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[ - ] We have acquaintances coming over. I like them but they have a habit of not leaving at civil hours. They are coming at 5, tomorrow is a school night and we have 5 and 8 year olds. When should I expect this to end and how can I actually ensure that they leave? Hints don't help. I will have to be more blunt than that. Also, forgot to mention that I feel sick. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 08:15 PM Flag
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Just be direct. 30 minutes before it is time to go, start cleaning up and say, "This has been great. Can I pack any leftover salad or burgers for you to take home? Kids, say goodbye and go pick out your pajamas. I'll be up soon to help." You get the idea... [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Never mind saving for college, someone should have warned me that I would need to invest a fortune in water bottles. Yes, another one lost. Where do they go???? Aaargggghhhh!!! Thank you, vent over. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I have the opposite problem. So many cheap water bottles or ones that we end up not preferring because they leak or are hard to clean, so so many just taking up space but you can't donate them and it feels wasteful to throw them away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 08:10 PM Flag
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I don't use water bottles at all. Probably the only one in the world. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 08:12 PM Flag
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What do you send your kid's to camp with then? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 08:17 PM Flag
[ - ] I know you are supposed to say that you are 'naturally thin' but is anyone here willing to admit they are very thin by choice (like me)? What do you generally eat and what is your workout routine like? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 08:07 PM Flag
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No sugar, starch, carbs. Running 3 days a week. [ Reply | More ]
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Does that just leave meat, vegetables and nuts? [ Reply | More ]
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No carbs? So you don't eat broccoli or zucchini? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 08:18 PM Flag
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I have been thin by choice and then average and then thin again. It's really a vicious cycle and I am no happier thin. [ Reply | More ]
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I understand. I'm sure there is some underlying pathology I have but doesn't seem worth it to spend hours in therapy! [ Reply | More ]
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One meal a day (about 600 calories), veggies for snack, run 3-4x a week 3 miles, bar class 2x a week [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I am with Trump on most things except the environment - do you think he is really going to try to pull some shit that will hurt the environment? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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hold on, while I COLLAPSE this post [ Reply | More ]
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Who knows what he is going to try? That is the problem [ Reply | More ]
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Why not...he's a shit puller. [ Reply | More ]
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He is only saying what he thinks he needs to to get elected. Once he gets elected I wouldn't be surprised if he completely changes everything he is saying now. [ Reply | More ]
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I honestly believe he's not going to do ANYTHING after being elected. He'll just blame it on everyone else, it's not his fault, Congress won't let him, blah blah blah. [ Reply | More ]
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I think I am going to go with Giant Meteor as my write-in candidate. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] My dumbass electrician touched the ceiling a bunch and there's oil on it now because it is flat paint. How to clean? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:59 PM Flag
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Do u have same paint to paint over it? [ Reply | More ]
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I might, is that the best option? [ Reply | More ]
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Fantastic spray cleaner [ Reply | More ]
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Mix some baking soda and water . Scrub gently. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 08:09 PM Flag
[ - ] Ok, I know everybody buys stuff on eBay but who sells? I just started doing it and it's kind of my new thing. I want to Kondo my closet and sell everything now. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:50 PM Flag
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Any tips? It always looks like too much work for me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:53 PM Flag
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The shipping is what I don't like, never sure what to charge, always end up paying a lot more between packing materials and shipping method... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:58 PM Flag
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Right, this is exactly what I always think. I don't want to go to the post office or find a box or whatever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 08:08 PM Flag
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I thought that too but then one day I had some time to sit down and really figure it out. Then I made a couple hundred dollars from that sale and I was hooked. The shipping is what gets me. I am always paying out of pocket to cover the difference in what I charge and the actual price. I am making friends with one of the girls at the postal/ship it place and getting a better idea of rates. [ Reply | More ]
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Meeee! I love selling stuff on eBay. Anything that is a name brand is super easy to sell! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 08:07 PM Flag
[ - ] Under what rock did Obama crawl to find this gem? "Eric Holder says Edward Snowden performed a 'public service'" What an ass. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:46 PM Flag
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He did perform a public service. [ Reply | More ]
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Not according to Obama, in fact, lives were lost with the info reveal. Sources and methods were exposed, and field agents were killed [ Reply | More ]
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Do you know how many people have been killed in Iraq and Afghanistan based on Cheney's lies? [ Reply | More ]
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I didn't elect Edward Snowden to make decisions about national security. [ Reply | More ]
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FROM under what rock... [ Reply | More ]
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I believe Edward Snowden will be widely recognized as a hero one day. Holder's statement is one step in that direction. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:50 PM Flag
[ - ] OK, honesty needed here. How many moms can truly wear a bikini after 40? I am thin, fit and have a flat tummy. But if I sit the wrong way, you can see some loose skin like teeny tiny wrinkles if I'm not sitting straight up. Any bathing suits that just cover this little area near the belly button without being a grandma suit??? Kids sure do wreck the bod... 46 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:42 PM Flag
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Congrats. Rock the bikini! If I had your figure, I would. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:43 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:43 PM Flag
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I'm overweight. No way would I or could I wear a bikini. I can't even wear a one piece without putting on a huge tee shirt over it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:43 PM Flag
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Every mom has the mommy tummy. Yours sounds great - just not absolutely perfect under close examination. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:44 PM Flag
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Thanks. I feel like my belly button isn't even the same shape anymore after 2 kids. But otherwise, my stomach is flat and looks toned. It's just the tiiiiiiniest bit of loose skin from, you know, being stretched out twice! groan [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:44 PM Flag
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If it really bothers you, just get a tummy tuck. I'm not for plastic surgery but you seem to feel insecure about the loose skin. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:47 PM Flag
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It bothers me up to the threshold of plastic surgery. Any more and I would do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:47 PM Flag
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Seems like a lot of trouble for a tiny problem. Just wear the one piece and enjoy your slender figure! I'm sure you're lovely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:48 PM Flag
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Tummy tucks are really dangerous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:59 PM Flag
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I think lipo is dangerous. Tummy tucks not so much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:59 PM Flag
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Wear a one piece with those sexy cutout pieces. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:45 PM Flag
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Some of these are even sexier than bikinis! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:45 PM Flag
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Would kill to have your body... My waist is a spare tire and I'm fluffy all over. Bathing suit season scares me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:45 PM Flag
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Agreed. What chance do we have when even thin women with flat tummies are worried? My arms are like giant hams with wings. Game over. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:51 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:53 PM Flag
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Men always say women "let themselves go" after having kids. I'd love to see what men look like after having a baby or two!!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:55 PM Flag
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Mine would be obese. I would LOVE for this to happen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 08:00 PM Flag
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Don't know why they care after you've had kids. The gig is up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 08:01 PM Flag
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But they still want to be attracted to their spouses, not disgusted. Let's be honest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 08:01 PM Flag
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I have to hide in the summer. Dread the pool. Be thankful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:46 PM Flag
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My neighbor is 50 and rocks a bikini, but she is into yoga and exercises like a demon. That said, no one cares about a little sag. I'm not there to impress on the beach. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:46 PM Flag
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She sounds like an awesome neighbor! That's fantastic. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't even want my husband to see my chub in the summer. I can hear him wince when I take my shirt off amid the hot babes in their bikinis. UGH. NEED TO DIET [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:47 PM Flag
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Troubling [ Reply | More ]
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I'm sure he is ashamed of me. He is fit and I'm not. I know he wishes I had stayed in shape. The stress and everything makes me eat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:51 PM Flag
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He sounds like a jackass. How's his bod? I couldn't live with that pressure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:52 PM Flag
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He's in shape. But I'm really fat. People have sometimes mistaken me for his mom because he's so fit and I'm so overweight. It sucks. He's not a jerk but I can understand why he's disappointed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:53 PM Flag
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I really really hate being fat. I need to change. I feel uncomfortable in everything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:55 PM Flag
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Me, too. I keep saying I'm happy the way I am but the truth is, I'm not. I want to be lean and proud of myself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:59 PM Flag
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Get some Adderall girl [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:57 PM Flag
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Ha. My drug of choice is ice cream. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:58 PM Flag
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What's your height and weight?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 08:10 PM Flag
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I'm 200+ lbs and about 5'1" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 08:14 PM Flag
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That is dangerous. Have you been to a doctor? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 08:15 PM Flag
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You can get fit! The key is to be consistent. Trust me, you will also have way more energy and feel better health wise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 08:15 PM Flag
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Who cares what anyone else thinks? Wear what you feel comfortable in. Every time I go to the beach or to resorts, I see women of literally all sizes and ages in 2 pieces - topless even! Definitely makes me less self conscious about the few extra lbs I'm carrying around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:48 PM Flag
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Good point. Wear what you like and rock it. I'm sure your DH will be thrilled to see you in a cute bikini! Be proud. You had two kids and are thin with a flat tummy! JACKPOT!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:49 PM Flag
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I am 47. Skinny on top, still pretty flat tummy after 1 dc. But as much as I eat well and exercise, I am pear shaped, have been all my life... Also have some spider veins. Still, I will never wear a "burka" to the beach or pool and a good bikini still looks more flattering than any one piece I have tried, because of my shape. Anyway, you sound great, thin and flat tummy... Why worry about some itsy bitsy piece of flat skin showing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:48 PM Flag
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xoxo [ Reply | More ]
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Monokini? Or tankini? Retro swim suit with the higher waisted shorts? [ Reply | More ]
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I like the tankini, it works well for me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 08:10 PM Flag
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How did you get so thin? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:56 PM Flag
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I eat mostly vegetables, lean protein and fruit. I have a cheat day once a week and work out 3-4 times a week. Lifting weights makes me strong and lean. But nothing can make my tummy skin go back, unfortunately! It doesn't look that bad but in certain angles, you can see a tiny wrinkle or two. It bugs me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:57 PM Flag
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Need to find bottoms that hit right below the belly button. I have a mid rise pair from Athleta that completely hide the little loose skin flap. The foldover styles usually also work for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:58 PM Flag
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Thank you! [ Reply | More ]
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The Prana brand seem to work for me for some reason as well [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 08:04 PM Flag
[ - ] So who's the Bill Kristol candidate? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:35 PM Flag
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Is it supposed to be Gary Johnson? Wtf? [ Reply | More ]
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That's who I am voting for... [ Reply | More ]
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Are you a Dem? [ Reply | More ]
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Former republican, tired of their stand on social issues. [ Reply | More ]
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He's a libertarian. [ Reply | More ]
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So who is Kristol's guy who's supposed to announce? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:46 PM Flag
[ - ] Any OBGYN moms or anyone else who can put my mind at ease? Have to do a biopsy of the uterine wall tomorrow, the gynecologist suggested doing this as I'm in my mid 40s and have had a couple of episodes of mid period bleeding ( more like another period after 15 days) the ultrasound looked good and she still said its a good idea to do this screening - just to confirm that the bleeding is related to peri menopause- and that I shouldn't worry. But I do. Sounds a bit painful. Hopefully there are no side effects. Has anyone done this? Some feedback and reassurance would make me feel better. Thanks. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:31 PM Flag
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i've done it. the pain is quick, nothing to fear. no worries, she's just being thorough. an OB can correct me, but if your uterine wall is just thickened, this would not be too scary anyway -- more like a pre-cancer that just needs to be dealt with. I've survived real cancer (breast) so I know how scary the c-word is, but there's a massive range in scariness, and pre-cancerous stuff is all the way at the other end. It's so likely to be absolutely fine. Focus on that. [ Reply | More ]
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Op- thank you for your honest reply. I appreciate it. I am a chicken when it comes to any medical procedure. Hope all is good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:49 PM Flag
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I've had a few procedures for excessive bleeding and endometriosis. Mirena failed first, then a uterine ablation failed. Ended up getting a hysterectomy. If you've already had your kids, my opinion is that if you can get them to justify removal of the uterus and cervix and keep your ovaries, it's a huge quality of life boost to not be out of commission several days a month with a period. After any kind of procedure like this where they have to dilate your cervix you'll be crampy for a few days. Chances are it's all fine, and if it's not, the sooner the better, so tomorrow is good. [ Reply | More ]
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np: I had a failed uterine ablation too. Did you get tremendous pain each month as if you were having a period but no bleeding? Mine was a disaster. It cured the bleeding issues but the pain was bad enough I needed percoset. I hope I've gone through menopause b/c the only option was a hysterectomy and I just didn't want another operation/recovery. Curious what your story was...thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:57 PM Flag
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Excessive bleeding and cramping was my issue. So they start with the Mirena ... that disappeared somehow and they never found it. Next step: ablation. When my periods came back after that I tried to hold on, but the bleeding was just out of control. It was really like hemhorraging, and I was going through entire boxes of tampons AND maxi-pads in one cycle. I had to sleep on towels. Finally got stuck on a plane and couldn't get up, I could feel the blood rushing out. I had to sit on newspaper in my black leggings - and that was with super tampon, maxi pad AND wads and wads of toilet paper in my underwear. I still soaked straight through. Went to my OB and said I cannot live like this ... she said between the failed Mirena and failed ablation I was already one of only a few patients she'd ever had who had both not work, so she signed off on the hysterectomy. She said my ovaries looked healthy when she got a 1st hand look at them, so she left them. Not sure about my fallopian tubes. that was a discussion here the other day. Anyway, no more periods, no more pap smears. So much better! I am 48 btw and this was 5 years ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 08:03 PM Flag
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*percocet [ Reply | More ]
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I had a biopsy done prior to an ablation. It was uncomfortable but nothing painful. Some cramps afterward. No big deal. GL! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:48 PM Flag
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Thanks everyone. I guess what I was afraid to ask is, no chance that they screw something up when they perform the biopsy right? Meaning, all goes back to normal after a couple of days? Again, sorry for sounding like a child, but these things worry me. [ Reply | More ]
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OR: No, it's pretty common. I think a radiologist did mine. Seemed run of the mll to them. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Nanny lawsuit mom. I have love for my dh but I need to file for divorce as he is so irresponsible. I found out he paid new babysitter in cash and not a check! At least he had her file a ledger. He is pissed at me for being incredulous at such an insane action after what we have been through. This is the 500th irresponsible thing he has done and we don't need a nanny since he is unemployed. I need to financially protect myself from his poor decisions. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:31 PM Flag
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GL. [ Reply | More ]
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After all of your issues you're still not paying on the books? You're nuts. [ Reply | More ]
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Dh paid since I am at work when the babysitter that we don't need has come over. I have not even met her. I assumed he paid in check after all this. I have to triple check every single thing he does like a child. [ Reply | More ]
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I am nuts to stay with someone that almost purposely screws up everything. It is like he has a death wish. You have no idea. [ Reply | More ]
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You can't just pay by check, you have to pay on the books with tax withholding, social security contributions (hers and yours) and workers' compensation insurance. There are companies that will handle this for you, Nanny Pay and some others (never used one so I'm not recommending -- just saying they're out there). Don't you ever learn? [ Reply | More ]
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I think it is easier for her to blame her DH rather than take any responsibility. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] you like? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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NO [ Reply | More ]
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Ikea couches [ Reply | More ]
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I wish the furniture wasn't in the picture b/c it's stuffy (country kitschy). Some rooms look small. But it's very very nice and the price is sweet! [ Reply | More ]
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MONEY PIT [ Reply | More ]
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why is it a money pit? [ Reply | More ]
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I like the outside a lot! [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Wow. lusting after this from my tiny 1300 square feet loft that i paid double for [ Reply | More ]
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Beautiful. M [ Reply | More ]
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Just get a condo in Ridgefield or Wilton. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, I do [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I'm pretty introvert, I prefer to have a ton of free time, and I like to enjoy it usually by myself (reading, music, cooking, watching movies). My SIL is an extrovert, wouldn't she much better than me taking care of our MIL? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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You don't get a pass b/c you're an introvert. [ Reply | More ]
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We introverts make great care givers to sick people who mostly just want to sleep and be left alone. You sound like the perfect person to hang with someone not very active. What kind of care does your MIL need? [ Reply | More ]
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This should be an argument between DH and SIL. Why are you even involved. [ Reply | More ]
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Social dysfunction does not a absolve you of your obligation [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:30 PM Flag
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Good succinct reply. [ Reply | More ]
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Nobody has any obligation towards in laws, just towards our own parents. [ Reply | More ]
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Not even then. I'm not taking care of my parents. They're on their own. [ Reply | More ]
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THIS!!! [ Reply | More ]
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Why? [ Reply | More ]
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Various reasons that I'm okay with. [ Reply | More ]
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By the way, they'll be okay. They have others in the family besides me. [ Reply | More ]
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Congrats!!! [ Reply | More ]
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My sister wants to stay in the will, she'll do whatever it takes. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 million [ Reply | More ]
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Why is it an obligation? She can if she wants, but it's her DH's mother. [ Reply | More ]
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You either believe in the concept of family or you do not. [ Reply | More ]
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You have a very narrow view. People have "family" in prison for doing horrible things, people have parents who sexually abused them or abandoned them. There are so many stories out there ... how horrible would it be if we were all chained for life to our abusers just because your dad had sex with someone once and your mom got pregnant as a result. You earn the relationship with your children that you deserve. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:36 PM Flag
[ - ] Another zoo post... I'm not sure I'd be able to stop myself from going in after my kid if she got into the gorilla area. Anyone else? I'm not saying it would be the right thing to do but I can't imagine just standing in safety while my 4yo is in such serious danger. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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If you are neglectful enough to have your kids play with gorillas, you probably don't care enough to jump in. Also, African Americans are terrified of animals. [ Reply | More ]
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It's Unhappy Care Bear again. [ Reply | More ]
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? This is the first comment I've made today [ Reply | More ]
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Racist Care Bear then. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't know, my kids are older and I'd prefer not to even imagine that scenario. even as a hypothetical it feels like it would be traumatic to even speculate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:24 PM Flag
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don't be an idiot and don't presume you know what you would do, hopefully your brain would kick in and you would not follow [ Reply | More ]
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Id pay straight cash to see some geriatric gluten-sensitive UB mom jump into a gorilla cage. [ Reply | More ]
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Personally I'd pay to see 70% of UB moms fall into a gorilla cage--lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:48 PM Flag
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Lmao you win. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:49 PM Flag
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Are you going to bring the popcorn? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 08:05 PM Flag
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Skinnypop baby! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 08:16 PM Flag
[ - ] Are sandals office-appropriate if they are closed toe? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:02 PM Flag
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? aren't sandals by the nature of them being sandals open toe? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:03 PM Flag
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Right? They're not sandals if they're closed toe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:08 PM Flag
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I saw this girl wearing a pair that were so cute and I'm mad I didn't ask her what brand, I've been googling and the general idea is this, although hers were pointy-toed and way, way cuter: http://www.overstock.com/Clothing-Shoes/Blossom-Womens-Beyond-2-Closed-Toe-Sandal-Flats/8704615/product.html [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:08 PM Flag
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Madewell has similar styles [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:12 PM Flag
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I'd call these sling backs and they seem fine for work. Cute shoes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:50 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:04 PM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:05 PM Flag
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What type of job? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:10 PM Flag
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It's in healthcare (in a hospital) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:17 PM Flag
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Not allowed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:21 PM Flag
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np - pretty sure its allowed if you work in the administration and not actually going to patient floors. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:43 PM Flag
[ - ] How do you find graciousness when a close friend succeeds in good fortune beyond your circle; so now you travel in different ones? 34 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 06:59 PM Flag
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I stopped envying people after JFK Jr.'s plane went down with Carolyn and her sister. Can't tell you how much I wanted to be her. That was the end of that. The idea that anyone has it all is an illusion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:03 PM Flag
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NP: Really good example. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:05 PM Flag
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I think this is actually an awful example. If you had said it was because she was in a bad marriage, had an eating disorder, etc I would agree but the plane crash is not a good example. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:07 PM Flag
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You think it makes sense to be envious of someone whose life got cut short in their 30s? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:09 PM Flag
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She had an eating disorder? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:11 PM Flag
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In all fairness, most really thin women in NYC probably do, to some extent. They have to work hard to stay as thin as they do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:22 PM Flag
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So give us a better answer. All I did was tell the truth. Sorry if you don't like it. This isn't a test. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:13 PM Flag
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I think the point is that you should never wish to be in anyone else's shoes, because you never know with 100% certainty how their life will progress. A girl in my college class was from a very well known NYC family, she was engaged to the son of a billionaire, had a fantastic job right out of school while I was unemployed. Then she died in 9/11. Envy is a wasted emotion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:16 PM Flag
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Same. Most popular girl in my high school class went to HYP, married a guy whose name would be very recognizable here. Got pregnant with identical twins, then she gave birth to them and died 3 days later from eclampsia. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:18 PM Flag
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Most people are primitive and are looking for their own place in the social heirarchy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:17 PM Flag
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The plane crash was not random either. There were a number of factors including personality problems and poor judgement. The sister was late, JFK Jr. was irresponsible, marital problems/anger may have contributed to clouded thinking, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:24 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:06 PM Flag
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I song gets adults who haven't figured that out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:09 PM Flag
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^^ don't [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:09 PM Flag
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"Can't tell you how much I wanted to be her" LOL this sounds so immature! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:13 PM Flag
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so it's comforting to you only when it ends badly for those who you envied? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:15 PM Flag
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It's not comforting at all. It just showed me how silly I was to waste time wondering what it would be like to have someone else's life. It taught me to stop looking at what is going on with everyone else and pay attention to my own business. Who is "comforted" by a plane crash ??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:20 PM Flag
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Envy is always idiotic. People envied my parents. Artist Dad, extremely beautiful mom. They ended up having a special needs daughter, my sister. Can't tell you how many people were THRILLED that the "golden couple was shot down". My parents literally were told that. In my own situation I am very low key because there are so many envious assholes out there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:15 PM Flag
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omg wow [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:18 PM Flag
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so true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:22 PM Flag
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Carolyn had a lot going for her but I thought she was extremely f'ed up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:19 PM Flag
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Youre friends, not a "circle". Envy is so pointless, you have no real idea about her life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:08 PM Flag
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Well, I did know a lot and share a lot. But now she has a lot more opportunities and money so we won't be living our lives in parallel or have the same concerns or do the same things anymore. Plus she will likely move to a better place. I feel sad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:13 PM Flag
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Its true. I know that a lot of people envied me due to a conventionally attractive appearance, but this didn't know that I had a chronic, undiagnosable illness for 7 years that kept me in bed whenever I was home. They also didn't know that I am not close to my parents and never had a supportive family. I guarantee 0% of my classmates would trade places with me if they knew that, but they don't, so there were a lot of envious comments. Most of friends don't even know how bad family stuff was because I keep it to myself. I was surprised to find out that several acquaintances of mine had a parent dying from cancer during our master's program. Never would have guessed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:34 PM Flag
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A friend at work once told me "You have to run your own race." It's one of the best pieces of advice I've ever received. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:10 PM Flag
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I like that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:19 PM Flag
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Get over yourself. Bad things happen to everyone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:11 PM Flag
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Why do you have to be gracious if you don't see her anymore? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:15 PM Flag
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If she is a superficial friend or not a real friend at all, she will cut you out over time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:19 PM Flag
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How old are you? I'm in my late 30s and you start seeing noticeable differences in one's wealth (after all, we are talking money only here, right?) at this point. Why not think every person will have ups and downs and at this point, you happen to be behind. Fortunes change throughout one's life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:18 PM Flag
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I've sometimes wondered how it would feel to be Gayle King and have Oprah as a BFF. I would like to think I would be truly happy for her, but I know myself well enough to know that I think I would be envious. I think the key (which sounds trite) is to be grateful and not compare. If we are always measuring ourselves against others we can get a false sense of security ("at least I'm not as screwed up/broke/ugly/stupid as that person...") or feel badly about the successes we have worked hard to achieve. If you are happy with your own life, exactly as it is, let that be enough. Continue to work toward your goals, but remember that one person's dream is another person's nightmare (think Kate Middleton or princess Diana--you could envy her or feel sorry for her depending on the day). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:20 PM Flag
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As another poster said, you never know what someone's life is really like. Found out that a coworker that seemed to have a pretty easy life is going thru a divorce under some bad circumstances. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:23 PM Flag
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You appreciate that you have a roof over your head, a healthy kid and a good relationship with your spouse. Or a job. Or a purpose. You don't worry what others have, but thank god for what you do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.16, 07:28 PM Flag
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If you're not happy for her success, you're not a friend at all, let alone a close friend. [ Reply | More ]
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