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[ - ] I feel so embarrassed. I went to an acquaintance's home for brunch a few days ago. I brought champagne and orange juice for mimosas. I forgot to chill the champagne (I have 6 month old twins and my mother just died...have been busy lately). The hostess complained that the champagne was room temp, and then I overheard her tell someone "it isn't good champagne anyway." Ughhhhh 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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meh. I wouldn't be thrilled either because I hate mimosas, but what are you gonna do at this point. Just try to dazzle her with kindness next time you hang out to try and get back in her good graces. If she really harbors anything over this small slight, she's not worth it. [ Reply | More ]
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Np. What the fuck? Op didn't do anything wrong, hostess sounds like a bitch. [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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This answer doesn't make any sense. You hate mimosas? Then don't drink them...problem solved [ Reply | More ]
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Now you know not to waste your time turning that acquaintance into a friendship. [ Reply | More ]
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This x10000000 [ Reply | More ]
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That is a rude hostess. [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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You did nothing wrong. Avoid this person in the future, she is a bitch. [ Reply | More ]
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She lacks graciousness. Next. [ Reply | More ]
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She's a bitch. What kind of a hostess acts that way? [ Reply | More ]
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NP: people I've never met, that's for sure. [ Reply | More ]
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Rude rude rude! If I were the hostess, I would have quickly put the champagne in the freezer to cool. Or, assuming there was more than one bottle of champagne, I would put it in the fridge and use another one first. And I would never insult a person who brought something to my party. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] When you are off the waitlist do the schools call you? Or is it through mall, email. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Asking for nyc public [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] My voicemails don't pop up on my iPhone 6 until about 24 hours after the person left them. Any ideas on why or how to fix? Thanks 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Do you have YouMail? This used to happen to me and I had no idea that I had a YouMail account, but apparently, that's where they all were. [ Reply | More ]
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You mean a me mail with apple? I do have that but it doesn't get my voicemails that I know of. I don't even know what you mail is. On my phone screen it just tells me I have a VM about 24 hours after the person left it [ Reply | More ]
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No, it's called YouMail- it's a VM system that Verizon uses that is not native to iOS [ Reply | More ]
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Same, but I'm thinking it's a Verizon issue, because the same thing happens on DH's non-smart, non-iPhone. Very irritating. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Princeton University- thoughts? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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My frenemies dad went there, and my frenemy is very annoying and acts like she went there too, she even goes to the Alumnae events! She is so annoying. [ Reply | More ]
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Acts like she went there or went there? Wtf? [ Reply | More ]
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She did not go there, her father did, but she acts like she attended. She goes with daddy to the alumnae weekends. [ Reply | More ]
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This is what she wears to the weekends: http://rebloggingdonk.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/ivyleaguebumpkin.jpg [ Reply | More ]
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another photo of her at said weekends: http://rebloggingdonk.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/05/lunatic.jpg [ Reply | More ]
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OMG. Is she for real?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:37 PM Flag
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yeah, she is terrible. Those aren't even her dcs. She is 35 and childless, has no job and is trying to make a living as a social media star. She was on a failed Bravo reality show for 1 season. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:38 PM Flag
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Is that Julia Allison? [ Reply | More ]
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Yes! Haha! Do you know her too? [ Reply | More ]
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Omg how embarrassing. [ Reply | More ]
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yes, here she is humping the princeton tiger at one of said weekends: http://rebloggingdonk.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/tigerraper.jpg [ Reply | More ]
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Where did she go? [ Reply | More ]
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University of Illinois but then transferred to Georgetown where she barely graduated. [ Reply | More ]
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What's wrong with you, posting actual pictures of someone. Whatever her problems are, yours are much worse. [ Reply | More ]
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I take the enemy part of "frenemy" to heart I guess. [ Reply | More ]
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Op, why are you posting her and answering yourself? Disturbingly doxxy. [ Reply | More ]
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People are asking me questions and I am replying, no doxxing going on. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What toys and books are your 2 year olds obsessed with? Looking for gift ideas. Thanks 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Large Legos, puzzles [ Reply | More ]
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action figures [ Reply | More ]
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Ride on train [ Reply | More ]
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Tea set, animal hospital set. [ Reply | More ]
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Thomas the tank engine. [ Reply | More ]
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Duplos. Still love the doll stroller (boy). Fisher - price little people. Toy cars and trucks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Hey my son is a decent tennis player - not a natural athlete but he has taken a lot of lessons over their years so his pretty good. We have just moved to CA and signed him for tennis clinic and today he said he hates tennis in CA and does not want to play? The session just started and he seemed to enjoy it - granted its very hot (over 100 degrees) but I am not sure if that is it? My gut reaction is that he can be a little lazy, he does no any one and some of these kids are really good. I am just so disappointed because I was excited for this to be his activity - I know he needs to pick his thing but he would pick watching tv and playing videos 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:20 PM Flag
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Give him time. Probably more about the move and not having friends. [ Reply | More ]
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Mine would also choose tv/video games if not pushed. Fairly common. Once outside they prefer sports they just get addicted to the screen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:23 PM Flag
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CA breeds good tennis players. Maybe he's feeling a little outmatched? It''l be fine. Teach him perseverance. [ Reply | More ]
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Do you think I should let him take a break? Then start up again in a couple weeks or so - Another idea is the clinic is 3x week so maybe I should make him only go 2 times or 1 time [ Reply | More ]
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I think if he signs up for something he does all or nothing. Tennis can have good days and bad days & so mental. Can he do some privates and match play and then start up in a clinic with a little more confidence? [ Reply | More ]
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CA breeds good athletes, period. I was a D1A swimmer on the east coast one of the best and I come out here and I can barely hang with the medium pace people in my masters team!! So frustrating. [ Reply | More ]
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How old is he? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What would you make of a friend who, at the beginning of summer, told you she wanted to have a party for a "few close friends" at her beach house at the end of the summer, and wondered whether you'd be willing to make the trip, to which you thanked her for the invite and said you would love to come, but then she never invited you? This just happened to me, and I'm not sure how to react. The friend is a mom friend, and I found out from a mutual friend that the party is this weekend and six other families are invited, but not us. 38 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:11 PM Flag
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Slow fade and then if she asks why you didn't come, just say you didn't get the date and time/invite. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: I think she knows full well she didn't invite us. I ran into her last week and she told me she was having family at her beach house over Labor Day weekend. [ Reply | More ]
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Drop her. That is too much like high school. [ Reply | More ]
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Right?! She is so friendly and seems so genuine when I talk to her, which is why I'm sort of stunned. But I guess it's all phony. [ Reply | More ]
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Duh. They are the worst kind [ Reply | More ]
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She considered you but you didn't make the final cut [ Reply | More ]
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I guess so. I'm just not sure how offended I should be or whether I should say anything, or just stop trying to be her friend. [ Reply | More ]
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Saying anything makes you seem desperate and clingy. Do the fade [ Reply | More ]
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Don't say anything. Just disappear. [ Reply | More ]
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I would think we're not friends. Bye. [ Reply | More ]
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She sounds like an insufferable asshole. Ask her how the party went. [ Reply | More ]
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What would I make of her? She isn't a friend, more like an acquaintance. She doesn't value your friendship very much and is careless with her manners. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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Playing devils advocate, maybe she forgot about that conversation, or thought she mentioned it to someone else? I do this all the time. [ Reply | More ]
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THIS. OR she genuinely likes you but since you don't have a house out East and she is hosting family she didn't know how to invite you without also offering spending the night. [ Reply | More ]
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None of the other friends have houses out there either. And I don't think she actually has family coming (I asked our mutual friend). [ Reply | More ]
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Why are you worrying about this? Just let the hostess invite who she wants and you do the same. [ Reply | More ]
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Your feelings wouldn't be even remotely hurt if a so called friend did this to you? [ Reply | More ]
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Honestly, I wouldn't feel hurt. Who knows why the host didn't confirm the invitation, so I would let it go and spend my weekend with my family in peace. Being invited because of a commitment and not wanting her there would be worse, because the vibes during the weekend party would make everyone uncomfortable. [ Reply | More ]
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You realize those two sentences completely contradict each other, right? [ Reply | More ]
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Except she invited the OP [ Reply | More ]
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This. Get a life and stop being so petty, OP [ Reply | More ]
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TROLL [ Reply | More ]
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Nope. [ Reply | More ]
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Obviously this is confusing, and hurtful. How would you feel about the situation if you hadn't been invited? I'm guessing she forgot that she'd mentioned it to you and maxed out. Six families is a huge pita for a host! [ Reply | More ]
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Honestly I wouldnt have cared if she just hadn't said anything in the first place. But since she set it up like "only my close friends will be invited", and then I wasn't, I feel like it sends a clear message about how she thinks of me (and I wonder if our other mutual friends feel the same, like I am the outsider). [ Reply | More ]
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I would try not to take it personally. I totally understand why it's upsetting but even if she doesn't consider you among the inner circle it doesn't mean she doesn't want to be friends. [ Reply | More ]
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She's just not that into you [ Reply | More ]
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And is rude [ Reply | More ]
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Six families, one house? Sounds hellish [ Reply | More ]
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Maybe you dodged a bullet op [ Reply | More ]
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They might not be friends after the weekend! [ Reply | More ]
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That's bloody rot [ Reply | More ]
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This is why I gave two middle fingers to the Hamptons. [ Reply | More ]
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Hey, I remember you from yesterday. Fist bump! [ Reply | More ]
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Have a party another time and don't invite her. [ Reply | More ]
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I'd be hurt and pissed and wouldn't maintain the friendship. But I probably wouldn't call her out on it, either. Though it was rude, it wasn't wrong. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I just had a job interview and they closed with a stupid riddle. I did not answer it correctly. It was something like what is beginning of eternity, the end of time and space the beginning of every end, and the end of every place? And I just was so shocked to be asked I said "umm" and totally froze. The answer was the letter E. How stupid. Stupid job. 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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What field?? [ Reply | More ]
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Tech. sigh. [ Reply | More ]
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THey may have been testing to see how you reacted to the problem, not your ability to solve. If you did not spaz out, then maybe it's ok? [ Reply | More ]
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I wouldn't say I spazzed out but I certainly flubbed it. So awkward. [ Reply | More ]
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These things are so lame. It's like shit they read in books. So awful. Also unfair because it plays into the interests of certain people and the would get it right. Blah [ Reply | More ]
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Totally agree!! [ Reply | More ]
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Ugh. I have had dozens of weird interviews like this over the decades. It makes for great cocktail party talk. [ Reply | More ]
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ooh yeah. dh and I are going to have some beers and laughs over this. He is lucky, he is so advanced in his field he could tell an interviewer, "this is a stupid question and I refuse to answer" and they would still try to hire him. I on the other hand don't have that luxury. We will see if they call me back for another round after I flubbed this. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't understand interview questions like this. Ask me real questions about problems on the job. My responses should be "I've dealt with that and learned this...." Not 42 [ Reply | More ]
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Absolutely. [ Reply | More ]
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I live these type of questions. I guess we are all different. What type of job is this? [ Reply | More ]
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Product manager at a tech firm. [ Reply | More ]
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Would you have gotten the answer correct? [ Reply | More ]
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Probably not to this one but I often do to the more Mathematica ones. I do work in tech. They want people who like problem solving [ Reply | More ]
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Since you know what you are talking about, do you mind- if I get a similar question like this at the next round (they already called me back for another next week), and I also don't know the answer, what is a good response if you have no clue? Something better than "umm" and floundering around like I did. Thank you :) [ Reply | More ]
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Just deadpan and ask "Will that be part of my job description?" [ Reply | More ]
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HAHA.... I REALLY wish I had the balls to say this. lol. Thank you for the best laugh I've had all day. [ Reply | More ]
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That's bloody rot [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:35 PM Flag
[ - ] I don't have many social security credits. Should I get a part time job or not worry about it. I can piggyback off of DH's credits but I'm concerned about Medicare someday. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Have you worked very little? [ Reply | More ]
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*The amount of earnings it takes to earn a credit has changed since 1978. In the year 2015, you must earn $1,220 in covered earnings to get one Social Security or Medicare work credit and $4,880 to get the maximum four credits for the year. [ Reply | More ]
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You may be able to get Medicare through your husband's work record: http://www.medicareinteractive.org/page2.php?topic=counselor&page=script&script_id=338 [ Reply | More ]
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My MIL worked very PT and wound up using her DH's credits. If you don't have to work, don't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:19 PM Flag
[ - ] My nanny wants us to provide her with an iPhone. Is this typical? She says it is standard 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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No it is not standard. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Is she worth it? The photos of the kids will be nice. [ Reply | More ]
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I've never had a nanny, but I would expect some form of communication. If she can't provide it, I would provide it as a "work" phone but not necessarily an iPhone. [ Reply | More ]
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No. Never heard of this. We gave our au pairs telephones, but never to the nannies, and we kept the phones when they left the U.S. again. [ Reply | More ]
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Fire her. If you say no, she will take out her resentment on the children. [ Reply | More ]
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Sigh. This is probably why I will just say yes. [ Reply | More ]
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Just get a 5c Or whatever they are called. [ Reply | More ]
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She says she wants the 6+ and there is not a huge price difference if we put her on a plan. [ Reply | More ]
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Wow. Huge red flag. [ Reply | More ]
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You think so? Red flag for what? She is our first nanny. We like her well enough [ Reply | More ]
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what will she ask for next? [ Reply | More ]
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She knows you are her first and so is lying to you. iPhone is not typical. Demanding a 6+ rather than a 5c screams entitlement. [ Reply | More ]
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She's playing you. No one buys their nanny 6+ [ Reply | More ]
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+10000000 [ Reply | More ]
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I don't even have an iPhone 6. I still use a 5S [ Reply | More ]
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OH HELL NO [ Reply | More ]
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Not sure if she would take resentment out on the kids, as that would be pretty low, but she probably would on the parents. Like coming in late, not doing entire job, etc [ Reply | More ]
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No. Our nanny has her own phone and sends pix via WhatsApp. Most we would do is contribute towards the bill if she was calling us heavily. [ Reply | More ]
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That's ballsy. How often does she call you during the day? If lots, I would offer to pay for 50% of her base bill. [ Reply | More ]
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We talk maybe once a day. She says when she has the phone she will send us pictures and videos [ Reply | More ]
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LOL, no. [ Reply | More ]
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LOL, no. [ Reply | More ]
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Nanny here: if you like her, isn't it a small price to pay? [ Reply | More ]
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slippery slope. why not just buy her a classic six on park? [ Reply | More ]
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^^^commuting is just wearing her down. [ Reply | More ]
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It's about the children [ Reply | More ]
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NP: I could never like a nanny who is so obnoxious as to say that iPhone is standard job perk [ Reply | More ]
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Bs. Shows gross entitlement and a propensity for lying. No. [ Reply | More ]
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I would find someone new. [ Reply | More ]
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That's bloody rot [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] There have been several (at least) nice, supportive people on UB today. What in the world is going on? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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We're always on, but we often get drowned out by trolls. [ Reply | More ]
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:) [ Reply | More ]
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+1mm [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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My guess is that there have genuine questions from people with what appears to be real problem/concern. I admit I get sort of snippy when I see trollish posts and clueless posts. Sometimes I feel bad about that. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't. When I can tell something is a troll post or stupid wannabe SAHM whoring for attention, I shut that shit down right away. [ Reply | More ]
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+1. For people wondering why anyone would ever in the world call "troll" on a post, for me it's about wagering my energy. Should I bother to be one of those friendly, useful people? If it looks like we're all being baited, ugh, no. If not, I really like conferring with the (bots and) people here about stuff. [ Reply | More ]
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there are some key giveaways with troll posts. When I spot them, I make it known so that other people don't give the trolls the satisfaction of "duping them" [ Reply | More ]
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I was just thinking how nice it is on here tonight but didn't want to jinx it. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Is customer support a terrible career move? SAHM returning to the workforce after 7 years of nothing and it's all I am seeming to get. I have an offer for $25 an hour doing customer support at a tech company. What do you think? Any room to grow beyond that down the road? 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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If it is all you are able to get and all you are qualified for, then I don't think you have a right to be picky. If you're good, you can excel and move up. [ Reply | More ]
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THIS. Take the offer and keep looking if you aren't happy. Easier to get a job while you have a job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 10:55 PM Flag
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Yeah, that is what I am thinking. I was making 120k before I "retired" to take care of dcs so think this is almost offensive, but I have been getting nowhere else and this is the second customer service position I'm offered. Think I am going to eat humble pie and just go rock it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:04 PM Flag
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Do fhat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:18 PM Flag
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You need to be grateful for the opportunity. In your current situation, you have nothing to be offended about. You can't just walk out of the workforce and then walk right back in as if you never left. You need a very large piece of humble pie. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:18 PM Flag
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Yup. I know. Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:30 PM Flag
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Any idea what you move up to? Sales? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 10:58 PM Flag
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Do you like helping people and solving problems? If you're good at that and proactive you can move into management. Understanding the customer from first hand experience is always valuable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 10:57 PM Flag
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I mean, who doesn't like helping people? :) But of course... yeah that is what I'm hoping but I didn't know what kind of manager you can move up to be- manager of the customer service reps? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 10:59 PM Flag
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At my office (TV) often people who deal directly with consumers can end up in marketing strategy roles because of their understanding of customer problems. But only the problem solvers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:05 PM Flag
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Great to hear! Thank you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:06 PM Flag
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Sounds good. They will see that you are smart and a go getter and you will get promoted. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:19 PM Flag
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My career path with an English degree started in software support. I could have gone a few directions, up the chain in support, to work for one of our customers since supporting the software taught me the business, to technical writing, but I pursued and wound up doing Business Requirements for years. I learned more about how to deal with people doing customer service than any other job I have had. I have a few canned tips for people who do customer service, and I would be happy to share if you would like them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 10:59 PM Flag
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yes, please! And thank you for sharing your story. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:00 PM Flag
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You're welcome! I actually returned to support after a "real career" when I was in grad school for a change of careers. here are the tips: a) don't interrupt. the angriest customer will take a breath and stop. let them finish. iT will go on longer if you try to stop them b) ask a lot of questions yourself. Apologize profusely and sincerely for the fact that you are going to ask questions they may have answered, but you can't rely on someone else's notes if you get someone calling in a second time. c) Don't hypothesize out loud what might be going on if something is not working right because the customer will get hung up on how they know that can't be true. Keep asking questions figure it out and if possible lead the customer to see what is going on on their own screen. d) It is tempting to put the customer on mute and vent or complain. DON'T. one misstep, or uncoordinated press of the wrong key can get you in trouble on a few levels. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:07 PM Flag
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^ when you are asking questions, ask them to "read to me exactly what is on the screen." You might discover as an example that the email to the editor of the newspaper is not sending because the kindly lady who is trying to send the message has the url of the website in the to line. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:10 PM Flag
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Np. Excellent advice! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:24 PM Flag
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Thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:40 PM Flag
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I would add that FOR YOU it's important to understand the problems if multiple customers are having the same issue and then present viable hopefully cost saving solutions to the most relevant person- which may not be your manager. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:13 PM Flag
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+1 OR here - that is what got me into the Product Management/ Requirements role I was able to do that often. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:18 PM Flag
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Thank you so much! I took down some notes from what you said. Appreciate mucho! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:31 PM Flag
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You're welcome. Your peers may be people who are starting their careers or people who have maxed out the capacity. For this job you can learn from all of them. I saw above that you had a much higher salary in the past. Some of the your peers may think that you are really really rich if you have a DH who has a higher salary. You may have to manage that. I will never forget when I was in grad school when I was doing support and DH had his regular job we were watching our pennies, but I was working with someone who felt like he had hit the lottery at 17 dollars an hour with benefits. It was a real wake up call. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:36 PM Flag
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Wow, you really put the nail on the head. DH makes 160k but I need to go back to work to help out with our finances, we are trying to save. Thanks so much for all of your replies, you have made me inspired and hopeful! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:43 PM Flag
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You're welcome, and good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:44 PM Flag
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Yes please! It's been years since I did customer oriented work & wondering what wisdom you've gained. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:01 PM Flag
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It's a hard job for little money. I was offered a similar position, very tough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:22 PM Flag
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What did you end up doing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:30 PM Flag
[ - ] S/o Fashion moms: why is every fashion blog/site/magazine telling me I NEED a long denim jumper or skirt this season? For what do I need this particular item of clothing? Tia 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 10:47 PM Flag
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Because not enough denim was sold last year for the manufacturers so there's a surplus. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 10:49 PM Flag
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Denim jumpers should only be worn by children under four or gardeners. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 10:51 PM Flag
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Duggar inspired? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 10:56 PM Flag
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Yes. Duggar Chic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 10:58 PM Flag
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You will be stylish and more godly! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 10:59 PM Flag
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It's Godly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:09 PM Flag
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I don't know but I can't pull off this look without looking like I am a member of some extreme religious group that requires modest dress [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 10:59 PM Flag
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It's about balance and proportions. A sort sleeve shirt or tank top that is fitted and hits at or above the waist. Sandals that show a lot of the foot, think thong sandals. If you are short wear a wedge. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:13 PM Flag
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Crude translation: It's about what you look like, and how well you can raise an eyebrow. Rest easy that very few people need new denim jumpers. If you have one already, you are not the market for an ironic one. And if I bought one I'd instantly end up on somebody's page of "don'ts." I know one (1) person who can and does pull it off. Young slim fancy smart hipster mom. I salute her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:23 PM Flag
[ - ] My office it cutting staff, and I have been moved into a lower level position. It's humiliating, but there are bills to pay...Help me to look at the bright side. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 10:38 PM Flag
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I think you just did. That's the best attitude. You still have a job and there are bills to pay. GL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 10:40 PM Flag
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This. Best of luck! Ps- Polish up your resume and get out of there stat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 10:41 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 10:42 PM Flag
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I am sorry. Do the job just as well as you have to in order to attract no negative attention. Are you expected to really do the higher job but with lower pay? If anyone tries to bait you into gossip or conversation, have something benign you can say to the effect of you are happy to be gainfully employed. With every other ounce of energy you have network and look for a new job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 10:41 PM Flag
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Why are they cutting staff [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 10:41 PM Flag
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They need to cut costs. I will be doing a job that is less demanding and that pays less...more emphasis on the pays less than the less demanding, I fear. Anyway, my son put it in perspective. "Mom!!!! Don't quit your job!!! We need your money!!!" Kids are great for helping you quickly dump any personal aspirations... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 10:48 PM Flag
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NP, side note: well said, and I really miss my personal aspirations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:25 PM Flag
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Grin and bear it while you plan your speedy exit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 10:42 PM Flag
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Hold your head up high. Anyone who looks down on you for this is a fool and not worth your time. It can happen to anyone in a corporate or other environment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 10:49 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 10:50 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:12 PM Flag
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There is a support group for this. It's called Everyone. We meet at the bar. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 10:50 PM Flag
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Nice. :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 10:53 PM Flag
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Ha! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:26 PM Flag
[ - ] How much should I spend on a bottle of wine to give as a gift to welcome new neighbors? Larchmont. Red, white or sparkling. TIA. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 10:33 PM Flag
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Do certain wines pair better with Westchester towns? White $25. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 10:37 PM Flag
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$20-30. Ask the shopkeeper to help. Since wine is really a matter of taste, and you don't know your neighbors yet, they may be able to direct you to a bottle of wine with a fitting name like "New Neighbors" or something. At least then if the wine sucks, it will still be cute. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 10:37 PM Flag
[ - ] Donald Trump said jeb bush should lead by speaking English in the United states. I think I love this man. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 10:31 PM Flag
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Jeb is milquetost. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 10:33 PM Flag
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I think you and your family need to go back to your country of origin. You're not welcome here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 10:34 PM Flag
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We're from America (?) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 10:43 PM Flag
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no no. you are not a native here. need to learn about history of the U.S. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:29 PM Flag
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Are you a American Indian? If you are, you are the native. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:30 PM Flag
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You're not actually, unless you're a Native American. Go home, you have no more right to stay than today's immigrants. And take all of that riffraff related to you when you go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:44 PM Flag
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I think we should speak the native languages, actually, if we're going to take that position. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 10:34 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 10:39 PM Flag
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Pulse 2 para continuar en Ingl├ęs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 10:38 PM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 10:39 PM Flag
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I can't wait until he is president. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 10:40 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 10:42 PM Flag
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What on Earth do you think is admirable about saying that? Jeb Bush is a native English speaker who happens to be fluent in Spanish. Why should he have to speak English all the time? I don't get it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:18 PM Flag
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Because he is pandering to illegals [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:26 PM Flag
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There are 35 million Spanish speakers in the US, the vast majority of which are here legally. If anything, Bush is pandering to Hispanics, but isn't pandering to potential constituents what politicians do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:32 PM Flag
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Well, the Stump is pandering to flabby spray-tanned, balding old white men, but no one objects to that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:45 PM Flag
[ - ] Rebecca Berg is pretty. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 10:28 PM Flag
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Who is that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 10:29 PM Flag
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Who? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 10:29 PM Flag
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According to my quick search on Wiki, she's a novelist. Yes, she seems pretty from the photos. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 10:32 PM Flag
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hi Rebecca! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.15, 11:19 PM Flag
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