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[ - ] DH here and needing an outside female perspective. I'm not super close to my younger half-sister (long story, basically dad walked out and started a new family) but for some reason I was invited to her wedding and her fiance's bachelor party. Bachelor party was last weekend and long story short it was unbeknownst to me a "hookers and blow" type of party that I left from early, but I stayed long enough to see fiance having sex with one of the prostitutes. Wife says I should tell my sister. While I do think she should know what her fiance is doing behind her back (no way she knows about and condones this) I also think she could accuse me of making it up. Or worse, if she marries this guy despite his cheating (from the party I saw that he runs with a crowd of dudes who all cheat on their wives) she will hate me for knowing her life isn't perfect and that she is married to a cheater. Should I just keep this to myself? If you were my sister, would you want to know? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 07:24 PM Flag
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Go with your gut and just keep it to yourself. You're not close and this isn't going to make you closer. Tell your wife to get on board. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Thanks. I can't deal with the drama from the fallout. [ Reply | More ]
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What goes on tour stays on tour. MYOB. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Yeah, that is her fiance's rationale I'm sure. I think a few years into her marriage she will find out about some affairs and she can deal with it then. [ Reply | More ]
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Hi DH [ Reply | More ]
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SAY SOMETHING. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Okay I will hear you out. What should I say? Exact wording please because I have no idea how this conversation could even begin. [ Reply | More ]
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Tough situation - has the wedding already happened? If not, I think I would tell her, and accept it may be the end of your relationship. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: The wedding is still a few weeks away (not sure why so far out after the bachelor party but I'm not the party planning committee) so I have some time, but not much. I could live without having a relationship with her. [ Reply | More ]
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YES! [ Reply | More ]
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Wow. I was going to say that since you aren't close anyway, you should say something. I'm surprised at the previous responses. Think about it. You ARE her brother. If my sister or hypothetical brother didn't tell me, I would be devastated. I would hope that my ds would tell my dd this. How awful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 07:30 PM Flag
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This. And if she blames the messenger, you haven't lost a lot since you weren't close anyway. But it's the right thing to do. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I understand where you are coming from, but I didn't grow up with her. She is more like a cousin, a cousin that my mother and other siblings hate. I am the only one among my siblings who has any sort of relationship with her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 07:32 PM Flag
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Myob [ Reply | More ]
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A man has a hooker at a bachelor party, that's a first [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I didn't have any at mine and neither did my brother. It was just a drinking party. If you think it's the norm to have prostitutes then you married a cad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 07:34 PM Flag
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If it were my brother I would want him to tell me everything. Just tell her what you saw and say you want her to be informed, rest if up to her. [ Reply | More ]
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Maybe instead of you telling your sister about the party, tell her that you've learned beyond a doubt that her fiancé is a complete moron and she really shouldn't dilute her gene pool with sperm from such a f'ing idiot. Any man that invites his fiancée's brother to his bachelor party and then proceeds to have sex in front of said brother should not procreate. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Help! I am retired and watch my daughter's two children which I love, although juggling dropoff/pickup and naps is stressful. Things were about to get easier because older GC will be in K next year with a bus and younger GC is down to one nap. DD just announced she is expecting #3 and I am thrilled for them but nervous about juggling it all. I really truly love caring for my GC but I only had two children myself and cant imagine juggling 3. My DD has offered a mothers helper in the past but I feel uncomfortable having someone else in my home. DD has also offered to hire a part time nanny but I honestly dont feel comfortable with my GC cared for by a stranger which is part of why I like taking care of them myself. I wish they could hire someone else to do pickup/dropoff but my DD said that would be hard, and driving the kids is one of the things they are least comfortable having a stranger do. My DD is also prone to getting overwhelmed and stressed and says she wants to quit her job to SAH, but she's the breadwinner so they would have to move to make that work. I really don't want them to leave NY. I realize this is rambling, I'm just working through it all myself. Any advice generally? The pregnancy announcement caught me out of left field and I am still processing it all 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 07:23 PM Flag
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What do you actually want? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 07:33 PM Flag
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Stop trying to control everything. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Whats the fastest you ever rode a bicycle? Whats the farthest? Do you have a bad ass bicycle? How many gears? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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My dh did SF to LA. Don't recall the specifics though. [ Reply | More ]
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30 mph, 150 miles, yes, 12 [ Reply | More ]
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You eant to talk about bicycles? [ Reply | More ]
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Obviously she eants to [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I just finished Eat, Pray, Love. I thought it was entertaining and inspiring since it was true. Why so much UB hate? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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She is very self involved [ Reply | More ]
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I was over it by chapter 2. [ Reply | More ]
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She's a self-absorbed twit. [ Reply | More ]
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Eh, she's living a childfree writer's life. What's wrong with that? [ Reply | More ]
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Praying is stupid [ Reply | More ]
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I don't hate it, but the message of the book is, if your husband is nice but boring, you should dump him and instead have sex with foreign men [ Reply | More ]
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And that is a fine message for women who don't have kids. But when a woman in Manhattan with multiple kids decides to leave DH it hurts the kids. Think it through [ Reply | More ]
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Op: No, she left because she realized she didn't want to be a mother. I think she's still childfree, but remarried. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 07:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Why doesn't Hillary hit back at Bernie by pointing out that Bernie is a self hating Jew? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Bernie has routinely appointed violent anti Semites to key post and just named the well know exterminationist anti Semite Muslim Zogby to a crucial job [ Reply | More ]
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Because that would be stupid and bigoted and I don't think hHillary bends to that. [ Reply | More ]
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Most of the general public does not care, and in the Bernie demographic, this is probably a plus. [ Reply | More ]
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Has the Huffington post endorsed Hillary or Bernie? Plenty of dirt on Zogby in the Huff Po. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm sure that would go over well. [ Reply | More ]
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
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because Hillary doesn't mind that particular quality in him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 07:24 PM Flag
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I think Trump can win many of Bernie's supporters in the general election. The majority of Berine supporters are young whites that want the government to give them lots of free stuff. Trump points out that there is a logical upper limit to the quantity of free stuff the government can possibly give out, Trump simply wants to give none of it to illegal immigrants and all of it to citizens. This is a simple message and it worked in other countries to get Trump like candidates elected [ Reply | More ]
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Sanders will not shut up about how much he loves Denmark. Denmark gives free college, Denmark gives free health care. It is all Denmark all the time. [ Reply | More ]
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But Denmark is only able to give all this wonderful free stuff because Denmark told Muslims to stay away, Ask any Dane, there isn't the money to give stuff to Muslims and also to citizens [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I can't believe more married women don't have affairs. That husband you're hanging on to for dear life? Probably cheating or would cheat, if given the opportunity. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I don't have the time let alone the motivation. [ Reply | More ]
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Too tired to! Between work and small children, I would rather nap than chase another man. Last thing I need is another man's BS to deal with. [ Reply | More ]
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op: I hear you on the nap. Half the time, I just sleep with my OM. There's no time or emotional investment to put up with bullshit, and they make your husband's faults more tolerable. [ Reply | More ]
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Women are dumb. Especially middle-class women. They're really stupid. The end. [ Reply | More ]
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Maybe they do. All those men having affairs must be having them with someone. [ Reply | More ]
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I'd rather have great friends and a man on the side just for sex. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Finally finished A Little Life. Happy it is over. What should I read next that is just as good but not as traumatic? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I finished it months ago and have yet to find its equal. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Ugh I saw a maybe 3yo wearing Nike running shorts and a tank top. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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So? This is the kind of stuff my mom picks up in like TJ Maxx for my kids. [ Reply | More ]
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1) It's raining. 2) I hate kids in logos. [ Reply | More ]
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I hope you don't have boys because you will have a long road ahead of you if you hate logos. Boys like sports clothes and most of it has some sort of logo. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 All the local elementary boys dress head to toe in Under Armor. [ Reply | More ]
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So don't buy logo clothing for your kids. And stop worrying about other kids. [ Reply | More ]
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+100000000000 [ Reply | More ]
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Not sure where you are, but it stopped raining a while ago in midtown. And I don't love logos either, but like I said, some things we get as gifts, and I'm not going to turn down free play clothes. [ Reply | More ]
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What's wrong with that? [ Reply | More ]
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And? [ Reply | More ]
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bfd [ Reply | More ]
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Cute! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 07:26 PM Flag
[ - ] I've worked in marketing for a furniture manufacturer (think: Knoll, Cassina, Herman Miller) for the last 15 years but I have a technical design (undergrad + MFA in textile + product design) background. It's my passion. I've been designing a particular type of home product for the past few years. I believe this item has huge potential in terms of interior application(both residential and commercial) - this is something that definitely doesn't exist and I'm beginning to lay the foundation of launching my own line/business to fully bring it to market. I am confident in my design abilities but I've never tackled business operations before. I've started to craft a business plan but want to make sure I'm moving forward efficiently. Has anyone else started their own business? Any tips for early, EARLY stage entrepreneurship exploration? Anything you wish you had done differently? Looking for all perspectives, TIA! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Try to make some sales...test the market. [ Reply | More ]
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Broker here: It's a good path, but a new business will soak up as much capital as you can feed it, so try to go in with capital (ideally, a year's worth of living expenses for you, separate from the expenses in your business plan). Realize that the cost numbers your manufacturer sees might be based on volume buys, so pencil out your costs based on a being smaller purchaser. Factor in professional services (attorneys, accountant, insurance). Assume 40% of every revenue dollar you make will go to taxes (you're paying double FICA, among other things). Attempt to get a sense of the cyclicality of your industry so you know when the bad years are coming. Try to find a friend who will listen to your business struggles so the burden of emotional support doesn't all land on your spouse. Celebrate your small victories. GL! [ Reply | More ]
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Run your initial plan by a bank. They will tell you:1. To stuff it, you have nothing 2. You're on the right track, but need to rethink X or research Y, or 3. Open you a nice big credit line and say go for it. Running your business plan by a bank underwriter and getting thumbs up is a good indicator of whether you have something that can go. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Making your kids do stuff is futile; either they have motivation or they don't. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Nonsense. They have no understanding of time and would spend all day every day eating cookies and masturbating if you followed this. [ Reply | More ]
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Not quite. You can push them, while kids, to get better grades, aspire to a better college. That gives them real advantages they might not achieve on their own. What they do with them in later life is up to them, but there are meaningful things I can do as a parent now to help them. [ Reply | More ]
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How old are your kids. [ Reply | More ]
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I've heard a lot of people say that they wish that their parents had pushed them more academically or with extracurriculars when they were younger, rather than listening to them and giving up on things. Frequently, motivation grows with age. I'm not sure exactly what you have in mind when you posted this, so there may be something specific that you are referring to. But that's just my 2 cents. [ Reply | More ]
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Natural motivation and developing good habits are two different things. [ Reply | More ]
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Have you read Tiger Mom? [ Reply | More ]
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You sound like a lazy parent. [ Reply | More ]
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Agreed....I'm sort of on the other side -older kids -and some kids cannot be moved. [ Reply | More ]
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There is truth to what you say. I see it as my job to show them the way, what's necessary effort for appropriate reward. But then you have to let go and they decide how much of each they want/need [ Reply | More ]
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Hell, my toddler follows direction better than some of my employees, and she's a maniac :) [ Reply | More ]
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To some degree this is true but I also think that sometimes the stakes are too high to not get involved. I know people who were completely hands-off about college (kids went to expensive but mediocre private colleges and took out tons of loans, then dropped out without getting a degree) and in that case I think they made a mistake by not forcing the kids to make better decisions. [ Reply | More ]
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Older kids. They start to resent control and detect manipulation [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Spin off $ saving post; what things are WORTH spending on? 47 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Education [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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We value education but are big supports of public schools. [ Reply | More ]
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whoops meant to say "supporters" - yes, I can spell. [ Reply | More ]
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Nice vacations and saving for retirement [ Reply | More ]
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Good paper towels. Cheap ones are the worst. [ Reply | More ]
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My paper towels are made of terry cloth. [ Reply | More ]
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lol [ Reply | More ]
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This. I stopped using paper towels years ago. Such a waste of money and bad for the environment. [ Reply | More ]
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I still buy paper towels, but I use white washcloths that I buy by the 2 dozen from Costco for things like wiping down counters, etc. When they look grungy, they move to the garage. When they get really disgusting, then they go in the trash. The life cycle takes years. [ Reply | More ]
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Do you use it once for wiping and then toss it in the laundry? Because to me it's gross to use after wiping counter or spills. [ Reply | More ]
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If it's just water, it stays there until bed time and then goes in the laundry hamper. I try not to wipe up colored messes with washcloths. That's what paper towels are for. [ Reply | More ]
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I use the washcloths for everything and just wash them. If it's anything but water, they go to the hamper asap. [ Reply | More ]
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Please tell my dh this. Thanks in advance. He doesn't believe me and then buys the cheapo rolls with like two towels on them and blames me for using "too many paper towels." A minor thing but an annoyance! [ Reply | More ]
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I get Bounty select-a-size. Without changing or limiting my usage, I use way fewer paper towel rolls since switching. I basically use half a paper towel at a time. More $$ per roll, much lower cost in practice. [ Reply | More ]
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OR - same. Those are my favorite. We buy them in bulk. [ Reply | More ]
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I use these too but I buy the Scott brand. [ Reply | More ]
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In that vein, good garbage bags. So gross to take out the garbage and have the bag break. [ Reply | More ]
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Shoes and outerwear, within reason. [ Reply | More ]
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Bedsheets [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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Good prenup lawyer [ Reply | More ]
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Savings. Live WELL below your means, and save save save. The luxury of being able to choose how you live life post 40 - knowing you are financially secure, is beyond anything else. And in case you think I'm miserly - its more about not letting lifestyle creep - I loved life in my early 20s, but by my 40s I was spending multiples... keep it simple, enjoy the simple things, and then own your life. [ Reply | More ]
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This applies a thousand times more for end-of-life decisions, ime. We've seen three elderly relatives during their ultimate decline and death, and boy, having thousands of extra dollars available makes a HUGE difference when you want to choose whether to die at home, have help or change your spouse's diapers, hire an aide so you can actually go outside and drive somewhere. It's made me more miserly, and I was always a cheap bitch even before. [ Reply | More ]
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get long term care. [ Reply | More ]
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That could be a huge waste of money if you just die suddenly, from heart attack, stroke, etc [ Reply | More ]
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Real estate. [ Reply | More ]
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Flights to visit family/ grandparents. International travel with the kids. A good computer that fits your needs. I good sturdy couch that was Not Made In China. Housing that is close to your places of work (i.e. a short commute is worth spending money on). [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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oh brother. [ Reply | More ]
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Soft toilet paper [ Reply | More ]
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hi dh! [ Reply | More ]
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I buy the best stuff I possibly can while paying as little as I can. It's an art. [ Reply | More ]
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Any tips you can share on how to find your favorite deals? [ Reply | More ]
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It depends what I'm shopping for. For example, someone below posted about good glasses that flatter your face. DH needed new glasses. The frames at the optometrist were $600. I went on eBay. $150 for the EXACT same brand new frames. Had the optometrist make up the lenses and he saved hundreds of dollars. Similarly, I have eyeglass frames that retail for over $1,000. I bought the frames on eBay, baby. $99. [ Reply | More ]
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That is really cool, thanks! [ Reply | More ]
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It takes time, though. It's a poor person's pursuit. If you have lots of time np but no money, it works well. [ Reply | More ]
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LOL. I am a millionaire many times over, but I am not flushing hundreds of dollars down the toilet with each purchase. Money is money and I am hanging onto mine. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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np: And yet here you are on UB. I guess you're a poor person yourself. [ Reply | More ]
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good foundation [ Reply | More ]
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+1 Love my Laura Mercier tinted moisturizer. Would never switch to a cheaper brand [ Reply | More ]
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Good glasses that flatter your face. [ Reply | More ]
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Your health [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Wedding attire help? I'm deciding between two dresses for a wedding this weekend. I'm 5'4" 166 lbs (yes, fat) so imagine these two dresses on a hefty woman. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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The one on the left is bigger and might fit better? [ Reply | More ]
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lol [ Reply | More ]
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the one on the right maybe, but honestly i'm not feeling any of these. [ Reply | More ]
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Depends -- wedding indoor or outdoor? In a church? Do you need to be able to dance? [ Reply | More ]
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lol- hope i don't get in trouble for clicking on this at work! [ Reply | More ]
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+1000! Geez louise. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What are your go to stress-busters? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Running, going for a walk, taking a nap, wine, pot. Daily Lexapro. Ativan for panic attacks [ Reply | More ]
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How many years of Lexapro? I was on it once for a year and it worked but then it stopped [ Reply | More ]
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It's only been a few months but I feel so much more calm in general. Has stabilized my mood swings and anxiety. Zapped my libido though, that's the only downside. [ Reply | More ]
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np. libido and weight [ Reply | More ]
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You've got issues. [ Reply | More ]
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Yep. I'm human. [ Reply | More ]
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Italy [ Reply | More ]
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Soul Cycle. Ignore the press, etc. I just enjoy it. It works me hard for 45 mins, and I can lose myself in the music and exercise. Its my meditation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 06:57 PM Flag
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Totally agree. You don't realize you're working out because you're swept away in the music. Like going out dancing and not caring that your feet hurt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 06:59 PM Flag
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+ another [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 07:02 PM Flag
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+1 I prefer SLT, but it's the same thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 07:12 PM Flag
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Same, it is fun, I like the music and I get to zone out for 45 mins [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 07:13 PM Flag
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Knitting. Going to a movie in the theater. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 06:58 PM Flag
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A glass of wine while watching nonsense TV shows. Or good ones. Either or. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 06:59 PM Flag
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listening to a spa relaxation tape; meditation; deep breathing; watching funny cat videos [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 06:59 PM Flag
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Weed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 07:01 PM Flag
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Vodka. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 07:08 PM Flag
[ - ] Boss told me I should work from home sometimes (but not abuse the system). How often do you think would be acceptable? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 06:48 PM Flag
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Ask him/her [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 06:52 PM Flag
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1-2 times per week [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 06:52 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 06:55 PM Flag
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too much. start with 1. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 07:08 PM Flag
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Ask your boss. How often do you do it now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 06:53 PM Flag
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Never. I was thinking 2-3 times per month. Once a week is too much I think? I actually don't love workin from home but I guess it's good for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 07:18 PM Flag
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^^working [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 07:21 PM Flag
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np if they're offering, take it! Makes for a much better work/life balance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 07:24 PM Flag
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Depends totally on your work environment. He told you "should" - why, what was his intent? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 06:54 PM Flag
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To make my life easier - he knows I have kids and stay til 8pm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 07:24 PM Flag
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To make my life easier - he knows I have kids and stay til 8pm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 07:25 PM Flag
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1x every 2wks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 07:00 PM Flag
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×1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 07:03 PM Flag
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5 times per week [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 07:16 PM Flag
[ - ] Intriguing Problem: I had a long affair with a married man (no flames please). It is over, haven't spoken to him in about 6 months, haven't seen in several years. Ex has a very nice older brother who lives and works near me; he is quite nice and occasionally (like every few years), I have seen him and even had him help me with business projects. I have no idea if he knows about the affair but the brother knows that I know both of them (all in same industry.) So, now I have joined a dating site and brother is on it and has "liked" me and even sent a note. I know he likes me and I could probably like being with him but, a relationship with brother has disaster written all over it. (I could just see me going to a family wedding...NOT) Conversely, I don't want to hurt brother's feelings. Thoughts? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 06:44 PM Flag
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U really think it's a good idea to go out with your former affairs brother? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 06:46 PM Flag
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No no no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 06:47 PM Flag
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respond: "I think you are great. Given my past history with your brother, it doesn't make sense for us to explore anything further between us." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 06:49 PM Flag
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So, you think I should acknowledge the affair to brother? I think he knows, a few comments but nothing direct. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 06:51 PM Flag
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I don't see another way to not make it a rejection of him. I wouldn't go into additional detail re the relationship with his brother - just what I wrote, "given my past history" vague and then deflect. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 06:54 PM Flag
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you want to date a guy who knows you had an affair with his brother? you don't see something creepy with this situation? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 06:58 PM Flag
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He sounds creepy. He knows you in real life and doesn't ask you out, but he approaches you through a dating site? When he saw you were on there, why wouldn't he just talk to you in real life and ask you on a date? Anyway, other than that, disaster -- you'll get married and then during your very first argument he'll throw in your face what a cheap whore you are, and then what? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 06:50 PM Flag
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He is a nice guy but I probably wouldn't marry him, just a good friend to have. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 06:59 PM Flag
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fake. and a copy of a previous fake! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 06:55 PM Flag
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op - not a fake, sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 06:58 PM Flag
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op: I've answered nothing; ignored it all. You are right, poster above, he knows my numbers and where I live. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 07:03 PM Flag
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you should date him and get an invite to a family gathering where former affair partner is attending. then get really drunk and start telling stories about the craziest places you had sex with former affair partner. make sure to wear a low cut dress and black nail polish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 07:05 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 07:05 PM Flag
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Great idea. Will wear all the gorgeous jewelry former affair gave me and a very low cut dress. Great thought...NOT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 07:20 PM Flag
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Ignore it. It would be very weird if you two dated. He'll survive if his feelings get hurt. Nothing to be gained by addressing this in any way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.24.16, 07:10 PM Flag
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