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I would probably had said something rude to him, I do 't think I would be able to hold it in if someone told me they were going to do something that awful. To me anyone that does that for fun is a sick individual [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:58 PM Flag

I would be shocked as well. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:53 PM Flag

oh come on Zebras are not humans. Grow up. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:53 PM Flag

Maybe he was messing with you? Let's hope so. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:55 PM Flag

[ - ] S/O the party post: When DC was in 1st grade, we did a small birthday party -- less than a third of the grade, per school guidelines. It was DC's choice and I was fine with that -- in fact, it was a relief given some other family stress at the time. The mom of another DC who was not on our guest list (and who had invited whole class to that DC's party) has barely spoken to me since, and it's been six years. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:49 PM Flag

Oh well, maybe she just doesn't like u [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:47 PM Flag

op - guess so! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:58 PM Flag

Maybe her kid was very hurt and she just doesn't want to be chummy with you--or maybe she just doesn't like you and party had nothing to do with it. Your prerogative to not invite her kid her prerogative not to chat with you. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:54 PM Flag

She probably wouldn't be speaking to you anyway. People like that take offense at lots of things, and I guarantee that you would have done something else to piss her off and warrant her shunning. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:54 PM Flag

The whole birthday party thing is seriously annoying. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:55 PM Flag

Maybe her kid was hurt. who knows ? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:58 PM Flag

lol [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:53 PM Flag

Good for you, for having a small birthday party though. I have often said that when my dcs get to be school age, I'm not having any ridiculous parties. They can have pizza and musical chairs. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:54 PM Flag

All the kids care about are seeing their friends and unwrapping presents, anyway. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:55 PM Flag

[ - ] Really? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:41 PM Flag

http://atlanta.cbslocal.com/2013/05/18/cdc-1-in-5-us-children-may-have-mental-disorder/ [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:41 PM Flag

[ - ] I just bought a new house with a mortgage. Previously we had rented. Previous to rental had mortgage on NYC coop. How will the new mortgage affect my credit score? We closed in march but I still don't see it listed on my credit report. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:39 PM Flag

what does it matter? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:35 PM Flag

I want to know what's going to happen to my credit scores, since I'd like to get a home equity loan and interest rates range dramatically based on credit score. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:43 PM Flag

This is not a useful response to the question. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:45 PM Flag

[ - ] Should I try to get a job at a university (maybe admin?) in the hopes that it will help with tuition for my 3 dcs in 5-8 years? Currently working 2 days a week, obviously would have to be willing to work FT, and I realize the odds of getting such a job are beyond slim. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:37 PM Flag

Why not? Wish I had thought of that 10 years ago. But realize that many colleges may be removing that benefit soon. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:52 PM Flag

[ - ] Went on a fist date. Not sure if I like the guy but he leads asked me out again. Not sure if I should go 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:34 PM Flag

Depends, how did his fist feel inside of you the first time? ;) [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:37 PM Flag

Do you believe it has to be love at first sight or no deal? Relationships take time to develop. You've spent what, 4 hours with the guy? Of course you aren't sure. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:55 PM Flag

[ - ] Does your husband wear a wedding ring? Notice that a couple married guys at work don't. Is that common? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:32 PM Flag

they wear them at home! mistress here and know the tricks [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:34 PM Flag

My dh works construction....he wears no jewelry. Wears his weddings band on the weekends [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:41 PM Flag

how much he makes ? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:39 PM Flag

rude [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:47 PM Flag

Are there husbands today who just choose not to? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:36 PM Flag

Yup [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:43 PM Flag

mine does, I don't! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:37 PM Flag

My husband does. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:39 PM Flag

Sometimes it's a generational or cultural thing (or just whatever their dad did); I know my dad, devout Catholic Italian, never wore one and many men in our family didn't. It was important to me that DH wear one and he does; at first he didn't like jewelry on his finger, but he got used to it. Still leaves it off for work sometimes (we own a catering company, doesn't wear it if he's in the kitchen that day). [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:45 PM Flag

Yep. He lost the first one before our first anniversary (I was with him when it fell off his too skinny finger into the Andaman Sea), but we ordered another and he's been wearing it for more than 13 years. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:43 PM Flag

Prince William does not wear one. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:52 PM Flag

[ - ] Poor single mom here and just bought 1.5k in Powerball tickets! Wish me luck!!! 33 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:27 PM Flag

Fake. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:35 PM Flag

nope not fake! I need this so BAD! Please wish me luck! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:36 PM Flag

Gl! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:36 PM Flag

:) thanks! one day I will be on UB from my own private Island! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:37 PM Flag

np Seriously, if you're poor and you've spend $1500 on lottery tickets, you kind of deserve to be poor. Insanity. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:31 PM Flag

OP: I can't do anything with 1.5k that would DRAMATICALLY change my life but I am taking this shot! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:33 PM Flag

I think if you buy $5 in tickets or $1500 -- it won't significantly affect your prob of winning. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:41 PM Flag

my chances increase with every ticket!!!!!!! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:43 PM Flag

If you're relying on government money (foodstamps, cheapie health ins, whatever) to prop you up while *wasting* $1500 on the lotto you have serious entitlement issues. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:36 PM Flag

you sound like the entitled one telling me where to skimp and where to splurge. It is my money and my choice. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:41 PM Flag

So you're taking foodstamps or whatever and dropping $1500 (with which you COULD buy food) on lottery tickets? Ugh. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:44 PM Flag

Judge much? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:54 PM Flag

I just bought $2.00 in powerball tix [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:32 PM Flag

I would wish you luck but..................................... [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:44 PM Flag

Me, too! And I'm going to win! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:46 PM Flag

Get a fucking life, you simpleminded,lying hillbilly. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:34 PM Flag

OP: simple minded maybe but I live in the city and am not a hillbilly , but I know some and like them. You sound mean and friendless bless your heart [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:36 PM Flag

If you have 1.5K to spend in lottery tickets you are not poor. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:40 PM Flag

well its relative I guess. The 1.5k was my whole savings account [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:42 PM Flag

You're fake. Or you have a sub 100 IQ. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:45 PM Flag

I have more chances to change my life the more tickets I buy [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:52 PM Flag

It doesn't work that way lady. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:54 PM Flag

Keep dreaming, gonna laugh when you lose, junkie. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:41 PM Flag

I am not a junkie but you clearly are a jerk [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:49 PM Flag

I am not a junkie but you clearly are a jerk [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:43 PM Flag

I know this is fake, but still, let's play, if you are spending 1.5K in lottery, you are not very good with money. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:44 PM Flag

no I am real. Can you explain to me how more tickets do not improve my chances? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:40 PM Flag

omg, please let this be fake. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:49 PM Flag

OP: really real and I have all fingers and toes crossed! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:47 PM Flag

Did you make sure to use the same lucky numbers on all the tickets? That way the lucky magic is multiplies. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:52 PM Flag

Um. I feel like that might not have been the best choice, financially anyway. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:52 PM Flag

op- but 1.5k won't change my life but winning the lottery will, so how is this not a great choice? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:54 PM Flag

Well they do say lotto tickets are a tax on the stupid.... [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:59 PM Flag

[ - ] at wat age should i let my daughter date? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:24 PM Flag

define date. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:20 PM Flag

Go out with someone of the opposite sex, kiss, touching, probably having sex, I can't monitor her dates and i know this is normal behavior . [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:40 PM Flag

16 [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:34 PM Flag

grand mee-maw? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:29 PM Flag

np 16 here, too. Actually 11 yo dd and I were talking about this the other day and she asked me what I thought. She figured 15 was too young, fwiw. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:33 PM Flag

Or: my dd is 13yr and she's fine with the age 16yr. Her mind is set on getting into a good high school and her art now...not obsessing over boys. She's obsessing over her art [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:43 PM Flag

Don't worry about me or mine worry about yours. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:39 PM Flag

You will be after that date... [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:36 PM Flag

lmao [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:45 PM Flag

College. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:35 PM Flag

if you mean someone comes to house, they go off alone and return several hours later - 16 [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:31 PM Flag

With child. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:35 PM Flag

*With child. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:35 PM Flag

?? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:38 PM Flag

think [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:45 PM Flag

Openly date 15, but be open about it. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:42 PM Flag

group dates - probably 13. one on one 16 [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:50 PM Flag

np I can't imagine any good would come of sending a pack of 13 yos out together. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:49 PM Flag

I think my parents said 15? But I didn't really start dating until college. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:53 PM Flag

[ - ] DH and I have been fighting for over a day now, and he just stormed out. He says I constantly criticize him, and I admit I have been for the past two days because he has been driving me crazy and it's an ongoing issue. He is a good man, but his fault is that he doesn't care about picking up after himself and I can't take it. He doesn't throw trash away in the trash can so there are cans, paper towels, empty bags of food all over counters for me to clean up. He has horrible bathroom etiquette, and leaves the floor and counter tops soaking wet so I get wet every time I walk in after him, he leaves his dirty clothes on the floor and won't put them in the hamper, he leaves dirty dishes all over the house. Please give me some advice and don't be cruel. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:21 PM Flag

choices: ignore it, get a maid, find a way to let him know what it makes you feel like, keep fighting. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:17 PM Flag

We have a housekeeper come twice a week who does laundry, floors, deep cleaning. It helped, but I can't hire someone to follow him around and pick up after him, dry the floors, make sure he refills soap. He is a grown man - and I really don't want him teaching DC this is okay. He will leave the table without picking up dishes or clearing up, and I have to keep asking him to help and he acts like it is a huge deal that he is helping. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:25 PM Flag

so make it dc's job to clear the table (all children need chores). When the floor is went nicely say, will you please go dry the floor. You want him to have the same standards you have - ain't going to happen. If you get those two things done, give up on one or two others. Give and take. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:22 PM Flag

I try with the dc thing, but one is 19 months and the other is 3, so the older clears his plate and utensils, and when he tries to clear the other stuff food ends up all over the floor. They do help me put daddys clothes in the hamper, etc. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:24 PM Flag

they should not be dealing with his clothes. put the hamper in the middle of the floor and see if that helps - or in his closet floor - do whatever you can to make it easier for him - [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:26 PM Flag

and stop using the children (ie he can't teach them this is ok). [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:27 PM Flag

OP here - thanks for the advice but I don't understand using the children? I never say anything to him about this when I ask him to pick up after himself. I tell him it drives me crazy. I also don't want him teaching the children, but that hasn't ever come up when he argue about it. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:34 PM Flag

you used them here - with the comment "I really don't want him teaching DC this is okay". You know what I mean. You do. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:31 PM Flag

I think you will find this dynamic very common. This is me and my DH too. It drives me insane. I walk into the house every evening to a total zoo of dirty socks piled high in a corner, food cartons all over the living room table, his sopping wet towels on the floor of the living room that have been there since the morning as he insists on dressing in both our BR and LR. OH and he hasn't cleaned a bathroom in over 3 years. Frankly it drives me nuts, and I freak out on him once a week - he doesn't change and I always end up cleaning up despite his offers to clean. I have screamed, cursed, been nice, been serious, pleaded - it.doesn't.change. no advice here - but you are NOT alone! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:21 PM Flag

Thanks, you make me feel better. I know this is strange to say, but the only male I have lived with is my brother (obviously at home with my mother) and he is amazing at cleaning up. His wife tells me all the time that she hit the jackpot, and my mother was strict with both of us and we both had to clean up after ourselves. I don't get why he can't. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:23 PM Flag

because it is not important to him. and that's ok. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:28 PM Flag

OP here - for about a month, I didn't say a word because I was sick of fighting, but this weekend I got sick of it. I told him that I stopped saying anything for a month and buried it inside and he told me to do more of that because it was wonderful, so I told him to f off and he left without saying a word. If it was just one thing, I wouldn't say anything but I really hate how he is so inconsiderate to live with. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:18 PM Flag

ok, so now you know being pissed and keeping it inside doesn't work. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:20 PM Flag

Sorry, but I think you're just going to have to get used to his sloppiness. Some people are just okay with more physical mess in their lives. Perhaps you calmly suggest a once-per-day tidying time -- maybe 7 PM on workdays, 4 PM on weekends, when you could both clean the house together. Show him you are willing to meet him halfway. What you perceive as disrespect/ antagonism toward you, he thinks of as a normal way to live in his own home. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:23 PM Flag

Thanks, this makes me feel better. I will try that. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:33 PM Flag

the above is good advice - I will ask my DH about that too. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:42 PM Flag

This is me but the Felix/Oscar dynamic is reversed. DH is the neat freak and I am the slob. Early in our marriage, my DH said to me: "I know it doesn't make sense to you, but it's really really really important to me to have the house neat. If you'll try to be neater, I, in return, will do my best to change a behavior that annoys you. Name it." That worked for me; he made it worth my while to neaten up. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:33 PM Flag

[ - ] I don't understand when someone on UB tells a sahm if she just got a job her DH wouldn't have to work so hard. Do they really think in this day and age the DH can just cherry pick a lower paying job with less hours because DW suddenly has a job too? People are lucky to have one job these days no matter the hours, it's not like you can go get one that gives you more work life balance by snapping your fingers because you have a little more income from the other spouse. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:21 PM Flag

I usually just skip those types of posts... [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:16 PM Flag

The psychological pressure will lift from dh if he is not the only one the family is dependi g on for income [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:22 PM Flag

my dh is sahd - and there is no psychological pressure on me. it works great for all of us. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:18 PM Flag

What about if you lose your job.? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:43 PM Flag

That's only if DH makes an amount where it makes a difference. It really makes no difference in my family. My DH doesn't really care whether I make 40k or whether I spend it. However by being SAHM without housekeeping or babysitting I have potentially "saved" the amount it costs to send the kids to private (where we are) [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:21 PM Flag

How many kids? Housekeeping and babysitting adding up to $80,000 is a whole hell of a lot of housekeeping. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:54 PM Flag

THIS. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:43 PM Flag

OP: I think there are valid reasons why a sahm would return to working, but saying it would allow a DH to work less hours is often unrealistic unless he completely changed careers or went from ft to pt. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:29 PM Flag

But with another income you would have the flexibility to change careers, work PT, look for a less demanding FT job, etc. What you are all saying really is that your DHs would never WANT to do these things - they won't sacrifice their careers for kids. Which would is all well and good, as long as you don't say at the same time you are criticizing women who work and have careers. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:46 PM Flag

ITA! I was the person who commented on the other post ("What is with the hate...") about this very same thing. I also know that many people who work long hours would do so regardless of whether their partner had a job. This is in their DNA. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:29 PM Flag

Are you the "My DH work 14hrs, 7 days a week, because he loves his job so much" ? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:44 PM Flag

[ - ] I'm having a super ugly day. My eyes are burning and hurting for dryness (happens time to time) andi am wearing ugly glasses. Went to we yesterday and gained an lb. clothes feel tight. Haven't washed hair in a week. Legs pale and scratchy. Ridiculous vent iver 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:11 PM Flag

Solution: hot shower, wash hair, put on some makeup (esp a great lipstick so you focus in that instead of glasses). You will feel much better. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:10 PM Flag

Tx! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:17 PM Flag

Op sorry for all iPad typos. It's the old glasses prescription! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:18 PM Flag

Your hair must stink like dirty old man. Wash it, for God's sake. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:37 PM Flag

[ - ] I just found out that most of dd class was invited to a party and she was not. She is crying in her room because she thought her and the kid were close. They sit next to each other everyday. This is the 2 nd time this has happened. I need advice on how to soothe her. 41 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:04 PM Flag

Sorry to hear. How old is she? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:05 PM Flag

7yo. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:06 PM Flag

First or Second grade? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:16 PM Flag

First [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:17 PM Flag

Was she left back? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:22 PM Flag

This is important to you? Really? I was 7yr at the end f my first grade. DUH [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:33 PM Flag

No! Most kids are 7 in her class. It goes by your birth month and year. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:38 PM Flag

np My 7 yo is in first grade. Private school. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:38 PM Flag

I think the best thing to do is to tell her you are sorry her feelings are hurt. That's about it. There is not point in trying to sugar coat it or anything like that. Later today if you feel like, it you can tell her about a time you were excluded - but this happens to everyone. Now, you are probably not in a place to talk about this now - but if this is the second time she hasn't been invited to a party and ALL the other children were - you do have to try and figure out what it is about her that contributes. Then work to change that as best you can. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:12 PM Flag

She is shy and not very talkative we are working on it but it is just a long process. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:16 PM Flag

shy doesn't usually get you excluded from parties. Anything else? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:24 PM Flag

Not usually but this is the 2nd instance this year. The other time was easier to explain because she wasn't very good friends with that DC due to her shyness, this one is different because she talks to this DC everyday and tells me about them also. Almost everyday I hear about her friend Terry. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:27 PM Flag

I know, but just because she talks about Terry doesn't mean Terry thinks she is a friend. KWIM? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:32 PM Flag

I know, I just don't know how to tell her that. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:38 PM Flag

you don't have to tell her that - she will figure this out for herself. you don't have to "do" anything except give her hugs and let her know you love her. the teaching moments come in the everyday life not the crisis life - when there are no stakes you talk about how to be a good friend, everybody getting left out of something - you lead by example, there is no need to rush in and be super mom this afternoon. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:52 PM Flag

define most. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:13 PM Flag

All the kids that she hangs out with and talks to often at school. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:16 PM Flag

can you give us a sense of numbers here? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:18 PM Flag

Yep. Need to know this. If the mom invited (or allowed her dd to invite) the majority of kids in that class, she's a nasty bitch. Either a distinct minority or all. Schools are generally pretty clear about their expectations around this. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:45 PM Flag

schools have no say in how I plan a party in my home. just sayin. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:52 PM Flag

how did she just find out? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:15 PM Flag

All the kids at her table was talking about it plus all the kids after school were saying how much fun it was going to be. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:19 PM Flag

you said she just found out - what do you mean "at her table" [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:23 PM Flag

oh I see... YOU just found out. Got it. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:23 PM Flag

So sorry! Sounds like fun mommy day with ice cream and whatever she likes. So awful! It's a little young for the ...these people are losers who will be serving you McDonalds...but some days you just feel like punching a seven year old and double punching their parents. And for the record, I'm not one of those parents who thinks everything needs to be fair...but don't teach your child to be a jackass!! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:22 PM Flag

WHY do people try and make up for hurt feelings with freakin ice cream?! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:19 PM Flag

np Or a manicure or whatever. Fun with mom is the point, I think. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:46 PM Flag

you lost me at your losers and McDonalds comment... [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:19 PM Flag

OP: I just wish it was either invite all the girls, invite all the boys or the entire class. Not invite 80% of girls, boys, or the class. I think when parents purposefully leave out 3 or 4 kids it's just unnecessarily mean. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:28 PM Flag

It is, now that you give a sense of the ratio. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:29 PM Flag

people get to pick how big they want their party to be. people get to pick their friends. life is not how you wish. I will never understand why people want this birthday party panacea. and before you jump down my throat - I invited all same sex in dc's class (financial strain for us). [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:30 PM Flag

OP: I understand that completely. I can even understand 50% of the class but when you intentionally leave out just 3/4 kids at this young of an age I am sorry but it is mean. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:35 PM Flag

I don't think leaving out 4 is mean. I think 4 is probably my cutoff (maybe three) if you you leave off 1 or 2 I wonder - but it doesn't matter if you think the child or the parent are mean. We don't know what goes on in their house. What matters is your child learns to deal with this as it happened. And will happen again. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:54 PM Flag

Look, this is lower school. You either invite all (or all the boys or all the girls) or a few. You don't leave out a few kids. Teaches your kid to be exclusive and mean. Pretty easy to "get" imo. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:42 PM Flag

Apparently the world does not abide by your sense of rules. I wish I had a dollar for every post about not being invited to the party on UB. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:54 PM Flag

IDK, I guess I grew up in a different time and place (I was 7 in 1982) There were PLENTY of parties I wasn't invited to and I went to a school with 30 kids in the entire grade, so I always found out if I wasn't invited to a particular party. I agree, some parents were awesome and invited every kid - but there were a few parents who were blind to it and would only invite a select group. I guess our roles as parents is to make sure our kid can cope with disappointment and not feed into the hurt feelings too much. Of course she's hurt now - but by evening time, she will be fine. Spend some special time with her tonight/tomorrow and prepare her that Monday might be rough with all the kids chatting about the party, but by Tuesday, everyone will have forgotten about it. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:31 PM Flag

SANE! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:36 PM Flag

I know you're right it just hurt to see her crying her eyes out over her supposed "friend" not inviting her. Like I said the first time was easier because her and the other DC didn't talk a lot. These two talk everyday. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:37 PM Flag

do you still talk to anyone in your class when you were 7? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:55 PM Flag

they talk everyday because the teacher sat them next to each other. kinda like the guy in the next cubicle. it doesn't mean all that much. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:55 PM Flag

I don't mean to be harsh - but come on. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:56 PM Flag

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:01 PM Flag

Try pleasuring the opposite sex, for a change. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:04 PM Flag

[ - ] My parents are the single greatest impact on my life. They believed in me, encouraged me and helped me accomplish my goals even when they thought I should do something different, because they respected my opinions. My parents also allowed our relationship to mature over the years so that we now have an adult relationship. I love them all the more for that. Think about that as you raise your kids, and let them grow up to be the people they're supposed to be. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 04:59 PM Flag

You sound fat. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:01 PM Flag

You sound anal. So nu? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 04:58 PM Flag

I don't want to have to explain to your mother that you can't go to the dinner party because you got caught trying to pick up fifteen-year-olds again. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 04:56 PM Flag

Anthony Weiner? Is that you? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 04:59 PM Flag

Funny. Find yourself was the biggest mistake my parents made IMHO. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:06 PM Flag

That's nice! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:24 PM Flag

My kids say they were raised by wolves. Is that the same thing? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:31 PM Flag

[ - ] Mom in mental institution here for my allotted 30 minute of internet time.... any questions? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 04:54 PM Flag

Ever think of killing yourself? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:01 PM Flag

no [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:24 PM Flag

What's wrong with you? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:03 PM Flag

rape trauma [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:19 PM Flag

HHI? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:03 PM Flag

800k [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:25 PM Flag

Have you weighed in yet on the pharmaceuticals post? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:00 PM Flag

no but I will check it out thanks! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:19 PM Flag

Do you find the average poster on UB to be more or less sane than your fellow patients? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:06 PM Flag

hmmmmmmmmmmmmm....................... that is a tough one! lol [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:26 PM Flag

Do you have family? Do they visit? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:09 PM Flag

yes and no I do not want any visitors here. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:20 PM Flag

Take care of yourself. Get better so you can come out and be with your kids. Love [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:05 PM Flag

Thank you very much for the kind words! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:27 PM Flag

What other websites are you checking? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:12 PM Flag

sadly, just UB :( I do have a facebook page but I think it would make me sad to see all the my life is awesome posts [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:28 PM Flag

You KNOW it's all bullshit, though, right? Edited, curated BS with the odd sack sack who likes to post about every tragedy in his/her tragic life. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:34 PM Flag

I know but I am not even strong enough to pretend [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.18.13, 05:44 PM Flag