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[ - ] Going to Chicago for a two day get away. What are some 'must dos' while I am there? TIA 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:35 PM Flag
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Millennium Park, dinner at Fonterra Grill or Topolobompo, try to get out into one of the neighborhoods (Bucktown, Wicker Park, Andersonville, etc). It's a great city. Have fun! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Dd due late October. What clothes will she need for the next 3-6 months? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:32 PM Flag
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Sleep bags will be your friend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Carseat question. My tall 4yo is in a britax advocate, which we now want to use for db. Is it safer to move him to a high-back booster seat or to use a lightweight forward-facing carseat (cosco scenera, which we use on planes). Can't seem to find an answer online. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:27 PM Flag
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We really like the Sunshine Kids/Diono car seat. This one is extra tall. http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B002OC1M22/ref=amb_link_86269611_1?pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_s=hero-quick-promo&pf_rd_r=137HNXD7Y7C2180B59AB&pf_rd_t=201&pf_rd_p=503126231&pf_rd_i=B001O5CM8S It's not lightweight at all (extremely heavy actually) but I think it's the safest one out there. And it's narrow so you can fit three across if you ever need to and it's really simple to install (not a lot of complicated parts.) It goes to 80 lb or 53" forward facing. 5 point harness is much safer than a booster seat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:41 PM Flag
[ - ] S/O-- would you be annoyed if you were seated at a table at a wedding with two other adults you did not know well and their kids? 57 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:16 PM Flag
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This is what usually happens to us at weddings, so, no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:05 PM Flag
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You usually get seated at table with kids you are not related to? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:27 PM Flag
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Yes. There are no kids related to either of us, actually. So if there are kids there, they will not be related to us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:17 PM Flag
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And so you get stuck rounding out table, instead of being seated with people you know or other adult tables? Seems strange to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:34 PM Flag
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Sometimes they are people we know, but not well. Think former coworkers, etc., people we don't know who happened to go to same college, etc. So yes, we round out the table. But since we're not family, why would we expect anything different? It's really not an issue for us. I don't consider other people's weddings to be about me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:40 PM Flag
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NP. This really happens to you a lot? I have never been seated with children (other than at my own wedding, which was obviously by choice). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:40 PM Flag
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Yes. Where are there all these uptight weddings? In my world, people bring their kids. They dance, they stay up late, it's really cute. It's not the Met gala, for god's sake... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:42 PM Flag
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NP from above. Most of the weddings I attend don't have very many children, but when they do they are never seated with unrelated adults. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:34 PM Flag
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Why would I be? I'd talk with them and mingle with other tables. Everyone has to sit someplace. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:05 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:18 PM Flag
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No I would get a life and not worry about petty shit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:06 PM Flag
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+50,099 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:16 PM Flag
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+.02347 lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:41 PM Flag
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No - only if the kids were annoying and had bad table manners. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:21 PM Flag
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And then I'd be gratified at thinking that my kids were so much better behaved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:12 PM Flag
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What if you did not have kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:26 PM Flag
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Complain loudly to the bride and groom, make a scene, etc. if being at an adult only table is so important to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:35 PM Flag
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OP, no one is suggesting that. I put up this post in response to the poster who said my sister had stupid table seating rules for not wanting to put kids other than at table with family members. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:37 PM Flag
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Sorry, other posters (or one poster) is suggesting this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:38 PM Flag
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Nope. They are just saying they wouldn't like it. Reading comprehension fail. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:40 PM Flag
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Just accept it as my cross to bare. And try to live my life as best I could after such a trauma. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:27 PM Flag
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Smiling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:42 PM Flag
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I would be annoyed if I were seated with kids. I would not be annoyed at being seated with adults I didn't know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:10 PM Flag
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this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:25 PM Flag
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Where are they supposed to put the kids, under the stage? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:29 PM Flag
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I prefer weddings with no children. But if they do attend, they should be seated with the other families with children and not inflicted on childless guests. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:18 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:31 PM Flag
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Obviously with their parents, but at a table with other people with kids or with relatives of the parents. Duh. Not dump on others. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:31 PM Flag
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Wow, you are lovely. I think kids are what make weddings fun-they're usually the only ones there genuinely enjoying themselves. And I have no kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:19 PM Flag
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The weddings you attend sound horrid. I have been to 25+ weddings over the past five years and the [adult] guests genuinely enjoyed themselves at each of them. The ones without kids are more fun because people can relax and enjoy themselves and dance late into the night. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:22 PM Flag
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This. I doubt that person's version of the truth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:36 PM Flag
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The kids, yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:25 PM Flag
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+1000000000000000000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:26 PM Flag
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Why would this be annoying? Who cares who is at your table? You don't live there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:31 PM Flag
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If parents are busy cutting food etc., not much of a table for the non-parent adults. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:32 PM Flag
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OP didn't state age range. Most kids can cut their own food past four years old. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:33 PM Flag
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It is going to limit conversation. It is not what many would want. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:35 PM Flag
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Is it your wedding? If not, your "wants" have nothing to do with it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:36 PM Flag
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NP. As the host, I would certainly want my guests to enjoy themselves and not be trapped with random children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:25 PM Flag
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Agreed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:38 PM Flag
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Of course I want the guests to enjoy themselves, but I don't have very many friends or family who are so uptight that their wedding experience would be ruined based on the limited set of facts in the OP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:41 PM Flag
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My friends are not uptight at all, and close to zero of them would be enthused about being seated with someone else's kids. It really limits the ability of the adults at the table to have a good conversation. It's rude to subject guests to this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:32 PM Flag
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You guys sound like a blast. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:47 PM Flag
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The weddings I've attended have all been a blast. Great music, lots of dancing, great friends, good food, and good booze. No one worrying about no neck monsters requiring constant supervision. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:51 PM Flag
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BINGO. Especially non-relatives with more than one kid. Mom takes one to restroom, dad wanders off, and then table mates are expected to be babyitters? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:56 PM Flag
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So how would you do seating? Do you look for people who if they do not each other well, have commanalities of interest? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:46 PM Flag
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Good food, good booze, good music. The rest will take care of itself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:49 PM Flag
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And cutting food takes about 30 secs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:28 PM Flag
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And cutting food takes about 30 secs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:28 PM Flag
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Other people's kids are annoying. They are not good conversationalists and they demand too much attention. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:23 PM Flag
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This. Too many moms think their snowflake is the center of everyone's univers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:38 PM Flag
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Its making it pretty clear you are not on the A list. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:34 PM Flag
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I wouldn't go to her next wedding [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:34 PM Flag
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lol! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:35 PM Flag
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IMHO, very few people who do not have kids want to be seated with kids. This is why seating charts are tougher if you invite kids. I would keep all kids (and their parents) with other relatives or parents/kids. There is no need to invite ALL kids. You can just invite kids of relatives, who presumably can be seated with other relatives (grandparents, etc). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:48 PM Flag
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S/O of the S/O: do people really not understand that most other adults are not interested in interacting with their children? They are terrible dinner companions. There is nothing wrong with wanting to sit at a table with other adults so they can have a normal conversation without hearing about what little Sophie or Liam learned in class this week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:37 PM Flag
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Apparently many do not, judging by this thread. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:53 PM Flag
[ - ] Should I go to yoga or sit around and UB? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:14 PM Flag
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Both. Sign off in 15 minutes and get to yoga. It's beautiful out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:32 PM Flag
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Okay. Good advice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:35 PM Flag
[ - ] Just rubbed one out. Any questions? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:13 PM Flag
[ - ] When did you start to show in second pregnancy? I'm 11.5 wks and showing a bit in the morning, but by end of day, after eating, drinking, bloat, etc. I look enormous. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:08 PM Flag
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OMG me too! I'm 14 weeks but I swear I had a bump at 9 weeks, and by 5pm it's huge. I'm relatively thin but I didn't show with my first until the 5th month or so. It's crazy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:13 PM Flag
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haha--yep! I'm trying to hide it at work but have resorted to wearing the dumpiest clothes! I usually wear fitted things, so I'm afraid the jig is up--or everyone thinks I've just completely let myself go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:02 PM Flag
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Same here. The in-between stage is definitely going to be longer this time. But people will know soon enough. Good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:22 PM Flag
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First pregnancy at 25 weeks, second pregnancy at 9. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:13 PM Flag
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wow! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:03 PM Flag
[ - ] Parents with more than 1 dc... be honest, which kid is smarter? It seems like all the first borns I know are smarter than their younger siblings (doesn't matter if it's a boy or girl) ... is this just me? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:54 PM Flag
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I have so many friends who are the smarter, younger sibling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:09 PM Flag
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My kids are very different but I think my younger is smarter. They are the same gender and 2 years apart. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:11 PM Flag
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my younger brother is definitely the smarter sibling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:14 PM Flag
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Each is smart in very different ways. Both are "book smart." DS is people smart. DD is has a more scientific mind. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:03 PM Flag
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Not sure how old your kids are, but I've observed that this can change over the years. Sometimes a young kid who seems like they are really sharp (early reader, interested in facts/topics, curious about numbers, etc.) aren't anything special by MS. Meanwhile, a sibling who wasn't necessarily as advanced by the standard metrics is more creative and a better problem solver and simply does more with their intelligence--leaving people with the impression that they are smarter (which they actually may be). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:10 PM Flag
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this is my experience also [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:34 PM Flag
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True with my kids and true with me and my brother. Also, my youngest, like my brother, is more socially adept than the older one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:26 PM Flag
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I agree with you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:26 PM Flag
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No. This is widely true among my friends (there are exceptions of course). I can't speak to innate intelligence but I can say that most of the first borns I know were academically superior to their younger siblings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:17 PM Flag
[ - ] I hope moderator finds the IP address of the psycho troll and report him to the police. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:47 PM Flag
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Is it even possible to get cancer if you don't rape kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:38 PM Flag
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Doubtful [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:44 PM Flag
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I'll settle for banning. Why bother the police with some subterranean troll. Sure s/he is living in some basement in West Kentucky. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:57 PM Flag
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Nashville actually [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:49 PM Flag
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I wouldn't even bring Kentucky into it. Could be anywhere and maybe even in the metropolitan area. Even if said person is an adult, they possess the maturity of an eight year old. Heck, my eight year old is more mature. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:02 PM Flag
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I think NSA should be involved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:58 PM Flag
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FBI too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:49 PM Flag
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Not again... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:52 PM Flag
[ - ] DD is heading off to college. What advice do I give her? 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:34 PM Flag
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It isn't rape if she orgasms [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:34 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:35 PM Flag
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LOLĀ” [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:35 PM Flag
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Ugh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:41 PM Flag
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Like [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:46 PM Flag
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Avoid frat boys and get an IUD. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:36 PM Flag
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Definitely avoid frats and frat parties. They are way too fucked up and the boys have fucked up initiations and try to fuck as many girls as they can. That's why they try to get the girls drunk all the time. The Freshman girls are called fresh meat and they act accordingly. Warn dd about drinking and about rape drugs put in her drink. She should never take a drink from a guy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:40 PM Flag
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:( I met some of my closest life-long friends--male and female--at frat parties. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:03 PM Flag
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When I went to college, the frats had different types of parties -- open house, when anyone can go (and could get rowdy) and invite only. Big difference [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:21 PM Flag
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Invite only aren't dangerous for girls, too? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:13 PM Flag
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OR just didn't have anything bad happen to her.. Had a friend in college who was almost raped. Guy tried to lead her into a rape room. She left. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:49 PM Flag
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Not the same. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:50 PM Flag
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Invite only aren't dangerous for girls, too? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:13 PM Flag
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Ugh. Gross. Power play. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:48 PM Flag
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Don't drink and don't give in to peer pressure. Call you and go to a rape clinic before she calls the police or worse campus authorities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:41 PM Flag
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Don't drink? Not realistic. Don't drink at frat parties and moderate drinking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:06 PM Flag
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Don't drink? Not realistic. Don't drink at frat parties and moderate drinking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:06 PM Flag
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Don't schedule any early classes if she is not an early riser. Use the buddy system for going out, with one or more reliable friends (no need to be paranoid, but this is a good policy generally). Don't accept drinks from strangers (or sketchy acquaintances!) or leave a drink unattended. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:55 PM Flag
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How is she heading off to college? It's almost October. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:03 PM Flag
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np: It was a long time ago, so my memory is hazy, but I think I started college in October when I went. I was on the quarter system, not semesters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:14 PM Flag
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Date the nerds, date the guy that thinks you are wonderful, go to the library on Friday nights, date the Computer science majors who think writing code is fun. DATE GEEKS, WATCH THE MONEY ROLL IN WHEN YOU MARRY. Stay away from the best looking guys, they will break your heart. And study hard, get internships that matter and if you don't have a great family background, make one up! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:36 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:44 PM Flag
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Yes. Goodlooking frat boys are assholes. NEVER date anyone who doesn't think you are perfect. If a guy starts criticizing you. Break up with him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:57 PM Flag
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I get most of what you're saying, but geeks dump their first wives if they get rich. Look it up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:58 PM Flag
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I get most of what you're saying, but geeks dump their first wives if they get rich. Look it up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:45 PM Flag
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Interesting how all of the advice is about partying and dating. Here's my advice: meet with your advisor early and often, explore majors and their requirements the second half of your freshmen year and declare by sometime in your sophomore year. Make sure your professors know who you are and take advantage of office hours if you have any questions at all. Immerse yourself in college life by joining a club, forming a study group, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:41 PM Flag
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Dating and partying are the most dangerous things a girl can do. Sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:58 PM Flag
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Make sure your prof doesn't try to fuck you. Know many girls that happened to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:58 PM Flag
[ - ] I posted a few weeks ago about buying an apartment in the outer boroughs with 10% down and PMI. Several of you told me that I would NEVER get approved by the board, that the bank would NEVER clear me to close, and that there was no way in hell I would ever close. I promised to report back--board approved, bank cleared to close, and we close on Thursday! If that educator mom looking to buy with only 40k in savings is still on, take any real estate advice on this board with a truckload of salt. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:32 PM Flag
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Congratulations! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:35 PM Flag
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thanks!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:42 PM Flag
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Congrats and enjoy! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:52 PM Flag
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thanks--we are so excited! We had many medical bills recently that depleted our savings, so we never thought we would be in a position to buy anytime soon. [ Reply | More ]
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This is fantastic that you were able to do this! Others may disagree, but don't rush to spend $$ on tons of stuff (except what is required to make the place livable) after settling in with what you have, you will have a better sense of where you want to spend money on furniture and changes and the like! Take your time and buy what you like (i.e. don't rush to fill a room with good enough because it's cheap!) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:04 PM Flag
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OP-I totally agree! We are only taking a few pieces of furniture and will slowly pick up what we need once we get a better sense of the place. But that won't stop us from looking--going window shopping right now-- [ Reply | More ]
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ENJOY ENJOY! and I am sure you know this, but once you have your eye on something (that is not upholstered) don't discount craigslist as a source :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:29 PM Flag
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Most people understand that this board is full of pessimists to the extreme. Congrats [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:17 PM Flag
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OP-we've lived in Manhattan for over 20 yrs. and everything is soooo crazy here. To find that things are more relaxed just a subway ride away was a real revelation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:10 PM Flag
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Where is it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:19 PM Flag
[ - ] If you are an observant Jew and you live in Lapland or Grenlandor somewhere else with midnight sun in the summer and no sun at all in the winter, are ther rules for how you observe the Shabbat? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:31 PM Flag
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Is Grenlandor near Narnia or Middle Earth? [ Reply | More ]
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Typo obviously, should have said "Greenland or" [ Reply | More ]
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Or there are Jews in middle earth. [ Reply | More ]
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No idea, but Norilsk in Russia is the northernmost city with an observant Muslim population--those people fast for like 22-hrs a day during Ramadan. Then they probably go out and operate heavy machinery. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:33 PM Flag
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Probably. [ Reply | More ]
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That's freaking funny [ Reply | More ]
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Jews are evil [ Reply | More ]
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A cancer to the world. [ Reply | More ]
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Calm down mustafa. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:20 PM Flag
[ - ] MD moms (or anyone who is in field where things like licensing and credentialing is a big issue). How did you deal with the whole name change issue? I would like to legally take on my husband's last name in some form, because it just seems easier socially and when it comes to traveling in different countries, making reservations, etc. Can you just legally make your last name your middle name and take on DH's last name, while still using your maiden name for work? eg. still work as Dr. Jane Smith, but legally your name is Dr. Jane Smith Jones? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:27 PM Flag
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Nearly every female doctor I know has kept her maiden name for work and her married name for personal purposes. The only exceptions have been where a maiden name was somewhat unwieldy and the married name was much easier (like maiden name "szcyokurcka" when the married name was "Walker" etc.). All passports, school records, driver's licenses and legal documents carry the married name which is the same as the children's names. Business cards and patient records and DEA # are in maiden name. [ Reply | More ]
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Psychologist here and this is what I do. Legal and professional name is maiden, socially it's married last name. [ Reply | More ]
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When you use your married husband's name do you call your self Mrs. Walker or Dr. Walker? None of my friends changed names and neither did I. [ Reply | More ]
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Keep in mind there's a 50% chance you'll be changing it back. [ Reply | More ]
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Lovely. You're a winner [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:18 PM Flag
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Yes. That will work. [ Reply | More ]
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I changed my name because my dh's was simpler and easy to spell. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:54 PM Flag
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I have a professional license. NYS mandates that my LEGAL name is on my professional license. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:58 PM Flag
[ - ] Should homosexual rape be legalized? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Should I state "no gifts please" for DD's 3rd birthday? She doesn't need them, but she knows that we have given gifts at birthday parties we have attended, and I think she won't understand if she doesn't receive any. She will be getting gifts from her family (parents, grandparents, aunts/uncles), so I think I could just remind her about those gifts if she asks. Anyone BTDT? 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:17 PM Flag
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I did that for dc's 3rd birthday. It wasn't a big deal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:19 PM Flag
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So your DC didn't notice? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:07 PM Flag
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No. Plus some guests still brought gifts anyways. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:22 PM Flag
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People will bring gifts anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:11 PM Flag
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At least there will be less of them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:22 PM Flag
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Donate them. That is what I do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:22 PM Flag
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People will want to bring gifts to a 3 year old. Is it such a huge party? 3 year old parties should be small and simple imo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:22 PM Flag
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So? 10 guests is 10 stupid gifts cluttering your house. I wish people just brought books. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:24 PM Flag
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But it's fun for dc and you can always re-gift or donate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:58 PM Flag
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So then ask for ONE book. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:02 PM Flag
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your poor dc. her birthday is about cluttering your home [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:14 PM Flag
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They get plenty of gifts from relatives and close friends, they don't need 15 random gifts. A party is to have fun, not get presents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:03 PM Flag
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Sounds like you have made up your mind? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:29 PM Flag
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OP: this is at a kids event place (similar to NY kids club) and we will have 12 children in total. This is DD's first party with friends; previous birthdays were just parents and one set of grandparents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:29 PM Flag
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Personally, I don't love the "no gifts" thing - unless everyone else in the class is doing it and you'll be the only one who doesn't. We never said no gifts and always got a bunch of stuff. I'd let DD open a few after the party and then put the rest aside. Every month or so, I opened another one. It's sometimes nice to see the gifts people bring because it's not always something you would have thought of buying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:35 PM Flag
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How do you send thank you notes if it take months to open ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:02 PM Flag
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People for some reason feel entitled to ignore these requests, even though it is rude to do so. You could consider doing a book exchange instead so people who have an aversion to showing up empty-handed don't have to do so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:57 PM Flag
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I think its rude to tell people what to bring (or not bring) to a party [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:00 PM Flag
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Why? I would love to not have one less errand to run. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:02 PM Flag
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I disagree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:22 PM Flag
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It would certainly be rude to tell people to bring gifts. There is nothing wrong with indicating that you do not wish to receive gifts. People who insist on giving gifts to unwilling recipients - will you be offended when your gift is immediately donated? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:12 PM Flag
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OP: good idea! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:30 PM Flag
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ILY. I wish more people would make birthday parties about the celebration and not the gifts. So tired of this American consumer culture fueled by cheap Chinese toys. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:18 PM Flag
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thanks. we really tried to minimize the toys/clutter, but we still somehow ended up with boatloads of toys all over the place. definitely don't want to keep adding to it. I feel bad about getting rid of stuff that people picked out, but that's what we end up having to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:31 PM Flag
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^+ we also have less than 1200 square feet, so every inch of space is precious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:32 PM Flag
[ - ] Any place to get balsa wood on the UWS? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:17 PM Flag
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I haven't looked, but I would try Michael's. But look at a local hardware store first if Michael's isn't very close to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:07 PM Flag
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TY! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:28 PM Flag
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Michaels would surely have it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:55 PM Flag
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I bought some in a paper and office supplies store on Broadway and approx 112. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:29 PM Flag
[ - ] Which middle schools are considered more science and math focused besides Salk ? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:16 PM Flag
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Salk is not that math focused. It is more science and ELA. Baruch, MAT and Lab are more math focused. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:51 PM Flag
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Agree to a certain degree after having two kids at Salk. But both did very well on the SHSAT with minimal prep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 03:38 PM Flag
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NEST, Mark Twain (in the math or science talent). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.20.14, 02:55 PM Flag
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