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[ - ] My dh does love me but he expects to put very little effort into our relationship, has zero interest in doing anything together as a couple, makes all my interests sound meaningless and empty, expects me to accommodate his changing needs. He is supportive and nice to me and lives the children. Is this a normal marriage or a failing one? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:41 PM Flag
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Who cares about normal. What matters is both people feeling fulfilled. Guessing you aren't? What did you do as a couple before kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:43 PM Flag
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Traveled, watched some offbeat films, went to theatre. He thinks all these things are just meaningless entertainment and he is right but I feel I have no life between job and childcare [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:46 PM Flag
[ - ] Has this been posted yet? 2 6th graders were raped by 7/8th graders at a school in the Bronx, and if looks like the DOE was trying to keep it quiet: http://www.nydailynews.com/new-york/nyc-crime/2-teens-charged-raping-2-girls-bronx-middle-school-article-1.1992963 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 10.31.14, 12:39 PM Flag
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Wow, 14 year old 6'2" and 175 lbs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:41 PM Flag
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Mine is 6'4" already. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:43 PM Flag
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are they (DOE) pursuing legal action?? Then it is a legal matter.Not exactly the kind of thing you would expect a press re;lease about however they must disclose this happened per the Clery Act (?). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:41 PM Flag
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aw snap Clery Act pertains to college [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:45 PM Flag
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The students are being charged criminally as juveniles. There will be a suspension hearing where the victims must testify, or the students won't be suspended. The school never disclosed the incident to parents. They tried to keep it quiet until it blew up in the news. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:48 PM Flag
[ - ] What's wrong with Facebook today? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:29 PM Flag
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it enables predators; ruins social lives; whores out one's personal data? Oh wait, that's FB every day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:32 PM Flag
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To me, it just got boring. I rarely go on anymore. Rarely, rarely post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:33 PM Flag
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I am also thinking of quitting. It's not that I think it is insidious, it's that I have realized I don't even respect half the people there who update. They are all idiots. And I am starting to feel like I am one of them. Now my challenge is to actually remember my password so I can delete my profile. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:43 PM Flag
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I am in the process of deleting my account - unfriending those who do not interact with me. I just deleted Linked In. Problem i, I do get some news via FB I would not get elsewhere. Grrr. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:44 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone out there have kids in their 40s? Think i might be pregnant! Am 42- alomst 43!! already have a 8yo and a perfect 3some! WWYD? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:23 PM Flag
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did you take a test?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:22 PM Flag
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yes +ve [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:24 PM Flag
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Congratulations! I think that's amazing!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:23 PM Flag
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I had #3 at 40 and my 1 and 3 are 9 years apart. I was very upset when I found out but now I am obviously fine with it. Will have to work as long as I can be employed and obviously life would have been easier. I think a lit depends on your work and financial situation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:26 PM Flag
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Can't speak to the kid in your 40's but I have an eight year spread and I love it. I was really scared because we were the perfect threesome as well, but the little one made us better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:27 PM Flag
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Are you the one who posted a few days ago? What type if BC failed you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:27 PM Flag
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no did not post before... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:28 PM Flag
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what is BC? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:31 PM Flag
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My friend is 42 and having her 1st. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:28 PM Flag
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Congrats! Hope all goes well! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:28 PM Flag
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I delivered first child days after my 41st Birthday and I tried extremely hard to have another but it never happened and at 44 ish I gave up. Many people do this and I'm sure all will be fine. In other countries people do this all the time in their 40's. Congrats. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:35 PM Flag
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I'd terminate. Had 3 in my 20s, and will not start over again in my 40s. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:34 PM Flag
[ - ] oh yay. It's throwback Thursday on FB. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:04 PM Flag
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>>except I forgot to check FB yesterday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:05 PM Flag
[ - ] The single wife thread (husband out every night) makes me appreciative of the marriage I'm in. Married over 25 years. Still spend lots of time with DH, still have sex, DH very involved with our children. Please tell me I'm not the only one with this type of marriage because that thread depressed the heck out of me. 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:01 PM Flag
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share your recipe for success...I am trying- its tough-when we are so different- easier when you are alike i think- [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:08 PM Flag
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me too. I do tend to keep quiet about it, as opposed to FB brags, etc, because there are so many marriages that are not great. I could easily have been in a bad marriage, too, I literally lucked out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:09 PM Flag
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I was 28 he 30 when we married [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:13 PM Flag
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OP: I also keep quiet about it. I know several couples who for all intents and purposes live separate lives. I'm not judging - as the other thread showed, for some people a separate but together marriage works for them. But, I know it would not have worked for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:15 PM Flag
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so do I. Though of course we have developed separate interests over the years, and separate though sometimes overlapping sets of friends. Couple-ism can be stifling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:17 PM Flag
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I think I just picked the right guy. I went into marriage wanting a full partnership. When we dated, all the signs were there. He wasn't a wild bachelor. He had a close, but not suffocating, relationship with his parents. We have a huge mutual respect for each other. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:10 PM Flag
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how old were you when you married? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:12 PM Flag
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32 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:13 PM Flag
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maybe thats also a key ingredient? I got married at 26- I saw that he had a "close" relationship with his mom as a good thing and realized later it was too close for comfort- so close that she would never just let us be "married"- sigh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:15 PM Flag
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I was married at 24 and wish I'd waited ... such a mistake. I think waiting until after 30 is definitely better for 95% of the population... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:17 PM Flag
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I think many end up single so that's the flip side [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:19 PM Flag
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I think getting married at a later age was an advantage for me. First, I was very immature in my 20s. Second, I spent a large part of my 20s going to school and establishing my career. By the time I got married, I was ready and had the maturity to be in a good marriage. I also was lucky in that I was able to have children past 35 years of age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:19 PM Flag
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Read: I liked fucking around a lot as a youngster, but then I got sick of that and was lucky enough to find a solid guy to land with after I got all that out of my system. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:33 PM Flag
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I wish! I had long term boyfriends in college and graduate school, but I knew that neither relationship would end in marriage. Mostly, I was focused on doing well in school. My immaturity was that I was pretty selfish in my 20s. If there was anything I could change about my life, it would be this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:40 PM Flag
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My dh is not home and works late but does care about kids above all else. We don't do much if anything fun together anymore as our interests have changes. 15 years together. I am slowly realizing that I have to build my own personal life. Issue is he gets upset and expects me to be home and just to be alone [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:15 PM Flag
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Good for you! its not common- You are lucky! cherish it :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:16 PM Flag
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21 years here. Best friend and partner in crime. Better, more adventurous sex than when we were first married. Great, super-involved dad. Love being with him, just being together. Doesn't matter what we're doing. Having said that, we aren't perfect. We get cranky. Snap at each other occasionally. Every moment isn't bliss. But I love him and have a great life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:19 PM Flag
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OP: thank you for sharing this. What is your secret to success? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:25 PM Flag
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Aside from feeling like we are "on the same team" and being very demonstrative in words and actions about our love/like/appreciation if one another, my husband would tell you that the secret is that I am obsessed with resolution. If there is a problem, I am like a dog with a bone until we find a solution. I have family members who are still fighting and complaining about the same things twenty years into their marriages, and I actively decided that I would not live that life. It makes a big difference. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:31 PM Flag
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Oh, and I laugh at all his jokes. Every time. That goes a long way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:45 PM Flag
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Same here. Met freshman year in college. Known each other for thirty years. Feel so lucky, since I'm not sure I had a clue what a great husband and dad he would be. We thank each other for little things, make time in a busy life of two careers and three kids for intimacy, love each other's families (even when they act crazy) and are generally happy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:36 PM Flag
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OP: Got to go, but please keep the thread going (not looking for most viewed). Just want to hear about some happy marriages. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:45 PM Flag
[ - ] Gave my nanny notice. I am very nervous now because I need to find a replacement. Maybe I should have just put up with her flaws. Sigh 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:00 PM Flag
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dont you do the second before the first? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:02 PM Flag
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I wanted to give her ample time to find a good job. I told her she has at least a month and will get 2 weeks severance if she gives me 1 week notice. I am worried I made it easier for her but more difficult for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:08 PM Flag
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dont second guess yourself- gut feelings are usually right [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:06 PM Flag
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That's the issue. She can often be the perfect nanny but has moments of being difficult with me and meant with my eldest. I don't know if all nannies are like this. She used to be more consistent and amazing 99% of the time and now it's closer to 60% [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.31.14, 12:11 PM Flag
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