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[ - ] What is your Myers Briggs type? and what is your husbands? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:18 PM Flag
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AIDS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:19 PM Flag
[ - ] DH threw a napkin in my face last night during a fight, in front of DS. DS who is three start defending me and says "I am going to throw mine in his face! Dad, You shouldnt do that!" Pround of him, but JEsus grow the hell up DH. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:18 PM Flag
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Your ds will grow up to be a faggot [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:18 PM Flag
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Grow up? He already is [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:19 PM Flag
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General Topics 10.21.14, 06:20 PM Flag
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Doubtful, but I don't care if he's gay as long as there are grandchildren. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:21 PM Flag
[ - ] S/O- HHK $260K, pay Nanny $900 p/w off the boosk - OP: Why so many responses about me being a crook? And how much should I be paying - is $900 really too much? she works 8:30 - 6:30. Bith kids are under 3. Does all the household laundry and light cleaning (dishes, folds clothes, makes bed, organizes, etc. And we won't get rid of Nanny (we love her) but how can I ask her to get paid on the books, now? ugh. Any thoughtful responses are welcome. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:16 PM Flag
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Your nanny is molesting your little children!!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:17 PM Flag
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Getting paid on the books = less monthly income. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:19 PM Flag
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She wil want to clear 900. She is robbing the taxpayers by also collecting food stamps and Medicaid I would bet. And you are helping her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:18 PM Flag
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Can I be your nanny? I am getting paid 1/2 that and I do all this, btw on the books. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:20 PM Flag
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Forgetting the off the books, you're way overpaying her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:20 PM Flag
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the only way to ask her to be on the books is to pay her portion of taxes, plus your employer taxes, so that her take home is the same. FWIW I paid more than $900 for the similar as your post for the net pw. $1100 (after a few yrs of raises). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:22 PM Flag
[ - ] fwiw, i am glad my parents were strict about age appropriate boundaries. My BF allows her 14 yr to have sex at her house becuse they are going to do it anyway!!!! 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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Yikes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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ikr [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:12 PM Flag
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She's right though, they are probably going to do it anyway, especially once they start. I wonder what the girlfriend's parents think? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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I like how we automatically assume the kid is a boy. I can't see the mother of a 14 yo girl being cool with this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:15 PM Flag
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op - bf had discussion with girl's parents so that they would be aware. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:17 PM Flag
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When I was a teen my bf's parents did care what happened at their house, but mine certainly did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:16 PM Flag
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huh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:18 PM Flag
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didn't care sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:17 PM Flag
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PP: Same. My mom would let my bf sleep in the basement, I had to sleep in my room, and she would set the alarm to go off if anyone was on the ground floor. His parents stopped making up the bed for me in the guest room after about 2 sleepovers and said "You're not going to sleep in there anyway..." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:20 PM Flag
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My parents were like your BF and I was screwed up as a result. I think these people mean well but don't understand how their actions translate into a child believing they have no self worth and no one to protect them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:12 PM Flag
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How do you keep you kids age appropriate anyway? Not being snarky, I have a five year old and have no idea about this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:14 PM Flag
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op - i have boundaries at home and i tell my dc i am only responsible for you and what goes on in this house. they get it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:15 PM Flag
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Is not about allowing it or not, but some guidance should be given, you need to talk to your dc about sex/precautions/pregnancy/BC/diseases, you can forbid sex all you want and avoid the talk but it is important, I would disagree with my 14year old having sex at home or sex at all tbh there is nothing good coming out of it but at the end of the day is their decision. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:17 PM Flag
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Does she watch [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:18 PM Flag
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i just dont understand why it is ok to be so open anf permissive. What's wrong with simply saying that sex at 14 is not something we permit be it at our house or any other. this after discussin sex/bc/std's etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Also thinking about moving out of the city. Have no idea what burbs to consider. Where do I even begin? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:09 PM Flag
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What is your house budget? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:10 PM Flag
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4MM [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:20 PM Flag
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I know is not a lot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:20 PM Flag
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We started by looking at the school districts and the commute to the City. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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NYC? Start by first considering where you want to come in -- Grand Central, Penn Station or Lower Manhattan. Yes, I realize jobs change, but you might as well start off with what works for you. This should lead you to say Westchester v. NJ. Then determine how much commute you can tolerate. Then decide, do you want top performing school or more laid back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:18 PM Flag
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[ - ] Ridgewood moms, are the schools overcrowded? Do you think the town is just too big? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 10.21.14, 06:09 PM Flag
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Town is too big. Very narrow streets. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:14 PM Flag
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Who cares about streets? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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Are you kidding. If a neighbor parks their car on the street, it kills the two way traffic. I don't want to feel like Im living in Queens/Brooklyn. No offense to Queens/Brooklyn. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:19 PM Flag
[ - ] brag alert bcs it's the only place I can! I'm a size 14 and have finally lost .5 inch all over and 2 pounds. I've worked so hard and plateaued a bit so I"m really happy yeah! 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:05 PM Flag
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General Topics 10.21.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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General Topics 10.21.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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Good work. That's the best feeling. Happy for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:08 PM Flag
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thank you moderator. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:09 PM Flag
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good for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:14 PM Flag
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Good job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:15 PM Flag
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We are the same size, height? How did you accomplish this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:22 PM Flag
[ - ] Thinking about moving out of the City. Decided on a few towns we like and actually know someone there that is selling next year. Would you still contact a broker and how far in advance of planning to move? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 10.21.14, 06:03 PM Flag
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I would. I would want to start seeing some places, getting a feel for different neighborhoods and that sort of thing. I have friends who moved out about 5 years ago, and have ended up in a house that doesn't really work because they were coming straight from the city and had different perspective on how large a yard they needed. A few years in, things look different. They feel that if they had shopped around a bit more, they might have come to see things differently. Just a thought. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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No broker!!! Keep in touch with them and be ready to make them an offer that keeps the house off the market and allows you two to split the savings from the broker fee. Understand the process in the suburbs (I don't know it bec we live in city) with lawyers and deeds and such. You've got the time to figure this out and it's the biggest barrier to doing a deal yourself and avoiding the ransom demanded by brokers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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sorry, I read your OP as if you likely wanted to buy from your acquaintence. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:16 PM Flag
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we do but in case it falls through we probably need a back-up plan. Also, it feels weird to buy without looking at other things beside from what we have seen on-line. We already have a lawyer that will help with the paperwork. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Is it normal for elementary schools to give parents the email address of all DC's teachers? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:01 PM Flag
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At our school the teachers opt-in to it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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for our school yes. We have teacher emails. Telephone numbers are at the teacher's discretion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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Ours does. There are links to all of them on the web site. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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varies by school. I know one on the UES that did not give them out in the past. don't know about this yr [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:05 PM Flag
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I don't think it's normal at public schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:12 PM Flag
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The one with they get through the school, yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:14 PM Flag
[ - ] Sex post/prude moms exit to your left: This morning DH was in a sex mood, so I gave him a hand job before he left for work. I couldn't locate the lube and he had to leave for work soon, so I used my own spit as lube. He came after a few minutes and then he said in a snarky tone "the lube was right there." I frowned and said sorry. He said "It's fine. It was "okay."" My feelings are hurt. :( WWYD? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:00 PM Flag
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Why didn't he tell you where it was when you were looking for it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:01 PM Flag
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op: His eyes were closed. Maybe he didn't know I was looking for it? I can't remember if I said out loud "where is it?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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Why didn't ge give it to you? Next time, tell him to bring the lube if he wants the hand job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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op: true. It wasn't where I last left it, so clearly he moved it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:08 PM Flag
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He's a dick. You should have said "Yea, my orgasm was just ok too" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:04 PM Flag
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No, mine sucked...She should have said. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:04 PM Flag
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op: haha will keep that in my pocket for next time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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didn't you learn? there shall be no next time! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:10 PM Flag
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Next time, while you are giving him a hand job, stick a finger up his ass for a prostate massage. He might like it or he might JUMP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:22 PM Flag
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I'd not do that again (the hand job), and I'd probably not speak to him for a couple of days, who does he think he is?!!? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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ITA. I'd not speak to him for a month. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:08 PM Flag
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men are dumb and half the time don't know what they say to women. it's a handjob, not the end of the world [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:09 PM Flag
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I doubt this was about lube. He probably wanted a bj or intercourse and the spit just added insult to injury. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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Disagree. He just prefers the lube and "it was right there!" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:09 PM Flag
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op: I don't like having sex in the morning before I have a chance to pee and brush my teeth. He only had a few minutes before he had to leave, so handjob was the only option. He doesn't like blow jobs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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And he couldn't wait 30 seconds for you to pee and brush your teeth? DH takes that time to get naked and is waiting for me grinning like a loon by the time I get out of the bathroom. You know, getting off every morning as you rush out the door isn't a right [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:12 PM Flag
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Guys love spit on their cock as per porn. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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I'd tell him he hurt your feelings. Here you are doing him a favor and got nothing out of it yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:10 PM Flag
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Do you have to do this to him if he's in the mood? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:10 PM Flag
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Did you save up his semen to drink for later [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:12 PM Flag
[ - ] 1st grade ds asked what does gay mean & is it a bad word? I'm sure it has something to do with smartass, know0it-all boys at school, but whatever. How the heck to I answer this? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:00 PM Flag
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Truthfully. My ds had classmates whose moms were gay. They're not to young for a *very* simple explanation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:03 PM Flag
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How does the explanation go? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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Some women like women and some men like men. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:03 PM Flag
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General Topics 10.21.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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You mean like his little buddies on the playground? That doesn't make much sense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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Of course you put it into context, for heaven's sake. Just state it simply and without embellishment. Kids will get it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:09 PM Flag
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Um, no they don't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:12 PM Flag
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They can, but I'm not going to have this argument with you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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Wow,gross pedo. Why are you thinking about fucking little boys [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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np--I would add: "to marry." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:17 PM Flag
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You should have told him it was a very bad word [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:13 PM Flag
[ - ] If you think your mother was abusive growing up, what in particular are you thinking she did that consittuted abuse? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 05:57 PM Flag
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Called me "It" instead of my name on many occasions; 2nd husband overly interested in me and she didn't notice; threatened to put me up for adoption; threatened to send me to boarding school; obsessed about my weight and called me "fat kid." I don't have a whole lot to do with her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 05:59 PM Flag
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Get therapy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:01 PM Flag
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My stepmother was. She watched me shower (puberty/teenaged time frame) why telling me nobody would ever love me and that I was dirty. She would make me wash myself while she watched 10-15x in a session. She would make terrible remarks about my body while I did so. She made me do other things that I really rather not think about or discuss. At the best sometimes I think she was mentally ill but mostly I think she was evil. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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Woah there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:05 PM Flag
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Yeah, I'm not at all sad that I don't have to ever deal with her again. My only regret is that I didn't tell someone much earlier than I did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:09 PM Flag
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Alcoholic and verbally abusive when drunk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:05 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:16 PM Flag
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Hit us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:05 PM Flag
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A lot of over the top physical stuff. For example, I had a bedwetting problem when I was around six or seven. One night, my mom grabbed my face and squeezed it as hard as she could, nails and all. The next day my face was cut, swollen and bruised. She still sent me out to play and I just remember the neighborhood kids staring at me. This was one of the many instances where she used force and seemed unapologetic about it. We have never discussed this in my adult life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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Are you close to her now? How about your siblings? What did your father say? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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Are you close to her now? How about your siblings? What did your father say? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:14 PM Flag
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If my dad said anything, I was not aware of it. My siblings didn't get this treatment. My brother is close to my parents and my sister and I keep a distance, although we are all pleasant to each other. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:18 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone on here emailed anthropologist mom? She's posted her email a few times. What did you say to her/what did she say back? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 05:56 PM Flag
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I'm an anthropologist. What did anthro mom give out her email for? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 05:58 PM Flag
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She sometimes posts it under threads I make and says "wanna talk?" or something like that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:01 PM Flag
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^op: I'm going to email her. She seems cool [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:04 PM Flag
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Are you the one doing the study on UB? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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Nope. I work in mass comm but use my anthro skills. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:14 PM Flag
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Do you like aids semen [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:16 PM Flag
[ - ] s/o from parents who are too open with discussing oral sex with 11 year old. what do you think of parents who allow their teen dd to drink and encourages her to stay where she is when she is drunk to lessen the chances of her dui. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 05:54 PM Flag
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I think my parents did that with me and it saved my ass on more than one occasion. They told me they would always come pick me up, no questions asked or I could call and let them know I was staying where I was (first choice being preferred option in their opinion so they wouldn't worry about me). I was/is a fairly responsible drinker. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 05:57 PM Flag
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+1. My parents also started offering me small amounts of alcohol (wine or beer) with dinners together at a young age. They also allowed me to get drunk for the first time as a teen under their watch - and I hated it so much I never did it again. I drink a glass of wine or cocktail maybe 3 nights a week, max. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:01 PM Flag
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or: same here with the offering wine/beer (sometimes the hard stuff) at a young age. I do enjoy drinking though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:05 PM Flag
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To lessen the chances of a dui, or a fatal car wreck, maybe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 05:56 PM Flag
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I think it depends on her actual age. There is a big difference between 14 & 18. But I'm in the 'call without penalties' camp. Basically you don't know what might happen to her if she passes out ( who might take pix/assault her). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:00 PM Flag
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I will do the same. Of course I will discourage drinking and drugs but I will also say that no matter what you do I will come and get you and will forgive you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:12 PM Flag
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I should say that my own parents did this and I never got in trouble. DF was forbidden to do anything and was the one who tried it all and ended up in the ER more than once. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:12 PM Flag
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I like it in theory, but growing up and just based on what I observe, kids whoseparents did this ended up binge drinking more often (hiding it too) and they ended up less successful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:15 PM Flag
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Wow would you ever drink his semen [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:16 PM Flag
[ - ] K-8 vs K-12. Pros and Cons? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 05:53 PM Flag
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going thru private applications now, a big con is the dreadful ISEE. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 05:54 PM Flag
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Each child goes to the high school that suits them. [ Reply | More ]
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Pros: End game focus isn't college in K-8; opportunity to choose school that is right for elem/middle and rethink for high school; 14 is a good age to switch schools Cons: Having to apply again; some schools don't add spaces for high school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:00 PM Flag
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At most of the K-12's we toured, they really focused on how great the HS was, and it seemed like all the attention and $$ went there too. A lot of the presentations had special things the HS had done / was doing, but not a lot that was special about the K-8 grades. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:15 PM Flag
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plus, it seems like you hear a lot about children who are "counseled out" of K-12's often if it's not working, so just because you get in at K, is not an automatic entry to 9-12. I wish there were stats somewhere that said how often this happened. If you ask schools, they say "oh people only leave because they move away", but that's not word on the street. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.21.14, 06:18 PM Flag
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