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[ - ] Mil here- got a thank you text for a $200 birthday gift for 14 yo GD. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Maybe stop trying to buy her affection? [ Reply | More ]
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+++++ [ Reply | More ]
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At what monetary level would you deem a text acceptable? [ Reply | More ]
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$100 or less text. $100 or more paper note. [ Reply | More ]
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What a nice, polite granddaughter you have [ Reply | More ]
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troll [ Reply | More ]
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how nice [ Reply | More ]
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CSB. [ Reply | More ]
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lol [ Reply | More ]
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Selfish baby boomers don't lift a finger to help when the dcs are younger, then expect to be fawned over. [ Reply | More ]
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I made 11 yo DD write thank you notes to all her friends, uncles and grandparents. She even drew pictures in them. [ Reply | More ]
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Call her and tell her to get a pack of thank you cards and send one to you. Grandmothers are responsible for teaching etiquette too. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Dalton or Collegiate? Cannot decide. I have no real information about Collegiate other than its reputation. Have friends at Dalton who love it but Collegiate is more convenient geographically. Am agnostic on single-sex. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Doubt you have that decision. Further doubt you don't understand the differences between the schools. [ Reply | More ]
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congrats on your offers at both. I would think you would have a strong feeling at this point. [ Reply | More ]
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Nobody can tell you what's best for your DC and your family. It's all about which one is better fit for your DC and your family. It all depends on what your DC is like and other factors like location, parenting style etc. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Chapin vs NBS. We are having a hard time deciding. Any insights? We really like both schools. DD is very smart and active. NBS might be too traditional even more than Chapin. TIA. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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our DD is at NBS in the lower school and we absolutely love it. Believe Chapin is pretty traditional and might be more of a pressure cooker later on. They are both amazing schools. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: that's we are struggling so much. Really like both school. Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Went to my cousin's wedding in September. We gave them $500. No thank you card yet. Weird? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Yep [ Reply | More ]
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Cash? Call them to make sure they got it. If it was a check, tell them you would have appreciated a thank you. [ Reply | More ]
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NP: ITA with calling about cash. If you gave a check and they cashed it, I would just let it go, but it is rude. [ Reply | More ]
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People are rude. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] New to the NY private school scene. Why are moms so keen on becoming class moms in upper elementary grades or PTA fund raising annual fund raiser committees? What's in it for them or their kids? If I give 5K as donation..is that just as beneficial? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Queen Bee? DC applying to HS? [ Reply | More ]
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Op: this is at a TT co Ed ongoing. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes- 5K is just as beneficial. Some moms can't give that kind of money, or want to do both- give money, and/or also either contribute to improving their child's school, enjoy organizing things, have extra time on their hands, or want a leg-up for their children. [ Reply | More ]
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Op: in what way is the leg up? 5th grade DD gets 95-100 and behaves impeccably so not sure how she can do better? She is well liked by teachers and friends. [ Reply | More ]
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Most just do it because they like doing that sort of thing and enjoy being involved [ Reply | More ]
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You don't think people would want to give back to their schools? [ Reply | More ]
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Same reason people in publics donate or volunteer. Do you really think people only do it if they're "in it" for something? [ Reply | More ]
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As a class mom, I enjoy being being a little bit involved in my daughters life in a way I can't always be as a WOHM mom. Makes me feel happy to help. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I am on a brutal multi-hour phone call. What can I do to entertain myself? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Candy crush. I also online shop and plan vacations. [ Reply | More ]
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Go on UB instead of paying attention to the project? [ Reply | More ]
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Check! Already done [ Reply | More ]
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this is what i do [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Private school moms: when do the drugs start and how do the kids get them? DD in 7th and so far all she does js study and play tennis. A bit of a loner. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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It sounds like you are disappointed she isn't busing [ Reply | More ]
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She sounds perfect. [ Reply | More ]
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Op: I grew up abroad and had zero drugs in my school. I just want yo be aware of what goes on in schools. She is probably less likely to do drugs bc mature and not attracted to danger/rebellion but one never knows. [ Reply | More ]
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Their friends help them try it, then connect them to the place to get it [ Reply | More ]
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They don't start for everyone. But pot and drinking can start around 8th grade and def by 9th. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Gym: yay or nay? TIA! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Yay - you will be glad you did it. [ Reply | More ]
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Yay! Just got back a little while ago and feel great. Such a good way to start the week! [ Reply | More ]
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op: thanks! yay it is! [ Reply | More ]
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I never regret going to the gym [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] If an acquaintance (who's friends with your close friend) was planning to visit your city and e-mailed to see if you could share sitter with her for a night or two, would you think that's strange or would you be happy to help? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Happy to help. How else could they find someone they could feel comfortable leaving their kids with if they don't know anyone in the city. I would want someone to do it for me. [ Reply | More ]
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I would be happy to help. Not strange at all. [ Reply | More ]
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What do you find strange about this? [ Reply | More ]
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OP here. I'm in this boat and have only reached out to this person in the past few years to "borrow" sitters when I'm in her city. She's been more than gracious and helpful, but I feel awkward. I sent her DCs a gift last time as a thank you, and am very grateful for her help. I have not spoken to her in ages and just feel a bit strange. [ Reply | More ]
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Oh. It's not! [ Reply | More ]
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Happy to help. [ Reply | More ]
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Nope--best way to get a trusted person for your kids. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] If you have a summer bday and get a rejected does that mean dont bother to apply next year? If they liked your dc you get a "too young" letter right? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
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What is "summer" though? Late May and June or July/August. [ Reply | More ]
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no, not necessarily, my son got a reject last year, this year accepted. he got a too young last year and a waitlist this year (that I think is just a soft rejection because feedback was, he's great, no room) [ Reply | More ]
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Which schools? Confusing! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] How do you get selected as class mom? Assume most tiger/helicopter moms would vie for this position. 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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no, i care very much about my kids well being but would NEVER want to be a room mom. [ Reply | More ]
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no, i am none of those. I just wanted to do it, and expressed interest in the spring. Not sure why i was selected over someone else, but i can guarantee i am not a tiger or helicopter. [ Reply | More ]
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Many vie for it in the younger grades. By 2nd grade onwards I think they are begging for volunteers. [ Reply | More ]
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Yep! I was dying to be class mom in K, willing in 1st, and then ducking for cover. [ Reply | More ]
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This is astute. A good way to get to know the class, the inside gossip, and the administration in the younger years, but as they get older it's just busywork and collecting money. I'm doing it this year out of a sense of duty: I feel I should be involved in making the school a better place. [ Reply | More ]
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You don't get "selected". A person or two always just assume the position early on so no one contests it or even really questions it. [ Reply | More ]
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IME, the teachers ask. But it is not coveted position. [ Reply | More ]
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I would assume they are all for their own DC but not necessarily concerned with others. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't know about these people who are saying that it's not a coveted position. In my kids' school you have to apply via the PTA website in August and then they have a secret meeting where the PTA board selects the class moms. It always winds up being the moms from the same crew. [ Reply | More ]
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And yes, many people apply, which is why they had to go to a secret selection system. [ Reply | More ]
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Your school sounds like it's run by a whole bunch of Tri Deltas. Gross. [ Reply | More ]
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Kind of, yes. [ Reply | More ]
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Not NYC, I assume. [ Reply | More ]
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np: You'd be surprised how common this crap is [ Reply | More ]
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Also, the thing at our school is that many of the teachers are young. I'd say 75% of the teachers are under the age of thirty. And they are intimidated by the moms who are mostly all older than them, so the moms tell the teachers what to do and how to do it. [ Reply | More ]
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No one wants to do it at our school as it mainly involves forwarding emails and collecting money. I always volunteer because I feel bad. I am not a tiger mom at all, haven't volunteered for one other thing in the classroom (everyone always fill the slots before i remember to try to sign up) [ Reply | More ]
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if you are spending your precious time forwarding emails and being the teacher's XXch, then you are THE ULTIMATE TIGER MOM, don't deny it. [ Reply | More ]
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I forward 2 emails a month from the PTA and collected the money for the holiday gift. Hardly a lot, I have no additional interaction with the teacher. The other class mom set up a shutterfly site and the teacher adds stuff to that. [ Reply | More ]
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in our school anyone who wants to be one can be one. we could have 4 class parents in one class and two for another. doesn't matter [ Reply | More ]
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same here. In our school, a private in Southern Cal, we are not allowed to have official room moms. Those that do get 0 respect and most of their emails are ignored unless it's something that actually matters - like "No UNIFORM tomorrow". [ Reply | More ]
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I don't know why you would assume that. I WOH and I wanted to be class mom to help out. [ Reply | More ]
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Why does anyone want to be class mom? I'm just curious. [ Reply | More ]
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I can't speak for every school, but in our elementary school, classroom access is very restricted. Room parents get more access to teachers and classrooms for class celebrations, special events, field trips, volunteer time, etc. that other parents don't have. Some parents really like to be involved. [ Reply | More ]
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For some grades, they can't even get someone to fill the positions, and other grades it's a competition. There's a "Class Parent Chairperson" at school who receives all names of volunteers from the PA and chooses from there. So it helps to be in with her I guess. BUT.... your name has to get to her in the first place, so if the PA prez doesn't like you, your name might just accidentally get removed from the list. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 - although I have seen parents the PTO president doesn't like get selected, provided the selection committee feels the parent can do a good job. I do see the difficult to work with parents get weeded out year after year. And I've also seen teachers say absolutely NOT to certain parents (you know who you are...) [ Reply | More ]
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At my school the teachers choose. And it's definitely not all tiger/helicopter moms [ Reply | More ]
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Im the class parent and no one else volunteered. Totally not tiger mom. [ Reply | More ]
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This is the case in my DC's class. There are some tiger moms, but this is not where they are doing it. I feel bad for the class parents, it is a lot of work! [ Reply | More ]
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I am totally laid back yet Type A at work. I volunteered to be class mom. I am the least helicopter-y mom. Just very organized and proactive. [ Reply | More ]
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Also, I WOH full-time but am very efficient. [ Reply | More ]
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In our district, everyone submits their name that is interested. There is a lottery and they try to pick one boy mom and one girl mom [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] My parents live out of the state. My In laws live about 45 mins away and see us and DB all the time (MIL watches DB every Friday for us). My parents are coming into town this wknd to see us and DB. MIL is insisting on coming over and bringing my husbands grandmother who is 93 and barely mobile (DB's great grandmother) this wknd while my parents are there. My mom is pissed. I don't blame her but don't know if I should just tell her to deal with it to avoid drama. This kind of happens all of the time with MIL. 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Yeah, screw those old people! [ Reply | More ]
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tell your dh to talk to his mom and say, please pass on this weekend. [ Reply | More ]
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Agreed. Forget about the old people - the grandkids deserve to have time with ALL of their grandparents. As your kids' Mom you need to stand up for them and their right to see the out of town grandparents when they have the chance. [ Reply | More ]
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Why can't your DH ask his parents to wait for another weekend? [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, it's bad timing, and should have been scheduled for another wknd, However, DB's great grandma is 93 and her visit takes priority. This could be her last visit. Obvs your MIL is a handful, but you CANNOT reschedule a visit from Great Grandma. [ Reply | More ]
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Why not? Doesn't sound like this one we scheduled in the first place [ Reply | More ]
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NP. It sounds like the great grandmother lives locally, given that she is barely mobile. There is no reason she can't visit a different weekend. [ Reply | More ]
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Op never scheduled a visit with great grandma. Mil just said she's bringing her over. They can do that another weekend. [ Reply | More ]
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Can you imagine if the great grandmother passes before the next visit. DONT reschedule a 93 yr old!! [ Reply | More ]
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Sounds like she lives in town. They can see her next weekend. [ Reply | More ]
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She didn't schedule anything in the first place so this is not rescheduling [ Reply | More ]
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Oh please [ Reply | More ]
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why is your mom pissed? does she not like your inlaws? We always do a dinner when my parents come into town with my inlaws, nice for everyone to get together [ Reply | More ]
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my mom feels that my MIL is intrusive and overbearing- she wants to be able to enjoy her time with us and not have my MIL there to take away from her time with her granddaughter [ Reply | More ]
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so tell mil no, it's not a good time - but it does seem silly you cannot carve out a few hours, have dinner and then they leave. [ Reply | More ]
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I think it's silly that they would do this when they can do it another weekend. [ Reply | More ]
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so you think MIL is just coming this wknd bc your parents are coming and doesn't want your parents there without her being there as well? [ Reply | More ]
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OP: great grandma is in great shape, but regardless this was not a planned visit. MIL told us yesterday "since it's a 3 day wknd it's easier for me to go pick up great grandma (she lives an hour away from MIL), i know your parents are going to be in town and dont want to impede on your time, but i have to do what's easiest for me so we would like to come see DB this wknd" [ Reply | More ]
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so big deal, they come for a couple of hours and leave [ Reply | More ]
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NP. It's an imposition, and clearly the MIL knows it's rude but is doing it anyway. She sounds lovely. OP's DH should deal with this. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: This is what I was thinking too, but I understand my mom's POV. It also annoys me that MIL said "I have to do what's easiest for me". [ Reply | More ]
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So tell her no that this coming weekend is not easy for you and that you would rather see great grandma another time...tell MIL you'll go to great grandma next weekend [ Reply | More ]
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They can do that another weekend. [ Reply | More ]
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Tell her no. [ Reply | More ]
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The answer is: No. Done. [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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Have over mil and gma for Sunday brunch. It's nice to have everyone together at least once, but they don't need to stay the whole weekend. You only have a little bit of time left that you can do this. [ Reply | More ]
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So rude. Your mom should have the weekend without the other side. Tell your DH absolutely not happening this weekend. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I have 2 hours to kill this afternoon. No work, no kids. What should I do? I already worked out. Not quite enough time for a movie. Could shop but don't want to spend money. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Pedicure [ Reply | More ]
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Massage [ Reply | More ]
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Acupuncture or colonic [ Reply | More ]
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Laser hair removal [ Reply | More ]
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Yoga class [ Reply | More ]
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I love to cook, so that's probably what I would do [ Reply | More ]
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Cup of really good coffee and a book. [ Reply | More ]
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THIS! [ Reply | More ]
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This! Or a nap [ Reply | More ]
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I would tackle a home project. [ Reply | More ]
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read a book, chill, take a walk, clean your bathroom, iron a shirt or two, watch stupid tv [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Who is releasing what and for whom (DS/DD)? PLEEEAASSEEE release spots you aren't considering!!!! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Releasing AS today. Gl! [ Reply | More ]
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me too. will you email? where are you going instead (if I may ask) [ Reply | More ]
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Released HM and Riverdale on Friday. [ Reply | More ]
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for where? [ Reply | More ]
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Please don't rely on information you see here. There are people trolling these school posts, so you can assume that 90% is false information. Call the schools you want and ask them directly where you are on the waitlist. Express interest, and let them know that you can be there with a check asap if something opens up. [ Reply | More ]
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This. On UB, I have seen about a dozen people release Brearley and 10 more release Chapin. And that's just on UB. These schools must have had 50 people turn them down if you believe what you read here. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Has anyone on this board ever been a foster parent? If so, what can you tell us about it. It seems like it would be a good way to give back & the only people who are foster parents are crazy & abusive. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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My good friend does it (foster parent of the year in her state). She's had over 20 kids come through her home. She and her husband are very non-traditional, hippie types who have a home where it's comfortable for them to have a home that's in a bit of chaos. They do not have very nice furniture and live very simply. They always have only boys, since their own kids were boys, and once you have enough tween/teen boys in the house, introducing girls is not the best idea. She is very no-nonsense and her husband is very handy with projects and gets the kids involved. [ Reply | More ]
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Do you know more? We live in the city but have been talking about fostering just one kid at a time since we have a small space. We have one child at home already. Just seems like a nice way to give back to a child in an unfortunate circumstance. [ Reply | More ]
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please be careful with bring a child into your home, the foster child should be younger than the child you have. [ Reply | More ]
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Totally agree. We have a baby, so thought another baby would be okay at this time. [ Reply | More ]
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Here's some reading on certifying in NYS. http://ocfs.ny.gov/main/fostercare/requirements.asp [ Reply | More ]
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I think there might be some rules regarding fostering children older than the child you have, and I'm almost positive there is some kind of privacy requirement where the foster child at least has their own private area. Your small apartment might work against you. GL anyway. [ Reply | More ]
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We have a 2 BR, our baby is in the second br. There is room that 2 babies could share. Again, we'd only do 0 - 2 years at the moment. [ Reply | More ]
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Ok, well, good luck. Not sure you sound like you completely understand what's involved, but your heart seems in the right place. They'll tell you what they think you are qualified for. [ Reply | More ]
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i am a foster parent, what do you want to know? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 04:24 PM Flag
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really? how many kids do you take at a time? Do you ever just take one? For how long is the commitment? Do you have your own children? How does it work? The state calls you and says "We have a baby that needs a home..." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 04:26 PM Flag
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i don't foster babies, i foster teens, it all started with a school friend of my dc who came out to her parents and they kicked her out, then i found out this is all too common. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 04:27 PM Flag
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okay, tell more pls? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 04:33 PM Flag
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like what? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 04:33 PM Flag
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I just asked you a bunch above when you answered [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 04:37 PM Flag
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oh okay, sorry, one or two at a time, my commitment is as long as they need me, i have one child but she is in college now, you have to contact the state you are in and find out the process, there are classes you take, paper work you have to fill out and a home visit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 04:41 PM Flag
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most of the time they end up moving into a relative that is accepting of them coming out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 04:43 PM Flag
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that is so sad that parents reject their gay children in this day & age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 04:47 PM Flag
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+1 we didn't do "foster care" but son #2 had a friend with a very flaky, neglectful single mom. The second he turned 18 she moved out of their subsidized apartment to a different state with her "boyfriend." She left him behind to live on his own and basically get through the eviction process. We found out he was sleeping on couches and in cars outside of school, and we moved him in. He stayed with us a year. He's working on his own now, has a place to live, insurance, a car. Very proud of him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 04:34 PM Flag
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aw this is so nice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 04:37 PM Flag
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Good for you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.08.16, 04:35 PM Flag
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