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[ - ] SIL offered us her stokke stroller for our DB due in October. Anyone have this stroller? Do you like it? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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OP: We got the uppababy vista at my shower but its still new in the box so I could probably return it [ Reply | More ]
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Go with whatever is less GIANT. [ Reply | More ]
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I've had the Bugaboo Cameleon for 3 DCs now and I still prefer it to all others, but I like how high the Stokke sits. Otherwise, I think it's gigantic. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] dogowners: how do you keep shedding and the dog smell to a minimum? brining a puppy home tomorrow and worried that our apartment will never be the same. any tips would be great! thank you 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Our dog never smells. We give her a bath every two weeks. People will say it's too much but it's not and she loves it. In summer months we keep her hair shorter and I do a wipe on the wood floors with a mop once a day (it takes five minutes). I vacuum 2x a week. Our house is clean and our dog doesn't smell and we aren't even from Lake Wobegon. [ Reply | More ]
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Euthanize [ Reply | More ]
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Dog houses are disgusting. [ Reply | More ]
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I think you need to reevaluate getting the dog. A pet is a lifetime (their lifetime not yours) commitment. If you're worried about animal smell in the home you're better off pet free. This is not a snark. It is a reality. better not get a pet than break its heart when you dump it because you could not deal with all that it entails. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:46 PM Flag
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Outs is hypoallergenic and has hair instead of fur so he doesn't smell and sheds very little. Bathe him every couple weeks. [ Reply | More ]
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our dogs don't smell, but they get a bath a couple times a week, if not more depending on what they get into - as for shedding, brushing helps as well as a good diet, bathing also helps. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Hoboken and Astoria are now the places to buy, where else? What's "up and coming"? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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What [ Reply | More ]
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Posting from 2000? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:34 PM Flag
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Excuse me? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:37 PM Flag
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Hoboken and Astoria where up 2 decades ago [ Reply | More ]
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ESL? [ Reply | More ]
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Meant to type up and coming to just up. Are you 20? [ Reply | More ]
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Astoria is seriously gross. No one can convince me otherwise. [ Reply | More ]
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
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Agreed- although they do have some good restaurants [ Reply | More ]
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Yeah, I suppose so. [ Reply | More ]
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I guess you don't like making money on real estate. [ Reply | More ]
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If this was number of years ago but not now, not there. [ Reply | More ]
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Then where? [ Reply | More ]
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Transplant? [ Reply | More ]
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Not anymore! [ Reply | More ]
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Sunnyside [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Social Worker Mom here. I'm getting out. Dealing with crazy people is taking a toll on my mental health. It's the dumb stuff that happens every day...for example, I have this one crazy mom who definitely should not have her kids. I haven't been able to get a hold of her because she buys a new burner phone every other day. I finally contacted her mother who told her that I am searching for her. She then calls me three times within 8 minutes and with the last message says, "This is my 3rd and final time calling you. You are harassing my family and I'm done with it. When I try to call you, you don't even pick up." She then said that she's reported me to the state and blah blah. I'm just done. I was accepted to med school and am starting in a month. So fucking happy. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:33 PM Flag
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Sadly I don't care about poor people much anymore either. Used to be a teacher. Left to become a nanny. Anytime I have a bad moment at work friends ask if I'll go back to teaching. No way in hell! A bad day as a nanny is still 100 times better than being assaulted by a student. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:37 PM Flag
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sigh..You're right. That is why nuts like this need social services... But this is not a job for everyone. Very hard on emotionally sensitive people (which would be most of us) and completely acceptable to people who should not be holding this job to begin with... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:38 PM Flag
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Don't lie. Med schools start in July, not September. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:42 PM Flag
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?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:49 PM Flag
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No, they don't. I actually have an orientation in late August... [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Moving to the US from Canada. I have to figure out dh's company's medical insurance plans. So overwhelming. I am contemplating getting the cheapest and just coming home if anything really big happens. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:27 PM Flag
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What is something big is an emergency. If it's through is company get the best policy you can. Call the HR department and have them walk you through it. Really not that overwhelming and worth it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:30 PM Flag
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What 'if' [ Reply | More ]
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'his' company. Can't type and work at the same time! [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, I am thinking for something big I just come back to Canada. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:32 PM Flag
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Are you United Empire Loyalists? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:31 PM Flag
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No. Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:33 PM Flag
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Just asking, there is a group of UEL that meet in Manhattan once a month [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:33 PM Flag
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Call the embassy and see if Canada has health clinics in the US for its citizens. If so, I'd opt out of an insurance plan and just go home if something big happens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:32 PM Flag
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ITA. And if OP is moving to NY it might be worth it to travel to Canada for routine medical appointments. It's probably much cheaper than getting an insurance plan. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:34 PM Flag
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NO. I work with ex-pats, some from Canada, and there should be someone at the US and the Canadian end who can explain your options. Prob in HR or mobility. Usually ex-pats have great plans when they come here. I've never had anyone have a problem. Your Canadian insur may not be active while you are here...again, ck with HR, not the embassy (it'd be the Consulate anyway). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:38 PM Flag
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Canadian here - yep, just do that. Honestly I was advised to do all kinds of crazy nonsense in the US and at home they told me I didn't need the surgery. I still trust Canadian healthcare more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:32 PM Flag
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Yea, we are going to be in Michigan so I can go to Windsor, Ontario. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:37 PM Flag
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Oh hell - you can even fly to Toronto to see a specialist. It's 45 minutes. [ Reply | More ]
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we moved here from Toronto - my advice is to get a basic plan here (which will of course cover an emergency). We go back for things like dental, vision, and even physicals. The vaccine schedule for kids is different in Canada than the states (less aggressive). Even though we don't have OHIP, it's still less expensive to do it there. [ Reply | More ]
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I am hoping to hang on to my OHIP until it expires at least. How does it work for vaccines since the requirements here are different. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:45 PM Flag
[ - ] Burb divorced mom. One child, her dad bought her an HDFC apt on West 92nd. She is going to move, and I can live in the apt. Have not lived in city for years. Anyone have any thoughts? Apt is small 2BR/1Bath. 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:25 PM Flag
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You are so lucky. Those apartments are nicer than you realize [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:26 PM Flag
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Nice apartments, just do not walk around that neighborhood at night. A mom here has posted about the violent attacks in that neighborhood - knock out game etc [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:27 PM Flag
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If I work late, I take cab home from office. By late, do you mean like after 8 PM or after 10PM? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:28 PM Flag
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NP: Recent violent attacks? Thinking of moving right up there. My youngest got into school on UWS and thought it was super safe. Is this an incorrect assumption? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:28 PM Flag
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Just talk to the police precinct [ Reply | More ]
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Just asking - are there income limits on those apts? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:28 PM Flag
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It is cray cray. The income limits are only in place when you buy. So a lazy child that makes very little money can be gifted $700 thousand bucks by her father and buy in the building. Once you buy you can make as much as you want ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:29 PM Flag
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OP -- our lawyer has said that my DD can let me in, as I am immediate family. [ Reply | More ]
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Very very very lucky for you. Jelly! [ Reply | More ]
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Cool - thx for the info (fellow divorced mom in the burbs) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:48 PM Flag
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My DD was not and is not lazy. She has worked every summer since she was 14 and was in college when her dad bought her the apt. [ Reply | More ]
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Good for her! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:31 PM Flag
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I looked into it - for a family of 4 it is 124K for many of them. But there are 3 bedroom places going from 300k to 800k. OP is right that it is only income considerations when buying. But the value of the apt won't go up as much due to income restrictions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:36 PM Flag
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The income restrictions can be lifted after a certain number of years (I think 25 years in total). I think the building in question has 8 more years of mandatory restrictions. Of course, the board has to vote to lift restrictions, but I think it is a foregone conclusion it will. [ Reply | More ]
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Holy shit, so I can buy an apartment for each of my children at today's absurdly low price and be secure in the knowledge that in eight years i can sell for full market value? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:39 PM Flag
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Yep. [ Reply | More ]
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The 8 year period is different for every building. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:46 PM Flag
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There are "vibrant" teenagers that have been beating down the "non vibrant" people in the neighborhood. Read any of the articles http://www.westsiderag.com/2015/02/10/police-step-up-patrols-after-students-are-mugged-in-the-west-90s [ Reply | More ]
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The police have stepped up enforcement. Hopefully it will help. [ Reply | More ]
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Not likely. DeBlasio has forbidden them to stop and frisk so the cops can not get the guns off the streets of the West 90s [ Reply | More ]
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Sad. This is not what these apartments were meant to be used for. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:35 PM Flag
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So much of the $$$ that is allocated to help the violent poor dysfunctional families is instead captured by smart and savy types that work the system! [ Reply | More ]
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Do you have to live in Manhattan to buy one of these? My daughter lives in San Francisco and has been priced out of San Francisco - can we give her money to buy a three bedroom in Manhattan for only 800 thousand dollars? How do we lock this in? 800 thouand is silly cheap for a three bedroom [ Reply | More ]
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Search NYTimes listing, use key word HDFC. As long as she meets income standards, she can legally buy. OP -- my DD lived with me in Westchester when we bought. She came in for board interview, but it was, imho, very loosy goosy for board interview. Mostly they wanted to verify that she would be living in it, and that she could pay maintencance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:41 PM Flag
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Why would you want to live in a tiny apartment in a neighborhood filled with crime? [ Reply | More ]
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Its a half block to Central Park, I am relatively careful, lots of great stuff to do just blocks away. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] My SIL and nephew are visiting but I don't speak Spanish and she doesn't speak English. It's a lot more awkward than I imagined. Not really sure what to do with them. Nephew also doesn't speak English, but he's two so just kind of playing around with my kids. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:23 PM Flag
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Start leaning Spanish for next time they visit or you visit them [ Reply | More ]
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get out of the apartment. plenty of spanish speaking in the city. they can translate for you! [ Reply | More ]
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Warmth and friendliness are not bound by language. [ Reply | More ]
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Teach her some english [ Reply | More ]
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where is dh? he should be around for translating ( I am assuming it's his sister) [ Reply | More ]
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It's my brothers wife and he is traveling for work. We are in the hamptons. I feel like an idiot when I show her pictures of things. Like the beach so see if she wants to go. Luckily we have a pool at the house and she has been swimming with her baby a lot. [ Reply | More ]
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How does your brother communicate with her? He speaks Spanish? [ Reply | More ]
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iphone app [ Reply | More ]
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Where are they visiting from? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] When does family money cross over from lame-living-off-your-parents territory into wealthy-snooty-family money territory? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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What [ Reply | More ]
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when you can live off the interest in the trust fund [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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I went to boarding school and was surrounded by family money. Have kept in touch with many of my classmates through facebook or otherwise and run into some at weddings or other events. To me, when the family has large amounts of money and gives child enough to live their own life (and often set up child with a cushy job most wouldn't have access to) that's wealthy impressive family money. When parent is involved in the day to day, constantly paying rent, buying house for child, and giving an allowance of sorts it seems more lame to me. So I guess the difference is how involved your family is in your life, even if they gave you a large chunk of money [ Reply | More ]
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I think that has more to do with the parenting and expectations of the children than super rich vs moderately rich. Either you feel you have done a good job and your kid will take the ball and run with it or you have not and need to keep taking care of you child. [ Reply | More ]
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np: believe me, family money even the super wealthy trust fund kind, comes w a lot of strings attached. [ Reply | More ]
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When you have enough that you're not siphoning off from future generations. IE when you can live off the interest. [ Reply | More ]
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When you have enough that you don't go on UB posting lame hypotheticals while you're in grad school about SAHM vs WOHM and camp vs no camp. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:31 PM Flag
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rich people are crazy too [ Reply | More ]
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we are neither, but I rolled my eyes when my college roommate got an allowance, was constantly asking her parents for more money, etc. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Who is likely to view your linked profile anonymously? Recruiters? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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good question, it's weird! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:21 PM Flag
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A lot of people, these days. [ Reply | More ]
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+1. I don't have an account so any time I look at one it must show up as anonymous [ Reply | More ]
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PIs [ Reply | More ]
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Recruiters and also current bosses to make sure you're not looking. [ Reply | More ]
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There's no way for them to find out if you are looking. [ Reply | More ]
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if you have resume attached to your profile and its updated fully, you're looking [ Reply | More ]
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How to tell if the profile is updated fully? [ Reply | More ]
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You should always update every new promotion. [ Reply | More ]
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your DH"s ex girlfriends, of course [ Reply | More ]
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Ex boyfriends. Husbands mistress. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Scene in the Suburbs: Three young kids standing along the road outside a $7 million dollar mansion trying to sell bottles of store brand bottled water to cars in a traffic jam in front of their house as their Guatemalan nanny looks on. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Why would there be a traffic jam outside a $7mm mansion? [ Reply | More ]
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Highly unlikely in burbs [ Reply | More ]
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Hahaha they should at least try to repackage. [ Reply | More ]
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Why do you laugh at this? My husband runs a hedge fund and we have serious $$$ but we allow our kids to run lemonade stands. Also they sell flags in the day leading up to 4th of July. It is never too early for kids to learn about making money ! [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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I used to sell the produce my mother grew in her garden. She would charge me too. [ Reply | More ]
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I totally agree. If you look at the true self made billionaire women like Elizabeth Holmes or Sara Blakely, or the others, they pretty much all had businesses when they were children. Children that are motivated to make money from an early age will push to make money as adults [ Reply | More ]
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np: I agree BUT there is something different about lemonade in a pitcher sold by the glass (even bigger profit margin) that the kids pour, etc than store bought drinks that the kids just toss in a cooler. [ Reply | More ]
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Why? It is more sanitary to sell packaged stuff. if you go to costco you can buy bottled water for six cents a bottle and sell it to people for $2 a bottle. Good profits [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:27 PM Flag
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Make some fucking effort [ Reply | More ]
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no way [ Reply | More ]
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+1 my kids sell cookies, brownies and lemonade in the neighborhood they have to bake it, make it, sell it. They love it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:32 PM Flag
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And? [ Reply | More ]
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There is a stupid myth on Urban Baby that you have to be born rich in order to be a rich adult. Couldn't be farther from the truth. the overwhelming majority of the richest people in America are NOT from rich families but are instead from normal upper middle class families [ Reply | More ]
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Ok so they are trying to make the money the honest way. Lemonade stand updated. I think its great. And you seem to have a problem with absolutely everything. One advise for you....www.eomega.com. Go and improve your miserable self. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:26 PM Flag
[ - ] Ok, I used to run 6-7 miles a day about 1.5 years ago. I looked amazing! Then got divorced and with all the stress of that ( moving, switching dcs schools, etc) stopped making time for exercising. So I'm mentally back but my body isn't - I am fat! My legs feel like lead weights, to the point that I wind up walking most of the time. I hate it and feel like a loser. Any suggestions? This has been going on for 3-4 months. Tia! 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:17 PM Flag
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you gotta suck it up. take that first run/walk. then do it again. and again. and again. you know this.... [ Reply | More ]
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I've been doing that every morning. I don't recall my legs feeling so heavy, they really do feel like they are weighted down. Also I think the band on my bra is too tight and I'm not able to expand my chest enough/fill lungs. [ Reply | More ]
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get a bigger bra. it will suck for a while. hang in there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:39 PM Flag
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OP: yeah, I'm going to have too. [ Reply | More ]
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Let's do it together. We have to run tomorrow morning, promise? [ Reply | More ]
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np: I'm going to run too. We can do this. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: ok! I don't like group runs but I like the group support. thanks! [ Reply | More ]
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Alright, let's all report back after our separate but together runs. [ Reply | More ]
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you feel like a loser because you're not exercising? I think someone needs to redefine what makes a loser. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: no, I feel like a loser b/c I wind up walking more than running. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:39 PM Flag
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I've been there. Do couch to 5k just like a beginner. You will have a mental advantage in that you know you can do it . [ Reply | More ]
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OP: thanks, I'm going to look into this! [ Reply | More ]
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C25k [ Reply | More ]
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Can't do it. Made my knees ache after 4 sessions and I had to quit. [ Reply | More ]
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Op? [ Reply | More ]
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you'll get there! first, stop comparing yourself now to the 6-mile runner bc you will set yourself up to give up. forget that gal for awhile :-). now you are aiming to run daily just 2 miles with new shoes and new clothes (so they fit right and prevent injury) AND you change your diet. Bc you weigh more, you are risking injuring yourseld if you run too long or hard. you need to lighten your weight and build muscles and lung capacity to stay strong and motivated! Signed, mom who just lost 25 lbs at 45 [ Reply | More ]
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I didn't work out for about two years. I started playing tennis 2x a week a few months ago and did my first intense workout last week. I feel amazing and energized and ready to go five days a week. Pick the thing you like the most to get back into it (not the one you need the most). The energy will come back n [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:46 PM Flag
[ - ] Okay...I think we're going to intentionally try to space the kids about 5 or 5.5 years apart. Give me your good and bad experiences here please! TIA 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:16 PM Flag
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5 yr spacing here and love it. [ Reply | More ]
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mee too! [ Reply | More ]
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We have almost 5 years between our kids and it's really good for us. They get along very well but each have their own thing going on. What sucks is that just when you're about out of the toddler stage you get thrust back into it, but other than that I think it's a great idea. [ Reply | More ]
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5 yr spacing here. Great because they want totally different things from you. Older one in K when DB born. Right now it's tough because they want such different things it's hard to plan activities that would interest both. [ Reply | More ]
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I am the older sibling in a 5 yr age gap and its horrible. My younger brother and I really have nothing in common and have been in different places our entire lives. Never had a foundation to build a strong relationship on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:23 PM Flag
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That's not because of the age gap. Five years is not that big a gap. Actually maybe it is an odd gap, I don't know. But my baby sis and I are 9 years apart and I love it cause I can live vicariously through her. I get to be 39 on my own and 30 when I am with her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:30 PM Flag
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OP here - it actually seems like sometimes bigger gaps can make people closer. I know a lot of stories like yours! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:37 PM Flag
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Yes, that's why I thought maybe 5 is an odd gap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:39 PM Flag
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np: i think you are right that it's not the age gap. i think some siblings are close and others aren't. my friend doesn't talk to her sib who is 2 years younger and very close w her sibs who are 14 and 16 years younger (she is now in her 50s). my friend has 18, 15 and 10yo and the younger 2 are close and the oldest and youngest are close, but the oldest 2 are not. all boys. i think a lot is a personality issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:47 PM Flag
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OR here.. and in my case, it is because of the gap. Happy to hear about your situation with your sister but my situation is different. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:41 PM Flag
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women plan, God laughs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:28 PM Flag
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These are so great, thanks, everyone. FWIW, if it all works out I'll be 39 with #2. So there's that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:29 PM Flag
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4.5 year spacing and I think it's great - i think the trade off of no sibling rivalry issues in the beginning, not having to deal w newborn and toddler at the same time is worth the fact that you don't get the "little kid phase" of life done as quickly. as a ft wohm i really liked that i wasn't as overwhelmed but i think this would be even more true as a sahm, if one kid is off to K when the baby comes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:30 PM Flag
[ - ] There is a guy at work who is kicking and screaming that he deserves promotion yet he took 3 months paternity leave (linger than most women in our department) and is now constantly taking time off for doc appointments and asking to work from home 2-3 x a week. The worst part is that his wife is a teacher so she isn't even working right now. No one seems to see this as an issue but I had difficult time blocking off time to pump. He is getting the promotion despite all this and I am 100% sure this wouldn't fly if he was female and pulled same. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:16 PM Flag
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The women need to kick and scream that they deserve promotion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:21 PM Flag
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He is kicking and screaming for a promotion WHILE also trying to work from home and taking a ton of days off which must be well above our policy limit. Most women simply would not have the audacity to demand both at the same time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:28 PM Flag
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he is a hero for taking time with his kids. Moms are judged and mommy tracked when they do the same. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:22 PM Flag
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I don't think he is seen as a hero but it isn't seen as an issue. He actually says "now that I have a baby I need to WAH at least 2x a week". I could never ever say this and it would not bode well for my career with the exact same management in place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:26 PM Flag
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Ugh. I would be pissed--does seem sexist. I'm all for parental leave but people having to be professional going forth and realize they're not the only new parent ever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:24 PM Flag
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He complains to me that he is working late because of the kid while we are both in the office late and I have more than 1 kid... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:31 PM Flag
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I can only say that I am sorry this situation can go on and women get to witness yet one more injustice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:29 PM Flag
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Maternity leave in this country is barbaric. No need to applaud yourself for shortchanging yourself and your baby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:30 PM Flag
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I am not applauding myself. I am seeing a total double standard not to mention that women do give birth and BF. I am not comparing maternity policy to other countries but am comparing how man and women are treated by the same management in the same department. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:33 PM Flag
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Okay, fair enough. I don't know about the management at your company but I feel like we want more men to want to take on more childcare and do more at home so it's hard to be mad at this guy. If they give him the promotion then I guess there's precedent? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:40 PM Flag
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That was uncalled for. Really. Re-read your reply and think on that before you post something like this next time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Tell us where you went to college and something about you that isn't your job or where you're from and we will imagine what you are like. 32 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:14 PM Flag
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Columbia. I'm a huge Disney geek and go to every D23 convention and Comicon convention as well as follow multiple blogs on Disney news. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:16 PM Flag
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Are you going to the San Diego Comicon this week? Will be a spectacular one! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:22 PM Flag
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I agree! So excited! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:34 PM Flag
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What sort of "news" comes out about Disney? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:25 PM Flag
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Lots! News rides, shows, movie release announcements, new show announcements, special events at the parks, new hotel offerings, new character meet and greets, stuff like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:32 PM Flag
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Also new restaurant openings, new product lines, awards Disney wins, educational programs and museum openings Disney participates in, imagineering convention news and guest speaker announcements, fan meetup conventions, new website changes and offerings, key figure changes in the company, new theme park policies, them park attendance trends, character appearances outside of the parks at non-Disney events, etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:42 PM Flag
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Rollins. I enjoy math puzzles. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:16 PM Flag
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you arent smart but you wish you were. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:20 PM Flag
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hmm, well I was smart enough for medical school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:37 PM Flag
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GW. I've never performed in a theater group, but I enjoy watching musical theater performances most weekends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:17 PM Flag
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UCLA. Pretty sure I've watched over 100 Netflix shows from start to finish since I first got Netflix 10 years ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:19 PM Flag
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Introverted, socially awkward [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:34 PM Flag
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Georgetown. I am a huge sports fan (football, basketball, soccer, baseball) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:20 PM Flag
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Michigan State. I have four kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:21 PM Flag
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Outdoorsy mom who loves camping? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:35 PM Flag
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Macalester. I really enjoy cooking - find it creative and calming. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:22 PM Flag
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You sound like someone I would like :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:30 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:31 PM Flag
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Thanks! Well I'm a size 12 so I've already been told today that at least one person on UB wouldn't want to talk with me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:33 PM Flag
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I went to Smith. Most of my classmates were SLUG but I was not [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:22 PM Flag
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you know you want to at least try it ;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:36 PM Flag
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Tiny third tier liberal arts college. I love aviation and am about to get my pilot's license. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:23 PM Flag
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You seem adventurous. Trudy from Astronaut Wives. Kickass feminist with a cheating DH you think you're too good for and probably are [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:36 PM Flag
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Bucknell. I love getting dressed upish and going to museums. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:24 PM Flag
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That's cute. I imagine you having really elaborate doll tea parties with your DDs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:35 PM Flag
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Princeton. I love to sew craftsy stuff [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:31 PM Flag
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NYU: I enjoy spiritual workshops and bettering myself in every way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:34 PM Flag
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except I can't kick my UB habit during lunch break. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:34 PM Flag
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What happens in spiritual workshops? Meditation and mindfulness exercises? Praying? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:38 PM Flag
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It depends on the workshop but yes meditation and mindfulness exercises mostly. No praying. Not that I have anything against that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:45 PM Flag
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You smoke a lot of weed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:39 PM Flag
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That is in the mindlessness workshops. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.06.15, 05:46 PM Flag
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