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[ - ] SIL just posted an article on FB about feelingn"The Ache" about not having any more kids. I love my one and only DD and do not have any aching about never having more. Any of you feel like this? I don't think I'm cold hearted but maybe I am! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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i have one and no ache for another. sure, sometimes i see cute little dresses for girls or the little bassinets but no, i want to start travelling again and doing more fun stuff. ds is 5. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 04:08 AM Flag
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I am happy with my one! [ Reply | More ]
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I have ZERO kids and at age 41, have never felt this "ache" lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:58 AM Flag
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denial. you are on urbanbaby for a reason.... [ Reply | More ]
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My thought exactly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 04:13 AM Flag
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Look she's guilt-tripping her husband (your bro). Ignore the story. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 04:15 AM Flag
[ - ] just finished the book 'gone girl'...not that impressed. it thought it was going to be really great but it was meh. 32 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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PSA: Someone is revealing the entire ending of the book so if you don't want to know what happens in the book or the upcoming movie, collapse this post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:56 AM Flag
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It creeped me out so much I wanted it out of my house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:57 AM Flag
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I just finished 'bittersweet' based on a rec here and LOATHED it. Looked up the author and so annoyed by her that it made the whole thing even more bitter, and way less sweet [ Reply | More ]
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Why annoyed by her? I just found out she worked at entertainment weekly - I used to love reading her stuff at EW when I subscribed to it (years ago). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:50 AM Flag
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^^^The Gone Girl author used to work at EW, not "bittersweet" author (never heard of that) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:55 AM Flag
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Read her website, she's beyond annoying. Also, wtf is EW? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 04:07 AM Flag
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Oh dear. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:58 AM Flag
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Omg I read this last month based on recommendation here too and if was such junk!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 04:04 AM Flag
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Such junk! I spent $28 on it hardcover too at a bookstore. So annoyed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:55 AM Flag
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why not go to the library, fool? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 04:13 AM Flag
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I was mad, then loved it, then mad, then loved it -- changed chapter by chapter [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:58 AM Flag
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I really enjoyed it (page turner enjoyed, not deep literature enjoyed) until the fucking creepy ending [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:46 AM Flag
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the whole thing was creepy but the ending not so much [ Reply | More ]
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You think the ending wasn't creepy, when he stayed with her? ?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 04:02 AM Flag
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i thought she killed him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 04:04 AM Flag
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No... he decided to stay with her despite him knowing what she did, and her knowing that he knew, because she was pregnant. She didn't kill him. Are you thinking of the same book? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:54 AM Flag
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Spoilers! Spoilers! Make it stop! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:55 AM Flag
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LOL come on, stop reading this thread then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:56 AM Flag
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Only unimaginative people can't discuss a book without giving the plot away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:57 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:59 AM Flag
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yes she killed him...she knew he didn't love her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 04:10 AM Flag
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I've never read it but 99 percent of people who tell me about say they absolutely loved it but really hated the ending - which is why I haven't bothered. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:49 AM Flag
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It wasn't the ending that was bad (I actually liked the ambiguity) but it was the end of the book that totally stopped making sense [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:57 AM Flag
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I liked it but felt the author revealed the surprise too early. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 04:02 AM Flag
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the surprise about her being a psycho or the surprise that she was really alive or the surprise that the grifters took all her money at the cabin? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 04:05 AM Flag
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some is feeling like being a spoiler tonight. Not really cool. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:55 AM Flag
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This post came like 5 minutes after the thread started. obviously someone who hadn't read the book and was interested in reading it would have collapsed by now, considering the original post. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:56 AM Flag
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Not. cool. Stop making excuses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:57 AM Flag
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It fell apart toward the end. Very disappointing read. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 04:03 AM Flag
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Totally mediocre, if I'm being generous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 04:04 AM Flag
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I'm wondering how the movie will be. starring ben affleck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 04:11 AM Flag
[ - ] do you acknowledge your dating anniversary? how long have you been married? how long have you been together? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:48 AM Flag
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No. 6 years. 8 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:52 AM Flag
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No, 2 years, 6 years. I don't know when our "dating anniversary" was. Sometime in August, but the exact date? Who knows. Who keeps track of the exact date of every first date they ever go on, just in case it ends in marriage? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:41 AM Flag
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I don't know mine either. Could have been June or July. Hell, it doesn't matter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:46 AM Flag
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Nope. Been together for 16 years and married for 12 years. We have two DC, fwiw. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:41 AM Flag
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we acknowledge it but dont celebrate it beyond that. Married 6 years, together 12. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:54 AM Flag
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No, 10 years, 14 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:54 AM Flag
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yes - 27 years!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:58 AM Flag
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I acknowledge any date where I can get dh to give me a gift. I even celebrate surgery anniversaries. 4 year since I don't have a gallbladder...how about lets go to tiffanys [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 04:02 AM Flag
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We always make note of how many years we've been together total, but no big deal is made of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 04:01 AM Flag
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....total 10 years, married 7. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 04:02 AM Flag
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We met when I was away on a business trip on Valentine's Day. Pretty easy day to remember! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 04:02 AM Flag
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We acknowledge the anniversary of the date we first slept together (which was when we officially called ourselves a couple). Married 17 years, together 25. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 04:06 AM Flag
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We remember the date but it's the day before a holiday so easy, met 16 years ago, married 14. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 04:11 AM Flag
[ - ] I wonder if kate middleton is calling Jennifer Lawrence and saying 'see how it feels to have your ass all over the world? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:47 AM Flag
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ZZZZZzzzzzzzzz [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:38 AM Flag
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eh, Kate's photos were glamorous sunbather on vacation, not "Wow, could that bathroom be ANY uglier???" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:38 AM Flag
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lolz [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:45 AM Flag
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You totally should have done a Chandler Bing. "Could that bathroom BE any uglier?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:47 AM Flag
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You're right! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:50 AM Flag
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Your bum. She would say, your bum [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:50 AM Flag
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no she would say your ass. bum is butt. ass is ass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 04:06 AM Flag
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You need a hobby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:39 AM Flag
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I don't think kate middleton knows jlaw. [ Reply | More ]
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you need to go poo and eat it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 04:11 AM Flag
[ - ] DH mentioned that his side is having some family drama because MIL/FIL asked BIL/SIL if they could come over today to see niece and they said no, they didnt have plans but they were taking a relaxed family day to themselves. MIL says BIL/SIL havent visited since mother's day, and she has only seen niece for 3 hours since the family vacation we all took together in June, and FIL for 1 hour (although I think these are exaggerated as I know MIL has seen niece on at least 2 occasions in August). I can see MIL/FIL's point, and I am not a big fan of my BIL/SIL, but honestly I think I side with them this time. The thought of a free family day without any obligations to anyone else or plans involving anyone else sounds mythically amazing. Like a unicorn. And it's their right to turn away plans. Of course nobody else agrees and I didnt express my POV to anyone but DH. Thoughts? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:46 AM Flag
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bullshit. mil and fil are family. awful to treat grandparents this way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:48 AM Flag
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Your MIL/FIL sound like pains in the ass. Good for your SIL/BIL for setting some reasonable boundaries. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:49 AM Flag
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+1. Anybody who spreads family gossip by "telling on them" to you and DH shows that they are immature drama seekers. If your feelings are hurt, you tell that person and that person only or keep it to yourself, especially when it's due to the ownership you believe you have over your grandkids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:44 AM Flag
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MIL/FIL need to get a life. BIL/SIL have one and the parents want to co-opt it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:53 AM Flag
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I see nothing wrong with saying "we are having a quiet day today, I'm not in the mood for a visitor, how about next week?" especially considering they have seen the grandkids twice this month from what you say. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:43 AM Flag
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Only MIL saw niece at those 2 occasions -- SIL is a SAHM and MIL is off summers so she met up with them at the botanical garden one day and to the mall another day. But I still think its OK to say no. Of course we are constantly hounded by everyone for not seeing them enough and that is without these "relaxed family days to ourselves" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:58 AM Flag
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Of course it is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:49 AM Flag
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I side with your SIL/BIL on this one. I know I need at least 3 months to recuperate via avoidance if I've taken a family vacation with my in laws so in comparison, your SIL/BIL are doing more than me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:55 AM Flag
[ - ] i have started to feel claustrophobic in the city, that there is too much going on all the time, we don't have enough space and i just want peace and quiet. i am 32. will this feeling go away or will it just get worse? DH loves the city but is willing to move to a less dense city or a close-in suburb (we are not in NYC) for me. if there are ways to deal with it, please let me know... i'm a SAHM and already spend most of my day outside in parks, etc. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:41 AM Flag
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what city are you in now [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:55 AM Flag
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OP - San Francisco. Live in a condo that is way too expensive, could get a nice house and yard for less than what we paid somewhere... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:47 AM Flag
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could you go to santa cruz. it's nice there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 04:02 AM Flag
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we could go anywhere really, but just wanted to know if the move would "fix" my problem [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 04:04 AM Flag
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If you're feeling this way at 32 it will only get worse as you approach 40. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:48 AM Flag
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OP - thank you, i keep feeling bad about taking DH away from a city he loves, but i can only imagine it will get worse, esp as our 2 kids get bigger [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 04:00 AM Flag
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Can you move to burbs so he is still within easy drive of city? That seems like a reasonable thing to do and he said he's willing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:56 AM Flag
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OP - yes we can move, but i was just wondering about my feeling of needing more space - if there are ways to get over it so we don't have to move at all, or if it is just and age/lifestyle thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 04:12 AM Flag
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There's definitely an age thing. The older I get the more I feel it. I am 38. I feel it a lot more now than I did at 32. Of course everyone is different... but I don't think it's uncommon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 04:05 AM Flag
[ - ] Please stop hiring these middle-aged ladies from the Caribbean to be your nannies. They're awful. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:38 AM Flag
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Anyone you pay off-books is going to be a nightmare. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:40 AM Flag
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why is off the books a nightmare. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:56 AM Flag
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Because you don't set boundaries from Day 1 in terms of pay, hours, sick time. They don't take you seriously, because they know they could walk out the door at any moment, and know one would know they officially worked for you. Ever. They know you are a rule-breaker from the beginning, so they will figure you don't mind if they break a few rules too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:52 AM Flag
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+1 so true. excellent analysis [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 04:08 AM Flag
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thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:58 AM Flag
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Depends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 04:13 AM Flag
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No - I have an off-books nanny (not Caribbean) who we love. My friends try to poach her! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:44 AM Flag
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You are in the minority! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:59 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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I know, unfortunately. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 04:12 AM Flag
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I know, unfortunately. [ Reply | More ]
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I would agree that most of them are pretty much scraping the bottom of the barrel in terms of childcare. But a lot of women out there refuse to hire someone as well-educated as they are to care for their child. [ Reply | More ]
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I only hire old black women because I'm from the south and that makes me feel like back home. plus I like to call them aunty jemima. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:58 AM Flag
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ignore the loser. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I love Jimmy Kimmel's cousin Sal. 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:35 AM Flag
[ - ] My DC is making an excuse and doesn't want to go to her sports practice this week. I am not sure how she is feeling about playing the sport on this team. Maybe she feels pressured? Anyone BTDT? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:32 AM Flag
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Could be pressure? Does she already know the kids? Is it her first week? If not, Maybe something happened? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:34 AM Flag
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op: She know the kids. Not her first week. Nothing specific happened, but feel like she is feeling pressure. It's a competitive team- not sure what's going on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:23 AM Flag
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How old? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:24 AM Flag
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kids (and dhs) hate change. power through. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:24 AM Flag
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My DS (13) gets really nervous before first practice because he doesn't know who will be on the team. is fine once he gets there. Also, will complain after school that he has too much work (i.e. video games, lol) to go to practice, but knows it is nonnegotiable, so it is more him going through the motions, trying to get a rise out of me or test me for consistency. [ Reply | More ]
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op: she is 9. So, I obviously don't want to push it. I will see what she says tomorrow. She said she may be too hot to run around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:39 AM Flag
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Maybe gently ask her, honey? Is something stressing you out? I'm here if you wanna talk about it. [ Reply | More ]
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op: Thanks, good idea. I can try that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:40 AM Flag
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Is the coach a man or a woman? Could be a pedo who makes your DC uncomfortable. Try talking to DC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:32 AM Flag
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op: Maybe the coach scares her because coach is so serious and a bit intense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:33 AM Flag
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pp. Look it's probably not a pedo but in this day and age you can't be too careful and don't dismiss the idea totally. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, you can definitely be too careful. Your kids are going to think every adult who smiles at them wants to grab their junk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:52 AM Flag
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Higher prevalence of pedos in teaching, coaching positions. Don't you ever read the papers? They take the jobs to get closer to the kids. Why did you have kids if you are so careless and thoughtless about protecting them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:58 AM Flag
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JFC. A 9 year old is trying to avoid going to sports practice one week and UB assumes it's due to molestation. Of course. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:47 AM Flag
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I said *could* be! Just trying to offer a different view!! lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:50 AM Flag
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Just log off now, weirdo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:38 AM Flag
[ - ] What is it about my DH that bothers me? We've been married for 6 years and although I've always known he has a b type personality, I feel that I've gotten "weaker" in some ways -- I always hold back my mouth when I should say something in a situation and therefore it makes me look dumb. To give you samples of his behavior: we crowded a small elevator with our dcs, and there was only one man in the back, DH tells him to go ahead of us (wtf?) and bypass out DCs, the man tells us we should go ahead because we are the ones with children (yes). Example 2- if we are about to leave a parking spot and he sees another car waiting he will rush, even at our expense, to drive out of the spot. Ex 3- at my request, he offers my neighbor our fire wood (we don't use our chimney) the neighbors DH offers to help carry them but my DH says its "ok" and gets ready to do it himself while the other DH runs off in his car to do errands (obvious disrespect). These behaviors may make him appear "nice" but i think it's very subconsciously a victim/ poor man's behavior (he grew up poor and his parents in debt bc they spent above their means in the city.) thoughts?? 42 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:32 AM Flag
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yes your husband sounds pretty dorky. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:33 AM Flag
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I do stuff like this (bit not the elevator..) because I hate to be indebted to people. I also have this underlying thing that people don't like me so I have to "work harder" to get them to like me. Lame, I know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:26 AM Flag
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I am the opposite. I am always first off the elevator, make people wait for apaces, tell people on a regular basis they can kiss my ass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:40 AM Flag
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Op: I can see your point bc I sometimes feel that way but in a public situation where everything is up for grabs (such as the parking example or the elevator example) I can't understand why he acts that way. No one owns the parking spot and since we had it first the person waiting should wait until we leave. Same thing with the elevator. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:40 AM Flag
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To be honest? If it's a crowded parking lot (or a street with no spots) and someone is taking their sweet ass time getting in their car, fiddling their GPS and their radio, adjusting the air conditioning, when it's obvious that there are people waiting... I think they are fucking dicks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:50 AM Flag
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YES! It's like they are on a power trip that they are in the spot and they dont' have to leave until they want to! Common courtesy to move quickly when someone behind you is waiting- whether it be in the grocery checkout line, or going down a flight of stairs to the train, or leaving a parking spot that is being waited for. Going slowly is RUDE. [ Reply | More ]
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Op: I don't mean purposefully going slowly. I meant if he is waiting for me in the car and the children and busy eating in there he will drive out of the spot and double park waiting for me. He would rather be inconvenienced than have a stranger wait. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:54 AM Flag
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When would this scenario ever come up, that he was sitting in a parked car while you and the kids ate a meal without him? Bizarre. [ Reply | More ]
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Op: kids were eating in the car and I had to get napkins so he was waiting for me. There were other times where we had to chane the baby and he left the spot and double parked to do it instead if telling the car that we are not ready to leave. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 04:09 AM Flag
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I think you're in the wrong on the parking spot, especially in the first example. How are any of you inconvenienced by his pulling out of the spot and double parking near the restaurant you ran back into? If there is a place he can double park to change a diaper, you'd think that would also allow him to open the door further. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 04:14 AM Flag
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But that's not what she said, so...?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:58 AM Flag
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^^^I swear I only hit that once. -np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:59 AM Flag
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Well yes, she clarified below (above?), but at first she just said he rushes to leave a spot if someone is waiting even if that means asking her to rush too. Which I think is common courtesy. [ Reply | More ]
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But that's not what she said, so...?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:58 AM Flag
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But that's not what she said, so...?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:58 AM Flag
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Is the other DH an A type personality? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:27 AM Flag
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Op: I wouldn't know but, to me, he appears to be extremely rude and maybe even racist. I always et a negative vibe from him so I avoid both of them as much as I can. Giving the log was an act of generosity that I now regret. Should've given it to someone else who would appreciate them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:44 AM Flag
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Yes, please avoid this couple. the DH makes you feel bad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:37 AM Flag
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I don't think it's because he grew up poor because I know plenty of poor people who are aggressive. Your DH is likely insecure and wants to be liked by others. He hasn't learned that actually asking others to help him would make them like him more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:40 AM Flag
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Op: insecure, maybe. But he never asks for anything from anyone. Not even me. He seems too proud. Is that a sign of underlying insecurity? He has a good job on wall at and went to TT schools... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:46 AM Flag
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Yes; he's afraid of showing signs of weakness such as needing other people to do things for him. Perhaps he's very skilled and can do all those things for himself but he needs to give others the chance to help him once in a while because they also need to feel helpful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:38 AM Flag
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Op: another good example would be is: when we went on our first vacation and we couldn't end up going to a shaggy concert, without my knowing it, he just gave the tickets away to a random person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:42 AM Flag
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A Shaggy concert? Lol welcome to the year 2000. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:46 AM Flag
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Honestly, I see nothing wrong with that. Or with hurrying out of a parking spot if it is clear the lot is full and others are waiting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:48 AM Flag
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Op: I meant a street spot in the city... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:50 AM Flag
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Same thing. If someone is in the lane with their blinker on, and traffic is going around them, and you're in the only spot on the block... who on earth wouldn't make somewhat of an effort to move along quickly? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:44 AM Flag
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lol this whole post is cracking me up big time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:51 AM Flag
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People pleaser stemming from insecurity [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:52 AM Flag
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Your DH actually sounds really nice to me. You on the other hand .... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:53 AM Flag
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go to hell and stay there. don't you dare try to say dh is nice and I'm not. I will get you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:59 AM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:50 AM Flag
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Op: obviously I'm not the above poster. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 04:06 AM Flag
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The elevator thing is strange but the other things just seem nice. The other DH who left as opposed to helping is a dick of course. But it was polite of your DH to say no, he didn't need help (if he didn't need help). The other DH should have insisted and helped anyways. Are you used to guys who are self centered dicks or something? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:45 AM Flag
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Op: I don't want my DH to be a dick but wish he would be less of a nice guy bordering doormat, and more proud and assertive. The other DH is Italian American and a jets fa and his wife is this short feisty red head who looks like she's 12. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 04:03 AM Flag
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Op: jets fan = nuff said [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 04:04 AM Flag
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You want your DH to be less of a nice guy. Have fun with that wish! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 04:05 AM Flag
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He sounds like a willing doormat, to complete strangers no less. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:46 AM Flag
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JFC, he sounds considerate of others. OP wants an IB or biglaw asshole to be an alpha male and cheat on her and take advantage of everyone around him, apparently. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:48 AM Flag
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Op: he was an IB but not anymore. Says he doesn't fit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 04:07 AM Flag
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is your DH religious? this just seems like what people who are trying to be good [fill in the blank]s do. if he honestly doesn't care about going last, giving stuff away, doing extra work then it is a sign of character and patience. if you think he's secretly resentful, then he needs to analyze his actions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:56 AM Flag
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Op: not religious. Resentful of what? I don't fully understand your comment about him being resentful... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 04:12 AM Flag
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yes he was a priest until he met me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 04:15 AM Flag
[ - ] I wonder if adopting siblings from China is possible and if that poster was real or fake. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:26 AM Flag
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Of course it's possible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:26 AM Flag
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no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:17 AM Flag
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possible but difficult. lots of rules and long wait. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:34 AM Flag
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How long of a wait? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:36 AM Flag
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for a healthy child about 5 years. plus you have to be married a certain amount of time, make a certain amount of money and you cannot be fat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:41 AM Flag
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I've seen people come back with less than 5 year old children. Fake [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:36 AM Flag
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There's a billion plus people in China. I imagine it's possible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:36 AM Flag
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Most people are encouraged to have one child only [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:40 AM Flag
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not anymore. they have now realized that there are millions of men with nobody to marry. they now have to import women from poor countries and the race is being watered down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:44 AM Flag
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The law was relaxed. Its also pretty common in rural areas to have more than 1. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:32 AM Flag
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PP: I didn't know they had changed that. Thanks for the info [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:45 AM Flag
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Only a legal adoption expert could know for sure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:33 AM Flag
[ - ] I walked past a woman who is dating a friend of DH today on the street and she didn't say hi or anything 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:23 AM Flag
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oh i'm sorry! hi! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:24 AM Flag
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why don't you say hi first. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:41 AM Flag
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Well I never caught her eye [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:42 AM Flag
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I didn't recognize you til too late. But HI! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:44 AM Flag
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csb [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:26 AM Flag
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Could be like me and have an inability to recognise faces (prosopagnosia). I really would love to know how many people I have offended in the past [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:30 AM Flag
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Maybe he dumped her. Chill. She probably didn't even notice you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:47 AM Flag
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That's what she is saying about you too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:59 AM Flag
[ - ] I am feeling pretty stressed lately. It's a terrible feeling. I want to be able to feel more carefree and happy. Life is short, but sometimes I get wrapped up in first world problems and I'm getting mighty tired of feeling this way. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:22 AM Flag
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Train for a 5K. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:28 AM Flag
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op: I like that. Set some goals and go for it? Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:41 AM Flag
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great idea!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:44 AM Flag
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Pp: running makes me feel like a can tackle anything. Go for it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:37 AM Flag
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me too... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:30 AM Flag
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sounds bad. take a staycation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:42 AM Flag
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op: A staycation is a great idea. That and counting my blessings. It is just not easy, this life. I feel most happy when I am helping people, so will do more of that. But, people don't reciprocate and I feel alone sometimes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:32 AM Flag
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are you married with children [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:46 AM Flag
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do some imaginary UB posting. so...when a first world problem is bothering you, imagine you post it, and then feel the UB moms answering you in all their brutal honesty. It'll set you straight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:33 AM Flag
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I am super overwhelmed. Sometimes it helps to get things done even if they arent the best they could have been. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:55 AM Flag
[ - ] Is religion the main cause of wars and world conflict? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:17 AM Flag
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Sure [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:06 AM Flag
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Erm, duh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:23 AM Flag
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no, it's an excuse [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:11 AM Flag
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Always has been, always will be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:26 AM Flag
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No, land is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:19 AM Flag
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Maybe both religion and land... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:32 AM Flag
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rooted behind religious entitlement [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:21 AM Flag
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Did the spanish-american war have to do with religion? WWI? WWII? Vietnam? Most wars have nothing to do with religion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:36 AM Flag
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the main cause is men and guns [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:35 AM Flag
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No it's usually economic resources- land, access to water, etc. when both (or all) parties have plenty, there's usually no conflict (Christians, Jews and Muslims coexisted happily for 700 yrs in Spain). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:36 AM Flag
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No, I dont think its religion. It is what people believe religion is forcing them to do. The problem is humans who cant understand or respect different belief systems of other people. Religion does not advocate violence or hatred. People interpret things and use religion as an excuse to justify their behavior, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:28 AM Flag
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Greed. Religion is used as a justification. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:30 AM Flag
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I think we have no idea how many lives religion has saved. Because sometimes you just want to kill a motherf**ker, but then you remember God's commandments, and then you let the @sshole live. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 09.02.14, 03:36 AM Flag
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