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[ - ] I feel so down lately. Don't know if it's the end of summer or all the terrible news from around the world. Anyone else? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:42 PM Flag
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Yes. Both. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:33 PM Flag
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Yes. Totally. I love fall but the news just gets worse and worse. There was an interview about the beheaded journalist on npr this morning and I couldn't turn it off, even though I could feel myself slipping into a funk. Horrible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:37 PM Flag
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I have to agree. I am usually a glass half full type person who believes in "we didn't start the fire" but for some reason this summer is seeming very depressing. I haven't switched on news for more than 5 minutes in a month. If I last that long. I have thought about this and it just seems like the Michael Brown/Cops Black/White Israeli/Gaza stuff is just one more dead end that won't go anywhere. Like that heroin addicted nephew you have who keeps breaking hearts. At some point you know the person on the other end is hurting because they've gone and done XYZ yet again … but you have no more solutions … no one can just kill the motherfucker and make him go away … and you just have no more outrage left to dredge up and start to just not want to take the calls at all. You reach overload. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:42 PM Flag
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I used to force myself not to come to this site. Now I promise myself I can come here if only I don't listen/watch the news or go on news sites [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:45 PM Flag
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Yes. Extremely. I just found out about James Foley. I know how to read Arabic. Went on the ISIS site and read why they did this in Arabic with graphic pix of abu gharib etc. This is never going to end.... I am crying my eyes out [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:55 PM Flag
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there is no excuse, sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:47 PM Flag
[ - ] One advantage to having no friends - I am not getting nominated for the icebucketchallenge. Lucky me, sob sob. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:40 PM Flag
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Your friends know you well enough to know that you're not a lemming and wouldn't do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:43 PM Flag
[ - ] Best place to lease a car in manhattan? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:38 PM Flag
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NJ. It is cheaper and just across the Hudson. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:28 PM Flag
[ - ] How bad is it for a 3rd grader to be out of school for 5 days in November? Planning to take a trip to Mexico and the prices are much higher during the school break.. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:29 PM Flag
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Public? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:31 PM Flag
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Op: Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:33 PM Flag
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It's fine [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:27 PM Flag
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Does your child miss a lot of school for illness? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:41 PM Flag
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Not really, I think he missed 3 days last year [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:35 PM Flag
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not great [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:31 PM Flag
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I think you're okay with attendance, I think 4th grade is the year they really start looking at attendance records. Public school mom here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:32 PM Flag
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i really try not to do this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:43 PM Flag
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+1 but I understand the temptation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:38 PM Flag
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Family time comes first, take your children out of school and make some life long memories! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:34 PM Flag
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my 1st grader will also miss 5 days for vacation, don't love the idea but it's good timing for us work wise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:50 PM Flag
[ - ] Any Madison, NJ Moms on? Would love some feedback on the community. I know the schools are very highly ranked in the state and nationally, as I've read the 2014 US News & World Report, but would love to hear about the people, the town, etc. TIA. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:28 PM Flag
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I don't live there but my cousin does, all I hear is that it is a great town, great people, great schools, family oriented, down to earth. University town (Drew & Fairleigh Dickinson are there) so there are a lot of shops and things, her kids do a ton of sports and activities. She loves it there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:37 PM Flag
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I visited there. The town seemed great but small for us. I could live there, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:43 PM Flag
[ - ] My sister allowed her husband to spank my eight year old daughter. I am so angry right now I am shaking. It has been a very horrible trip. 39 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:26 PM Flag
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What happened? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:26 PM Flag
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I'm spending my last week of summer vacation at my family's cabin in the mountains, my daughter's father is with us. Anyways, the day started off with my father and all the men in the family explicitly leaving out DD's father on their 'man trip' until I pushed him. Then later DD was playing with her kids and she got into a fight with my nephew while I was out with my mother. DD ended up punching him and he cried to his mother, and she called on her HUSBAND to discipline my child. She also made DD sit in a corner. She's 8 years old for god's sake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:28 PM Flag
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I would be fine if my sister and BIL did this. It's family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:46 PM Flag
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Why did you not stop it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:51 PM Flag
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WTF??????? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:38 PM Flag
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omg what [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:38 PM Flag
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I know, I'm so pissed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:30 PM Flag
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What did the child do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:27 PM Flag
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She got into a fight (verbal, physical) with my nephew, who is nine and a lot bigger than her. What she did wasn't right, but it didn't grant what she let her husband do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:30 PM Flag
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So is the issue she was spanked? Is it who did it? Is it standing in the corner? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:47 PM Flag
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It's everything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:36 PM Flag
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Then you have a problem. If you leave your dd in the care of others and she punches someone - the adult in charge has a right to punish [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:38 PM Flag
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Sending kid to room is one thing, spanking is another. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:52 PM Flag
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Safe you op? Have you and your sister never discussed spanking? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:43 PM Flag
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Not OP, but I do not know anyone who would spank someone else's kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:58 PM Flag
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I would be livid if ANYONE in my family struck my child for any reason. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:39 PM Flag
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I am very livid right now. DD's father is going to raise hell. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:30 PM Flag
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Wait a minute. It seems like the other members of your family got married before having babies but you decided to have a baby without getting married. Is it possible that the rest of your family thinks that your daughter is wild and disobedient because of your decision to have a child out of wedlock? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:43 PM Flag
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Oh, sure, they certainly harbor resentment over our marital status. You're probably pretty accurate on that note, but I'm still angry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:44 PM Flag
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Well, treat us the same way you would treat your therapist. You have to tell us ALL the facts, don't hold anything back, and we can help you. But if you are evasive we can not help [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:45 PM Flag
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np OP's marital status is totally irrelevant. There are no circumstances under which it would be appropriate for BIL to spank his niece! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:39 PM Flag
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Alrighty. Well, my issues with my family have gone on for a long time. Even growing up, I didn't hold the same values that they did. I didn't find it logical that all Catholics were going to rot in hell and I found myself far more moderate in my political beliefs. Since I was little they assumed there was something wrong with me, because I didn't like to do what the other girls did. I was hyper rational to a fault and I enjoyed debating and questioning the supreme opinions of my authority. Long story short, I ended up applying to boarding school and getting them to foot the bill for Andover. When I went to Andover I realized that there were people out there who believed it was perfectly acceptable to be the way I was, and I became even more antagonistic with my family. I started noticing everything wrong with their beliefs, the sexism, etc. I ended up going to an ivy league (which they hated, my father didn't speak to me for six months because I wouldn't go to Duke) and as I was removed from them I grew father apart. Then I met my daughter's father and when I got pregnant everything changed in our family. (Sorry if that was really long) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:42 PM Flag
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FAKE. Like your dear brother in law would go ask your sister for permission before a spanking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:43 PM Flag
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exactly. she does these fakes over and over. Keeps using the phrase I am so mad/angry/upset I am shaking.. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:57 PM Flag
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It seems like because your boyfriend fathered a baby without marrying you your boyfriend is being made to feel unwelcome. Is your boyfriend, the father of your daughter, from another ethnic background? Give us the full story [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:44 PM Flag
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Yes, how did you know? He's actually mixed (half black, half white) and while my family is a little bit racist in that good old fashioned conservative way, they forgive him because he's 'one of the good ones' and his father was a doctor. But yes, my family is fairly conservative and they feel very offended by the fact that we have a child together and no marriage certificate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:36 PM Flag
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IT sounds like your family is WT. You should probably keep DD away from them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:49 PM Flag
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Pack your bags now and leave! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:35 PM Flag
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Totally inappropriate. I would take her and leave, and get a gift on the way home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:47 PM Flag
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A gift? WTF? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:40 PM Flag
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no gift, but I would certainly be telling my child that I was leaving because the actions of her aunt and uncle were unacceptable (and that her behavior was wrong as well). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:56 PM Flag
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This whole thing sounds like a troll post, I feel a little misled because I had to DRAG it out of you that your daughter is part black, and your entire bio family is 100% white. But let me play along. Your daughter plays in to all the racist stereotypes by being born out of wedlock and being more wild and uncontrolled than white girls and getting in to a physical altercation, hitting etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:51 PM Flag
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My daughter is neither wild nor uncontrollable, and she's at best 1/4th black. I don't feel the need to scream her race from the rooftops, sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:56 PM Flag
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You just did - which shows you are fake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:58 PM Flag
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just leave now. it is not okay and I don't think I would forgive my sister. I feel more like she instructed her husband rather than allowed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:53 PM Flag
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It sounds to me like the whole situation is pretty uncomfortable. You have a white family that believes in traditional values like getting married before having babies, this OP gets impregnated by a partially black man, takes that partially black man on a family trip, then complains when her white male relatives do not include the partially black man in male bonding activities, the racially mixed daughter punches the white boy... You can see where the actions of the family may be understandable I mean the OP is really disrupting things [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:42 PM Flag
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i am hoping your last sentence is sarcasm. OP should leave and write these people off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:57 PM Flag
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nice trolling [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:58 PM Flag
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The person who I feel the most empathy for is the poor guy who fathered your daughter. Here he is, a nice calm rational black man, and you (OP) force him to spend time trapped in a little cabin with your conservative all white family. You admit your white family is a little racist, and yet you force this black man to spend time with them. Has it ever occurred to you that you are forcing an uncomfortable situation? If you want to spend time with your white family, why don't you do your daughter and her father a favor, see your white family and let the father and daughter do their own thing in another location [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:47 PM Flag
[ - ] My roommate is having shower sex in our apartment. We share a bathroom. That's poor etiquette, right? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:20 PM Flag
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Is there another bathroom in the building you can use? Like in the lobby or health club? My roommate would do this and I found alternatives [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:23 PM Flag
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what? why should she have to find the alternate shower? her roommate should find the alternative. she is the one having sex there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:35 PM Flag
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Yick. Disgusting. You don't have sex in shared spaces. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:25 PM Flag
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well she has sex in the shower she shares with her roommate, so what is the difference? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:39 PM Flag
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Does your DC shower in there too? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:25 PM Flag
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I don't have kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:37 PM Flag
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Go away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:26 PM Flag
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I have a dog and a cat, they are like my children [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:38 PM Flag
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why are you on UB? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:40 PM Flag
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Why is a girl who has no children, a girl living with room mates even on UB -- shouldn't you be on Tinder [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:44 PM Flag
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+1. I don't understand what all these single, young, women are doing on UB?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:57 PM Flag
[ - ] My boss banned urbanbaby on the work network. All of us are pretty pissed! 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:10 PM Flag
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i love your boss. He/she just did you a huge favor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:23 PM Flag
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NP: obviously she's still UBing, now she just has to do it from her phone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:25 PM Flag
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(OP) Exactly, lol! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:28 PM Flag
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My boss won't let me sell crack at work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:12 PM Flag
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You discussed this with your coworkers?! The first rule of UB. . . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:26 PM Flag
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work is for work not UB. What kind of lame job do you have that you UB all day? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:29 PM Flag
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Come on, she's obviously a lawyer like half the women on here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:19 PM Flag
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A very important one paying $500K. I work onsite from 7am-10pm, plus several hours at home and on weekends. I have given up sex, vacations and seeing DC during M-F. I deserve a break, sanctimommy! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:35 PM Flag
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hate when that happens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Dh just found out that I have been on birth control since birth of second dc 2 years ago. Both pregnancies were high risk and I was on bed rest, delivered at 34 and 35 weeks. Dcs are only 3 years apart. I had to quit my residency and I'm not able to return as dh insist I stay home until dcs are elementary school age. I was too nervous to confess I don't want a 3rd dc right now and may never. He is upset because he believed we were ttc. He even went to fertility specialist thinking something was wrong with him. I'm upset but also relieved. Is this forgivable or should I start preparing for a divorce? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:10 PM Flag
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I would divorce someone who "insisted" I stay home after I went to medical school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:12 PM Flag
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really? you wouldn't just talk about it and try to work through it? Wow. that's sad [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:33 PM Flag
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+1 Totally this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:42 PM Flag
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you cannot be serious - don't you two talk? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:01 PM Flag
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both of you are a little crazy - you for hiding this, him for making you feel that you had to and for "insisting" you stay home. Counseling, for sure,if you stay together. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:14 PM Flag
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:34 PM Flag
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A lot of things wrong here. Are you two just completely unable to communicate? He actually thought you were actively trying to conceive and you let him think that rather than having a tough, but necessary conversation? If I were him I'd feel deceived definitely. But I also think it's insane that he thinks he can insist on what you do with your days be it work or being at home. Counseling stat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:03 PM Flag
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THIS x 1,000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:34 PM Flag
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I'm OP. Other than this, we are great together. That is the truth we rarely have disagreements. He loves children and he is such a great father. He comes from a large family and always imagined he would have several children as well. Luckily the number wanted has gone down to 3 to 4 dcs because for years it was at least 5. I don't think I can carry another child, from a medical stand point. I know I was wrong. We communicate so easily about everything but this. I did mention counseling and all he said was it's quite possible nothing will fix this. As far as me being a sahm he feels if a family can afford it the mother is the best caregiver for her dcs. I'm fine with that for now but having another one would just put my dreams on hold even longer. He doesn't grasp this is for myself, my self esteem, and to complete the goal I have worked so hard to achieve. He says I'm selfish and greedy not putting the dcs first and career last. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:27 PM Flag
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you say "other than this" as if you had an argument over who should take out the trash. you told your husband you were trying to conceive and were taking birth control. this is a pretty big lie. you also lied and allowed him to think he may have fertility issues. This is a pretty HUGE lie. why not just be honest and tell him you're not sure you want a 3rd kid? it shows a lack of communication and honesty and is a HUGE problem. To me this is a big big issue in a marriage and you're not getting it. you're obviously not that great together if you don't see this and don't talk openly about your feelings. I feel sorry for you. and BTW, couples who rarely have disagreements - this isn't exactly a great thing. If you were honestly about your feelings and actually said how you felt instead of lying and being deceitful, you might argue more, but at least you would be AUTHENTIC! your marriage seems like a sham. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:43 PM Flag
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I'm OP. Other than this, we are great together. That is the truth we rarely have disagreements. He loves children and he is such a great father. He comes from a large family and always imagined he would have several children as well. Luckily the number wanted has gone down to 3 to 4 dcs because for years it was at least 5. I don't think I can carry another child, from a medical stand point. I know I was wrong. We communicate so easily about everything but this. I did mention counseling and all he said was it's quite possible nothing will fix this. As far as me being a sahm he feels if a family can afford it the mother is the best caregiver for her dcs. I'm fine with that for now but having another one would just put my dreams on hold even longer. He doesn't grasp this is for myself, my self esteem, and to complete the goal I have worked so hard to achieve. He says I'm selfish and greedy not putting the dcs first and career last. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:27 PM Flag
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Darn it, sorry for the double response. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:27 PM Flag
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np You haven't explained why you lied to him instead of just telling him you were done. Obviously you need to apologize for lying, especially because it sounds like he endured some stress re ttc. But you also need to be assertive and explain openly and honestly how you feel. Regardless of his opinion, it sounds like you don't want any more kids under any circumstances. Either he can accept that or he can't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:34 PM Flag
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^ If I'm wrong and it's pregnancy you don't want, look into adoption or surrogacy. If he objects to that, set up a pre-conception appt with your ob to discuss your odds after 2 high risk pregnancies. I always hoped to have a big family too, but after our perinatologist laid out the odds of an "adverse outcome" my dh said absolutely not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:36 PM Flag
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Ok you need to be on the same page. I think it's mean to have him thinking you're TTC when you're not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:20 PM Flag
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A marriage built on deception isn't much of a marriage. Also "insist I stay home" is another red flag. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:10 PM Flag
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THIS. if you're lying to your DH about taking Birth Control, that was your first red flag. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:31 PM Flag
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Why is divorce the first thing people think of!!!!!! Okay, you didn't tell him something BIG. Now he's angry, and understandably so. But the first thing you have to do is know that this isn't the end of the world. You'll get through this. But do NOT think about divorce here. You'll work it out once both of you have calmed down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:14 PM Flag
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There are so many things wrong here I don't even know where to start. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:26 PM Flag
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This, assuming it's real. It's hard to believe any man who is not a monster would push his wife into another high-risk pregnancy and that any woman smart and driven enough to get through medical school would let her spouse decide unilaterally how their children would be raised and how she would manage her career. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:19 PM Flag
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cultural issues? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:37 PM Flag
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+1. I can't believe you quit your residency. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:59 PM Flag
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I hope you are fake - but if you are not - divorce seem like the better choice than a marriage to this guy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:33 PM Flag
[ - ] My 5 yr old DS is interested in gardening - what can I grow in a NYC apartment? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:03 PM Flag
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Fresh herbs on the windowsill [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:54 PM Flag
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which herbs do best here with the winter (assuming they are out on the fire escape)? Basil? Parsley? Nothing outside? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:09 PM Flag
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NP Are you joking? You can't grow herbs outside in NYC in the winter! You can grow them INSIDE on a sunny windowsill. Rosemary is a good bet because you can keep taking snippets and it will live for years. Spider plants are very easy and grow fast - they even make "babies." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:21 PM Flag
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Winter probably isn't the best time to start with herbs outside. I'd keep them inside. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:16 PM Flag
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maybe rosemary but most you'd need to bring inside. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:16 PM Flag
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np--Don't put plants on the fire escape. It should be left clear for escape if there's a fire. Cyclamen does very well in an outside window box in the fall and most of winter, as would rosemary and possibly thyme. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:39 PM Flag
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If you buy a grow light (the kind pot cultivators use) you can grow anything indoors. Screw it into a simple home depot socket on a cord and hang it from a ceiling over your indoor plant. An indoor cherry tomato bush could be a lot of fun and your DS can learn to hand-pollinate flowers with a small paintbrush. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:09 PM Flag
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Weed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:27 PM Flag
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Oh darn free gardening program BPC you should take dc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:30 PM Flag
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Basil grows great. It depends on how much light you have. Are you willing to get grow lights? Which direction do your windows face? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:43 PM Flag
[ - ] My kids have been attending camp at their preschool for a few weeks. Do I tip the teachers..or do you only tip counselors at recreational summer camps? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:00 PM Flag
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Yes, tip [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:22 PM Flag
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Tipping counselors is normal? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:26 PM Flag
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Thanks..what is the standard amount? Both teachers are certified Montessori instructors, age 40+. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:30 PM Flag
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No. This tipping is getting totally out of hand. You don't tip preschool teachers. You may give a little gift for Christmas and yearend, but tipping a teacher is just weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:37 PM Flag
[ - ] Is it just me, or do most of the marriages where the woman is 10 years older usually go bust when she hits menopause age? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:55 PM Flag
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I wouldn't base real life conclusions on anything Mariah Carey does [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:49 PM Flag
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amazing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:04 PM Flag
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How many women do you know who married a man ten years younger than them in the first place? Me: 0. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:49 PM Flag
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I recently married a man almost 8 years younger than me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:07 PM Flag
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So I hope this is not a pattern! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:08 PM Flag
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Well that's not 10. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:46 PM Flag
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np: my mom did - my stepdad is more than ten years younger. she's in her seventies, so well past menopause, they're still together. [ Reply | More ]
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OR: I'm sure it happens, but do you know enough people who have done this to even begin to generalize about how it typically goes in the long run? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:58 PM Flag
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45 is menopausal? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:55 PM Flag
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well besides Halle Berry, for the vast majority of women, your child bearing years are over at 45. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:20 PM Flag
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they may be done having kids but menopause for most women takes place at 53yo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:11 PM Flag
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My dh said this morning when the Today show was on, "she's married to that MTV guy?". Ha, we're old! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Been considering a move to Bronxville. I saw that someone mentioned below that in Bronxville there is rivalry between the kids that live in Multifamily units and the kids in single family homes. Anyone know anything about this? 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:52 PM Flag
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Damn, you fools who believe everything on UB live lives filled with terror. I don't even know how you get past your front doors. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:57 PM Flag
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I was just asking a question - I am not SCARED. I thought it would be part of my town diligence. Something wrong with you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:58 PM Flag
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"town diligence" - right... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:58 PM Flag
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Oh shut of weird troll. If you have nothing to contribute just move on and troll somewhere else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:59 PM Flag
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Not a troll. You on the other hand, are not very bright. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:56 PM Flag
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? Ok... [ Reply | More ]
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NP, there are so few multifamily units in Bronxville that if you live in a Single family home you will not even notice them. Just visit Bronxville for a few weekends and get to know the place and if you like it buy a house [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:04 PM Flag
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There are tons of coops, but not many families with older kids live in them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:29 PM Flag
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Would you want to be friends with someone like that? Who actually says that out loud about coop kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:11 PM Flag
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What did she say [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:24 PM Flag
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Oh sorry. Lol. Other posts have said that people mock the coop kids in bronxville. [ Reply | More ]
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First of all, the parents in Bronxville are very nice to each other. It is the kids in school that have this issue. The girls that live in single family homes laugh at the girls that live in apartments. And by the way most of the apartments are rentals, NOT co-ops Honestly you sound like someone that knows nothing about our community [ Reply | More ]
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Plenty of coops, you are nuts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:39 PM Flag
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Ok so it is worse than I said. Wonderful. I lived on Alden Place years ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:28 PM Flag
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Mock is not the right word, but see below, issues with coop kids. [ Reply | More ]
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I think there are at least two sides to this. The coop kids do not have backyards, swingsets, can not have as many friends over, parking is tough there etc, so the single family house moms think they end up hosting the coop kids more often than vice versa. Most people prefer to be friends with people who can reciprocate. I do not think it is nasty, but if you go look at the coops, most of the people are older with grown kids or people with infants. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes there are two sides to the issue. And for the record I never saw a single family house mom acting unkind towards the apartment moms. But there is a big socio economic difference there that tends to keep the two groups apart [ Reply | More ]
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OR from above, I think it is more than socio economic. Parking is tough near many buildings, so dropping kids off means you do not get to step inside and say hello. I think it is more the dynamics of kids visiting that makes it tougher. And of course, apt kids tend to be more friends with people in their building. [ Reply | More ]
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I would certainly live in an apartment in Bronxville with boys. Boys are more socially strong than girls. But the Single family home families are often very angry and resentful that they have to pay at least a million and a half to get Bronxville schools while the apartment moms get the same exact schools by buying an apartment for only $500 thousand [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:36 PM Flag
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Younger boys will not like not having a backyard. Older ones may do sports at school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:51 PM Flag
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You would be getting a very small apt for 500K [ Reply | More ]
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How would you feel if you paid very high property taxes to support low tax paying apartment residents? Not that good. Scarsdale has none of this problem, the single family homes pay property tax that supports a school exclusively for children that live in single family homes, not apartments [ Reply | More ]
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I know a family that just move from a town house to an apartment. It's fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:47 PM Flag
[ - ] How did you find your nanny? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Simple: her uniforms are always primary colors, like red or yellow, so it's easy to find her when she's in a crowd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:04 PM Flag
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she was in my living room [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:53 PM Flag
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In bed with my DH, badum-bum. Thanks, I'll be here all week!! [ Reply | More ]
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My boss recommended her before I went searching. My nanny's sister worked for her, so she knew she was looking for a job. [ Reply | More ]
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I've always found mine via word of mouth [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:30 PM Flag
[ - ] Beautiful moms who are 35+, which cosmetic procedures keep you looking great? Which ones to avoid as useless? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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i am not sure if i am beautiful but i have been staying out of the sun as much as possible lately. i wish had done that years ago. [ Reply | More ]
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Any cosmetic procedures that made a difference? I could use some help beyond healthy diet and sunblock. [ Reply | More ]
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how do you do this if you have kids? I am taking them to the pool/park all summer. I can wear glasses and sunscreen but I'm not going to sit in the shade and do nothing with my kids bc I don't want to age someday [ Reply | More ]
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NP You are sane, some people prioritize looks over all else. (Not you, OR, obviously it's smart to limit sun exposure as much as possible to reduce risk of cancer.) But people asking which cosmetic surgeries to get probably don't have the same priorities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:23 PM Flag
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skincare, medical grade facials, makeup, and great haircuts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:44 PM Flag
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51 year old friend looks amazing. Facelift, Botox/fillers. Looks natural. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm 46 and get told by everyone that I look 37. I get Botox every 3mths, Juvaderm filler on my nasial Labial(sp) folds, Restalyne in my top lip. I've also had a nose job, chin implant, eye lift, and liposuction on my Muffin tops and inner thighs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:42 PM Flag
[ - ] The DH on here is a sad little pathetic loser. Anybody else want to flag his post with me? 10 Minute Mail lets you make new emails and then we can create new accounts and continue to flag. That's what I'm doing. Maybe then the creep will get the message! 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Men on here don't bother me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:28 PM Flag
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They are losers. It's so sad. They don't belong here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:41 PM Flag
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Ok, I'll bite. Why not? I'd rather see the guys than the trolls. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:31 PM Flag
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I am with you. Flag and ban. Flag and ban. Repeat [ Reply | More ]
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The only thing pathetic here is that you are so invested in this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:41 PM Flag
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I'd say both this OP and the DH posting on here are pathetic in their own unique ways. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:45 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
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What is wrong with you? Let him be. And don't answer your own posts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:42 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:51 PM Flag
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Flag and collapse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:31 PM Flag
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Um. You need to back away from the UB, sweetie. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:43 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:41 PM Flag
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Eh, I think he's femme but if he wants to post, whatever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:44 PM Flag
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Don't bother - I'm leaving. No worries! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:44 PM Flag
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you sound pretty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:35 PM Flag
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wow, really - time for you to find something new to do [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:41 PM Flag
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I agree that guys on here are losers, but I don't see a reason to flag them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:44 PM Flag
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it would be really hilarious if you were one of those liberals around here always pushing diversity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:13 PM Flag
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Meh. My DH would not post here but whatever. UB sucks anyway, I am only here since youbemom is banned at my office. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:27 PM Flag
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He's probably your dh. And anyway, why so angry? I don't mind dhs on here at long as they are respectful and stay on topic and don't try to change the tone. I especially like when they seld-identify. I'm on loser dh's side on this one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:17 PM Flag
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Yeah it's sad, but they're probably just curious to see how women think. It's probably just a social experiment to them, and they don't know how to articulate it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:33 PM Flag
[ - ] favorite state in the US? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:30 PM Flag
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Vermont [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:32 PM Flag
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VERMONT: "What happens here Stays Here. Actually not much Happens Here." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:21 PM Flag
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LOL. So true. I used to live there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:34 PM Flag
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Nice to visit, wouldn't want to live there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:23 PM Flag
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Vermont has a serious heroin problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:26 PM Flag
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NY, of course. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:21 PM Flag
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Connecticut [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:33 PM Flag
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California [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:22 PM Flag
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New York or California. Each state as everything--ocean, mountains, exciting cities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:23 PM Flag
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So does North Carolina [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:24 PM Flag
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charlotte isn't all that exciting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:37 PM Flag
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Too conservative for me, but it is pretty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:26 PM Flag
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North Carolina [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:27 PM Flag
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Intoxication. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:40 PM Flag
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Maine [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:43 PM Flag
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Utah is among the most beautiful, but I have a problem with the theocracy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 08:57 PM Flag
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NJ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:25 PM Flag
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If you don't live in either NY or CA, you're not living. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:23 PM Flag
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New Hampshire. It's pretty, it's friendly, it's safe, you're rarely far from the mountains and ocean, and people are generally sane. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:25 PM Flag
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California.. I love living there. Now stuck in NJ. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 09:36 PM Flag
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