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General Topics 12.18.14, 06:15 PM Flag
[ - ] He's not that into me? First date was great, he put me in an Uber home. Hugs at greeting and leaving. He texted to make sure I got home and asked for second date. He wanted to text chat over weekend but I kept it minimal. Second date went just as great, we walked to the subway and went our individual way. Hug at greeting, awkward 3 pecks on lip at leaving. No word from him. He's leaving for 2wk vacation tomorrow. What would make of this? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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Wait it out. Go on other dates for now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:15 PM Flag
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Just not that into you. If a guy likes you, he will want to give you more than 3 pecks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:16 PM Flag
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Not interested. Gay. Super nervous. One of these three. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:17 PM Flag
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Move on. If he wants you he will reach out to you. If not, don't trouble yourself. Would be a waste of time. We will NEVER KNOW what men think until we walk a mile in their shoes, which we cannot do, so forget about it and live as if he did not exist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:19 PM Flag
[ - ] participating in the class gift for the teacher. giving generously to the class pool (but the teacher will not know who gives what $ wise). Do I need to also give a separate gift> We were going to give a card. thanks 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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I hate pooling money. Last year a colleague's dad died and the office kicked in $$$$$ to help with expenses memorial reception (that the widow could not really afford) . I put in a hundred dollars, the total amount collected from 15 people ( who all signed card) was about $180. Thank you for letting me vent here, LOL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:18 PM Flag
[ - ] HYP humanities major here. I have never worked and my life is great. Any questions? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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What will you do if the "world ends"? What would you be able to do to survive? What skills do you have? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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I'll admit I have very few practical skills. But if the world ends, then I don't want to survive. [ Reply | More ]
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Okay, suppose DH kicks the bucket? Or leaves you for a yoga instructor? (I was also an Ivy humanities major but I could support myself without a DH if necessary.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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DH has a large life insurance policy. My family is very well off also. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:14 PM Flag
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So really the whole HYP humanities thing isn't relevant, right? Your family has money, you've never wondered how you will support yourself. Believe me, I think that's great and I wish I had that situation. But you're a little unique up there in your 1% land. Your life is great because you hit the lottery at birth, not because you did anything special. [ Reply | More ]
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True, I have had a lot of freedom to do what I've wanted in life and am very thankful for that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:20 PM Flag
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Ok at least you're honest. Well, we all live in a way suitable to us. If this works for you, and I don't have to feed and clothe you, how you live is none of my business, unless you are on public assistance, in which case I don't like you. [ Reply | More ]
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HYP humanities major here too. I have always worked in a field I love. I have amazing kids, I still love and desire my dh and my life is great. Any questions? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:12 PM Flag
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What job / what field? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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You never worked? Not even an internship? Did you get married at 22? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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married at 27; went into phd program directly after college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:15 PM Flag
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Do you feel judgement from your parents or your former classmates? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:14 PM Flag
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None whatsoever from my parents; all they want is for me to be happy and they love their grandchildren. I'll admit I have lost touch with several classmates who are now in professional jobs. But I wouldn't say anyone has been openly judgmental toward me. [ Reply | More ]
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"openly" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Haven't been on in days - have we already discussed the cancelling of "The Interview" and how Sony backed down? Can you believe this? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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Someone was talking about it at work today and I overheard. I think we should do what Putin did with the Chechens. Problems over. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:08 PM Flag
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It wasn't sony who backed down-- it was the movie theatres who didn't want want that risk. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Sony backed down as they don't want any more of their emails hacked... and this whole terrorism thing is the reason they cancelled. It wasn't the movie theatres. http://www.cnet.com/news/sony-cancels-the-interview-release/ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:14 PM Flag
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NP: no, it was Sony. read the news lady. [ Reply | More ]
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:16 PM Flag
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thanks lady. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:18 PM Flag
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you're an idiot. it was Sony. their emails have been hacked, staff seen as the racist, rude idiots they are. They don't want anymore going out. Now they have a threat of more hacking and they can blame it on "terrorists" and look like they're protecting theatre goers. Oh PLease. What a sad day for our freedom of speech in this country. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:18 PM Flag
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honestly, very poor choice for the theatre goers since sony will use it to start to cut them out. that was a moment of biting off your nose to spite your face. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:12 PM Flag
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they should just put it up on yourtube or pay per view. see how many people will watch it. I think this is all a promo stunt [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:14 PM Flag
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oh it will get on the Internet and be seen by more people now than if it were actually released. watch. The DVD will get out... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:19 PM Flag
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it wasn't the theatre goers you moron. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:18 PM Flag
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A small part of me thinks this is part of a "Wag the Dog" style marketing stunt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:17 PM Flag
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i think they should have never done the movie to begin with - and after the 4 major movie theaters said they woudl not play it, seems like a smart move on their part [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:20 PM Flag
[ - ] can anyone link the post about the ticket to Europe? didn't see it, but from what i gather, parents gave kid money, he used it to buy tickets to europe for himself and three of his friends? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:04 PM Flag
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It's the first in most popular. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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ah ok thx [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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huh, not really that interesting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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It was a birthday gift. Parents didn't say here's 6k what do you want. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Do I need to get my therapist a Christmas gift? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:03 PM Flag
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no [ Reply | More ]
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no, and really probably shouldn't [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:04 PM Flag
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ok - I'm NOT [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:08 PM Flag
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Gifts move DOWN the chain, not up. You give something to your assistant, but not your boss. Your therapist is in the position of authority; you owe no gift. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:04 PM Flag
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I know this for the office, but wasn't sure about therapist. This is my first one. I was just thinking a DD gift card. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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Disagree that a therapist has any sort of authority over his/her client. Nonetheless, its not really appropriate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:15 PM Flag
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No one OWES anyone any gift ever....and anyone CAN give a gift to whomever they want. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:17 PM Flag
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No. I presume you pay her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:05 PM Flag
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yes, insurance [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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Then no. Possibly a card if you're pleased. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:08 PM Flag
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Depends - have you been with him a while, how often do you go there, will you continue to go there for a while [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:05 PM Flag
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1x per week, & just started in the summer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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I would, if you like him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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OP - majority wins, no gift [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:09 PM Flag
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no. Signed psychiatrist mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:09 PM Flag
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but a card would be nice :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:09 PM Flag
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Just a regular holiday card? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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yes...thank you for your help you make my life easier bla bla bla [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:15 PM Flag
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thx :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:16 PM Flag
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this thought would have never even occurred to me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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I did once, and it turned out to be sorta embarrassing for me so I never have again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:15 PM Flag
[ - ] Scene in the Suburbs: A ranking of suburban town employees and officials, from most to least powerful: 1)School Secretary 2)Planning Board Chairperson 3)Police Chief 4)Recreation Director 5)Crossing Guard 6)Mayor. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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In what town are all these scenes occurring? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:05 PM Flag
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Scenes from the most boring movie ever. [ Reply | More ]
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I think you are worried overly much about what happens in school and have a totally skewed power of perception. Your idiocy or your obsession with school issues is affecting your perceptions. Get help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:10 PM Flag
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more importantly, it's like five midgets fighting over who's the tallest. guess what, nobody. nobody. [ Reply | More ]
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Always always always suck up to the school secretary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Can you wear open toed shoes this time of year? They are booties and really fun and look great with this dress. Going to DH's office cocktail party, and won't be able to wear tights. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:58 PM Flag
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I have seen people do this often, but i personally dislike the look. [ Reply | More ]
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Are you in California? [ Reply | More ]
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I don't wear open toed shoes in winter but I see a lot of people who do for evening attire. It's fine. [ Reply | More ]
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you are going to be indoors. I don't see why not [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:01 PM Flag
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You're allowed out for a party, you're free to pick a pretty outfit and whatever shoes and jewelry you want, and you'll be eating real food and store-bought liquor. Wear them and be happy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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Op: thank you - i rarely dress up, bought them a few months ago and never really wore them and really want to - wasn't sure if i could pull it off. Thanks! :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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No problem, Sugar. Now enjoy your party. [ Reply | More ]
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do they let you have a party in there, IM? [ Reply | More ]
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I've seen lots of strappy sandals at new year's parties. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:03 PM Flag
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It's very fashion forward to wear peep-toes with tights if they're in contrasting colours. [ Reply | More ]
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everything fashion forward isn't attractive. I think that look is hideous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:13 PM Flag
[ - ] S/O Hunter Round 2 post since I saw some exclamation marks about "nap time for 4 year old": My son is in K and still naps if he has a chance to do it after coming home from school and/or weekends. I tried to re-schedule him for early evening bed time but it would not work - still napping during the day is his natural preference. Plus I would see him much less if he would be in bed at 7pm. I was napping until I was almost 8 year old and it was considered a norm. Where I grew up majority of kids have "nap" time or quite time at least until 7 year old when secondary eduction would begin. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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csb [ Reply | More ]
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ok I agree. kids should nap as long as they can. brain cells grow during sleep cycles. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: That was the philosophy back in my old country along with some other things like hot meal during the day, etc. But it's all different in USA so I had to adjust my expectations. [ Reply | More ]
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you can do what you can do. American kid's education, behavior and development are not exactly the example for the world. (With exceptions of course) [ Reply | More ]
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I wish my kid would have taken naps. She dropped them early. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:55 PM Flag
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OP: yeah, that totally depends on the kid. On the other hand, my son is early riser (b/w 6-7am no matter what) so absence of nap time might turn out to be a blessing for some people. :) [ Reply | More ]
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My 4yo naps and probably will do what your DC does (nap after school in K), also because we like to have some time together at night to talk about the day. But it is not a disaster if he occasionally has to miss his nap, as he will for his R2 assessment. I think people were responding more to the op's idea that the world (or at least hunter) should revolve around her dc's nap schedule. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:56 PM Flag
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I agree that occasional slip is ok but some kids simply become less alert/unmanageable/ tantrum if their schedule is interrupted. My son would become very crancky and would definetly have a hard time at 4. He grown a lot over the year but still had a hard time to adjust to no nap at K. I think OP in that post was just ranting and I totally understand her. [ Reply | More ]
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I get it, it's not the most ideal time for my DC either, but she seemed seriously indignant to the point of thinking they were singling out her DC. [ Reply | More ]
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I still nap when I can! [ Reply | More ]
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Omg I love naps. NP [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I am with you. The best time ever. :) [ Reply | More ]
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Are you a Russian? [ Reply | More ]
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I would have napped my son until kindergarten but at age 3 1/2 he started staying up all night if he had even a short nap. Staying up really late is worse for growth and development than going without naps. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] How important do you think homework is the third grade? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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important. 3rd grade starts Common Core testing and before you know it, middle school - i feel like 3rd is when you really separate the smart kids from the ones who need help. I have one of each in my house. One who doesn't require a lot, one who needs extra help, tlc - 3rd grade really seemed to be the year it came to light... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:50 PM Flag
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NP - Do you think your children are treated differently by teachers based on their ability? [ Reply | More ]
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DD doesn't get a lot, but the homework that she does get reinforces what she has learned during the day. I think it is handy when it comes to testing time, because she's already practiced/reviewed and just needs to review a little more. [ Reply | More ]
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this. it's also a good habit to set up for studying/independent work. they do a lot of independent reading a studying by the time middle school comes around. [ Reply | More ]
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np. ita. [ Reply | More ]
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NP. Yes but we want our son to choose his own reading. That's what we consider truly independent, for him to be passionate about a subject and learn more about it because he wants to. That's how both my husband and I were as kids, not because we were at progressive schools but because our elementary schools in the 70s didn't give homework so we actually had free time. [ Reply | More ]
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it would bother me for social reasons [ Reply | More ]
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It depends on the homework. Some is busy work and everyone knows it. Some reinforces class work and some helps teacher identify who needs help. [ Reply | More ]
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important. why? [ Reply | More ]
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homework in elementary school should be about learning and practicing good habits. i.e. do it when you get home. sit in a quiet place. checking it is part of the work. put it back in your backpack and be organized. read a little every day, etc. it's not about the work. about the habit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:16 PM Flag
[ - ] My long-distance boyfriend comes to my family's house for Christmas for a week. My huge family is overwhelmingly generous and loving and loud and very traditionally "family." We get him lots of presents and he is included in everything. He has a stocking and piles of gifts and is just part of the family. His family on the other hand is very reserved - warm, but more removed - and doesn't even call to wish me happy birthday or get me a Christmas gift or send anything to me or my parents. I think this is rude. Want to talk to him about it - when I'v brought it up in th past he has said they love me they just express it differently (i.e. not at all). Thoughts? 37 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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My family didn't really engage in any kind of behavior with my prior boyfriends (didn't call; didn't get them presents; etc.). This didn't start happening until after I was married. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:47 PM Flag
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Hmmm. How was his family with you beforee you were married? [ Reply | More ]
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Same. [ Reply | More ]
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you cannot change people. Trying to get his family to think that their behavior for the past 60 years is wrong and your family's is right will make you very popular [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:49 PM Flag
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You will never change how they are, so not sure what you hope talking to him about it will do. If they were and warm to others but not you, that might be a sign of something, but this just sounds like who they are. You have to decide if you can be comfortable with that on the future, including if you have DCs. [ Reply | More ]
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who cares? don't be so needy, jeesh [ Reply | More ]
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I don't really think this is being needy. [ Reply | More ]
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she's being needy - sounds like they are just more reserved [ Reply | More ]
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THIS. MY LORD are you quite the little snowflake. [ Reply | More ]
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AMEN! [ Reply | More ]
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I couldn't agree more!!!!! [ Reply | More ]
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I agree OP, you're being needy and self-fixated. DON'T DO IT! You will only make your boyfriend feel terrible. He wasn't able to choose his family, it's not his fault. [ Reply | More ]
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Why is it rude that they are diff than you???? PS I am not joking, watch MY BIG FAT GREEK WEDDING and it will cheer you up (sounds like both of you!) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:50 PM Flag
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It just feels like they don't even think of me or care that I exist. Whereas my family goes all out to include him. [ Reply | More ]
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SO? Maybe it sucks for them that their son doesn't spend holidays with THEM. [ Reply | More ]
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You sound very, very needy for an adult, particularly one that gets so much attention from her own family. Sheesh - maybe they don't like you very much! [ Reply | More ]
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It's NOT rude when people do things differently from the way your family does them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:53 PM Flag
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well, it stinks but if he has expressed to you in a loving way that this is how his family IS, think how it must be for him growing up with a family like that, and try to accept it. If it hurts you NOW, it will only get worse when you have kids and they don't fuss over them. Be happy you have your family and HIM and move on. as the other poster said, you can't change poeple. and believe me, they don't change over time. if you can't accept it, move on now or it will destroy your relationship. bashing his family is not going to bring you two any closer! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:53 PM Flag
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Why do they need to send your parents Christmas gifts if they aren't SPENDING Christmas with them? you sound very childish and self absorbed. not everyone gets a family like yours. most don't. be happy for what you have and stop focusing on the negative. [ Reply | More ]
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I think this is just a difference in style, and not necessarily rude. If you were visiting their house for Christmas do you think they would get you gifts and include you as family, or if you happened to be there on your birthday would they celebrate it? [ Reply | More ]
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How well do they know you, and have they even met your parents? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:55 PM Flag
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Adults really shouldn't care about their birthday being recognized by anyone other than their partner, kids, parents. [ Reply | More ]
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Agree. [ Reply | More ]
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You are so annoying. Why on earth would they send your parents anything? Get some life perspective, people's families differ. [ Reply | More ]
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Every family is different. You are marrying your bf not his family. Not every one is outgoing and gregarious. Now I do not fully understand your post..You said "and doesn't even call you or send presents...." He doesn't or his family do not? Big difference. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:57 PM Flag
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His family doesn't. Whereas when it's his birthday my parents will email him or call him and send him a card or a small gift. And at christmas they go all out for him. His family doesn't really even acknowledge I exist [ Reply | More ]
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do they acknowledge he exists? My family is not that large and not that demonstrative with family members, so boyfriends/girlfriends really were low on the list [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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NP: Then this may also be a question of how you view your status -- that is, you need validation that you are important in your bf's life. If you were secure, then you wouldn't care so much, and chalk it up to "different personalities." Do you think you'd be this upset once you were married? Had kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:14 PM Flag
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Probably I'd be more upset because I want DCs to grow up in a loving family on both sides...but I don't think that will happen [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:20 PM Flag
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maybe he gives them the wrong idea about you. as in you are not really permanent fixture in his life or something. you don't know what he says when he is there. maybe they are waiting for you to be engaged or married before taking you seriously. who knows if he had a girl before whom they liked very much and then he broke up and broken their hearts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:16 PM Flag
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OP - good point [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:20 PM Flag
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your family goes all out to include him because he is physically present. if you were at his house, and everyone else got a christmas present and you didn't, even something small, that may be rude. but your boyfriend wouldn't be include like he is if he wasn't spending xmas at your house. you won -- he is with you for xmas. let the other stuff go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:58 PM Flag
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Why would they send anything to your parents?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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This. Especially since you aren't even married yet. And frankly, even when you are married, this might be weird, unless you were all physically spending the holidays together. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:15 PM Flag
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How old are you? Are you the mother of an UB? Why post this here? [ Reply | More ]
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I'm a teacher [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:20 PM Flag
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Everyone is different. I am cut from the same cloth ad your bf's family. What's there to talk about? They are probably not going to change for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:16 PM Flag
[ - ] Re Hunter prepping. I wonder what they look for. I know one kid who is currently there who was prepped to death, I mean serious prepping from the time dc was 0years old. The parents were gung ho about getting their dc in and amazingly, they did. The kid practically had a live in child psychologist. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:42 PM Flag
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Way to ruin a kid's childhood. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:44 PM Flag
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Tell us more, please! I am intrigued. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:45 PM Flag
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Is the DC Asian? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:48 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:56 PM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:57 PM Flag
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It is called COINCIDENCE - not amazing at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:00 PM Flag
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Everyone I know who got to round 2 prepped. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:00 PM Flag
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We squeaked by, no prep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:09 PM Flag
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Congrats! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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Thanks! Would be so thrilled if it worked out, though these posts by crazimoms have me a little apprehensive! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:15 PM Flag
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me too! I am the one who posted just above who didn't prep child. These ladies sound CRAZY. Let us hope that both of our kids get in and the prepped kids are apparent in the second round! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:18 PM Flag
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My child wasn't prepped and got 149. The tester kept asking him if he had done this before. He told them he hadn't. Left me with icky feeling that tester was asking this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:18 PM Flag
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The thing about that is if the kid is "prepped" so much and needs to be prepped that much it might not be a good fit for them and they might need a lot of support to be comfortable in the environment. Why would you do this to your kid? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:01 PM Flag
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Or to yourself?! I posted above that DC made the cut off (barely) with no prep - if we had prepped, I'm sure I would be worried that he wouldn't have made it otherwise, and then where does the prepping and tutoring end? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:18 PM Flag
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Bright Kids does a tremendous job making sure your child is prepped to score in the 170s and guarantees the tester won't be able to tell. They also have an R2 prepping course that you should consider. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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Hi bright kids rep! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:09 PM Flag
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Why is it then that the people answering the phone say the top score on the Modified SB-V is a 160? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:15 PM Flag
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We all know that you know that you don't know the child that you claim to know and that you don't know that he was prepped. But, we admit that we know that we don't know you and that you don't know us, so there is a chance that you don't know that you don't know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:05 PM Flag
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I know a child who was prepped for almost a year before the test (parents told us). She is there. But I also don't think she is doing poorly because of it. I think prepping may ensure that a smart kid shows off what they know and get it. But doesn't necessarily allow a kid who is mediocre to get in, if that makes sense. I.e. just because you are prepped a lot does not mean you were not smart to begin with. Just that your parents are gunners/ tiger-parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:09 PM Flag
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I think prepping will definitely help in borderline cases, it could push a 140 child to a 143 to make the cutoff, and chances are that child would be just fine at Hunter. There is no amount of prep that could give a 110 child 150. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:13 PM Flag
[ - ] Please help. Somehow found myself falling for a married man who has two kids. We've been out a few times. No sex yet. More emotional, and some making out. I am fighting it and fighting it and trying to stay far away but not doing good job.. I am not stupid and I don't want to make a giant mistake in my life. I am not married but I have a loving boyfriend. Please give advice to keep this in perspective and helping me get over this infatuation. I need to cut it off and need motivation to do that. TIA. I know some of you must have been there before. 50 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 12.18.14, 05:42 PM Flag
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Stop being a homewrecker. It is a disgusting role. Think of the two kids' lives you are ruining. Your boyfriend will dump you and will find someone else, but you will be marred for life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:45 PM Flag
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OP - I agree it' a disgusting role and I never pictured myself in it. I have no idea how I got here and I want to rewind. I don't think he will leave his wife so I know his home won't be wrecked but still, it's awful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:47 PM Flag
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She may find out and leave him [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:50 PM Flag
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& beat you up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:05 PM Flag
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Just because he won't leave her doesn't mean she won't leave him ifs he finds out about you. Which is probably what you are secretly hoping for. You will have ruined the childhoods of two innocent kids and his kids will hate you and you will never have a happy marriage with him. But ya go ahead and ruin your life. I disagree with your assertion that you aren't stupid [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:51 PM Flag
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This. And why would you want a husband who is has shown himself to be perfectly okay with cheating on his wife. How is that a turn on to you? Fix your picker-outer stat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:52 PM Flag
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Good point. I imagine the attention makes her feel good. She needs to figure out why. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:57 PM Flag
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Agree. OP is stupid. Stupid to have started this, and stupider still for continuing it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:57 PM Flag
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Leaving her wouldn't be the worst thing on earth for her... being married to the guy is bad enough [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:55 PM Flag
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What he does with/for you, HE WILL ALWAYS DO AGAIN! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:05 PM Flag
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You don't need to rewind. Just stop. Save yourself now. You think it is hard to disengage now - it will be harder later. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:56 PM Flag
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yuuup [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:04 PM Flag
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Tell him if he becomes truly available, then he can give you a call. Karma. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:47 PM Flag
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Still seems gross. Leave him be. Why be a temptress? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:52 PM Flag
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I hear you. It may be easier for OP to cut it off without closing the door. At least she cuts it off before she does something she regrets. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:54 PM Flag
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you have to make a million decisions to get into bed with a married man. start saying no at those moments instead of yes. and get youself a hobby, and end your relationship with your living boyfriend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:47 PM Flag
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Yes. Thank you. This makes it actionable for me. Start saying no at those small moments of decision making. This helps [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:51 PM Flag
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yes - all the little moments - don't shave your legs, wear crappy underwear, don't smile back, take the path that doesn't make you walk by his desk, no flirty emails, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:53 PM Flag
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are you medicated or something? how old are you? you sound like you're either very young or very "off" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:59 PM Flag
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I am young, yes. Idk. Just going through a lot right now. Trying to do the right thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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There is no try. Only do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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It's not that hard. Grow up and dump him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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What is wrong with you? I will never understand a message like this. Do you have no self-restraint? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:48 PM Flag
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Idk what's wrong with me. I actually feel as you do. I hate women like this. I can't understand why I'm doing this at the moment in my life. It is so unlike me. in every way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:50 PM Flag
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If this is truly out of character for you, then see a therapist and figure out what is motivating you to act like this. Probably depression [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:54 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:55 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:55 PM Flag
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I agree with this as somebody who almost got involved with a married (no kids) coworker. It was during a time I was depressed and lonely and having a really difficult time dating. Do see a therapist. I did but for other reasons later and it helped clarify what I needed. I ended up moving to another city which worked out well. But to the married women here, since when is it all the mistress' fault? If it's not the OP then it will be another woman this married man finds. Those men specifically look for vulnerable women. This guy chose the OP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:19 PM Flag
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then stop. now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:58 PM Flag
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Just don't see him again ever. It is that simple of an action. The emotions will take more time, but don't see him again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:59 PM Flag
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How did things even get this far? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:56 PM Flag
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Idk. he kept pursuing and pursuing and I just weakened and went out with him once because he said it was as friends. Then I really liked him. Then he kissed me. Then he said he really wanted to do it again and the same pattern happened. I need to cut it off immediately. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:12 PM Flag
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^^^he said he thought I was his soulmate and I was dumb enough to believe it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:12 PM Flag
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Eh, you should have known better. Cut it off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:18 PM Flag
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forget the kids, forget the wife, have some RESPECT FOR YOURSELF. and your "loving boyfriend." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:58 PM Flag
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Assuming you don't care a whit about innocent children or your boyfriend (which is gross in and of itself), why would you bring this shame on yourself? If you feel so inadequate, go see a therapist. Seriously. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:58 PM Flag
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You "found yourself"? Really. Was it as big a surprise for you as it will be for his wife when she finds out? You have full control over your life. You don't find yourself in situations you find undesirable and do not with to participate in. Stop using excuses. The man needs to be divorced first, then you can consider relationship. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:00 PM Flag
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Your first problem is in your second sentence: you "found yourself fallling"....? You are in denial that you have (a) control over, and (b) responsibility for both your decisions and actions. Yes, it's hard to keep "fighting and fighting to stay away," but really, your message sounds like it was written by a 14-year old. Woman up and walk away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:00 PM Flag
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Its not even that hard. All you have to do it think about Karma biting you in the ass when you do the wrong thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:03 PM Flag
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Agree. OP is very immature. Sounds as though she was coddled growing up and never had to make a tough decision in her life. This is the result. Completely narcissistic, emotionally weak people who hurt small children yet still only think about themselves [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:03 PM Flag
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Sounds to me more like someone with an unloving mother who never have her proper self esteem, so she seeks it from improper places. Emotionally stable women don't become homeworkers. I'm guessing she had a shitty and unloving mother [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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I agree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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Not at all. I have the most loving mother in the world. I have NEVER done something like this before. Idk. I experienced a sexual assault last year right before meeting my boyfriend and have been a little messed up since. I need to go to therapy. I have been doing strange things out of character like this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:14 PM Flag
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His wife will kick your ass! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:04 PM Flag
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You ARE a homewrecker. You are causing tremendous pain to other people. Whether or not he leaves his marriage, he is destroying it by putting energy into his relationship with you instead of into his family. Trust me. I'm the wife on the other side of this. DH destroyed our marriage by having this affair and devastated his children by neglecting them. The pieces of our family are scattered so far and wide, it's likely irrecoverable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:05 PM Flag
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I'm so sorry. This really hit home to read this. You are making me really reconsider my actions. This is why I needed a jolt of reality. Did you two divorce due to the affair? Personally if my BF cheated I'd leave immediately. I have never done anything like this in my life and I need to see a therapist to work it out. I am going to cut it off with the married guy. It hasn't gone too far at all so hopefully it will just be easy to move on from for both of us before anyone gets hurt. I do not want to hurt his children or wife. or myself. or him. or my BF. thank you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:08 PM Flag
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or: this is recent and i'm not sure what i'm going to do. we are together over 25 years and have children. we're in a lot of therapy. without that history, i'd never even consider staying and trying to move on. even w it, not sure if i ever could. you have no idea how destructive an affair is to the marriage and family. the only thing more destructive is the death or terminal illness of a child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:14 PM Flag
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Analogy: Its like seeing a man preparing to beat a child. If you offer him your belt to use, how are you blameless? You can say "I didn't beat that child. His relationship with his child is his business, and I have nothing to do with it. If it hadn't been my belt, he would have found someone else's belt, anyway. He was bound to beat that child regardless of my involvement." Does any of that rationalization change the fact that it was through the man AND your actions that another human being was hurt? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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Once a cheater always a cheater. This is a bad kind of man to be involved with in any way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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You will look back at this someday and shudder at the thought. Been there! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:07 PM Flag
[ - ] how often are second babies early? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:40 PM Flag
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usually later than DC1. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:48 PM Flag
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^I have 3 Dcs each gestated longer than the other, but all 3 were born before due dates. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 05:49 PM Flag
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later? really? DC1 was day before due-date. Hadn't heard about 2nd kids being later... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:05 PM Flag
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About as often as they are late. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:08 PM Flag
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None of my 3 were early. But my 3rd was FAST (2 hours flat from waking up with contractions to delivery at the hospital-- which included rushing there in a taxi-whew!) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:10 PM Flag
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yikes! sounds crazy! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:16 PM Flag
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gestation time for subsequent kids is correlated, I read somewhere. So if you had a long gestation period for the first, you are more likely to for the second as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:12 PM Flag
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interesting ... been trying to find something like that online [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.18.14, 06:16 PM Flag
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