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[ - ] most pleasantly surprising food you've had at a cocktail party? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:41 AM Flag
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I'm one for chic dressed up comfort foods at cocktail parties-- mini chicken pot pies, shots of butternut squash soup with a wedge of grilled cheese, etc. It seems to be more of a conversational piece than the typical tuna tar tar and shrimps. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:44 AM Flag
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Wow. If all you can talk about are the hors d'oeuvres you are dull. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:53 AM Flag
[ - ] OMG, I'm bursting w/excitement and pride, and I can't tell any of my friends IRL because I don't want to come off as bragging, but... I found out that my kid got 175 on the SB-V!!! Please let me tell you lovely ladies, since this is anonymous. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:40 AM Flag
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Whoa, that is a great score. Did you prep? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:43 AM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:45 AM Flag
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Congrats! :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:44 AM Flag
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Thanks! Am still kind of stunned. I honestly expected like a 130 or 140, definitely not this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:45 AM Flag
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Fake [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:47 AM Flag
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LOL I was waiting for someone to say that. No, this is not fake. I can't believe it either, but I have the score report right here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:47 AM Flag
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Take a picture of it and link. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:48 AM Flag
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Sorry, I am not doing that. I guess you will just have to believe me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:50 AM Flag
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Totally fake - highest score possible on sb-5 is 160. Google it people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:48 AM Flag
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LOL You know what, I'm not even mad that people think it's fake. I'm still amazed that my kid got such a high score, high enough to be called "fake" on UB. This whole time while I was waiting for the score report, I felt so envious of those posters w/150+ scores. BTW, Hunter uses a modified SB-V and score should not be interpreted as IQ. It specifically says that on the report. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:52 AM Flag
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That is true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:53 AM Flag
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175? I think the maximum score is 170. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:50 AM Flag
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160 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:49 AM Flag
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Yep, max score is 160. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:51 AM Flag
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NP Not true. My DS got 165 last year. Remember, the sum of scores on the Hunter score report is not the same as a full length SB-V score. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:53 AM Flag
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Is your kid a total genius? How could he/she end up w/a score like that and you were surprised by it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:55 AM Flag
[ - ] Dh just told me "it's okay let's stick to one" when I told him I got my period. We have been ttc db2 for 6 months. I gave him the benefit of the doubt in that I assumed he didn't mean it or didn't think about what he said but I asked him later and he said he's been thinking about it and he only wants 1 child. Just casually threw that out there on our way out the door for trick or treating 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:34 AM Flag
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Seems that he feels pressured to have a second one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:39 AM Flag
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He had been pressuring me for the last year, I wanted to wait until dd turned 2. Now he is acting like this is totally rational and no big deal to have a change of heart, as if he just told me "I think I'll have cab instead of Pinot" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:41 AM Flag
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Well, then talk to him about it, sit down and discuss it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:46 AM Flag
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I just tried to. He just "changed his mind and there is nothing to discuss". I said I feel totally blindsided and that I absolutely disagree and that I wanted to talk about this with a therapist. He thinks the discussion is off the table, done, decided [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:47 AM Flag
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He told you this, or you are assuming??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:50 AM Flag
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That is what he said. He changed his mind and he will not talk about it anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:50 AM Flag
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Well then you tell him you want more kids because an only is a deal breaker. and see how he responds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:52 AM Flag
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This is the plan. Can not believe this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:53 AM Flag
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Well he doesn't want to have a second, what do you think about that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:41 AM Flag
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I think that's a deal breaker. We have been together for 12 years and have always always agreed we would have more than one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:42 AM Flag
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It is not a deal breaker, you don't really know how many kids do you want until you have your first. Maybe he misses the relationship dynamic between the two of you, you can't make someone have a kid, you need to be open to discuss this, stop imposing him a kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:45 AM Flag
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It's a deal breaker for me. I want more children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:46 AM Flag
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Then tell him this, is either more children or divorce. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:50 AM Flag
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I don't really want to open that can of worms right now but this is what I will say with a therapist present. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:52 AM Flag
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Why do you need a therapist? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:53 AM Flag
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He feels uneasy telling you he doesn't want to have more kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:41 AM Flag
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I feel uneasy being married to someone who takes such big decisions so lightly. We have been trying to have a baby! I mean what was he going to do if I had gotten pregnant already? What kind of idiot keeps ttc instead of talking to me? This is more about his judgment than anything [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:44 AM Flag
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Seems like he is not too comfortable talking to you about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:46 AM Flag
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clearly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:50 AM Flag
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What if he doesn't want another kid? Seems like you are not even open for a discussion about this. You didn't need to give him the benefit of the doubt, he was being honest with you, maybe you get to defensive about the whole thing and he doesn't want to go into an argument. [ Reply | More ]
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If he doesn't then he should've thought about that before I spent the last 6 months being devastated every time I get my period. We have discussed it to death, it's always been our ultimate goal to have a family and having only one was never ever the plan. Ever [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:45 AM Flag
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You haven't really discussed it, seems like there is not other option with you. How is this to "discuss" when you are not even open to the possibility to have an only child? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:48 AM Flag
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This is the first I have ever heard about him wanting an only. We have discussed how many children we want a million times over the last decade plus [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:49 AM Flag
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Maybe he is tired of seeing you devastated every month and is trying to easy the burden on you, but saying, is not big deal, one kid is ok! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:49 AM Flag
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I hear you but making someone to have a baby they do not desire is not the way to go. If this is a deal breaker, consider divorce. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:51 AM Flag
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I can't believe I went from hoping I was pregnant this morning to thinking about divorce tonight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:51 AM Flag
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Just take a break of ttc for a while until things get better between both of you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:51 AM Flag
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He just planned a surprise vow renewal a couple months ago, totally out of character for him. Now I think he's havjng a psychotic break [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:52 AM Flag
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The more and more I hear these storied, the more I wnat my DD to have donor sperm. What are you going to do now?If you divorce the guy, he will take your kid 50% of the time and you will be devastated and so will your kid. IF you stay with him, you will always regret not having more. I will tell my dd to get pg with sperm donor. No child custody issues, you choose the father, etc. Then you can meet someone and if they are decent they can play daddy. If not bubuy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:52 AM Flag
[ - ] So, my kid told the DOA at a school we interviewed at yesterday that he "likes Ethical better." 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:31 AM Flag
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My dc loved the ethical play date. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:35 AM Flag
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I know! I think they fed them the magic Kool aid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:35 AM Flag
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I think she said she made a book or something. Was really excited about it. Made me reconsider ethical. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:38 AM Flag
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ding [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:38 AM Flag
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Yup. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:38 AM Flag
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not necessarily. my kid said something positive about another school on a play date, and still got in. this was for K. if your kid is going for middle, he/she should know better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:48 AM Flag
[ - ] Tarot mom are you here? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:28 AM Flag
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Ouija Mom here! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:40 AM Flag
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wht the hell is ouija? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:41 AM Flag
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Sassy Tarot Mom live and comin' atcha. I've been taking a break from UB, but I couldn't resist checking on you all tonight -- and apparently I'm needed! What can I do for you, dearest? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:51 AM Flag
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Can you tell me if I will be successful with this three negotiations? thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:54 AM Flag
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^^^ you can read issue #1, issue #2, and #3 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:54 AM Flag
[ - ] Be honest. How much Halloween candy have you had tonight? I'll start: three Woppers. I'm warming up to a Kit Kat. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:25 AM Flag
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One mini twix [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:28 AM Flag
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So much! Wine and candy for dinner over here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:27 AM Flag
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3 small bags of skittles and 3 fin size twix [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:29 AM Flag
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That's it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:31 AM Flag
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A fun sized Milky Way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:31 AM Flag
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2 fun size snickers, 1 peanut butter cup, a bit of a peanut chew - threw that away, yuck! and 2 cookies....too much! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:33 AM Flag
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Ate birthday cake instead. Candy tomorrow! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:31 AM Flag
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Maybe 5 or 6 mini sized ones, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:33 AM Flag
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mini snickers, mini milky way, mini twix. The thing is this candy has been sitting in the stores since August, and it's stale. I eat and then wonder why I bothered, does nothing for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:36 AM Flag
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15 mini chocolates. Equivalent of 3 regular size bars. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:40 AM Flag
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Me too : ( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:51 AM Flag
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0 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:47 AM Flag
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NONE. I've been off sugar since Labor Day. Thank god, or I'd be rifling through their sacks right now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:49 AM Flag
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Some mini snickers. And a ton of fruit I bought so I couldn't graze the chocolate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:52 AM Flag
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2 or 3 Reece's and an almond joy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:55 AM Flag
[ - ] So what streets/ neighborhoods gave out the most candy? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:20 AM Flag
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West Village, Tribeca [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:49 AM Flag
[ - ] Did kids seem more rude and obnoxious tonight then in previous years? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:19 AM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:19 AM Flag
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explain [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:23 AM Flag
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You just gave a perfect example [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:26 AM Flag
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np What? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:27 AM Flag
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The older kids in the neighborhood were exceptionally obnoxious grabbing fist fulls of candy after we offered 3 or 4 pieces. I felt bad for the smaller kids who watched. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:35 AM Flag
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I'm about to do a Grammar Mom bust. Hold me back, UB! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:34 AM Flag
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Than. Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:35 AM Flag
[ - ] So, it's Friday night. It's Halloween. Early tomorrow morning is trash pick-up, so the trash can needs to go out on the curb tonight. Will I find a pile of trash on my driveway when I wake up? Maybe I'm paranoid, but in my youth, Halloween was the night kids put firecrackers in pumpkins, TP'd houses, threw eggs at cars, etc. Place your bets, UB! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:17 AM Flag
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In NJ it was always night before Halloween. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:17 AM Flag
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Hey what about San Francisco after the Giants won. Disturbing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:22 AM Flag
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SF always has a veneer of filth and the stench of the homeless. It's a gross city. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:40 AM Flag
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worth setting the alarm and going out before the truck gets there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:19 AM Flag
[ - ] What to do with left over halloween candy? Not many trick or treaters this year. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:14 AM Flag
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bring it to the projects [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:16 AM Flag
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LOL best response of the night [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:19 AM Flag
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:) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:21 AM Flag
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Pinata filler [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:20 AM Flag
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Eat!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:19 AM Flag
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I don't want it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:23 AM Flag
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the ghetto kids do [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:23 AM Flag
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Our school's doing a candy drive to put in the Christmas shoeboxes for troops overseas. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:36 AM Flag
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I am not in NYC anymore, but there are places that will pack up the candy and send it to US soldiers overseas. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:37 AM Flag
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Interesting. Do you know the names of these places ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:40 AM Flag
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Give to the doorman. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:50 AM Flag
[ - ] I live in BPC and this had there were whole groups of kids from other neighborhoods. This isnt a complaint, like some people make, about poor people invading. I just don't get why they don't stay in their own neighborhoods? It makes it let's fun when there are so many strangers. 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:46 AM Flag
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TOT should be ZONED. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:48 AM Flag
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What the hell is BPC [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:52 AM Flag
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Said no NYer ever [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:02 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:04 AM Flag
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No, when lived there we did not call it bpc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:17 AM Flag
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Well obvs you shouldn't be trick or treating there... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:05 AM Flag
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Butt plug city [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:14 AM Flag
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Move to the suburbs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:52 AM Flag
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I live in the suburbs and this year for the first time we had TONS of people driving in from other, let's say, fortunate areas to TOT in our neighborhood. I have no problem giving out candy to anyone who dresses up and makes an effort but this year was bad. Ignorant kids and parents using our neighborhood for candy without even the common decency of saying thank you or letting the small children pick first, taking more than their share of candy, clearing out the baskets of candy left out instead of just taking a piece or two…and on and on. I've lived here in our neighborhood for some time and I've never seen it like this. Very weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:00 AM Flag
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sorry….less fortunate ** [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:00 AM Flag
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Maybe I'm doing it wrong, but I'm old, so bear with me. I hand out candy to the children. They do not get to pick or choose. Many problems could be solved by doling out the candy to each child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:13 AM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:39 AM Flag
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Move to the exurbs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:17 AM Flag
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We get poor kids in our hood. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:19 AM Flag
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Prob bc people don't give out candy in their neighborhoods. Also, it's a friday night so just more raucous activity all over. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:54 AM Flag
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You don't own the city. People can go anywhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:00 AM Flag
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But why do they? Don't you want to T or T to homes of people you know? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:12 AM Flag
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No! Lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:39 AM Flag
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ESL? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:06 AM Flag
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Haha. Can't type. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:11 AM Flag
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what makes the better dressed kids not strangers? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:08 AM Flag
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What? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:09 AM Flag
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^ not about better dressed. We KNOW our neighbors. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:10 AM Flag
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then get your building to block visitors on Halloween [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:16 AM Flag
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Why so many complaints tonight from lesser desirable families T or T in wealthy neighborhoods. That's where you get the good stuff! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:17 AM Flag
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Also it's safer. Do you think the PJ's uptown are a fun safe place to trick or treat when your kids are under 10? NO! If you are a good parent, you will take your kids to a nicer, safer and more festive hood to trick or treat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:27 AM Flag
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As Willie Sutton famously responded when asked why he robbed banks: "Because that's where the money is." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:33 AM Flag
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Are you stupid or something? They don't go in their neighborhood because hardly anyone celebrates. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:42 AM Flag
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I am glad that the animals came to your neighborhood. now you know what it is like to go to school with them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:43 AM Flag
[ - ] how bad are gel manicures for your health? this one has lasted me 2 weeks and I'm starting to think it's worth the freakin risk! 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:40 AM Flag
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What are the risks? I love gel manicures. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:42 AM Flag
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dumb [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:44 AM Flag
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what's dumb? getting the gel mani? willing to risk my life for it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:44 AM Flag
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yep [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:49 AM Flag
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Live dangerously! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:47 AM Flag
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None. Seriously? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:11 AM Flag
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Some people think it peels their nails off. Those people are taking it off wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:11 AM Flag
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OP: it's the UV light I'm worried about. what if I lather my hands in SPF 50 beforehand? I'm not kidding. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:20 AM Flag
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Huh? Why are you worried about that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:30 AM Flag
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Even if it did that, that's not a risk to your health. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:29 AM Flag
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Removing it will do a number on your nails. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:24 AM Flag
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[ - ] Would you find it "queer" (haha, pardon my punnery) if DH admitted that he had a "complete relationship" for several months with an older man when he was a freshman in college? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:15 AM Flag
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I would think he is bi. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:19 AM Flag
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I'm finding the husband would have it reparable effect on my marriage. I wouldn't change the way I feel about him sexually. I wish this wasn't the case, but I fear it would be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:20 AM Flag
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If he had a relationship with another male, he is telling you he is bisexual. (keep in mind this is something he didn't have to tell you) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:20 AM Flag
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that is the time when you are learning about who you are. nothing abnormal about this at all. older men are better to introduce you as they know what they are doing. your dh sounds very fluid and i bet very sexual. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:21 AM Flag
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wrong. i can't imagine a man needing to be introduced to anything by another man. he's gay, you know it, we all know it. face the facts. now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:34 AM Flag
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+1. If men are experimenting with other men, they are gay or bi. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:57 AM Flag
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um.... will a man PLEASE answer this question? I'm not trying to sound like a bitch here but honestly, from the guys that I know, if any one of them were to willingly allow another man's penis near his body for sexual pleasure that definitely makes him either gay or bi .... completely regardless of age or degree of sexuality. Done. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:24 AM Flag
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That seems like what everyone is saying here [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:25 AM Flag
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Gay [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:28 AM Flag
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If he brought this up he's opening the door to something. Prepare yourself. He had no reason to tell you that. Sounds like he wants to revisit that side of himself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:37 AM Flag
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Yep. Time to get the glory hole ready. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:03 AM Flag
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No. Bi. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:38 AM Flag
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Gay or bi, sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:44 AM Flag
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exbf told me he had sex with guys and thought all guys did that as experimenting. Is that true? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:54 AM Flag
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I think it's very common for women to do this nowadays. Not so much men, but that's probably changing too. Much less rigid gender roles. It's all good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:07 AM Flag
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DH here. are you guys all nuts? "all guys did that as experimenting??" -- uhh noo. He is completely gay. not even bi probably. a repressed, closeted and probably self-tortured gay, but nonetheless completely gay. GUYS DONT EXPERIMENT WITH THIS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:37 AM Flag
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Question for you... What about a guy who says guys really like BJ more than sex and has admitted to experimenting in college/HS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:43 AM Flag
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Gay [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:52 AM Flag
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I said that! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:44 AM Flag
[ - ] OK, here goes. I love my DH and my 2 DCs. I'm a former WOHM and current SAHM. Older DC is in school full time and is generally a very high-maintenance child. Younger DC is home with me (and only me) all the time and is high-maintenance due to age. The thing is, nothing is ever about me anymore. Nothing. I feel like DH just thinks about work, the house or DCs. It's like I'm a nanny here. He's def not cheating (please don't argue this point). But I just need to vent about the fact that I feel like a second class citizen here who basically lives to serve these three awesome people who I love but I kinda just feel like shit. I know taking the time to hit the gym and do some shopping for myself will help but I'm in a rut and just can't get myself started. thanks for listening. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:12 AM Flag
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Not unusual feelings at all. Read the Feminine Mystique, I've picked it up again--interesting and timeless and also perhaps what you need to make a "plan" for yourself too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:17 AM Flag
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Not unusual feelings at all. Read the Feminine Mystique, I've picked it up again--interesting and timeless and also perhaps what you need to make a "plan" for yourself too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:17 AM Flag
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I can see where you are coming from. I think many of us feel that way especially with a partner who isn't engaged in all the family stuff as we are.... I WOH as does DH and we only have 1 toddler - but I often feel like this. I think you need to spend some time weekly on doing stuff for you. Can you afford a babysitter a few times a week? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:24 AM Flag
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the funny thing is that we can afford care and my DH even asked me to get care for the baby but I feel guilty doing it. I have to stop acting like I'm some sort of martyr. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:29 AM Flag
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Why don't you ask your husband to take care of your kids while you go to the gym/mani pedi a Saturday? Maybe you should stop catering every single "want" your dc have, it is ok to say no once in a while, they are high maintenance because you let them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:24 AM Flag
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Talk to your dh about your feelings, he is not a mind reader and because you say nothing he thinks you are happy with your current situation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:25 AM Flag
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hire a babysitter once in a while during the week so you can have some me time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:25 AM Flag
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Younger DC hangs on me for dear life. totally my fault but it is what it is now. Younger DC wont even stay with DH and DH wouldn't even know what to do with younger DC. Older DC and DH are best friends. I'm a third wheel in their relationship. I'm not jealous at all - I'm thrilled that DC has such an amazing relationship with DH and i don't expect him to love me the way he loves DC but I'd like some of our spark back and i need to feel special (even in the slightest way) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:35 AM Flag
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I completely relate! Cheer up-- at least we're in this together it seems. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:38 AM Flag
[ - ] Please help. Who is right here? DH and I have fun friends in for Halloween and we all went with our kids to a neighborhood party and treat-or-treating. There was plenty of food at the party, so while we were drinking wine, we also ate. My DH (for the 100th time) forgot to eat so he came home at 9 p.m. very drunk. I'm sick of this. His parents were both alcoholics and I find his behavior to be odd. Why drink, as an adult, and not eat? He's slurring his words, falling all over, etc. We came home, looked at each other, and I asked what we were going to do for the rest of the night. His answer? TV? I asked why don't we sit and talk with each other (he travels all week, so I am alone 5 night out of 7, and leaves Sunday for London)? He yawned, and then wandered off to bed. I feel I am being taken advantage of. I am attractive, I love to read and travel and I want to have a partner in life. WWYD? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:12 AM Flag
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I'd consult one of those checklists for alcoholic behavior and if he fits the profile, confront him. You need to get serious and tell him that things are not okay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:15 AM Flag
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Time for a serious talk. Otherwise resentment will build up and erode whatever is good about your relationship. Good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:16 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:21 AM Flag
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You say he came home "very drunk" but yet you attempt to talk....? Why would you do that? He's drunk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:27 AM Flag
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So am I to sit alone, yet again, another night while he goes off to sleep? Why should I be OK with this? He is gone every week (monday-thursday late) so the first we can talk is on Friday nights. I'm frustrated. We haven't had sex in over a year. I'm lonely and tired of running a family alone to end up sitting alone, again, on a Friday night. Especially on Halloween! I love this holiday and he ruined it by being childish and not eating and then by getting drunk. I'm fed up. Period. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:32 AM Flag
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he does this all the time and you think it would all be fine if he just ate when he drank? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:29 AM Flag
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I know that if I don't eat when I drink that I become very tipsy. I figure if he ate, when he drinks, that would help him out. He ate lunch at noon and then nothing until 9 p.m. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:34 AM Flag
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Poor excuse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:42 AM Flag
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Poor excuse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:42 AM Flag
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his parents are both alcoholics. he’s an adult who drinks until drunk. wake up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:46 AM Flag
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Your dh came home from a kiddie friendly party drunk? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:15 AM Flag
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Uh...he's an alcoholic. Is this not completely obvious to you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:23 AM Flag
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He got wasted and then you wanted to sit and talk? What? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:24 AM Flag
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You sound like my mom. I've had this conversation with her a thousand times about my father. No many how many times he is told "Do not drink if you haven't eaten", he does anyway. She said it's a fight she cant have with him anymore, so now when she comes home and finds him like that, she just leaves and does her own thing. I'm sorry, OP. (FWIW, I would have never called my dad an alcoholic. He is just an idiot when it comes to drinking) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:48 AM Flag
[ - ] do HM/fieldston/riverdale families ever live in riverdale? seems like it would make a lot of sense 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:08 AM Flag
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Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:09 AM Flag
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Some do, of course, but many live in Manhattan, Westchester, even NJ. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:09 AM Flag
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Hijack: is Fieldston the best of the hill schools if looking for great academics, good kids but not as pressure cooker as HM? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:05 AM Flag
[ - ] One thing I noticed from my time in England - it's kind of crazy how much the London region dominates England's media and culture, even though that's only 1/3rd or so of England's population. There are a LOT of people living in kind of a big horseshoe pattern around an area called the Peak District, but compared to London, they are simply ignored. And if you're up in Newcastle, Londoners regard you as stranded Scots or something. You don't exist. Also, people in Devon/Cornwall get upset if you claim they "talk like pirates." 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:08 AM Flag
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csb [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:11 AM Flag
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Enough with this stupid response [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:31 AM Flag
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Cool story, mate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:58 AM Flag
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So similar to flyover. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:33 AM Flag
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it is absolutely not abnormal for a largest city to be 1/3 of a country's population and for it to dominate the country's cultural scene. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:56 AM Flag
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No, it's totally normal for a place like England, very small, and Hungary, Poland, Austria, Switzerland, Korea, Malaysia, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:24 AM Flag
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The point is that England used to be a highly-regionalized country. Manchester and Liverpool and Birmingham, etc. all had very distinct identities from London, and all had some degree of influence upon broader English culture. But with the introduction of mass-media, London has become monstrously dominant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:36 AM Flag
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Lancashire was huge in the textiles industry, for example. Other areas like Newcastle were huge in shipbuilding. Economies and industries evolve. The world has changed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:41 AM Flag
[ - ] Realistically, could a family with a HHI of $350-400K ever qualify for financial aid at a school like Chapin, Spence, etc.? Sounds ridiculous but living in Manhattan makes it very difficult to afford both high rent and sending a dc to $42K a year school. 35 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 01:53 AM Flag
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Not going to happen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 01:52 AM Flag
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No chance [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 01:53 AM Flag
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No. Maybe with 3 kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 01:54 AM Flag
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Go for cheaper rent. Spend the difference on tuition. That's what we do on that income. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 01:58 AM Flag
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Private school is not a right, it's a privilege. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:03 AM Flag
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the middle class (or at least NYC umc) shouldn't be stuck in the middle either [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:06 AM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:07 AM Flag
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There is nothing middle about that HHI. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:39 AM Flag
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Privilege of what exactly? $$ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:07 AM Flag
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Exactly. What happened to $25,000 a year tuition? Manhattan is a place for the very rich, not the middle class. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:14 AM Flag
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That is the tuition in most flyover areas, actually. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:23 AM Flag
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And that is relevant because... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:39 AM Flag
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Private school is expensive all over. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:40 AM Flag
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Is private school 42k in a lot of other cities? That's what it is in NYC. There is a pretty big difference between 25k and 42k, particularly when you have more than one child. I know a lot of people who would/can pay 25k, but not 42k. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:54 AM Flag
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But they aren't making NYC $$. I am sure 25k is a lot for most people elsewhere. Private school is a luxury, not a necessity. JMO. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:57 AM Flag
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True re income, but overall their expenses aren't as high either. Everything is expensive in NYC. I absolutely agree that private school is a luxury and not a necessity, BTW. I was just pointing out that it wasn't long ago that tuition here was 25k, and that was doable for a lot more families. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:07 AM Flag
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Exactly. Our private (not NYC) is about $29K plus extras (class retreats/camps; not to mention donations). Salaries are not as high as in NYC, so it's still a big bite. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:11 AM Flag
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SF mom here: tuition is just under $30K k-8, high school is closer to 40. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:09 AM Flag
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Go to a good public. Buy in a good public zone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:03 AM Flag
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we are in this position with 300k and we have 2 dcs... we will do public. I'd rather save the $ for college/grad school. We'll see if we stick with in but (I know, boo hoo) we really are stuck in the middle... with taxes, retirement, crazy housing costs, and saving for college, 13 years x 45 k x 2 is not in the cards. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:05 AM Flag
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How many kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:07 AM Flag
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Troll [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:08 AM Flag
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op: I wish I was troll - that would mean that this isn't really an issue. Agree with comments above, thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:13 AM Flag
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What about 250 total income but have two separate households (parents separated in different cities). Financial aid then? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:27 AM Flag
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I think this would be more likely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:36 AM Flag
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Well, we can't get FA with 200K and 2 dcs in the city so prob not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:24 AM Flag
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do you do public? we are same as you and no way can we afford private [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:27 AM Flag
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Np: we have HHI of 350 and 3 kids. We have 2 older kids at public. I would not do private even with FA for k-5 it's a stupid waste of $$ with this HHI (my dc started MS so I know) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:35 AM Flag
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What's wrong with public? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:29 AM Flag
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OP: Nothing at all. Applying to MS and considering applying to private schools as well as public (Salk, Baruch SP), just to keep options open. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:35 AM Flag
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So lets assume you get 25% FA can you afford private? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:37 AM Flag
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np: We are in same boat. Applying to HS and wondering if we should also look at Catholic schools. I went to a Catholic HS in NYC and it was a great school, but not sure it's the right place for my dd. But at least tuition is manageable (other than MM and CSH). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:46 AM Flag
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Private apps are due soon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:41 AM Flag
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Yep, Nov. 15 for some. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:47 AM Flag
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You should save for college if paying tuition on your salary is a problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:01 AM Flag
[ - ] Wondering if anyone here has any experience with reiki and if so, what your thoughts are about it. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 01:49 AM Flag
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Yes, I've done it. Loved it, but I'm open to that sort of thing and believe it can work. If you don't think it can work, I wouldn't bother trying it. You're not going to see big, dramatic changes if you do it, IMO. It's more of a subtle thing. I use it when I feel like I need to get really clear on something - a decision I've made, an experience I've had. I feel like I flush out any negativity I have/had around something and am able to move forward more easily afterwards. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 01:58 AM Flag
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Do you use it to treat physical pain? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:03 AM Flag
[ - ] Thinking about moving to Riverdale or Bergen Country, NJ from Manhattan. Would appreciate input on best neighborhoods, schools, commute to the city, culture of kids and families. Two kids near middle school age. One in hockey, one in lacrosse. We can afford $2mm for a house or fine if it's an apartment. Thanks! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 11.01.14, 01:47 AM Flag
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Riverdale is much cheaper. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 01:55 AM Flag
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Riverdale in the Bronx or Riverdale, New Jersey? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 02:30 AM Flag
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OP: Bronx [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:01 AM Flag
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Best to do your own research, Darling, than to reach out to UB on this one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 11.01.14, 03:40 AM Flag
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