find myself only getting to things under pressure / deadlines. So, when I am not procrastinating, I use a list. I prioritize and work on the highest priority. Sometimes I pick the thing I am dreading the most and do it first. If I don't have my list, I don't get anything done at all. I also limit myself. Like I've got 5 more min on UB. Or I will get 3 things done tonight ... Such a battle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:57 PM Flag
[ - ] I live in a very affluent neighborhood. We also have money, except I don't fit in with these über wealthy, uber proprivate school moms. It's not that I'm against private but it's all they talk about. It's not about sending their children to a good school. It's about sending them the the best of the best and then always talking about it. Our neighbors are non existent. They're polite when we finally do bump into them on the street but they're busy, self-involved and not laidback. My kids don't see other kids playing. All their kids are in a ton of activities and sadly, none of them just play and explore. The older moms are sad because their children aren't little anymore and actually tell me they're lonely. I wish we had neighbors that just got together on a whim, were more down to earth. I'm really missing that community feel. :( 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:27 PM Flag
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What neighborhood is this? I would be so miserable too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:31 PM Flag
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I know. I don't know what to do. It's so sad that we don't see kids playing outside. When I was a kid during this time of year, I was playing in the leaves and going to my friend's honuses on my block. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:33 PM Flag
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Where are you? Scarsdale? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:31 PM Flag
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No. But don't want to say. It's not the wealthiest, but it's up there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:32 PM Flag
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Why? You're not going to be outed just by the TOWN you're from. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:41 PM Flag
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Chatham NJ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:45 PM Flag
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You realize that most people in Scarsdale send their kids to the public school, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:39 PM Flag
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Wasn't there an article in he NYtimes about how the gap between rich kids and poor kids is wider than ever?? Wealthy parents are going above and beyond to make sure their kids are getting even more than the best education possible. It's their everything. I don't know if it's actually good for the kids, though. Will it backfire? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:30 PM Flag
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Jesus, where is this? Tell us as a PSA, please! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:31 PM Flag
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This is what happens in all wealthy areas. Not shocking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:34 PM Flag
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Totally disagree. This is extreme. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:35 PM Flag
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Extreme? No kids play outside, they're overscheduled and parents are obsessed about private schools? This is not abnormal today, especially on UB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:38 PM Flag
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I think these are the type of people you notice right away because they're annoying, but once you dig into a community you find people on your own wavelength. The wealthy areas I know have all sorts of families in them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:41 PM Flag
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I live in an upper middle class neighborhood, and it's the same. I never even knew there were kids on our street until they all came out on Halloween last year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:34 PM Flag
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OP: how do you deal? Are your kids in a lot of activities too? Did you make friends elsewhere? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:36 PM Flag
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OMG! What a nightmare! Move! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:38 PM Flag
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OP: I wish. I don't know where to move to. Any ideas of lowkey towns with good schools close to the city?? Hard to find. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:39 PM Flag
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Hard to advise what might be "lowkey" since you won't say what your current town is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:42 PM Flag
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Chatham, NJ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:45 PM Flag
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Bronxville [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:40 PM Flag
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Still snobby. All the towns with good public schools outside of the city are snobby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:43 PM Flag
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Larchmont? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 06:01 PM Flag
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Can you plan a get-together? Maybe you can get the ball rolling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:42 PM Flag
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I live in lower Manhattan, and this is seriously why we will never leave. I have more of a community than I ever imagined. Can you maybe be someone who brings people together? Have a pot luck, let the kids play. Just do the laid back thing and people will self select. Fwiw, my sister lives in a VERY wealthy suburb,and has managed to creat a true community, so I think it is less the town than the people and the approach. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:42 PM Flag
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OP: I hope so. There are a couple homes for sale. Hoping that young families move in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:46 PM Flag
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I live on the UES and it sounds a much saner place to live. Go figure :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:43 PM Flag
[ - ] I am in a rut, I have a very good relationship with DH and wonderful DCs, but my work is not going well. Not working is not yet an option and it's smarter for me to stay in the position I'm in than to go through the stress of trying to find a new one. The problem is that I'm miserable and don't like or trust my boss, for good reason. How can I navigate this? I want to stick it out because it's important for my family, but I can barely look my boss in the eye and it's stressing me out. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:26 PM Flag
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Oh I feel for you. I am in a similar situation. The role I am in now is extremely high stress too. I am looking to switch jobs internally. I would love to leave but can't get my act together or get motivated to look outside. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:59 PM Flag
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How do you keep going? I'm so unhappy, and not usually like this. My career has always been a big part of my life so it's hard not to be down about it. I hope you find something fabulous! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:59 PM Flag
[ - ] past SHSAT takers: how far ahead of the test time did your child get to the testing location? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 10.24.14, 05:24 PM Flag
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1hr ahead for us. There was a huge long line forming at outside the school, and kids try to find their friends and chat a little before going in. It calms them down when arriving early. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:42 PM Flag
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thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:44 PM Flag
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No reason to arrive this early. 30 min is plenty. If there is a long line outside of the school, they won't start test until every last student gets in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.24.14, 05:52 PM Flag
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