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[ - ] I used to cook a lot of bean and split pea soups and our nanny would constantly criticize me for it. Now that all kids are at school I added cooking to her list and she has been making lentil soup all the time. Is lentil soup really that different from beans and split peas (her complaint was gas etc) Was she just being a jerk with me all these years. It's really bugging me. (She isn't making the lentils because weight like it, she makes whatever she would eat herself) 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:02 PM Flag
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Probably being a jerk. Give her a menu to prepare. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:07 PM Flag
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I don't have an issue with her cooking. I read rice and beans dish post above and remembered the constant criticism from my nanny. Then I thought about all the non stop lentil soups she has been making... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:07 PM Flag
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^ I can't even imagine saying the kind of stuff she said to me. You really don't know how to use spices well... I can't stand bean soup it awaits gives me gas...yada yada yada. She was like a mean MIL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:10 PM Flag
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Is she Indian - lentils are a big part of Indian cuisine [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:09 PM Flag
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No she is not but lentils maybe big part of her cousin. Lentil soup is great but is it really that different from bean soup? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:11 PM Flag
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It's not she may have thought she was funny. Odd. But regarding gas, if that is something that is a concern I suggest soaking beans and lentils overnight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:22 PM Flag
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It's a concern for her not for us. I do soak beans overnight. TY! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:21 PM Flag
[ - ] I feel like I need/want a juice cleanse after thanksgiving. typically i am opposed to these, but my doc isn't allowing me to exercise right now because of an ovary cyst and i am feeling really clogged with food. anyone have a good experience with a juice cleanse? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:59 PM Flag
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Drink black coffee no sugar. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:04 PM Flag
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Have you tried Not Stuffing Your Face? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:04 PM Flag
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It's Thanksgiving and that's what we do [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:10 PM Flag
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Have you tried Not Being an Asshole? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:10 PM Flag
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Somehow I doubt it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:20 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone's kids try the "Code with Anna & Elsa" tutorial yet? My 8yo is loving it after 30 minutes, in case you want to mix up the screen time. http://studio.code.org/s/frozen 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:44 PM Flag
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s/o Did you see the website that is rewriting the Coding Barbie book, so now in the new story she actually writes some of her own game AND gives due credit to the two boys who help her write it? Very cool. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:48 PM Flag
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Thanks, making my son do it right now. Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:50 PM Flag
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OP here - full disclosure, she just flipped out. I jinxed it! OK for an 8yo but maybe better for 9+. Need patient kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:49 PM Flag
[ - ] SIL who hates me, asked for one side and one dessert, I made rice and beans, and broccoli, cauliflower, Brussels sprouts, mushrooms, and homemade chocolate chip oatmeal cookies. Do you think she will give me her usual attitude? 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:35 PM Flag
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Actually - I think cookies is an odd dessert. No pie? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:34 PM Flag
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She said she has everything, lots of pies, but I can bring another dessert if I want, she's very passive aggressive. I had to thank her profusely for this honor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:40 PM Flag
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Then cookies are perfect. Have a drink first and just hang with others you like and who are nice to you. Any good family members on that side? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:43 PM Flag
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Rice and beans? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:36 PM Flag
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Maybe she's Mexican [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:35 PM Flag
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I'm not Mexican. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:39 PM Flag
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That is odd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:06 PM Flag
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are you the cheese/pie poster? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:38 PM Flag
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No, come on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:39 PM Flag
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the brussels sound good but rice/beans is homeless shelter meal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:40 PM Flag
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Not my version! It's truly delicious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:41 PM Flag
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+1. That bitch could not accept that many thought she was awful [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:43 PM Flag
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rice and beans weird [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:38 PM Flag
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x2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:36 PM Flag
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A little weird, but it's a very yummy version. I am sort of known for it. Mil did request it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:39 PM Flag
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ok then you should be good. she will probably still give you her usual attitude because SILs are for the most part evil [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:40 PM Flag
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The best part is she will make me take it all back home!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:43 PM Flag
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Very weird [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:07 PM Flag
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I don't know their background but if they're Hispanic this is normal for Thanksgiving. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:16 PM Flag
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Yes. Whatever you make. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:38 PM Flag
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rice and beans sounds yummy-- I love them! one guest at our huge, many-families-present Thanksgiving brings rice and pigeon peas and I need to be restrained from eating half the dish! SIL may still hate on you -- but it will be jealousy. Enjoy the holiday, forget all the petty relationship issues for today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:40 PM Flag
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Can you give me the rice and beans recipe? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:43 PM Flag
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You won't believe it, but here it is. Heat some oil I a deep pan, fry some chopped onions and mushrooms. Add rice, fry it too. When everything looks kind of dark, add all the rice, and lentils, add chicken soup broth. It takes about an hour to cook. Stir it from time to time. It's healthy and delicious and filling. I make a huge pot on Sunday, and dh and I eat it all week. No one even realizes the mushrooms and onions are in there (and I add a lot). Fil refuses to eat onions, ever, in any form, but gobbles this up. I did tell him it has onions btw. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:59 PM Flag
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Do you fry the beans too? And precook the rice? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:59 PM Flag
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I fry a small portion of both the beans and rice, and then throw it all into the put for cooking. Sorry, I am in the car, and not typing clearly. I never use recipes, so I have to remember. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:03 PM Flag
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I don't precook the rice, I just throw it in with the broth [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:04 PM Flag
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What kind of rice? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:08 PM Flag
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I get the colorful one, it's like 4 different types, high fiber, high protein. Red, black, beige, whatever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:13 PM Flag
[ - ] "If you think you're spiritually enlightened, go home for Thanksgiving" - Thanks Gwyneth 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:33 PM Flag
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Spence education [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:35 PM Flag
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Lol !! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:38 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
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Goop [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:39 PM Flag
[ - ] I need work help. I left a job in finance, a very stressful job, for an equally stressful job. There are a lot of legal issues in my move, so I didn't bring my associate. They hired a new associate for me. She is nice, but she is new, and she does not know anything. Not her fault. But she also does not hussle, does not do things the first time I ask, I need to ask 3-4 times, and most importantly, she doesn't know anything about the firm. I set up a meeting with my boss, I emailed him a professional, but pointed note, that this is not working. I need someone experienced. We are meeting on Monday to discuss. How do I change this for the better, without throwing her under the bus. It's probably 50% not her fault, but I want someone better, and I don't want to offend her. I am horrible at managing people and I never say anything bad about them. Pls help. 41 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:33 PM Flag
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"I never say anything bad about them" =\= "i emailed him a professional note that this is not working" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:34 PM Flag
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I positioned it as: we are both new / blind leading the blind / she is great / I need someone experienced [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:38 PM Flag
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better to speak face to face rather than email. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:38 PM Flag
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It was a "can we please set up time to meet / I need someone with experience" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:43 PM Flag
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They always stick the new guy (or girl) with useless people. Talk to your boss about a switch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:34 PM Flag
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I am. But how do I not offend her. I really can't [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:38 PM Flag
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why are you worried about offending your subordinate? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:39 PM Flag
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You just tell her the truth..you need someone with more experience [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:39 PM Flag
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I can't give her that kind of negative feedback. I am a loser, wimp, weak, etc. I am great in finance, and I make good money, but I have no self-esteem, and am not strong with this stuff. I cower, and turn into a two year old, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:45 PM Flag
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lol, stop beating yourself up. you're fine. what kind of work do you do in finance that you don't have to engage with people much? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:49 PM Flag
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I engage with people all day long, high net worth clients. I suck at managing subordinates and telling them what to do. Clients are totally different; I just have to talk about the markets/economy, and then their account. Then it usually turns to vacation/family, or the weather. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:55 PM Flag
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do you work in personal finance? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:59 PM Flag
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I guess. I call it investment management. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:07 PM Flag
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Time to stand up for yourself [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:48 PM Flag
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Nope, people with experience cost more. OP needs someone with a better attitude. The assistant has apparently made no effort to learn the firm or try. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:46 PM Flag
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Exactly. I'll say, "can you pls send this wire out / can that go today?" She'll say, "I don't know, I haven't ever done a wire here". She could say, "I haven't done a wire here, but I'll make sure it goes out today!" Meanwhile, I waited an entire week for the stupid wire to go out, kept asking her "did it go out?" It annoyed her, And I wanted to say, "if you just did the fucking wire, I wouldn't have to ask you every day! Figure out how to put the wire up! Ask ten people!" This is what happens, I keep this all in, and I then I explode. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:52 PM Flag
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Is there an admin person in charge of assistants? Usually there is. Send an email to Mrs. X -- Dear Mrs. X, please show Anna how to send a wire, thanks so much [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:07 PM Flag
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Enough of these emails, Mrs. X will deal with the assistant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:14 PM Flag
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Interesting hypothesis. If it's true, I wonder which person they think is just new and which one they think is useless?... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:44 PM Flag
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Op. I hope I am not the useless one! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:47 PM Flag
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you don't sound like it at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:51 PM Flag
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If the assistant cannot even fucking send a wire, it will be the assistant. OP should document. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:08 PM Flag
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I guess if I were the assistant, and had never done a wire, it would be hard. But you have to be resourceful -- figure it out -- the wire has to go out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:11 PM Flag
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Not OPs job to teach. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:13 PM Flag
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I am in a similar boat. My assistant was out this week and another helped me. I was astonished and how good she was. For my own sanity, I am just going to say it's not a good fit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:35 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:40 PM Flag
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OR and don't make my mistake and wait to see if with time things get better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:44 PM Flag
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Exactly, it has been a month, things are not improving. I have been through this before, and I need to change it. I won't be able to face her, if I threw her under the bus. And she sits right outside my office. It's making my heart beat faster thinking about this. I hate it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:00 PM Flag
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She already knows. [ Reply | More ]
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I feel bad for her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:12 PM Flag
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What is the relevance that your former job was in finance- is the new job much lower paying? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:44 PM Flag
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Just that it is an intense job, and not some kind of fluffy, laid back situation. I need someone who cares, prioritizes, and wants to work. She is one of those things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:48 PM Flag
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***none of those things. Big difference! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:01 PM Flag
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You need to look out for yourself and we all know a great associate will make you shine. Try to find a technical reason this person isn't going to make it. Remind boss they've invested a lot in you and you need someone excellent to augment your efforts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:45 PM Flag
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It's is so true. They gave me seven figures to move (with lots of strings attached), and I am not meeting my goals, partly because it is just damn hard, but a part of it is really, this girl is not helping me at all. I have had great associates, so I know the difference. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:49 PM Flag
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I made a similar move a couple of years ago. Couldn't bring my team because of a non solicit and ultimately it made for a really rough two years for me. Just go with a solution, I need x, this is what it will cost, needs to be done by x date. Boss may have a budget for 2015 so ensure you're in there. Also make sure he knows how critical this is to your success. He's not paying you that much to have to keep repeating yourself, she should be anticipating what you need. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:58 PM Flag
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Just read above, hnw clients are high maintenance and will move if they're not getting the right level of service. Work that into your pitch, also give a few examples of situations she didn't handle well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:00 PM Flag
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Totally. I will try. I hate this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:10 PM Flag
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Explain the legal issues that don't allpw you to offer a job to your associate from the old firm? Is he/she more expensive than the new place will allocate to the person they hire for you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:12 PM Flag
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I have a horrible, strict contract. A non-solicit, non-compete. I'm not allowed to bring clients over, but I am, and they are suing me. That's all part of the deal with the new place, they defend me. But I'm not allowed to bring employees over. So we didn't mess with that one. I also didn't want to risk my associates career, I didn't know if it would work out. Having been there for a month, turns out, it's a great place, and both of my associates are now interviewing. But they won't leave until February at the earliest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:16 PM Flag
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Honest question, who is responsible for training these associates? Because I get what you're saying but it also sounds no one had explained anything to her and I have to think someone should be doing that even if it's not you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone know what the plan is for Phillip Seymour Hoffman's character in the Hunger Games? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:25 PM Flag
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Yea, they made the movie without [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:41 PM Flag
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Did they? I thought they were going toto CGI [ Reply | More ]
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That's what I meant [ Reply | More ]
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I read in the last 2 weeks that they decided not to use CGI. [ Reply | More ]
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I read in the last 2 weeks that they decided not to use CGI. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:50 PM Flag
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they found another fat gay drug addict and no one noticed the difference [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:14 PM Flag
[ - ] Would you see a family member who calls you every few months only to ask if you are planning a vacation, a home renovation, or what car will you be leasing since the lease must be up soon? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:15 PM Flag
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What??... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:14 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:21 PM Flag
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Yes, it is like "hey how are you" and then immediate specific questions, peppered with some bragging about business trips. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:20 PM Flag
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No and no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:40 PM Flag
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Are they strivers? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:37 PM Flag
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Someone's super curious or interested in you for a reason. I mean, DH and I barely know what our sibs do for a living, beyond general industry. I could not tell you the names of the companies any of them work for. no lie. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:48 PM Flag
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That sounds great. Seriously. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:51 PM Flag
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TBH I think we all paid attention when we were younger. but then hard times happen to some and it becomes impolite to get too specific, because it is too sensitive of a subject in a large group. It is not for lack of affection, it just does not matter where someone is working or how well they are doing. we talk about kids mostly. kids and houses [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:01 PM Flag
[ - ] who likes eggnog? i love it! 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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Expensive and fattening [ Reply | More ]
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I like it for about five or six sips. [ Reply | More ]
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np It's the candy corn of beverages. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:19 PM Flag
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how so? [ Reply | More ]
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It's delicious until it's not--which happens very quickly. Super sweet. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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it's too sweet [ Reply | More ]
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I have one glass a year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:26 PM Flag
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Love [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:41 PM Flag
[ - ] What are your favorite UB moments? 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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The funny ones. [ Reply | More ]
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The anal itch post when they were arguing about whether a spouse should put scotch tape on your asshole or if you should do it yourself. i laughed for two days [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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I posted that one too!! http://www.urbanbaby.com/topics/55346896 Best ever! [ Reply | More ]
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Still say the saintly hubby should do it. If he's that great, it shouldn't be a problem. [ Reply | More ]
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LOL i don't even pee in front of DH, this would not happen [ Reply | More ]
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It's okay to be an uptight prude but it's not okay to shame others just because you're one. [ Reply | More ]
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does that really constitute prude? i just like my privacy. didn't shame anyone [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:17 PM Flag
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are you sure? you kinda sounded like you felt superior. maybe you're used to feeling that way. [ Reply | More ]
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are you sure? you kinda sounded like you felt superior. maybe you're used to feeling that way. [ Reply | More ]
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how did that in any way sound superior? it's just the way things are. [ Reply | More ]
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THIS. You might have weird hang ups - but that doesn't mean the rest of the world does. Husbands and wives are fully aware of bodily functions. They help each other if necessary. This teenage eww attitude is annoying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:47 PM Flag
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does your DH put your tampons in you, too? because that is probably more complicated than putting a piece of scotch tape on your asshole [ Reply | More ]
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If I broke both of my wrist and needed him to change my pad he would. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:00 PM Flag
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borrowed car seat mom, cat eraser mom, diaper mom, cashmere sweater mom - anything that's overly neurotic. can't get enough of it. these women make me feel so normal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:09 PM Flag
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what is borrowed car seat mom? the one that took the ride w/ the AAA guy when her car broke down and felt so guilty? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:16 PM Flag
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she borrowed car seats and broke one or lost one of them and then refused to reimburse the owner for the full replacement cost. boy, did she get flamed on here. it was hysterical. [ Reply | More ]
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Elmo diaper mom was anything but neurotic! [ Reply | More ]
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This is the one I was referring to ^ LOL! i love that one poster, whoever she is [ Reply | More ]
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hysterical. [ Reply | More ]
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"When the apartment is clean, it makes you feel like having people over" [ Reply | More ]
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DH driving around town in a construction truck. It was fake, I think, but so funny. [ Reply | More ]
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what post is that? [ Reply | More ]
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Wasn't it like a post about how it looked blue collar or something? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:02 PM Flag
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I'll try to dig it up later but it was along the lines of..would you be annoyed if dh inherited a cement mixer and was being slow about selling it and was clearly enjoying using it for errands. So funny [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:15 PM Flag
[ - ] What's your single favorite dish for Tgiving? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Pesto. [ Reply | More ]
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Stuffing [ Reply | More ]
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stuffing, handsdown [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:18 PM Flag
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Mashed potatoes made with lots of butter and cream and served with a disgusting amount of gravy. I make this only today and on Christmas and love every bite. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:20 PM Flag
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+1 and easter [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:31 PM Flag
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I only sometimes do for Easter. Usually fingerling potatoes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:37 PM Flag
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Mac and cheese. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:20 PM Flag
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creamed spinach [ Reply | More ]
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I make this savory pie with rice, pumpkin and raisins. That's my favorite [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:29 PM Flag
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A casserole that my mom has made every year since I was little. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:33 PM Flag
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Dressing (Stuffing baked in its own dish) is a second close to mashed potato casserole. Which is mashed potatoes, milk, cream cheese baked with bread crumbs and butter on top. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:54 PM Flag
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I make a dressing I found on Cook's Country. So good. One of my kids talks about it all year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:19 PM Flag
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Stuffing, esp if wrapped in bacon [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:19 PM Flag
[ - ] Whats's better: roasting brussel sprouts with cranberries in olive oil at 375 degrees for 40 minutes or at 400 degrees for 30 minutes? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:08 PM Flag
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Low and slow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:09 PM Flag
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Slowly shove them up your husband's ass. When he moans in pleasure, you take them out and feed them to him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:12 PM Flag
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that's very cumbersome [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:12 PM Flag
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not at all. you should do whatever it takes to please your hard-working husband instead of being a selfish bitch. it's the UB way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:15 PM Flag
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wow, you are already drunk [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:16 PM Flag
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wow, you need a brussels sprout up your ass. bend over. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:19 PM Flag
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np Why am a laughing at this. Must be the Bailey's in my coffee. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:20 PM Flag
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Please, not this. Baileys and coffe should be served together but apart - one chilled, rather hot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:24 PM Flag
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I like it in coffee. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:27 PM Flag
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won't fit in. sorry! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:23 PM Flag
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I always think better to roast at higher temp [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:01 PM Flag
[ - ] I really don't like my MIL and FIL. FIL is a angry drunk. MIL codependent . Love my all BIL and SIL. My DH is youngest of 5. He's the one that likes being around his parents. Last Thanksgiving our family was only family there. His siblings didn't come. Same thing this year. He knows I hate going over his parents and I go only to make him happy. I admire that he wants to honor his parents but I need boundaries . He doesn't practice boundaries with is parents 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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"honor parents"...are you jewish, chinese, korean or indian? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:10 PM Flag
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We are Christians. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:20 PM Flag
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ah yes. good luck with all that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:24 PM Flag
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I need help. I don't want this to be a point of contention with he and I . I've been vocal about it and at this point I think I just need to suck it up... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:27 PM Flag
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spoken like a good Christian wife. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:32 PM Flag
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You realize Christian is not an ethnicity, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:30 PM Flag
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Yes , Jewish is not ethnic either. But believe their religion just like true Christianity have a culture of traditions. That's why I stated Christian [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:36 PM Flag
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My in laws are Indian (I'm not) and we've been "honoring" them for almost 24 hours now. I'm pregnant and can't drink. Lawd help me now [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:51 PM Flag
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Lol, I appreciate the humor. Laugh is what I can do! I can drink but can't get drunk... Prayer and lots of skills is what I need! I'm so happy I posted this . I feel better about this. Game plan! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:56 PM Flag
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Yes I have to laugh otherwise DH and I end up squabbling with each other, and in the end, it's not that serious. Good luck with your day:) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:59 PM Flag
[ - ] How mad would you be? My sitter left 30 minutes early yesterday leaving an EPIC mess in the kitchen (like really a fucking mess.) I get that she was psyched to get out early but... I paid her until 8. WWYD? (fyi- she generally sucks) 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:05 PM Flag
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Did she make the EPIC mess? If she generally sucks I would find replacement before Christmas and bonus will be her severance [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:08 PM Flag
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Yes, a whole sink full of dishes (including HER dinner plates) and a full dishwasher full dirty dishes. Filthy counters..... I mean WFT! I wasn't here when she left. Grr. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:14 PM Flag
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It's not going to get better. Find someone else. Her job is to make your life easier [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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I think she doesn't get that she's here to make my life easier not do art projects with my kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:17 PM Flag
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You will only get more and more frustrated. How long have you had her? Why do you feel reluctant to replace her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:18 PM Flag
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Just since sept. She's young and not very bright- I feel bad for her. I don't know what resources she has to fall back on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:20 PM Flag
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And my 2 little ones really like her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:21 PM Flag
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She is not your problem however if you plan to keep her you need to have weekly meetings with her when you tell her what she did well and what she didn't do well. I would replace unless she is cheap and you can hire hire housekeeper to compensate her shortcomings [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:24 PM Flag
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I have a housekeeper for cleaning. But you're right - I need to sit her down and level with her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:25 PM Flag
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Get rid of her. Buh-bye. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:18 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Experience with Shleppers movers? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:03 PM Flag
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no experience with them, but I have used Manor Moving 3 times and always had a good experience. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:33 PM Flag
[ - ] why are all the women worried about never fighting with their asshole relatives? how come guys never worry about keeping the peace and being 'classy' etc ? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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lol. I just opt out. Have managed to spend only two Christmases with extended family in the 16 years we've been married and no Thanksgivings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:04 PM Flag
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very smart. how come you didn't fall for the pressure from the 'keep the peace at all costs!!' crowd? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:05 PM Flag
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My mother is nuts--and also hates Christmas, so pretty easy. Not inviting her or inviting ourselves is something she likely sees as a gift. Mil likes staying home and I don't think she'd like having us or sil and family as she couldn't handle all ten between the two families and wouldn't want to have one or the other. I had them here once. The other Christmas was the one with my mom in '99. Had just gotten married and dh was working in Asia. I drove away swearing to never do it again--and, so far, I haven't. Banging pots and pans and trying to pick fights. Horrible. Now the only whining and complaining I hear is from kids:) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:13 PM Flag
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don't your friends give you crap for not being like them and hanging out with family over the holidays? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:18 PM Flag
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Nope. Also, we go to our weekend house, so we're not around (not to mention family is on the west coast, so that helps). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:18 PM Flag
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kudos on finding socially intelligent friends. how did you do it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:23 PM Flag
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lol. My friends are mostly native NYers, so they don't have much of a choice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:28 PM Flag
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I met all of DH's family before I even agreed to be exclusive. I never would have married a man if I didn't like his family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:18 PM Flag
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what if he was great and his family sucked? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:26 PM Flag
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Then I'd date him occasionally while I kept dating other men. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:45 PM Flag
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If I'd done that, I wouldn't be married to dh. Mil was a nightmare even the first time I met her (she and fil were visiting from out of town and stayed with dh). I had some stuff in a bathroom drawer (this was about six months after dh and I met), and she took it out and put it in a Ziploc and told me dh didn't want it there. lol. Total bitch. Until the next day when she tried to heave her 350lb ass out of the bathtub using the recessed soap dish as a handle. Pulled that out along with a good 100 1x1" tiles. Who'd they call (even though I knew nothing about tiling)? Me. Took me to Home Depot and I figured out what was needed and made the repair myself. Dh and I sold the place 3.5 years later and tiles were still perfect:) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:35 PM Flag
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this does not make sense. are you saying you like your mil? or is this your mil from your first marriage? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:38 PM Flag
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My mil drives me nuts (for obvious reasons). Only one marriage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:46 PM Flag
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"Heave her 350lb ass"- I LOL'd [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:49 PM Flag
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DH: I do more than my wife [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:25 PM Flag
[ - ] Thought you ladies would appreciate this 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 05:58 PM Flag
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Remember when Slate was a news magazine and published articles by journalists? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:01 PM Flag
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slate is now a place where young humanities grad college girls publish articles about how kink is a sexual orientation ie: wanting to be spanked is a sexual orientation just like being gay or lesbian. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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Nothing but click-bait. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:04 PM Flag
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very, very true. what do you think of salon lately under ms joan walsh? i think it's going down the toilet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:08 PM Flag
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I gave up on Salon about ten years ago, when it went so far left that it didn't even bother with editing or fact-checking anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:08 PM Flag
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Which ones do you read? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:11 PM Flag
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The Daily What, Fark, Launch, reddit, BBC, Slashdot, 9gag, JAMA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:15 PM Flag
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reddit and 9gag? what are you, a nerdy medical student? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:20 PM Flag
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No. I just like news sources that make it easy to separate news from opinions about news, entertainment, and fluff. (And when I want fluff, I go to failblog.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:29 PM Flag
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So why JAMA? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:28 PM Flag
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Why not JAMA? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:46 PM Flag
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no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 07:14 PM Flag
[ - ] If you have a nanny who also does housekeeping while kids are at school, what does she do? TYIA 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 05:58 PM Flag
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make beds, wash towels, clean garage, put away folded clothing, dishes, and take out trash [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 05:59 PM Flag
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Who folds clothing and does the laundry? What you lists sounds like 1 hour of work a day. How long is she there without the kids being home or is all this while with kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:00 PM Flag
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^ listed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:01 PM Flag
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the house cleaner does the laundry and folds it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:03 PM Flag
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^^ also, TY! I am just trying to figure out if hiring someone ft will be worth it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:01 PM Flag
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"Clean garage" doesn't seem to belong on that list [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:04 PM Flag
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lol that's where all the toys etc are [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:07 PM Flag
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I've only seen this work with live-ins. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:24 PM Flag
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Why is that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:25 PM Flag
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Because nannies think they're au pairs. Hard to find one who will also be a housekeeper when the kids are sleeping/at school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:44 PM Flag
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Grocery shops, makes dinner, does the laundry, organizes the closets, refrigerator, cupboards, runs errands, etc. She gets there 2.5 hours before she picks up DCs. With the holidays she will also be buying presents and wrapping. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:38 PM Flag
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She does all this in 13 hours a week? That's amazing! May I ask what you pay hourly? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:42 PM Flag
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The organizing doesn't happen all at once but we pay her $22 an hour for 30 hours a week. She also makes sure DCs do their homework and sews there Halloween costumes among other things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:47 PM Flag
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+1 we pay $23/hr [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:51 PM Flag
[ - ] My mother was my father's mistress for eighteen years. My father was in and out of my life. His family, who I am spending thanksgiving with, treats me like a second class citizen. I know you're all going to flame me and talk about how lucky I should feel, just to be invited, but the least they could do is treat me like a guest. I thought things would be different this time and now I'm sitting here crying. When he passed and I got an equal cut, they were livid. But now everything has smoothed over and I don't feel like I should be held accountable for everything that happened between our parents. I didn't do anything. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 05:57 PM Flag
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Why are you going? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:00 PM Flag
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Because they are the only people I have on my side of the family and I thought things would be different. I have kids and I kind of wanted them to have some experiences with my 'family'. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 05:59 PM Flag
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you brought your kids along to this shitshow??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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Don't go. If they can't accept you after all this time, F them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 05:58 PM Flag
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you're never going to get them to like you. sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:00 PM Flag
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why are you even there if you're being treated miserably? why don't you leave? they clearly don't like you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:00 PM Flag
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You're blaming the wrong people. This is all your mother's & father's fault. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:02 PM Flag
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Her relatives are blaming the wrong person too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:05 PM Flag
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false. OP is being scapegoated for her parents' mistakes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:03 PM Flag
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Well, they're dead so the actions people make in the present are... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:05 PM Flag
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They don't want you there, and they are not the family you grew up with. Why do you go there? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:06 PM Flag
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Thats rough. You shouldn't go. They aren't your family. Make your own family- you're never going to be happy there and they don't want you there either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:08 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:16 PM Flag
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So do not go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:24 PM Flag
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What about your mother's family? I would rather spend it with friends or just my kids than be in a shitty situation. We no longer spend thanksgiving with my inlaws. They were ruining one of my favorite holidays for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.27.14, 06:37 PM Flag
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