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[ - ] I am feeling lazy. Skipped the class I normally take at the gym today and did nothing 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:26 AM Flag
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NYT end marijuana prohibition articles? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:16 AM Flag
[ - ] Suggestions for a baby gift? Baby boy is 2 months old now. Parents have all the essentials. I'm trying to be more creative than just some clothes. Budget $50-100. Thank you! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:19 AM Flag
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How about a bunch of little gifts around a theme? Like bath-time or feeding. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:19 AM Flag
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A great selection of children's books! [ Reply | More ]
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+100 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:33 AM Flag
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Good bibs are always a welcome gift, and they'll use them when he's on solids and starting to teeth. I like Posh Pea on Etsy. Great quality and fabric choices. They have snaps (not Velcro) which is key. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:15 AM Flag
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A basket with Sopfie the giraffe, nose Frieda, piyo nail scissors and a pack of size 3 or 4 diapers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:27 AM Flag
[ - ] Just need to vent: I feel abused at my job. I'm good at it, but they keep piling on the responsibility. I know I can never advance, I know I get pats on the head but no real respect. I feel bad about my choices in life. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:14 AM Flag
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Are you a lawyer? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:15 AM Flag
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No, but I work in litigation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:21 AM Flag
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So you are a what...? Paralegal? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:23 AM Flag
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np. No. She's a woman. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:22 AM Flag
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I am you. They pile on more work and greater responsibilities but I have yet to see a promotion or raise. Start looking for a new company/job. Sorry and good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:07 AM Flag
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Are you looking? How long have you been at your job? I have a lot of experience but my resume is jumpy. I've only been there a year. Im thinking I should give it more time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:30 AM Flag
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Quit. Threaten to quit. Ask for a raise. Find a new job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:11 AM Flag
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find a new job. someone else will be happy to have you. you can do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:15 AM Flag
[ - ] For 30 years the USA and Israel supported Islamist movements to compete with Arab Socialist* regimes and fracture the Arab world. Anyone who has problems with outfits like Hamas and ISIS should be blaming America and Israel for creating this monster. *http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Arab_socialism 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:10 AM Flag
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Shut up. Please? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:15 AM Flag
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Don't make me go off on why America would have been better off keeping Saddam in power and making an ally out of his regime. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:28 AM Flag
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This is obvious in retrospect, Bush and Co weren't foreign policy savants. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:30 AM Flag
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Please do. That thought never occurred to us now that there a caliphate in Iraq. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:21 AM Flag
[ - ] Loud woman in playground ate pizza and let napkins, plates, fpil, and plastic bag fly all arpund. How disgusting people can be!! 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:04 AM Flag
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Foil [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:05 AM Flag
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Call her out on it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:05 AM Flag
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I'm a staunch anti-litterer but sometimes the wind gets the best of you and there's nothing you can do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:06 AM Flag
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bend over. pull stick out of butt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:59 PM Flag
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Bend over, put your droopy boobs back in shirt, Trash Bag. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:13 AM Flag
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Jersey? [ Reply | More ]
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Gramercy [ Reply | More ]
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Hispanic? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:12 AM Flag
[ - ] Tuition bills due! Tell me private middle is better than Ridgewood! 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 07.29.14, 12:04 AM Flag
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It's not - ridgewood is great. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:06 AM Flag
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But the schools were so big that I got scared. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:11 AM Flag
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Ridgewood? Not that big. Awesome town. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:21 AM Flag
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it depends on which private [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:10 AM Flag
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Ridgewood, NJ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:04 AM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:17 AM Flag
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Public all the way. Why move to a nice town like that and not send DCs to public, other than DCs have special needs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:08 AM Flag
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No we didn't move, I found so many houses and got cold feet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:20 AM Flag
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Saddle River Country Day [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:05 AM Flag
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What about it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:17 AM Flag
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Zero point in paying Bergen county taxes and not using the schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:21 AM Flag
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Not op. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:17 AM Flag
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Ridgewood taxes are so high to not use the schools! (I live in hohokus) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:20 AM Flag
[ - ] Housekeeper is drinking milk mixed with orange juice! Wtf? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:01 AM Flag
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Creamsicle [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:52 PM Flag
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not really! Unless it's vanilla flavored milk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:06 AM Flag
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LOVE creamsicle! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:17 AM Flag
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That literally makes me feel like vomiting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:03 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:04 AM Flag
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I had milk+midori the other day [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:57 PM Flag
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That is gross. Doesn't the acid curdle the milk? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:03 AM Flag
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Fire. No severance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:07 AM Flag
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^^ it's a Dominican drink idiot [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:10 AM Flag
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Curdle. Ick [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:21 AM Flag
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Milk and Pepsi. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:13 AM Flag
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I feel like I need to try this just to see what it tastes like. Both part of the complete breakfast! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:24 AM Flag
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I did when I was a kid. Don't remember the taste just that I never wanted to drink that again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:18 AM Flag
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Disgusting. This is why I hate associating with the unwashed masses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:28 AM Flag
[ - ] That Anderson summer reading list posted earlier is ridiculous. The teachers could not have read those books. The subject matter is inappropriate. "It's not the end of the world" by Judy Blume for a rising 3rd grader? 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:47 PM Flag
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Judy Blume is great for that age group [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:48 PM Flag
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Yes but that's a young adult Judy Blume [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:40 PM Flag
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can you post link to 3rd grade list? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:38 PM Flag
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3rd grade, all grades in link below [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:40 PM Flag
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wow, never heard of any of them. My ds is at district g&T and just finishing harry potter book 7. he is going into 3rd grade. we saw the movies so I am sure that hellped [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:43 PM Flag
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You've never heard of these books? A Wrinkle in Time? Bridge to Teribithia? Those were around during OUR childhood. np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:55 PM Flag
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^^But I agree these are probably better for rising 4th graders, not 3rd grade [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:55 PM Flag
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I know those, and we own a wrinke in time (target $1 bin!), but not many of the others [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:46 PM Flag
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NP: these are the only 2 I know [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:05 AM Flag
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Holy hell, Tom Angleberger? He lives near me and writes little things for our local paper...I had no idea he was a well known children's author. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:05 AM Flag
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Funny. I looked it up and it is about a 6th grader. There are so many other good books about 3rd and 4th graders for that age group. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:56 PM Flag
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I think much of this list isn't well known. Very odd list IMO [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:06 AM Flag
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Yes and the curious incident of the dog in the night-time is unusual for 4th grade! I've seen that assigned to 7th though 9th. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:08 AM Flag
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It will just go over their head. Why not read age appropriate books? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:14 AM Flag
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Many of these books are well known if you follow children's literature. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:18 AM Flag
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Also "if a tree falls at lunch period". These are about 6th and 7th grade issues. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:39 PM Flag
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I agree most of these are way too advanced. Holes is okay, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:52 PM Flag
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I thought it was right on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:53 PM Flag
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A wrinkle in time for 3rd grade? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:45 PM Flag
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Way too early. And my DD goes to Harvard, for reference. np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:56 PM Flag
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IA they are just too young to really get it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:13 AM Flag
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My 3rd grader has read a number of those books but I don't think she can appreciate A Wrinkle in Time yet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:17 AM Flag
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It looks a bit too advanced. Maybe fifth grader as some of the subject matter is too advanced. What's the rush, seriously. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:58 PM Flag
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this, it's just going to turn the kids off from reading [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:48 PM Flag
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These books are ridiculous. 4th grade has Stevenson. My ds read it and it wasn't easy for him. He is going into 5th in local g&t so same 99 as Anderson's kids. He couldn't have done it last year and even this year was a stretch [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:12 AM Flag
[ - ] Son of Hamas founder rejects Hamas ideology. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:39 PM Flag
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I guess that makes him different from the Israelis, the creators of the Hamas ideology. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:49 PM Flag
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What are you talking about? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:53 PM Flag
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I'd link the wikipedia article, but maybe you'll believe me better if the source is a newspaper hardly known for taking the palestinians' side http://online.wsj.com/news/articles/SB123275572295011847 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:13 AM Flag
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Yeah - because Israel tolerated them for too long. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:21 AM Flag
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Israel didn't just tolerate Hamas. Israel supported Hamas for decades in order to weaken the PLO. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:22 AM Flag
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I guess they seemed like the lesser of two evils at the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:24 AM Flag
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When the jihad takes Jerusalem that line of thinking will seem really, really ironic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:16 AM Flag
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OP - interesting read. So many missed opportunities. I really think there were moments in time when peace was within their reach. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:34 AM Flag
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Give it a rest. It does your cause no good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:10 AM Flag
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I support Israel. The Israel that I loved before the Israeli Right seized control and took the ship on a collision course with the iceberg. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:14 AM Flag
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Nihilism? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:19 AM Flag
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Saw him on CNN. Very articulate. The Palestinians need leaders like him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:10 AM Flag
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"He speaks so well." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:16 AM Flag
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He makes sense. Didn't speak with fear and anger but with compassion. That better? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:21 AM Flag
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Extremely brave of him to do this. I wish Palestinians did have a leader like this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:21 AM Flag
[ - ] OMG. My 26 yo nephew is getting married. 16 yo DS met his fiancee today, and remarked afterwards "Wow I was really surprised at how fat and dumpy Jack's fiancee is. I would never date a fat girl like that." This girl is beautiful, curvy, maybe a size 8 (big boobs and hips). How would you respond to this? I told him that maybe his cousin is less superficial and judgmental than he is. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:34 PM Flag
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Different strokes for different folks. Signed, HM. [ Reply | More ]
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lolololol [ Reply | More ]
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op. HM? [ Reply | More ]
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Harpoon mom I assume. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:05 AM Flag
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He is 16 and may be influenced by obnoxious friends at this age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:50 PM Flag
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Intervention or else you'll get UB shrew with ED for DIL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:51 PM Flag
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op. I know right? Lol [ Reply | More ]
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Karma... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:04 AM Flag
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I would have explained to him that this woman was healthy, mentally and physically, while a lot of the women who meet his standards of beauty or not. And I would have told him very briefly about the horror that is anorexia as well as the anguish it is to be or live with someone who is obsessed with their looks and reminddd him of all the things that really matter in life and in a partner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:53 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:02 AM Flag
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Does he get it from his Dad? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:07 AM Flag
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Tell him to shut up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:21 AM Flag
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Are you thin? I agree, different strokes for different folks. But I might have told DS that maybe his cousin likes girls like that. Also it was nice of him to be polite to the fiancée and then vent to you after. He is a good boy, he was talking in a safe place rather than being rude in front of her. He can have whatever thoughts he wants as long as he shares them only to the right company or keeps them to himself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:27 AM Flag
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The above is an excerpt from page 17 of "How Not to Raise Your Teenaged Boy" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:23 AM Flag
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Gay maybe? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:28 AM Flag
[ - ] DH hates my parents. I have been bad at calling them out on their bad behavior. DH is not their son and I don't understand why they can't let it rest that he does not wish to see them, Yet they think we're just the evil ones. If I tell them the truth (that their behavior is often unacceptablr) they get furious and act like we are selfish. This is a huge cause of stress and anxiety for me. 38 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:32 PM Flag
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How far away do they live? Can you visit without DH? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:44 PM Flag
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60 miles away. Visited without DH and last time they came here DH was out, which my mom bitched about. "does he not want to see me?" rather than enjoy her time with the grand kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:47 PM Flag
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Describe the parents' bad behavior? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:45 PM Flag
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Canceling plans, passive aggressive remarks, no respect for family, bad mouthing others, demanding [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:37 PM Flag
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That doesn't seem all that to me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:56 PM Flag
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My mom has major emotional and mental issues that have gotten worse as she's gotten older. Impossible to please, judgmental, insecure, jealous, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:58 PM Flag
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When someone is impossible to please then stop trying to please her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:14 AM Flag
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Lack of respect for family is not bad to you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:59 PM Flag
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Without details it's meaningless. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:02 AM Flag
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this - i agree with the others, not exactly sure "no respect for family" means and bad mouthing others can be incredibly annoying but shut her down move the the conversation to something different, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:05 AM Flag
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Op they make remarks about how small our home is, how it's decorated, how we spend our money, the fact that I work, how much we spend on childcare [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:14 AM Flag
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Really. You must be lovely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:06 AM Flag
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Canceling plans is not a biggie. Passive aggressive is annoying but not a biggie. Almost all parents are demanding. What do you mean by no respect for the family? Who do they bad mouth and in front of whom? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:00 AM Flag
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They badmpouth family, ILs, strangers, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:11 AM Flag
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Canceling plans is not a biggie?? Do you stay friends with people who continually do this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:10 AM Flag
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i would make it very clear to them that if they did not drop this and drop it completely that you will have no choice but to not see them either [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:53 PM Flag
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Thanks, that is what I am thinking. I am anxious about the fallout from that and how they'll try to make me feel guilty but I need to stop being so scared. I'm an adult with her own family, ffs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:46 PM Flag
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deep breaths - maybe seek out a therapist for ways to remove the guilt, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:06 AM Flag
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Need a therapist. My parents should not be allowed to have this effect on me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:02 AM Flag
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I think I've posted that exact thing to you 10 times. Your dh and DC are your primary family now. Act like it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:07 AM Flag
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I know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:10 AM Flag
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Is your husband gracious to them? Welcoming? Does he respect them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:01 AM Flag
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Very [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:57 PM Flag
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Oh my fuck. You again, really? You have to be fake, no one is this lame. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:06 AM Flag
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Nice! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:58 PM Flag
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You're so helpful. There are worse posts. Ignore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:10 AM Flag
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I was very helpful the last 14 times. She gets the same advice every time from everyone, she's scared (I guess) to act on it. But it's ridiculous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:23 AM Flag
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Op here I need more specific advice. Yes I am lame. How do I respond when my angry parents call me to say how they're insulted and when I stick up for DH and my family, they scoff at me and call me ungrateful? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:24 AM Flag
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List a the bad shit they do and tell them they're lucky you still see them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:23 AM Flag
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Yes, I am lame. Saw a therapist who was not very helpful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:08 AM Flag
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Pretty sure you don't want help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:24 AM Flag
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I do want help! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:23 AM Flag
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OP..is it really as one sided as you indicate or are you always walking on egg shells around your DH? There is normally 2 sides to every family dynamic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:09 AM Flag
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Not walking on eggshells. DH was nothing but respectful and accommodating of my family for a long time. Finally he had enough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:12 AM Flag
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And you need to honor that. Stop posting and start acting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:23 AM Flag
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I know but my parents are not rational people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:23 AM Flag
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I disagree. It is usually just really annoying and rude parents who think you owe them everything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:23 AM Flag
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Op bingo sndi have been generous and accommodating to them and they still complain. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:14 AM Flag
[ - ] What is academic surgery? Does this mean teaching classes on surgery to students but not being a practicing doctor? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:26 PM Flag
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No, it means being a surgeon at a teaching hospital (like say Columbia Presbyterian) and simultaneously doing research there as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:41 PM Flag
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np- I'm confused by this bc I've heard that academic doctors don't make that much money, but surgeons I see at Columbia seem to be doing very well. [ Reply | More ]
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they would probably still do better if they were in private practice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:47 PM Flag
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so how much do academic surgeons make? how does it vary by ortho, general, heart, neuro, plastic, breast, colorectal, etc? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:38 PM Flag
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why, are you scoping one out? tell us what he does and we'll tell you where he is in the hierarchy. [ Reply | More ]
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lol my (female) neighbor... just jealous bc I dropped out of premed in undergrad [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:58 PM Flag
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So did tons of people! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:01 AM Flag
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oh, if she is an academic surgeon then i would be impressed. and some of the subspecialties are especially hard for women to get into, so that would be even more impressive. [ Reply | More ]
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You can look at the Rutgers academic surgeons salaries online. About $350. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:49 PM Flag
[ - ] I keep missing my cousins' weddings because I don't want to see my abusive mother there. I fear my cousins take this personally, and I don't want to insult them or make them think I don't care because I do love them. But I know she's going to come up and out her arm around me in front of people and act like we're close and it will sicken me and make me start having a panic attack. But I also feel like it's too big a big burden to place on DH to have him be my "protector" so to speak and stick up for me if she tries to come near me. He says he is up for it, but honestly what could he even say in such a situation? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:24 PM Flag
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Again? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:43 PM Flag
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op: yes, I've posted this before. There is another wedding coming up in September. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:40 PM Flag
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My mother is emotionally abusive. I wish I could offer advice. [ Reply | More ]
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op: thank you, and sorry for your situation as well [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:41 PM Flag
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Your DH should be your protector in this situation - it's not asking too much of a DH. If you don't want to go because of your mother, express your delight at your cousin's marriage but explain why it is too difficult. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:45 PM Flag
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op: I see where you're coming from, but I feel like emailing the bride with some of my drama would be rude. I mean it's her big day, and I don't really want to stress her out with an issue that isn't really her problem [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:43 PM Flag
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Explaining yourself is not making it her problem. You would do this in a letter or phone call to explain why you aren't going so why would that be taking anything away from her big day? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:21 AM Flag
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take a valium before you go, be cordial and then ignore. If she starts making a scene, leave [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:36 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:38 PM Flag
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op: I like this idea but I don't have any valium. I don't think they give it out for situational things like this do they? I mean I would need to have a daily problem with anxiety in order to get a prescription right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:44 PM Flag
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You can totally get a scrip for this occasion from your GP - I prefer klonopin but same idea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:20 AM Flag
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I'd go, avoid, ignore and leave if she is too pushy. You do need to make it clear without being a burden that you can't be at the same table. Is there any way you could tell your mother to keep her distance ahead of time? Or is that just feeding the beast? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:32 AM Flag
[ - ] How do I know if I'm on the spectrum? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:24 PM Flag
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You incessantly post racist comments about Blacks on UB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:25 PM Flag
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Blacks only? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:46 PM Flag
[ - ] How would you react if you heard your teen DS refer to another student as "gaytarded"? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:22 PM Flag
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First find out if he's right. Maybe that kid is gaytarded. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:17 PM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:29 PM Flag
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that makes a lot of sense to me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:19 AM Flag
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Remind him that his uncle is gay and his grandmother is retarded. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:28 PM Flag
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really? bad genes wow [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:18 PM Flag
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instagram and be on news in 24 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:39 PM Flag
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Pretty much anyone with teens hears this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:44 PM Flag
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Dunno. Is a gaytard better or worse than a fucktard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:43 PM Flag
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Same question here. While you're at it, I'd also like to know where the gaytard stands in relation to the good old fashioned retard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:45 PM Flag
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oh the kids these days [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:40 PM Flag
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I've taught my kids that mocking intellectually disabled people and gay people is incredibly insensitive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:52 PM Flag
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But mocking retarded fags is good fun! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:09 AM Flag
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This is my new favorite word. Tell DS I say thanks for introducing me to it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:15 AM Flag
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rotglmfao [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:29 AM Flag
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Tell him to watch what he says and teach him to be sensitive. Make him volunteer and be around people who are less fortunate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:30 AM Flag
[ - ] My sister has an autistic child. She recently approached me and asked if I would be willing to take care of her DS in case something happens to her and her DH. I told her I'd have to think about it. WWYD? I'm leaning towards "no", to be honest. Her kid is really screwed up, and I have 3 dcs of my own. 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:19 PM Flag
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Say no. I would say no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:36 PM Flag
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So you'd let your nephew go to foster care? Does she have any other options? So sad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:40 PM Flag
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wtf is wrong with you? You think she and her DH are both going to die in a car crash like in a movie? You realize you are more likely to die than both of them right? It's a symbolic move, and you are a complete asshole for not immediately saying yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:31 PM Flag
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How do you know they won't die in a car crash??? it happens [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:47 PM Flag
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Name three examples. No, it doesn't happen. Only in movies. Again your chance I dying is far higher than the chance of both of them dying, so you might as well say yes or risk ruining your relationship with your sister for the rest of her life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:46 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:58 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:52 PM Flag
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Wow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:44 PM Flag
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Say no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:47 PM Flag
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op is replying to herself [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:47 PM Flag
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What would her other options be without you? I may get flamed but I do understand your gut reaction here. However, I also think because this is your sister, you have some obligation to make sure her child is being properly cared for, even if that's not by you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:48 PM Flag
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What are the ages of the kids involved, and how severe is his autism? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:49 PM Flag
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op. He is 8. My kids are 5, 3, and 1. His autism is very severe, he is not fully verbal and can be violent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:53 PM Flag
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If he is unsafe, caring for him can mean ensuring he is in best residential facility & visiting on weekends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:04 AM Flag
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Serious answer. I would speak to your sister about what financial provisions she is making - does she have a special needs trust as beneficiary with sufficient life insurance? Then you can be trustee. But she should understand residential care/group home may be in his future (even if she is alive). You should commit to overseeing his care and making sure he has family support/love. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:08 AM Flag
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You're a jerk and remember that Karma's a bitch [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:53 PM Flag
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This. If they both die, they will leave an inheritance and you can get a nanny to raise your nephew or put him in a boarding school for special needs kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:48 PM Flag
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We are in this position exactly. Two small children, one on the way. Nephew is a young teen, profoundly autistic. Do realize that indeed this is a serious commitment, but that it is not necessarily that he would live in your home. Taking care of means finding the best options for him which may include residential care. For her, there is a need to know that her baby has someone looking out for him, realize it is not so different than concern you would have worrying about your little ones should something happen to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:47 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:07 AM Flag
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People like you end up learning the hard way that people need to support each other. You may need some support or help in the future and it will not be there for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:06 AM Flag
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This would be a good time to talk to her about her long term plans for his care. Most likely at some point this boy is going to need to be placed in some kind of care facility no matter what since he will likely outlive all of you without gaining his independence. Tell her if she dies you will of course be his guardian but it would probably mean moving him into such a place sooner rather than later because while you would of course oversee his care and visit him often, it would be too difficult for everyone (including him) to move into your home in the event of that kind of tragedy. Then offer to start researching options with her now, something that will ultimately be much more useful to her than a vague promise to take him in in a scenario that is extremely unlikely to ever happen. GL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:00 AM Flag
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NP: this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:07 AM Flag
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i guess you would not have a problem to let your dcs go to froster care if you and your husband die tomorrow. Hug them tonight and good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:24 AM Flag
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This is really really hard. DO they have money to have him completely cared for? Good life insurance, etc? Tell her she has to make sure this is all set up because otherwise it would be really hard. You would have to have a full time aide, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:31 AM Flag
[ - ] Best vitamins for women? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:16 PM Flag
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fruits and veggies! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:07 PM Flag
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None. Waste of money and potentially harmful. Eat a balanced diet. Read this article http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2013/dec/17/vitamin-supplements-waste-money-scientists [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:19 PM Flag
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MegaFood Women's One Daily (I take the 40+). Vegetarian and loaded with fruits and veggies. Love it, expensive but fabulous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:28 PM Flag
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Or you could eat fruits and veggies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.28.14, 11:45 PM Flag
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Oh shut up. Most adults don't get enough - nothing wrong with vitamins. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.29.14, 12:11 AM Flag
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