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[ - ] Is it time to go to Renfrew? I am totally and completely obsessing over my weight, what I eat, don't eat , etc. I've tried calorie counting, working out like mad, starving myself but that doesn't really work anymore. Im 35, two little kids, why is this such an issue right now? I hate how much of my brain is consumed by this. I hate how I look in the mirror and it's affecting my moods and my sex life a lot. How do I even address this with my primary care doc? Tell her I think I have an eating disorder? I'm not underweight (5'7", 138 lbs) so she would never just guess. Help. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Not a therapist but my guess is that you are running from something (the stress of having two small DC is colossal all by itself) and then get stuck in this eating/not eating loop. I'd try some type of therapy to learn to give yourself permission to take it easier on yourself. [ Reply | More ]
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Or maybe, she is just a regular person who requires food to live? This idea that most people SHOULD be able to live on 900 calories a day and if they don't there's something wrong with them is beyone fucked up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:38 PM Flag
[ - ] Would you eat DH's asshole if he wanted it? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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No, but I'd give him a hall pass for it, as long as he didn't use a sex worker for it. [ Reply | More ]
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hell no [ Reply | More ]
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Ewwwww no! [ Reply | More ]
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No, that's his girlfriend's job [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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With appropriate preparation, I would do anything for DH, he is rock star. [ Reply | More ]
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This, in theory, but I'd puke. [ Reply | More ]
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In Albanian and Serbia women are not wanting to eat man ass look for Ukraine man better man [ Reply | More ]
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No. His playboy still single friend just got E. coli from doing this to a girl. [ Reply | More ]
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Never [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Is it really a bubble? Number of Manhattan Homes for Sale Hit a Record Low 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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"Manhattan has shrunk to a shockingly small real estate market, and all eyes are on spring to ease the supply-demand imbalance," StreetEasy data scientist Alan Lightfeldt said, noting that the typical "slow ramp" up to the busy spring season — when more inventory hits the market — was nonexistent this year. [ Reply | More ]
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No one can afford to trade up anymore. In my Brooklyn neighborhood no one is selling because the next step is way unaffordable (houses all over $3, many over $5m). People are renovating and reconfiguring their existing homes instead. Can't see it changes any time soon [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Almost 4 month old DD is pooping in the middle of the night and hasn't done that since she was a newborn. Any ideas why this is happening? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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When you gotta go..... [ Reply | More ]
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She is eating a lot right before bed? [ Reply | More ]
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OP: yes, 4-6 ounces bottle or a bit of nursing [ Reply | More ]
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Their digestive systems are still developing. It will change for years. Just change her and and go back to sleep! Congrats, btw. [ Reply | More ]
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At first I read the question as "4 year old" and thought this was very strange advice! lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:27 PM Flag
[ - ] Skinny moms, I am really hungry. what should i eat for breakfast? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:17 PM Flag
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eggs (one yolk, multiple whites). or low-fat yogurt with berries. or low-fat cottage cheese with almonds/cashews. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 on the eggs. Load it up with veggies. [ Reply | More ]
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2nd, I add tomatoes, spinach and a tiny bit of cheese. full for hours [ Reply | More ]
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Oatmeal with berries in a few walnuts. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 And ground flaxseed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:25 PM Flag
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Skinny, pretty, hot mom here. Eat two boiled eggs for breakfast everyday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:20 PM Flag
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well, I always have coffee with cream or milk [ Reply | More ]
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Are you actively gaining weight or staying at same weight now? [ Reply | More ]
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this smoothie really fills me up: 1 cup blueberries, 1 tbs ground flax seed, 1/4 c. full fat greek yogurt, handfull spinach, coconut milk [ Reply | More ]
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np- i'd leave all the yolks in and eat full fat dairy, but i don't eat any grains [ Reply | More ]
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^meant to post under OR [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Best place to live within an hour (or so) of Boston? Looking for something countryish, great schools, nice neighborhood, etc. Maybe somewhere in NH? ME? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Weston [ Reply | More ]
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Make sure you've some $$$$ [ Reply | More ]
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The best schools are actually in cities closer to Boston- Weston, Wellesley, Lexington, Winchester, Belmont. [ Reply | More ]
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my cousin lives in medway. seems like a nice place to live. has a small town feel to me. [ Reply | More ]
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^^really family orientated, she does have a small child in elementary school. all the homes in her neighborhood were custom built [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] IVF ladies: how many days after the transfer did you have your first ultrasound? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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After transfer, I had to get two positive betas, about 12 and 14 days post transfer. Then ultrasound two weeks after that to check for a heartbeat [ Reply | More ]
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ivf is known to generate in.the.spectrum kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:28 PM Flag
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But look how well you're doing! The spectrum ain't so bad... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:39 PM Flag
[ - ] The SEARCH engine on this site sucks so bad, I no longer come here, just use YBM. What is wrong with the people who run this site? It's a joke, searches the internet and gives you a bunch of unrelated posts but you have to wade thru ads to see anything anyways. UGH. Buh Bye 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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see ya [ Reply | More ]
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ita, it's really ridiculous that they don't offer a real search engine. [ Reply | More ]
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What's weird is that there used to be a VG one a few years ago. I am puzzled as to why the owners won't fix it, unless they won't spend a red cent on this site. [ Reply | More ]
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»ita, it's really ridiculous that they don't offer a real search engine. [ Reply | More ]
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If they did it would kill the site. [ Reply | More ]
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The whole appeal of UB is that your posts are 1. anonymous and 2. disappear pretty quickly unless specifically watched. [ Reply | More ]
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don't let the door hit ur arse [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:28 PM Flag
[ - ] Another underwear question. with jeans/pants I wear hanky panky thongs. I need something to wear with dresses in summer, ideally something that gives no line and a lot of coverage in case of accidental underwear exposure. Almost like shorts but not quite. Everything that I have tried somehow manages to squeeze my thighs in a very unflattering way and create bulges where I don't usually have any. Does such a thing exist? Am I doomed to spanx? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Just get a high-waist panty girdle, *in your actual size*, in beige. Smooth lines waist to thigh, no bulges, no color showing through. Also, if your dress is so tight or so filmy that your panty lines show through, consider a slip. [ Reply | More ]
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This. If it's squeezing and creating bulges, it's the wrong size. [ Reply | More ]
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I love spanx in the summer. They wick away perspiration, prevent chafing where my thighs touch, and make everything look smooth under lighter-weight summer clothes. [ Reply | More ]
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Knixwear [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Has anyone ever taken their kids to use the playgrounds on Roosevelt Island? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Spending time there it strikes me as a truly middle class protected place. There were literally no wealthy people walking around, and also no violent unruly underclass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:13 PM Flag
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It seemed to consist of people who worked, some in middle middle class jobs and some in upper middle class jobs, It seemed to completely lack the inequality and anger that i see all over manhattan [ Reply | More ]
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I live there, and I agree. It's very much a middle class island, but LOTS of people who work at the UN and the hospitals on the upper east side (residents, research scientists, nurses, doctors). People are from ALL over the world. There is also middle income housing there, which requires you make at least (I think) $45k, but up to I think $90k, so there are teachers, musicians, artists, cops, people who work in public sector jobs, etc. It's a nice place. Very safe and community-oriented. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, I live there. They're wonderful. The yellow park is brand new and closest to the transportation. [ Reply | More ]
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Is there a place where children can ride bikes? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:20 PM Flag
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Yes - around the entire island, except one spot that is now closed off for construction of Cornell. We ride bikes every weekend when the weather is nice. Some people don't like all the bikes because they're dangerous with children playing, so you can't go too fast. [ Reply | More ]
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DH took DD over there once and they had a great time just walking around (I think they used the playgrounds). I did some volunteer work on a farm over there. It was fun. [ Reply | More ]
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^^sorry, wrong place. Was thinking of Governor's Island. [ Reply | More ]
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I noticed that there was no dog poop anywhere in the island. Seems like the dog owners are more responsible there than in manhattan [ Reply | More ]
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OR: ugh, the dog poop. Huge problem in Brooklyn too and can't figure out why people would do this. So annoying. [ Reply | More ]
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I think people are naturally lazy and in most places the dog owners know they can get away with it [ Reply | More ]
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+1 Very clean. No litter blowing around. Beautiful place, and so relaxing to sit by the river and watch the boats go by. [ Reply | More ]
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On RI, we all know our neighbors, so we would never let dog poop sit. There are baggies at various stations around the island, so there's no reason to leave it. Also, Manhattan Park doesn't allow dogs, so that's a huge part of the housing there with no dogs at all. [ Reply | More ]
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I mean no snobby person would live there, but if i want a super safe place with lots of clean safe parks for kids what is the downside [ Reply | More ]
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I like Roosevelt Island, but commuting into Manhattan seems a bit cumbersome. [ Reply | More ]
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Are you kidding? I work right on the F - it's a shorter commute (10 minutes) than when I lived in the city. The tram is super easy and more reliable than the subway. [ Reply | More ]
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commute. The tram isn't always reliable. [ Reply | More ]
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Take-out is limited. You can't take a taxi to your door without having to go through queens (although you can take a taxi to the tram). If you live on the north side of the island, it's about a 10-15 minute walk to the transportation to Manhattan, but there's a free red bus that runs frequently. There are really no snobby people at all and no uber-rich. The elementary school is great K-5 but not good for middle school. The middle of the island is a little bit of an eyesore, but it's improving. There will be lots of construction there for several years due to the Cornell facilities being built. There are an unbelievable amount of tourists there on sunny days. There are frequently road races that tie up the island. Those are the only downsides I can come up with. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What happened to Crazy MIL? Was she fake and retired by troll, or is she lurking and afraid post I wonder?? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I think it was the work of troll. [ Reply | More ]
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She was fake. Her dh outed her, she tried one more time but we all knew. Hopefully she gave up now. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] PSA: Blue Bell products recalled for Listeria. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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The website says "Blue Ball"…hmmm [ Reply | More ]
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np: yeah, that's what the CEO is feeling right now... [ Reply | More ]
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Hahaha yeah the URL does. I've actually never heard of this brand, but this seems like a major clusterf*ck. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] De Blasio thinks he can get the Dem presidential nomination. LOL. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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He is delusional. [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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He is a joke. [ Reply | More ]
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This is the stupidest thing that the Post ever printed. [ Reply | More ]
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He may be a joke with no chance, but I'm happy that someone wants to run in the primary against Hillary. I like her but I don't want her to be unopposed. Let her win the nom like everyone else. [ Reply | More ]
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He figures no other progressive wants to challenge Clinton*Clinton, and so why not- do it for the publicity and as a flyer on being taken seriously in 2020 or 2024. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] You know the other thing that really depressed me about visiting the Natural History Museum the other day? It was nice out, so we sat outside to have a little snack. In Roosevelt Park there were a bunch of families with their kids on scooters and bikes. But the kids were just riding in these little 40 foot circles over and over again. It was like they went from their house cage to their park cage. Oh yes, we're outside, but don't get more than 50 feet from this spot. At one point I saw this 10 year old girl on her bike just sitting there with a look on her face that was just screaming about how bored she was to ride in a circle over and over again. Really sad. 43 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I did this in my driveway growing up (lived in semi rural burbs). Now that I think about it...how SAD! [ Reply | More ]
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You didn't ride all over your burb growing up? [ Reply | More ]
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Sure, when you weren't looking. You saw a snapshot of peoples' lives. You didn't see the whole picture. [ Reply | More ]
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Do you know another thing about you that is really depressing? You log onto Urban baby everyday to write long posts about observations about other people that you find depressing. People whose lives are really so much better don't do that. Have you heard of the word "projecting"? Spend some time looking it up and think about how it may relate to yourself. And please don't take this badly. You have as much right to dislike the AMNH or NYC as the next person. But your fixation on this topic and pity for city children seems to reflect more on your own unhappiness and dissatisfaction than anything else. [ Reply | More ]
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Eh. I project about some things, but not this. I really do feel bad for these kids who live like that. Its my opinion that children need space and freedom to roam. [ Reply | More ]
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Stop feeling "bad" and "sad" for people you see in a span of an hour or two. [ Reply | More ]
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And in my opinion you need to focus on your own life. If you have this much time to judge and post judgment here, get a charitable hobby. [ Reply | More ]
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Like in their backyard encased in a fence? [ Reply | More ]
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So long as you realize your opinion only matters to yourself. [ Reply | More ]
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OMG just stay in the suburbs the city is clearly not for you. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, the inhibition of movement in the city is a sad thing. Particularly in the case of young children and dogs. But the walking culture helps somewhat. [ Reply | More ]
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OK, we discussed this yesterday, and the post did make it in the most popular. [ Reply | More ]
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Beats the little piece of pavement we had in front of my parent's house growing up. [ Reply | More ]
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You sound awfully obsessed for someone who professes to be so happy with her life. Exactly who are you trying to convince? [ Reply | More ]
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I'm trying to convince people who insist on raising their kids in the City in these conditions not to. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't buy it. If your life were so great, you'd be out living it, not obsessing over everyone else's choices on an anonymous board. [ Reply | More ]
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This. [ Reply | More ]
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Why? Is yours the only way to live life? [ Reply | More ]
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House cage to backyard cage. Complete with bars, I mean fence. [ Reply | More ]
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Boredom is not sad. Kids in this country need to get more bored, so they can start using their imagination again. Electronic games are zapping their inner inspiration. [ Reply | More ]
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clap clap clap!!!!!! even ignoring screens - overscheduling does it too - when kids go from structured activity to structured activity, told where to go, what to do and how to do it. Not given the chance to take risks, not challenged to work with their friends to not only create an imaginative game but to also do it while negotiating around different children's views about what they should do. [ Reply | More ]
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Has anyone ever biked the whole periphery of roosevelt island? That looks like a super safe big bike area for kids [ Reply | More ]
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So is the bike path under the Verrazano Bridge (it's 4 miles one way and we do 8 mile rides up and back). OP doesn't know about these things because she's too busy being faux sad. [ Reply | More ]
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I like you. That being said, i believe that there are fewer thugs and vagrants on roosevelt island [ Reply | More ]
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Do you even know that area of Brooklyn? [ Reply | More ]
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UB 1985? [ Reply | More ]
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You know what's really cool bike ride, Governor's Island. Kids loved taking the ferry and riding bikes there and there's a cool playground [ Reply | More ]
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I was a thousand times more bored in the burbs than my kids are in the city. [ Reply | More ]
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So you were emboldened by the fact that your troll post made it to Most Popular, huh? [ Reply | More ]
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I grew up in the country. Not the suburbs, the country. I spent lots of time in the woods with my friends - totally bored. [ Reply | More ]
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No kidding. "Roaming" is fucking boring. I would have loved to have access to everything in the city. [ Reply | More ]
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OR: Me too. Couldn't wait to move to the city [ Reply | More ]
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Same here, (suburbs/country) but I loved it! Couldn't imagine growing up anywhere else. I think NYC sounds great too. Not sure about with kids, but anywhere is adaptable. :) [ Reply | More ]
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You probably saw me with DCs there. They had a choice of going to family (who they love) in westchester or long island, but strongly preferred to go to AMNH in the morning to scoot around in circles, then the great lawn (which you seen to think is fenced off), in the afternoon. Great day. [ Reply | More ]
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I think kids up to 9-10 have a lot more freedom in the suburbs (my 3 yo is playing alone in the backyard. A friend may wander over later. I am inside "checking on the baby" (napping), i.e., doing UB and applying for jobs). But then it flip flops. Your typical 13 year old in NYC is going to be a lot more self sufficient and worldly than her suburban peer. [ Reply | More ]
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"Worldly" = doing coke and fucking older men at nightclubs she shouldn't be at in the first place. I know all about it. [ Reply | More ]
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What an asshole. [ Reply | More ]
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Wow, you watch Gossip Girl? [ Reply | More ]
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link to original post? [ Reply | More ]
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Well it's their dumb fault for not going somewhere else. My ds bikes 10 miles along the Hudson river every weekend. In the summer we all go out to Governor's Island to bike. [ Reply | More ]
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And where, pray tell, do your kids bike 10 miles in the burbs without fear of getting run over by a car? [ Reply | More ]
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Saddle River county park [ Reply | More ]
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Really, OP? My kids walk and run everywhere and get way more exercise than their suburban cousins (who are all overweight) do. Every time cousins come to visit, they tell us how lucky we are to live here and guess what, they always want to visit the AMNH. In addition to that museum, my kids have access to a whole host of other museums - too many to list here - as well as world class restaurants and theater. So nice try, but you're never going to convince me that you have it better. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Find your dharma, ladies. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Dharma = Religion, Karma = Deed, Kaam = Sexual Desire, Moksha = Freedom from all bodily desires [ Reply | More ]
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My kaam is so ridiculous right now. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] For those who moved to the burbs, was it a very difficult adjustment? Are you just as happy as you were in the city? Are there any good stories here of people who loved the change? I will definitely miss the city but we just don't have the resources to stay anymore. Just looking for some encouragement. TIA 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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It took a while to adjust, but I love it. More room, more relaxing, more convenient in some ways. [ Reply | More ]
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Is it difficult to meet people? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 01:59 PM Flag
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We moved to a town where we knew literally no one. Within three years we have more friends than we can manage. A lot of it has to do with whether your kids are in school or not. Also, make sure you buy a house near other houses. [ Reply | More ]
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or: I agree with this. If you're kids are in school/s it makes it really easy to meet people. Or if you are at a job, you can meet people there. or join a pool club for the summer. there are a lot of ways. just let it happen over time. [ Reply | More ]
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If you have young kids, it's not difficult to meet people and make friends. Smile and talk to the moms at drop off and pick up. Invite someone out for coffee. Watch your kids play sports and meet the other parents. Join a group- PTA, church, synagogue, YMCA, JCC. Take a class you like- art, learn to play bridge or Mah Jongg. Go to the town pool and be friendly! [ Reply | More ]
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this!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:33 PM Flag
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I love my suburb. Love it. But here's the thing - you need to find the right one. There are lots and lots of walkable burbs around that are fun and sort of hip and have cool people. There are others that are walkable and stuffy and populated by blue bloods. And some that are walkable that are sort of middle class, working class. Just make sure you find a walkable burb. Here's a good thing to do - this weekend, take a look at Google Maps and find a town along one of the transit lines. Look at it on Street View to see if it looks cool,then make a day trip of it, take the train, and just walk around and check it out. You'll see if that life appeals to you or not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:01 PM Flag
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What are the best walkable suburbs you can think of? In any of those categories? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:03 PM Flag
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Millburn, Westwood, Summit, Westfield, Cranford [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:20 PM Flag
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Montclair, Denville, Madison, Chatham, Morristown [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:21 PM Flag
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Ridgewood np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:22 PM Flag
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Grew up in NYC, but love my NJ suburb. My town is so pretty. I just love driving around. I love the space in our house. I live in a very friendly community. It's especially easy to make friends if you have pre-schoolers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:11 PM Flag
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OP: Thank you for your responses. I'm starting to feel better about our decision. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:18 PM Flag
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these all came from RE brokers trying to entice people to these towns [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:31 PM Flag
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I said ridgewood and I'm not a broker and I live in a different town [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:36 PM Flag
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I listed some towns, but I'm not a realtor, and I don't live in any of those towns. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:40 PM Flag
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I grew up in the burbs (south orange county, ca) and moved to cities (chicago and boston) in my 20s/early 30s. I think city living has been fun but can't wait to move back to the burbs next year (db is on the way). For me, there is just more space, driving is better on nice, big roads and it is just more convenient. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:35 PM Flag
[ - ] Who toured Lower Lab? What do you think? Would you choose it over a good zoned UES school? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 01:54 PM Flag
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I toured a few years ago, and was underwhelmed (after all the hype on UB). However, after having my DC in another district G&T, I know realize that LL was better than I appreciated. Unless I lived in lower manhattan (where buses to LL do not go), I would choose LL over another good zoned school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:04 PM Flag
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^^^"now" not "know". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:09 PM Flag
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I did 3 years ago, did not like it and went citywide or bust. However, would not pick a zoned school over LL - thats just crazy talk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:08 PM Flag
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I would and did. Have a DC in the lower grades there. Very happy so far. I don't think its that much different from a good zoned public, but instead of being at the top of his class, DC is in the middle and has plenty of room to grow. Also, at the time we made our decision, I thought if LL didn't work out we could transfer easily to zoned school, but not the other way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:18 PM Flag
[ - ] Help me out ladies. I want t plan our move back to the city. Kids already in a hill school so that's 95K annually. Will have 2.5M in down pmt. Don't want too much debt bc income fluctuates a lot. 500-2.5M per year. Factor 110K in schooling plus activities. Would prefer UWS upto 90s and willing to go extreme west side bc don't use public transport. How much apt can I afford? Kids college already saved plus 2M in retirement savings. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 01:52 PM Flag
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How many dc? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 01:54 PM Flag
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Op: 2 in MS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 01:58 PM Flag
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5 mil sounds comfortable and conservative [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 01:55 PM Flag
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Op: really? Even in 500K years? We need cash for vacations and eating out. Don't want all our income going to the apt and school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 01:58 PM Flag
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I'd say you can do $4m safely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 01:55 PM Flag
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Op: what would the annual mort plus maintenance be on such a place? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:05 PM Flag
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well let's see- 1800 per sf. so maybe you can get 2100-2000 s.f.- maintenance would be around $4000 per month for a place like that (varies widely of course depending on newness, condo vs coop, retail revenue of the building) $1.5 mortgage would set you back $7k per month at 3.75%. So yeah, $11k per month expense, but some of that comes back in deductions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:15 PM Flag
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Damn. You rich. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 01:59 PM Flag
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Op: LOL. I don't feel rich but u are right. We are very lucky [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:02 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm tired of people saying they send their kids to "TT" privates because they "value" education, implying that those who choose to send their kids elsewhere do so because they don't care about or understand the value of education. I choose to send my children to public because they are getting an excellent education (academically, socially, life skills). . 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 01:51 PM Flag
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I understand the resources at privates are better, but I don't think iPads for every student and annual school trips to Europe make up for what we'd be missing at public. Specifically, learning how to work hard and be independent to succeed--and being exposed to people with different backgrounds and values. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 01:52 PM Flag
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Np: for us it's the small class sizes, no badly behaved kids, extras, better facilities, PE daily.. DH and I went to private schools and did well in life. We are just carrying on what worked for us. Not saying it's the only way to succeed or provide a good education but it works for us. Fwiw DH and I have never been exposed to " economic diversity" in school or work as defined by UB and we are not white. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 01:57 PM Flag
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Exception to the rule. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:21 PM Flag
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What line of work are you in? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:31 PM Flag
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You've drawn the wrong conclusion. There are a great many parents at public schools that care deeply at education. But there are many more at public than private that don't. I'm sure you're in a great district so all is well for your child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 01:56 PM Flag
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NP then shouldn't they say they choose private to be surrounded by only other families who value education? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 01:59 PM Flag
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Np: actually depends on the private. Some are very academic but others not so much. Could even be the opposite. They want learning without academic pressure but without badly behaved kids or families. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:01 PM Flag
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I'm not sure if that's the way I'd put it but there in some insurance that all of the families are invested in their children and value the school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:05 PM Flag
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+100 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:02 PM Flag
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It's a combo of academics and ambiance. I don't want my kids around badly behaved kids where the parents don't care. I also don't want my kids to feel guilty about our affluence. Better to be around people w similar SES background. We are not white. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:07 PM Flag
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Kids behaving badly where the parents don't care is just as likely if not more likely in private actually. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:19 PM Flag
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Yawn [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:22 PM Flag
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General Topics 04.21.15, 02:39 PM Flag
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I'm looking into private for my dc (switching from public) and the reason is smaller class size and more gym arts etc. Not sure yet if it is worth the 40k a year, but we are looking. No doubt that it is a better educational environment than even the best G&Ts in the city (not sure about city wides). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:12 PM Flag
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It all works out. You don't "value" private school so you don't pay for it. Others do and are willing to pay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:23 PM Flag
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I attended a private elementary school and then moved on to one of the specialized high schools. There are pros and cons to each setting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:35 PM Flag
[ - ] Normal to be afraid to try again after m/c? Going on 4 months now and I've avoided sex with DH because I'm afraid to go through it again. Starting to think there is something wrong with me. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 01:50 PM Flag
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Get back in saddle, woman and stop thinking. m/c really suck but are stunningly common. Keep at it and you'll have a baby before you know it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 01:52 PM Flag
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Thanks. I know they are common, but it doesn't feel that way - I feel really isolated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 01:54 PM Flag
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Do some more reading on-line or browse some pregnancy bulletin boards. But more than anything, move forward with TTC, good things are just around the corner. Plus, DH is going to get fed up with the sex thing and that's bringing a bad vibe of your own making into the whole thing. If you need to mourn, plant a little tree and take time to reflect. But move on! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 01:59 PM Flag
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I felt isolated too when I had a m/c. I think bc so few people talk about it. But if you want to have a baby you have to get over your fear. Maybe seek professional counseling. My OB said they had a list of people they recommended if I wanted to talk to someone. Fwiw - I got pregnant 2 months after the m/c and am now 5 months along. Good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:03 PM Flag
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Thanks - congrats! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:05 PM Flag
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Yes. Get over it. Get back in the game. TIME IS NOT YOUR FRIEND. Good luck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 01:59 PM Flag
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Yeah, I'll be 37 soon. Have no idea what I'm thinking is going to happen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:05 PM Flag
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Right after mc is your most fertile time. It's when I got pregnant with dd and am not expecting db2. The second time around the mc was easier bc I was thinking okay this is exactly how it happened last time, next month I'll be pregnant... I'm glad my doctor told me that and encouraged us to try again right away. Go for it! The worst has already happened, you know you can get pregnant... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.21.15, 02:35 PM Flag
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