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[ - ] Today my husband decided to throw out all of my DD's toys and she agreed with little resistance. At first she was upset because of the manner he was doing it in, which was very unpleasant. He was just grabbing all her toys and throwing them out of her room. But after we all calmed down and he brought garbage bags to the room, she was right on board and didn't seem to care and was doing all the trashing herself. She just turned six and while she has always been open and cooperative when thinning out her toy collection, I was taken a little aback by how willingly she discarded EVERYTHING. She decided to just keep one stuffed animal. She has her books, arts and crafts things and board games, but everything including all of her new birthday presents got tossed out (my husband decided to donate them or put them in storage, but she doesn't know that) with her full consent and cooperation. She said she wanted to have a science room. I am in a little bit of a shock because like any other kid she LOVES playing with toys and would play with them all the time. I am almost at a loss. I feel like I should be happy and proud, but I am completely baffled at the same time. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 04:02 AM Flag
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Why in the world did he do that, if she actually plays with the toys?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:53 AM Flag
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He felt she had to many toys and there was so much clutter, and maybe it was because she wasn't being cooperative about cleaning up today (normally she will clean up after whining a little). In truth, Im not really sure why he did it except that he said his mother would do stuff like that. She would eventually bring some toys back but rotate them. I am just baffled at my daughter. They were both on the same page about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 04:07 AM Flag
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Yes, why did he do that? Is he scary? Is she trying to please him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:57 AM Flag
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No, he's not scary. In the past, I've initiated throwing out toys and she's always said, "ok" and would proceed picking out toys she doesnt care for. So it wasn't too different from that except that she threw out everything this time. She's also initiated throwing out her toys in the past as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 04:01 AM Flag
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That's very surprising. Is she desperate for DH's approval? Is he generally loving and attentive to her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:57 AM Flag
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In a way, she wants his approval, but I would say no more than she would want from me. They have a wonderful relationship. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 04:10 AM Flag
[ - ] I left DH several months ago and moved in with my affair (fiance). Any questions? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:50 AM Flag
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Do you regret it? Do you have DCs? How long had you been seeing current BF? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:57 AM Flag
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Spit, or swallow? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 04:12 AM Flag
[ - ] About to be engaged. In all seriousness, do any of you wish you had or had not had a big wedding? I'm so not into a big wedding, but boyfriend is. I feel like it is a lot of time/money/energy for just one day/party. Want to have a small destination wedding (anyone who can make it great, if not no worries & our parents and siblings can def afford, so most impt ppl will be there) and come back and have a party. Don't call it a wedding, just fun dancing & celebrating. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:50 AM Flag
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I had 18 people at my wedding and no regrets. 2nd best day of my life ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 04:02 AM Flag
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I had a small wedding and it was great. If i could do it all over, I would have had it a smaller restaurant instead of a fancy reception hall. That one day is a blip compared to the rest of your marriage. Save the money and elope, lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:53 AM Flag
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Loved my "big" wedding (150 people). But we only spent about 7k on the whole thing. Rented an art gallery, had it later in the evening so no full dinner. Lots of drinks and appetizers, people danced into the night... it was fantastic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 04:05 AM Flag
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oh i love this! what art gallery? i feel like most (nyc ahem) people will love this. i hate real dinners, LOVE apps, food and drinking and dancing! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 04:06 AM Flag
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I wish I had not spent a dime on my wedding. Seriously. My first was at city hall and we were happily married for twelve years until he died. The second time, I went all out and it has been a hellish marriage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 04:06 AM Flag
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About 60 people. Just right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 04:12 AM Flag
[ - ] Does DH ever "jokingly" hit on other women right in front of you, and does it make you angry when he does? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:44 AM Flag
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No! OMG. My dh is a huge asshole but even he would never do this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:59 AM Flag
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Never. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:53 AM Flag
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um, no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 04:05 AM Flag
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Holy shit [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 04:12 AM Flag
[ - ] Is the movie "Eyes Wide Shut" correct? Does America's "power elite" see medical doctors as piddling little servants? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:43 AM Flag
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Maybe but why care what the elite snobs think? Its just a movie. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:54 AM Flag
[ - ] Poll: Has your husband ever hit you? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:36 AM Flag
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No, and he's appalled at friends of mine who have been hit and stayed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:37 AM Flag
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No way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:27 AM Flag
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Yes, once. He is normally a very gentle man, but I made the first "move" (it wasn't as bad as what he did) by pushing him up against the counter (in a threatening way) and so he shoved me backwards and slapped me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:38 AM Flag
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how many years ago was this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:39 AM Flag
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five. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:39 AM Flag
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He's a controlling asshole, but he would never touch me in that way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:38 AM Flag
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Never has, never will. Both families would shun him if it ever happened. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:39 AM Flag
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My wife has slapped me a few times. I didn't think it was a big deal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:39 AM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:29 AM Flag
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Pinned my neck twice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:30 AM Flag
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Mine did this once. We were very young and very very drunk and in an ugly fight. I came at him and he pushed me away (defended himself) by the neck. I had a nasty mark around my neck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:43 AM Flag
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Yes, but it was mutual and not in that type of way. I am a competitive shooter, daughter of a federal agent (who taught be quite a bit of self defense), and a trained fighter. He was on the wrestling team. I was always a tom boy and I fought with many boys when I was a kid, sometimes my husband and I end up working things out like men. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:33 AM Flag
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I think that's different, especially if you can hold your own. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:34 AM Flag
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np. Huh? Wrestling it out? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:46 AM Flag
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Mmm, wrestlers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:36 AM Flag
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I knew an old lady who lived alone who said her marriage was rocky for the first few years, because it was something of an arranged marriage between the two families, and the husband was a violent alcoholic who beat her brutally on several occasions. But he sobered up and behaved a lot better after she got pregnant and his own parents laid down the law, and they had a fruitful decades-long marriage after that point. She was still terribly sad 15 years later that he had died. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:35 AM Flag
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He knocked my glasses off of my face, and shattered them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 04:07 AM Flag
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no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 04:08 AM Flag
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Only during sex [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 04:13 AM Flag
[ - ] How bad is it that I overdraw on my debit card sometimes? Dh goes into a HUGE rage. It's not about the money, it's just the fact that it happens. I know it's stupid. I'm terrible at math and it usually happens because I estimate wrong at the grocery store or something like that where I don't know exactly what the total will be. I have a credit card and a checkbook but we use the account linked to my debit for most household purchases... 33 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:26 AM Flag
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just put more into checking. give yourself a cushion of a few hundred dollars. and separately, how often does dh rage? how is this manifested? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:17 AM Flag
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I setup an automatic weekly transfer. The idea was that it would help us stick to our budget if I only transfer in the exact amount... It's ridiculous. We took on a huge and expensive project so now dh is micromanaging finances. We can afford everything we're doing but it makes him feel better I guess? Or worse since he's always fucking cranky about it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:31 AM Flag
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Get the app on your phone and check balance if you're unsure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:18 AM Flag
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I have it. Check all the time. It comes down to pennies and sometimes I fuck up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:34 AM Flag
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If you check while you're in line and it says you have 1,000 and you try to charge 1,001? I don't get it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:36 AM Flag
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For example if you place an order on amazon and buy 5 items those 5 can all be charged separately, some post right away. Some post as pending and then disappear for a few days. It's impossible to keep track of, this is why I never use a debit card. Np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:38 AM Flag
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This. We also have autopay set up for some bills so Dh gets the email, doesn't tell me, money is gone from the acct that I didn't realize... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:41 AM Flag
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Overdraft protection. Connect it to your savings acct with a buffer. Hell, I recently did the same thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:19 AM Flag
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We had this and he changed it and refuses to change it back. I think at this point it's just a test for me... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:32 AM Flag
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np: If it's a test, he's being the dad and you're being the petulant child. Download the app and check. Or call and use the automated service. Not that difficult. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:34 AM Flag
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I know. It's not THAT difficult. That's why the whole thing is so dumb. I'm out with an infant and a toddler checking my balance to see if I can buy something to drink. It's such a joke... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:36 AM Flag
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if it's not about the money, then stop using the debit card. Use a credit card and pay it off every month. problem solved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:19 AM Flag
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I do this a lot when I think I might not have enough in checking, this defeats the whole budget thing. Now that I'm writing it out I'm realizing he is being really controlling and making this next to impossible ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:33 AM Flag
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If you're budgeting, then it IS the money. - np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:24 AM Flag
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We budgeted for a $200k project on our house and that somehow trickled down into spending a certain amount on groceries TO THE PENNY. He's gone insane [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:40 AM Flag
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He's stressed out about all of the outgoing money. I think that's pretty normal. A $200K project is nothing to sneeze at. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:42 AM Flag
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Agree. I should be glad he's so responsible and go cut up my debit card. What a dumb system we had lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:44 AM Flag
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Oh, I see. You have a certain grocery budget. Can you just carry cash? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:48 AM Flag
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I should. I will [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:59 AM Flag
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I do not understand why people continue to use debit cards. Between the fraud and possibility of overdrawing the account, just stop using it! Put your purchases on a credit card and pay it off in full at the end of the month. Problem solved. Plus, if you lose your card or someone steals your info, you are protected. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:21 AM Flag
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You're so right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:40 AM Flag
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Is there a penalty? Then it probably is about the money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:22 AM Flag
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No. There's not. It is linked to another account but doesn't automatically transfer, we get an email saying we had an overdraft and do we want to cover it from X account. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:34 AM Flag
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Maybe you need to use the credit card and pay it off every month. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:23 AM Flag
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I think I will just start doing this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:36 AM Flag
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Do you work or are you spending the money that your DH earns? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:36 AM Flag
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I earned the money a long time before we met but I have never managed it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:37 AM Flag
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Well, that much is obvious. Sorry, but you are coming across as a scatterbrained housewife. Take control of your finances. That means, figure this out. Put the charges on a credit card and pay it off each month. Clearly, you can't function in a debit card world. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:28 AM Flag
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I can't. It's so absurd. No more debit card [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:41 AM Flag
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Excellent. Now that we have solved that problem, what else is bothering you tonight? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:44 AM Flag
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Haha. Thanks. Nothing. Just that my baby is turning 2 this week and I'm getting very emotional... she's my last and I'm sad that I'll never have a little baby again... until grandkids... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:45 AM Flag
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dingdingding [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:38 AM Flag
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I am on a tight budget and I do fine wi t h a credit card. I check my balance once a week to be sure I'm on track. I don't own a debit card. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:29 AM Flag
[ - ] If you had an affair and it ended and you went back to your boring stale dead marriage how did you get over your lover - meaning I can't dare and meet someone new - I'm back to the place that drove me to the affair so how to move on? It's been a while and I still ache. Thanks. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:08 AM Flag
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Ugh. I am you. Ended it 4 yrs ago, with a few episodes of backsliding for another 2 years. Still friends and speak regularly - which probably is a bad idead becasuse I think about him much much less, but too much to be healthy. I don't want him, but the memory of his touch has ruined me - some days I think I might go mad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:02 AM Flag
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Ahhh this is me - I literally had to exorcise his touch from my being on order to allow my husband to touch me. It's horrible. So your reply is not that inspiring - I'm fucked huh? And not in the way I want. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:15 AM Flag
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Why did you got back to a boring, stale, dead marriage? Why didn't you use this opportunity to either grown and evolve your marriage or leave it? Also, remember that you aren't making a fair comparison. Affairs are illicit and therefore exciting. Your DH can't be expected to match that level of intrigue (and let's just call a spade a spade: drama); he's too busy working, paying bills, cleaning up dog puke and caring for children. It's a lot less sexy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:08 AM Flag
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ITA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:14 AM Flag
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It's not easy to get out. $ and kids are an issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:25 AM Flag
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Grow up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:23 AM Flag
[ - ] Pretty sure my sil is a closet gold digger. She's a big fake. They've been married for 2 years and it just occurred to me over the weekend when we were staying at her house. She talks about money and brands and "things" constantly. It's annoying. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:06 AM Flag
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myob [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:56 AM Flag
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call her out on it. that is what sisters are for. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:38 AM Flag
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Some people are stupid. Can't change them . Ask yourself why it bothers you so much . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:00 AM Flag
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Np I'll take a shot- because it's fucking obnoxious to EVERYONE [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:12 AM Flag
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That's the worst kind of annoying. I can't maintain relationships with people like this. Just change the subject by asking her meaningful questions about her dh, his family, his interests etc... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:11 AM Flag
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She always has a full face if make up - could be 6 am. I don't know she's so vain and so into stuff - I used to not notice this about her and now it's all I see [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:13 AM Flag
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It could also be that you're seeing things in a more negative light and her flaws are getting the spotlight while the things you love about her are being ignored? Has she really changed THAT much? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:22 AM Flag
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This, or has your perception of her changed? Are you in any weird way jealous of her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:23 AM Flag
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Maybe - but I don't think so. I do like her just seeing stuff now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:25 AM Flag
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Maybe she's just insecure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:24 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 04:10 AM Flag
[ - ] Dd really wanted to order tuna and salmon sashimi tonight but I made her stick with California rolls - she's 7 - when is it ok to have raw fish? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:03 AM Flag
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omg lol are you serious? what do u think kids in japan eat? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:04 AM Flag
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why would sushi be dangerous for 7 yo? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:04 AM Flag
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How old is ok [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:05 AM Flag
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There is no consensus regarding the appropriate age to give a young child raw fish. By age 6 years, a healthy child’s immune system should be strong enough to graduate to raw sushi, according to the America academy of pediatrics. -nutritionist mom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:59 AM Flag
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Ps- best to ask your doctor! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:01 AM Flag
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My dd has been eating sushi since she started solids, ped says it's fine if it's a reputable restaurant [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:12 AM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:12 AM Flag
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Have her order mostly salmon. I let my DCs share a tuna roll (and I usually eat a piece or two). The only reason I limit it is bc of mercury not bc it's raw. (3 and 5, Fwiw) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:08 AM Flag
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Funny troll [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:25 AM Flag
[ - ] Camp tips. My child is going to a month long day-camp. There are three counselor/teachers in her group, and one student teacher. Not sure about tipping but I also don't know how much to give the adults and how much to give the student teacher, who's younger. Maybe a college student. Any ideas? Does everyone tip? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 07.28.14, 02:51 AM Flag
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Yes, everyone tips. Since it's only a month, I'd say $50 to the adults and $30 to the student teacher [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:03 AM Flag
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NP You can also do starbucks gift cards if you'd rather not do cash [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:03 AM Flag
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NP: Don't do a Starbucks gift card. Everyone prefers cash. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:59 AM Flag
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Or an Amazon gift card...you can buy anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:22 AM Flag
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Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:55 AM Flag
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Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:55 AM Flag
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I have 2 kids going to day camp for a month. 8 counselors. I am going to give the 2 head counselors 40 each and the rest $25. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:04 AM Flag
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That sounds good, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:18 AM Flag
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Naive question - how do you give the tip? Cash in an envelope? Gift card? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:28 AM Flag
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envelope [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:19 AM Flag
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I get the names of the counselors and place money in a card for each of them. My kids take a bus, so I have to trust my kids to distribute them. They have done it for a few years with no problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:31 AM Flag
[ - ] I feel sad because I think one of my good friends hates my DD. She is 11 and can be "outspoken" and brash with adults. I discipline but she does not get it. I feel that my friend is pulling away because of her. 47 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:43 AM Flag
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I could not have a good friend who hated my daughter. I would pull away from her [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:44 AM Flag
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She admits her daughter is a PITA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:49 AM Flag
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Oh please. She's saying herself that her daughter is difficult. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:43 AM Flag
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So? That doesn't mean other adults have to excuse that behavior. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:50 AM Flag
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That's exactly my point. Pr said she couldn't stay friends with the woman, and I said why, that OP herself is saying she's difficult. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:52 AM Flag
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A lot of people don't want to be around children like that. OP and the friend can have a separate relationship without the child until the child learns how not to be so brash. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:11 AM Flag
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Socialize without your children [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:48 AM Flag
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This. Stop bringing her along or meet your friend somewhere else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:49 AM Flag
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That might solve the immediate situation, but doesn't help OP or her dd in the long run. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:03 AM Flag
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She didnt ask for help with that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:20 AM Flag
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Does friend have a dd too? Maybe friend likes you, but doesn't like the influence of your dd's behavior? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:37 AM Flag
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OP. Yes, she has a DD but she is much younger, they are not friends and don't go to the same school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:45 AM Flag
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Have you DH discipline her if you cannot get through to her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:49 AM Flag
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Then discipline in a way that does make her get it. Bad sign if even an adult can't tolerate her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:54 AM Flag
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I wouldn't want to spend time with a child like this either. Socialize without your child until your child does "get it". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:55 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:08 AM Flag
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What's an example of her being outspoken or brash? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:50 AM Flag
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OP. My friend is very religious (Catholic) and believes that God and angels have spoken to her (don't ask). DD overheard this and went on a rant about how God is not real. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:01 AM Flag
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I can't possibly imagine why your friend can't stand to be in the presence of your daughter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:54 AM Flag
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OP. She doesn't realize when she offends people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:06 AM Flag
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Then you tell her. And tell her now. "Martha, we don't comment on other people's religions", and give her a consequence after your friend leaves. She needs to learn not to insult others. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:01 AM Flag
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Yes, I told her after friend left. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:13 AM Flag
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np: No. You need to tell her immediately, in front of the friend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:10 AM Flag
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Is dd SN? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:04 AM Flag
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OP. No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:07 AM Flag
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^^She's actually extremely bright, at the top of her class, very athletic and has a lot of friends. She can just be overbearing at times. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:07 AM Flag
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Then you are raising a real peach. She is 11 and acting like this? That's on you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:19 AM Flag
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You need to let her know in the moment. I realize sometimes that is not appropriate. But in this case, with a good friend in your home, you call her our on her behavior in front of your friend, don't wait for later. It could be that you friend actually thinks you "approve" of your dd's behavior. I actually have a lot of empathy for the situation because I have a dc like this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:10 AM Flag
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np: How did you handle this in the moment? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:56 AM Flag
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OP. I told her to go play and let the adults talk [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:57 AM Flag
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You need to address this behavior as it happens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:20 AM Flag
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Your friend sounds nutty. That said, it's important to tell your dd that people have strong and very personal opinions about some things (religion, family, etc.) and that it isn't appropriate to ridicule or comment on others' beliefs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:58 AM Flag
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11 year olds who go on rants about anything are not pleasant to be around, for adults or for her peers. You need to keep working on this, OP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:02 AM Flag
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Lol. I like your dd. Let's be friends. Your friend sounds like a nut. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:15 AM Flag
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You're that person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:52 AM Flag
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It doesn't matter if your friend said she believed an alien was living in her attic. Children are not on equal footing with adults and are not allowed to "rant" and disrespect other people's beliefs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:17 AM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:08 AM Flag
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+1. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:22 AM Flag
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+1. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:22 AM Flag
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Your daughter sounds incredibly rude and disrespectful. I would do the same thing as your DF. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:11 AM Flag
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+1 This is definitely the parents fault for letting her act this way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:20 AM Flag
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+1 You are raising a real cunt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:28 AM Flag
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That's harsh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:22 AM Flag
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I think I might've been kind of like your dd. I grew up hearing about feminism and finding your voice and standing up for your beliefs, etc etc. I thought I was precocious but I was probably really obnoxious. I always wanted everyone to know how smart I am... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:19 AM Flag
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*** how smart I thought I was! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:20 AM Flag
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My 11YO son is the same way. It's who he is, and we work on "using his filter" all the time. But, it's a process, and anyone that doesn't understand that and prefers the "make the kid shit up" method of parenting wouldn't be in my Rolodex anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:32 AM Flag
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shUt up!! Sorry about the typo! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:32 AM Flag
[ - ] 0 yo DD came back from outting with Dh. Says he got mad at her and grab her by the wrist, hard enough to leave read marks for a while, and that he came and talked to her and apologized so much for doing it. Okay, I get that can happen... the problem is she says she now feels closer to him because he always gets mad at everyone else, not her, this situation made her feel like he cared about her. She realized I was upset I was to hear this (I tried to appear neutral, and told her I was just concerned) and she keeps asking me to promise to not speak with him about it. 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:26 AM Flag
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9 yo DD [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:27 AM Flag
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OMG. Therapy stat [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:44 AM Flag
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OP. Good idea. She just came downstairs saying she can't sleep unless she knows I am okay and to look into her eyes. She's a bit dramatic but this all a bit disturbing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:36 AM Flag
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+++++ She's later going to look for teenagers/men who do this exact same thing to her, OP, if you don't help her now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:52 AM Flag
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They had a moment. Your girl is deep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:48 AM Flag
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Dh has got to learn to control his temper. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:39 AM Flag
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Has he left marks on you before? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:40 AM Flag
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He has hurt me once in over 20 yrs - he wanted to subdue me during a heated argument. He once hurt our now 13 yo ds. He has anger issues and has been in therapy for a while. I've suggested he explore some medication but he is against that. He raises his voice daily and is getting more and more controlling acting as he gets older. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:44 AM Flag
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Time to get out, OP. This is going to end one of two ways - either CPS is going to show up on your door someday, or your children, as adults, will lose contact with both of you - him because he is an abuser and you because you did nothing to stop it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:48 AM Flag
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Sounds like she doesnt get enough attention from her dad, and negative attention feels better than no attention. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:40 AM Flag
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Are you the woman whose husband bit her on the wrist (in front of the kids) while you were driving home or driving to vacation a couple of weeks ago? He also left a mark. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:56 AM Flag
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OP. No I have never posted about any of this before. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:47 AM Flag
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Yeah, I notice your dh apologized and in that post the dh did not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:49 AM Flag
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A codependent response. I smell trouble. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:47 AM Flag
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OP. I couldn't name it. What seems co-dependent about it? I just thought it might be more like a battered woman response - Dh could be considered verbally abusive, and controlling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:49 AM Flag
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And physically abusive if he's hurt both your children and "wanted to subdue you" during an argument. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:50 AM Flag
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Np. This is so sad. Op, so you want to leave him. This makes me worry for your kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:05 AM Flag
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^do you want to leave him [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:06 AM Flag
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Yes, op, maybe you named it better. I think you need to separate from him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:25 AM Flag
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Have you talked to dh yet? What is he saying? I don't care if your dd asked you not to talk to him about it. What if he abuses her or your son again? Do you want them to keep that secret? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:53 AM Flag
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No not yet. He had to travel and left before we could speak. I know he saw my dd and I huddled up and her whispering some things.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 02:55 AM Flag
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Your DD needs to see you in a healthy relationship, or none at all. She needs to know, NOW, that this is not love, or she will end up with abuser after abuser. I'm sorry - I try never to post this, but this gives me real red flags for her future. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 03:18 AM Flag
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