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[ - ] If my memory serves me correctly, didn't Arafat have a deal and didn't he blow it? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:28 AM Flag
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Partition plan [ Reply | More ]
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If that went through would we have the current situation today? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:22 AM Flag
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He had it in his hands. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Best work books for 4th & 5th graders? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Ipad [ Reply | More ]
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For what purpose what subject [ Reply | More ]
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Reading, writing, ELA prep [ Reply | More ]
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Introduction to Physics [ Reply | More ]
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Brainquest [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:29 AM Flag
[ - ] s/o: I'm a DH. I stay with my wife who despite being a stay at home mom, does literally no work (childcare or otherwise) and sleeps well into the afternoon. We haven't had sex in nine months and I can honestly say I don't love her the slightest bit these days. Any questions? 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:17 AM Flag
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Why do you stay? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:17 AM Flag
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Same reason as the poster below. She's the mother and she would get the better custody deal. It's not even financial, we have a decent prenup so other than a lump sum my main issue would be child support. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:08 AM Flag
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D i v o r c e [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:08 AM Flag
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Mine does some work and complains about it of course but also sleep until 11am and complains about how hard she has it. We haven't had sex in around two months I'd guess. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:19 AM Flag
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Why are you staying? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:21 AM Flag
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Kids. That's it. Otherwise she would have forgotten my name by now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:23 AM Flag
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Who takes the kids to school then? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:27 AM Flag
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The nanny, duh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:28 AM Flag
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Usually her. That takes at least ten minutes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:30 AM Flag
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In fairness she picks them up later too after her nap. Gives them dinner and then disappears once I come home as if I was out playing golf all day or something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:32 AM Flag
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It sounds like she may be depressed, how about being compassionate and getting her some help [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:10 AM Flag
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She sounds like a lazy slob. Dump her, OP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:11 AM Flag
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Me too. Live separate lives now. Lazy did nothing hired staff shopped lost interest in me or sex. I only stay with her for the kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:21 AM Flag
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What does she do all day? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:12 AM Flag
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She stays up till four (which disturbs my sleep, so I ended up in the guest bedroom) shopping online or looking at buzzfeed and then she sleeps for half the day. To be fair, sometimes she picks up the kids but mainly the nanny does that. She hangs out with them for a few hours a day. She does a lot of shopping, food and clothing. Random pieces of furniture she wants to "makeover" (that she never gets around to) and craft supplies that I am officially sharing my home office with. I work full time and I have more quality time with the kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:15 AM Flag
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Another DH here. My DW got let go from her work months ago and hasn't bothered looking for another job. Spends her days pissing around and it's starting to piss me off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:13 AM Flag
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Reverse the roles and you'll be told to cut your spouse some slack. Losing a job is depressing, blah, blah, support the spouse's self-esteem... So, maybe you should try some of these suggestions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:29 AM Flag
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Does it make you feel attracted to the ambitious hardworking women you meet at work? Just curious [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:26 AM Flag
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Yes. Very. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:18 AM Flag
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Can you go into more detail? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:29 AM Flag
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I am attracted to confident happy people with purpose and skill and talent and drive. My DW went SAHM and lost all that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:21 AM Flag
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I have nothing against SAHMs and I really don't want to turn this into one of these debates. My mother was a SAHM and she worked very hard, perhaps harder than my father. I do think I get a kick out of being with the level-headed women at work, it's nice to be around people (regardless of gender) who are doing things with their life. My current woman is very much like you describe, so there has to be something to that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:20 AM Flag
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I'm attracted to almost every woman I meet no matter how hard she works. Never cheated though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:33 AM Flag
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FAKE + stop answering yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:18 AM Flag
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This must be a fake. How many dh's are on here? Who stays up until 4:00am and sleeps until noon? I've never met a mother that does this. Very odd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:21 AM Flag
[ - ] There are no Israelis in Gaza. They left years ago. The Palestinians then chose a government whose sole purpose is to destroy Israel. That government kidnaps and murders Israeli citizens and builds tunnels to smuggle arms and builds missiles that it shoots at Israel. Israel would like very much for Gaza to be a peaceful and prosperous neighbor. But it's not and Israel has to deal with it regardless of what others think. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:11 AM Flag
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Troll. Or just ignorant. The Palestinian govt wins no awards from its people for not using force. It is a rebel organization that sends the rockets. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:14 AM Flag
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NP- huh? This is the most incoherent response [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:12 AM Flag
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Not really. She's mostly right. Hamas does the bombing. The Palestinian Authority is widely derided in Palestine as ineffective due to not securing statehood. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:14 AM Flag
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Arafat had it in his hands!!! Remember that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:29 AM Flag
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the PA does not control Gaza. It controls the West Bank. hamas the elected government of Gaza. get your facts right. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:22 AM Flag
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Everything I wrote is true. I'm not even sure what you think you're saying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:27 AM Flag
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Don't forget they bombed all the infrastructure israel left behind (like greenhouses) purely because they were build by Israel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:05 AM Flag
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But hey, it's still a great vacation spot! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:12 AM Flag
[ - ] I love the summer. I am out at our beach house with my kids and stepson. Rarely see dh, not even every other weekend. The kids are having a blast. I wish this could be life, every day, all year round. 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:08 AM Flag
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Zzzzzzzzz [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:00 AM Flag
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i bet dh is having a blast. why isn't he out weekends? wife #3? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:00 AM Flag
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I am wife #1. He's traveling for work. He's in Asia, London, and who the hell cares? I am so much happier without him around at all. I spent the whole week recovering from weekends with him and preparing for the upcoming weekend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:12 AM Flag
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you are happier without him? do you have a piece on the side? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:13 AM Flag
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I don't, but I have fallen out of love. He's done things to me that I am not sure I can forgive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:16 AM Flag
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cheat? abuse? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:07 AM Flag
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He cheated. He has never physically abused me, but he has put me through emotional hell. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:19 AM Flag
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D i v o r c e [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:20 AM Flag
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So where is mom of SS? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:05 AM Flag
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She abandoned him. She is a drug addict. We haven't heard from her in a few months now. Main reason I won't divorce. The boy would have to go live with DH and a nanny, and that breaks my heart. As much as I hate the circumstances that brought him into our lives, I love him to pieces. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:09 AM Flag
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"Main reason you won't divorce" lmfao. It's his paycheck that keeps you at hand, not his kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:13 AM Flag
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I would still get a significant amount of money should we divorce. And I am capable of earning on my own as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:25 AM Flag
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No you're not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:31 AM Flag
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You won't be happier without his paycheck when he dumps your ass. You'll get alimony and the main residence, but trust he's taking that beach house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:18 AM Flag
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I'll be fine. I worked for 10 years of our marriage prior to having children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:10 AM Flag
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I'm our out east. Do you come out here In winter? I find it to be boring. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:03 AM Flag
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Out east, fat fingers... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:03 AM Flag
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We do. We spent part of the christmas break out here. We do Thanksgiving here every other year. We come out about every other weekend in the winter. We have three kids, life is never boring. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:16 AM Flag
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When do you find it to be most boring here? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:17 AM Flag
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We don't winterize. We come here for New Years weekend. One or 2 weekends jan or feb, but really for our preference, too quiet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:08 AM Flag
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WTF is "winterized?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:27 AM Flag
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Tuesdays [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:10 AM Flag
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So, why are you trolling around UB then? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:14 AM Flag
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Kiddos are snoozing! What else would I do? I don't even have full-time nannies this summer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:17 AM Flag
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You sound insufferable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:08 AM Flag
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Who is trolling? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:08 AM Flag
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I'm coming out there. Hire me as a pool boy or something. I'll even play with the kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:22 AM Flag
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Maybe a driver? I have FT housekeepers and chef. I could also use a lifeguard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:23 AM Flag
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Absolutely absurd. I'll put money down that OP is an overweight cat lady in Missouri. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:22 AM Flag
[ - ] If someone borrows your car and gets a ticket because the inspection is expired, who pays the ticket? 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:06 AM Flag
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You [ Reply | More ]
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Car owner [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:08 AM Flag
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you, it is not their job to get an inspection [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:08 AM Flag
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The owner of the car obviously, why is this even a question? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:57 AM Flag
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op: I borrowed the car. The officer said if the inspection was done in 2-3 days, they would waive the ticket. The owner did not complete the inspection in 2-3 days. It is $150. I am annoyed, but I have to just pay it, right? I can't ask my sister/BIL to pay it. Fwiw, I always put 3/4 tank of gas in their car every time I borrow it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:59 AM Flag
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No. You do not pay. It's their car. Idiots. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:00 AM Flag
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I was stopped at a checkpoint though, so ticket is in my name. Had it been parked, ticket would be in their name. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:13 AM Flag
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no, it's on the owner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:01 AM Flag
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Why did you get the ticket? It is still their problem but if you did something to get pulled over then it is a little more complex. Still, they know when the inspection is due, it is not your fault they chose to ignore that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:12 AM Flag
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It was a standard checkpoint. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:14 AM Flag
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Totally their problem, their car, their responsibility. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:07 AM Flag
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So do I plead not-guilty? Ticket was written to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:10 AM Flag
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No, you don't pay! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:01 AM Flag
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Tell them to pay it, do they even know about the ticket? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:10 AM Flag
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Yes, I mentioned it and asked my (SAH with kids in camp) sister if she could try to do the inspection so I could hopefully get the ticket waived. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:24 AM Flag
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NP- LOL, seriously. I had to re-read the post after everyone said the owner (at first I thought she meant parking/speeding ticket) which of course would be different [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:00 AM Flag
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Why would you loan someone a car if inspection expired? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:09 AM Flag
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They sound ungifted [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:13 AM Flag
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owner [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:01 AM Flag
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The owner??? Duh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:02 AM Flag
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The ticket is for the owner of the car for not having an inspection. Not the driver. So clearly owner pays. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:03 AM Flag
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The cop wrote it out to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:17 AM Flag
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You may have been listed as driving the car but it's not made out to you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:25 AM Flag
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Borrower should pay. Presumably, car owner is doing the borrower a favor by lending car. No way should this be a 'no good deed goes unpunished' situation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:14 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone familiar with Lindamood Bell? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Sort of [ Reply | More ]
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Did you or your child use it? Have you taught it? [ Reply | More ]
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Friend sent her DC, wasn't very happy with it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:11 AM Flag
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I'm a reading tutor, and someone requested this type of tutoring. I was just looking into it. I am trained in Orton-Gilingham. LB is expensive and only offered in some pretty random locations. No NYC trainings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:15 AM Flag
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No. What is it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:04 AM Flag
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It's a method for teaching reading, comprehension, and math. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:18 AM Flag
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Schools do not recognize LB as an evaluation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:33 AM Flag
[ - ] Out East beach house 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Us too, north fork or Hamptons? [ Reply | More ]
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We are in East Hampton [ Reply | More ]
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We are in Nassau Point [ Reply | More ]
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Really Cutchogue [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:17 AM Flag
[ - ] Can't stand dh -- for many reasons -- one is that he cares more about his dogs than he does me or our ds. another is that he rarely works but wants me to work in addition to taking care of our son and my elderly mother. he would have no problem with me working full time (at home -- I'm trained as a medical transcriptionist), doing all the childcare and elder care (my mom -- who helps us financially) while he "works a full time job" doing chores for his mom -- which involves him doing whatever he feels like, whenever he feels like doing it -- while his mom waits on him hand and foot. I do not want to get divorced b/c he is vindictive and would try to take away our ds but I want to protect myself long term. 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:37 AM Flag
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What is wrong with that the dogs are preferable? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:28 AM Flag
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^^^what is wrong with you... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:29 AM Flag
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you have no problems with you dh putting his dogs above his children? As in, repeatedly exposing ds to an aggressive dog with a documented history of viciously biting people to the point that they had to have stitches? And saying "Oh she'd never hurt anyone.." despite the fact that she has, indeed, bitten two people, killed a household pet (bunny) and sent her owner to the hospital for stitches three times? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:31 AM Flag
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That is outrageous. I would move out temporarily to give him a wake up call. He is putting your ds' life at risk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:46 AM Flag
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Document and move out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:05 AM Flag
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Divorce, sorry. You have to. He is leeching. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:29 AM Flag
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Divorce is not the answer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:31 AM Flag
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What is? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:42 AM Flag
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If you're sane it is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:33 AM Flag
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op. this. what is? i have no desire to divorce b/c I don't want to leave ds with dh half time. i am trying to just disengage but i have to work to support us. i don't want to end up paying him alimony b/c he's a lazy bastard who won't work and i don't want to lose custody to him b/c he is a SAHD even though I do 90% of the childcare. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:35 AM Flag
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Save email and texts where he says he is too busy to watch DS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:49 AM Flag
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I agree. It will get worse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:43 AM Flag
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The longer you wait, the more liklihood you may have to pay alimony. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:44 AM Flag
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And? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:39 AM Flag
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Reading between the lines, neither of you work full-time? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:44 AM Flag
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no. i quit my full-time job when ds was 4 months old because I was working 40 hours/week, doing all of the childcare (no sitters -- I worked from home) while dh spent all night watching porn on the internet/doing occasional work for his mom. now, ds is 19 months old. i do all of the childcare, my mom lives with us (and contributes financially) and i do all of her care -- fix her meals, take her to drs., pick up her meds, etc. Dh "works" for his mom -- who is perfectly healthy. basically, he cuts her grass and does odd jobs for her. he constantly throws this in my face when i ask him to get a real job. he is very slowly and reluctantly applying for a "second full-time job". i am working as an MT part time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:52 AM Flag
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It will get easier once your DS is in preschool..send him in January, then file for divorce. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:56 AM Flag
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He doesn't "work" for his mom, he's being a son. Lots of people help out their parents AND work a full-time job. The guy has lots of excuses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:34 AM Flag
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He won't get and doesn't want primary custody...divorce. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:45 AM Flag
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How old is DS? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:48 AM Flag
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19 months. i also have a 7 yo dd from my first marriage (ds was a surprise at 42). i want to stay until ds at least has a say. BTW, he has very little to do with dh -- much much prefers me, as you would expect since dh has little to do with him -- though he claims to love him more than anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:55 AM Flag
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Your ruining yours and your children's lives if you wait until the kid is 12/13 to have a say. You also can't keep your DH away from his son, laziness is not a reason to deny visitation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:02 AM Flag
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A say in what exactly. You're going to let a kid make you stay in a marriage? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:53 AM Flag
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Np: until DS has a say in whether or not mommy stays with daddy? Why would you put that kind of pressure on a child? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:21 AM Flag
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OK, so wait, his mom pays him to do chores around her house? How long has this arrangement gone on? Did he work before that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:52 AM Flag
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OMG go. Seriously? This is not going to get better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:07 AM Flag
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This is why I stay with my wife... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:09 AM Flag
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DH. Wtf? How did this even happen? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:04 AM Flag
[ - ] Muslim Moms: every time there is a terrorist attack and CNN shows the terrorists dancing a jig, how come the US Muslim leaders are not in front of the cameras protesting these actions?? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:37 AM Flag
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Because they support it [ Reply | More ]
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Last example? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:25 AM Flag
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After the massive February 2005 bombing in Hillah, Iraq (which killed 130 people), the Islamic suicide bomber who carried out the atrocity was given a hero's burial at his home town of al-Salt, Jordan. Many Muslims cheered and celebrated his murderous mania as "heroic." Look up "Raed Mansour al-Banna" for more details on that awful case. And we know that Muslims today feel the exact same way, because similar attacks in Iraq just keep happening. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:30 AM Flag
[ - ] I'm afraid to look--are the state test scores out yet? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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They come out in August [ Reply | More ]
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Where do you look? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:23 AM Flag
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ARIS [ Reply | More ]
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No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:36 AM Flag
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What grade? [ Reply | More ]
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From her post, you'd have to assume 3rd. [ Reply | More ]
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No - my guess is 4th [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:24 AM Flag
[ - ] I am starting to get so annoyed with everyone shoving their opinions on the Gaza situation down each other's throats. Why is every criticism of Israel considered anti-semitic? Are people not allowed to disapprove of the actions of a government without it being something more? I know it is a sensitive topic and the country's very existence is tied up with religion but the government is just that, a government, a bunch of elected officials - it is not the voice of all Jewish people. I didn't approve of the Iraq war either but I am not anti-american. I am pretty sure most of the people I see posting the strongest worded pro-Israel rants on Facebook would never vote for the current Israeli leadership. FWIW I am pro-Israel and think Hamas are the ones to blame here but am also not thrilled with how Israel is handling things either. 83 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:27 AM Flag
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How do you "handle" religious hatred? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:19 AM Flag
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I agree. I find the discourse really weird. And the reporting even worse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:32 AM Flag
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NP- what about the reporting? I also think it's awful (and quite honestly very pro-Hamas) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:29 AM Flag
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ditto [ Reply | More ]
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OR seriously, somehow the fact that this is a fundamentalist terrorist group is left out of the discussion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:54 AM Flag
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hamas has somehow gone legit...it's very surreal [ Reply | More ]
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How can they handle it better? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:34 AM Flag
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I am also annoyed by the monopolization of the use of "anti-semitic" as being against Israel (which is anti Zionis) or Jews. Palestinians and other Arabs are also Semites, so being anti-semitic is being against both. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:26 AM Flag
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The funny thing is, from what my Jewish friends day, Israelis aren't even that religious... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:27 AM Flag
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Where do you think a Jewish person can go if they need to escape? There is no other country but Israel. If Israel stops existing Jews are at risk. There aren't a lot of Jews in the world but shouldn't they have a tiny place where they can live? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:41 AM Flag
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Sure. But it's not our fight. Sorry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:45 AM Flag
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Are you fighting? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:48 AM Flag
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No. I'm not Jewish or Israeli and the US should stay out of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:50 AM Flag
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Fine. Is US involved? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:45 AM Flag
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It isn't? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:48 AM Flag
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How so? US troops are there? How is US involved? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:01 AM Flag
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So the US is completely impartial? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:57 AM Flag
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wtf do you not get that it's in US interest to have an ally in the middle of an expanse of territory that only grows more radical and west-hating by the day? its not like the us is doing israel some favor out of the goodness of its heart, and its not like the US hasnt put pressure on israel re; west bank [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:02 AM Flag
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you just read random soundbites on random poorly research internet articles and go spouting, it's silly [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:02 AM Flag
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Same could be said of you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:16 AM Flag
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West hating because our "freedoms"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:16 AM Flag
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um... no. because of religious fundamentalism? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:16 AM Flag
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Sure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:08 AM Flag
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Wtf don't you get that support for Israel is the basis for that hate? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:20 AM Flag
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Right, so Israel is the cause of all the problems in the world related to terrorism and religious extremism. They are the cause of the bombings and kidnappings in Nigeria, the clusterfuck in Iraq, 9/11, the radicalization of Pakistan, etc etc. I see now...you really have nailed it. You must have a PHD in Politics and History from Harvard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:26 AM Flag
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No, not at all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:49 AM Flag
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Is that a trick question? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:01 AM Flag
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Are you talking about $$ or is there some secret mission you are aware of? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:53 AM Flag
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Yeah, I'm a bagman for AIPAC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:58 AM Flag
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I think Jews should be safe in any country (although I know they are not in some Muslim and Arabic countries), but the idea of founding a country just for citizens with a particular religion or ethnic background is fundamentally flawed. Syria and Lebanon fell apart in part because their political systems were institutionalized power allocation along religious lines. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:55 AM Flag
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Should be? They aren't. So you prefer the entire set of people stop existing because it doesn't fit how you believe things "should be"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:57 AM Flag
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Wow - putting words in my mouth aren't you. I don't recall proposing a new Holocaust here. Jews are safe in Europe, most of Asia, North America, most of Asia, and large parts of Africa. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:52 AM Flag
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NP- not really safe in Europe. Huge resurgence in anti-semitism and attacks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:55 AM Flag
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Just not true. There has been a handful of incidents in two out of about 20 European countries. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:00 AM Flag
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2??? try at least 4 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:18 AM Flag
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as a non jewish person who has never had to deal with anti-semitism you don't get to tell jews where they are safe and not safe [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:18 AM Flag
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Np. No, but your existence shouldn't be everyone else's perpetual pain in the ass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:52 AM Flag
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Np. No, but your existence shouldn't be everyone else's perpetual pain in the ass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:52 AM Flag
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im so sorry that a war going on half a world away that you have no literally nothig to do with is such a pain in your ass. meanwhile, people are fighting for their right to exist. maybe time to shut the fuck up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:19 AM Flag
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I will when you and AIPAC do. Go fight or stfu yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:16 AM Flag
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Disagreeing with state formation based on religion does not equal wishing all Jews dead. Seriously, stop the navel gazing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:53 AM Flag
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Do you believe there is a sequence of events that can easily create a situation where Israel ceases to exist? Did you feel US had this same threat? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:37 AM Flag
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np- I do. I look at the protests in Europe and I think history repeats itself. That is why I am particularly upset with civilian casualties because I think it makes the world less safe for Jews. That being said, I know Israel looks strong now but the history of the Jews is that everything is going fine until it's a catastrophe. My family friend was expelled from Poland with his family in 1968. 1968! I love America and I am happy to be here but I do think Jews are always a little vulnerable. Not in my lifetime, perhaps, but some day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:42 AM Flag
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*civilian casualties in Gaza, in case it wasn't clear. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:42 AM Flag
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But what option do they have? Let them dig tunnels with explosives and shoot rockets? What can they do? (I am like your friend by the way. You have no idea what it's like to live in a country that openly hates Jews. There has to be a place where one can go.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:47 AM Flag
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at the end of the day, I agree with you. It's just very hard to reconcile with the death of children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:50 AM Flag
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How about children on the flight shot down by Russians. It was talked about for 1 day... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:58 AM Flag
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NP- very well articulated [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:01 AM Flag
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OP - yes, no. I understand it is different. I just have a hard time with war. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:31 AM Flag
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i dont think most supporters of israel find 'every criticism of Israel' to be anti-semitic. There is a just a fine line that gets crossed A LOT when Israel's in the news, and people get sensitive. When criticisms of Israel are valid and legit, great-- there are lots of things Israel clearly needs to improve upon politically and even socioculturally. But when criticisms are just unfounded, unresearched, unproven excuses to rail on the Jewish state for simply existing as a country, that starts to feel like it is crossing the line. People also get sensitive when a person is suddenly super hateful toward Israel, but has never seemed to care about any other geopolitical issue up until this point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:38 AM Flag
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OP - fair enough and I am sure there are a lot of things being said that do cross that line. But feeling sad that some innocent Palestinians died does not make someone anti-semitic. This is the type of thing I am seeing causing drama, it is sad to me that not wanting war all of a sudden equals hating all Jews. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:44 AM Flag
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you are right. However, what I've seen is that those passionately denouncing Israel are silent on the European protests. Your experience may be different, however. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:57 AM Flag
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Jews and Israelis are sad too. Believe me Israel could have carpet bombed all of gaza and have very few casualties. They have 30- something soldiers (really not much more than children) trying to AVOID civilian deaths. Meanwhile Hamas stores bombs under their schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:52 AM Flag
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It's also aggravating that people see innocent dead palestinians and place all blame on israel, without mention of hamas. there is no commitment to really understanding the conflict from both sides. there is nothing anti semitic about feeling sad re: the deaths, but it's the willful ignorance that creates a kind of black and white view of everything, and helps nobody. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:03 AM Flag
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I am not trying to be snarky here but you don't seem to understand what is happening. All over europe there have been attacks against jews and threats against jews - synagogues attacked, vandalized - jews- not just israelis -jews. I also have a problem with war - who doesn't? Why though aren't you posting about Syria? More people have died in Syria (innocent civilians) since the conflict in gaza started but there are zero protests and zero stories about it major media outlets. This is is how it is anti-semetic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:40 AM Flag
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no one cares about the Syrians or the Nigerian girls. It really is staggering. I do think it's possible to be a strong critic of Israel without having an anti-Semitic bone in your body but the protests in France/Europe show that Jews still are vulnerable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:43 AM Flag
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Or the rapes in India? Why is no one demanding that US companies stop operations there [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:55 AM Flag
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Maybe because Syria hasn't been in the daily news for the last 70 years. People just get tired about hearing about on weekly basis and start to wonder why their country is involved in this endless conflict with no real tangible national reason to be involved in the first place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:56 AM Flag
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right so Israel should just suck it up and deal? The truth is we want israel to fight terrorist to keep them in check. Can you imagine if Hezbollah and Hamas were unchecked by Israel? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:59 AM Flag
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Right, because they hate our freedoms. Nice boogeyman cover for the goyim chumps. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:10 AM Flag
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what? just stop. you make no sense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:14 AM Flag
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why do americans think they are 'involved' re israel more than they are involved with any other nation? us just gave gaza (aka hamas) 50 million (or was it billion, cant remember) -- does that bother you as well? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:05 AM Flag
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It sure does. We should also stop giving $2b to Egypt every year as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:02 AM Flag
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well then fucking say that. say you don't care for foreign aid as a concept. dont just complain when it comes to israel [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:21 AM Flag
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What about US drone attacks? Nobody cares that we kill hundreds of people with out drone attacks. Why aren't we protesting in front of the white house? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:47 AM Flag
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The attacks on Jews in Europe are vastly overplayed. They are very rare, but the few there are get a lot of press attention. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:48 AM Flag
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uh huh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:52 AM Flag
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This is how you are called anti-Semitic... I was beaten for being Jewish as a child by other kids. Was hospitalized. (Not in France) but really it's not too bad no biggie [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:54 AM Flag
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you are vastly overplaying that :) I am totally being sarcastic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:59 AM Flag
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Which country? When? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:02 AM Flag
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Ukraine in the eighties [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:24 AM Flag
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are u there? are u in europe right now out in the streets? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:06 AM Flag
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Yes I actually am. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:01 AM Flag
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k, where? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:20 AM Flag
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also are you jewish? if not, how would u know... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:20 AM Flag
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Actually there are record numbers of european jews moving to Israel despite despite the war to escape anti-Semitism [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:00 AM Flag
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About 800 Jews on a yearly basis in France, and the financial climate in France plays a larger role in those decisions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:17 AM Flag
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Non-jew here. Agree. Saw the reports from France and Belgium. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:01 AM Flag
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How many attacks? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:58 AM Flag
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Read the earlier thread about Israel/Gaza. Should give you some idea of why lots of Jews have their hackles up right now, despite having conflicted feelings about Israeli policy and regretting civilian deaths themselves. We don't even fucking get a chance to parse this situation because we are so busy defending our right to exist on this planet right now. FFS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:08 AM Flag
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and that's the mental thing about all these violent anti-Jewish riots going on around the world right now. they're only making Jews feel more strongly that a Jewish homeland is necessary at any cost. FWIW, I think Jews would deserve to have a state of their own regardless, but this just really seals the deal-- and isn't that the opposite of what these rioters want? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:59 AM Flag
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thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:02 AM Flag
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OP - I think you aren't a bad person just extremely naive and uninformed. I am glad you are at least thinking about issues though. Much better than many Americans (if you are American) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:03 AM Flag
[ - ] My father and step-mother are visiting us and will be staying for 2 weeks. This is my first time meeting step-mother. She is incredibly unfriendly, makes no effort to interact with me or my dh, has made negative remarks about my dc and dog, has complained about the sleeping arrangements and gives unsolicited advice. I am at my wits end. Please advice. My father is oblivious and will certainly say that I am overreacting since when he is around she attempts to make small talk with me. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:26 AM Flag
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Why are you letting them visit for two weeks? I would have told them hotel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:42 AM Flag
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op:They are coming from overseas and can't afford a hotel for 2 weeks. I have allowed extended family to stay for up to s month without issues. She is an exception. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:33 AM Flag
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Tell your DH and your father, she is not allowed alone with you or DCs. Dad can watch her and clean up after her. Set down rules. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:39 AM Flag
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^^^and you dont agree with him, and your house, your rules. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:39 AM Flag
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I'm confused.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:32 AM Flag
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op:?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:37 AM Flag
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If this is your first time meeting her,how do you know all these things about her ?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:53 AM Flag
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^ i was thinking the same thing, ^^^ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:00 AM Flag
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Why do you call her your step-mother? She is no such thing. She is your fathers new wife. Do you live at home? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:16 AM Flag
[ - ] Would you be sad if your nanny quit? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:22 AM Flag
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Yes and super stressed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:25 AM Flag
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yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:26 AM Flag
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I don't know if sad is the right word. I really respect her and I would understand if she felt she needed to move on for whatever reason. We have a respectable but professional relationship. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 12:39 AM Flag
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Respectful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:01 AM Flag
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My nanny is quitting because she needs more hours. I'm very sad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:17 AM Flag
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Sorry. I want to quit my job, because I work too many hours. What kind of nanny do you have? My bosses require someone with a college education. :( Makes it harder to find someone. I would love to cut 10 hours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 07.25.14, 01:22 AM Flag
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