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[ - ] Anyone just hope someone in their family finally dies already? It would be so much easier for everyone. Confession over. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:07 PM Flag
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Yes, I've felt this way in the past. The drama was unbearable. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Realized this weekend (9 years into my marriage) that DH's family thinks my family is NOKD - and I tend to agree with them. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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LOL both our sets of parents think the other ones are NOKD. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Any ideas for a bar/pub I can rent out for an evening this summer to celebrate DH's bday. UES preferred. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:50 PM Flag
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UWS, but what about the 79th Street Boat Basin? I'm a summer birthday and always celebrate there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:51 PM Flag
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ohh! good idea! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:53 PM Flag
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NP The boat basin is a fun place, but remember that it's not supposed to be very warm tonight, and you might prefer somthing indoors. And happy birthday to DH. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:58 PM Flag
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She said summer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:59 PM Flag
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OOPS, so she did. Then I second the boat basin. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:01 PM Flag
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yup - mid-july. 40th bday.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:03 PM Flag
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you can rent part of the roof top at 230 Fifth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:58 PM Flag
[ - ] My mom group texted my sister and me to tell us our 19yo cousin is pregnant. I really didn't care too much and suggested they not get too invested in it. The girl is on a train wreck path anyway. Already has a DUI. I sent them a photo of a dress I wanted to get for an upcoming wedding. Am I insensitive? I just don't care about another teenage pregnancy. Fwiw she is a second cousin. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:49 PM Flag
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I'm a lot like you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:51 PM Flag
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I always fret about the poor baby in these situations, sigh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:51 PM Flag
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I would have said a sentence or two. Waited an hour and sent the dress pic [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:55 PM Flag
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Yes - you are insensitive, but you seem to know that, and not be bothered by it, so why are you posting here? Do you like to get flamed? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:58 PM Flag
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It makes you look self centered quick I'm guessing you are [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:02 PM Flag
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How did you word all this? "Eh she's a trainwreck anyway hey look at this dress what do you think" or "I guess they will figure it all out without our input; changing subjects can I ask you guys to look at this dress and give me an opinion?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:03 PM Flag
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You're completely self-involved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:05 PM Flag
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So rude to your mom to do that. Wow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:06 PM Flag
[ - ] Conversation with DS's teacher this morning: Teacher: Ms. [wrong name]? Me: Ms. [right name], how are you? Teacher: I wrote you a note in your son's notebook, I guess you haven't seen it. Me: No, is everything ok? Teacher: I need to meet with you, can you come after school today? Me: Unless its absolutely urgent, no, can I come tomorrow morning? Teacher: I guess, but you have to be here at 730 sharp. Me: Yes, of course. See you tomorrow. Is it just me, or is teacher a bitch? She's a bitch, right? I cannot stand her. Surely I'm not the only woman who has a different last name than her dc, why must I always correct her? And is writing a note in my son's notebook really the most efficient way to communicate with me? She's such a condensing twit. Vent over. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:47 PM Flag
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You are overreacting to the name thing and the note thing. Neither are a big deal (nor do they make the teacher a bitch). The real issue here is what is the problem? It's April - there must be a big issue for her to ask for conference. Do you have a clue? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:50 PM Flag
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THIS. I don't see what teacher did wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:00 PM Flag
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+1mm. If Johnnie's last name is Brown and teacher addressed you as Mrs. Brown then teacher did absolutely nothing wrong. The note depends on Johnnies' age. If older than eight he should be able to give it to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:03 PM Flag
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Classic teacher power play. Just don't engage. Show up tomorrow morning at 7:25 - chances are the teacher won't even be at the school yet, or she'll be walking in with you. Then give her nothing. She wants to lecture you about some dumb shit and see your reaction. She wants you to know that there's a problem and is desperate to get your reaction - "oh dear, I'm so sorry, I'll fix it right away!" Just stare through her. Let her give her dumb lecture about how your kid needs to focus more, or stop moving so much, or pay more attention to the lesson, and then just say "OK, thanks for letting me know." And then just stare at her. Make her uncomfortable. I did this just last week with a similar teacher who gets off on making the parents jump through her hoops. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:54 PM Flag
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is this a joke? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:04 PM Flag
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Op this is terrible advice. Do not play mind games with your kids teacher. Respect her, hear her out and react maturely. You want her on your kids side. If this means playing nice do that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:05 PM Flag
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Wrong. I don't respect my kids teachers because they don't respect me. They are an obstacle to be managed. The biggest mistake I made was treating teachers as "partners." They're not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:07 PM Flag
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Wow. Who's the bitch here? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:10 PM Flag
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Yes, you are overreacting a little, but pick your battles. In other words, see what she has to say. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:56 PM Flag
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General Topics 03.30.15, 01:59 PM Flag
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Why didn't you read the notebook? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:57 PM Flag
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Depends on DS age.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:58 PM Flag
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NP Perhaps she should have, but the teacher demanded an immediate meeting: I hope she has something more to say beyond "Little Dylan needs to work on his handwriting," which can also be the subject of a phone call or e-mail. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:00 PM Flag
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Veteran parent here: you are setting yourself up for a long hard haul if you immediately assume an adversarial position. If you truly have your DS's best interests at heart stop fretting about the logistics and assuming the teacher is out to "get" your son or you. Go in thinking of yourself as an advocate for your son's development and success (not a defender of how perfect he is) and hear what the teacher has to say. She wouldn't have asked for a meeting if she didn't see it as important for your DS's growth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:02 PM Flag
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THIS. WOW. Are you the same person who posted about her cousin's pregnancy? If not, you sound just as self-absorbed as she is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:08 PM Flag
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I have to disagree. Maybe its my experience, but in my kid's school the teacher requests a meeting to tattle on your kid and tell you how to fix them. At the last meeting I had a third grade teacher spent our meeting teaching me how to write an essay so I could "help" my son do them at home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:08 PM Flag
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she should know that your last name is different from your DC's? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:04 PM Flag
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Something is going on with your son, shouldn't that be your main concern??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:08 PM Flag
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This is the critical misconception. A lot of times there's nothing wrong with your kid - the teacher just wants you to make their jobs easier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:10 PM Flag
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She's not a bitch at all, IMO. Does your child have a different last name than yours? If so, you're the bitch. As for the 7:30 sharp bit, she has class that starts at 8 or 8:30. You'll probably be late. She needs time to talk to you so she's not late to class. Again, you are the one coming across as bitchy in this exchange. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:09 PM Flag
[ - ] Why do I feel like every post I am reading this morning is fake? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:42 PM Flag
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Because they are all so long, like someone is copying and pasting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:51 PM Flag
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You're probably 50% right [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:52 PM Flag
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because they frequently are, or are tweaked in the details in such a way as not to out the author, but the end result post then doesn't look quite right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:56 PM Flag
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Most posts talking about others who are SAHM are fake. Only about half the posts where someone calls themself a SAHM are real. Or that's my theory, anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:58 PM Flag
[ - ] My SAHM sister in law made a big deal in her own quiet, passive way about how her daughter was potty trained by 2.5 when my kid wasn't until almost a year later. Well, I was watching the niece for a few minutes yesterday and she said she needed help going to the bathroom. Turns out that "potty trained" means she needs someone to walk her to the bathroom, pull her pants down, sit her on the toilet, watch her pee, then clean her and pull her pants back up and wash her hands for her. Sure my kid took a lot longer to be trained but most of the time I don't even know when he goes. Is this what SAHMS mean when they say "I potty trained my kid by age 2?" 32 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:39 PM Flag
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Sounds like you just hate your SIL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:40 PM Flag
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^and to me being "potty trained" means the kid can always tell you when they need to go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:41 PM Flag
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THIS. Wow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:47 PM Flag
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Sorry, that is potty trained. She used the toilet, not a diaper. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:41 PM Flag
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Ahhh. So that is what people mean when they say their 2 year old is potty trained. Then fuck, my kid was potty trained at age 2 as well! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:42 PM Flag
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Great! Now you can start bragging about it! :) [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 03.30.15, 01:42 PM Flag
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it's only a competition if you are both playing. stop competing. problem solved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:42 PM Flag
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Who pissed in your coffee this morning? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:42 PM Flag
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I'm just saying - it makes a lot more sense to me now when people say they potty trained their kid by age 2. My definition of potty trained was always - uses the toilet by themselves. Not is able to pee on a toilet if an adult takes them to the bathroom every hour just in case. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:44 PM Flag
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But that's not what happened with your niece - she told you she needed help going to the bathroom. You just have an issue with your SIL. You'll be happier when you address that, BTDT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:45 PM Flag
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So potty training now means - is able to tell you they need to use the bathroom? And that if I happened to be in the other room she would have peed her pants? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:47 PM Flag
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no, it means know they need to go, tells an adult they need to go, holds on until they get to the bathroom and then goes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:48 PM Flag
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Yes, that's what potty training means to me. Kid can tell you he/she needs to use the bathroom and uses the toilet. She would have come to get you instead of peeing her pants. Do you hear yourself? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:48 PM Flag
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but you were not taking this child every hour and she told you she needed to go...most 2.5 year olds are not physically large enough to get on the toilet themselves, but they can use it with help and she is aware she needed to go [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:48 PM Flag
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This. FTR, my 4.5 year old is very small and still needs help getting on the toilet if we're not at home or at school where there is a step stool. I promise he's potty trained. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:49 PM Flag
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I WOH and my DS was potty trained at 2.5. Whoopie doo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:43 PM Flag
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+1. A kid in DS' daycare was wearing underwear one day. The next day DS told me he was ready to wear underwear. Boom, potty trained. [ Reply | More ]
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Potty trained means a child understands they have to go, communicates that and goes in a toilet. So yes, her child is potty trained. Sounds like you have a GIANT chip about your SIL! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:44 PM Flag
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A potty training contest!!! LOL. Get something else to focus on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:44 PM Flag
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OMG. THIS. OP is an unhappy person. Feel sorry for her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:49 PM Flag
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chill out. My kid sleeps through the night, but needs me to sit next to him before he falls asleep. Still sleeps through the night. Potty trained doesn't mean being able to wipe your own butt necessarily. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:47 PM Flag
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SIL madness [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:48 PM Flag
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my 3 year old is afraid of the dark and won't go to the bathroom unless I turn on the light for him as he can't reach it - does that mean he isn't potty trained? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:48 PM Flag
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According to OP, slap a diaper on him! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:49 PM Flag
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will do :-) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:51 PM Flag
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OP your post backfired. Either trying to stir up SIL or SAHM hate. Fail. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:50 PM Flag
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It's great that you're all shitting on me by saying "it's not a contest!" mostly because you've all done the same thing -bragged about potty training a two year old who has no ability to use the toilet by themselves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:51 PM Flag
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Wah. Take your bitter ball and go home, OP. [ Reply | More ]
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And now you are making a big deal in your own loud, obnoxious way? You will be so much happier if you give up caring about this stuff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:52 PM Flag
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she was out of diapers by 2.5. You have issues [ Reply | More ]
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You really think a 2.5 year old should be alone in the bathroom? Hm. Wow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:09 PM Flag
[ - ] s/o MIL/mother posts-I've posted bits & pieces of this before, but--can this be fixed? MIL divorced FIL while DH and I were in college, remarried, and moved to a different state. In the first 10 yrs I knew DH (first 5 as friend/roommate, second as GF), I saw her 3x at a restaurant--never saw her for holidays, she didn't come to DH's college graduation or our (low-key, city hall) wedding. She then moved to a foreign country with her DH. We visited once but she was awful to me. She then invited us again, but I was out of work so we were broke. She offered to pay DH's ticket but suggested I pay for mine myself and take a "tax deduction" (??). I then got pregnant and tried to fix the situation, which was working for a while, but the baby didn't make it. Now I am due any day now, and MIL was recently widowed. She came to visit but made it all about her sad story and tried to get us to "help her" and to join her in trying to help out her other son, my BIL, who is a raging addict and uses everyone in the family, whom my DH has cut off until he gets his act together. So I told her we are now starting our family, we would love for her to be involved, but she has to respect DH's and my wishes about how we would like to manage our family life and time. She left in a huff and acted like we committed some terrible crime. I'd like db to have a relationship with his grandmother, but don't want to always get sucked into her family mess. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:35 PM Flag
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^oof, sorry so long! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:35 PM Flag
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She sounds toxic. I would definitely manage your child's interactions. I'm curious how your husband responded to all this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:38 PM Flag
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He usually just checks out and lets her have her way. He avoids confrontation bc he knows she will freeze him out, and I think it's very painful for him. So he made his peace with a combo of letting her have her way & keeping emotional distance. This was the first time I overtly called her out on it & said my piece. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:40 PM Flag
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You're quite right to do what you are doing. Hopefully your DH is on board with keeping his mother at an acceptable distance. You've got a difficult MIL for sure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:39 PM Flag
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Wow. Your MIL sounds like an entitled b**ch who expects you to now support her, after she has been nasty for years. I agree with what you said to her. I hope your DH is able to go along with you and stand up to her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:39 PM Flag
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Thanks. I'm actually worried that now that her DH is dead, she will expect my DH to pitch in to support/enable both her and his deadbeat brother. [ Reply | More ]
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You need to talk with DH in advance and have an agreement, so she can't ambush you. [ Reply | More ]
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I think you are banging your head against a wall with this one. She sounds narcissistic, and any reason you try to provide for your caution in seeing/funding her will conflict with her intense need to preserve a certain vision of herself. You're not going to be able to reason with her b. she's completely unreasonable. And she'll make it seem like it's all your fault. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:41 PM Flag
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Here's what happened - this woman lost her husband, has one kid who is a raging addict, and another who wants to help but whose wife said "get the fuck out of our lives, lady." How will you feel when you're widowed and your kid's spouse tells you to go home and leave them alone? Or are you so very sure that can't possibly happen to you? By the way - your husband really, really wants to help his mom, but won't tell you that because he knows you'll explode if he does. Good job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:42 PM Flag
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Yeah, not really. THis woman enabled her son to be a raging addict for years, and still treats him like ke's "special" and expects us to as well. She also can't have a single conversation with anyone without bringing up how her exdh, whom SHE left 20 years ago, is to blame for the failures of her life. (FIL btw actually shows up for stuff, and is generally a good guy IME). Not so simple. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:45 PM Flag
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OP-To be fair there is one detail I missed, which is that her second DH, whom we all liked, was much older and was ill for the last 2-3 yrs. I believe that it was hard on her to look after him and to lose him. Though she is still quite tone deaf about the fact that her son has also had losses and is at a point where something good and happy is about to happen for him. I don't believe he should be pressured to put aside this time in his life to take responsibility for his mother and brother, both of whom are adults. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:48 PM Flag
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Look, I get it. You're the saintly daughter in law who is doing everything right and just wants her to leave you alone. All I'm saying is - I hope you're ready for the same when your kids grow up without an extended family and think nothing of telling you to fuck off when they get married. But what's actually much more likely is that you have a GREAT relationship with your own family, right? That your family is the good, nice, easygoing one, and that if you could just avoid her mother in law and hang out only with your family everything would be great, right? Jesus you sound like a teenager. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:49 PM Flag
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I had a terrible relationship with my mother, but we sucked it up and went to therapy for several years, and things are much better now. I'm not a saint--I just know a toxic family situation when I see one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:51 PM Flag
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Well then you should know that you're creating one right now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:55 PM Flag
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Give up your fantasy about your kids having a grandmother. She has shown you who she is, and a baby won't change that. Cut bait. Let her come around if she wants but don't try to manage her relationship with your family, beyond maintaining safe emotional boundaries. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:43 PM Flag
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OP--Yeah, that's what I think as well. The one thing that gives me pause is that my mom had a pretty bad relationship with her own mother, but then she was an absolutely wonderful grandmother to me. Sometimes people (or circumstances) do change things. [ Reply | More ]
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When somebody shows you who they are, believe them! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:46 PM Flag
[ - ] Feeling pretty down. 35 and have my first appointment with reproductive endocrinologist today. Period is due tomorrow and I just got another negative pregnancy test. I was hoping it would be positive and I could cancel, I just feel sad and like a failure to have to go down this route, was hoping to avoid it with happy news. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:32 PM Flag
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How long have you been TTC? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:35 PM Flag
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6 months [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:36 PM Flag
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That's not a long time at all. They will at first check block tubes and other minor fixable issues. You may be pg naturally in another few months [ Reply | More ]
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I agree it's not a long time, but I'm worried because we are having well-timed sex with the ovulation tests. [ Reply | More ]
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Your negative test is not an end, it is actually the first step in your new, successful journey to the baby you will hold one day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:36 PM Flag
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Are you using ovulation strips? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:40 PM Flag
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Just do it. And keep doing it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:43 PM Flag
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I had a baby last week, took 9 months to naturally conceive. Never considered a specialist during that time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:48 PM Flag
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^^^^sorry, I think I sounded rude! didn't mean to. I think 6 months of TTC is normal and I hope the doctor has encouraging words for you. Good luck, you will be holding a baby soon! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:49 PM Flag
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how old? [ Reply | More ]
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How old are you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:51 PM Flag
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33 [ Reply | More ]
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At 32 you have 9 months to ttc. As you get older, that shortens. 6 months is pretty standard [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:57 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone used One Fine Stay before?? Have family coming to town. Apts look really nice and they say they're full service. TIA. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:27 PM Flag
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I've looked through the site before and admired the apts in London. Let us know how it is if you end up doing it. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] My 7yo DS is the shortest in his class. Both his dad and I are also short, so it's not a hormonal issue and we're not going to put him on growth hormones or anything. He's definitely becoming self-conscious about it, though. I don't think kids are making fun of him, it's more self-imposed. Any tips on how to help him grow up confidently and not obsess about his height? We tell him that people come in different shapes and sizes, it's what inside that counts, etc., but that's not cutting it anymore. TIA! 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:24 PM Flag
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what did you and your husband do to accept yourselves? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:25 PM Flag
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My son has a short friend and he says "You guys don't know what you are missing not being small!" He really believes it and I can tell he has a very healthy positive self image. His parents get an A+++ in my book [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:27 PM Flag
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OP. This is cute, thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:31 PM Flag
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Our daughter has had a huge confidence boost every time we point out short, successful adults, and even teenagers who are doing just fine for themselves. What height is he predicted to be? Lots of successful actors and entertainers are relatively short men, with no paucity of beautiful women who are into them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:28 PM Flag
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Short men live longer than tall. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:29 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:48 PM Flag
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I have the shortest kid, too. This article was interesting: http://www.nytimes.com/2010/05/11/health/11brod.html [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks! I like this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:32 PM Flag
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Get him involved in an activity where being on the small side is an advantage: gymnastics, acting (kids who can play younger than they are have an advantage), horseback riding. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:31 PM Flag
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^^^ dance too. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:54 PM Flag
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Wrestling [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:07 PM Flag
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Op I have the shortest/smallest 10 yo boy in the grade. It bothers him so much. I point out all the successful people who are short. Short men make better husbands and live longer. I also remind him that there are no grown men who are the same size as they were when they were 10. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:08 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone else have a dh who treat's his family like sacred cows? You can't say or request that they do anything, even when you have no bad intentions? Example is you saying "hey Lisa, can you please ask dc to keep the juice in the kitchen" and that turning into WWIII with dh. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:15 PM Flag
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^^^treats [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:17 PM Flag
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Nope. I have a DH who treats me like a sacred cow. And our daughter. He has no problems telling our son what to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:19 PM Flag
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In my example Lisa would be dh's sister. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:20 PM Flag
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DH and I set a rule early on to never criticize each other's families. In a case like that I might have directed it at everyone "Hey kids everyone in the dining room please with the food and drinks!" But I don't think there is an issue with your statement in isolation [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:20 PM Flag
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That's a smart rule and it took me too long to learn that! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:40 PM Flag
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I keep fad away from criticisms as much as possible but even the most benign things he takes as criticism. We had a huge fight last night because I asked him of we could do a brunch instead of dinner for something a month away. If he said no that won't work because of x, y, z I would have been fine instead he exploded. I am fine avoiding conflict and keeping my mouth shut on things but this just seems so silly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:41 PM Flag
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Agreed. That's a different problem, more about power and control. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:43 PM Flag
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mine treats his like mad cows, does that count? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:22 PM Flag
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My dh is like this with his parents. But in his case there is a whole history of them "rejecting" him - he lived with his grandmother for several years, and also went to boarding school in high school. He will not stand up to them in ANY way - An example is that when we visit them they eat at 9:00 at night, and we have kids and are used to eating much earlier. He won't ask them to change that, and when I have asked I get a nasty reply from MIL. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:22 PM Flag
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^^My theory is that your DH fears rejection from his family. Something happened to make him feel this way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:27 PM Flag
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I remember you. This is your issue. Sorry. Feed your kids dinner and put them to bed while you eat with everyone else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:27 PM Flag
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How would I do this????? This is at my in-laws apartment. She's the one who plans dinner. What would I do? Get take-out for my kids? That would be perceived as really hostile, believe me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:29 PM Flag
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Take snacks. It's hostile to your kids to let them go hungry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:31 PM Flag
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It's hostile of my in-laws not to realize that kids don't eat at 9:00-10:00 pm [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:32 PM Flag
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Sounds like your husband doesn't care for you as much as his family. Sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:32 PM Flag
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The simpleton response. You must be one of the many ivy grads on this board. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:36 PM Flag
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you too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:49 PM Flag
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No, but my dad was extremely protective of his younger brother, and would not tolerate even a hint of criticism of him from my mother (and there was plenty to criticize). Their mother committed suicide when they were 1 and 3, and they grew up with their dad and a host of housekeepers, and eventually an evil stepmother, so I think my father always felt like he had to protect his little brother no matter what, even at the expense of his wife. I know my mother felt very let down by this, even if she understood the reason. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:39 PM Flag
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why aren't you telling the children directly to keep juice in the kitchen? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 01:40 PM Flag
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THIS! Ha. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.30.15, 02:10 PM Flag
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