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[ - ] I am pretty sure my DIL is a functioning alcoholic. What if anything can I do? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:16 AM Flag
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What does your ds think? [ Reply | More ]
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We haven't discussed it [ Reply | More ]
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myob [ Reply | More ]
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Try getting a life to start. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Just read the most popular post about the mom who was late to her DD's graduation and took her out to Denny's after and you guys were all shocked that she didn't give her DD a graduation party or go to her college parents weekend. Wow, I wish I had moms like you. My mom thought I should thank her for showing up to my graduation. The thoight of having a graduation party was unthinkable. She never took me out to dinner after or visited me at college. He didn't even know where all I had applied to college. And no, she wasn't some struggling single mom. She was a wealthy SAHM who didn't care about being a mom and seemed to never want kids in the first place. Anyway, not sure what my point is here except to say your kids are all really lucky to have moms like you. That post made me really sad. I feel like I definitely missed out on having a childhood. My mother seemed to hate kids. We had nannies when we were little, but after my sister and I grew up my mom seemed annoyed with our existence, especi ally after our step dad came along. Yet my sister thinks this is totally normal behavior for a mom and continues to visit my mother on holidays despite my mother's neglecting us and me being the one who raised my little sister. Ok vent over. Bring on the flames. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:11 AM Flag
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i didn't have a graduation party and survived to tell. it's ok. [ Reply | More ]
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omg. it was a damn high school graduation, not even college. why are we even talking about this stupid crap? [ Reply | More ]
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same here. never went on any trips or proms. [ Reply | More ]
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sorry your mom was that way. [ Reply | More ]
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What do you want a pity party? My parents didn't attended my high school graduation. They didn't attend the one for college either. Asshole parents are not that uncommon [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Under what conditions would you not allow your mother to see your children? My mom and I had a very strained relationship growing up. She used to hit me in the face often, use extreme methods of punishment (sent me to live in a homeless shelter for a weekend because she didn't approve of my boyfriend), and just generally made my life hell. When I had my first child, she tried to convince me I was a bad mother and that the baby should come live with her (I was married and had a full-time job). When that didn't work, she told me my husband was going to kidnap the baby. When I cut her out of my life, she started bombarding me with letters and eventually called the police to my house, saying that my children were being abused (they obviously were not). My extended family thinks I'm a monster for keeping my kids away from her, but I think I have no choice. What do you think? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:11 AM Flag
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From what you are saying she sounds like an unstable, crazed lunatic, and no, I would not want her around my children. [ Reply | More ]
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It's the only commandment with a reward [ Reply | More ]
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What? [ Reply | More ]
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What do you mean?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:19 AM Flag
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Are you the poster from below who said her mom sent the 10 page letter to her new in-laws about the old boyfriends, abortions, and telling them their son deserved better? [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:12 AM Flag
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I think you would be crazy to have any kind of relationship with this person. If I were you I would cut off contact with the rest of my family as well. I hope your in-laws are nice and normal. These people sound toxic. Stand up for yourself! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:13 AM Flag
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OP: Luckily, my in-laws think she's a total nut job and are fully supportive of this arrangement I have. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:14 AM Flag
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It's shows your children this is an option. You might be on the other end [ Reply | More ]
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OP: They don't really even know who she is. My youngest child has never met her, and my oldest hasn't seen her since she was ~3 (she's 8 now). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:16 AM Flag
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So what's the better solution here? Expose your kids to an unstable person? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:17 AM Flag
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NP. Of course it's an option. You don't have to keep vicious, abusive people in your life. I would bloody well hope my children would learn that lesson. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:17 AM Flag
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No way would I tolerate that behavior. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I'm constantly being badgered by her siblings and cousins (she has a giant family) saying things like, "She's your MOTHER!" Like that excuses anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:18 AM Flag
[ - ] The second person I was sort of friendly with from college is now in hospice. First one died from breast cancer 2 years ago. This is so sad 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:06 AM Flag
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I am sorry. sending hugs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:10 AM Flag
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OP: thank you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:16 AM Flag
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Age?? [ Reply | More ]
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42 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:13 AM Flag
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Awful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:16 AM Flag
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were you sort of friendly with the other one too? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:12 AM Flag
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Yes. We lived in the same dorm fresh and soph years. We weren't close, but we were friendly in our early 20s when we all moved to NYC and were starting out. It is a complete reality check when I am bitching about my stupid problems. Really heartbreaking. [ Reply | More ]
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sorry to hear that. i'm 40 and i think this is all the first wave. we are at that age now. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Weight problem - Here is the thing….now that I am 42 I can't lose weight like I used to. Whenever it creeps up to (like today it was 116!) I can't get it back down. I feel like my metabolism has slowed. I am hungry all the time, and I can't lose the weight. I am only 5'3" so this is not acceptable…I am so depressed about it. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:59 AM Flag
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VBA, Shut up [ Reply | More ]
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Seriously [ Reply | More ]
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yawn [ Reply | More ]
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Weighing 116 at 5'3 is the perfect weight. Going less than that looks bad. [ Reply | More ]
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op: this is a serious post. I am really upset. I am not bragging. I should be 105 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:02 AM Flag
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Weighing 105 at 5'3 is close to being anorexic. Please get help. [ Reply | More ]
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
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Not true for those of us small boned girls. I used to weight 101, now 110. Same height. I am just more lumpy, not healthier looking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:15 AM Flag
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u r nutz [ Reply | More ]
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I'm 5'4. When I was 105 lbs, my doctor tried to put me into an eating disorder inpatient treatment clinic. 5'3 and 105 is NOT okay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:04 AM Flag
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46 and same exact story. I have 8 solid pounds that I gained this winter. And I'm a person who NEVER gains…same weight all the time. I don't yo-yo. Why is there not a PSA at the Doctors office telling you to get at least 5 to 10 lbs off before turing 40! I was OK till probably last year so it hit me at 45 but many others I have heard from it starts at 42. 43, 44. Any one older had success with getting the weight off? Will I now need to live at the gym? UGH! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:05 AM Flag
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Your weight is perfect. Stop being dramatic. You need weight training to keep everything tight and keep your metabolism up at this point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:07 AM Flag
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I am exactly your height and weight - and my standard weight also used to be 105. I have small bones. Women's metabolism slows as they approach menopause, so as a woman you actually have to start eating less than you used to. It is really hard. I always feel hungry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:08 AM Flag
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this is helpful…thank you…how old are you? What do you eat on a typical day to make sure you don't balloon? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:09 AM Flag
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Same! Upped workouts to 4x/wk but still can't get weight down. It sucks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:13 AM Flag
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Please, see the above post [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Repost and hoping for a few more replies: If your DD were in a SS school (CSH or MM type school), and got into a TT coed for HS (say, Dalton), would you encourage her to switch? Why or why not? A few additional details: She loves the SS school and is thriving; you and your DH have been very happy with the school; she's integrated and thriving at her current school socially and academically. However, the "Dalton" option is considered the most academically rigorous in your area. She would be one of a cohort of new kids starting in 9th grade, but many of the kids have been there for years and are already established socially. The whole family (including DD) is on the fence. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:52 AM Flag
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Why did she even apply if you're all happy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:53 AM Flag
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Mainly because we thought we would keep our options open in case she felt like she needed a switch for HS (we applied in the Fall of 8th grade) and are now making decisions about next year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:55 AM Flag
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We did that for DS, but ultimately decided he would stay where he was at. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:01 AM Flag
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Are you glad you stayed? [ Reply | More ]
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Yep. Very glad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:07 AM Flag
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Tell me more... Would love to hear the details of your situation--how you decided and what the pros/cons were. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:09 AM Flag
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OP--A couple more details: The TT school is bigger and has more "prestigious" college placements. Her current school is much smaller (a class of 50 girls) and has good college placements, but not as impressive if you look at the list. [ Reply | More ]
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I think you are all afraid to take the risk, but think about it: life is all about taking risks. This is one of those decisions that (if you take the safe route - staying) you'll never know and you may always regret it. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, I think we're all afraid to give up a known good thing for something that might be more pressure and an adjustment. I think the larger school has some advantages, but it has a reputation for being more of a pressure cooker. She already puts a lot of pressure on herself so I can't decide if she'll fit right in or if it will "overdevelop" her natural tendency. [ Reply | More ]
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I would definitely not switch to a TT to jockey for a college spot. Focus on the next 4 yrs. Did dd love the school she got into? [ Reply | More ]
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She likes it but schools always put their best foot forward on the tour/interview. [ Reply | More ]
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I know. Any friends or acquaintances to give you an inside scoop? If it is HM or T, is she prepared to put in crushing hrs in homework? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:11 AM Flag
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Where do you live? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:06 AM Flag
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West Coast, but don't want to say the specific city. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:10 AM Flag
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Marlborough to harvard westlake? : ) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:12 AM Flag
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You're very warm... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:14 AM Flag
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Ok.. Choose the school that will give your DD the best high school experience. Let her choose since both schools are good. [ Reply | More ]
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OP again: I would love feedback from parents of HS kids. Part of me thinks that a better school could lead to more options in college; the other part of me says that she's at a very well regarded school (though not the reputation of the school we are considering), and that all the talk of going to "better" school for more HYPSM options could be bunk. In other words, she might end up at the EXACT same college regardless of which HS she attends, the only difference may be how much she enjoys her experience over the next four years. But then I start to second guess that (seemingly sound) perspective. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:08 AM Flag
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The reply deadline for high schools was March 12. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:12 AM Flag
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Don't live in NY. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] au pair with car out just got home. do i say something tonight or tomorrow morning? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:52 AM Flag
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omg. how do you function every day? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:53 AM Flag
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i don't know. it's a miracle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:54 AM Flag
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Seriously! Omg try this "next time let's set a return time" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:54 AM Flag
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now [ Reply | More ]
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now [ Reply | More ]
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her response was, i am so tired right now, we went to the beach and then we didn't know what to do so we went out to dinner and then decided to go see a movie. she had told me at 2m they were going to a cafe. it's not awful, but it's like she has no regard for what i think or rules i have set. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:56 AM Flag
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I honestly would get rid of her. That is ridiculous. [ Reply | More ]
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You don't do that with au pair. It's like having a teen in your home and you have to adjust accordingly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:01 AM Flag
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What a nightmare. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:08 AM Flag
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Eh, it's cheap - they often speak another language. It's an adventure. If you want a nanny - do t get an au pair [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:13 AM Flag
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SAY IT NOW OR YOU WILL STEW ALL NIGHT [ Reply | More ]
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Wait, what? [ Reply | More ]
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Why? Did she break curfew or some appointment you had? 10 p.m. is not that late on her day off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:09 AM Flag
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i don't give a shit that she was out. it was that she had my car and lied to me about where she was taking it. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Why is Obama so adamant that Iran be allowed to developers nuclear weapons? Thoughts? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:51 AM Flag
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No idea. At this point, I think he will sign anything to save face and the iranians know this. It sucks. Can't wait for his term to be over. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:54 AM Flag
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He's doing his part to hasten the end of the world, basically. [ Reply | More ]
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Sean Hannity? Is that you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:00 AM Flag
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Develope I mean [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:02 AM Flag
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What's your plan? [ Reply | More ]
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Wtf do you mean what's my plan? My plan would be to not allow terrorists to have nuclear weapon capabilities. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm sure he agrees. What's your plan. [ Reply | More ]
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She doesn't have to have a plan. She's not president. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:07 AM Flag
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Umm, continue harsh (even harsher) sanctions? Really not too complicated. Cripple iran's economy and they have no $$ to invest in a nuclear program. [ Reply | More ]
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Also, don't be an asshole to Israel. [ Reply | More ]
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They have plenty of money to spend on weapons if they want. [ Reply | More ]
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They don't. Why do you think they are looking for a deal? They want sanctions lifted. Economy is struggling. Oil is cheap. People will revolt, etc. [ Reply | More ]
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It's really unbelievable [ Reply | More ]
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He messed up so badly. He sucks. Just sucks. [ Reply | More ]
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He's done a great job negotiating- Iran has no idea he really really wants a deal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:14 AM Flag
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Wake the fuck up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:16 AM Flag
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They're going to get it anyway, with enough time. See: N.Korea, Pakistan, etc. At least we can bargain some sanctions for slowing the process down, getting inspectors in there, etc. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Is it normal to hate my two dds age 11.5 and 13? It's not all the time….just every few days or so. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:48 AM Flag
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Yup [ Reply | More ]
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sure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:49 AM Flag
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you realize kids are annoying? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:50 AM Flag
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Totally. [ Reply | More ]
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No. I have 4 DC around this age. I get annoyed or angry but I never feel like I hate them. [ Reply | More ]
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I have a dd i hate more than I'd like to admit... [ Reply | More ]
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me too [ Reply | More ]
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Then you're a better person/mom than I am. I have only one 13yo and feel the same as OP. [ Reply | More ]
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No. I get mad at mine sometimes, but I love them always. Never hated them. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] If you had a friend who you dearly loved but who had gotten intolerant with her religion, what would you do? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:47 AM Flag
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slow fade [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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The thing about being saved is a huge part of the experience is you lose your whole social circle, basically. It's par for the course. [ Reply | More ]
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oops, totally assuming she's a Christian lol [ Reply | More ]
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yes- she is. But she is not accepting of homosexuality. I understand that she has the right to not believe in gay marriage - but I don't like when people say hateful things about another person based on sexuality [ Reply | More ]
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^^and I don't know how to respond when she says those kinds of things... [ Reply | More ]
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One thing is non-believers really know how a christian should behave - so it's also totally par for the course for you to say "that doesn't sound like love your brother as yourself, does it?' lol it's a good correction/test for her. Say it with a smile. She should immediately say "you're right." if she doesn't she has some growing up in Christ to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:11 AM Flag
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hate the sin, not the sinner [ Reply | More ]
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Hateful speech is not Christian. She still has some developing to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:09 AM Flag
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Not really, part of being a Christian is still loving those around you who are not. I have friends who are not Christian, and I don't treat them any different than my friends who are. Conversation topics might be different though. Pushy Christians are religious and somewhat legalistic. People who are really Christian won't be super religious, instead they will show Jesus through how they are. [ Reply | More ]
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This is a great response. Thank you. I totally agree. [ Reply | More ]
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This this this. [ Reply | More ]
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np. Great post. My grandmother was a devout Christian, and even though she knew I decided I was an atheist while I was still in high school, it was never a point of conflict with us. [ Reply | More ]
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**if you have a worldly social circle, I should say. [ Reply | More ]
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Ignore that part enjoy the other parts. If ignore doesn't work - then I would gently say I love you I value our friendship so we need to just sidestep the religion stuff [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:50 AM Flag
[ - ] Lost my mom at 23, missing her tonight. Let's share our favorite memories of our moms. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Coming home from college and having a dirty martini with her, eating olives and cheese and just talking. It was the first time in my life we felt like friends (vs her being the mom). [ Reply | More ]
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I still have my mom but my 2yo tonight asked me who my late sister is in a photograph. I ignored her, couldn't get words out. [ Reply | More ]
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Oh gosh, I'm so sorry. The day I lose her will be the worst day of my life. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: It sucked, but it's ok now. You never stop missing them though. [ Reply | More ]
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My mom is terminally ill, and even though I'm much older than you were, this post is making me cry. [ Reply | More ]
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Her telling me how proud she is of what a good mom I am. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm sorry for your loss. Hugs [ Reply | More ]
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Going on safari with her in my 20s [ Reply | More ]
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Camping, all of us snuggling in the tent, eating our "camping food" and collecting rocks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:49 AM Flag
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I had a small wedding and a big party at my house for extended family several months later. My mom had met my FIL (who looks like Santa Claus) once or twice before (I'm thinking it was just at the small wedding actually, and maybe one or two holidays). When she got to my house for he party, my FIL was in the house and I went out to greet her. She asked me to remind her of my FIL's name. I did. We came into the house and she went up to the caterer who was about two feet taller than my FIL, dark hair, no beard, dressed in a "work" outfit and about my age and stuck her hand out and said "FIL First name, it's good to see you again." I had not been downstairs to greet the caterer, so I did not know his name, so I was a bit flustered myself, and said "mom, this is the caterer, FIL is upstairs getting a tour with DH" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:49 AM Flag
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As a child, i was very introverted, never wanted to talk about my day or feelings. Mom started a book club with me and we would read the same books evey week. We wouldn't necessarily talk about them but it kept us connected. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:52 AM Flag
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very sweet [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:53 AM Flag
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Thanks. She always loved me for me - my older sister was the "perfect", precocious, outgoing type and had a lot more in common with my mom. But she fully embraced who I was and in college we really became good friends, too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:18 AM Flag
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So cute, im stealing this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:59 AM Flag
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Haven't talked to mine in 5 years. A "favorite" memory of mine is either when she wrote a 10 page letter to my new in-laws after my honeymoon about my previous boyfriends, abortions, and how her son deserved better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:57 AM Flag
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Gasp...omg [ Reply | More ]
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Yikes [ Reply | More ]
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jesus christ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:17 AM Flag
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I loved catching Dungeness crabs on the Oregon coast with her and eating them with butter. I also loved that she drove across country with just my sister and me. It never occurred to me that other moms didn't do this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:18 AM Flag
[ - ] Obnoxious grandma (in most popular) sounds a lot like my mil. She doesn't invite kids over (too much work for her) but every time we do see her she has a fit if one of my kids doesn't smother her with hugs and kisses. My children are 6mos, 2 and 5 and aren't always in the mood to give her hugs or sit on her lap. She will actually start crying if they refuse her and is so manipulative of their affection. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:38 AM Flag
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Mine is like this too. Gets SOOOO "offended" by my 2yos "treatment" of her. My dd doesn't know her and I'm not going to demand she hug and kiss someone who is a stranger to her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:41 AM Flag
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You women are so mean. Do not forget that you are going to be old and you will want your grandkids to love you. Karma is a bitch! Do not forget. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:42 AM Flag
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You have no idea what you're talking about... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:43 AM Flag
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I do have. I hope that your kids reject to see you in your old age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:46 AM Flag
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Now THAT is mean. My mil has been nothing but horrid to me and everyone since I met her 13 years ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:47 AM Flag
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Op - I'm not mean. I try to have my kids give her affection but they don't know her that well and she's so annoying about it. I will never try to guilt my grandchildren into hugging me by crying when they don't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:46 AM Flag
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I'm sorry. That's annoying and exhausting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:41 AM Flag
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+1- makes me appreciate distant mil even more [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:52 AM Flag
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That's my mother. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:41 AM Flag
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My MIL is the same! DS is almost 2 and will sit there and "cry" if he sits with me over her. Of course he is going to cuddle with his mother over someone he barely sees. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:46 AM Flag
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How's your dh after being raised by her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:48 AM Flag
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He's great, thinks she is pretty ridiculous and will call her out on it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:59 AM Flag
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whew, at least you have that going for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:13 AM Flag
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This was how my grandma was. My dad turned out ok, but man I hated her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:50 AM Flag
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dreading this, mil tries to manipulate her relationship with me (cries to my DH asking why I don't like her etc). pregnant with db #1 and I can see her doing this with our kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:56 AM Flag
[ - ] Single mom who used to live in NYC, but 4 yrs ago I lost my job and ds and I had to move to Chicago... which we both really don't like. Promised my 9yo ds I would take him to NY for his birthday (2 weekends from now. But decent hotels in the city are so expensive. And it adds up after air fair and cab rides, food etc. I was wondering if anyone would know of a discounted rate, perhaps mentioning a company etc. I know, crazy request... it is so difficult to find a decent hotel in town under $180. 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:38 AM Flag
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Air bnb! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:39 AM Flag
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or home away.com. I would also check orbitz.com [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:41 AM Flag
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How long are you staying? No friends you could crash with? Try Craig's list. Sort by price lowest to highest [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:42 AM Flag
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I looked at airbnb and the other website. If I was going alone I wouldn't mind, but with a dc I would prefer staying in a hotel. Definitely would not trust CL. The few friends we have have small apartments and I would not want to bother them. I tried asking my closest friend last year, it was for one night, but I realized I made a mistake when she mentioned that she would let us sleep on her sofabed, but they wake up often in the middle of the night for snacks, trips to the bathroom and it would not be "convenient". Anyway, hopefully I will find something. We just wanted to walk around go see our old neighborhood, eat at our favorite place, etc. Ds is so excited to go back... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:59 AM Flag
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I hate to say this and you sound like a loving mom but your ds has been away for 4 years- left nyc when he was only 5. My kids have moved 2x since oldest was 4 and they really don't remember the old places much. Could it be that he is associating nyc with happier times/you being happy? I feel like a young child is the most adaptable human there is. As long as their needs are provided for and their parent is happy, they do fine. I hope your trip works out but maybe see if you can also help ds see Chicago more positively and do some cool things in your new city too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:15 AM Flag
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ask for the comcast rate. worth a shot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:43 AM Flag
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Verizon [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:44 AM Flag
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Tablet Hotels has sales that you can access without a membership. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:43 AM Flag
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Hotel tonight app has good deals. Just checked and see Hampton Court in FiDi for under $100. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:44 AM Flag
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Also Hampton Inn Seaport and Hilton TriBeCa. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:52 AM Flag
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Courtyard Marriot on 92 St btw 1st and York is about $180 - $200 a night. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:46 AM Flag
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Try AAA. Used a few times and they never confirmed I was a member. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:47 AM Flag
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Triple A discount [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:48 AM Flag
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Bid on Priceline. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:49 AM Flag
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Airbnb is fantastic. You'll save so much money on food too by having a kitchen. Take the subway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:50 AM Flag
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Isn't it illegal in NYC? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:52 AM Flag
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Gross. Sleep in someone's grotty apartment with cat hair in the bed and piss on the toilet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:55 AM Flag
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Np You do realize people have stayed in hotel rooms before. I've used nothing but airbb for the past 4 years (across 5 continents) and have never had a bad experience. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:06 AM Flag
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Look at the Bronx Opera House: http://www.operahousehotel.com/ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:52 AM Flag
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I think it's hysterical that they'd hyping this as a high end tourist hotel. It is the South Bronx. I work there. Drug dealers, prostitutes, nothing good! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:58 AM Flag
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Hotwire.com is excellent! Good hotels for very discounted prices. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:01 AM Flag
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They are even cheaper on Priceline Express Deals and even cheaper yet if you bid on Priceline. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:05 AM Flag
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Try the Hotel Tonight app- a coworker yet to relocate said he was using it to stay for like $100 a night in midtown. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:07 AM Flag
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op- thank you all. I will try to mention AAA (but I'm not a member)or Verizon... I know Manhattan well (lived there for 20 yrs) so I think Bronx is not a good option, particularly with a child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:14 AM Flag
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Stay across the river in Jersey City and take the ferry into the city every morning. Stay all day and ferry back at night just to sleep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:14 AM Flag
[ - ] Can stressful life change (i.e. buying a house, having a DB) bring on anxiety and/or regression? How does one handle this? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:37 AM Flag
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of course! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:41 AM Flag
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having a kid sent my anxiety to skyrocketing levels [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:46 AM Flag
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how do you cope with it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:55 AM Flag
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keep trying to tell myself to be logical and stop thinking so much? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:57 AM Flag
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I think they say moving (whether you want to or not) is like the second most stressful thing a person goes through. Death of someone close to you is number one IIRC [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:49 AM Flag
[ - ] Ladies (and gents) of UB, thank you. Thank you for your listening ear, your valuable advice, your immediate response. I've saved countless posts and refer to them often. Thanks 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:35 AM Flag
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me too. when it's good it's awesome. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:42 AM Flag
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yep [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:53 AM Flag
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Don't forget the witty (and not so much) banter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:00 AM Flag
[ - ] Honestly, no one would want a girl that appreciates Olive Garden. We were talking about this the other night with a group of friends. I obviously didn't mention Olive Garden but this other woman in our group told me that women want "Fine wine, tall men, Delicious cuisine, and a great time." At first it came across as cunty but then I read that Olive Garden thread this morning. A woman that would appreciate Olive Garden is undesirable for obvious reasons. But here are some: 1. She's obviously NOKD and you'll have dumb prole kids 2. She's obviously dumb bc she doesn't know/care how bad it is for you. 3. She's ugly because a decent looking woman would have men lined up to take her out to better restaurants. 4. If she eats that junk, she'll obviously blow up eventually. 5. She has low class tastes and upbringing if she had to eat that shit growing up. 6. Her parents obviously didn't work hard enough to drill the "want better" theme into her life. Desirable women know their worth and demand better than Olive Garden. Therefore, she's unlikely to be educated and/or sophisticated. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:34 AM Flag
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Someone link me to this Olive Garden thread! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:37 AM Flag
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I actually felt myself getting stupid reading this ridiculous post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:42 AM Flag
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well said. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:46 AM Flag
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This. Brain cells dying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:47 AM Flag
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I got a craving for Olive Garden breadsticks reading this post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:48 AM Flag
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You're gross, OP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:43 AM Flag
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Blah blah blah [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:45 AM Flag
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ITA, OP! Desirable women know Applebees is where it's at! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:50 AM Flag
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I actually like the food at Applebee's. Wouldn't want to eat it all the time, but hits the spot once in a while! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:53 AM Flag
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basically fast food. what's not to like ;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:00 AM Flag
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Getting a massive stomachache afterwards? Just a thought. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:10 AM Flag
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I have a PhD, teach at a major research university, and come from a wealthy family, and I love Olive Garden. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:03 AM Flag
[ - ] Dh obsesses about my weight. I guess I get that it's the only obvious visual marker of my health but it just comes off SO offensive that the only concern or "support" I get from him revolves around my physical appearance. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:34 AM Flag
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Should have married a straight man. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:39 AM Flag
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Yes because straight men aren't visual... lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:40 AM Flag
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Yeah, so...normal, straight men don't bother obsessing about a few pounds more or less on a partner. They want a woman who is chill, fun, and rolls with the punches without stressing or being bitchy. From what I read here, most of the NYC women who brag about being a size 0 are with men who'd prefer an 11 to boy if that were socially acceptable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:51 AM Flag
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What'd you get out of typing that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:56 AM Flag
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how much do you weigh - and is this what he wants or does he want you to lose? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:46 AM Flag
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I'm 100 now. He wants me to gain and I am, getting better in every way. I just had the stomach flu and lost a few lbs and he completely freaked out saying my medication isn't working and I need a new doctor, not rational. Now he is all about getting me "thick" for our vacation in a few weeks. Gross, he's so transparent and embarrassingly shallow [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:52 AM Flag
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Hmmm. It seems like he just wants to "show you off" and while he likes having a thin wife, he doesn't want you to look all ana because then he looks bad - as if he encourages it or doesn't make you happy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:57 AM Flag
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Yeah this is exactly it but he's a seemingly well adjusted adult so why can't he hide his vapid motivations like the rest of us? Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:02 AM Flag
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^ the anorexia assumption has followed me for decades and it's really really tough to deal with, I guess it's newer for him than it is for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:05 AM Flag
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how tall are you? I honestly think he might be genuinely concerned [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:59 AM Flag
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He is and there's reason for it, I've gained 12 lbs in 6 months. I think he thought I'd start my new meds and be supermodel status in a few weeks. The way he goes about it offends me, because it's only about how I look not how I'm feeling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:01 AM Flag
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So you were 88 lbs 6 months ago? No wonder he's worried….Yeah. I get it. I think he just thinks you'll have a heart problem from being underweight. Take care of yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:07 AM Flag
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I know... thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:16 AM Flag
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NP: once you said he wants you to gain weight it was very obvious that he's worried about your health. Did you used to weigh 110-115? If so, that's a lot of weight to Kielce in your frame. Meanwhile, in another post (troll I believe) a 5'2" woman is depressed because she can't get herself below 116. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:10 AM Flag
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hi there - I am really not a troll. Actually I am 5'3" and I really am upset about 116. I have struggled with my weight my entire life and was anorexic for several years. I had a track coach tell me I was overweight in college and I just struggle. 116 is a lot for me. I am really just a normal person, though - no hairy troll. lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:15 AM Flag
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No away please. You're having a relapse of yor anorexia. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:17 AM Flag
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*go [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:17 AM Flag
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Yea that's normal for me, or as good as it gets, I should say. I know its stressful to worry, the way he worries stresses me out too... I just wish we could get on the same page because it's something we are always going to have to deal with [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:15 AM Flag
[ - ] have my physical tomorrow morning. Last year almost fainted when they drew blood, because I was on an empty stomach for too long... will it be bad if I eat a piece of fruit one/two hours before I head to doc office? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:31 AM Flag
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Why can't you eat? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:32 AM Flag
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I don't think it matters that much, but my doctor refused to perform the cholesterol test because I had eaten one bite of a green pepper two hours earlier. I dropped her. Try not to eat if you can, though. You can certainly drink water. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:35 AM Flag
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If you are having bloodwork done, it's supposed to be on an empty stomach I think. I just booked my physical and I think it says to not eat for 8 hours beforehand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:35 AM Flag
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op- thanks. Yes, this is what my doc mentioned too... I am just so scared about what happened last year... (that night I was still feeling dizzy/weak and ended up at ER. Scary experience) that's why I was wondering if it would really alter blood tests much, if I maybe had a couple spoons of cereal, or even just a half glass of almond milk... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:41 AM Flag
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You went to the ER that night solely because you had to delay your breakfast for like 3 hours? I doubt that was the true reason. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:55 AM Flag
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op- I had blood drawn at 1pm, but my last meal was the night before. And they gave me some juice afterwards, at doc office - as they were worried too. That afternoon, although I had eaten lunch, I felt weird, weak. And at night I felt as if I could not stand up at all... at the ER they said it was "near syncope vasovagal" I was very dehydrated and they gave me 2 IVs. Was there for 5hrs. I am a single mom, so I had to call a neighbor to help with dc who was sleeping... very scary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:16 AM Flag
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Yes, it would alter the results. They order them fasting for a reason. Sucks, but it is what it is. Just book the earliest appointment and eat breakfast right after if you really have a hard time skipping a meal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:01 AM Flag
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Lie down when they draw your blood. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:39 AM Flag
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If you want, just eat normally and tell them you already ate, you can get bloodwork drawn at like 7am on a different morning at a labcorp location or something most likely (before eating obviously). Yes, if she ordered fasting bloodwork and you aren't fasting, then the results will be skewed. No reason to get the blood draw at that point once you ate- the results won't be meaningful. (Who is the poster who switched doctors because the doc wouldn't bother drawing fasting bloodwork on a non-fasting patient??) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:00 AM Flag
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But she doesn't think her one bite of green pepper should matter. What does the doctor know? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:18 AM Flag
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I am you. I have to eat. what pisses me off is that you have an appointment and they make you wait before they even draw the blood and then to top it off the stupid dr lost my bloodwork and told me to come back a second time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:02 AM Flag
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Not at my doctor's office. They book physicals for first thing in the am and send patients directly to the lab for the blood draw before you ever see the doctor. And there's juice and crackers on hand for people who feel lightheaded afterward. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:14 AM Flag
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you are lucky. dr name? would love that! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:18 AM Flag
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