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[ - ] Nest from ditmas park for K? Commute ok? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:25 PM Flag
[ - ] My MIL keeps insisting that she wants to babysit my baby, so that she can "get to know him." I don't trust her because I let her babysit my eldest DC and she allowed SIL's dog (boxer) to wrestle him when he was 14mo. WWYD? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:08 PM Flag
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General Topics 05.30.15, 10:09 PM Flag
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Was your child haremed? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:09 PM Flag
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No, but he is incredibly allergic, so MIL gave him a benadryl - which I have asked her not to do since he is on asthma medication. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:11 PM Flag
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See - here's the thing. It's hard to take you seriously. I vote for MIL. She raised the man you pro rested with and hasn't harmed a child yet [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:12 PM Flag
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irrelevant, just because we didn't all die riding around without car seats doesn't mean we don't need car seats. Just because something bad didn't happen doesn't mean it can't or won't. Giving medication that op has advised clashes with other medication is dangerous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:20 PM Flag
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We will have to agree to disagree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:23 PM Flag
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I found this post funny, in a good way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Re: the Baltimore crime crisis. Why does it take heavy-handed policing to keep Baltimorons from MURDERING each other? We should stop and think about how insane that is. If the cops stopped patrolling your area, would your first impulse be to grab your gun and start shooting your neighbors? Of course not. People should not need heavy policing to refrain from MURDER. They should have better morals than that. We need to hold Baltimore and other similar cities to higher standards. It's not unreasonable to expect their citizens to behave morally, police presence or not. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:07 PM Flag
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These people are opprossed black and the violence in these neighborhoods has existed for decades. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:09 PM Flag
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They mostly seem to oppress themselves through their own violent irrational conduct. America is a wealthy developed first-world welfare state. They have no excuse to be doing what they are doing in terms of violence. People in the slums of BANGLADESH don't even gun each other down like they do in American ghettos, and they have to contend with their own kids dying of malaria and typhus! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:11 PM Flag
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Do they have easy access to guns in Bangladesh? That's an honest question. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:14 PM Flag
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please give an example of how you would hold baltimorans to a higher standard. thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:12 PM Flag
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I would stop trying to coddle/"reform" selfish criminals and would crack down on them with the full fury of federal law enforcement, for one thing. So you like to shoot at people? Life without parole. Murder? Death penalty under AEDPA. Get the violent element off the streets so the normal people can live in peace. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:14 PM Flag
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what is the point of this post? awfully idealistic, and thus irrelevant to UB [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:13 PM Flag
[ - ] Running moms, my shorts are always riding up when I run. Can you please recommend a brand that works for you? i've tried Nike, Brooks, Adidas and they're all the same. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:02 PM Flag
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I wear short leggings underneath running shorts. I bought both from Lululemon, but I'm sure other brands would work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:04 PM Flag
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Doesn't it feel hotter with two layers? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:05 PM Flag
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No, they are incredibly lightweight. The shorts are practically tissue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:06 PM Flag
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thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:08 PM Flag
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why bother with the shorts then? wouldn't it be more comfortable to just run in the leggings (if you are wearing both)? np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:21 PM Flag
[ - ] Mil says to me, "The boys are so dark now they look like little Indians." Then she made a little "Indian" whooping call. I find this annoying, She's such an embarrassing person. FWIW, I am brown, so obviously, the kids are going to be dark. DH is white, fwiw. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:56 PM Flag
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Um. Not just embarrassing. Ignorant and racist come to mind? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:00 PM Flag
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Yes, I know. How would you have addressed this? I was so surprised, I didn't even say anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:03 PM Flag
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She'll be dead soon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:01 PM Flag
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Hardly. I'm the one with the 53yo MIL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:03 PM Flag
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Are you the one with all kids who are blonde and blue eyed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:02 PM Flag
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No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:03 PM Flag
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She's dumb [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:03 PM Flag
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That's funny. Someday you will be embarrassing! Take it with a grain of salt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:03 PM Flag
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Funny to a white person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:04 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:06 PM Flag
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Exactly. Rude as fuck to anyone else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:06 PM Flag
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Precisely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:07 PM Flag
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your comment is equally inappropriate [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:06 PM Flag
[ - ] So the message I'm getting from the 'we fake our leases' crowd is: "Corporate america/white people/hedge fund. Thus, we cheated to get our kids into a different school." Which is also pretty funny because school is all about teaching kids not to cheat, to be honest etc. So you just cheated to get your kids into a better school, which is now probably a worse school because your kid is in it. But you have to admit, the argument is pretty solid. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:55 PM Flag
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Not so bright, you are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:59 PM Flag
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It could be you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:25 PM Flag
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Okay Pollyanna. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:00 PM Flag
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I didn't post on that thread. I disagree that school is about teaching children not to cheat. That a moral thing and I find morals are taught at home. And, cheating is almost encouraged in places like STUY. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:04 PM Flag
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You disagree that school is about teaching children not to cheat? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:24 PM Flag
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Don't know how white people/hedge funds, etc. = "we cheated". The really wealthy are heading to private school and the address does not matter. Do you think that the OP from below is a millionaire on Park Ave. offering this address to her best buddy single black mother from Harlem? It is so hard to keep kids from telling the truth, organizing playdates, etc. They will get caught and they deserve to, IMO. And the embarassed will be the kids, unfortunately-- when the crime perpetrator is the resident. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:16 PM Flag
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You won't like this, but it's not that hard to get away with. Your kid isn't grilled by anyone about where they live. They truly aren't. And DOE allows you to move and stay in school so it only goes on foe a brief time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:22 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anybody have any thoughts/opinions/experience with Deerfield Academy, Groton, or Lawrenceville? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 05.30.15, 09:50 PM Flag
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Best schools in the country. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:54 PM Flag
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They all suck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:59 PM Flag
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They're all equal in terms of college admissions. If you can get into any of them, it mostly becomes a commute question for your dc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:55 PM Flag
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We live in Princeton so I'm partial to L'ville for it's ideal location. NYC, Philadelphia and the beach are all close by. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:06 PM Flag
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Depends what personality your dc has and what his/her interests are. All are excellent schools, but of widely varying sizes and culture. I have looked at them all and have friends with dc's at them all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:09 PM Flag
[ - ] What do you do when someone says "I have never failed at anything." I feel an immediate disconnect because I have failed at so many things--then rebounded. I am not sure how to read a person who has never failed. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:49 PM Flag
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Eh what is "completely failing" at something anyway. You can always be sort of being successful at something until that actual time when it just isn't working out for you because of things that are totally not your fault. If I met someone who said they had "never failed" I think I would just be like, that person is an idiot and a blowhard and has no idea how they sound to anyone listening to them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:00 PM Flag
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Would you hire them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:08 PM Flag
[ - ] Nest 6th grade entry: how many kids got in for fall 2015? Does anyone know what the qualifying score was? TIA. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 05.30.15, 09:46 PM Flag
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And 7th grade. Anyone heard anything? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:26 PM Flag
[ - ] Old nanny asks to visit all the time and its usually inconvenient for us. My dh is out of town so I invited her to come for a few hours to watch the kids. I was going to pay her. She came and just chatted with me as I fed and dressed kids then I gave her money, they went and had icecream and now are watching cartoons on the sofa. She clearly doesn't see this as a work thing. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:45 PM Flag
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clearly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:52 PM Flag
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I wonder why she took the money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:53 PM Flag
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What do you mean? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:57 PM Flag
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Sorry I read the post too quickly. I thought she came by to visit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:00 PM Flag
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I think that she sees it as a visit. YOu will need to be clear if you "hire' her again that you have somewhere to go and she can 'watch' the kids rather than "visit' with them. Sorry that this happened to you- what a dissappointment! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:00 PM Flag
[ - ] I just bought a diet coke and a big mac at a McD drive thru and I feel pretty good about having actually done the receipt survey. Hey free 2 quarter pounders with cheese for 1. Done! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:39 PM Flag
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WTF are you talking about? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:44 PM Flag
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Don't you ever get receipts where they ask you to fill out the survey? I can't get out of a Staples or Home Depot without someone telling me it's just a lottery to win a gift card. At least McD's tells you that you WILL get an egg mcmuffin at half price if you fill out the survey. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:51 PM Flag
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I hope that your hips feel as "good" as you do about that Big Mac PLYS the upcoming 2-for-1 special on MORE burgers! (Didn't you seen the post about the yummy rasberry smoothie? Nothing register there?) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:02 PM Flag
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^plus [ Reply | More ]
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:49 PM Flag
[ - ] Luckily we have money and are at a top private. If I was a lower income mother I would do what I had to for my child, I went to a crappy public school where I learned absolutely nothing and got beat up every other day. I would NEVER put my kids though that, even if I had to be 'dishonest'. 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:27 PM Flag
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Agreed and we are also at private. The system is unfair. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:28 PM Flag
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Unfair system but sounds like you did just fine without learning to lie and cheat and having another family have to lie and cheat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:29 PM Flag
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I went through years of psychological and physical trauma, I didn't do "just fine". I managed to succeed later on in life, but that doesn't erase how awful those years of school were. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:31 PM Flag
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^I was constantly bored, the teachers were awful, I broke a few bones, my best friend was stabbed... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:33 PM Flag
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She's probably one our of many who didn't manage to overcome their pitiful start. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:32 PM Flag
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Yes, most of my friends, even those who were pretty smart, got sucked down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:36 PM Flag
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Exactly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:44 PM Flag
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You do what you have to for your children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:29 PM Flag
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Or you don't. A lot of people wouldn't be willing to compromise their integrity for something even as important as education. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:45 PM Flag
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Integrity is a right of the privileged. You would understand this if you had been raised differently...I have spent an extensive time surrounded by utter poverty as part of my work and people will sacrifice a lot to survive. You do what you have to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:48 PM Flag
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Hm, you know what that's a pretty good point. I still think it's lame. Especially with the types of arguments people are making - 'the system is rigged against me' kind of shit. It lends it a level of sophistication that I think makes it inexcusable. Because they are condoning their actions with the help of a worldview that is pretty rickety. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:19 PM Flag
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can you please share with us an example of what one would do to make money by being dishonest? About 50% of Americans make minimum or near minimum wage, meaning a couple with two kids has to work 100 hours a week just to survive bare minimum, and that includes 450 per month foodstamps and medicaid. The only way to cheat is to steal lunch, if a grocery store for instance. or steal someone' purse at work or similar. If they do this, they eventually are caught and fired. How does this help send their two kids to private school for 80k per year? Thanks for your thoughts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:41 PM Flag
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We're not talking about that. We're talking about faking residency to get into a good zone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:43 PM Flag
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how in the world would anybody know which dishonest act, of the millions of possibilities, you are talking about? we can't read minds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:01 PM Flag
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Using a fake lease to send your kid to a better school and stealing lunch/a purse are two very different things but I think you know this. - np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:43 PM Flag
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excuse me? faking your lease is ten times worst than stealing lunch! you are stealing 80k versus a $5 lunch. do you think you are above the law because you are rich? look what happened to the jews in nazi germany that thought they were held to different standards than gentiles. are you all jewish? i am one quarter jewish so you cannot call me anti-semite, or jail me for being a holocaust denier, like they can in most european countries. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:06 PM Flag
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I didn't follow this - could you clarify what you are asking? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:47 PM Flag
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You got beat up in ELEMENTARY school? In Kindergarten? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:59 PM Flag
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4th grade. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:11 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:11 PM Flag
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Integrity is at stake when you are not worried about survival. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:00 PM Flag
[ - ] If your in laws live within 1.5 hours of you how often do you or do they expect youto spend a full weekend at their home. My in laws keep pressuring us to visit repeatedly. I enjoy our visits for the most part but DH works every weekend unless we are on vacation so I'm eager to have some quiet and private family and couple time where I also don't have to feel like I'm "on" the few weekends he does take off rather than spending most of our free weekends with his parents. We just had a baby which is compounding the problem tenfold. Am I being selfish? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:22 PM Flag
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I would never spend time with my IL without DH. You are very accommodating! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:24 PM Flag
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Sorry if I wasn't clear. I do spend some alone time with them at my home because I'm on maternity leave and want them to have ample time to bond with the baby who they adore but they keep inviting us to spend weekends at their home. DH has very few weekends where he doesn't work so we would essentially end up spending all of our free time (especially when I return to work) with his parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:28 PM Flag
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That is too much - even if they are nice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:29 PM Flag
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I agree it's just awkward because they just keep suggesting weekends where we don't have concrete plans unless a vacation is planned DH will usually say sounds good but we have to play it by ear with work or if I'm not around will say I have to check with work and DW and then it seems like it's my fault if we turn them down or they get really dissapointed if he ends up having to work. Or alternatively we end up spending all of our free weekends that we are in town with them. I suspect DH is somewhat happy to agree when he's not working becuase they cater to him (cook, clean, rock the baby constantly, ect and since they are his parents he doesn't have to try and impress them. He sits on the couch and relaxes most of the time while I'm constabtky asked to partake in female bonding activities - cooking, errands ect) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:36 PM Flag
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Every time we are together they pull out a calendar to try and book the next weekend visit with us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:30 PM Flag
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I let DH go without me. I have my mother come here. I am the breadwinner and exhausted weekends. I tried doing that weekends during my maternity leave and none of them would lift a finger and DH would just leave for "errands." Newborn was tough enough but the packing and the nursing and the lack of sleep and the baby adjustment with one pair of hands was not at all fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:33 PM Flag
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That's how I feel. They haven't offered to help in any substantial way and I end up going out of my way (preparing apps, cleaning the house ect wen they visit). I'll continue to do so without complaining other than on urban baby but I don't want to travel with a young baby and stay in someone else's home. And I miss my DH and want to spend time alone with him. His parents are really focused on this girls time and guys time and his mom often tries to separate us when we visit. It's bizzare. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:39 PM Flag
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And you just reminded me of the nursing issue. I'm nursing abd pumping. MIL is very conserverative and "modest" so I basically have to hide in a back bedroom half the day to nurse and pump. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:41 PM Flag
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Once a quarter. No more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:43 PM Flag
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Including holidays? That sounds reasonable to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:43 PM Flag
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Yes, so if I saw them at Xmas that would be it for a couple of months. 1.5 hours is not that close and I am protective of my free time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:46 PM Flag
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I need to grow more of a backbone rather than agreeing and then feeling resentful after the fact. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:47 PM Flag
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1.5 hrs is not that far either - it's fine if you don't want to spend every weekend with them, limit it to once a month [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:50 PM Flag
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My DH doesn't even take once a month off from work. Even once every 6-8 weeks would end up taking up every free weekend we have together as a family. The bulk of his business and income producing client interactions occurs on Saturdays and Sundays. If he had a normal M-f 40-50 hour job I would feel very differently. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:53 PM Flag
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if he is working that many weekends, yes you guys deserve your alone time...his parents should be understanding of that, does he get other days off during the week? or is he working 7 days? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:05 PM Flag
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At this point he is basically working 7 days. He'll usually burn out after ten days and yake a day off to rest/sleep. He's working in a new position and is 100% commission so he feels quite a bit of pressure. Especially since I'm taking two months off unpaid and we need to pay for two months of COBRa. He just took three weeks off with me and the baby and we went through thousands of dollars in savings since my maternity leave income does not cover all of put expenses. It barely covers our rent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:12 PM Flag
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Np: and in invite them for a single night and dinner sometimes...don't create the habit of you always having to do the driving. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:56 PM Flag
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Thanks for the suggestion. We unfortunately don't have the space for them to spend the night in our apt but we can certainly accommodate them for an entire day which we have done repeatedly and which I invite them to do while DH is working since I'm on maternity leave. We/I see them once a week at this point but they are still pushing for weekend visits at their house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:00 PM Flag
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No thanks, I'm good with once a quarter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:01 PM Flag
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Are you the same wa with your parents? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:03 PM Flag
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We don't have any overnight visits with my parents. They live closer and in an apt as well. At this point we spend far more extended time including holidays with DH's parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:07 PM Flag
[ - ] Fashion and Style Truth Time - After being out and about today in this gorgeous weather I just have to say: 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:15 PM Flag
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Ringer tees look good on no one. Ever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:15 PM Flag
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What's a ringer tee? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:18 PM Flag
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Think the iconic picture of John Lennon in the New York City tee...has a band around the neck and sleeves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:19 PM Flag
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Skinny little children look cute in them, but otherwise? No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:45 PM Flag
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Grown women in rompers: You look ridiculous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:16 PM Flag
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You have the cutest top on ever and then your bra strap sticking out ruins the whole look. Why can't anyone wear proper undergarments? Will a strapless bra seriously kill you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:16 PM Flag
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This! Or even worse - the entire back of the bra is showing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:30 PM Flag
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No one needs shorts that short. It's weird when you are over 30, and it's just as weird when you are a tween/ teenage girl. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:17 PM Flag
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Blue toenail polish looks stupid [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:17 PM Flag
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I think I agree with you. It's my favorite color in the bottle, but later I look at my feet and it doesn't look good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:20 PM Flag
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Totally disagree. A deep navy is gorgeous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:21 PM Flag
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It looks weird. - np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:22 PM Flag
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NP: saw some cobalt blue and turquoise today. Loved them both. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:31 PM Flag
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I hate the weird printed exercise tights trend. I can't imagine walking around with a graphic of outer space all over my thighs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:18 PM Flag
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Cat suits aren't for everyone. Geez. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:18 PM Flag
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Agree. And I do not intend to be "fat shaming" anyone either. I'm no size zero, myself. There is no reason to squeeze 1ten pounds of sausage into a five pound casing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:21 PM Flag
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I am far from a size zero but why don't people wear clothes that are flattering? - OR [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:23 PM Flag
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Seriously...I'm all for being proud of the body you have. Just put some damn clothes on it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:26 PM Flag
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I disagree with almost all of these. You guys sound like summertime grinches. Summer clothes are supposed to be comfortable and fun! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:23 PM Flag
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Can you not have fun without your ass and bra hanging out of your clothes? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:25 PM Flag
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I don't wear short shorts personally, but if you have the thighs for it I see nothing wrong with it. Nor do I give a damn about bra straps. Chacun à son goût. I think it's hideous and bizarre that people think yoga clothes are appropriate attire for walking around the city, but that doesn't stop anyone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:29 PM Flag
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Pigtails and braids on adult women. Especially with gray hair at the same time. Not the "purposefully colored" gray (which is a whole other weird trend.) The "eh, fuck it, I'm married and don't give a shit anymore" turning gray. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:28 PM Flag
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I haven't seen pigtails on grown women. Braids can be nice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:31 PM Flag
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Especially a fishtail braid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:54 PM Flag
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LOL I am picturing you all in Bermuda shorts from LL Bean, sensible shoes, and boxy, high necked, three quarter sleeve tees. What a Puritan crowd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:36 PM Flag
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Seriously? Just let people be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:04 PM Flag
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Oh gee, you're right. We should all just let people be. Isn't this the "let people be and happy rainbows and unicorns " message board? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:19 PM Flag
[ - ] We received a thank you note in the mail from a bride. DD 11 wanted to read it, I handed it to her and she said "I can't read cursive, what does it say." It's true, folks, no more cursive. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:03 PM Flag
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You should see my teen try to sign his name! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:10 PM Flag
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I have had to sign things for my teenage son. I basically just pretend I am using a crayon and my left hand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:16 PM Flag
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hahahaha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:42 PM Flag
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OR: lol! Although I should have said that ds can READ cursive fine in the rare times that is called for. But can't write it at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:59 PM Flag
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That is nuts. on the other hand I don't know if I can still write cursive. I guess it will be considered like calligraphy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:12 PM Flag
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My DD can read cursive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:12 PM Flag
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Did she learn it in school? Serious Q [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:16 PM Flag
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np: my 4th grader is learning it in school. (LA private.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:23 PM Flag
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thank god. it was such a waste of time and is a completely pointless medium. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:25 PM Flag
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np. Considering that it was meant to be a means of saving time writing things out by hand, it is definitely now as outdated as shorthand. Which was still being used by the secretaries of the older attorneys in my firm as recently as the 90s. I went to a girls high school in the 80s. We were required to learn typing so that we would always have "something to fall back on." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:37 PM Flag
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My 2nd grader can read it, and no, they haven't learned it in school, and we didn't teach her at home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:31 PM Flag
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I am 49, and did not learn cursive and find it hard to read. Old fashioned IMO. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:33 PM Flag
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My child can read and write. I taught him in 3rd grade. I can't imagine raiding a child who couldn't write a thank you note [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:39 PM Flag
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You raised your child to write cursive thank you notes? printed ones aren't good enough? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:52 PM Flag
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Well, yes beginning in 3rd he switched to cursive, but I was actually referring to when he was grown [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:09 PM Flag
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an 11 year old that cannot read cursive is just lazy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:56 PM Flag
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They don't teach it no more, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:59 PM Flag
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Wait-- with the handwriting recognition tablets-- wouldn't it again be a good idea to teach this to kids so that they CAN sign their names or write more quickly than printing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:09 PM Flag
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it would be full of errors wouldn't it? everyone writes cursive so differently and it requires interpretation and context to read it. I guess some people write it faster but not that much faster right? A lot of time goes into learning it, and I literally type as fast as I think.. but I'm a programmer so type for a living. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Man, there are a lot of retards on this board. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 08:57 PM Flag
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As a very important attorney, I prefer to be as accurate as possible with language. I think you mean to say "bored people with nothing more important to do" and I would prefer it if you used that from this point forward. thank you for your consideration. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:00 PM Flag
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Oh, nice to meet you "very important attorney"! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:03 PM Flag
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I am pleased to meet you, as well. Although your exclamation point should be within the quote marks. That is the most correct. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:15 PM Flag
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If you can not place your quote marks correctly clearly you are low tone with veal children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Fake lease for school placement is totally offensive. What is the point of your life if you are just going to cheat your way through it? What are you teaching your child? So low class, people. 99 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 08:49 PM Flag
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Nobody cares what you think. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 08:50 PM Flag
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I think you would find that fairly hard to prove. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 08:51 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 08:55 PM Flag
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I guess there's just a lot of WT on today. Go figure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 08:56 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:27 PM Flag
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What's more offensive is kids being subjected to subpar schools because of their lack of money or inability to secure a G&T spot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 08:55 PM Flag
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You're not entitled to anything. Work for better schools - this is a democracy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 08:57 PM Flag
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You are not entitled to anything either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 08:59 PM Flag
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Ok? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:02 PM Flag
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she wasn't asking for anything [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:12 PM Flag
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That's where you are wrong. The point of public schools was to provide a decent education regardless of class. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 08:59 PM Flag
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Right. So fix the schools. Don't cheat to get by in life. Do I really have to tell you this, what are you like four? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:02 PM Flag
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You must be four if you think everyone plays bu the rules -- four and born with a silver spoon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:03 PM Flag
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Maybe you are broke because you have no integrity or self-respect. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:04 PM Flag
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Integrity and self-respect have nothing to do with being successful or wealthy. Stop pretending. We all lived through 2008. The jig is up! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:10 PM Flag
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Got it - the hedge fund guys made you lie about your address so your kid could get into school. Seems very logical. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:13 PM Flag
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No, you don't get. Plus there is more than one poster on here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:16 PM Flag
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I don't get why someone would want to teach their kids that the way to go through life is to cheat - be they a hedge funder or someone getting a fake electricity bill to cheat the school system. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:23 PM Flag
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+10000000. Absolutely disgusted at what has become of my country by you crooks, as exemplified by these psychopathic posts [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:26 PM Flag
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+10000000. Absolutely disgusted at what has become of my country by you crooks, as exemplified by these psychopathic posts [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:26 PM Flag
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You must be four if you think everyone plays bu the rules -- four and born with a silver spoon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:03 PM Flag
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this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:12 PM Flag
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What's more offensive is kids being subjected to subpar schools because of their lack of money or inability to secure a G&T spot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 08:55 PM Flag
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Maybe their kids aren't very bright? Isn't G&T 'Gifted and Talented'? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:23 PM Flag
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If you live in a bad zone, your application for SA goes to a lower ranking. SA is not a guaranteed option for anyone in a poor/bad zone. We were also WL for 3 other smaller charters. Talk about unfair. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 08:56 PM Flag
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The sad thing is that Success Academy used to give lottery priority to children zoned for failing public schools. But then they realized that meant they were getting too many poor kids and they had horrible suspension and attrition rates. So instead they dropped that priority for "district priority" and located most of their newer schools in districts with much fewer poor students. That's why every child who lives in District 3 can get into UWSA eventually since the in-district demand is not that great -- even though they don't really need the school nearly as much as the poor students in other districts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:02 PM Flag
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^correction: Most of their newer schools are not in the districts where the majority of failing schools are. Those districts don't get Success Academy schools very often, if at all, but District 2 will get 3 of them! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:04 PM Flag
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What about people who pay $2000 for G&T prep? Is that low class, too? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 08:56 PM Flag
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No, it isn't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 08:59 PM Flag
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I think it is. There are a few really dumb kids in my DD's class who got over prepped and don't belong there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:05 PM Flag
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Won't the school just find out about the lease? We had someone do this in our town and they found out and kicked the kid out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:00 PM Flag
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Yup. And then the parents whose kid got kicked out will whine about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:01 PM Flag
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It's different in the suburbs. The DOE is one school system. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:02 PM Flag
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Yes. In NYC the DOE does not care. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:05 PM Flag
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It is a jewish thing. Jewish kids at my med school applied and got welfare and food stamps. The rest never even thought to apply even though we had zero income and were unemployed. Check out Memorial Sloane Kettering that is forced to take Medicaid..all the hassids go there. They have a whole network of how to work and cheat the system. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:03 PM Flag
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Ohh yeahhh, it's a Jewish thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:06 PM Flag
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Not all jews but a small portion of Hasids. They are really good at avoiding taxes and bending rules and taking advantage of regular taxpayers. http://www.thisamericanlife.org/radio-archives/episode/534/a-not-so-simple-majority They screwed East Ramapo and screw anyone and just don't think laws or ethics apply. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:23 PM Flag
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^And yes the DOE should have great schools for all considering we are supposed to be the richest country and building roads and starting wars all over the place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:24 PM Flag
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Damn Jews! They'll die in hellfire and damnation! Ugh I hate those Jewwws! :(:(:( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:26 PM Flag
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None of them are faking leases to go to doe schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:16 PM Flag
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ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:20 PM Flag
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I don't see the problem. Since the city has refused to bring its public schools up to a reasonable level, parents who actually care about their kids have to adapt to the reality and do what must be done. Simple as that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:04 PM Flag
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This. Does OP think lower - income parents care less about their children's future than she does? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:05 PM Flag
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I didn't think it in the first place, but it is now being proved. You are teaching your children a completely dishonest way to go through life. Congratulations! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:07 PM Flag
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Not like a hedge funder at all! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:08 PM Flag
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Who's a hedge funder? Are we just spewing non-sequiters now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:09 PM Flag
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I didn't have to do that for my children but I can totally understand why someone would. You are pretty self-important if you think anyone would weigh your ridicule over their children's futures. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:09 PM Flag
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I would only thing they would have some self-respect as they go about life. But I guess that is a little much to ask, this being UB and all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:13 PM Flag
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I teach my kids to look out for themselves and not to let powerful institutions push them around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:13 PM Flag
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That's good. They need to operate within the same bounds as everyone else, though. They can't cheat when they don't get their way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:28 PM Flag
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NP: Luckily we have money and are at a top private. If I was a lower income mother I would do what I had to for my child, I went to a crappy public school where I learned absolutely nothing and got beat up every other day. I would NEVER put my kids though that, even if I had to be 'dishonest'. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:25 PM Flag
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Got it, so cheat when you don't get what you want. Great message. Have you tested that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:06 PM Flag
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It works for white people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:08 PM Flag
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Wow, such intellect on this board. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:10 PM Flag
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Do you honestly think paying POC less than whites is not cheating? What about higher interest rates on their mortgages? Or preventing them from moving into certain buildings? Is that not cheating? How about charging them more for lower quality housing? Cheating? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:12 PM Flag
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I think you are mixing up a lot of different issues, and it is not serving your argument well. All I can tell is that lying about your address is fully and obviously cheating. But you already know that! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:15 PM Flag
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We tried all kinds of minority-lending programs during the last housing bubble. Needless to say, those ideas were a failure. It turns out that higher mortgage lending standards benefit the economy as a whole, even if they lead to "disparate impact." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:15 PM Flag
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Oh dear. You are one of those people who don't read much, yes? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:17 PM Flag
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She sounds like the opposite. She sounds like she does read a lot. Everyone else on this thread seems half-retarded. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:19 PM Flag
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Well put, brainiac! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:20 PM Flag
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Thanks! :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:24 PM Flag
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Do you honestly think that mortgage interest rates are based on "race" and not on risk profiles/statistical data? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:27 PM Flag
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ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:29 PM Flag
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Are you serious? Have you ever had a real job or worked in corporate America? Do you really believe this world is a meritocracy or based on honesty? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:10 PM Flag
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No! I've never worked in corporate America. What does that have to do with anything? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:11 PM Flag
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hahahahaha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:13 PM Flag
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Ohh, so you want to cheat your kid into school so he can eventually get a job in corporate America? Where they cheat? Which you hate, but 'that is just the way the world is' and you want your kid to cheat like everyone else. I guess I see the way you view the world now. It's pretty grim! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:17 PM Flag
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I can tell you that people like you are breaking down the social fabric. So is corporate America. I am neither. I think we are getting things a little bit mixed up, no? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:11 PM Flag
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Keep things in their lane? Stick to a discreet issue? Don't complicate things? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:14 PM Flag
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Ok, it looks like the trolls have taken over. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:16 PM Flag
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You are the troll. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:18 PM Flag
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Maybe you can explain what ideas you are trying to put forth with three questions? I have no idea what you are implying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:20 PM Flag
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That conflating race and class overwhelms your understanding of poverty and how it occurs. That mix complicates an essentialist reading of racial difference as deficiency and implicates racists and racists policy as contributing sources to poverty within urban communities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:22 PM Flag
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I really don't give a shit about any of that. I just don't think someone should cheat to get their kid into a different school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:33 PM Flag
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Exactly my point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:35 PM Flag
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No we are not. You are not operating in the real world and have obviously been protected by privilege. People do what they have to. If that's low-class so be it. And if you think the social fabric was ever in tact or fair you are also naive as all heck. Read "Our Kids: The American Dream in Crisis" and get a clue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:15 PM Flag
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I'm as much in the real world as you are. I know how messed up the system is; it's not an excuse to go about life in a dishonest manner, I'm sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:21 PM Flag
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I hope you remember and practice this everyday. Because you wouldn't want to be a hypocrite, would you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:23 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:28 PM Flag
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I'm not a hypocrite. Not sure what makes you think that I am? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:33 PM Flag
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Well, I hope being better than everyone else soothes your dismay at an unjust system. Hey, at least you are awesome. Everyone else can go to heck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:27 PM Flag
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Yeah, at least I only have to associate with your type on the internet! Way to put a positive spin on it. Have fun being human garbage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:34 PM Flag
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You called me garbage because we disagree. Your language reflects on you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:47 PM Flag
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And you, your actions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:49 PM Flag
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I said there was more than one poster on here. This is not my situation. But I do have empathy for those who are faced with poor options for their children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:58 PM Flag
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Empathy, yes. That's as far as I go, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:23 PM Flag
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Sorry I don't think you're garbage. These things can get a little out of control. I don't take well to sarcasm. I don't even know you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:51 PM Flag
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You are hilarious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:50 PM Flag
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Hilarious like 'what is this person on?' or hilarious like 'this person is pretty funny, they are making me laugh.' I have the feeling you mean the former. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:02 PM Flag
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+1 Ah, privileged idealism. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:27 PM Flag
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It's just called not being a scumbag. It's fairly simple. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:35 PM Flag
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It's definitely being basic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:35 PM Flag
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It's just a more honest way to go about life - not always trying to slip one by someone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:44 PM Flag
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I think they are worried about their children's education, not being 'low class'. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:37 PM Flag
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Yeah, they don't seem to worried about being low class. We can agree on that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:41 PM Flag
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"Low class" is not the right characterization. I would go with "desperate" and "unethical". The school system is broken, but cheating is WRONG. I know so many zone cheats in our neighborhood. The kids live with the fear and embarrassment of it, parents have no shame about it at all. Some can even afford private, but spend spring break in the Caribbean instead and summer in the Hamptons. I even know one who pays her nanny half rate and lets her use her address in exchange - and she has a second home!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:17 PM Flag
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Desperate is a word that did come to mind. Unethical is another good one. Exactly, two wrongs don't make a right. We know attorneys who are using financial aid. I know lawyers don't make as much as they used to, but this really wasn't the point of FA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:22 PM Flag
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It only bothers me when they could afford a smaller space in good zone but want more space then whine the system is unfair. There's a reason you can get more space in bad zones. It's no mystery. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:18 PM Flag
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Exactly. This is pure financial scheming. People dress it up with their victim mentality, but we all make choices in our life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 10:22 PM Flag
[ - ] Advil or Aleve? For back pain. Thanks 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 08:47 PM Flag
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I saw a very old lady in a walker buying aleve the other day. I'll take that as a recommendation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:00 PM Flag
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aleve and ice, not heat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:04 PM Flag
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Ugh, you too? I'm loving my icy-hot back patch today...at least I can walk! Feel better! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.30.15, 09:14 PM Flag
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