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[ - ] I LOVE LOVE LOVE this guy! John Chambers, CEO of CISCO: "40% of US companies will disappear (world's global transition)". 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Take it to wallstreetoasis [ Reply | More ]
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Not looking for a job in finance. But thank you! [ Reply | More ]
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Why? [ Reply | More ]
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TONS of shit we work on in USA can be done better, cheaper, abroad. And a ton of dislocation from internet has still to work its way through within USA: Best Buy still exists, for example. [ Reply | More ]
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Best Buy might be the new version of "tower records". [ Reply | More ]
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do you think that means there will be 40% fewer companies? no, it is industry changes, not a reduction of them. [ Reply | More ]
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It means New York is over. [ Reply | More ]
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^jk [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Bernie supporters are so whiny and annoying. Sorry your guy isn't going to be the likely nominee! Get over it and support Hillary so Trump doesn't win!! 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Hillary stands for everything I despise about this country. [ Reply | More ]
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wow! *eye roll* [ Reply | More ]
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whats that? you despise working hard and playing the game and being successful? are you poor/unsuccessful and jealous? i dont get this comment. do you hate women's rights? [ Reply | More ]
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Hillary is all for women huh? Ask the women her husband raped. [ Reply | More ]
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ZZZzzzzzzzzzzz [ Reply | More ]
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You stand for everything I despise about women. [ Reply | More ]
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I'll vote for Trump, but I would have voted for Bernie. USA had enough with the Bushes and the Clintons. [ Reply | More ]
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Trump is the complete opposite of everything Bernie stands for. So why are you voting for trump? [ Reply | More ]
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not all trump voters are low IQ but here's one. [ Reply | More ]
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The Clintons have done such a HORRIBLE job, not.... [ Reply | More ]
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this is so dumb, i hope oyu see that. "i am sick of seeing this same person in power, despite their vast experience, so i am going to vote for 2 unwualified buffoons with entirely different platforms!" you are so fucking stupid, please dont procreate. [ Reply | More ]
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Debbie Wasserman Schultz, is that you? [ Reply | More ]
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Trump is what this country needs. [ Reply | More ]
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it's good entertainment. like watching idiots applying to college. [ Reply | More ]
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I'll see you laughing when he is our next president [ Reply | More ]
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yeah, why don't you hold your breath on that one? how is he gonna get the requisite delegates? how? [ Reply | More ]
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I'm so sick of hearing about these stupid emails. They should investigate EVERYONE to see if they use their private email server. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I don't like going to people's houses for a casual dinner party. Here's why: the women are always expected to help clean or wash up or serve. While the men sit and have interesting conversations. I'm not a snob who I hang out with so not all of the wives in our couples' friends are as educated as me. Or have a career like mine. But I find myself fuming over this dinner-party dynamic. Anyone else? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:43 PM Flag
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You sound like a snob. Most casual parties I go to, both hosts clean up/cook or have it delivered. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:45 PM Flag
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Most of the casual dinner parties I go to are catered and they have someone to clean up. Where do you live? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:46 PM Flag
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I don't host big dinner parties - we live in a smallish NYC apartment. But when we have another family or couple over for dinner, usually they help clear to the kitchen (if they don't offer, I don't ask), then DH and I clean up after they are gone. We're not going to waste wine & conversation time on housekeeping. [ Reply | More ]
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Similar. Clean up happens after everyone leaves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:51 PM Flag
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I haven't noticed that dynamic. DH and I always decline help and clean up after everyone leaves, and I typically notice the same at others' homes. [ Reply | More ]
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That's not what I encounter. Usually, everyone helps take things to the kitchen and the hosts finish up after everyone leaves. [ Reply | More ]
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This dynamic only exists in my dh's friends circle. They are Indian and the women are like handmaids to their dhs. It actually sickens me. [ Reply | More ]
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^^^Example: The women stay in the kitchen freshly frying puris or making rotis and running back and forth from the kitchen while serving the men as soon as the puri comes out of the oil. The men will say "I'll have more dal, more this, more that" and the women run around them. Only after the men are done and the women have cleared the table do the women eat whatever cold food is left while feeding their dc too. [ Reply | More ]
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"educated as me"? lmao. if you were smart, you'd know this has been a thing with all sorts of women, including dorothy parker, since the beginning of civilization. but you're just an idiot so no, you wouldn't know that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:48 PM Flag
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so take one or trips into the kitchen w dirty dishes, then go join the men. [ Reply | More ]
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No. [ Reply | More ]
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I have not experienced this at dinner parties, and you do sound like a snob with the less educated comment. [ Reply | More ]
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You are not one of the guys. Be a a wife and stop thinking you are better than everyone else. [ Reply | More ]
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Really do you think the men would want to hanging about? No not really [ Reply | More ]
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Flyover mom? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] If you plan a vacation with a friend two months in advance and then cancel two weeks before, should you still pay your portion of hotel so friend can go alone? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:40 PM Flag
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Yes, I would. [ Reply | More ]
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Why are you canceling? Is airfare involved? Other commitments? Generally, I'd pay for it. [ Reply | More ]
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My initial gut reaction is yes, you should...but I feel like we need a lot more details on this. [ Reply | More ]
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Of course [ Reply | More ]
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Or if it's possible for your friend to change rooms, the difference between your friend's portion of a shared room and a single room, so your friend doesn't pay more than originally asked. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] i'm watching the documentary "the champions" about pit bulls. all these pit bull lovers are so damn obviously low IQ. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I have a pit bull. Mix, though. [ Reply | More ]
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neutered, i hope. [ Reply | More ]
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Of course [ Reply | More ]
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at least you get a pass! [ Reply | More ]
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Pit bulls are a ghetto status symbol [ Reply | More ]
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Yes they are. They fight them. They get free animals from Craigslist and use them as bait. It's a sick culture. [ Reply | More ]
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Why are both usually short stocky and brown? [ Reply | More ]
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no, plenty of pale pit bull idiots. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Are you close with your brother(s)? What is your relationship like? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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We're a year and 6 days apart. Live 3.5 hours away, see each other once every 2-3 years. I told him that he and I compete for my mom's visits (Grandma, to our dcs) like "two hungry dogs fighting over a very small scrap". [ Reply | More ]
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No, unfortunately. We were close as kids, but he married a woman who is really not good at relating to other women and seemingly has no interest in family relationships. She wants very little to do with his family of origin. So, we almost never see him or their DC. [ Reply | More ]
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No. We get along and care for each other, but we're very different and live on opposite sides of the country. I don't feel like we know each other very well. We're less than two years apart. [ Reply | More ]
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Seven years apart and very different in terms of interests and beliefs. We love each but don't confide. [ Reply | More ]
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decent relationship with one by text, Facebook etc. Not so great with the other one. I will probably never see him again in this lifetime. [ Reply | More ]
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Nope. He never calls me back. That punk, I changed his diaper FFS. [ Reply | More ]
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Not close. We are 14 months apart. We're very different and we've only drifted apart since I had kids and he is child-free by choice. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] How much would you pay for an apartment like this one? Would you live here (taking into account looks, location, price, etc)? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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it already sold. why do you care? [ Reply | More ]
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reasons [ Reply | More ]
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I don't really care for it and I have no idea the square footage or maintenance [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:40 PM Flag
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A hundred dollars. No, a hundred million dollars. [ Reply | More ]
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Someone paid 6mm for it and wanted to live there. [ Reply | More ]
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^^^what anyone else thinks is at this point irrelevant [ Reply | More ]
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Very nice-looking apartment, but I don't know the market in that neighborhood. Did you already buy it and are worried you got hosed? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Don't flame me or my post for being a 1st world problem. I have a Cartier tank watch that's nearly 20 years old - mostly wear a Swiss Army or Swatch watch. Would love to change band on Cartier from the default stainless steel to leather. Have any of you done this? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:28 PM Flag
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sure, what is the problem? [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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What does it matter if anyone here has done it? Just do it. [ Reply | More ]
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Who wears watches anymore? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I dread the long weekend with family. I wish I had work every day. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:27 PM Flag
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why? do the kids drive you crazy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:28 PM Flag
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Mostly dh and we have no plans. [ Reply | More ]
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Same here. When was your last vacation, and how did it go? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:29 PM Flag
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Almost a year ago we went to a beach for 5 days and it was not too fun. Dh is not very nice. [ Reply | More ]
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Me too. Am leaving town to visit a childhood friend, solo. [ Reply | More ]
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Me either with dh and his crazy mother. SILs are nice though. -Rehab mom [ Reply | More ]
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Wow, why? I mean, I enjoy my job--OK, right now not so much because a coworker is making a turf grab--but I can't wait to get out of town this weekend. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Everyone I know who supports Trump is either very young, or very uneducated and poor. These are not groups that usually vote in large numbers. So who is voting for the guy? 32 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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You don't know a representative sample of his voters. Many highly educated moms are voting for Trump. [ Reply | More ]
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What unifies all Trump voters is common sense. We are very diverse in terms of race, religion, economic level. Come to a few of our rallies and you will be surprised [ Reply | More ]
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By "highly educated", can we assume you mean a BA from state u? I think what unifies you is racism and xenophobia [ Reply | More ]
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np gee, that wasn't a classist comment or anything. pot meet kettle [ Reply | More ]
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So I'm right? [ Reply | More ]
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That would be no, Socrates [ Reply | More ]
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lololol [ Reply | More ]
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That does not seem to be the case on UB. [ Reply | More ]
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but not very enlightened or thoughtful perhaps [ Reply | More ]
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Many of your friends are probably voting, but not telling you. Also, the poor and young are not insignificant groups. [ Reply | More ]
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True. And to be fair, Trump's voters are the working poor. The permanent welfare class votes for hillary [ Reply | More ]
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^the youth vote carried Obama [ Reply | More ]
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no it didn't, the minority and women vote carried him. the youth never carry anyone. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: True. I don't think they are insignificant. But they usually don't win you an election on their own. Among my close friends most of them openly support other candidates. But it's certainly possible that some are voting for him, of course. I just haven't encountered that so far. [ Reply | More ]
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Everyone I know who supports Trump is Asian, except for one white guy I know who does happen to be very educated. [ Reply | More ]
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you must live in TX [ Reply | More ]
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No, NYC. [ Reply | More ]
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White CPA, 62 with masters. [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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Karl Marx would describe it as follows. The proletariat vote Trump. The lumpen proletariat vote Hillary [ Reply | More ]
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And the parasitic rentier class all vote Hillary [ Reply | More ]
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The only young people voting for Trump are angry,white homo-phobe frat bros. [ Reply | More ]
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I think there is a neckbeard constituency. [ Reply | More ]
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Around me it's older neighbors, but I don't live in a suburb where there are too many young/uneducated/poor [ Reply | More ]
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Critical thinking is not your strong suit, is it? [ Reply | More ]
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I don't know anyone who says it out loud, but I can think of several people I know who I bet vote for him. [ Reply | More ]
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np. That's how I know people are for Trump. They are keeping their mouths shut because they don't want to be attacked. They'll vote in November. We'll have to see how it all works out. [ Reply | More ]
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Just be honest - do you get out of NYC often? [ Reply | More ]
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You sound uneducated. People from all walks of life are voting for Trump. Pay attention. [ Reply | More ]
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we were at a brunch in Westport last weekend, and almost everyone around the table was going to vote for him - finance guys, doctors, SAHM, so a variety of backgrounds. No one uneducated or poor. [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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actually the stats on his supporters show that they are upper middle class white males (per 538/nate silver). the very poor have been voting for bernie and hillary this time, surprisingly. (full disclosure: i'm a hillary voter) [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Is the discrimination against South Asians as bad as against East Asians in admissions process? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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No not as great [ Reply | More ]
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Part of the reason is that East asians who liv in Asia all apply for spaces at HYP. So HYP has millions of East Asians to choose from but south asians who live in South Asia do not apply to hyp [ Reply | More ]
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Indra Nooyi, Yale Alum. Fareed Zakaria, Yale Alum. Siddhartha Mukherjee, Harvard Alum. [ Reply | More ]
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there is no god damn discrimination, when will you realize that being a robot on a test does not make for an interesting candidacy - do something interesting for god's sake and OFFER something as part of your application and THEN we can talk. Discrimination ... you have NO idea what discrimination really is. [ Reply | More ]
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And you do? You know what discrimination really is? [ Reply | More ]
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You're saying Indians don't know discrimination? Have you been to India? Have you heard of the caste system? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Does anyone have a DC at Brooklyn Tech? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I went there myself. [ Reply | More ]
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Np. Me too! '06 [ Reply | More ]
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Same here, ask away. [ Reply | More ]
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Whoa, 3 of us !? [ Reply | More ]
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Make that 4. Class of '96. LOVED the school. [ Reply | More ]
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No, but I know two teachers there. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] "The Secret Shame of Middle-Class Americans. Nearly half of Americans would have trouble finding $400 to pay for an emergency. I’m one of them." Sorry, but if you don't even have liquid say, $25k, you aren't middle class!!! 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I guess only the 2% are the middle class then... [ Reply | More ]
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God I hate Chelsea clinton for saying money does not matter [ Reply | More ]
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If Hillary Clinton doesn’t like guns, she should immediately order the armed Secret Service detail that has guarded her 24 hours a day, 356 days a year since 1992 to destroy their weapons and henceforth be unarmed at all times. Oh, wait… I forgot! Gun control is about disarming stupid, worthless little people like you and me. Important feminist lawyers from Yale who are under investigation by the FBI for mishandling classified material and take $675,000 for a speech at Goldman Sachs and get their daughters $1.5 million no-show jobs at NBC will always have armed protection… because they’re TT and flyovr moms like me do not deserve protection [ Reply | More ]
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And when mommy gifts you a twelve million dollar apartment of course you can turn around and laugh at flyover moms [ Reply | More ]
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I agree, Bernie supports right to own guns. Vote bern [ Reply | More ]
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They would not need guns if there were no guns in the USA stupid. [ Reply | More ]
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So being in favor of reasonable restrictions on the purchase of guns (background checks, waiting periods, universal registration of sales, etc.) = taking everyone's guns away? What do you have to hide that you are so opposed to such measures? [ Reply | More ]
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ooh, I like this. [ Reply | More ]
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NP. That's not actually what she said. She clearly meant that she didn't care about money as a metric of career success, in the context of talking about why she left finance to work for her parents' foundation. "It is frustrating, because who wants to grow up and follow their parents?" admits Chelsea. "I've tried really hard to care about things that were very different from my parents. I was curious if I could care about [money] on some fundamental level, and I couldn't. That wasn't the metric of success that I wanted in my life. I've talked about this to my friends who are doctors and whose parents are doctors, or who are lawyers and their parents are lawyers. It's a funny thing to realize I feel called to this work both as a daughter—proudly as a daughter—and also as someone who believes that I have contributions to make." [ Reply | More ]
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what kind of contributions is she making? [ Reply | More ]
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I have no idea. She's a private individual working for a nonprofit, and I'm not a stalker. What kind of "contributions" are you making? [ Reply | More ]
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I am not proselytizing to people in a sanctimonious way. I guess you are. [ Reply | More ]
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You don't seem to understand the meaning of the words "proselytizing" or "sanctimonious." I'm not pushing any agenda, merely pointing out that you have misinterpreted the quote to which you are referring and seem to have some sort of chip on your shoulder about Chelsea Clinton, who I assume is a stranger to you and about whom you know almost nothing (given that she's not a public figure). [ Reply | More ]
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LOL. Not sure you understand what the middle class is today, sweetie. [ Reply | More ]
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It's always meant the same thing. Like fat people do with vanity sizing, this is about people not being able to accept that they are POOR. Being middle class isn't a state of mind, but it has to be reflected on the household balance sheet. [ Reply | More ]
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People who are hand to mouth are POOR, they aren't middle class! [ Reply | More ]
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is The Atlantic right or left leaning? Or middle of the road? [ Reply | More ]
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Middle [ Reply | More ]
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I give the guy credit for sharing his situation, which unfortunately is shared by many. Read the article and it states people are more willing to share sex problems than money problems. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't think he's talking about a minority of people. How many people do you know whom you suspect or know are hiding money problems? More than most would suspect [ Reply | More ]
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Half of USA is financially impotent [ Reply | More ]
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I found this article very annoying. His wife chose not to work and they chose to send their kids to private school. Those choices are the reason they don't have any money. People always want to hide behind "we wanted to give our kids the best of everything" as though that is a selfless choice, when in fact it is the opposite. Promoting the interests of your kids at the expense of your parents and, potentially, your creditors, is hardly a noble or selfless act. [ Reply | More ]
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You are exactly right. I have 0 pity for those who don't have any $$$ because of wasting more than they should on housing as well. People have been making dumb financial decisions in USA since mass availability of credit showed up in the 80s. [ Reply | More ]
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"the interests of your kids at the expense of your parents" The interest of the kids are always first, then parents, then very far away: grandparents. It's always been this way. [ Reply | More ]
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I understand that people do this, but to adopt this attitude of noble self sacrifice is ridiculous. Parents are the most selfish people on earth because most would do anything they could to promote their own kids' interest, no matter what the cost to other people. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Trying to figure out if it's just me or not. I'm a WOHM with 2 DCs, ages 5 and 2. Live in NYC and have a fairly demanding job in finance. DS helps with kids and home stuff but overall I would say that 65% of all home and kid related stuff falls to me. I feel like I'm just trying to make it through one week before thinking about the next. DS sent me a To Do list the other day (of things for both of us to do) which included things like planning a party at the end of the summer and planning our visitor schedule for our summer house. I went crazy when I saw that, I am just trying to survive 1 week at a time. Are others in my situation equally overwhelmed, or am I just not able to handle it all? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:20 PM Flag
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OP - Sorry, meant DH not DS. [ Reply | More ]
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You have a lot on your plate. Why don't you send him a to-do list of things he can do to help you out? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:21 PM Flag
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Np: the OP said the list was for both of them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:24 PM Flag
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OP: Yes it was for both us but I just don't want to do that kind of stuff right now. What little downtime I do have, I'd prefer to use it to read, watch tv, sleep or work out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:28 PM Flag
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so tell him you don't want to do it. if he wants a party he can do the work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:38 PM Flag
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OR: I know, I'm just saying that if they are in the practice of sending to-do lists, and OP is overwhelmed, she can send him a list of things to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:30 PM Flag
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sounds like you need a wife [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:28 PM Flag
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This. I don't know how families do it where both parents WOHM in demanding jobs. I work half time (with DH in a demanding job) and we just keep all the balls in the air. [ Reply | More ]
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write back - great list! I have zero room on my plate but since you put the list together I bet you do so go for it! or maybe a simple - "go for it!" will do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:33 PM Flag
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My guess is that he actually thought that writing down all the to-dos would help. Sorry you're so stressed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:36 PM Flag
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this. it woudl help me, but not everybody is that way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:38 PM Flag
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this is my take as well. At least he seems organized, if not exactly tactful in the delivery. [ Reply | More ]
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sounds pretty typical. I do most of the work, organization, and planning in our family. DH is nice to me and great with the kids, but in general he doesn't seem to think it's his job to help where he can. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:44 PM Flag
[ - ] I've narrowed it down to two names for baby girl due in November: Miranda or Delia. Which one? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Miranda [ Reply | More ]
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+ [ Reply | More ]
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Della is a weird name. Is it even a first name? Isn't it one of those two part last names? Like Von as in Von Trapp. Della Rosa or Della Strada. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:23 PM Flag
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Delia. Like Cordelia. I know one down the street from me, she's at college on a full academic ride. Nice girl. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:24 PM Flag
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Oh, hm. I thought it was Deh-lia not Dee-lia [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:27 PM Flag
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Yep, 2nd pronunciation. She has a twin named Charlotte. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:29 PM Flag
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Delilah [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:24 PM Flag
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I love Delia. Though I prefer as a nn for Cordelia. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:28 PM Flag
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Miranda is so SATC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:29 PM Flag
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I was thinking more Miranda Lambert [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:31 PM Flag
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You have the right to remain silent [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:36 PM Flag
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NP: neither of these references is relevant to a child born in 2016. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:38 PM Flag
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you better start over, both terrible choices [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:35 PM Flag
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np I think they're both lovely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:41 PM Flag
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Prefer Dalia over Delia. Miranda is ok. No one is going to remember SATC. [ Reply | More ]
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miranda [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:45 PM Flag
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I think of Miranda Kerr [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:49 PM Flag
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I like Delia. [ Reply | More ]
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Neither [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:52 PM Flag
[ - ] I am very frustrated with my DS's school. I feel like his needs are always put on the back burner because he's "easy" while everyone caters to the kids with some sort of issue. I know this is probably a good problem to have, but does anyone have any advice? 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:10 PM Flag
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squeaky wheel [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:14 PM Flag
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I know. I've been squeaking some over the issue that's currently annoying me (first time I've ever requested anything), but I'm trying not to cross the line into insane annoying parent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:17 PM Flag
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My child is in the same position at school. Occasionally, I speak to the teacher about giving my DS some attention, but I am definitely frustrated that he hasn't gotten the attention he deserves because he is "good." Teachers-any advice? [ Reply | More ]
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I have the same problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:18 PM Flag
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How old is he and what is the attention you are hoping for? How many times have you met in person with his teacher? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:19 PM Flag
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He's 9. I've met with his current teacher around 4 times this year (if you mean something that's more than "hey how are you" in the morning). I am really upset with his class placement for next year, not because of the teacher involved but because of some relationships among the kids. I requested a move, had a meeting with the principal, and was shut down. Private school btw, if it matters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:21 PM Flag
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^^Basically I feel like the classroom assignments next year were carefully crafted to address certain students, and my kid was just slotted wherever, and where he ended up is not going to be good for and may actually harm him socially and possibly academically. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:23 PM Flag
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Ah sorry. I thought you were having issues with his teacher because she wasn't giving him extra work or the like. How were you shot down? Can you explain it again in a letter -- thanking principal for the meeting and then explaining the request (as if you hadn't been turned down already) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:30 PM Flag
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^uku can say, as we discussed, we would like to request...and have both parents sign [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:32 PM Flag
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I just emailed her and requested that, if anyone has asked to switch classrooms the other way, he be swapped out for that kid. I'm trying to decide how much I want to escalate this. On the one hand, I don't want to be a PITA and damage my relationship with the school over something that may turn out to be no big deal. On the other hand, my gut is telling me it is a problem, and I need to advocate for my kid. Ugh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:37 PM Flag
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What is it you're worried is going to happen? Is there a bully in the class or something? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:43 PM Flag
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NP: That sucks--I also have an "easy" kid in private and every year I was annoyed that this one awful kid was in her class. Then one day a teacher casually mentioned what a good influence my DD was on the other DC and I went straight to the head of lower school and told them to never, ever put her with that kid again--she's not there to mollify some problem case. What did she stand to gain from that, over and over again? They listened. [ Reply | More ]
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Yeah, I think there's some of that going on here. It was mentioned that this was a "leadership opportunity" for him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:45 PM Flag
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Go have a meeting with the head of the lower school (or whichever one he's in). In my experience, if you are a non-lunatic, they listen to you. I always start off with a compliment about the school, which seems obvious but it also helps. Good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:51 PM Flag
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Is this public or private? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:20 PM Flag
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Private. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:24 PM Flag
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What kind of attention is he needing and not getting? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:25 PM Flag
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It's little things mostly, except for the one big thing I wrote about above. I'd just like to get the feeling that they are considering his needs with the same amount of attention they devote to the other students. [ Reply | More ]
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np -- I have a DD who is also "good" so I get it. But your DC can't be the only "good" one right? Who get put wherever because they'll do fine anywhere. What you described sounds like typical class placement -- the unruly kids get divided up so no one teacher has to deal with all of them, the ones with special needs similarly, and everyone else is slotted in randomly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:39 PM Flag
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I totally get this, but the way it broke down is really terrible for him socially. It's not about which class has more problem kids, it's about not having any friends in his class except for one who seems to bring out the absolute worst in him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:47 PM Flag
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Ok, I don't think it's unreasonable to ask that two kids be separated if they rile each other up. I wouldn't press on the no-friends part though. I know my school specifically tries to break up friend groups every year so that kids get to know others and cliques don't form. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:50 PM Flag
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There's only one full classroom each grade (very very small school) - they're doing mixed grades next year, which precipitated the breakup. Whole other issue. [ Reply | More ]
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I have one who is a "good kid" like this, and one who is more of a challenge. I definitely have had those thoughts about my good one also. She seems to get less thought and direct consideration in some ways than my more difficult child. BUT I also see how to a certain extent that is what makes the most sense. The more complicated kids are a bigger disruption. They need to deal with that in a variety of ways. And sorting those kids out more carefully is one of them if you want a peaceful classroom. I feel like it's unfair to my dd, but also see the praticality of it for the group as a whole. No real advice. Just, I relate to you and also here are some rambling thoughts. Haha. [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks. I guess there's always the year after, and it may turn out to be fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:48 PM Flag
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Yes, this has happened with us both at school and at home, where we expend about 80 percent of time, energy and money on our SN DC while the other one sort of just seems to make his way through life unaided. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:45 PM Flag
[ - ] Totally clueless here tech wise; what does a fit bit do? How will it help a high school athlete(runner) and is it worth 250.00? Thanks to anyone willing to explain.h 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I'd get a garmin for a runner. It does things like map your runs, records and shows you in real time your pace and mile splits, measure your heart rate (if you use a heart rate monitor), measure elevation changes, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:12 PM Flag
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I have never heard of this beast. Are they expensive? Why does everyone say fit it I stead. Thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:26 PM Flag
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They're not cheap, but they have a range of models at different price points. I think they are comparable in price to the fitbit. The fitbit is really for people who are trying to get more active, not for athletes who want a training tool. If you really want to go down the rabbit hole on these types of things, go to dcrainmaker.com and read his reviews. But he gets really into the weeds. [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you - down the hole I go.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:35 PM Flag
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Wow. You weren't kidding! I have a headache [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:51 PM Flag
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A fit bit is a fancy pedometer (it counts steps). It can push you to be more active because you start tracking how many steps you take per day, but it's not really geared for running. DH loves it though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:20 PM Flag
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Is your dh a runner? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:27 PM Flag
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No, ex-runner (now bad knee). He likes it because it motivates him to be active. He's a forty-something office worker though, not sure it would good for a high school athlete who is already active. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:33 PM Flag
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It tracks activity levels, steps, and calories burned. There are different models. Mine was only about $125 and I got a gift card from Target. I kind of wonder if an active athlete even needs it, but I suppose it can help him hit target goals. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:24 PM Flag
[ - ] That nanny post is exactly the reason why I do not apply for the 50+ hour a week nanny job. Nothing good fumes from working that many hours. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:06 PM Flag
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It's making me realize what a good babysitter I am, and also how lucky I am to work for awesome parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:09 PM Flag
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Me too, but I only work at the most 45 hours a week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:10 PM Flag
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*comes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:09 PM Flag
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And people that need that many hours have a revolving door. I knew a family that Had 9 nannies and the oldest was four. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:13 PM Flag
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Seems like it would be much more rational to hire 2 nannies each working 25 hours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:17 PM Flag
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Lawsuit mom. I have 2 now. 35 hrs and 10 hours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:23 PM Flag
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Do you work? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:26 PM Flag
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Yes. Late 2 days a week and and dh sometimes travels. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:38 PM Flag
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np: 50 hours is pretty standard IMO - 8-6 or similar. more than 50 hours is not common at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.25.16, 04:40 PM Flag
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I know it's common but nothing good comes from working that many hours. [ Reply | More ]
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