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[ - ] Name poll: Poppy 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:10 PM Flag
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Poppy Delevingne, english model [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:11 PM Flag
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Poopy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Can't share with anyone else IRL. DH and I went from barely ever having sex to having sex about 5-6x/week. I never thought it would matter to me as I was the one who never wanted it, but I am so much happier and our marriage is great. A bit of a brag, I know, but finally happy. :) 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:07 PM Flag
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I hope this will be us in the near future. dh finally admitted to having ed and has worked toward losing weight via diet/exercise. I can tell his confidence is coming back and hopefully he'll become more proactive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:11 PM Flag
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OP - gl. My DH lost 25 lbs through diet/exercise and I think it helped (both him, and how attracted I am to him if I'm being honest) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Favorite sushi place near Grand Central? I am craving sushi for lunch but haven't found a decent delivery place near me office. Thanks! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:58 PM Flag
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When I worked on park ave south and 30th, I'd always order from Umi Sushi on 31st inbetween Park and Lex. Not sure if you're in their delivery zone. If work is paying, do Koi. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:06 PM Flag
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Sushi Yasuda 204 East 43rd Street. Best sushi in the city. Very expensive but worth it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:08 PM Flag
[ - ] Are there such thing as hashtag going rules? #I #have #friends #who #hashtag #like #this. It drives me crazy, 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:55 PM Flag
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Are you 27? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:56 PM Flag
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No, older. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:58 PM Flag
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I don't understand your first sentence. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:56 PM Flag
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#wut? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:57 PM Flag
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Op-typo. Hash-tagging rules [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:58 PM Flag
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Well, you clearly already understand how hashtags work, so you're clearly just here to brag about how much more clued in you are than your friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:00 PM Flag
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Not really. I vaguely know how it works. I never hashtag. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:08 PM Flag
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Depends. On Instagram people like the use a lot of hashtags to increase probably their pic will come up in a search. So normal for someone to post a picture on the beach and the caption will have #beach #sun #fun #sand #ocean #tan etc. On places like FB that are connection based and the hashtagging feature is not as common, its not necessary to have 50 hashtags. They're mostly just used for emphasis or to be funny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:04 PM Flag
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Hashtagging is dorky and lame. Avoid at all costs. Others are judging you. Tell your friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:05 PM Flag
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#themoreyouknow [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:11 PM Flag
[ - ] I need a gift suggestion for a couple that hosted us. I need to ship it out of state. Any ideas. Don't want to send flowers or wine. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:54 PM Flag
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gift box from Mouth.com, something nice for their home - if you saw they have lots of flowers, maybe a pretty vase, or if they love to cook, a beautiful serving tray or something? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:56 PM Flag
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Send something consumable. Wine or a food basket is fine. Don't burden them with something they have to store or display and dust in their house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:56 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Gift certificate for local restuaurant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:57 PM Flag
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Elenis or FatWitch ships out of state I believe [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Are cashmere sweat pants worth it? I have cashmere hoodies that I adore. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:52 PM Flag
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In my opinion yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:53 PM Flag
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YES! But then again, I buy them only when I find them on super clearance at Neiman Marcus. I have 4 or 5 pairs that I got for around $25 each. They are great for wearing on airplanes or long car trips. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:56 PM Flag
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Oooh, I found a pair on sale for $90 and I thought that was a great deal, but I could hold out if I could find them for $25.. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:59 PM Flag
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Yeah, well, I am a championship bargain shopper, so it is hard to match my deals, but you can do better than $90. Hold out for $60. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:01 PM Flag
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We could be friends IRL- I love bargain shopping. $60 sounds like a good limit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:08 PM Flag
[ - ] My mother thinks its odd that a man of 42 hasn't been married yet and thinks it's a red flag. Thoughts? 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:46 PM Flag
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That doesn't surprise me for your mother's age. I'm assuming she's over 60. But I think that many people like to decide that anyone who is not married by the age of 40 is defective somehow. I think it's kind of a lazy opinion that shows up when someone wants to feel superior. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:49 PM Flag
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np: I don't she wants to feel superior. She is just concerned for over daughter and doesn't want him to waste her fertility on someone who gives every sign of being a stringer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:52 PM Flag
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He can string all he wants. That doesn't mean she has to be strung. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:53 PM Flag
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Exactly. But maybe her mother is just pointing this out in case she's not thinking about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:54 PM Flag
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OR: Sorry, I think I was saying that the 'superior' thing was more for our generation. I totally see how people age 65+ would see it as a red flag. They were all married by 25. As far as this guy goes, if he is a commitment phobe, then so be it. What irks me is when all 40+ people are identified as red flags. Everyone has their own story. Maybe someone was just unlucky in love. It doesn't make them defective. Sorry, I have a number of single friends who are 40+ who are amazing and it really tweaks me when people crap on them for their single status. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:59 PM Flag
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NP: I understand. But are all of your amazing single 40+ friends women? Do you have a lot of single male 40+ friends who were just "unlucky in love" or do they 1) have trouble sharing; 2) don't want the responsibility; 3) looking for something so "perfect" that it doesn't exist, etc. (Although I guess that goes for both genders). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:03 PM Flag
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Yep, all women. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:07 PM Flag
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DING! DING! DING! The rule of thumb that those unmarried over 40+ have some issues applies only to men. "Marriage minded" men tend to get married before that age, either they want to, or they are with women who want to. If they have made it that far without marriage, there is generally (not always!) something wrong. Either on their end -- commitment phobe, etc. -- or because they are weird, losers, etc. and women don't want them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:11 PM Flag
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np: I'll chime in because I know quite a few single men from my business school days. They are now in their 50s. There is no one reason why they are single. Each one has a unique story. I know so many single men and women going all the way back to high school. I must attract that type. I posted below. I didn't get married until 40 myself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:12 PM Flag
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Red flag but not a dealbreaker [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:50 PM Flag
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This. Look further. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:53 PM Flag
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honestly there are red flags on ANY unmarried 42yo. If divorced you might not know the real reason why. I wouldn't eliminate anyone based upon a broad generalization. Stop asking your Mom about dates. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:59 PM Flag
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One of those marriage books talks about permanent bachelorhood solidifying at age 43 so presumably age 42 is the the last chance for a man to fall within the realm of normal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:51 PM Flag
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That sounds very sciencey. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:01 PM Flag
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My DH was 46 when I married him at 40. First marriage for both of us. Sometimes it takes a while to find the right person at the right time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:52 PM Flag
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Wait a minute, what is a logical person doing on UB?! Your privileges are revoked immediately!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:00 PM Flag
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;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:06 PM Flag
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I wouldn't be concerned about marriage, but I would be concerned if a man hadn't been able to sustain a seriously meaningful relationship with a woman (not his mother!) by that age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:54 PM Flag
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What if he had sustained numerous multi-year relationships but never proposed to anyone? Would that give you comfort? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:55 PM Flag
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Why had he not proposed? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:56 PM Flag
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Op- this is the situation. Multiple long term, no engagements [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:57 PM Flag
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Serial monogomist. Thinks he's a "great boyfriend" -- doesn't cheat, loves his girlfriend, caring, etc. -- but ultimately doesn't want to share his life or have responsibilities of family/children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:05 PM Flag
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this is possible but I think eventually those men get married, maybe they have an internal age they imagine committing but I think few men die alone kwim? If this type exists they probably have an age in their 40s when they decide to just stay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:08 PM Flag
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One of our friends who is a serial monogomist (I meand 5-6 years with each woman) just got engaged at age 37. I don't have any single male friends over 40 (except one who is gay-ish). Not one. Even the holdouts, the nerds, the short baldies, all were at least engaged by 41. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:13 PM Flag
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It could be, or it could mean he enjoyed being a bachelor, got caught up working, had some unlucky relationships, etc. For sure I think someone 42 and a bachelor could be just fine. The thing to remember is that you have to pick your poison sometimes. My Dh is that age and will be divorced and comes across as quite the family man, we were together 10 yrs, he coaches sports, have several children, but he cheated on my with hookers and was a manipulative ass. Would I take a never married and quirky but faithful 42yo over him now? Of course. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:58 PM Flag
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Thanks. And sorry to hear that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:00 PM Flag
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Of course and thank you! your Mom sounds closed minded (mine is too). Stop confiding in her unless you are looking for someone to rain on your parade. Things have changed. He could be a weirdo, but so could every other man your age. Good Luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:03 PM Flag
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It means he's smart. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:01 PM Flag
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Ask him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:06 PM Flag
[ - ] Is there any chance that Ben and Jlo would get back together? For some reason, I'd kind of like to see that. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:42 PM Flag
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STOP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:43 PM Flag
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^2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:44 PM Flag
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what is this carrot thing you're doing? does your plus sign not work? Or is this some new code I don't know? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:49 PM Flag
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NP with a dork answer: she's squaring it instead of adding one to it. But 1 squared is still 1, whereas a +1 would have been 2. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:58 PM Flag
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Are real estate taxes deductible from federal income tax? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:46 PM Flag
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Yes, but not for AMT. So not for most middle class NYers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:50 PM Flag
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That was the worst relationship of all! Ben was into making her "classier" and was controlling about her dress and hair. Yuck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:58 PM Flag
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I hope not, I think she is gross. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:59 PM Flag
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Get a life [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:12 PM Flag
[ - ] For those who live in a house in a suburban area, how much do you pay annually in taxes? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:38 PM Flag
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$39k [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:40 PM Flag
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30k, worth every penny [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:44 PM Flag
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$18k [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:45 PM Flag
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I have no clue. It is built into the mortgage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:46 PM Flag
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Wow. Ignorant much? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:48 PM Flag
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I could check it, I just don't care. I don't look at my receipts or check prices of things either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:54 PM Flag
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OK, money bags. What is it like to be so clueless about the real world? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:55 PM Flag
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What do you think I don't know about the real world? I know the taxes are rolled up into the mortgage, but no, there's no need to know the exact number right this moment, today. if it makes you feel better, I've had cancer twice, I'll probably get it again at some point, I probably am not going to live for the next 20 years. There's more than enough money to get me through the next 10 or so, which I'll be grateful for, and I don't want to waste the time I have looking at numbers that don't really occupy my mental real estate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:10 PM Flag
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Do you not look at your own tax return? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:49 PM Flag
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Not really. It doesn't really matter, we have more than enough money to pay whatever they are. We're not on a budget. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:53 PM Flag
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Ours is too, but I still know how much property taxes I pay annually. They send a statement. $13K [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:49 PM Flag
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I give all financial mail to DH. He pays all the bills. I could pay them myself, but why would I want to if he is happy to do it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:55 PM Flag
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Because being ignorant is dangerous. What if he leaves you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:57 PM Flag
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I'm not completely ignorant, I know where all the bodies are buried. I just don't pay the bills or look at numbers. If there were some reason to, I would. I have a bank account of my own. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:58 PM Flag
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You are like my DH, he doesn't know or want to know! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:58 PM Flag
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Good luck with post-divorce life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:59 PM Flag
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Even if that happened today, half of our estate is more than enough. Also, I did have a life before I got married, where I worked, did my own taxes, owned property, lots of grownup things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:11 PM Flag
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1950s is calling [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:00 PM Flag
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It isn't built into your mortgage idiot. It might be combined with your mortgage PAYMENT monthly, but it's not part of your mortgage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:01 PM Flag
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13k, painful on a middle class HHI but worth every cent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:57 PM Flag
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$21K. Princeton, NJ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:58 PM Flag
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6K Florida. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:06 PM Flag
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$9k [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:09 PM Flag
[ - ] Help me. They are basically transitioning someone to my role. They didn't make it official or talk to me about it but he is just pushing his way into all my projects and setting up meetings to discuss the project which I have already started. This is creating confusion for staff and I am obviously super frustrated. We both have a new manager who is not the brightest bulb, doesn't get human factors at all and is completely clueless about the volume of work. Every time I meet with him he checks his watch every minute of the meeting. Anything I can do other than look for a new place (I am doing this already) 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:38 PM Flag
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Will you be getting a new role or are you supposed to quit? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:42 PM Flag
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They are giving me a very very crappy "opportunity" which I made clear I didn't want but was pressured to take. The "opportunity" doesn't require more than 25% of my time. The thing is, the guy who is taking over my set of responsibilities is very immature and just isn't management material. He is leaning on me to help him figure everything out and I am basically still doing the old job. Its just very strange position to be in and its not being done in the open so both my staff and my clients are confused and its creating chaos. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:46 PM Flag
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stonewall him every chance you get. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:44 PM Flag
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Find a new job. You manager doesn't want you there and doesn't respect you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:45 PM Flag
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I am trying. My manager doesn't know either one of us. He is new. Someone above is pushing this for this guy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:47 PM Flag
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Get out by the end of summer. Once he is up to speed, they'll push you out, anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:52 PM Flag
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so prevent him from getting up to speed quickly by stonewalling him [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:53 PM Flag
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Start documenting what is going on. Make a complaint to HR. Cite specific examples of how you feel you are being treated unfairly. Contact a lawyer ASAP. They obviously want you out, but do your best to make i difficult so that you can get a good package. Stay strong!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:52 PM Flag
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TY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you ever plan to downsize your house? What is the main reason? DH and I will be upgrading our home in a few years but he doesn't want the pressure of having to move due to taxes once the kids leave the house. He can't justify staying in a house with such a high annual tax if the kids aren't in school. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:37 PM Flag
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We moved b/c of a job. I like the downsize. Too big a home just meant we accumulated unnecessary junk and furniture. We never even used the spaces and the A/C bill was astronomical. We're in a shoebox now and loving it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:38 PM Flag
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Yes, our HHI isn't that high but our apartment is worth 1.8MM so we will have to downgrade to pay for younger kids college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:39 PM Flag
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My mom downsized, it was not incredible pressure. She said she was glad she had nice house when we were in school, and glad she downsized. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:39 PM Flag
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Most people who downsize do it when the kids leave or out of financial necessity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:40 PM Flag
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Yes. We live in a large house on the beach but it is too hot where we live in the summer. DH is from Scotland and he can't take the heat anymore. He used to love it, but since he has gone through "manopause" it really bothers him. Our plan is to live in 2 smaller houses--one in the mountains for summmer and fall and a smaller house near where we live now for winter and spring. Eventually, if we can take the snow, we might live in the mountains year round. We are already shopping. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:44 PM Flag
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np: that sounds fantastic! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:59 PM Flag
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When the kids are a bit older and out of the house - yes. It would be about the cost of maintaining a home this size with only 2 people in it. I'm looking forward to having a smaller footprint. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:45 PM Flag
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For burb people, it is easier to travel, once you give up house [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:53 PM Flag
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Yes, when the kids are done with high school. We can't keep up with the taxes at that point if they are not in the schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:59 PM Flag
[ - ] SAHMs spending the summer with kids with no structured dropoff activities or camp..heaven or hell? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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Depends a lot on the kids, mine, hell. My oldest needs a lot of structured activities. He does not do well with no structure to his day/week (I am the same way) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:31 PM Flag
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np: I am living this right now. We're at the beach for the summer and I have them in camps for 3 weeks (the first one is next week) but I'm thinking I should have signed them up for camp every week. I keep waiting for my 12 year old to fall into the laid back lifestyle but 2 weeks in a it's a no go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:01 PM Flag
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Hell. I did it one summer. Thoughts we'd capture the idyllic good old days when kids just wandered out and found other kids and built forts, walked in creeks, swam, etc. Boy was I wrong. My two drove me crazy because they were bored! And all their friends - in activities or traveling. So now I do a combination - a couple of weeks of activities, some traveling and some down time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:34 PM Flag
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It's because kids are used to being scheduled since very early age, they don't develop skills to entertain themselves, without electronic devices. It's not like naturally all kids need scheduled activities, not true at all, we make them the way they are with constant stimulation, we don't let them be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:04 PM Flag
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Hell. Sorry...you need some activities. Honestly, maybe you get together with some other moms and kind of plan a few weeks out. Michelle has the kids on Tuesday afternoons. You have them Wednesdays. Thursdays you go do a field trip or take a class. Plan some crap out! Good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:35 PM Flag
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It's fine if you have a neighborhood full of kids and they run around with each all day and just come in for meals. But one mom with her kids for 12-14 hours day after day? Hell for everyone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:39 PM Flag
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If your kids are under 6 and spending all day with them is hell, get a job and hire a sitter for the summer. If your kids are over 6 and you still spend all day focused on them, you are doing them a great disservice - stop. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:49 PM Flag
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Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:52 PM Flag
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heaven for me, so far. loving it. We pretty much do this every year. oldest is now 7. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:39 PM Flag
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They pursue their own hobbies independently, and sometimes organize their own meetings with other kids or sign themselves up for programs. If you train them from a young age to entertain themselves they'll have higher executive function in later childhood and won't be in your hair all the time. Of course they could grow up to be highly independent and organized serial killers, but at least they won't involve me in every last detail of planning and execution. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:39 PM Flag
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Viva la iPad! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:40 PM Flag
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Depends on where you live, how old the kids are, and the personalities. I'm in NYC, so will be hell. The apartment is too small. I probably can make it work if I plan the week out, museums, field trips...etc. But with no structure, it'll be impossible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:46 PM Flag
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Mostly heaven...we walk to the beach on sunny days, go to library or museum on rainy days. Much easier now that they are 4 and 7. They also started playing together at home for hours at a time, which is life-changing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:47 PM Flag
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Heaven. I get to play with the kids when I want to, or send them out to do their own thing when I don't. No schedules. And I have them doing lots of chores every morning, so the house will be spotless & organized and the yard will be in great shape by the time they go back to school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:47 PM Flag
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Chores? How old are they? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:02 PM Flag
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Heaven! Ages 6 and 8. But we do two weeks of camp, so there's a little structure. Frankly I prefer the non-camp weeks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:51 PM Flag
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Me too! Heaven. Beach trips, parks, lazing around reading books, going to museums and libraries, Governors Island, love it all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:08 PM Flag
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Sounds like heaven to me but its a grass is always greener thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:00 PM Flag
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Hell. Did it last summer and they were bored/ fighting. I was exhausted. All of their friends are in camp so they had no playmates. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:01 PM Flag
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That's the problem. They need friends their age, who could be around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:10 PM Flag
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The whole summer it will get old...mix it up. We do some camp, some traveling with family, some weeks just whatever. I think the "whatever" weeks are easier in the city, because there is a lot to do and we can choose a different adventure every day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:02 PM Flag
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We did day camp. Best of both worlds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:08 PM Flag
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I hate to have to always go somewhere to drop kids off/pick them up every single day, I prefer non-scheduled summer days. Thankfully, we live right next to a playground, where there are lots of kids my kid's ages. And all my kids want to do is go to the playground. I just go there, read my book and let them play, then go home, make lunch, put the youngest to sleep, while oldest is either playing in his room or is on his ipad. We go again, in the afternoon, after the youngest wakes up, then dinner with DH, or restaurant with kids and DH and some friends, no worries about having to do super early bedtime, because kids must wake up to be schlepped to their respective camps and no schlepping two kids with different schedules :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:08 PM Flag
[ - ] My husband and I have slept together maybe 4 times in three years. Every time he touches me it kind of skeeves me out. He's attractive but I just hate the thought of him being sexual with me. 39 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:21 PM Flag
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Therapy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:23 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:25 PM Flag
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How much money does he make? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:23 PM Flag
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op-he is very well known and for his education and contacts we should be loaded - but he is always on a financial roller coaster and we are always strggling...living the dream on the outside with a nice house etc but a nightmare on the inside as its now back to month to month. i think heis a guy who has it all and has no idea how to make money out of it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:26 PM Flag
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That has a lot to do with it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:31 PM Flag
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op-well probably. if he wasnt constantly feeling like a failure and we weren't always at the edge of being destitute I would probably be in a different place [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:34 PM Flag
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Yep. Do not underestimate how outside forces can affect your personality and, in your case, your sex drive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:37 PM Flag
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I asked below, but do you respect him? This is very basic to a marriage and to sexual attraction. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:37 PM Flag
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op-no, not especially. in some ways maybe. he has made our life complicated in many ways over the eyars [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:43 PM Flag
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The lack of respect is what's doing you in. That is a VERY difficult obstacle to overcome. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:46 PM Flag
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Get a better job and live only on your income; that way, he can do the things that interest him without financial pressure, and any income he brings in will be a bonus to the retirement fund. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:50 PM Flag
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Were you on the pill when you married him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:23 PM Flag
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op-no, have never been on pill [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:26 PM Flag
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Maybe go on the pill. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:36 PM Flag
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different poster why this question? I find that when on the pill i have no drive [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:27 PM Flag
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Being on the pill affects your smell and smell is an important aspect in a woman selecting a mate who is genetically optimal. Some women get married on the pill and find they are sexually repulsed by the man when they later go off the pill. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:30 PM Flag
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The pill tricks your body into thinking you are pregnant. When pregnant you are attracted to different mates then when you are not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:32 PM Flag
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This is def. a downside of the pill. Same with me. 10 years had no idea. I really recommend going off it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:39 PM Flag
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Read a sexy book and do it. It'll become easier. You need to fix you. Otherwise divorce. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:27 PM Flag
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I'm watching this. My DH has low Testosterone. Has he checked his levels? Is he depressed? I understand your pain. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:28 PM Flag
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op-he use to have this but issue is not his sex drive - its I can get into HIM [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:32 PM Flag
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How does he feel about the lack of sex? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:28 PM Flag
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op-hates it. keeps trying but we start and i get turned off. like he's too slow and the same kind of touching - and i hate the way he kisses and its always the same lame bed talk. the whole thing makes me grossed out just writing it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:33 PM Flag
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Were you ever sexually attracted to him? Do you respect him generally or not really? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:36 PM Flag
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op-we were a very sexual couple for years. i dont respect him a great deal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:43 PM Flag
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Respect is a huge deal and perhaps the main issue here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:45 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:48 PM Flag
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ITA. It is absolutely lack of respect. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:49 PM Flag
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Tell him he's got 3 minutes and set the timer. Do it each night and he'll figure out how to speed it up real fast. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:41 PM Flag
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How is your sex drive independent of DH? Do you fantasize and masturbate or is your sex drive gone? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:31 PM Flag
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op-i am attracted to other people. yes i masterbate periodically [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:33 PM Flag
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So the issue is him... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:40 PM Flag
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op-yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:44 PM Flag
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Been there. Just bite the bullet and do it about five times in two weeks. For me, I realized the issue was my concern about my aging, post-baby body. I didn't really want him to touch it because I felt pretty gross. Then, I realized he didn't care, he just wanted to have sex, and I got over it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:33 PM Flag
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op-i like my body, mostly, i hate when HE touched me. I try...but I get grossed out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:35 PM Flag
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Attraction grows the more you have sex. Oxytocin is released which helps to create a bond. Just do it a lot for a few weeks and it he attraction will come back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:37 PM Flag
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I agree with this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:06 PM Flag
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I read that the more sex a man has w wife, the more successful he is. Something about his confidence and self esteem. Try more and see where it goes! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:04 PM Flag
[ - ] My dog whines/cries with me to get what he wants but he does not do this to my DH :( 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:17 PM Flag
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Do you give in? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:18 PM Flag
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I guess so. I try not to, but he is pretty convincing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:21 PM Flag
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And that is why he keeps bugging you. You can't give in to whining EVER...just like with kids. go cold turkey for a week and I bet it will stop. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:23 PM Flag
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Euthanize [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:20 PM Flag
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Same with the kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:21 PM Flag
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We have an 13 month year old and no real diff btwn how she acts with my dh vs. me . Maybe will change when she gets older? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:23 PM Flag
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He smells the estrogen and is tapping into your nurturing instinct. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:22 PM Flag
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Is that a real thing? the estrgen smelling? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:24 PM Flag
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No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:26 PM Flag
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Dogs are kids. They know how to play humans for sympathy. Mine does the same. Whoever feeds the dog is the dog's master. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:28 PM Flag
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I am the one who feeds him 80% of the time. So is that why he whines at me ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:30 PM Flag
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Yes. Definitely. My family owned dogs (breeder) and this is the case. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:40 PM Flag
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True, but I think dogs (and some cats) also seem to sense when humans are sad as well and will sometimes "comfort" you. np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:55 PM Flag
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He whines at you because its effective - he knows you will give in. Presumably DH does not give in, so no whining. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:37 PM Flag
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I crate trained my dog. When she gets needy I put her in her crate with a treat and cover the top and sides with a blanket. She likes the den feeling and she calms down. When company is over she prefers this. It's her little sanctuary. She's out of the crate 98% of the day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone out there have kind of a naturally pessimistic child? Have you had any luck shifting their outlook to a more positive one or is it kind of just ingrained? 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:17 PM Flag
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I wouldn't try to change someone's basic personality. Someone like this is a natural lawyer, critic or troubleshooter. There is a need for all types. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:19 PM Flag
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OP: I guess I wasn't really looking to change the personality...it's just so frustrating to listen to someone complain all day and find fault in everything. I have friends who do this and I avoid them because they're bummers. I would love for that to not be my child's fate. But maybe it just is what it is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:22 PM Flag
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It likely is what it is. Maybe have them keep a journal of complaints and under each complaint, make a suggestion about how the problem could be solved or how something could be improved. See if any of the suggestions for improvements are worthwhile. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:24 PM Flag
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OP: Great idea. I will do this. Thank you. I like the idea of the responsibility to find a solution back on the child. Seems like a good way to involve them in fixing all the faults they see out in the world. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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Hope it works! Maybe you will feel pleasure in his genius in devising solutions for a better world or even minor modifications to improve day to day living. Some of the most successful people have a drive for constant improvement. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:35 PM Flag
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Interesting perspective. Constructive actually. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:24 PM Flag
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It takes all types to make the world go round! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:21 PM Flag
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OP: Ok, guess I'll just get used to it. No one in my immediate family is like this...so it was kind of a complaint-free household that I grew up in. DH's family...not so much. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:24 PM Flag
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It's hard when you're not used to a certain personality and with small families, you only get to see a few types growing up. These trait will probably always sort of bug you but once you accept it's immutable, it might be easier to accept him as is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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OP: Agreed. I think I have a tough time understanding his negative thought process because it's so unnatural to me. Even when I have the crappiest day, I am always trying to find the silver lining. I actually feel uncomfortable 'living' in a place of negativity. So, I think the onus is on me to try to understand him a bit better rather than always just trying to cheer him up. It almost seems like I'm invalidating him if I just kind of 'glass half full' him at every turn. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:39 PM Flag
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You guys might also get to the point where you can laugh about your differences since you seem to be on opposite ends of the spectrum. Does he have any musical or artistic interests? Some channel this energy into the arts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:44 PM Flag
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Personality traits are largely hardwired. But why do you want to shift dc's temperament? Unless dc's outlook is so negative it's contributing to depression or other dysfunctional behavior, I'd leave it alone. A certain amount of pessimism is a good thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:24 PM Flag
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OP: I agree personality does seem 99% hardwired. I guess I am just a generally positive person (not overly so) and I know how I feel being around super negative people. I don't like it. I find it kind of toxic when people are always complaining and acting like life's not fair. While I love DC, I worry that he'll kind of push people away from him later in life if this is his general MO. But it sounds like everyone's in agreement that the world needs all types. So I'll pipe down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:27 PM Flag
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np- i'm watching this. I have the exact same problem with my 6 year old ds. Sometimes his negativity is overwhelming. We can have an exciting day full of fun, and he will focus on even the most minor of flaws. I find it disheartening. Like you, I'm pretty positive and face challenges head on. He wallows. Other than that, he's an awesome kid. But it's rough. I have the same worries that you do. GL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:40 PM Flag
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OP: Thanks. Yep, we sound similar. And while I'm familiar with this kind of negativity because my DH has it...he has it in much smaller amounts. Plus, he's an adult, so you can kind of rib him when he's leaning too hard into his critical nature and he'll snap out of it. Not so easy with a youngster. DS is definitely an awesome kid. This is just one aspect of his personality that I have trouble relating to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:45 PM Flag
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This is me! I am the optimistic person and I have a negative child. It drives me nuts. I also secretly think he will alienate people. Who wants to be around negativity? It is hardwired and my dh is also like this to a lesser degree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:59 PM Flag
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Ha. Ok, we're clones then. I wonder if all the negative people we hang out with are secretly talking about how annoying we are with our sunshiney attitudes trying to make lemonades out of lemons. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:02 PM Flag
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So true. I used to have an office mate who was a total Debbie Downer. She really took my mood out too. I was so happy when she quit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:44 PM Flag
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My teen is this. Drives me nuts. She hasn't always been this way (at least not externally). She has a lot of anxiety and self doubt too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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I do! My daughter is a natural pessimist. She has always been quick to see the negative first. I work on re-framing with her now that she is older. We talk about always trying to find a balance - there has to be a positive side to most situations/experiences, and how happiness is a choice. I don't think I'm trying to change her personality, just getting her to recognize that there is something positive to be taken from most situations. Being negative all the time is very draining on yourself and others. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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This is my DD. She will come home from day camp, having had a blast all day, and the one thing she will focus on is some little one minute event that annoyed her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:29 PM Flag
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That could be because she's tired. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:39 PM Flag
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It could be - except it is a consistent pattern - same thing for school. She has a very strong tendency to focus on and remember the negative things. I try to counteract it by having her tell me which good things she experienced that day, and she does. I also tell her at times that she can choose whether to focus on good things or bad things, and that by focusing on the good things she will have a much happier life than if only focusing on the bad things. I don't think I can change her fundamental outlook, but I do think I can give her some tools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:43 PM Flag
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+1. I learned not to reward that behavior though. It's draining on all of us. I'll listen to a real problem but the constant whining about someone's bad behavior gets to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:42 PM Flag
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OP: May I ask how you 'don't reward' that behavior? Do you just ignore incessant complaining or do you change the subject? Just curious as to kind of the specific ways you head it off at the pass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:47 PM Flag
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I didn't begin by asking how her day was--that seemed to unleash the krakken so to speak. If she felt the need to really vent about something I asked her how she could constructively deal with the situation. Or I'd get her to see it wasn't either a big deal or I'd really listen (like sit with her vs. have her vent while I'm doing something else). After a few minutes I'd change the topic if I feel she exhausted the whole episode. Having a snack when she got back helped too--low blood sugar seemed to plague her mood. It's a hard line between caring and reinforcing the dwelling on bad situations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:11 PM Flag
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You can work on this, starting at a very young age. Help a child learn to find humor in things, give them a sense of how to do things even when afraid. Model a positive attitude. Look at the book The Optimistic Child by Martin Seligman. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:34 PM Flag
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OP: Ooh, thanks for the book recommendation. I'll check that out. I do distinctly remember my parents kind of instructing us to laugh at ourselves and take things lightly. So while I know I shouldn't be expecting him to change...maybe just finding a few tools for him might help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:38 PM Flag
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There's a workbook for kids called something like What to Do when You Grumble Too Much, that uses CBT techniques to help them change their thought patterns. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:05 PM Flag
[ - ] based on your experience, are fat people more or less likely to have affairs? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:08 PM Flag
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Based on my experience, it's more the ones who work hard on their bodies. It's sort of anticlimactic to work that hard and have to settle for the appreciation of just one other person, who doesn't always notice, or takes it for granted. They get a high off of attention from others. Of course there will always be men of any body type who have money and feel like that entitles them to sex from more than one partner over time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:12 PM Flag
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THIS! My ex husband cheated on me after he started to going to the gym every day and getting back in shape (cheated on me with a gym trainer) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:25 PM Flag
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Those having affairs are usually of a healthy weight since the affairs motivates exercise, a good diet and dressing well like nothing else in the world. Skinny people are often neurotic and have lower sex drives and fat people are more self-conscious about showing off the body. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:14 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone had any luck with the Master Cleanse or any other homemade cleanse? I can't afford a real one. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:03 PM Flag
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I think cleanses are kind of BS. What are you hoping to gain from doing one? Weight loss or just feeling better? Why don't you just eat really well for a week or two and avoid unnecessary sugar and alcohol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:04 PM Flag
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this. only consume water, eggs with veggie for breakfast, veggie plus lean protein for lunch and dinner. trust me youll lose weight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:05 PM Flag
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I'm back from vacation and feel like a pig. I've tried "eating really well" and I fall off the wagon too easily. I feel like the restrictions of a cleanse might be good. When I have too many options, I fail. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:06 PM Flag
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OR: I disagree. I don't do cleanses, but I watch countless friends do them. Honestly, it seems like such an unnecessary roller coaster for them. They are freaking out the first few days completely starving. Then they kind of get into it, then they quit. In the end, they maybe drop some water weight and then just gain it all back. Your body takes care of itself. If you don't want a lot of options, then do a super specific meal plan for yourself for the week but with real foods that are healthy that you like. Stick with it for a week straight. See how you feel. Then re-up for another week. Do NOT focus on weight loss. Just focus on feeling better and healthier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:12 PM Flag
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+1 - try something low-carb, high protein like the South Beach diet- do phase one for a week. You will lose weight! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:17 PM Flag
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op do I have to get the book or can i find this online? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:32 PM Flag
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How are your eating habits ordinarily? Apart from overindulging while on vacation, I mean. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:18 PM Flag
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So eat well know! Veggies and fruit and meat would be a hell of a lot better than starving yourself on a gimmick. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:22 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:08 PM Flag
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Such crap... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:08 PM Flag
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lol. So true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:22 PM Flag
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My friend who is a GI says they are worthless at least, harmful sometimes even. Just eat sensibly. Or eat vegetarian with lo fat for a while. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:11 PM Flag
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+1. My mom is a physician and agrees. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:13 PM Flag
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GI lab RN- this!!! coffee enemas, cleanses, they're all bs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:19 PM Flag
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I am a physician and I agree. I's suggest reducing fat, no alcohol or processed foods, until you feel better. I see a friend doing cleanses and walking around with headaches and feeling miserable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:05 PM Flag
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I had luck with it giving me an ass of fire [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:14 PM Flag
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That sounds like so much fun. Was it at work? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:19 PM Flag
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Not a "cleanse" per se but when I was trying to lose those last few lbs before my wedding, I made green smoothies at home and drank them for breakfast and lunch and would just have a healthy dinner. I lost probably 3-4 lbs in a couple weeks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:59 PM Flag
[ - ] So I have this friend - such a b**tch. Invites me and my dd to her dd's bat mitzvah and is so nice and we give a them a major financial gift and this wench never even called to say thank you or reach out as a friend. We use to be close then she got cold after I got PG and then warmed up again right before the event. What a user 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 01:57 PM Flag
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she probably did not say thankyou to anyone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 01:58 PM Flag
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Did you receive a thank you note from the child? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 01:58 PM Flag
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op-yes, but we have known each other since kids were 4 and were like best friends [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:01 PM Flag
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or - well, the gift was for the child, and you got your thank you. as for your friend, if she is not reaching out in general, then she may be a user. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:06 PM Flag
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Get over yourself. The thank you note you got is totally appropriate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:30 PM Flag
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Yes, your friend made sure her DD did TKUs. Better than getting a note from friend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:41 PM Flag
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Yes, more appropriate from the DD than from the mom! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 03:06 PM Flag
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Friendships go through different periods, and sometimes someone isn't in a place to be a very good friend. It is rude for her DD not to send thank you notes for gifts (how long ago was the bat mitzvah?). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:02 PM Flag
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She definitely should have sent a thank you, but you're having kind of a disproportionately negative reaction. If you dislike this person so much...why did you go and why did you give such a huge amount of money? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:06 PM Flag
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The child wrote a thank. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:16 PM Flag
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>>>> you note. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:17 PM Flag
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Wait, what? So you got a thank you note and you're still sour? Ok, you just don't like this lady. Don't blame it on the bat mitzvah. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:20 PM Flag
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^2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:28 PM Flag
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OK, but that's all you get. I suppose a real friend would reach out, but she's not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:30 PM Flag
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I see this happening. Just don't interact with her then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:12 PM Flag
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The child wrote a thank you note. What are you expecting? You sound like someone who looks for things to get outraged about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:15 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:18 PM Flag
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You mean all you got was a thank you note? That bitch!!! Unfriend immediately! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:22 PM Flag
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+1 (lol). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:43 PM Flag
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You should give gifts because you like to give gifts - not because you enjoy gratitude. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.01.15, 02:31 PM Flag
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