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[ - ] Is it a losing battle against these anti-vaxxers? I'm so angry that they are selfishly putting all the newborns and immunosuppressed at risk. Is there anything that can be done? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:21 PM Flag
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It's awful. I work with a population of kids who are immunosuppressed/compromised and the anti-vax movement may turn out to be catastrophic for them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:22 PM Flag
[ - ] what shampoo for fine straight hair that I wash every day and don't want to dry it out? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Don't wash it every day! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:18 PM Flag
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If you are outside (in the city) during the day, how can you not to? I am not OP, but I wash daily. Fortunately my hair does not dry out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Let's play the "deprived child" game. Tell us something you've never done, that most people have. I'll start: I've never done a shot. 45 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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^^alcoholic, not vaccine [ Reply | More ]
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never done cocaine. or had a martini. [ Reply | More ]
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Most people have not done cocaine. [ Reply | More ]
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I have never had a manicure or pedicure [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:16 PM Flag
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me either. waste of $. [ Reply | More ]
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Ew [ Reply | More ]
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Some people think nail salons are ew, too [ Reply | More ]
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Nor have I and I thought I was alone in this. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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wow...cannot think of anything. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm the only person I know (besides DH) who has never skied. [ Reply | More ]
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I haven't skiied either! I don't like going downhill. [ Reply | More ]
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I believe you because you spelled it wrong. I've never either. [ Reply | More ]
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I know lots of people who have never done this. [ Reply | More ]
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I have never been skiing [ Reply | More ]
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Flown in an airplane with my parents. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Never smoked or did drugs [ Reply | More ]
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I never learned to swim [ Reply | More ]
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Blown a bubble with gum [ Reply | More ]
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Had heartburn [ Reply | More ]
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Lucky! [ Reply | More ]
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Me either. [ Reply | More ]
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Never went to the Hamptons [ Reply | More ]
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Pot [ Reply | More ]
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+1 and I went to Berkeley! [ Reply | More ]
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No shots and no drugs. [ Reply | More ]
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I've never skiied [ Reply | More ]
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I've never had a UTI [ Reply | More ]
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Me either! [ Reply | More ]
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I've never been to Europe proper. [ Reply | More ]
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Parents never had a car growing up, do not have a car now either even though can afford one. [ Reply | More ]
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Drink alcohol [ Reply | More ]
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Smoke [ Reply | More ]
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Have sex, there you go, flame away! I still a virgin [ Reply | More ]
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what? how old are you? no flames. [ Reply | More ]
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I've never let DH give me oral sex [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:19 PM Flag
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why? do you think you smell? [ Reply | More ]
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I've never seen "Goonies" all the way through [ Reply | More ]
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I have never eaten chick fil A [ Reply | More ]
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I have never had McDonalds [ Reply | More ]
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Never had a dog [ Reply | More ]
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Never had an abortion [ Reply | More ]
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I have never had a job. I know, I am aware how lucky i am [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:22 PM Flag
[ - ] I hate meeting with retired people. One just showed up 30 minutes early for a meeting and will want to hang out all afternoon since she has nothing else to do so it always turns into me trying to kick them out after a while which is awkward. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:12 PM Flag
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Remember this when you're retired, sunshine. Your turn will come. I hate when people act as if they will never get old. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:13 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:19 PM Flag
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LOL, and you know she's the lady who's writing a check in line at the grocery store. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:15 PM Flag
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And yet you are trying to get something from her, so do your job and shut the fuck up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:19 PM Flag
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Normal, many people are lonely. But you can set the terms and say that you're glad they're here early because you have meeting/appt right after at X time and then cut it off when you want to. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:20 PM Flag
[ - ] we live in Cobble Hill and the public high schools are horrible here. On the other hand, we can walk to Basis each day. Seems like a no brainer for us 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:06 PM Flag
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Isn't that 24k per year? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:14 PM Flag
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You need to WALK your high schooler to school? Are you serious? Most kids travel on their own to middle school! WTF [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:15 PM Flag
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I think you're joking, but in case you're not... you do realize NYC has some of the top public high schools in the country, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:15 PM Flag
[ - ] My stepdaughter goes to a lower-tier law school and is near the bottom of her class, but got a job at a corporate GC office last summer. They offered her part time work during the school year (which she cannot handle), but basically said they want her. It seems to me from posters here that not only is she unlikely to get job with a law firm, but she would be better off going to corp. Any comments? What I don't understand is she got the job last summer (paying job, not internship) through school placement office, yet some kids didn't work at all. Why is that? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:06 PM Flag
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your stepdaughter is an outlier and there is more to this story. that's all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:08 PM Flag
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I'd agree. Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:10 PM Flag
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My thought too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:11 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:12 PM Flag
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This. She should work her butt off and count her lucky stars. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:13 PM Flag
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OP -- I cannot figure out why. All I can say is she is very attractive and willing to do grunt work and not complain. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:18 PM Flag
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Wow I'm surprised she got this job - was there some connection to the corp? She needs to hold on to this opportunity for dear life IMO. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:09 PM Flag
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No connection at all. She had summer jobs in college working for a government in the same area (real estate), but nothing impressive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:10 PM Flag
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Double wow. Tell her she needs to hang on to this, even if it means working during the school year, because jobs are obviously not easy to come by if you're coming from a lower tier school with bad grades. If she's a 2L or 3L her class load should not be so demanding that she can't work PT during the year. I worked 2L and 3L years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:13 PM Flag
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+10000000000000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:14 PM Flag
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They probably need "diversity". She is it. [ Reply | More ]
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She is white. Women are not needed. [ Reply | More ]
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I did not say racial diversity, did I? They need a fool and they've got one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:18 PM Flag
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Is she hot? [ Reply | More ]
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She is very attractive. [ Reply | More ]
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Ding ding ding [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:22 PM Flag
[ - ] 10 lbs down 30lbs to go. I am in for a long road ahead of me. Wish me luck. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:57 PM Flag
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Me too. You aren't alone. We can do this. [ Reply | More ]
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+2, except down 20, 10-15 to go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:00 PM Flag
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Inspiration!!! Thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:02 PM Flag
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YW! We can all do this! My question is- what are we doing in terms of clothes in the meantime? I'm down 2 sizes, but I don't want to buy clothes in the lower size, knowing I'll be an even lower size later. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:14 PM Flag
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i am doing adult leggings and long sweaters and blouses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:18 PM Flag
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Same. Didn't know if I was alone in that! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:21 PM Flag
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good luck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:03 PM Flag
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Good job. How did you get rid of the first 10? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:06 PM Flag
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Diet, I cut down on carbs a lot. I only eat one 1 small carb once a day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:19 PM Flag
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Good luck! I've lost three lbs myself and I and I have ten more to go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:07 PM Flag
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Yea, you!!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:09 PM Flag
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You have a long road ahead of you regardless. You'll just end up 40 lbs thinner when you get there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:10 PM Flag
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Yay! Kill a mood Kate is here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:11 PM Flag
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So are you a depressed thin person, or a lazy fat person? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:14 PM Flag
[ - ] Question for people in indifferent marriages (co-parenting, but grown apart). Do you see a time when the kids are out of the house when you might leave your spouse? 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:56 PM Flag
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OP: A friend and I discuss this, and have slowly met other women who are in dead marriages, but no abuse, infidelity, etc., and stay because the logistics of DH having joint custody of the kids (if divorced) just opens up another can of worms in terms of DH not being organized enough to get the kids to activities, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:58 PM Flag
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If you are in an indifferent marriage you should not have to wait until the kids are grown. You are wasting your life with the wrong partner. Not healthy. You can co-parent living apart and each one of you deserve to have a chance for love again. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: It may be the particular group of friends I have, but we have really disorganized DHs. If the DHs had partial custody, it would a barrage of texts over missed activities, lost shoes. The daily stress of living with these Dhs wouldn't be minimized, it would just shift to different stress. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:02 PM Flag
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And I would like to add that in situations like this, most of the time, the woman is doing parenting and the man is fucking everything that moves, while having his food cooked, his house cleaned and his clothes ironed, at home. The woman just "parents". 99% of the time a man has a life outside of the house while the spouse has no one in her bed (provided she wants someone) because that would be "cheating" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:02 PM Flag
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Lucky men! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:07 PM Flag
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Why was I not born a man? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:08 PM Flag
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I disagree. That's fine if you're married without kids, but once you have children, you have an obligation to raise them in a stable environment if at all possible. No one should stay in an abusive situation, but indifference isn't abuse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:02 PM Flag
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I said it before and I'll say it again. Kids are better off with two happy fulfilled parents that don't share a house than with two enemies sharing the same roof. But you can keep telling yourself the platitudes if you want. Your life. Our opinions differ. Takes nothing away from me or from you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:04 PM Flag
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She's not talking about two enemies shouting or harmful addictions, she is talking about two people who are indifferent and blah. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:08 PM Flag
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OP: We are not acrimonious at all. DH thinks everything is fine. As a disclosure, we do not have a sexual relationship (not gay, but no drive) and this was fine with me for many years (had my own issues). I have more recently wanted more emotional/physical connection than he is able to provide. So the little things are even more irksome because I have such a general emotional deficit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:08 PM Flag
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Np. Indifference is not quite at the level of enemies. Sometimes it is just a placid existence, no romance but no hostilities either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:09 PM Flag
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Being "happy and fulfilled" is a crock of crap, if you ask me. The belief that this is somehow something we are all entitled to has caused a metric ton of trouble in families. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:10 PM Flag
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Sometimes there is some stuff you should do because it is right and responsible, not because it makes you "happy" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:11 PM Flag
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OP: Exactly. My friends and I are not happy, but not about to rock the boat just so we can have some Zen existence, lol. Also, selfishly, it would be a lot more work to co-parent with these particular DHs because they are not autonomous and the load of organizing would still land on us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:14 PM Flag
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OP: Yes, this is what it is. Kids sense that we are not intimate and will figure it out soon enough., But we interact as a family in the house and do activities. My DH is so disorganized and clueless it would be 10 times the work for me if we lived separately and he had the kids some days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:12 PM Flag
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IDK. Right now we've grown apart because he's a workaholic who ignores me and DCs as a result (and no, we are not rich at all, our HHI is like $150K so it's not like I sold my soul to marry money). Maybe if he slowed down later on in life when the kids are grown, we'd grow close again. Maybe not. He is not an inherently bad person and I've never suspected cheating. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Similar boat here. DH is a good, well-meaning man. A spacey academic type, so off in his own world. Most of how he connects with the kids (8,12) is when we are all in the house and maybe they'll watch TV together or Dh will take a break and walk around the house and say hello. He would never be able to manage getting them places without me providing a schedule (and they are not that booked up). [ Reply | More ]
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OR: This is very, very similar to my situation. He's here, but not present. I don't think he even realizes how absent he is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:06 PM Flag
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OP: Same. My DH thinks things are fine. When I indicate I would like more or different way of relating, he sort of does it once and not again. He is not Aspie, but really really clueless. It was charming for years (I also didn't want a DH who would be reactive to my moods), but not anymore. And it won't change. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: For me, the daily annoyances (he is very clueless and walks around the house, throwing random things away, stops dishwasher mid cycle so when I get home the dishes aren't clean, little things like that. But all day, every day). I have given up trying to get him to be more aware because if it not one thing, it's another. I just find that my soul is sucked dry by the constant sensory affronts of his coughs and groans, and whatnot. [ Reply | More ]
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I think about this all of the time. I keep my fingers crossed that this is just a phase. We're working to rekindle our relationship. Good luck! [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Good luck! With my DH there is so much water under the bridge that at this point I do not want more of a relationship than I have., But I am in therapy myself and some of this has to do with my own anxieties and upbringing. So things may change as I have more clarity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:13 PM Flag
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What a depressing thread. It's too bad some of you couldn't show up in a high school class, warning girls about not jumping into marriage. Or at least not kids. Young women get married with such stars in their eyes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:12 PM Flag
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And the sad part is that even after they have grown up they chose to settle for "half a life" although they should know better. People live as if they had unlimited amount of time. They don't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:17 PM Flag
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OP: Wasn't even remotely young (or old) when married and had kids. I think it is actually a very common outcome to be in a dissatisfied relationship at various points of your life. Just trying to gauge whether people have a sense if it is an ebb/flow in their situation, or really more of a "stick it out" responsibility. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:19 PM Flag
[ - ] I am sure that the same poster(s) who keep claiming that the Duke lacrosse players were guilty of rape also believe that Tawana Brawley really was raped. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:56 PM Flag
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Just stop it. this discussion does not belong on UB. Nothing that involves black / white crime belongs here, it is just too divisive [ Reply | More ]
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This, flag and ban anyone that discusses it [ Reply | More ]
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or you can just ignore and collapse it like an adult. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:09 PM Flag
[ - ] Should I send a FC to our desired preschool? We have three favorites, STMPG, Episcopal & AS. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 01.29.15, 05:53 PM Flag
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Why wouldn't you? [ Reply | More ]
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^^Oops, sorry, misread that as "send DC to our desired preschool!" [ Reply | More ]
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I read it that way too, like the FC was entirely invisible to my brain the first time! [ Reply | More ]
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Were you part of the chosen list at STM- anointed to get a playdate and chock full of recommendation letters from insider families? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Day 9 with no feedback. Guess I didn't get the dream job :( 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:48 PM Flag
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sorry. what is the job? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:53 PM Flag
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Business development manager. Normally I would not think 9 days was a big deal, but I know they were eager to fill the position and I was the last of 4 candidates interviewed. [ Reply | More ]
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good luck. [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks [ Reply | More ]
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Don't be so sure. I think things have been a little crazy since the storm. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:53 PM Flag
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I hope you're right. I'm going to keep applying to new positions, but I'm hopeful I might get a call today or tomorrow. [ Reply | More ]
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Things can take time. I interviewed for the job I'm starting in a few weeks back in September. It was a LONG process and they were also very eager to fill the position. Good luck! And if this one doesn't work out, I wish you the best of luck in your continued job search!! [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks so much! And good luck in your new position! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Have never colored my hair before, but the grays are beginning to be too many to pluck. Any advice for home coloring? Too busy to hike to salon every few months... 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Get something very close to your natural color, because home coloring kits are unable to go more than 2 shades difference. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:48 PM Flag
[ - ] Are you a homebody/office body? I like my apt and hanging out at home, I go out when I have stuff on and invite people over...it seems a lot of people like being out, a lot. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:42 PM Flag
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Totally. I would love to live in a hobbit hole. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
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+3 after my crazy college days I rather never leave my house again, can't believe how much I love staying home. [ Reply | More ]
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Before 40 - always out and about. Now that I'm 40+, prefer to be home most of the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:44 PM Flag
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I am a homebody. I went through my periods of life where I was constantly out and about, but ultimately I crave stability and security over stimulation I guess. [ Reply | More ]
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Homebody. I have a very happy home, and there's nothing I can get from being out to make me any happier. Love being around my family. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm the same. I like entertaining if my place is very clean and neat, but even if it is, I'm glad when everyone leaves and I can put on my yoga pants and watch Netflix. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:46 PM Flag
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Hate being out. Especially in winter [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:52 PM Flag
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Op: Even in my 20's I liked coming home to my space. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:56 PM Flag
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Yep. Especially this time of year. I like being out when I am, on the way to and from work, the gym, shops, etc, but nothing beats being warm and cozy with my stuff around me. When it's warmer I'm out more, but still like being home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:59 PM Flag
[ - ] How common is it for stress to affect libido in men. My husband started a new 100% commission based job, is working very hard and hasn't earned anything yet. He told me the other day that he feels ashamed. He also doesn't have time to exercise anymore. He's young (26) and his libido has declined significantly. We're still having sex but he'll turn me down sometimes and tell me he's really stressed, can't clear his mind or is simply exhausted. I know I probably shouldn't but I'm starting to feel insecure. 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:35 PM Flag
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Very common. He feels he needs to "provide". He is not currently doing that. Huge hit to self esteem, until he starts to "win" again... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:36 PM Flag
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Thanks, that makes sense. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:38 PM Flag
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So true. And the corollary of this is that winning, powerful men often have a strong sex drive [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:43 PM Flag
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I guess that's where the many men and finance cheat on their wives/go to strip clubs/seek out happy endings stereotype comes from. [ Reply | More ]
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When it comes to sex, both men and women are more hard wired than people think [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:53 PM Flag
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Totally hard-wired. [ Reply | More ]
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My mom somewhat inappropriately raised me to believe that all men are simple and happy as long as they have good food, a little attention and very regular sex. It schewed my views of what most men want and crave to feel happy and loved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:03 PM Flag
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My BIL once expressed it thus: fuck me, feed me, be my friend ... The 3 Fs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:17 PM Flag
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He told me those were his only three needs. He was having trouble with my sister at the time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:18 PM Flag
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My mom told me this, too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:19 PM Flag
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Very common when your mind is consumed with thoughts of encroaching poverty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:42 PM Flag
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We live in NYC and I have loans which doesn't help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:43 PM Flag
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DH here: Just keep reminding him that you are a "team" and that he is not carrying the weight alone. It means a lot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:50 PM Flag
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Thanks you for the advice. I texted him the other day that I'm lucky to have such a loving supportive husband and that I know how hard he's working and am really proud of him. He said it got him really "pumped". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:53 PM Flag
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It works. We are in our 50s now and my wife still texts me little messages to get me through the day/week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:55 PM Flag
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That's really sweet. I hope we're like that too in thirty years :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:58 PM Flag
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NP. Don't underestimate this.... its important for each party in a couple to work to build the other up - if both do it, you get your effort back in spades. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:03 PM Flag
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Maybe he is carrying the weight alone...'cos she does not work? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:53 PM Flag
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Op: I work full time and am currently covering all of our expenses. I don't resent him at all and know he's working very hard to bring in some income. But I know he feels guilty and ashamed that he hasn't made any commissions yet in his new job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:57 PM Flag
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My job also qualifies me for grad school loan assistance from my school and lower payments from the state. Absent extreme circumstances I would never consider quitting for that reason alone. Plus I really enjoy my job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:01 PM Flag
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then he is lucky to have you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:06 PM Flag
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Thanks, I'm lucky to have him too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:12 PM Flag
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Perhaps or maybe he just jerked off privately and has nothing to give. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:09 PM Flag
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Another DH Here: Stress definitely affects the libido. Be patient, help eliviate the stress for him and be patient. Make the most of the time you do have. More pressure from home makes it worse and pushes you to the breaking point. Working only for commission is very, very hard. Give it time. Put a time limit on it and then sit down and talk about it. It will take hime a while to get sales going. 6 months? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:11 PM Flag
[ - ] Would a male CEO pose for this sort of picture? 47 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:31 PM Flag
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Most male CEO's don't look that good. If he did and had the chance probably. Most uber successful people are narcissist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:33 PM Flag
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np Even if she looks kinda sorta like that, that photograph is so photoshopped it might as well be a drawing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:35 PM Flag
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The sexualization is so inappropriate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:37 PM Flag
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I bet she wishes she would have done something about her roots before this picture. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:34 PM Flag
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oh please. she is hot and also fully dressed (shoes included). If many men ceos looked like this they would. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:54 PM Flag
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No but it's her choice so who cares. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:33 PM Flag
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You don't see how wrong this is? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:35 PM Flag
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NP: I really don't. Why do you think its wrong? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:36 PM Flag
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She's a corporate CEO, not Taylor Swift. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:38 PM Flag
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np: So she should just do whatever a male CEO would do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:40 PM Flag
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She shouldn't try to be a Vogue model. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:41 PM Flag
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Would you invest 100 million of your pension fund's money with a person who posed for this photo? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:38 PM Flag
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I don't see why the photo would stop me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:40 PM Flag
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You clearly don't invest pension fund money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:40 PM Flag
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No. Not because she posed for the picture, but because she clearly has no f-ing idea for what to do with yahoo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:21 PM Flag
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She also brought her baby to work and had a nursery attached to her office. She's not trying to be a man. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:37 PM Flag
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OR: How is it wrong? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:38 PM Flag
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She's posing for sexy photos in Vogue, when she should be figuring out how to turn around her company. Why is this hard to understand? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:41 PM Flag
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So your issue is that she is wasting time posing for sexy photos and not "figuring out how to turn around her company?" It's a time management issue? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:44 PM Flag
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God you sound so stupid. This shoot probably took half a day. It doesn't affect her ability to do her job. Why are you on UB and not doing whatever you should be doing?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:44 PM Flag
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It's a perception issue that someone getting paid millions to run a giant company should understand implicitly. This photo and article tells readers and the public that she is more interested in herself, her looks, her fashion, and her image to the world than she is running the company. You don't take this photo because it suggests to the world that you're the kind of person who thinks it is cool and fun to focus on fashion photography. Which is great and cool, but not if you're the person I'm paying to save my company. If you're my CEO I want you to be interested only in my company. I don't want you out taking sailing lessons or running marathons or singing in the community choir. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:50 PM Flag
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np: This is your issue, not hers. If a male CEO were profiled in a magazine (accompanied by a more conservative, traditional photo of him in a suit), would you have a problem with it? NO. I don't care what a CEO does in their spare time. They can be into fashion photography, sailing, or training llamas for all I care, as long as he/she is doing the job well. If you don't think she's doing her job, that's a different story--but it has nothing to do with this picture. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:54 PM Flag
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So you think that the male CEO of, say, Intel, photographed in a fashion model pose in an unbuttoned shirt on a beach would not be ridiculed? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:05 PM Flag
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Maybe, but who cares? What he does in his spare time is his business. And your whole point in this thread is that a male CEO wouldn't pose in a frivolous, fashion-y photo shoot, apparently because he'd be busy all the time being professional and thinking about how to better run his company. I think you're the worst kind of sexist: a woman who thinks she's bettering women with her viewpoints, but in reality is tearing them [us] down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:12 PM Flag
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Lol, you don't think male CEOs spend their time sailing, running marathons, golfing, etc? I guess you've never met one then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:09 PM Flag
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Probably not. But she's not a male CEO. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:35 PM Flag
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Would the CEO of Yahoo get this much attention if they weren't a good looking woman? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:37 PM Flag
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This is a really old article. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:38 PM Flag
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I don't get the fascination wit her. She's doing a mediocre job and Yahoo is ... well ... Yahoo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:40 PM Flag
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It's interesting that tech which is so male drive has a few female superstars. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:45 PM Flag
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Male or female, being CEO of Yahoo is like driving a 1997 Cadillac with 200,000 on the meter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:56 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:40 PM Flag
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Did you read the article. The 'CEO exit' wtf? Just because you are a ceo you can't say goodby to people? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:44 PM Flag
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This picture is almost 2 years old. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:53 PM Flag
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Bad roots. Eek. Poor working mom. So busy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:56 PM Flag
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Hi, New Jersey housewife! Pretty sure Marissa Mayer does not envy you, you can hold your pity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:58 PM Flag
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I have natural hair and have never lived in NJ. I would also never get photographed with my hair looking like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:07 PM Flag
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THIS is what a male CEO would not have to endure. Petty scrutiny about 'bad roots'. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:11 PM Flag
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I know, right!? What a bitch! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:19 PM Flag
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I like anything that changes the way we see power and position. It is no longer a middle aged man in a suit and tie. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:58 PM Flag
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The magazine comes up with these stupid ideas and they've took dumb photos of many people. And they want her to talk about her clothes. Yuck all around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:12 PM Flag
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I am always disappointed with their articles and stopped reading them all together. I guess I am just not that interested in other people's wardrobes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:20 PM Flag
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Has Vogue done any pieces on male CEO's? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:12 PM Flag
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Why would they? Male CEO's aren't a novelty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:19 PM Flag
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Vogue isn't a magazine targeted towards men. There is nothing "new" or "groundbreaking" about a male CEO. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:20 PM Flag
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Ugh, no one cares about how thin she is or what she wears- she needs to show that she can do something with that mess of a company (beyond profiting of an investment decision made before her time) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:19 PM Flag
[ - ] Is it a law in NYC that one must carry ID at all times? I heard this once but it's hard for me to believe. One reason I ask is because I was just on the First Ave. Select bus and a girl got pulled off for not having her receipt. What's to prevent someone from claiming they don't have their wallet and giving a false name/address? Just curious. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:31 PM Flag
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I have no idea if it is against the law not to have ID, but in California, it is against the law to provide false ID (i.e. make up a name) when asked by law enforcement. They may or may not run your name when they get back to the station. Depends on your demographic (sadly) and whether they take it that far. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:33 PM Flag
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They can run your name right there! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:35 PM Flag
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Really??? Those transit officers have that capability with their little handheld ticket devices? What if you are from out of town? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:38 PM Flag
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I do not thin so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:41 PM Flag
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Not a law, no. The police can detain you until you can show your identity, but that's it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:34 PM Flag
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They are asserting she was on bus without paying (select bus you pay before getting on). If you have ID, they will write you a desk appearance ticket, but if you do not have ID, they may bring you in. The issue is the combination of breaking a law and not having ID. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:36 PM Flag
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Will they escort you to your home so you can get your iD? This is interesting (not that I really want to try it) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:37 PM Flag
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No, they will escort you to the local precint. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:39 PM Flag
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if you are black, good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:41 PM Flag
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I can imagine. This was a white girl, ruffling around in her papers, obviously she didn't have receipt. But the (female) agent was unfailingly polite, said she had to step off as bus had to leave, and we'll see if you can find it. Heard the fine is $100. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:44 PM Flag
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OR: I guarantee if you don't look a certain way (profiling), they'll give you a warning about the ID and write issue a ticket for bus violation (or whatever). If they have other suspicions, they would probably detain you until they can ascertain your identity. DH was confused about the Select bus when it first started. He was asked to leave the bus and was issued a ticket. Fortunately, he has his idea on him (he looks middle eastern and cops are always looking twice at him). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:47 PM Flag
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^^ID, not idea! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:47 PM Flag
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lol A middle-Eastern looking man with an "idea," great :-D [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:53 PM Flag
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Hee, hee. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:57 PM Flag
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actually I think it is a law in NYC. previously read it somewhere. Not much of a penalty if you are asked for non-violation reasons. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:48 PM Flag
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OR: I believe there was previously an ID law for people using public transportation. I read somewhere that it was struck down as unconstitutional by the local federal court. This was a few years ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:51 PM Flag
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Have seen people try to run and put up a fight. very interesting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Just finished Alpha House episodes and looking for a new series to watch. Have seen almost no other series. Like shows like Arrested Development, The Office, parks and Rec, etc. Suggestions? TIA! 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:30 PM Flag
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Always sunny in Philadelphia [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:35 PM Flag
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Yup. You'll know within 45 seconds if you like it or not, but if it clicks with you you'll be all in right away. Start with the D.E.N.N.I.S. system episode- it's one of my personal favorites. Or of course the classic Nightman. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:44 PM Flag
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OP: Thanks! Any others? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:54 PM Flag
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Have you seen all the Seinfeld and Frasier episodes? Or are you looking for new [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:01 PM Flag
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really like transparent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:55 PM Flag
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My sons love this, as well as Trailer Park Boys. I have not seen either [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:05 PM Flag
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Loved Alpha House [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 05:56 PM Flag
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Are you going to ask us everyday? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:00 PM Flag
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I am actually hooked on Queer like Folk..Never thought gay sex could be this hot...But you cannot watch while the kids are up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.29.15, 06:07 PM Flag
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