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[ - ] What are you giving your DCs for Valentine's Day? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:46 PM Flag
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I haven't shopped yet but probably stickers and a coloring book. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:48 PM Flag
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Nothing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:48 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:52 PM Flag
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Hearth shaped pancakes if I remember to get up early enough. Candy hearts in lunch boxes. That's probably it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:50 PM Flag
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^^Or heart shaped pancakes. Not sure that I have a cookie cutter shaped like a hearth. That'd be cool, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you expect anything from your parents in their will? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:46 PM Flag
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No, they give generously while they are still alive. DHs father has already said that everything goes to our DCs when youngest turns 21 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:48 PM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:48 PM Flag
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No my father remarried and his wife will likely outlive him. Not because of age but because of my father's health. My mom has nothing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:49 PM Flag
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Yes, whatever is left over would be split 50/50 between my self and my sibling. I hope it's not much as that would mean outlet mom lives a looong time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:53 PM Flag
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Yes, but I don't know how much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:54 PM Flag
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Yes. Probably 3mm from my side, and 2mm from inlaws [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:55 PM Flag
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I expect to inherit from my mom and my dad (they are divorced, and mom forced/he agreed/whatever to provide that I would inherit most of the assets he owned as of the date they divorced), also from three anuts/uncles with no kids. DH would expect to inherit from his parents too. Probably about 4M on my side, about the same on his. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:56 PM Flag
[ - ] thoughts on horace mann vs speyer vs bank st vs st hilda's? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:37 PM Flag
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I don't get this list at at all [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:40 PM Flag
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The schools are completely different. HM is the obvious best in terms of exmissions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:45 PM Flag
[ - ] Parents who kept their kids home from school because of the snow even though school was in session-why? If the schools were open, why wouldn't you send your kids? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:31 PM Flag
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My uneducated Albanian friend does this. Her American HPY husband hates it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:35 PM Flag
[ - ] Thoughts on Walnut Hill for summer programs? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:27 PM Flag
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Pretty campus [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:31 PM Flag
[ - ] I hired a new domestic employee (both childcare and housekeeping) a couple of months ago. She stopped taking kids outside in the last 2 weeks. Yesterday dc was home all day and she never took him out. Said it was too cold. Do you think it was too cold? She is good with housekeeping but seems to not handle the kids so well. I guess it's always a trade off 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:26 PM Flag
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How old is your dc? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:30 PM Flag
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I have 3 dcs that's why I need housekeeping help. The dc who was home yesterday is 4 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:32 PM Flag
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She could have taken them to the library or something [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:33 PM Flag
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I don't think it was cold. Do you? My dcs get very little fresh air. They are in schools all day. Am I wrong? Was it too cold yesterday? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:34 PM Flag
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i think its reasonable - it was cold [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:34 PM Flag
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My youngest goes to daycare and I wonder if I should keep him there an hour longer so at least he gets outdoor time and then switch to someone who works fewer hours. If they are inside after school laundry and some other housekeeping can be done while with kids. She is ft now and with kids from 3-6. I can probably just hire someone from 12-6 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:39 PM Flag
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I would not be ok with this. Even just a walk to the corner store. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:47 PM Flag
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OP: exactly or to library or anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:51 PM Flag
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micromanaging does not work. if you need to control every part of your dc's lives, you should stay home with them. If this were 2 months, I'd get it but 2 weeks and 3 snow storms? Sounds logical to stay inside to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:47 PM Flag
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Is it micromanaging to expect dcs to get daily outdoor time? Is it too cold today? I am worried that this will become a habit. Our old nanny didn't like to take them out either [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:51 PM Flag
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I thought it was cold yesterday. We stayed inside. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:48 PM Flag
[ - ] Single mom here. I live in Manhattan and work in Yonkers and can't afford a babysitter. Should I sign my 6yo for summer camp in Yonkers so I can maximize my time at work? Do 6yo pay for the metro north? Thanks! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:23 PM Flag
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Move to Yonkers or riverdale so you can afford a lot more [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:27 PM Flag
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Yes, that will be the plan for next year. I need a solution for this summer though... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:28 PM Flag
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Why can't you move right after school ends and have dc at camp in Yonkers while you live close as well? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:30 PM Flag
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Can you drive? You'll be needing a car if you move eventually. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Single moms: when/how do you exercise? I have determined that the only hours that I can do this are 5AM-7AM. Is it possible to find someone who would sit at my house during those hours? Or do I just have to do exercise videos at home? I really prefer to go out and run or go to a gym (mine is a discount one with a great location but no childcare). 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:10 PM Flag
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How old are your DCs? Can they stay home so early because likely they will be asleep at 5 am? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:12 PM Flag
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1+3; they'll be asleep and yes, can stay home but someone has to be there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:30 PM Flag
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No, you can't get childcare at 5 am. Buy a treadmill [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:20 PM Flag
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Of course you can. I have a single friend who hires a college student 3 mornings a week so she can go for a run. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:25 PM Flag
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This is ridiculous, leaving a 1 and 3 year old togo to gym at 5 am - what is she trying to prove? That she is a superwoman? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:35 PM Flag
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??? No, I'm trying to get some exercise, have more energy, be happier/healthier...why is it weird that I would try and find a time to workout? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:40 PM Flag
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Ignore above poster who is probably a SAHM with 7 hours a day to fit in exercise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:43 PM Flag
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It's not. Do you live near a college? Post the job--easy money for someone willing to get up early. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:44 PM Flag
[ - ] Is a ft chauffeur twice the cost if a nanny? So 1000-1200 a week or the same? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 12:53 PM Flag
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When I had my DUI it was cheaper to just get an apartment next to work [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:17 PM Flag
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Why do you need a chauffeur [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:18 PM Flag
[ - ] Dad to an 8 YO DD. She has an itch in her private area and I need to schedule an appointment with a doctor. What terminology should I use when I make the appointment? Private area? Vagina? Go ahead, give me grief...but hopefully someone include an actual answer I can use amid the snark... 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 12:47 PM Flag
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where is the mom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 12:48 PM Flag
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Not in the picture... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 12:50 PM Flag
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Just say dd is complaining of itchiness in her private area. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 12:52 PM Flag
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+1. Nurse will probsbly supply the word for you when she asks a question in reply [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 12:53 PM Flag
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You can say that dd is complaining of itching while peeing (if that is the case) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 12:55 PM Flag
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Another dad - just say vagina. Thats what its called. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:01 PM Flag
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Either one is fine when making the appointment. Your discomfort is understandable, but keep in mind that when you go to then appointment and then later if you have to do treatment at home, etc, it's useful if you can get comfortable with the anatomically correct term. So if you can say vagina, you're helping dd -- a little -- by molding that this isn't an embarrassing or bad part of her body. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:02 PM Flag
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probably yeast - just say your daughter is complaining of itching around her private areas [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:03 PM Flag
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Vagina is internal, vulva is external. But it's perfectly fine to say privates. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:08 PM Flag
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I think I would say vaginal itchiness, but just say privates. GL! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:27 PM Flag
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"pleasure zone" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:40 PM Flag
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Sivk [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:46 PM Flag
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Sick [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:46 PM Flag
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Genital area. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:47 PM Flag
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Private part is fine. Or honestly I might just say crotch area. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Scene from the suburbs : Moms and DCs huddled in their SUVs waiting for the school bus. 36 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 12:28 PM Flag
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Do you regret moving? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 12:36 PM Flag
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Wow. Waiting in the car while it's cold. Maybe people in the suburbs are the only ones with brains. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 12:39 PM Flag
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I think the point is a) it's not THAT cold out. Just put a coat on and brave it out. And b) if you're getting in the car anyway why not just drive to the school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 12:42 PM Flag
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No pumpkin, there is no "point", except that NYers don't get to have cars and are jealous. Go enjoy the frozen dog pee on your trek to school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 12:46 PM Flag
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I'm absolutely not jealous about cars. Haven't paid for a tank of gas in years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:06 PM Flag
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But you do pay $700 a month in "maintenance". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:08 PM Flag
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So do you. Don't you pay for heat, garbage and water? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:11 PM Flag
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I pay $100 every three months for water and don't pay for garbage. And everyone pays for heat - my bill is about $120 a month. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:15 PM Flag
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Heat, water, garbage pickup etc are all included in maint. I had a house and between taxes and gardening, snow removal and heat we paid as much as NYC maint fees. Before you tell me you do it all yourself I will say that there are opportunity costs to my time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:22 PM Flag
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So... your point is that you'll use whatever math you have to to prove that it's cheaper for you to live in Manhattan by claiming that your time is worth $150 an hour? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:28 PM Flag
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It's not cheaper but if you think good NY area cheaper you are full of shit. You get more space and you don't pay NYC taxes but that is all [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:31 PM Flag
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why is that horrible? it could be walking in freezing weather for ten blocks or taking the bus or subway with people coughing all over you? does not compute... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 12:39 PM Flag
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City people have to pretend to dislike SUVs and normal life stuff in their pitiful attempt to feign preference for their cramped and profoundly inconvenient city life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 12:47 PM Flag
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Do you think moving out of NYC is somehow difficult? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:28 PM Flag
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but why don't they DRIVE their kids to school in the SUV instead of waiting for a bus?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 12:52 PM Flag
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Because they DRIVE to work in the opposite direction? Or on spouse has to drop the other at the train first and that is the other way. Geesh. Think a little. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 12:55 PM Flag
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Come on. Have you been to the suburbs? 70% of these women are going straight home after the bus comes. They just don't want to walk home in the cold. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:00 PM Flag
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I guess uou know best what everyone is doing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:04 PM Flag
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this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:05 PM Flag
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I would prefer they do it this way. There are far too many cars at drop off as it is. They should take the bus and not drive their kids to school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:08 PM Flag
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np-my kids loved the bus, didn't want me to drive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:15 PM Flag
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5 minutes of waiting for the bus vs. 30-40 minutes of driving to school and back. Not everyone has that extra time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:18 PM Flag
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But even if they do, why would they want to spend it driving themselves if the nice yellow bus will do it for them? That's what taxes pay for. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:19 PM Flag
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Who is posting this? Is this the same person trying to start a new feature or something? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:05 PM Flag
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I grew up in this scene. I remember seeing a mom pick up my classmate in their suv and drive him up to the house. The bus dropped him off at the end of their driveway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:07 PM Flag
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Oh wow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:10 PM Flag
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Ha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:12 PM Flag
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Sometimes the moms just want to look "better than other moms" to the bus driver. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:20 PM Flag
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I did this when my kids were very young and it was very cold. I usually had an infant still asleep in their crib, I could see the house from the stop. You don't sound very bright, are you educated? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:14 PM Flag
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Says the mom who left an infant home alone in the crib while driving away in her car. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:16 PM Flag
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have you ever gone down to your lobby to check your mail while baby was asleep? Is it ok to do laundry on the other side of a 5K sf house? You sound very very very stupid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:19 PM Flag
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Why are the moms waiting at the bus stop? I always went to the bus stop alone in the burbs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:20 PM Flag
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np-ok, on really cold days with a wind chill, with young children, they wait in a heated car. On other days, parents wait in the elements. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:21 PM Flag
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same. super cold days were super cold. you suck it up. builds character. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:22 PM Flag
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Times are different. I used to go to a bus stop down the block from my house. I got too close to a weird old man that used to walk around the neighborhood because he kept telling me to come closer so he could (I guess) whisper something to me. Instead when I got close enough he pulled out the neckline of my top and tried to look down my shirt. That was enough to have me go the bus stop with all my kids through about the 5th grade just because it was either that or I sat at home picturing this happening to them and wondering if the bus actually picked them up. My psychological problem, I know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:27 PM Flag
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So did I, because I lived on a cul-de-sac and there were several other kids who also went. But it was like Lord of the Flies at that bus stop. The older girls made fun of me because I had a depressed single dad who didn't basically didn't know how to dress me properly and I didn't wash my hair all the time. I have bad memories of being alone with the other kids at that bus stop. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:29 PM Flag
[ - ] Dd is going in to kindergarten next year. At school this year she has had a hard time. She wants very much to do her own thing, she doesn't really play cooperatively (although she has friends and the kids like her), the school brought in an aide to help. I have started volunteering in the classroom to help as well. When I am there all is well. The teachers say she is a different child when I am there. I've had her evaluated three times by various professionals over the past three months. No one can diagnose her. I truly think she has deep anxiety, but I have no idea what to do about it. Anyone have any advice or btdt? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 10:26 AM Flag
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Observe her secretly so you can better see the behavior [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 10:43 AM Flag
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I've sent professionals to observe her. I've been told what the problems are. I just don't know how to help her, or the teachers without being there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 10:56 AM Flag
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She is getting so much attention, why should she change her behavior? Maybe an aide should help out but you should stop volunteering in her classroom. If you want to homeschool DD go ahead. But this is too much Mommy time and support. Of course she is a different child - Mommy came to school with her unlike the other kids. She's special. "Diagnose her?" What are you looking for, a child who cannot cope with others? Then you are well on your way. Let the school handle it, back off and enjoy DD at home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 10:47 AM Flag
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School asked me to help. I felt bad with all the extra effort they have had to put in with dd, so I wanted to give them as much I could. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 10:54 AM Flag
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100% agree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 11:27 AM Flag
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How experienced are the preschool teachers? Do you have a younger child at home? I've seen a child with a new sibling have problems at school. Who would want to go to school while mom stays home with the new baby? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 11:50 AM Flag
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^^^Another thought: I wouldn't talk about next year's school plans to child. Talking about something so far in the future can confuse some children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 12:01 PM Flag
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If she's a different child when you're there, then she has the ability to play cooperatively and behave. Could the school be a bad fit? Is this particular teacher making her nervous? If the school has called you in and asked you to help, they're probably seeing her as a problem child. Any chance she's sensing this and it's making her uncomfortable? DS had a tough time beginning school when he was three. We switched schools, and he did wonderfully. He's been great at school ever since. If no one has been able to diagnose her, I'd look closely at the environment she's in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 12:01 PM Flag
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This. I was like her as a child, except I didn't have the benefit of an aide or parent in the room or an alternative choice of school. I was a bit ahead of the other kids, was already reading and knew how to tie my shoes, etc. I was bored there, didn't like the structure, nap time, whatever, and would rather have been playing at home in my neighborhood. I also hated my teacher. First grade was a whole different story, with more intellectual challenge and a different teaching style. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:16 PM Flag
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What is wrong with letting her do her own thing in school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 12:34 PM Flag
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coping cat [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 12:39 PM Flag
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Why do they need an aid? Is she acting out or just doesn't want to be part if the group? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:08 PM Flag
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She doesn't want to sit at the rug at circle time, or do the projects when it's work time. When they give her a classroom job, she gives it back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:13 PM Flag
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When you talk to her what does she say? Why do YOU feel she needed to be evaluated? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:19 PM Flag
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Are you hoping for tt? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.30.15, 01:32 PM Flag
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