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My friend's nanny threatened to kill her children with knives and dropped one down a staircase when they were only 3 years old. She was operating under a false identity. It was a NIGHTMARE [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:57 PM Flag

Where did this happen? And when? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:59 PM Flag

Tri state area, about 10 years ago. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:00 PM Flag

Arrested? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:56 PM Flag

Nope. Someone told the mom in secret that she was insane and she would kill them both if they ever spoke about it. She disappeared after robbing the house the next day. There was no record of her identity anywhere. The kids were too young to tell their parents but shared the details when they were a few years older. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:59 PM Flag

How did thy find this gem? Did she have any papers? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:28 PM Flag

I have no idea. Probably not. I would never call her out on it because the abuse devastated their family, but I wonder why mom (WOH, full time) didn't put more work into screening her. Apparently they got her from an "agency." Seems a little irresponsible on their part, since I remember the nanny and something was very off about her-dreads down to her hips and friend always complained about how she wore her clothes and asked for $ [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:36 PM Flag

[ - ] Starting domperidone today to boost my breastmilk supply. Would love to hear from other moms here who took it. Was it successful for you? How long until you saw results? How much of a boost in supply did you see? TIA. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:26 PM Flag

Just don't flop that shit out in public... [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:31 PM Flag

Omg! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:41 PM Flag

OH-MY-GOD... [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:36 PM Flag

AhhhHhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:48 PM Flag

Plop a tit in there quick ^^^^ [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:45 PM Flag

ha [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:51 PM Flag

Dom perignon worked for me [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:42 PM Flag

*hic [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:39 PM Flag

My husband is a pediatric specialist and he wouldn't agree to let me try that due to how it is not regulated by the FDA and not studied extensively for adverse effects to mom and baby. I have heard a lot of anecdotal great stories about increased supply--but be careful. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:55 PM Flag

I used Mother's milk tea and that was a minor boost. Keep at it [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:01 PM Flag

Is DB not satisfied, or are you judging your supply on the pump? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:57 PM Flag

Never tried it; just tried fenugreek. Not sure if it helped tho. I just wanted to wish you good luck but if it does not work please be kind to yourself - absolutely nothing to feel guilty about if it (bfing) doesn't work [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:59 PM Flag

what issues are you having? Is baby latching on and eating well? gaining? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:02 PM Flag

I took it. IT worked great and I didn't have to take as much as they recommend. It did give me a headache for the first 2 days or so. It was amazing. I never had to worry about supply again, so no more stress about breastfeeding. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:23 PM Flag

I think it took about 2-3 days to kick in also. I woke up one day completely engorged and was able to pump about 1.5 times the amount I did before. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:24 PM Flag

Once it kicks in, you can adjust the dosage to suit your needs. If I took the recommended amount, I would be a walking milk factory, so I think I just needed one or two per day. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:28 PM Flag

[ - ] My friend invited me out to dinner for tonight. She said she had a reservation for 12 and when I aske her what time she gave me the info and five min later said someone else invited another person and I'm no longer invited but I should come after for drinks. I just said no thanks and she said okay. And dh is having a boys night. I'm also pregnant which is why I dot want to go for just drinks. 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:23 PM Flag

wtf. who uninvites someone? this "friend" isn't behaving in a very friend-like manner. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:19 PM Flag

This! This friend is a douche [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:20 PM Flag

She invited me to the dinner days ago though. It was very hurtful. And I would have been DD and have a large car. Probably wouldn't have stayed out until 4am, but would have eliminated several taxi rides for half the group. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:29 PM Flag

OR - if it were me, I'd ditch her as a friend, permanently. She is not a good person. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:33 PM Flag

This [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:48 PM Flag

Your "friend" is horrible. I have actually never heard of that before. So classless. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:28 PM Flag

How rude!! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:19 PM Flag

She's not your friend. You're better than that - find new friends. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:25 PM Flag

Ditch this witch! Or put her on blast on fb. What a jerk! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:20 PM Flag

Post an unflattering picture of her on FB! And tag it! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:23 PM Flag

You know how to get under her skin. She's a photo nazi and it would only last two seconds and she would never approve it lol [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:32 PM Flag

She is terrible. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:25 PM Flag

Really?...Cut ties with this "friend"...Wow, not even a little bit cool. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:34 PM Flag

Like everyone else, I say she was not acting like a friend, more like a bitch real housewife. Do you know why she did that? Do you not get along with newly invited person? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:34 PM Flag

I don't know most of the other invitees. I'm not sure. I am hurt. She invited me days ago so I gave dh the green light to go out with guys. Now I'm alone. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:49 PM Flag

Sorry. (gotta get this bitch back, snarf) [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:46 PM Flag

Dude, she's a bitch. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:46 PM Flag

Bullet dodged. Remove her from your life and don't look back. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:59 PM Flag

Very uncouth. Dump her. Do something fun for yourself tonight - man/ped, movie, etc. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:20 PM Flag

ITA with other posters- she is not a friend. Hopefully you don't ever have to speak with her again. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:20 PM Flag

she doesn't have basic social decency and clearly clueless about her horrifying behavior. dump her now. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:24 PM Flag

[ - ] Growing up, father was in and out of my life for years at a time starting when I was seven. He never paid any child support and had really bad drinking problems. Long story short, I haven't seen him since I was twenty, which was a little less than ten years ago. He left a message on my phone that he's going to be in NYC in two weeks and would like to have lunch. If he actually just wants to meet and maybe slowly ease back into a relationship, I think I might like that, but I have a feeling that he just wants money. It hurt a lot growing up with out a father and I've worked very hard to get myself where I am financially and I don't think that he is entitled to any of that. My mom, who I was very close with died last year and sometimes it's sad for me not having either parent in my life anymore. Should I chance it and go to lunch with him or is he just a waste of my time at this point? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:10 PM Flag

go to lunch, but have low expectations [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:12 PM Flag

This. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:22 PM Flag

+1 [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:02 PM Flag

I would go with the full intention of closure and saying, no... [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:13 PM Flag

Agree with others. Go, but hold your ground if he lets you down. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:26 PM Flag

+1 On all above [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:35 PM Flag

Can you talk to him before going out to lunch, and straight out ask him why he wants to do this after all these years? then if he says that he wants to make amends, go with him, but if he hems and haws and you feel that he just wants something (money), you can say no and not set yourself up to be disappointed. I hope you are not disappointed though. xo [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:42 PM Flag

No, you should meet with him. It's worth the chance. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:46 PM Flag

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:55 PM Flag

You might be pleasantly surprised that he wants nothing from you, but be careful about being set up for the long con as well. I have parents like this. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:38 PM Flag

My story has some parallels and I am no longer in contact with my father. He was very cold and did not wish to make contact. Therefore, if this was me and he made an effort to want to see me now, although I have no interest in him I would wonder what brought this on. You never know, he could be ill and want to apologise for being an absent father. I would agree to meet but like other posters have said, have low expectations, be prepared to say no to money requests, and be ready to say goodbye. Good luck. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:46 PM Flag

I think he is a waste of your time. Even if he was genuine in his desire to reconnect, he will still be a beggar at your table. Trying to get someone he couldn't manage to love or nurture to feel something positive for him. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:26 PM Flag

[ - ] Why are breastfeeding moms who do not cover up so adamant that everyone else should do the same? I personally do not like seeing breasts at restaurants, etc... However, I respect that it is a legal activity and breastfeeding moms can do it if they please. So, why can't they respect that I do not want my breasts on display? Why do they have to try and make you feel like shit about your choice? 48 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:09 PM Flag

They are very narrow minded, even though they think they are not. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:11 PM Flag

because if you do not do exactly what they do, they are afraid you are judging them. They do not want you to have your own mind. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:19 PM Flag

Women who are brestfeeding don't have their breasts on display. But, I don't care if you cover up, don't cover up,, bottle feed or breastfeed, use a pacifier or a sippy cup. We should all support each other ladies! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:14 PM Flag

I'm the poster you got so pissed off at in the last thread. I don't try to make people feel like shit, but OP in that thread was asking what she should do. Multiple posters told her to cover up or implied that she should, by saying *they would cover up. I believe that's completely wrong, and usually stems from our culture's completely upside-down pornified view of the female body. That's why I spoke up. Seriously, when I bf, I wear a nursing top and give my in-laws fair warning, but when I see people basically advising a mom to cover up in her own house in front of her own kids, I think it's wrong. Sorry if I sound obnoxious but I hope this answers your q. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:21 PM Flag

Or: want to stress, I really don't care if women who want to cover up, do so. Just making it clear that I don't think women should be told to. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:24 PM Flag

She asked for opinions. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:20 PM Flag

She did. And I thought the "go hide" opinions were damaging so I argued with them. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:21 PM Flag

I thought they were just opinions. If you are going to get offended by opinions then don't ask. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:23 PM Flag

Do you not see how you're contradicting yourself? Our opinions are damaging to the OP so you need to set us straight? That is EXACTLY the attitude I am talking about. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:29 PM Flag

Don't see how I'm contradicting myself. I see how I'm being obnoxious and possibly sanctimonious, but if OP on the other thread noted my objections then I think I was helping. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:27 PM Flag

Your contradictions: "I really don't care if women who want to cover up, do so." then, you say that women who cover up only do so because of our pornified view of women. So, basically, anyone who disagrees with you has an unhealthy view of the female body? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:30 PM Flag

Don't put words in my mouth. We live in a culture that's pretty crappy to women. Lots of women feel uncomfortable baring their breasts to feed their children. Some of them feel uncomfortable because they have an unhealthy body image. Some feel uncomfortable because the culture is is so hostile toward it. Some feel uncomfortable because of other reasons. I am not out to force anyone to bare their breasts who might be uncomfortable with it. Nor is my intent to make anyone feel like crap for not baring their breasts. All I wanted to do was help a woman who did not seem uncomfortable with the choice to feed her children freely in her home, to continue to feel OK about it, despite the posts of several women who seemed to think there was something wrong with it. (Whether they were saying it about themselves or about her explicitly.) I believe the best she could do in the situation is to feel comfortable nursing the new baby in from of the other DCs and not sorry so much. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:40 PM Flag

Jesus Christ. Do you read what you write before posting or do you genuinely believe I am putting words in your mouth? The first part was a direct quote. The second part, I got from this quote: "I believe that's completely wrong, and usually stems from our culture's completely upside-down pornified view of the female body... I gave you a clear contradiction and now you backpedal and say some PC shit. How is that putting words in your mouth; they clearly came from you. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:51 PM Flag

I do believe that our shyness about breastfeeding usually stems from that. And it's not a contradiction to say that and to also say that a woman and do whatever she's comfortable with. I think it's you who has trouble understand nuance here. The words came from me but you put them together to say that "anyone who disagrees with [me] has an unhealthy view of the female body." I never said that. You pit those words in my mouth. Read your own shit. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:00 PM Flag

Damn that was full of typos, let me know if it's not clear. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:01 PM Flag

Dude, I cut and pasted. here is the quote again: "Multiple posters told her to cover up or implied that she should, by saying *they would cover up. I believe that's completely wrong, and usually stems from our culture's completely upside-down pornified view of the female body." Please, please tell me how I misinterpreted this. If you wrote something you did not mean to write, fine. But you wrote this shit, not anyone else. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:05 PM Flag

This of course is c/p'ed from my post, but you you must realize that it doesn't mean that I think that all women who disagree with me have an unhealthy view of their bodies. It simply doesn't say that. Yes, I believe our crappy anti woman culture is the #1 contributor to this garbage. Yes, I believe women some women have hang-ups and some women dont. Yes, i believe women should do what they are comfortable with. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:14 PM Flag

In case this needs to be spelled out - I don't think you have to hate your own boobies to qualify as someone whose breasts are subject to all anti-woman crap in our culture. Just the idea that there might be some question as to the appropriateness of bfing in your own home in front of your own kids. Not whether the individual wants to or cares to, but whether she's gonna mess up her 10yo if he sees that. I mean come on, how is this where we are at!?? OP obviously wanted to BF. Yes, she asked a WWYD, which in my haste I missed the point of (glaring point to miss, obv), but I stand by my opinion that normalizing bring is better than not normalizing it. And if ten posters respond that they don't feel comfortable, I believe that -intentionally or not - they are reinforcing the idea that there's something wrong with bfing. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:34 PM Flag

I am going to bow out of this conversation for the time being to get some things done. I will check for response later this evening. Again, sorry to offend anyone. Obviously I believe strongly and I was trying to help. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:30 PM Flag

And I personally think you helped our view because you sound so uncompromising and unwilling to listen to other's points of view. If OP really wanted opinions, you beating people over the head with how wrong they are for not wanting to BF in front of a 10-yo, probably just made you sound stupid. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:37 PM Flag

Ftr, I wasn't the only one on ,y side on that thread. And I don't think that what I typed could be classified as "beating over the head." [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:42 PM Flag

She asked that specific question. I think she wanted to know the answer to that specific question. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:28 PM Flag

She asked of SHE should. Not, WWYD, am I wrong? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:34 PM Flag

Woops I was completely wrong. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:35 PM Flag

Your debating skills are really poor. You are contradicting yourself left and right. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:26 PM Flag

No.. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:43 PM Flag

Yep, there you go again, showing your stellar intellectual capabilities. Clearly from this one word, you must be an excellent debater. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:47 PM Flag

Bfing is hard enough without hiding from your children. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:19 PM Flag

agree [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:28 PM Flag

But that's my point. YOU think it is completely wrong. OP was asking for multiple points of view. I personally, as mentioned above, want people to cover up. So, my opinion that it is better to cover up is completely wrong because it is not yours? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:27 PM Flag

NP: no it's wrong for other reasons which have been stated previously. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:30 PM Flag

What are you referring to as wrong? My view that I should be able to cover my body while breastfeeding without being blasted and told I have unhealthy view of women? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:41 PM Flag

You do understand that you cannot be accepting of another's choice while proclaiming it to be "completely wrong" right? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:45 PM Flag

Because they are annoying. Some women take on motherhood as though it was some kind of epic holy calling, not just raising kids the best way you can. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:16 PM Flag

Who the hell are you hanging out with? Honestly - I can't believe 1/2 the stuff I read on here. I've never met anyone IRL who actually cared what anyone else did w/ regards to feeding their DB. Maybe the occasional FTM - insecure and bragging about whatever they're doing to make themselves feel validated - but never so far as to suggest someone should whip out a bare boob at the dinner table. Well - MIL did think it was strange that I nursed because her DD's didn't and she didn't like it so didn't do it... until one of her DD's did - then it was, of course, best for DB... [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:28 PM Flag

This was from a post down-thread. But I live in San Francisco and let me tell you, breastfeeding mothers are like vicious animals on the attack. If you don't breastfeed your children, you are basically the worst most uncaring mother ever. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:31 PM Flag

np: Breastfeeding moms should not judge others. That said, it's so damn good for your child (and your health) to breastfeed. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:26 PM Flag

This wasn't even about BF'ing. It was whether or not to use a cover-up. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:27 PM Flag

For the love of God - can't we just be supportive of each other? Where's the sisterhood? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:51 PM Flag

What the fuck, is this some backwoods, African Zulu Nation? Women flopping their titties out in public, like some national geographic photo? Nobody wants to see that...except the few creepy fetish loving guys that are sneaking peeks at your engorged, veiny mammary glands...not caring they they are being used to feed a baby...it's still a tit. So, for the sake of everyone, including your dignity...cover up. How hard is that? You're not in the jungle. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:29 PM Flag

THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:42 PM Flag

NP: part of the problem. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:43 PM Flag

"tits", "titties" - how old are you?? if you feel the need to cover up while breast feeding, please do so, but you can breastfeed a baby without covering up and without showing your "titties". Regardless of your choice, I do believe that many Americans have a very strange relationship with particularly women's bodies and, more specifically, breasts. And it does sound like you have some issues in this regard. What's the big deal. No, we don't live in the jungle, that doesn't mean that it is undignified to discreetly breast feed your baby. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:58 PM Flag

Discreetly being the key word. You sound fat and nobody wants to see your titties, period. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:04 PM Flag

wow, you sound incredibly immature and not very intelligent. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:11 PM Flag

I agree with you completely. I hate when people try to force their choices or make it seem like you are inhibited! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:29 PM Flag

ITA - regardless of the choice [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:01 PM Flag

I am very shy, rarely BFed in public and always covered up tons. But I never, ever felt any pressure IRL to cover up less, nor have I EVER seen any modest/shy woman get peer pressured to cover up less. I have however seen lots of women get dirty looks for NOT covering up. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:19 PM Flag

[ - ] DH and I just spent $300 at Fairway, stocked up on a lot of meats, veggies, fruits, yogurts,beans,sauces, quinoa and frozen foods for our son - how can I stretch this over the next 3 weeks? We typically only spend around $100 per week at Fresh Direct, but going to Fairway is such a treat! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:01 PM Flag

Freeze a lot of the meats; make a big post of chili or soup and freeze what you don't eat; eat the fresh veggies and fruits first or make some purses to freeze [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 05:58 PM Flag

[ - ] Is having children a career now? all SAHM in this area pop out a kid every 3 to 4 years. 32 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:00 PM Flag

Is someone putting a gun to your head and forcing you to do the same? Why do you care? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:00 PM Flag

It is odd. isn't 5 kids a bit much? Wouldn't it be better to have 2 and give them the best education, lifestyle, attention, life experiences... than 5 neglected ones? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:08 PM Flag

I have five and they are not neglected in any way. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:13 PM Flag

Keep telling yourself that you lazy slob, as your poor husband keeps working to support our expanding future moochers [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:41 PM Flag

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:42 PM Flag

np: I'm the eldest of five, and I feel in no way 'neglected'. And my youngest sibling was born when I was seven, so there was a lot less than 3 years between each of us. None of us went to private school, and we all paid our own way through college, but I wouldn't trade my enormous, love-filled family for a better 'lifestyle'. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:15 PM Flag

I agree that love and attention are more important. That said, I am one of six and we had more than most people I knew. We all went to private colleges that my parents paid for. Why do we assume that large families have neglected kids? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:14 PM Flag

Because I know these people and I know more or less their HHI. No preschool for kids and directly to local public school, no vacations, no one on one time with parents... [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:37 PM Flag

How is that neglected? Not going to preschool or vacations is hardly neglected. Go to Haiti and check out orphaned kids if you want to see neglected. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:20 PM Flag

I have a problem supporting you to go to college through financial aid. Cross your legs and stop having babies [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:42 PM Flag

Eldest of five: We didn't get financial aid. Our parents' HHI was too high for any of us to qualify. We all got student loans and paid them back ourselves. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:46 PM Flag

You are making a lot of assumptions. I don't want 5 kids, but it isn't my business what other people do. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:17 PM Flag

Since when do ub people kind their own business? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:40 PM Flag

I'm starting a new trend. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:41 PM Flag

ever heard "to each his own"? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:58 PM Flag

yes. raising children is a viable way to spend one's life vs. pushing papers. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:14 PM Flag

I think it is lazy moms who want to justify never going back to work [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:39 PM Flag

I don't think there's anything lazy about being a SAHM to five kids... [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:42 PM Flag

Under achieves who do not want to get out in the real world [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:49 PM Flag

My dentist once called me an underachiever because I SAHM even though I have a law degree. He was a pos. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:51 PM Flag

Well yes, you are not living up to your potential. And no this isn't your dentist [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:47 PM Flag

Not anymore. I have someone a bit more polite now. Anyway, it's a long story but I have been trying to get back to work. So far, no success. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:56 PM Flag

Dentists have a high suicide rate and an inferiority complex in the medical world. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:37 PM Flag

Some of us just prefer being SAHMs to working. It's not a matter of not wanting to be in the "real world". [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:47 PM Flag

Good for you! You found yourself a sucker to claim you as a dependent your entire life [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:48 PM Flag

Wow. You had a big ol' bowl of bitchy for lunch, didn't you? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:00 PM Flag

With an extra side of reality check for you moochers [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:03 PM Flag

She is just bitter. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:57 PM Flag

+1 [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:02 PM Flag

And why is this your business Ms. Judgey McJudgey? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:56 PM Flag

Why do you care? Or do you just want to get a rise out of people? Have you ever been a SAHM? I have been a WOHM and SAHM and both are challenging. Being a SAHM is just so much more fulfilling to me, even though I had a high paying job with a grad degree and great hours. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:22 PM Flag

Raising kids is work, but it is not a career, no. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:25 PM Flag

[ - ] Any thoughts on ICE (institute for collaborative education)? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 05:59 PM Flag

Don't know anything about that but do like ICE (Institute for Culinary Education). [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 05:55 PM Flag

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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:02 PM Flag

I heard it is a bit cult like, you must drink the juice...the kids seem nice that go there... [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:06 PM Flag

lots of artsy, middle class and affluent kids from Brooklyn. agree you need to drink the juice, but parents and dcs seem very happy [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:11 PM Flag

Ha. That's us. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:17 PM Flag

I know one artsy kid that goes there. He lives in Brooklyn a pond his mom is happy with the school. He said he loves it [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:11 PM Flag

Sounds like a nice place but I don't get this business about the "juice." I know it runs differently from DOE schools, is that what everybody means? No grades, testing, AP classes? I'm down with that. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:21 PM Flag

[ - ] Grammar mom, I am ESL: please let me know when to use who, which and that. Thanks! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 05:50 PM Flag

http://www.grammarbook.com/grammar/whoVwhVt.asp [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 05:57 PM Flag

Thanks!!! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 05:57 PM Flag

No problem. It's a great, straight-forward site for pretty much all things grammar. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:04 PM Flag

[ - ] The NY Hall of Science is holding a special design exhibit for kids starting this week: http://www.examiner.com/article/this-week-design-zone-exhibit-at-the-new-york-hall-of-science-queens 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 05:50 PM Flag

Thanks [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:05 PM Flag

[ - ] i am still in bed! dh fed the kids. should we go to walmart or just walk around town? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 05:48 PM Flag

You are on the wroooooooooooong board, dear [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 05:49 PM Flag

HAH!! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 05:46 PM Flag

Why? np [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 05:53 PM Flag

ITA. Walmart? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:08 PM Flag

go to mcdonalds [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 05:44 PM Flag

Walk around town. Is there a Wal Mart here? I know there's a Target on FDR [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 05:51 PM Flag

I love the Target on FDR - what's wrong with it? They have deals, ever been in there??? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:09 PM Flag

Sorry, you sound black...except for the walking bit, they're too lazy for that. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:08 PM Flag

Sorry, but this comment makes you sound white. Poor thing. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:27 PM Flag

Wow - so nasty! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:30 PM Flag

I wish NYC had a Walmart! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:14 PM Flag

Go to Target. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:43 PM Flag

Target is much cooler than Wally World. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:46 PM Flag

[ - ] The caribbean has weird racial politics. Plenty of women who in america call themselves black in the caribbean dont 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 05:47 PM Flag

Yes. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 05:49 PM Flag

Why do you care? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 05:45 PM Flag

My family is from the Caribbean, it's not that they don't call themselves black (It's afro-caribbean btw) it's that colorism is a problem there due to the settlement of the islands. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 05:51 PM Flag

Weird [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:45 PM Flag

ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:04 PM Flag

huh? Explain. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:10 PM Flag

[ - ] Have the following choices as far as summer break with DH without the children (our first trip without them in years). Antigua: St James Club (Mamora Bay- all inclusive); Turks and Caicos; or St Lucia. Please tell me what you'd pick and why. Have not been to any of these. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 05:42 PM Flag

St. Lucia is GORGEOUS! Went last summer with DH and three DC. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 05:38 PM Flag

Seconded. Highly recommend Jade Mountain, though it's $$$$ [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 05:53 PM Flag

I would not go to the Caribbean in summer. Dreadful. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 05:50 PM Flag

We have babysitting arrangement available only during the summer months. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 05:45 PM Flag

You obviously haven't been. It's near the equator, so the temps are not much different than any other time. And it's way nicer than being in the city [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 05:52 PM Flag

I have not only been but I have several spent summers in the Caribbean. I would not go: mosquitos, dengue fever, hurricanes, ridiculous heat. And the Caribbean is closer to the Tropic of Cancer, not the equator. It does change and it does matter. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 05:48 PM Flag

Yes, way too hot and yucky [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:05 PM Flag

Turks and Caicos [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 05:52 PM Flag

The water is beautiful [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 05:52 PM Flag

Turks and Caicos [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 05:52 PM Flag

Turks/Caicos is tiny and not worth it [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 07:06 PM Flag

[ - ] Would you let your husband hire an attractive Nanny under 30? 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 05:42 PM Flag

No, lol! Unless he's male and you are a SAHM. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 05:49 PM Flag

If she was qualified for the position and had good references, then absolutely. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 05:44 PM Flag

This! [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:15 PM Flag

Why is your husband in charge of hiring the nanny? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 05:44 PM Flag

No just curious. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 05:52 PM Flag

The answer is no then. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 05:56 PM Flag

My DH is too successful to manage or hire household help. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 05:44 PM Flag

LMAO [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 05:55 PM Flag

+1 [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 05:59 PM Flag

I wouldn't let him hire a nanny period. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 05:45 PM Flag

That's not what Eliot Spitzer called her. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 05:57 PM Flag

I have an attractive 26 year old nanny. I hired her. I don't understand what is this obsession with nanny's looks. She was the most qualified for the job, my kids love her. She is great. My DH travels for work all the time, if he wanted to cheat he could easily cheat in a different country or state he doesn't have to cheat with the Nanny [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:02 PM Flag

It happens a lot, though. Maybe not in your circumstances, but Robin Williams and Ethan Hawk ended up marrying the nanny. Jude Law had a fling with her. Also there was the 'Girls" subplot...They are in the house being kind to the kids...Those are just the famous people. It's different from a woman abroad, it is an intimate situation. That said, we had female young au pairs in the house at times and it was fine. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:08 PM Flag

It doesn't happen "a lot". Does your life resemble Jude Law's in any way? Why assume it would in this way? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:10 PM Flag

Yes, 3 random people constitutes a lot. Yeesh. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:18 PM Flag

I would expect it is the same as people hooking up with their secretaries. Men tend to fall for those who are in close proximity over time, and especially younger women. You don't think this is true? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:18 PM Flag

(Not saying your husband is going to stray, by the way. These are gross generalizations. But if the marriage is on the rocks and the nanny is fetching and warm to the family I would be uncomfortable.) [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:20 PM Flag

Nanny here: I would never cheat with my employer. But if Jude Law came on to me I'd be pretty tempted. Does your DH look like Jude Law? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:30 PM Flag

Lol [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:38 PM Flag

No, he looks like he second cousin twice removed with the bad posture and breath [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:37 PM Flag

We make these decisions together. Yes, I would be fine if the nanny was young and attractive. I trust my husband. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:15 PM Flag

Why put him in this position? Even if he didn't stray, he's gonna fantasize. Wouldn't want that in my home every day. Sorry. [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:30 PM Flag

Why is your husband hiring the nanny? [ Reply | More

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General Topics 05.25.13, 06:26 PM Flag

Are you crazy? [ Reply | More