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[ - ] I'm 28, single, and live with a roommate in NYC. We are both single straight females (she's about my age). She just moved in, replacing my old roommate a month ago. I've never had a sister but I've had roommates throughout my life starting in college. I've always been very into guys (my friends always called me "boy crazy") and though I've been single for a little over a year, I'm actively dating. Here's the thing: I think I have feelings for my female roommate. :( I'm so confused. From the moment we met, I just thought she was a really interesting and impressive person. The more I've gotten to know her, the more I like her. I'm actually kind of in awe of her and have to struggle to hide how much I admire her. She's such an amazing, fun, interesting, upbeat person, and she's really attractive.... I really don't think I'm attracted to girls in general, but I have some kind of weird crush on her. I act like a nervous kid around her. :( Help.... I don't even want to date her - I want a boyfriend - so how do I get over this???? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 04:09 AM Flag
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I've totally had this friend crush thing before. The thing is not to over-think it. So you find her "attractive" on some level. So what? She doesn't know you feel that way, and it doesn't sound like you want to date her IRL, so enjoy your fantasies. It will likely fade as you know her longer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 04:01 AM Flag
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OP: If I were a guy, she'd be my dream girl. 100 percent. Every day I like her more and more. She's just such a wonderful person.... Ack. Ironically she makes really bad dating decisions, so I guess that humanizes her? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 04:15 AM Flag
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Totally. And you'll see more. There is a reason she makes bad dating decisions. One of my biggest girl crushes I eventually realized was not very intelligent. She was very quiet so I attributed more to her than was actually there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 04:19 AM Flag
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OP: My roommate went to HYP. She's not dumb..... Still looking for a flaw. Maybe I should just try to avoid her because whenever we talk for even five minutes I feel myself becoming more enchanted.... As for the dating "mistakes"--I think she's just better at separating sex and love than I am. I can't sleep with someone I'm not dating exclusively and all that; she can. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 04:23 AM Flag
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You're missing my original point though, who cares if you're enchanted? What are you scared of.. That you'll try and kiss her, or tell her, or...? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 04:13 AM Flag
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OP: I'm just annoyed by my feelings. I don't want to date her; I want find a serious relationship with a guy. My feelings are inconvenient, like if you were married with kids and suddenly developed a crush on your piano tuner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 04:26 AM Flag
[ - ] So Anthony Cumia (formerly of Opie and Anthony) is licensed to carry a handgun in NYC? Who made THAT absurd decision? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:55 AM Flag
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He is psychologically disturbed. I read his twitter page often. I just cant turn away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 04:11 AM Flag
[ - ] My boss is on vacation and I am running a few deals. He doesn't review anything I send him and just tells me to send it all to the other side. I am worried that I might do something wrong. If i do, who is to blame? Me for not knowing better or him for not reviewing? 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:11 AM Flag
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This is why women don't get ahead. You think a man would be thinking like this? No way!! Just don't do anything wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:13 AM Flag
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Frankly, I don't really know what I am doing. I am basically making informed guesses. It is quite likely that there will be some mistakes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:15 AM Flag
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Can you assert yourself and tell your boss this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:05 AM Flag
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Why did he leave you in this position? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:17 AM Flag
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He probably promised his family this long vacation and unfortunately several deals will close while he is out. It's just bad timing. My underling is also on vacation. It's really awful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:18 AM Flag
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You need to tell him so that way he has a chance to make the deals right. Dont even try to fake it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:09 AM Flag
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I am sending him everything I am unsure about, and I make a suggestion as to what I would do. I am confident that he is not reviewing nything I am doing and just goes with whatever I am suggesting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:24 AM Flag
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All you can do is sink or swim. Make sure you swim as much as possible. And when you retain your job, because you aren't going to allow yourself to fail, create a set of desk notes and keep it updated for the next person who comes along. Desk notes are vital, and ensure more success for any company. It makes no sense for a person with pivotal tasks to learn them on the fly when they can have a reference book to work from. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:52 AM Flag
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You. He will throw you under. Cover yourself by making sure he sees what you are doing. Dont try to be miss goody two shows. Bitches get the corner office. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:03 AM Flag
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Not sure that he is actually reading what I am sending him. He probably isn't and that's a bit negligent of him, IMO. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:16 AM Flag
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He doesnt have to reas it. You just need something to show HR if your boss turns on you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:06 AM Flag
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There is no hr. It's a small place and he is the one who hired me and has sole authority to fire me as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:19 AM Flag
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SO just do your best and stop worrying about who is to blame if there's a fuck up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 04:34 AM Flag
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Yes. You are correct. This person doesn't care enough about his business to be called a good owner. A good owner would not leave a new person to sink or swim while he is on vacation. An owner who cares about the success of the company will work with you as a team, knowing you are new. Imho. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:45 AM Flag
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This is your opportunity to shine. This is what gets you ahead. Work ridiculously hard this week, kill everything, don't let stuff fall through the cracks... if he comes home to no issues and deals moving forward, you will be a rockstar. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:16 AM Flag
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You probably didn't read above that I don't really know what I am doing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:17 AM Flag
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Sounds so familiar - you are the associate and I always feel for "you" when my DH is on vacation. I'd suggest you ask only critical questions, find another friend or colleague in your same position and bounce ideas off of them before emails. It's not going to be perfect but save your questions for a single time and limit it to the most important. Just bc boss answers emails doesn't mean he wants to do so - even if you don't know what you're doing, make it as easy for him as possible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:09 AM Flag
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This is really good advice actually [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 04:35 AM Flag
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Do what you know is best. That's the best advice I can give you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:10 AM Flag
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He deserves a vacation. You have to do your best. Bring in another person (above you or lateral to you) to help you or look over your work or bounce ideas off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:25 AM Flag
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There is no one else. There is no lateral, no assistant, no one. I am screwed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:26 AM Flag
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You are not screwed. You can do this! This week my boss drew a complicated powerpoint presentation on pen and paper. Then asked me to create it in 2 hours. I almost ran out crying but I did it! I learned so much and now I know how to make a waterfall bar chart! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:19 AM Flag
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+1. YOU CAN DO IT. This is why they hired you. Put your nose to the grindstone and crank work out. Don't waste one more minute toiling away telling yourself that you can't.. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:21 AM Flag
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Yeah, you can really do things you never thought you could- sink or swim style! We had an annual meeting with all the major stakeholders (big players) for our organization and my boss left me in charge because her daughter in law was having a baby and she apparently needed to be there (wtf, go after the meeting?) I,almost shit myself- decisions needed to be made, careful negotiations. But Ya know what I HANDLED IT! Felt great for days after. All I'm saying is maybe you really can do this on your own. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:35 AM Flag
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How old are you? Just curious [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:27 AM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:27 AM Flag
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Because you sound young. I was hoping that's why you lack confidence. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:28 AM Flag
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Btdt, I know how you feel. My guess, especially if this is the guy's own business, is that he has a lot of confidence in you that you don't necessarily have in yourself. Double and triple check whatever you can and perhaps ask specific queries about things you are most worried about when you send him the emails, so rather than saying "please review xyz", you could say "can you have a look at xyz, I'm not sure I really got a handle on this clause in the contract, do you think I am on the right track" etc... Then it will flag to him that you really are worried and he will hopefully look in more detail. But on the other side, he is probably looking at it in more detail than you think, and also has more faith in you than you do in yourself. Btdt :-)) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:35 AM Flag
[ - ] I want to fall in love so badly but I can't stand men and I'm not a lesbian. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:01 AM Flag
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You probably have a personality disorder. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:03 AM Flag
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Please. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:04 AM Flag
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Yeah right. Because she is sane enough to not adore men. Please. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:30 AM Flag
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I love her honesty. Why do some people want to tear down the strength of others? Actually, we all know why. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:59 AM Flag
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Forgot to add, I do love your reply, btw. When I stopped madly adoring men I found better men to be with. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 04:07 AM Flag
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Animals? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:17 AM Flag
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Op: oh come on! *angry face* [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:08 AM Flag
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Well then who do you want to fall in love with if not men or women? Seriously. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:11 AM Flag
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Op: the perfect man. But he only lives in my head. :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:13 AM Flag
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^^^someone who doesnt cheat or watch porn. Someone who loves God and his mother. Someone who lives a simple life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:15 AM Flag
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If that guy walked in, you would dismiss him as boring or unexciting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:27 AM Flag
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Or he's gay [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:30 AM Flag
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Op: no I wouldn't!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:32 AM Flag
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look in the mirror. You are pretty awesome. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:24 AM Flag
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A lot of people giving positive affirmations tonight... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:26 AM Flag
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Op: ;) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:16 AM Flag
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No, not op. I meant fall in love with yourself, be a narciccist for a bit. Words escape me tonight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:18 AM Flag
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Op: narcissm is not a good trait. Ive been single and unsexed for almost a decade :(. Ive done the "dating myself" thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:23 AM Flag
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Well I can do the "dating" thing for you but I'm sorry - I don't love god. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:37 AM Flag
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Can't help you there. I love men! Mmmm young Harrison Ford. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 04:17 AM Flag
[ - ] I bask in glory when someone says "great advice" to a response I made. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:00 AM Flag
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omg I know. I get giddy for a "this!" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:03 AM Flag
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Glad to know I'm not alone. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:16 AM Flag
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Hehe me too. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:36 AM Flag
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+3 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:56 AM Flag
[ - ] The entire far left side of my mouth hurts. I have one (top) wisdom tooth, but the bottom one hasn't come in. Is it a cavity in the top one, the bottom one coming in, or something else entirely? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 02:55 AM Flag
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Hasn't come in? How old are you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 02:58 AM Flag
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34 you know some people never get their wisdom teeth? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:02 AM Flag
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Honestly I've never heard of that before. Your wisdom tooth on that side might be coming in crooked, see a dentist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:15 AM Flag
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Some people have only one, two, or three wisdom teeth. Some have none. All normal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:13 AM Flag
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OK. Hers might be coming in crooked. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:30 AM Flag
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Are you stressed? My wisdom tooth is only partially out (left side too). Started to get really sore so mentioned it to dentist. she took a look and said the tooth hadn't moved an inch, looks really good etc but told me thr pain is from stress - turned out I was clenching my jaw during the night. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:22 AM Flag
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Interesting, never thought of this. I am always stressed lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:41 AM Flag
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NP - at one point I had a bad ear ache. Went to ENT dr, nothing came up. Turns out I was clenching my jaw at night which caused the pain. I was also under a lot of stress at that point. You can get a guard which may help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:37 AM Flag
[ - ] Suggestions for unique thing to do (aft/eve) in the city (Bklyn included) with 17yo DS? We live here but want to know more esoteric, less publicized activities that might be fun. He's got the evening off from work and I'd like to plan something he'd enjoy (that is, if he'll actually go out with his mom on a Saturday night). 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 02:55 AM Flag
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Take sailing lessons together [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 02:58 AM Flag
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Shakespeare in the Park or an outdoor movie [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:16 AM Flag
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Conel Island. Cyclones game. Ride the Cyclone after. Get a hot dog. Walk out on the pier and see some guys crabbing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.26.14, 03:08 AM Flag
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