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[ - ] I've noticed that so many moms in my part of Brooklyn (brownstone Brooklyn) are trying so hard to be wealthy bohemians. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:16 PM Flag
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In what way? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:17 PM Flag
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i want to know too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:17 PM Flag
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can one be a bohemian in a place with very expensive housing? seems to me that they contradict each other. [ Reply | More ]
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Well, you deal with that and I have to deal with the some of the IQ-deficient people in my neck of Brooklyn. Not all of them are bad, but like anywhere, you're going to have trade-offs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:17 PM Flag
[ - ] What would you prefer: a smaller apartment with a better layout or a larger apartment with a worse layout? Better layout has a foyer and a separate kitchen; worse layout has no foyer, you walk right into a tiny kitchen attached to a living room. The sf difference is about 115 sf. Both apts are 2bd / 2bth, same price. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:13 PM Flag
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Better layout. That isn't too much of a space difference to be worth it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:14 PM Flag
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this!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:15 PM Flag
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Better layout by far [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:15 PM Flag
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Smaller with better layout. Our last apt had a great layout/flow and everyone thought it was much bigger than it actually was. I think it's because good layout makes the space so much more usable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:15 PM Flag
[ - ] Name poll - Lark 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:08 PM Flag
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I prefer Wren (nn Birdie) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:12 PM Flag
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We considered it for our second kid... and then vetoed it because it sounded like such a second-kid name. A little too light/frivolous/offbeat, if that makes any sense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:12 PM Flag
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Sounds trendy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:16 PM Flag
[ - ] I'd like some tips for improving my ability to make small talk. Any tips from those of you who have the gift of gab? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:07 PM Flag
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Ask questions about the other person - get them to talk more than you talk. People LOVE to talk about themselves, and everyone will think you are "such a sweetheart!!!" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:08 PM Flag
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OP - Good advice, thanks! Do you ever worry about asking the wrong question? I'm a fairly private person, so I think I'm a little paranoid about people thinking I'm being nosy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:14 PM Flag
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ugh I hate talking about myself and people who constantly question! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:16 PM Flag
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Watching. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:14 PM Flag
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Find something you have in common and go from there. With the moms at my kids school, I ask so how's school going for Susie. how's she liking her teacher? etc etc etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:14 PM Flag
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Agree with above. Just keep a list of questions to ask in mind and the conversation will usually flow! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:17 PM Flag
[ - ] Thinking about calling a guy I broke up with over a year ago. Just a friendly call. Was thinking about him. He's finishing up a graduate program soon. Should I? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 02.27.15, 03:04 PM Flag
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What do you want out of it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:05 PM Flag
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What's your agenda? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:05 PM Flag
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OP: Honestly, just checking in. I helped him with his essays, etc. for the grad program. Just want to see how he is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:05 PM Flag
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How was the break up? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:07 PM Flag
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Bad, but we were both to blame and it was extremely bad timing for me. It's been over a year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:08 PM Flag
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So you want to satisfy your curiosity. Is it worth potential drama? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:08 PM Flag
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OP: He's not the drama type. We broke up because he had to choose between me another woman who had her act together a little more. They broke up months ago and I've always regretted how things ended with us. He was a good guy. We both said nasty things to each other, but I wouldn't want the bad blood to continue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:11 PM Flag
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HELL NOOOOO! He chose another woman. That should be enough to close that door. Good Riddance. NEXT! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:17 PM Flag
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Always regret this. Always anticlimactic let down. I have a very rich guy I went out on a few dates with way back when. He wasn't loaded then. I'm loaded now, too. And I want to just write him an email (was on good terms for years and he always took my calls very gladly) and say congrats! Yet, I hesitate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:09 PM Flag
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NOOOO [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Why aren't there more ads on here? I can't figure out UB. It seems like a gold mine to me yet doesn't seem to be monetized. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:57 PM Flag
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I know, it seems like some sort of trap, doesn't it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:00 PM Flag
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Advertising professional here: It is not a gold mine. I've never looked into buying on UB, so I don't know the exact stats, but I'm guessing there are many, many fewer people on here than we imagine, and the people who are on here tend to be repeat viewers- advertisers want lots of unique views, not a many repeat views. Also, I'm not sure how this would work on UB, but there are problems with other anonymous media. For example, SnapChat is trying to sell ad space right now and it's running into huge hurdles because it won't release it's user demographics. Even though we're pretty sure it skews young, ads without exact demos are pretty useless to advertisers. Same goes here- even though we could probably assume our target here is a UMC/MC female in her 30s or 40s in an urban area, if there is no way to verify that, it's useless to advertisers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:17 PM Flag
[ - ] Reasonably affordable place to take boys (10 yo and 3 yo) for a warm vacation next winter? We're in NYC. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:55 PM Flag
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the dominican republic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:58 PM Flag
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nicaragua or belize [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:02 PM Flag
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Florida or mexico. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:02 PM Flag
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Cruise book now and it will be cheaper [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:05 PM Flag
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Turks & Caicos was cheaper than I expected it to be. Very nice beaches, too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:08 PM Flag
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Can you recommend a resort? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:11 PM Flag
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np- check out the Gansevoort (sp?) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:15 PM Flag
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PR or Tulum [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:17 PM Flag
[ - ] What is the worst thing about your in-laws? What is the best? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:53 PM Flag
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That they exclusively socialize only with their children and grandchildren and have no other friends. Holidays, vacations, weekends, any game on television in any sport, if it's a Tuesday night or if it's raining or the sun is shining, they want everyone at their home. Everyone hears from them every single day by phone or text or email. It's both the best thing and the worst thing about them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:58 PM Flag
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Sort of the same for me, sigh. Plus they have a boat and want to capture everyone on board! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:59 PM Flag
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lol you guys are fun [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:05 PM Flag
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I made a point of keeping away from guys who had this type of family when I was dating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:02 PM Flag
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smart! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:05 PM Flag
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OR, interestingly, I made a point of seeking them out, since I grew up with a family spread to the far corners, my sibs and I were all sent to boarding school and I didn't live with either of my divorced parents from the age of 14 on. I liked the stability of this type of close family unit. But it is not my default and I do have to excuse myself a lot because I need my space. I joke about it. They're very kind, but the pressure to constantly socialize with the family gets to be a bit much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:06 PM Flag
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NO!!! how far away from them do you live? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:05 PM Flag
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two miles. All my sisters and brothers in law live nearby; our kids are all in school together. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:10 PM Flag
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Best:they really care and are involved. Worst: see best and I would rather they weren't and just left us be [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:59 PM Flag
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I really hope my DSs don't marry someone like you... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:06 PM Flag
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Me too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:07 PM Flag
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wait, why? i understand what she's saying. both sets of grandparents live too far away to be involved in our lives, but i get that it could turn into a drag. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:09 PM Flag
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I like the idea of my DCs growing up in a warm, involved family. I don't think my DH's family is a drag. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:12 PM Flag
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I would hope my future DIL was appreciative, and even if was at times a drag, not the worst thing about us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:12 PM Flag
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i know!!! i'm like: "guys, i'm independent, even if in trouble i wouldn't ask you for help, so please stop burdening me with your other needy kids". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:07 PM Flag
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That they are completely uninvolved in our lives; that they are completely uninvolved in our lives [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:00 PM Flag
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i'd take it any day if that includes not having to listen to how involved they are with other family members. tough to tell the in-laws: "sorry, i don't really care" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:07 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:08 PM Flag
[ - ] I need boyfriend jeans. Any sales happening right now in the city? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:51 PM Flag
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old navy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:54 PM Flag
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Thank you, Doctor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:57 PM Flag
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op. That wasn't me. Thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:03 PM Flag
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It was a reference to an Old Navy commercial running in heavy rotation currently featuring Julia Louis Dreyfus as a psychologist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:12 PM Flag
[ - ] S/O- On the spectrum of helicopter mom vs lord of the flies mom, I'm definitely the former, and proud of it. Flame away. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:48 PM Flag
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I was a helicopter with my older ones, I'm losing the energy to keep it up with my youngers. I think my standards are falling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:52 PM Flag
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+10000 and you know what? My younger dcs are more motivated and self sufficient. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:01 PM Flag
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Ditto [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:59 PM Flag
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I'm an interesting combination. I tend to be tiger ish with homework and lot of the flies socially [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:06 PM Flag
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Huh my mom was the opposite. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:10 PM Flag
[ - ] Runners need to watch this - it's exactly what I think of when I see people pounding out their miles instead of spending time at home with their families. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:46 PM Flag
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you do realize its a joke right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:48 PM Flag
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Eh.... is it? It's a pretty accurate description of the runners I know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:51 PM Flag
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Come on. Check out the rest of the site. I love Jim Anchower and Smoove B. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:58 PM Flag
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Yeah dude, I know what the Onion is. The point of satire is that it's usually true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:01 PM Flag
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Yes, I didn't catch the sarcasm or the implied rhetorical question in your post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:10 PM Flag
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This is hilarious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:52 PM Flag
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i agree. very clever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:01 PM Flag
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ITA and I am a "wannabe runner" (just run about 10 miles per week) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone else know someone who has the habit of letting their eyes wander over your body while you're talking? This is just a good mom friend but she just came by to pick something up, and we chatted for 10 or 15 minutes, and while talking she's looking at my chest and my mid section as if trying to assess if I've gained weight or what part of my body is clothes and what part is me. She's nice enough but it always makes me feel so awkward. She's the only one who does it, and it's not like she's particularly skinny or fat herself, and neither am I. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:46 PM Flag
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I have a british friend who does this. She's just fairly blunt. She'll come right out and say it looks like you've been putting on a little weight, what are you eating lately? Or she'll mention that she looked at my car in the driveway and I should get it washed soon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:47 PM Flag
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Yes some women do this. Most do it when you aren't looking. I always feel eyes on me. I don't mean that it's done to me a lot I just mean I can always feel it. I will some times check other women out usually it's if I love what they are wearing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:48 PM Flag
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+1 yup [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:08 PM Flag
[ - ] For what kind of HHI do you think it reasonable/not extravagant to take a vacation to Disney World from NYC for a family of 4 every year? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:42 PM Flag
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Why would I think about this? Any income where you can pay all your bills and still go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:43 PM Flag
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I can imagine going to Disney World every year if somebody paid me! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:43 PM Flag
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^ can't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:55 PM Flag
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Disney is available at a lot of different price points. It's designed that way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:44 PM Flag
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just went for Christmas, ds is 6 and it was his 2nd time. my ds decided that he is done with it. we had fun, but it's more geared towards very little kids and actually, mostly towards girls. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:53 PM Flag
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Once is enough [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Anyone watch Jon Stewart last night? Really funny bit about how millionaires feel poor with so many billionaires. It reminded me of UB. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:33 PM Flag
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I don't feel poor. Don't feel particularly rich until I think about it really hard, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:59 PM Flag
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Love JS. Will miss him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:00 PM Flag
[ - ] So does anybody believe lupita nyongo's dress was stolen? 41 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:31 PM Flag
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if she says so, yes. i really like her, she seems to be a great person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:33 PM Flag
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Eh - manipulator, wise pr [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:07 PM Flag
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you know her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:10 PM Flag
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What's the story? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:34 PM Flag
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She says she left the dress hanging in her closet for like 12 hours and left the room to be cleaned by housekeeping, etc and surprise, it was stolen. Why would someone leave a $150k dress on loan in her hotel room all day? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:49 PM Flag
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Was she supposed to have it with her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:02 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:08 PM Flag
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No idea. But in no way would I leave it unlocked in my closet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:11 PM Flag
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The op is suggesting that different racial groups have different propensity to steal. Banned and flagged [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:34 PM Flag
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General Topics 02.27.15, 02:35 PM Flag
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I did not get that from this post. Me thinks you are paranoid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:36 PM Flag
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I love how you think YOU can ban someone!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:38 PM Flag
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lol-this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:39 PM Flag
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Little sensitive aren't we?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:39 PM Flag
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It would be an odd thing to fabricate. No pun intended. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:34 PM Flag
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Yes. Pearls are very much in demand in Asia. My guess is that dress is on the Asian Black Market. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:35 PM Flag
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Is that a double-racist comment? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:36 PM Flag
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No way. Those pearls are virtually worthless in Asia. The value of that dress is the dress. The craftsmanship and provenance. No one is cutting off those pearls to resell them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:42 PM Flag
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Maybe if they were even 3mm. These pearls were dincus. Sold separately with no Calvin Klein label, worthless, maybe $600. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:46 PM Flag
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Are you insinuating she kept it and reported it stolen? I don't think so. As an aside, can you imagine what that dress weighs? Like moving gold bars. Heavy! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:35 PM Flag
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Yes, she kept it. Why would you leave a $150k dress in your hotel room unsecured? I don't even leave my iPad in a hotel room. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:44 PM Flag
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She can never wear it, sell it, show anyone. The only reason for her to be involved is publicity stunt [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:09 PM Flag
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I think since the dress can't be worn again, they went for the insurance money and claimed it was stolen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:38 PM Flag
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Who is they? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:43 PM Flag
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Who is 'they'. It's not like Lupita is looking for ways to makes extra cash on the side. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:43 PM Flag
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I think someone stole it and took it apart to sell the pearls individually. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:43 PM Flag
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I believe it was stolen - huge coincidence, I had a dress stolen at a hotel last weekend too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:43 PM Flag
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Was it worth $150k? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:47 PM Flag
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Haha, no but it was from Rent the Runway and the package had earrings and a bracelet in it too, so it was kind of a big deal. It might as well have been $150K. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:48 PM Flag
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Are you like seriously mentally challenged? Why would you leave that in your hotel room unlocked? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:51 PM Flag
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Uh, I didn't. I gave it to the business center to mail out and the girl took it. It was all on video. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:57 PM Flag
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That's obviously different. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:04 PM Flag
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Obviously, but I just thought it was a funny coincidence. It's been a fucking nightmare, btw. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:04 PM Flag
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Is the hotel taking responsibility? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:11 PM Flag
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It does beg the question of how many people could have possibly had access to and time to steal the thing. I mean, it should take 35 seconds to figure out who took it. It's not like the dress was stored in public. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:45 PM Flag
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Agreed. There are cameras all over hotels. Look for the person leaving her room with a heavy suitcase or duffel bag. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:50 PM Flag
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Exactly. Key cards are a wonderful thing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:10 PM Flag
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Yes, of course. Her career is taking off and she has lucrative endorsement contracts (I think she has Lancome?). She's not some Lindsey Lohan type. It's really up to the designers who lend these garments and jewelry to ensure that they are properly insured and protected. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:04 PM Flag
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Her career is taking off? What other movie has she been in? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:12 PM Flag
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np: only the star wars reboot, which should make some $$$. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:15 PM Flag
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I don't think she personally took it - that would be kind of weird, because what's she going to do with it? I think one of her people took it and she's covering for them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:06 PM Flag
[ - ] There's mental disease and dependency on my dh's side of the family. What I've notice is that my own parents are much better towards my dh than his own parents given that they seem all-consumed with their dependent kids. Is this normal? My parents are even more proud of my dh than his own parents are. It's strange for me to witness this. 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:31 PM Flag
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My parents damn live my dh whereas my mil is sort of a flat person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:32 PM Flag
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guess that's a blessing for our dh then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:44 PM Flag
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Sounds normal if your side has better mental health. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:33 PM Flag
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thanks! it's such a strange feeling to see that my own parents care about my dh as a person more than his own parents. i always took for granted that parents are the ones caring about their kids the most. they seem to remember him only when they want to complain about the other siblings or ask for help with the dependent siblings (who are into meth addiction, alcoholism and overall bad decision making). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:38 PM Flag
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can I ask you something? he is the only one having a real job, it's demanding. at a university, but he is not a professor (research center director, program manager). his own mother thinks he has a "paper-pushing" job and prefers to tell strangers even in front of us, that he is a tenured professor in a status seeking embarrassing way. to me, that's abusive. my parents would never lie like that to others nor pretend we are something we aren't. it's as if being the only sibling who pays his own bills isn't good enough for them. so strange! but i've never asked her to stop it either. i'm always in surprise mode when this happens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:42 PM Flag
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Clearly, you know you have healthier parents. Why dwell on this? Just be kind to your DH and don't make him feel bad that is parents are crazy, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:46 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:50 PM Flag
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thanks, you are right. the least he is exposed to that, the better. i should figure out how to expose him more to my parents (they live abroad). will try to make sure we get an annual trip done. even if that costs us an arm and a leg. that way he gets to feel appreciated. he keeps on telling me how special it was for him that my father organized activities just with him. my dh is so easy to please! maybe being that low maintenance among very high-maintenance siblings is what allows my in-laws to shortchange him at every turn and think that nobody notices it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:59 PM Flag
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That is very strange (and deceitful) but if they're all crazy folk, what can you do. Does it bother your DH? I think your strategy of ignoring is fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:47 PM Flag
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i asked him about it but only once. and it was clear that he preferred for me not to bring it up. he was like: "yes, my mother is very shallow". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:01 PM Flag
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The joke our family is that in a divorce, my parents would choose DH over me. They love the guy. Rightfully so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:44 PM Flag
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Awwww! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:50 PM Flag
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LOVE THIS!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:01 PM Flag
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Sounds like you're angling to spend less time with your husband's family since "you know, they really don't treat you well, and my family is so great to you, so why don't we just spend more time with my parents?" BTW, I'm in a similar position in that I have mental illness all over my family and my wife doesn't, and I can tell you it's kind of shitty when she holds it against me. It sounds like that's what you're doing too - your husband can't control the way he was brought up, and it's not cool for you to blame him for it. [ Reply | More ]
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"it's kind of shitty when she holds it against me" to me, my dh is the victim of his family craziness. i'm more into sharing my siblings with him so that he gets to have good siblings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:03 PM Flag
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Ew. Fucking gross. You don't need to "save him" from his family. The more you post the more I realize that really all you're doing is setting the stage for making him move back to your country to be near your parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:07 PM Flag
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really? he lived abroad for years and he enjoys it. but before we got married. think we have at least a decade more in NYC because of his job. i'm 100% ok with it. he wants to retire abroad, but my country of origin isn't his 1st pick. he has higher standards than i do (i'm 3rd world country, adaptable to anything and need little to be ok), so he will do the "picking the place". is your wife thinking about taking you to her home country? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:13 PM Flag
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"my country of origin isn't his 1st pick" and let me add: i totally get it. he is into beautiful places with great culture, and mine isn't that kind. i don't dislike my country of origin, but it's not a dream destination. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:16 PM Flag
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Yes, my mom loves dh. His mom went on a rant on mother day about how he was the least accomplished person in the family blah blah blah. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:01 PM Flag
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Oh and 60 SIL is a highly accomplished professionally and highly emotionally co-dependent with 90 yo mama. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:02 PM Flag
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LOL!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:04 PM Flag
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WTF? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:03 PM Flag
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Yep, she went for about 30 minutes. It was a bit of a turning point for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:13 PM Flag
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wait, i'd have stopped her right away. do you regret not doing it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:14 PM Flag
[ - ] WWYD? I had kids later in life. I worked FT/60 hours a week until I was 45. Then quit to stay home with my young kids. They are now 10/12 and I am 52. I have been trying to get ft work although I'll miss summers with the kids. Financially I don't have to work. Dh does well and I have lots of savings. Would you just volunteer or keep hoping you will get hired? I'm the type that needs to work. 34 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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If I didn't have to work and could keep summers free I would [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:31 PM Flag
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np: This is what stops me too. I wouldn't mind working during the school year but don't want to give up those summers! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:33 PM Flag
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same here! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:35 PM Flag
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Any interest in fundraising? Our willingness to take a receptionist type job? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:31 PM Flag
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op here: My skill set is not fundraising. I'm a bit on the shy side. No I would not want to be a receptionist. Not that there is anything wrong with that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:36 PM Flag
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Would you like to work in a library? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:38 PM Flag
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If you needed to work, his did you manage the last 7 years? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:34 PM Flag
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op again: What I posted is that I do not have to work. I like to work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:37 PM Flag
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You said you're the for of person who NEEDS to work. Yet you managed to not for 7 years and survive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:00 PM Flag
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Temp work? Try an agency, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:35 PM Flag
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VOLUNTEER!!! that's what i'm doing. if it's for long-term public policy improvement even better. consider it a favor you do for the next generation. sometimes, the best impacts and best legacy we can give are priceless. be careful picking your causes, if they go towards benefiting kids and the young, even better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:35 PM Flag
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op here: That is what I want to do. How did you find it? I do volunteer but it ends up being short term or events. I would very much like a volunteer position that was for a good cause. Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:39 PM Flag
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what about mentoring? JCC, Promise Project, etc so many volunteering opportunities out there to help children that are struggling and can't financially afford help [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:48 PM Flag
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Nonprofit person here: the kind of volunteer position you want is probably not going to be posted anywhere. You will need to outreach to an organization, offer your services, and work with them to define a unique role for yourself. If you're interested in policy, I might google "issue coalition state" (ex: "cancer coalition new york") and see what kind of organizations you find. Good luck, nonprofits need people like you!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:50 PM Flag
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I work with nonprofits and there is a real need for people like you to serve on boards. If you work with a small to medium sized non-profit organization, you will be a godsend and can make a real difference. Any of my clients would kiss your feet! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:35 PM Flag
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What do people do on boards (besides get solicited for donations)? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:39 PM Flag
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Yes, there is often a give/get, but for small organizations it isn't high. Also, people really need help, so if that is your contribution, most orgs will make allowances. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:43 PM Flag
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What types of things do board members do on behalf of the organization? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:47 PM Flag
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It depends n your skills. When I am matching people, I try to put them with groups that take advantage of what they do. You can help with budgeting, writing policies, going with staff to meetings with funders, being an "ambassador" at cocktail parties, reviewing employee materials and handbooks, planning events. Even just helping to give sound business advice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:50 PM Flag
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^^ Are you in the city? If you tell me your interests I can probably name a few organizations. Arts? Health? Education? Community development? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:52 PM Flag
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Tell me where. Sounds perfect. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:39 PM Flag
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I would start with Bridgespan, which has board listings. There is also boardsource. You can be very specific about what your interests are and what you want to give in terms of time and energy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:44 PM Flag
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Sometimes you can also find free or cheap "board prep" programs offered by local nonprofit orgs. These can also help you connect to smaller orgs that you might not already know about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:52 PM Flag
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any desire to go back to school? I have this fantasy of being a reading specialist at a school when I retire. I might even do on a volunteer basis. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:40 PM Flag
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np: That's nice! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:42 PM Flag
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My sister was in your position. She decided to create a project of her own and then volunteer her time and services. She picked something useful to teach junior high/high school students as kind of an extra curricular type deal. She then offered that up to schools. So she chooses her schedule and how much she works...and only during the school year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:42 PM Flag
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np: Nice! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:48 PM Flag
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Sounds like you are very business savvy, you should volunteer for a nonprofit, many foundations could use more volunteers like you. Find a charity you believe in and you will make a difference and set a great example for your kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:45 PM Flag
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Stop it with this shit. No, "foundations" don't need retired SAHMs who USED to work in totally unrelated industries to provide them with "business savvy." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:03 PM Flag
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Volunteer doing something you love. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:54 PM Flag
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or work for a mission driven organization. honestly, i wouldnt fully volunteer b/c i think it's harder to define your role. i'd find a mission driven place that you care about and get a low paid position with a real job description and reason to exist. (btw, that's my dream of a second career...about half way to the net worth i need to get there!) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:57 PM Flag
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I am you. Forget trying to find another job. It's virtually impossible at our age. Volunteer doing something fun. I do wildlife rescue/rehabilitation work. No, I don't use my finance education or experience, but I can indulge my inner forest ranger/zoologist/veterinarian. The road not taken. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:07 PM Flag
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+1 I started a hobby type business. No job is happening now. - 48 with kids 10 and 14, out of job market for 5 yrs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:14 PM Flag
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I wouldn't work. I'm type A but if we won the lottery, no way would I work [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Recommendations for a non-fiction book for a 11-year old boy (reading level Z)? He likes history (in particular wars) and sports (in particular baseball). 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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Him Murphy has great stuff. I also give my son adult stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:34 PM Flag
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What about the Horrible Histories series? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:36 PM Flag
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Thanks, but already has those. Looking for a longer book he needs to read for school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:39 PM Flag
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The young adult version of Unbroken [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:40 PM Flag
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My 11 yr DS just read and really enjoyed the regular version of Unbroken (I didn't know there was a YA version). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:02 PM Flag
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My ds read the regular one too. Skip ya [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 03:13 PM Flag
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Young adult version of Mariano Rivera's biography The Closer, Derek Jeter's new book The Contract [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:42 PM Flag
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i agree with this. my son loved the jeter book. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:53 PM Flag
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"All Quiet on the Western Front" is historical fiction, but he would probably enjoy it. Consider Bruce Catton's books about the Civil War, which are wonderful reads. David Howarth also wrote very readable non-fiction, such as "1066 - The Year of the Conquest" and "Waterloo - Day of Battle." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:42 PM Flag
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Into Thin Air [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:43 PM Flag
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the greatest generation? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:47 PM Flag
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1776 by McCullough? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:49 PM Flag
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roald dahl wrote a book about being a fighter pilot in ww2. i forget the name but it's googlable. mine likes biographies (who was george washington, etc). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:54 PM Flag
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Boy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:55 PM Flag
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fwiw, my 10yo loves history, wars and sports and he loved huck finn, call of the wild and swiss family robinson. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.27.15, 02:56 PM Flag
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