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[ - ] Enough already with the BS about high Asian IQ. There is no such thing. DOCUMENTED research shows that Asian success in academics is all due to socioeconomic factors. Notice the web site, the references and the authors. : "We find that the Asian-American educational advantage over whites is attributable mainly to Asian students exerting greater academic effort and not to advantages in tested cognitive abilities or socio-demographics. We test explanations for the Asian–white gap in academic effort and find that the gap can be further attributed to (i) cultural differences in beliefs regarding the connection between effort and achievement and (ii) immigration status. Finally, we highlight the potential psychological and social costs associated with Asian-American achievement success." http://www.pnas.org/content/111/23/8416.full 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 06:34 AM Flag
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Nah. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 07:02 AM Flag
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An interesting question. Are high IQ test scores of Asians caused by their DNA or caused by something else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 07:12 AM Flag
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Best way to test this is to look at Asian babies adopted by whites at birth. These babies were raised culturally white. Did their Iq scores match the white average or the Asian average? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 07:13 AM Flag
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Interesting but many confounding factors. Here are 2 1)Rich people work so hard they frequently wait until past their fertile years to feel financially secure enough to have a child, 2)Intellectually open-minded and or people in a more intellectually/rich environment are more likely to feel comfortable adopting a child from a different race. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 07:21 AM Flag
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Very reasonable comments. As parents we should all think about this and do our own research. Probably not worth flooding UB with this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 07:31 AM Flag
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Totally agree. Poor whites have enough babies so don't need to adopt. Most adopted Chinese babies go to wealthy, successful families in intellectual communities. There are many in my DC's school on the UES. They did not adopt to be average parents. They are really bright people who had fertility problems and did not even start trying until mid-30's due to the success of the woman's career. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 08:07 AM Flag
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Here is an honest and true write up of this. The author says over and over that he WISHES Asians were not smarter than whites, But he is compelled to tell the truth http://www.rense.com/general79/dut.htm [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 07:19 AM Flag
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As somebody who maxed GREs applying to grad school, I can tell you it's mind-blowing the time and energy the Asians put towards test taking. I've even seen them training in groups during some of my travelings. Pretty insane and when in school it doesn't reflect the kind of thinking that's needed to do well in research in STEM. They are so much into cheating, maybe their score-oriented learning pushes them to do that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 07:40 AM Flag
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If you think that Asians aren't doing well in STEM research, you haven't looked at the surnames of PhD graduates at any university. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 09:26 AM Flag
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"The psychological and social costs associated wiith Asian American achievement success?" I understand what they're saying but how about the psychological and social costs associated with underrrepresented minority failure? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 09:24 AM Flag
[ - ] Blue apron looks good but is there a step down from that? I have never cooked more than pasta. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 06:07 AM Flag
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I love BA. It's so easy don't worry. It's also made me a much better cook. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 06:13 AM Flag
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op: Really? I was kind of thinking that. I am a scientist so know how to follow directions so I can do that part. However I have never chopped so much a a carrot. DH likes to cook simple things but I think I might enjoy it if I could start in the most simple way. Maybe I will try BA. Otherwise are there cooking tutors that could come to my house and show me how to pick out stuff and cut and cook? where would I find that? I am happy to pay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 06:24 AM Flag
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I would take a cooking class at Whole Foods or something. Would be more fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 06:47 AM Flag
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op: Cool. I did not even know they had that. Haven't been looking and just heard about blue apron today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 07:01 AM Flag
[ - ] Word to your mother 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 05:18 AM Flag
[ - ] Crazy how many people on right wing sites think Obama had Scalia killed. People are nuts. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:44 AM Flag
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At the same time, anything is possible. Especially at that level. That's where the really crazy stuff happens because the stakes are so high. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:48 AM Flag
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It should tell you how much people trust him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:50 AM Flag
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I had to edit a book by people alleging that the Clintons had people killed. It became a bestseller, and drove me away from the company. Now I'm unemployed (the Medicaid poster below). Sigh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 05:07 AM Flag
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Why now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 05:09 AM Flag
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So Obama can put in who he wants. His statement came literally minutes after the death announcement [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 06:14 AM Flag
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I'm sure they notified him immediately and then waited to tell the public so he would have known for a while. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 06:25 AM Flag
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I don't want my account "suspended" again but dare I say no one I know thinks that. That is just a silly and crazy thought. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 07:24 AM Flag
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Don't you watch Scandal? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 07:37 AM Flag
[ - ] I'm on Medicaid, the United Community Plan, and would like to find a therapist. Most of the practitioner listed in this plan's database say that, even though the site lists them, they in fact don't take Medicaid. If I definitely want therapy, what should I do - try to switch to a private plan that covers therapy, look in hospitals etc. for therapists that accept Medicaid, or look for therapists that offer a sliding scale fee system? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:41 AM Flag
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And how terrible is Medicaid, anyway? I lost my job and was offered it at the Unemployment office. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:45 AM Flag
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I was on it in california and it was great. Just have to find the right people [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:52 AM Flag
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Thanks, that makes me feel better. I'm in NYC - any tips on finding a therapist likely to accept it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 05:05 AM Flag
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Your best bet with Medicaid is prob through an agency. There are some solid agencies in the city. Few private practice people accept it. That said, the same is pretty true to for private insurance. And you will prob have a big copay anyway. Not sure it pays to switch ins for that. Another good option is the post grad institutes offer very reduced tx with trainees who often have many years experience but are getting extra training in a certain modality with expert supervision. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 06:31 AM Flag
[ - ] UB told me account suspended a few weeks ago. So strange as I never post about politics and not even SAH/WAHM crap as I have friends in both and never have felt that was an issue with us and work part-time. I wish the UB people could tell you why you got suspended. That is just weird. Maybe it is part of feeling like you are in junior high and will get cut out of the clique? How many of you get just get suspended? I did nothing wrong. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:36 AM Flag
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I wouldn't read much into it. The policing on this site is obviously terrible as is evidenced by all the spam that is posted after midnight. I am sure it was a random mistake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:39 AM Flag
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+1. I have posted some outrageous things and never been banned. Random and no w/o reason, don't give it a second thought. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:42 AM Flag
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op: Thanks. I am so confused that I think that it was that I had saved some posts and they were trying to cut down on storage. I am not offensive and totally lost links to slip-over place on UES, blinds store, some kids books/games. I did nothing wrong. Please tell me what I did wrong for this site. Just weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:47 AM Flag
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^And urbanbaby people it is really lame when someone has done nothing and I had a ton of posts saved on kids furniture, recipes, ski areas, kids parks and vacation spots. Is it normal to just get cut out or did I use too much storage. I could have cut down and it was not that much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:41 AM Flag
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Playing coy ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:46 AM Flag
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op: No I think I saved too many links and used up storage now I know to just print them out. I like to think I am smart but I am not that interesting except that I get lots of likes on WSJ and NYT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:50 AM Flag
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Print them out? Are you serious? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 05:36 AM Flag
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op: Yes, serious. I have had too many things erased on the internet and most recently my links to children's books, kid's board games recs, and some decorating links. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 05:52 AM Flag
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I've been here for 7 years, and talk about controversial things frequently. I also save lots of posts. And I've never been suspended. It was probably just a fluke. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 05:32 AM Flag
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So weird as I said nothing offensive but read so many offensive things. I was shocked to be suspended. What does that even mean? Like I get my account back after a few weeks or months? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 05:49 AM Flag
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It happened to me a month or two ago, for no reason. Weird and annoying, as I lost so many watched posts :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 06:10 AM Flag
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op: I can't believe how many posts that I lost just for kid and home ideas that are lost. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 06:26 AM Flag
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Exactly! So many helpful ideas, advice, restaurant recs, etc. Some I'd gone back to and some I hadn't yet. Some posts that were just entertaining. I emailed them but never got a reply. I think the system has been getting worse and worse for a few years now. Makes me wonder how long the entropy will last before it all implodes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 06:34 AM Flag
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op: Same here. And some wacko above just claimed Obama killed a Supreme court justice. Psychos can post here and I am trying to get advice on kid feeding and transitioning from milk, etc. Random thought but the makers of a constitution did a pretty good job with the idea of 3 branches to provide checks and balances. I have not thought of that in decades but basically any president has their hands tied to do too much change or damage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 07:08 AM Flag
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Yep. No matter who gets voted in, not that much chsnges. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 08:25 AM Flag
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Don't take it personal but too bad you lost the links. Some wacko probably flagged you for reasons you can't even imagine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 07:29 AM Flag
[ - ] Who do you like more, Brandon or Luke? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:29 AM Flag
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to date or marry? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 05:23 AM Flag
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To date 1st, then marry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 05:57 AM Flag
[ - ] How many of you think CRUZ and Rubio have tons of BOTOx in their foreheads? Serious Q 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:28 AM Flag
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^^^ oh yes and why are TRUMPs hand and eye a different color- he needs the moderator's tan person [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] How much living space do you think a couple without kids (and no plans for kids) needs? I would love to be in NYC but my DH needs to live in burbs for his job. We are looking at houses and keep wavering -- the nicer houses are almost always larger but I dont know that we need the space. The small houses we have seen just look so crappy. Hard to find the right balance 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:06 AM Flag
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It totally depends. I like space. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:08 AM Flag
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Buy a small house that you can afford to fix the way you want it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:09 AM Flag
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We had a small house that I loved before we had kids. It was a turn of the century Victorian. 3 BR. So cute. In Morristown. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:11 AM Flag
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Morristown, yay! My hometown. I digress ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:17 AM Flag
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If kids aren't really part of the plan I would go 1200 or so. And smaller would be fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:14 AM Flag
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From what I understand on here, people need over 2k sq ft to have a good quality of life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:14 AM Flag
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1700 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:14 AM Flag
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Look for something that is smaller but closer to the town center and walkable to shops and restaurants and make sure you pick a town where you will still be able to have a social life without children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:14 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:19 AM Flag
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We've been living in a small (at least small for our town) house that is about 1800 square feet. It seems to be a good size for us. We could have gone bigger, but the house would not have been as nice or we'd have to move to a less desirable area. We lived in a condo before that with about 1500 square feet. It was also good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:19 AM Flag
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Just curious: if no plans for kids, why are you on UB? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:22 AM Flag
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We are on UES in Yorkville in 1000 sq-ft and it is more than enough for the 3 of us. DH and I have 20 min commute on bad days and dc has 5 minutes for the next 10 yrs. (preschool,k-8) Without kids it would be roomy but I would do smaller rather than commute but that is a personal decision. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:59 AM Flag
[ - ] I did not think I was fat and basically was not, but I have lost ten lbs since October and I still have this sort of sheath of fat over my stomach. It's not much but it still kind of rumples if I slouch forward. Looking forward to getting rid of it! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:03 AM Flag
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^Went from 23.9 BMI to 22.5 BMI. Need to close up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:06 AM Flag
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Do sit ups or something. Need to strengthen stomach muscles. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:10 AM Flag
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Need to cut body fat percentage [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:53 AM Flag
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Both. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 05:18 AM Flag
[ - ] On the eve of Valentines day... what is your best relationship advice? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 03:58 AM Flag
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If you're dating a man, have sex. At least once a week. Once a day is better. That will solve and prevent so many problems. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:00 AM Flag
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give your significant other room to breathe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:21 AM Flag
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Think of Trump during sex [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:29 AM Flag
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decide whether Rubio is gay, not that there's anything wrong with that [ Reply | More ]
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postpone an orgasm by thinking of Chris Christie [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:30 AM Flag
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Hallmark holiday ! But some people like a card. Sex? Date? Present? I seriously couldn't care less, and DH only wants sex, maybe a kinky version. While dating could care less. We all need to instill into our DC that every day must be vd if you want to have a solid and happy relationship! Domyou agree? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:33 AM Flag
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Think about the guy who can really keep a job, be loyal, a good father and as a bonus is interesting and hopefully witty. Seems so simple but not easy to find. It took me 15 years of dating to find one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 06:14 AM Flag
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^And I have no hopes or cares for V-day. Stupid holiday but we usually do an annual super fancy top of the 5 best restaurants a few weeks after which is more for dh than me as I don't even care. Actually I would like to save the money but he loves it and it is only once a year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 06:19 AM Flag
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^And not all sunshine and rainbows and I would like so much as a card or some flowers but always try to think of the good things because V-day, bday, and anniversary are non-existent. That part sucks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 07:28 AM Flag
[ - ] Planning a trip to Montreal for DH's 40th birthday this summer. Any hotel recommendations? Looking in old town and would appreciate any tips or suggestions! TIA 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 03:58 AM Flag
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If you want large chains, the Westin is a good bet. If you prefer small boutique, there are a few and they are all good. I like the St-Paul, a bit off centre but lovely. The Nelligan has a great bar. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 05:07 AM Flag
[ - ] Trump dominates 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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[ - ] How old are you? 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Rude to ask [ Reply | More ]
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I'm one of elderly here at 52. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 03:51 AM Flag
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Depends on the day of the week, time of the day [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 03:53 AM Flag
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True. But it's 99 percent of the time. I bow to the 1 percent. Hee. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 03:59 AM Flag
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Well, you have competition, a 59 grandma [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 03:55 AM Flag
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OR: snap! [ Reply | More ]
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65 this year on the outside, 27 on the inside. [ Reply | More ]
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34 and trying to break up with someone. No kids. Never even been engaged. Picky and hopeful. [ Reply | More ]
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Ha. Sounds like me. I'm the other 34 year old. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 03:59 AM Flag
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I am 32 and been single since 29, with endless first dates and no end in sight [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:04 AM Flag
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Nice to have company :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:18 AM Flag
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Yep. Seems like there are many of us :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:24 AM Flag
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Don't you ever want to just say yes to the promising man and move on to phase two? Endless dating is draining; not hopeful [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:41 AM Flag
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Yes, often. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:44 AM Flag
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The problem is I haven't met a promising one. There are always either big red flags or a complete lack of chemistry. And I don't really need much in terms of other criteria [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.14.16, 04:48 AM Flag
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Same here. [ Reply | More ]
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BUT HOW OLD ARE YOU? You won't even say at the outset, you must be a self hating Jew or ager, [ Reply | More ]
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