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[ - ] Waiting to hear from two potential job offers and feel like I can't go anywhere without my phone. Grrr. I'm not a big carry her phone around person, but when the call comes I want to speak to them. Even if it's a no. I once got turned down for a job over voicemail and was mad I never got feedback. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 07.07.15, 07:39 PM Flag
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You don't carry your super light weight iphone in your bag like 99% of modern humanity? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:42 PM Flag
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^^^ And that has become the norm for at least the past 15 years? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:44 PM Flag
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it's in my bag, but I don't like the constant buzzing and beeping, so I turned off a lot of notifications. I only hear/feel it for a phone call or an email. But I hate carrying it around the house in case these jobs call. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:45 PM Flag
[ - ] Any real estate moms on? What's the better investment? House out in hamptons, upstate NY around skiing or berkshires and why? Single mom who would like to buy a second home for me and my dc to vacation occasionally but I can't afford to get stuck with a money pit. Advice? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:36 PM Flag
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Depends on your lifestyle. If you are a ski person, go upstate. Beach, go Hamptons. You can also ALWAYS rent out a Hamptons house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:40 PM Flag
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We are more ski than beach but I am scared of getting stuck with a house we can't rent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:44 PM Flag
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I hate the Hamptons [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:45 PM Flag
[ - ] What are some examples of helicopter parenting (as opposed to good parenting)? Kids obviously benefit from involved parents, but what are some signs that you are too involved? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:31 PM Flag
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For me, it's when a parents gets involved with disputes among children (non-violent) that kids should be able to work out among themselves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:34 PM Flag
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I do this. So sue me when I teach kids how to resolve conflicts. That's what learning from elders is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:39 PM Flag
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Keeps hands at child's rear end while he/she goes up stairs to slide. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:35 PM Flag
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Rigid control of sweets and processed foods. Every one of my friends that ate exclusively organic, healthy food ballooned up in college and continue to have weight issues because they were never taught moderation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:35 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:38 PM Flag
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Parents sitting with non-toddlers in the playground and "directing" their play (not talking about those actually playing a real game with their kid, like catch or something). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:37 PM Flag
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These are always the most annoying parents too, they talk to their kids in a way that borders on condescending, interfere in interactions with other kids and don't seem to let their kids have any fun! They will always be the one saying no to ice cream because they had ice cream in March! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:41 PM Flag
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They also have to constantly plan "play dates" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:44 PM Flag
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What to they do in the playground? Curious [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:44 PM Flag
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Parents who make kids clutch their hands as they walk down a city street. I see that as one step away from being on a leash. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:38 PM Flag
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Kids don't benefit from an overly involved parent at all. Doing anything for the child that they can do for themselves = heli parenting. This includes dressing, feeding, choosing friends ('making play dates'), choosing activities, solving disputes, talking to the teacher about a grade, doing any and all schoolwork and projects, caring for pets, maintaining their room, laundry, choosing clothes, saving money, budgeting-- parents should be modeling and supervising - not doing or instructing. It's important for children to make mistakes and learn from them -- and also to feel accomplished and confident. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:40 PM Flag
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Had a mom in dds dance class that followed her around. Babying her. Dancing constantly with her and it was meant to be a drop off/parents watch on the sides. She was definitely an only child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:40 PM Flag
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Basically unwillingness to teach their kids how to do something "because they might get hurt" either physically or emotionally. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:41 PM Flag
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OP again: what about with older kids? Specifically, how involved should parents be in supervising homework, selecting (and requiring kids to practice) extracurriculars, and helping kids find summer jobs and apply to college? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Pregnant and buying things. Do you guys have any bassinet recommendations? Also should I buy this My Brest Friend thing? Thanks. I am so clueless. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:30 PM Flag
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Congrats! I had both the My Brest Friend and a Boppy, and much preferred the Boppy. Not only did I find it more comfortable for nursing, it's much more versatile and can be used as a pillow/prop even if you stop breastfeeding. Not sure how much space you have to work with, but I also recommend getting a Pack & Play (with bassinet insert) instead of a stand-alone bassinet. You'll get much more life out of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:34 PM Flag
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Thank you!! This is exactly what I was wondering [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:40 PM Flag
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I used my boppy all the time! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:34 PM Flag
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I bought a Serena & Lilly moses basket to use for the first couple of months. Very cute. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:34 PM Flag
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I am due next week so I haven't tested it out yet but I bought the halo bassinest to use for the first few months DB will be sleeping in our room. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:36 PM Flag
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I'm also a first time mom. Heard from multiple people they preferred the my breast friend so that's what I've put on my registry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:37 PM Flag
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I used the Boppy all the time w my son. With my daughter, not as much. We had a different rocker in her nursery and it doesn't fit as well. In reality, you need very little for the first month or so. Figure out what works for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:39 PM Flag
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Boppy. bassinet is not necessary - just use the pack & play or crib. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:41 PM Flag
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Thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:43 PM Flag
[ - ] I posted about college DD having casual sex with multiple partners. The post got off-topic with people wondering how I found out & if it were true. My real question is: let's assume it's true, how common is this in 20-somethings? Is this normal for an emotionally balanced, happy, mature college student? Will people not respect her? Would you be worried if this were your child? (even if there's not much you could do about it) 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:27 PM Flag
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As a mother of a college age DD, casual, booze-drug-fuel "hooking up" is extremely frequent and when they "hook up" the boys are expecting oral sex or intercourse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:31 PM Flag
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As a woman who went to college decades ago, I remember wanting it (the SEX), loving to be pleasured mightily, and enjoying myself tremendously. So there you have it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:37 PM Flag
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Very common. Normal. Respect goes both ways. Let's hope she is getting sexual pleasure reciprocated as well. I would be very worried about her getting pregnant, & hope that she was really smart about being assiduous with birth control. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:34 PM Flag
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If you know in your heart of hearts that your DD is "emotionally balanced, happy, mature" while in college, then be happy for her, & do not worry about her having fun time with her private lady parts, FFS, literally. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:41 PM Flag
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And figuratively. And literally figuratively. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:41 PM Flag
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It's common in slutty 20-somethings with no self-respect. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:42 PM Flag
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Of course I would be worried. A large number of sex partners is risky on so many levels, even if dd is using protection. Nothing protects fully against HPV and genital warts. I'd also worry about emotional implications. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:45 PM Flag
[ - ] I would love to do a girls weekend, but all of my girlfriends would either not have the money, or not be willing to give up a weekend of family time. It makes me sad. I can afford like a $500 airbnb weekend in some cute town but nobody else is willing to spend that much on something that doesn't involve their DH and kids. Sad. 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:26 PM Flag
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I understand your friends. A friend tried to organize a girls spa day. Not only was it quite expensive, but it was also the thought of leavin my DH with my 3 little kids. She has only one and grand parents around to babysit. Getting a full day, let alone a week end, of "me" time is tough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:30 PM Flag
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He is a parent, right? If you can do it, why can't he? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:31 PM Flag
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1 DAY out of 365. DH should be able to manage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:35 PM Flag
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He is not only a parent but the primary care taker. It's not that he is not competent. It's that week ends are short and hectic, and it's my preference to devote time to my family than to something else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:35 PM Flag
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1 or 2 days out of the year? Come on. Now you're sounding martyrish [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:36 PM Flag
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Then that is your choice, not that you are unable to do so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:36 PM Flag
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Correct, it's my choice. I enjoy spending the we with my family. Is it so bad? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:38 PM Flag
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One day away? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:41 PM Flag
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I go away when I feel like it - maybe the perspective of a girl week end is not something I / OP's friends want to carve out time for. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:42 PM Flag
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No. But you said that getting a weekend of me time is "tough", which implies that you want to get away but can't. If you don't want to get away, that's also fine, but it's not because you "can't" get away from DH/kids, you just "won't". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:41 PM Flag
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I can - I just arbitrage. Some people arbitrage time, others money. Girls weekend sounds lame to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:45 PM Flag
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Your DH sounds coddled. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:36 PM Flag
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How so? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:38 PM Flag
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Only if you think that no one can change your kids diaper as well as you. Why couldn't your DH take care of 3 kids -- you do it? Don't you want some time to yourself? There is nothing that you do with your kids that someone else cannot do. I know it's hard to hear, but you are not magic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:35 PM Flag
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See my response above. I know he can do it but I prefer to spend the we with them. I get home at 10pm every night. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:37 PM Flag
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How old are your friends kids? I honestly won't do a weekend away until the youngest is 4. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:30 PM Flag
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All kids are 9+. It's not really the done thing in my circle. Like, I really want a girls weekend, but zero other friends are actually doing this. I see fb friends doing this though and I am jealous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:32 PM Flag
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Do you have kids, OP? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:35 PM Flag
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Yes, I have one super easy 9 year old dd [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:36 PM Flag
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Np: well, that makes sense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:41 PM Flag
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My friends did this for our 40th birthday. We met in the town where most of them lived (a few of us flew in). We all have 2-3 kids of varying ages (3-20). Why wouldn't they want to give up a couple days of kid time to spend with their friends? We are trying to make this a yearly thing now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:34 PM Flag
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I know. I would just like one dinner out! Have a friend who has 4 kids. She never hires a sitter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:37 PM Flag
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I am not interested in a "girls weekend." DH and I both work hard and we really enjoy weekends with our dc. I also don't want to waste the money when we could have a family weekend instead at the beach. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:41 PM Flag
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OP: totally what my friends would say. I get it. But still. Sad! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:43 PM Flag
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What are you going to do when the kids are older and don't want to spend time with you anymore. Do you not want to keep a connection with your friends? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:43 PM Flag
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You sound like such a nice friend. Our weekends are very busy, it is hard for DH and I to coordinate me going away all weekend, we often have to be in 2 places at once. That takes priority over a weekend away with friends, that's just how it goes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:43 PM Flag
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i feel the same...i think people forget that friendships need some investment or else they don't continue. it's so important to have other close people in your life, not just family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:45 PM Flag
[ - ] Rec for OB on LI affiliated with NSLIJ. Thanks! 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:26 PM Flag
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Lots of acronyms here. [ Reply | More ]
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CSB [ Reply | More ]
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WTF [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:37 PM Flag
[ - ] My grandmother has terrible boundaries. Calls me 6X per day, messages me on facebook or text 20+ times per day. It grates on me even if I don't respond to every text-- asks for photos all day long. I respond to about a third of them and I speak to her once a day on the phone. She is not American, we live far apart. Whenever I get a text-- constantly "how r u?" or just my name with several exclamation points-- I just feel bombarded and full of guilt that I don't see her enough, etc. (that's all she says on the phone). Any suggestions for how to deal with this? If I tell her to contact me less, her feels will be hurt. But it really is a lot. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:13 PM Flag
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Before anybody flames me-- I see her as often as I can (I fly there every few months), I speak to her daily, I respond kindly... it's just too much sometimes. Like last night at 11 PM she messaged, "How can I go to sleep when all I can think about is how much I miss you?" and 7 AM this morning, "How can I live through today when all I can think about is you?" etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:14 PM Flag
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what would happne if you wre honest about htis -- grandma, i love you but getting texts like these is very upsetting. i can't text yo 20 times a day and stil do my job and take care of my family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:22 PM Flag
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Did something happen to your parents (her child)? How is this all on you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:28 PM Flag
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She is the same way with my mother. I am not married yet- 26. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:36 PM Flag
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Indian? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:19 PM Flag
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Russian [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:36 PM Flag
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Her age? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:20 PM Flag
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74 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:36 PM Flag
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She sounds psychotic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:38 PM Flag
[ - ] When do you think George and Amal will divorce? I think it's hilarious when the media is so excited about these celeb marriages. Yeah, we all know they'll get divorced. When is the question? 2 years? 5 years? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:09 PM Flag
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2 years [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:17 PM Flag
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predict he will die first, 7 years, some kind of athletic/hobby accident. - a tarot mom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:32 PM Flag
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She is so painfully thin. It looks like her legs will break. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:35 PM Flag
[ - ] Everyone in my family has died early. I'm somewhat obsessed with this Life Expectancy Calculator -- http://gosset.wharton.upenn.edu/mortality/perl/CalcForm.html 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:05 PM Flag
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Nice! I got 85. I'll take it. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 07.07.15, 07:15 PM Flag
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Op. Me too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:15 PM Flag
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I think it is fixed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:16 PM Flag
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if you change the inputs, the results change too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:18 PM Flag
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+1. I bet if you changed the answer to the driving question to a 21 yo male driver, you life expectancy would go down dramatically - especially if you added sometimes drunk [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:37 PM Flag
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I got 91.35! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:17 PM Flag
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90.88 whoot - now have to save more for retirement [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:21 PM Flag
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92. Not so sure I want to live that long... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:28 PM Flag
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I got 92.5 - woo hoo! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:29 PM Flag
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I also got 85. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:35 PM Flag
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87. not bad i guess. As soon as I changed my asthma from a yes to a no, i got 6 more years. That seems like an awful lot of weight to put on one medical condition. I'm not even sure if I should check yes or no for that since I don't take medication and have never had an asthma attack, and all my symptoms cleared up by moving to a new apartment several years ago, lol. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:44 PM Flag
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Wow, glad to see all that state funding is getting put to good use. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:44 PM Flag
[ - ] DD is home from college and is hooking up casually with multiple men--boys from high school or someone cute she literally just met. I'm sad & don't understand where this is coming from. Her family background was normal & loving. Is this behavior common? I'm totally fine about sex with a boyfriend but casual sex with someone you barely know (and multiple men within a few weeks)seems like there's something wrong emotionally that she needs to be validated in this way. I'd say she lacks self-respect but I don't think she thinks there's anything unusual about what she's doing. I also don't want others looking down on her. She doesn't know I know. Have things changed that much? 35 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:02 PM Flag
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It's 2015. This is what all the cool kids are up to. Worse yet- you realize that she's been doing this since roughly October of last year, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:02 PM Flag
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This is not what all the cool kids are up to [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:04 PM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:17 PM Flag
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How do you even know this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:03 PM Flag
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This!! [ Reply | More ]
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+11111111 [ Reply | More ]
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Things I've accidently come across. Condoms in pockets after some event she went to & her telling me she met someone cute there, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:07 PM Flag
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Used condoms? Otherwise how would you know? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:08 PM Flag
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used condoms?? at least she is using condoms. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:09 PM Flag
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That could mean anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:10 PM Flag
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No, they're not used! She'll have a box minus one or two. I also overheard her talking on the phone to a friend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:11 PM Flag
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A box in her pocket? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:12 PM Flag
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I don't want to bother going into all the details but she definitely bought them (sales slip), she definitely doesn't have a boyfriend, they are disappearing when she goes out with different friends, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:16 PM Flag
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Honey, you're going to give yourself angina. She's taking care of herself. Be proud. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:17 PM Flag
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Maybe it's one sex buddy that she doesn't want to introduce to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:18 PM Flag
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This still doesn't even come close to your initial post. You're assuming so much from her simply taking condoms with when she goes out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:19 PM Flag
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I love how you keep adding details. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:19 PM Flag
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You found a box of condoms in her pocket? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:14 PM Flag
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Do you know how many events give out condoms as favors? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:11 PM Flag
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All this suggests is that she brings condoms with when she goes out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:15 PM Flag
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They haven't changed that much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:04 PM Flag
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Normal for my contemporaries. I'm 32. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:05 PM Flag
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Lol. Nice try you are still old. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:22 PM Flag
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how would you feel if she were a boy doing this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:10 PM Flag
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I wouldn't like it if she were a boy either. (though I think society looks down even more on girls who do so I'm more worried for her) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:13 PM Flag
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If she's smart no one will know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:13 PM Flag
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I'm not sure this is the case. I don't use social media but every now and then I see a group picture, and she's always the one with her arm around some guy and no one else is. I think from comments she and other friends of hers have made that she's a big flirt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:19 PM Flag
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But that doesn't mean she's having sex [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:20 PM Flag
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No discretion. That's not good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:20 PM Flag
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Np Are people cool with their sons having lots of casual sex? I'm not! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:17 PM Flag
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I don't think it means there's anything wrong emotionally. Maybe she just likes sex. Casual sex was never my thing (although I did partake a few times). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:11 PM Flag
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This is fake. Op can't get her story straight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:19 PM Flag
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You don't know anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:27 PM Flag
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Her mom is a skank, probably. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:40 PM Flag
[ - ] When did salary and work expectations become divorced from each other? I make $80k yet somehow I'm expected to work just as hard and am held to the same standard as the people making $300k, because.... why, exactly? Listen, I could get that job too. But I don't want to work that hard. It's not right to expect total devotion to the job from someone you're paying like a nurse or cop or fireman working shift work. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:01 PM Flag
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I make about the same as you and cops make more than us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:02 PM Flag
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^To be specific the rookies don't. But the guys who've been in the game for 8-10 years make more. Firemen too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:03 PM Flag
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I know. I'm related to a shit ton of them. My brother in law the fireman makes $120k working three days a week, somehow. But you get my point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:04 PM Flag
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"Three days a week" refers to seventy two hours. Firemen work 24 hour shifts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:27 PM Flag
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You're supposed to be grateful for the job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:05 PM Flag
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The recession has fucked us all. "Be grateful anyone hired your worthless ass, be grateful that we are keeping your worthless ass here, be grateful that we didn't fire you for leaving early to get your sick kid from day care, you owe us for all the sacrifices the company makes, etc." Especially if you're a woman and "old", ie over 40 or so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:12 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:17 PM Flag
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If you feel you're underpaid for the job, find an equivalent one where the pay more properly reflects the market. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:27 PM Flag
[ - ] WTF has become of my Brooklyn. Another gem from the local parent listserv: Hi, We are moving out of state and I need to say goodbye to my beautiful garden. All of these plants were purchased at Gowanus Nursery and have doubled in size in less than a year. (If you haven't been to Gowanus Nursery then you must go because it is couture gardening.) I've only ever used organic plant and herb food for fertilizing. These plants all survived last years harsh winter and came back fuller this spring. These plants are all part shade plants currently thriving in full sun conditions. If you plan to plant them in full sun than you must water every day or every other day unless it rains. Feel free to come and take a look and make an offer - all prices negotiable. I really want to find a good home for these plants. (All the plants/shrubs below were purchased for $25 - $75 each.) 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:00 PM Flag
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Is this good or bad? She wants her plants to go to a good home rather than just wither on the vine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:03 PM Flag
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She said couture gardening. Barf. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:03 PM Flag
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what does couture gardening even mean? this is why i can never move to brooklyn, i just don't get it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:08 PM Flag
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No one in Manhattan would ever say such a thing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:10 PM Flag
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This is why? Get over yourself lady [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:10 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:09 PM Flag
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She's just not leaving them for the next person? This is so mean and sick. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:10 PM Flag
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I just got an email from a Brooklyn friend who just had a baby today and named the baby the most Brooklyn contrived name you've ever heard and I wondered the same thing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:27 PM Flag
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So gross on so many levels. Who sells plants??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:42 PM Flag
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It's like a secondhand nursery. I wouldn't really call it gross. Plants are expensive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:45 PM Flag
[ - ] Thoughts on Raquette Lake Camp? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I went 25 yrs ago. Was nice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:22 PM Flag
[ - ] thank you, sleepaway camp, for posting pics of DD on your website!! finally! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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lucky you. my dcs sleepaway doesn't do that and i'm dying to know how he's doing. waiting for his letter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:26 PM Flag
[ - ] I have a crush on James Franco and the sales guy at the store kind of looks like him. Well he rang up my size 8 pants and ran away after flirting. Oh well. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 06:56 PM Flag
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He ran away because you are old. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 06:57 PM Flag
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And size 8 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:11 PM Flag
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NP -- oh, please. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:27 PM Flag
[ - ] I hate hate the Kardashians! Why are these people famous? Their immoral lives are posted everywhere everyday. Now Kourtney is separating from her baby daddy who apparently was always an alcoholic. And she had 3 kids with him because...? What a dumb, naive twit that girl is. I didn't even need to click on all the links on yahoo, CNN, etc. the headlines say it all. SO tired of these women and I don't even follow them. When will their 15 minutes of fame be up? 45 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I feel so bad for the kids. [ Reply | More ]
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Why? They are going to grow up leading a very privileged life and Kourtney seems to be a very good mother. [ Reply | More ]
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OMG. Just stop! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:12 PM Flag
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OMG bc their father is probably going to die of a drug overdose [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:13 PM Flag
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This. And they're fame whores, spoiled, entitled. That woman is not a good mother. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:16 PM Flag
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Shes certainly not a responsible mother if she had a third baby with this man. She is selfish and just wanted to have another baby and knew her time was running out and probably wanted them to all have the same father [ Reply | More ]
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She's still young though. Is her time running out? She could have dumped this guy a long time ago. She would have had plenty of time to find a nice decent man, though highly doubt one would want to date her. She never should have had children with this guy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:26 PM Flag
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Shes 36 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:27 PM Flag
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I feel much worse for kids who grow up with nothing and their dad dies of violence, drugs, etc. Those are the types of kids who will have a much more difficult time. Not the Kardashian kids. Come on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:23 PM Flag
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They are growing up with drugs! You honestly think the Kardashian kids will be great citizens?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:29 PM Flag
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Whoa, lady. I didn't say they would be great citizens, I'm just saying there are a lot more people in this world to feel sorry for than the Kardashian kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:41 PM Flag
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I know, I am also very sick of them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:01 PM Flag
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KK is hardly the first person to divorce after having children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:01 PM Flag
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np they were never married. she was probably concerned about his behavior back then and didn't want to marry until he cleaned up his act. but then why have DC with him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:06 PM Flag
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Probably thought he would change, or didn't realize how bad the issue was, or whatever. Again, she's hardly the first person to make this mistake [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:10 PM Flag
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3 kids?! She's a jack ass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:12 PM Flag
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Yes. Lots of people with 3 kids get divorced. It happens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:21 PM Flag
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She knew beforehand that this guy is an addict and loser. She's selfish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:24 PM Flag
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np. I don't know. I've seen lots of people make poor choices for husbands/fathers because they are blinded by love. She certainly isn't the first. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:39 PM Flag
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This. And she tricked him into the third for sure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:21 PM Flag
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they aren't married. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:27 PM Flag
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np. I disagree. I don't think he seems like the type who cares about how many kids he is going to have. He isn't paying for them anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:39 PM Flag
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Why does this make her a jack ass? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:40 PM Flag
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Because she's vile and beyond self centered. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:10 PM Flag
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Please explain how she is vile and self centered? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:40 PM Flag
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She wasn't even married to him. She'll gloated about not getting married. She's an asshole. I feel awful for their kids. She should have had her tubes tied years ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:06 PM Flag
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Why should she have her tubes tied? Please explain. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:24 PM Flag
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Uhhhhhh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:29 PM Flag
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They can't divorce because they never married [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:09 PM Flag
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I hate the fact that they're reproducing. They should be sterile. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:07 PM Flag
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People on here say all the time that they want to have all their kids with the same man. Sounds like you guys have more in common than you want to admit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:08 PM Flag
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Really lame attempt at sticking-up for her. He was/is an alcoholic, low life, partier and she decides to have not one, but three kids with him!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:11 PM Flag
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You say you hate them yet you keep on talking about them. That's why they are famous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:09 PM Flag
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Op: I never talk about them. This is my first post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:13 PM Flag
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You are talking about them right now. So never is inaccurate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:22 PM Flag
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Now I am yes. I've just had it. Going to the grocery store and their face is planted on magazines. Go online and there they are! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:24 PM Flag
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So don't talk about them, then. But you are clearly interested or you wouldn't have posted. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:38 PM Flag
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Interested in them, no? Can't someone be annoyed with assholes in the media constantly? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:42 PM Flag
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Go away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:42 PM Flag
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This. You are wasting too much time thinking about them. Change the channel, focus elsewhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:41 PM Flag
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They appeal to the low-class, low-IQ demographic that watches a lot of trashy TV. I mean, their first big encounter with fame came after one of the daughters leaked a sex video online. Can't start out much trashier than that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:35 PM Flag
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I'll take the "trashy" label, fine. But some days I need to unwind and I like a little trashy TV (like Keeping Up). Ha! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:41 PM Flag
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I hate them and I'm on Scott's side in this one. He actually has a funny personality and is smart as opposed to kourtney who speaks in this nasal monotone and seems slow. Both his parents died recently, a month apart or something, and he is just out of control grieving and drinking. He needs help and she is not emotionally supportive at all. Always kept him at arms length, never marrying him and sleeping in separate bedrooms except when she wanted his sperm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:37 PM Flag
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They slept in separate bedrooms? Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:43 PM Flag
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Her voice is like nails on a chalkboard. Can't stand the way she talks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:43 PM Flag
[ - ] NJ rewards violence against women: "NJ cop suspended with pay for 8 years over sex assault charge — and now he wants unused vacation pay." How fucked up it's this? Is USA becoming... Albania?? http://www.rawstory.com/2015/07/nj-cop-suspended-with-pay-for-8-years-over-sex-assault-charge-and-now-he-wants-unused-vacation-pay/?utm_source=twitterfeed&utm_medium=twitter 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Cops in NJ are a different breed. They get away with an astonishing amount of stuff. Recently a few NJ cops were drinking at a strip club on Staten Island. They got so loaded that the driver got onto the highway going the wrong way, against traffic, and got into an accident that killed two of his cop buddies. Somehow alcohol tests weren't done on him after the accident, he claims that the photos of the six drinks he put on Facebook that night were his buddy's drinks, and the investigation went nowhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 06:57 PM Flag
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He had a .24 - and is still on the payroll. They did do the tests but he has yet to be punished. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:26 PM Flag
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The mayor of Hoboken was dethroned after a few weeks when caught for bribery by the FBI. He walked away with like 20k in vacation pay. They said it was cheaper to pay him out than to pay for the lawsuit when he sued them for it. Pathetic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:12 PM Flag
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Peter Cammarano? He went to jail. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:24 PM Flag
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He went to jail with 20K + in vacation pay after working for 2 or 3 weeks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Thank you notes. I know, I know I have no culture but I am here to learn. How do you determine when you should send a thank you note? Is a thank you note a handwritten on pretty stationary or is it the hallmark card kind? Does an email count? Examples would be helpful. Thanks! 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 06:48 PM Flag
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Buy a box of cheerful blank cards from Marshalls or someplace. No need for the embossed William Ashley business. Distribute freely. Three lines, handwritten. The end. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 06:54 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 06:56 PM Flag
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Thanks. I know this is obvious to others, but do you mail it or do you drive by and drop it off. Sorry in advance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 06:58 PM Flag
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mail it the day after. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:01 PM Flag
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Mostly mail, you can drop off but it sort of ruins the 'surprise' of it. No need to apologize. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:02 PM Flag
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Just a note that it's spelled "stationery." Spelled the other way, (with an "a"), it means not moving. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 06:59 PM Flag
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HAHA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:01 PM Flag
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got it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:01 PM Flag
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OR, she's simply looking for some friendly advice, no need to be an asshole. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:17 PM Flag
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NP - an email is way, way better than nothing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:03 PM Flag
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and both is even better! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.07.15, 07:11 PM Flag
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Handwritten note - anytime someone gives you a gift or does something nice for you out of their way. Not necessary for Christmas or any time where gifts are exchanged. Type of card doesn't matter - box of cards or individual. Email is okay if it's something small - but handwritten note is better. Email or verbal is always better than nothing at all. [ Reply | More ]
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