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[ - ] What other websites do you find yourself going to all the time? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:51 PM Flag
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pinterest, west side rag, people [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:51 PM Flag
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OR: and nytimes [ Reply | More ]
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did you see that photo of the Syrian man covered in rubble on the front page today? :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:52 PM Flag
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Not yet. I was reading online. I think it was yesterday - there was a Syrian boy crying and leaning over a body. Is that the same photo? Awful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:54 PM Flag
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No, this is a grown man alone, covered in white dust with rubble all around him. What is going on over there? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:56 PM Flag
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I didn't see it. It seems crazy that we can't help the country. I intellectually understand the political and military quagmire and the impossibility of the situation for the US. It's just so unfair. At least we can help the refugees in Europe - but we choose not to. The whole thing is a disaster. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:58 PM Flag
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war? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:58 PM Flag
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zulily, gilt, reddit [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:55 PM Flag
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UB, FB, NYT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:56 PM Flag
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Facebook and this stupid app that my kids put on my phone. It meows at me to feed the cat or put it to sleep or take it to the bathroom and it has games that then I start playing and then.... [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Are their more narcissists in the world these days? Or is it just easier to spot them (b/c of social media)? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:51 PM Flag
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^^there [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 04.29.16, 03:56 PM Flag
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Social media for sure. It's like everyone has their own newspaper with its own circulation ... everyone has become their own "brand" and people serve up their own lives and thoughts for others to consume and publicly react. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:58 PM Flag
[ - ] Tell me why we give so much aid to Israel? "President Obama proposed the largest package of U.S. military aid ever but Benjamin Netanyahu insisted on more generous terms." NY Times link below. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:44 PM Flag
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Tell me why we give so much aid to Egypt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:47 PM Flag
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Good question. I looked it up and Egypt is not in the top 25. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/United_States_foreign_aid Apart from Israel, practically every country on that list is fighting many ills including war, political instability, poverty, disease, natural disaster, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:54 PM Flag
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[ - ] I can't believe Michael Strahan disses his ex wife - MOTHER OF HIS CHILDREN - on national TV. It was this morning. On Live. Such bad form. I liked the guy but the break up with Kelly has turned me, now I notice these other things. Really bad form to insult the mother of your kids ON television. Wow. He is making a mistake going to GMA. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 04.29.16, 03:40 PM Flag
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^^ I say making a mistake because (1) he will be a small fish in a big pond at GMA. (2) He is making enemies (I.e Kelly). She led him right into it this morning... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:42 PM Flag
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You're thinking way too hard about all this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:44 PM Flag
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You're crazy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:57 PM Flag
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Another embarrassing black celebrity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:43 PM Flag
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I know plenty of embarrassing white celebrities. Stop with the race bullshit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:53 PM Flag
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what was the diss? that her house is bigger? I think Kelly Ripa looked the worst for bringing his personal life into it -- it was like baiting him. She lost some points for that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:46 PM Flag
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No, he said he'd lock the door on his ex wife etc alluding to her as crazy. I really would never appreciate my dad talking like that about my mom on TELEVISION gratuitously, nor is it gentlemanly. Airing your dirty laundry like that? So distasteful, whatever legal battles/past craziness has gone on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:49 PM Flag
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Either he was abusive or she falsely accused him publicly, so either way not surprising [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:46 PM Flag
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He has a platform on TV, she / the ex wife has none. Who is the winner? Who is ahead? who has more power every way you look at it? He does. It was so inappropriate, so UNNECESSARY! Adds fuel to whatever fire he is rightfully complaining about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:49 PM Flag
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Far more disturbing is your obsession with this show [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:57 PM Flag
[ - ] How long did the tantrum stage last (if your 3 yr old had them) and what did you do to help it stop? Ours is kicking our ass, although we are being consistent, giving warnings when transitions happen (it mainly happens around that). 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:39 PM Flag
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123 Magic [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:40 PM Flag
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NP: that worked for one of mine and completely failed for the other [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:55 PM Flag
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DD was a tantrum thrower between about 18 months and 2.5ish. This was years ago and it will sound crazy but I watched Super Nanny an her timeout technique helped. She has a specific set of steps and it worked for me. You have to be consistent and not "feed" the tantrum by getting upset yourself. Some of it was just developmental and I think kids outgrow it to some degree. The issue is what they take away when they're on the other side of tantrum throwing. You want them to know that it isn't an effective way to get what you want. Lots of kids will outgrow tantrums, but they "resurface" in tween/teen years (a different stripe, but same idea). GL. It was frustrating and exhausting to deal with. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:45 PM Flag
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We do not give in to the tantrum. Ever. But it is exhausting and I'm afraid that the nanny will quit and make my life even harder. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:47 PM Flag
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Yeah, it is exhausting. I remember feeling almost intimidated because the tantrums were frequent and forceful. It sounds like you are doing the right things in terms of identifying when they are likely to occur. I concluded that I'm not cut out for dealing with multiple tantrums per day, so something had to give--and as the adult, it wasn't going to be. Not sure if this applies to your child, but my DD was a big do-it-yourself type. She wanted to do *everything* on her own and without help. Once her dexterity and verbal skills caught up with her desire, it was easier. She was just so frustrated by what she couldn't do/express. Have some compassion for your child (it's easy to lose compassion when someone is making your life difficult). But by having a consistent response--and telling her tantrums won't work in our home--she came out of it. FWIW, she is now a terrific teenager--and still a do-it-yourself type. Very independent and responsible--and often earlier than her peers in things like tying her own shoes, getting herself dressed, riding a bike, etc. Her frustration and desire to do things on her own as a toddler was a little window into her personality. Hang in there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:57 PM Flag
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[ - ] DS was accepted to a private (in an off year). He isn't going to be happy leaving his current school. He knows it was a possibility (interview tour etc). Going to tell him today. DH and I will both be there. Any suggestions btdt preferabl. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:37 PM Flag
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Will he blindsided or was he expecting this? Have him meet with a new 'buddy' and hang out. Tell him it is good to get out of the pressure cooker and he will have less homework and more fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:40 PM Flag
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No we are haing the conversation today. He won't be blindsided, as we have been talking about the good things about the new school. But I want to know HOW to talk about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:44 PM Flag
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We don't know anything about why the new school is better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:47 PM Flag
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Nor age of your kid [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:49 PM Flag
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Child is 8. New school has activities he likes (makers lab, high tech) no public school testing that he hates, language that he wants to learn, he won't be youngest in the class any more (which he hated). He know people there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:54 PM Flag
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I'd play up all these good points and the fact that he knows people there. Reassure him that he can still see his old school friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:57 PM Flag
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privates aren't always what they're cracked up to be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:44 PM Flag
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Great. Thanks. That is true for some situations, but for this child, this school is a better choice. Do you have a way to answer my question? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:46 PM Flag
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I would wait until the end of the school year. No reason to have him mentally detach from his friends (and have them detach from him) when there are still a couple of months left. He'll start feeling lonely and isolated. Why do you need to tell him today????? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:46 PM Flag
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I don't need to tell him today. It was just a day that we would both be able to be with him without the sibling. And he is going to a fun thing on sunday so I thought it would be good. We could keep it secret, if I had to, from him. BUt it feels strange lying to friends and family. DH and I are very open and honest people, so we've been very uncomfortable with it for the weeks we've known. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:55 PM Flag
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^^ I mean wait until like early June. He should know before the end of the school year for sure, but this seems too early. He still has all of May with his school friends and you want him to stay included and in the mix. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:56 PM Flag
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Why are you leaving current school for new school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:46 PM Flag
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How old is DS/ what grade? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:48 PM Flag
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How old? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:49 PM Flag
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How old is DS? Why are you leaving? Does he know anyone at new school? I would absolutely tell him before school ends so he can have closure but we need more to go on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:53 PM Flag
[ - ] do you agree with the advice to treat your neighbors like a business relationship and don't get too close? i have an older neighbor with no kids, family. would be sad if no one got them a present for christmas, or stopped to chat, right? 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:35 PM Flag
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It's hard to do a slow fade with a neighbor you see every day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:36 PM Flag
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agreed, but what about older people with no family? i would just feel awful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:37 PM Flag
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I have zero relationship with my neighbors. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:37 PM Flag
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it depends on you. you can control how much you can give but a lot of people who care like this can't just draw the line. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:37 PM Flag
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but an elderly neighbor seems worth the effort. they raised us and deserve someone's love and respect. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:38 PM Flag
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They didn't raise you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:39 PM Flag
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i'm talking in the collective. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:44 PM Flag
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thats what i think. and they are all alone. i can't even imagine what that is like. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:39 PM Flag
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If that specific person literally helped raise you, then of course. Otherwise, there are a LOT of elderly people who need a hand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:39 PM Flag
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yes, imagine if we all chipped in one elderly neighbor at a time. i am so embarrassed by the disrespect given to old people in this country. when i was in korea and japan, random young people would just bow to random grandmothers out of respect. it really makes you think. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:45 PM Flag
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not sure what you mean? example? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:38 PM Flag
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i mean, i am kind of like this. i would be really good with the lonely neighbor or the crossing guard, etc. but then i had this thing where the crossing guard had a disabled grand daughter and she started doing fund raisers for her. it wasn't just one because she needed continual support after the accident. and i really didn't see where it would end. i moved out of the area so it didn't matter in the end but i attended 3 fundraisers for her, spending about $30 each time. gets awkward at some point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:47 PM Flag
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i see what you mean. that is tough. you did the right thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:50 PM Flag
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Not sure who is on today, but whew ... this is one of the most depressing posts I've ever read. If you're wondering what's wrong with the world today, read no further. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:42 PM Flag
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ok, i agree. i get my neighbors present but expect nothing of them. just a hello and i give them my time to chat if they are talkative that day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:44 PM Flag
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Don't get a present. BOUNDARIES! But stopping to chat when you have a moment is always nice to do with all neighbors. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:42 PM Flag
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no present for someone who is all alone? in their 70s with no family? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:43 PM Flag
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couldn't it be a simple gift, like a meal prepared or a dvd or a throw blanket? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:48 PM Flag
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this. heck, i'd even invite the neighbor to our holiday meal if we were having one. nobody thinks it's sad that someone would eat Thanksgiving dinner or Christmas dinner all alone? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:50 PM Flag
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Boundaries are great for you but not so good for a lonely old ladies. I like the idea of being close with people. OK maybe not fundraisers, but that is a line you haven't described yet/. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:56 PM Flag
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Not at all. We share our rooftop deck with our neighbors (there's a partial divider) and are good friends with them. They're around our same age and we've had a lot of good times. Whenever they have a get together, they invite us over and vice versa. We take care of each others cats when the other is out of town. I'll bring them a plate if I cook for Thanksgiving etc. Our neighbors brother even came to our wedding in another state. Sometimes you get lucky I guess. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:47 PM Flag
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i'm like this too. i get along with my neighbors and love and appreciate them for who they are. such is life! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:49 PM Flag
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I think it is neighborly to be nice. I would stop by with some Christmas cookies and of course chat when I saw him or her. My ILs do this with their elderly neighbor who lives alone. It's the nice thing to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:48 PM Flag
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This is such a surprising post to me. Why would you treat your neighbors as though you're in a business relationship? Some of them, sure, but others might be great. We're very good friends with two sets of neighbors, just say hello to others. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:52 PM Flag
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That's exactly the right way to handle. We got too close to one of our neighbors- the wife was a nanny so she watched our son a few times. There once was a logistical miscommunication and she now no longer speaks to me. Super awkward because, as other poster said, they're your neighbors. Getting a present for someone or stopping to chat is completely different- that's done in a business relationship! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:53 PM Flag
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kindness is worth it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:56 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone travel on those double decker 500+ passenger flights to Europe? Safe? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:28 PM Flag
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yes. was fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:31 PM Flag
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Thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:32 PM Flag
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Well, anyone in a crash will not be able to respond. This is a skewed analysis. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:33 PM Flag
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it could have been a crash with survivors. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:36 PM Flag
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Yeah, cause that happens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:39 PM Flag
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sure they do. most accidents are minor, like there was turbulence and people bumped their heads. or they had issues at landing. do you remember the one in chicago where it had to be caught on a net? or the plane could hit an object, such as a bird, and abort take off. sometimes you could have chemical/electrical mishap leaking smoke etc. into the cabin. they happen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:50 PM Flag
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LOL! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:39 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:40 PM Flag
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I have never flown on one but always wanted to. I don't even know which airlines have those anymore. BTW flying is the safest way to travel regardless of plane type. Still I am always amazed at how those behemoths are able to fly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:42 PM Flag
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^ meaning for commercial flights. Private planes, you take your chances. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:43 PM Flag
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did you ever read The Master & Margerita? i loved behemoth. what a great character. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:51 PM Flag
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I know Air France has them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:54 PM Flag
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What?! You mean: 747s? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:54 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm Jewish, my mother is not, but her parents were - long story, but my grandparents did a half assed Catholic conversion, sent my mom to Catholic school, but were not religious themselves. My mom is kind of religious - she talks about God and stuff - but not Catholic. I was thinking of doing this Jewish women's weekend retreat in Sonoma and inviting my mom. We have been kind of estranged for a few years and gotten back into a regular relationship again. Should I invite her - I would pay - or just do this with a girlfriend? Thanks. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:28 PM Flag
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What's involved? Spa days and yoga? then yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:31 PM Flag
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why not? if she doesn't want to go, she won't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:31 PM Flag
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Talk to her. Will she be uncomfortable in a Jewish setting? Don't put her on the spot. Don't expect her to convert. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:33 PM Flag
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I would not want to as a lapsed Christian. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:35 PM Flag
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Pick something else. Do a non jewish women's retreat. Don't bring religion into a formerly estranged relationship. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:40 PM Flag
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+ [ Reply | More ]
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:49 PM Flag
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+ 1 million. signed: someone who has renounced the God of Abraham. Keep your religious beliefs to yourself, thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Should I ask my 20 something son, who lives at home, to help make the spaghetti pie for our dinner party in Palo Alto? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:25 PM Flag
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Only if he's named Sebastian. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:26 PM Flag
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Or Jayden [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:34 PM Flag
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say what? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:32 PM Flag
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General Topics 04.29.16, 03:33 PM Flag
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i know this sounds horribly sexist, but men just can't do household chores like that well, especially if he's never done it before. why not ask him to get the groceries or supplies or help pass out drinks, serve, etc.? parking? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:33 PM Flag
[ - ] So proud of my dear cousin who got into Harvard College and will be attending this fall. He applied regular decision, which accepted around 3%. He's Asian so was the victim of reverse discrimination, making it virtually impossible for Asians to get in. He and his parents cried like babies when he found out the decision online. I told him that is a peak human experience, one that he will never again replicate. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:16 PM Flag
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hahahahahahaha! good one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:19 PM Flag
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Yep, there are only a few major turning points in life and this is one of them! Kudos to your cousin! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:20 PM Flag
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There's an outbreak of mumps at Harvard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:21 PM Flag
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When I got in, it was a thrill of a lifetime. I still remember how happy I felt in that moment. Congrats to your cousin. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:22 PM Flag
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I felt this way about getting into a good law school. I knew it was life changing in terms of opportunities and it was. Job opportunities, finding a spouse, friends, the network. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:24 PM Flag
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he could go to harvard/yale/stanford law or mba or med or something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:26 PM Flag
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I agree about the reverse discrimination and that it is A peak human experience. The thing I hope he understands is that this is the result of a lot of hard work and a bit of luck. Both of those will make sure he has more experiences like this in the future. Congrats to him [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:35 PM Flag
[ - ] Name poll: Sterling vs Sebastian 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:16 PM Flag
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the ladder [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:17 PM Flag
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Seriously? Ladder? Wow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:44 PM Flag
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guess you missed the irony gene, eh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:48 PM Flag
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I really hate the name Sterling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:18 PM Flag
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I do, too. I knew a real idiot named Sterling in high school. I remember him trying to cheat off of my during a chemistry test. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:18 PM Flag
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Ditto [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:23 PM Flag
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Sebastian, if you must. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:21 PM Flag
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What is NN? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:22 PM Flag
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my DS's name is Sebastian. Many nicknames possible: Sebi, Sebas, Basi, Seb, Sebs... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:24 PM Flag
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Baz, Seabass too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:51 PM Flag
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There isn't one. It's alway a 3 syllable thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:25 PM Flag
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I had a great uncle named Sebastian, and they called him Sam. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:40 PM Flag
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Sebastian is the most common name at our school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:22 PM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:27 PM Flag
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Our school, not your school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:28 PM Flag
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In you're entire school, the single most popular name is Sebastian, of all children enrolled? No. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:29 PM Flag
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*your [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:29 PM Flag
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I know a kid named Sebastian. Cool kid, cool parents :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:23 PM Flag
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Sterling is so pretentious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:30 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:32 PM Flag
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Both are pretentious and too precious for a boy IMO. The kid is bound to be annoying with either name. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:35 PM Flag
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Sebastian. Not even a close call. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:47 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Thoughts on Glen Head, LI? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 02:58 PM Flag
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Not one [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:18 PM Flag
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Moving there myself for Fall! Beautiful area. Feels like the country but so close to the City. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:21 PM Flag
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Nice! I don't know much about it (or any towns in LI) but thinking of moving and someone suggested it may be a good fit for our family. What are the folks like? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:41 PM Flag
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Lovely area. Grew up nearby in Brookville. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:32 PM Flag
[ - ] Oh my god! I saw someone post here a few days ago that a law was passed requiring women to register for the draft. I thought they were joking or trolling, but just saw it in the news! WTF is happening to the world? Are we just pretending that there are no differences between men and women now? Hmmm, why don't we pass a law that requires men to carry 50% of pregnancies so things are truly equal! 44 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 02:58 PM Flag
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couldn't you see this coming, when people demanded women in combat jobs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:02 PM Flag
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I thought it was "sexist" when I was young but now I think it's absolutely crazy to include women in the draft. [ Reply | More ]
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it's not passed, is it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:07 PM Flag
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Making its way through committee. Likely to pass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:14 PM Flag
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i wouldn't bet on it. [ Reply | More ]
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NP: You can't come up with a rational argument against it, and I doubt Congress will be able to either. But it doesn't really matter - any attempt to actually hold a male-only draft would quickly be found unconstitutional. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:41 PM Flag
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it was the inevitable evolution of things in 21st century western civilization. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:07 PM Flag
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There are differences between men and women, none of which would prevent women from contributing in a draft situation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:10 PM Flag
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Hmmmm...maybe...consider the relative average physical strength/build of the average man vs. the average woman? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:13 PM Flag
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How strong do you have to be to operate a drone from a computer? It's the 21st century; they aren't dueling on horses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:14 PM Flag
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Just as there are differences within groups of men and groups of women. Those fit for frontline combat will be so assigned. Those qualified to work in Supply Corps will do so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:15 PM Flag
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If your house was on fire and you were trapped on a high floor, would you want the Fire Department to send the average woman to help you - with narrow shoulders and weak arms, or would you want a man to help you - with wide shoulders, strong arms, and a strong body? Would you want a woman to try to carry you out of a burning building in the name of "equality"? [ Reply | More ]
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Would you want a giant corn fed weight lifting woman to carry you out, or a pale nerdy guy with no muscle tone? You are setting up a straw man to tear it down. Get a grip. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:17 PM Flag
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Dumb response. Do you want the 5' 6" wimpy male to come save you? Physical jobs (just as thinking jobs) can be assigned based upon ability. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:19 PM Flag
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You are aware that there are women serving in the military now, right? Hell, my grandmother served in WWII, she just didn't get any credit for it. [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 04.29.16, 03:21 PM Flag
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here's that fucktard man again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:27 PM Flag
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So you want equality, only for the good stuff. Got it. Great point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:16 PM Flag
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You want to send young mothers to war? There is no difference? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:19 PM Flag
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You want to send young fathers into war? There is no difference? Look, you cannot have it both ways. You can't say "women are just as good in business as men", yet also claim "only a woman can nurture a baby." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:21 PM Flag
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Yes, I'd rather send a young father over a young mother. Are you kidding? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:23 PM Flag
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Ok, then I'd rather work for/with a man. Are you kidding? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:23 PM Flag
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Good for you. We differ and will never agree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:27 PM Flag
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What if that young father was your son? What if drafting a young women who is NOT a mother means the young father stays home? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:25 PM Flag
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Send women to war, it's a great idea ladies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:27 PM Flag
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Good point. The childless should go first, regardless of gender. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:28 PM Flag
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I don't want to send young mothers or young fathers. But not sure what you think the difference is (assuming we wouldn't send both the mother and the father) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:23 PM Flag
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You're right, there is no difference between a caregiver with estrogen and a caregiver with testosterone. You're so right! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:26 PM Flag
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Just as there's no difference between a boss with estrogen and one with testosterone. You're right too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:27 PM Flag
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Either can boss but estrogen is one thing that makes someone places someone else's needs above their own, which is what mothers do day in and day out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:29 PM Flag
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That's a load of crap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:30 PM Flag
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I don't want to send young mothers or young fathers. But not sure what you think the difference is (assuming we wouldn't send both the mother and the father) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:23 PM Flag
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No difference. You guys have convinced me that mothers are not any more important to children then fathers. Send them all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:29 PM Flag
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I think my husband is just as important to my children as I am, yes. Why do you find that such a crazy idea? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:43 PM Flag
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fucktard man alert ii [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:27 PM Flag
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It sounds right in theory but in practice it's one of the stupidest things ever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:19 PM Flag
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it sounds pretty stupid in theory, too, like a lot of feminist causes. [ Reply | More ]
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I see nothing wrong with it in practice. If our country ever got into a situation where the draft would be used, everyone would have to make sacrifices. This doesn't mean all women are going to be sent to the front lines, just that they'd be required to serve in some capacity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:30 PM Flag
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but what is the point? cannot a man serve at the desk as well as a woman? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:34 PM Flag
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sure, but why should men be the only ones who have to put their names in the hat? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:39 PM Flag
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because someone has to raise the damn kids and take care of elderly parents, duh. you doing housework? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:55 PM Flag
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WW III will be over before a draft can be implemented. [ Reply | More ]
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Fine with me. There hasn't been a draft in decades. Israel manages to do this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:44 PM Flag
[ - ] DH judge people based on the college/university they go to. It does not make sense to me. No ivy graduate can be more successful than ivy graduate. 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 02:57 PM Flag
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^ non [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 02:58 PM Flag
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How rich is DH? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:22 PM Flag
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Where did DH go to college? [ Reply | More ]
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That's total bullshit. Many people can and are more successful than ivy graduates, I've seen it many times. Many ivy graduates are completely dysfunctional in the real world. Signed, ivy graduate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:03 PM Flag
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but more often than not, ivy degree in a respectable field is indicative of intelligence. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:08 PM Flag
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That and a dollar will get you a cup of coffee. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:11 PM Flag
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in a random blind selection, i'll take an ivy grad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:28 PM Flag
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I'll take the smart, scrappy state school kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:38 PM Flag
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Doing well in school means obeying the rules. It's mean knowing how to "do" school. Wow. Morons on today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:45 PM Flag
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Unsuccessful ivy graduate here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:45 PM Flag
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Judge might be too strong a word. Though someone's college is a quick way to learn more about them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:13 PM Flag
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Judging someone's worth as a person based on what school they go to is wrong. However, given how selective elite college admissions has gotten, I do think you can make some broad assessments of a person's intelligence and work ethic. For instance, if I meet a kid who went to Harvard College and furthermore found out that he graduated summa cum laude in say economics, math, applied math, physics, I can assume with very little doubt that he's extremely intelligent, hard working, and ambitious. And I can safely assume that he will most likely be relatively successful, a part of the educated elite. Finally, I can bet my life that such a person does NOT support Trump for President. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:19 PM Flag
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um, i'm one of those people and i do not loathe trump. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:29 PM Flag
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IME, Ivy League grads are overly focused on their careers, and don't make reliable employees...especially at more junior levels. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:20 PM Flag
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interesting. they seem to make it ok on wall street. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:30 PM Flag
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^^ maybe yours is not a very lucrative/glamorous field? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:30 PM Flag
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Neither Lloyd nor Jamie went Ivy League. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:32 PM Flag
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it still stands a disproportionate number of wall street execs went ivy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:57 PM Flag
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The Wall St ones are the worst. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:31 PM Flag
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i worked in the industry. the ivy grads were diligent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:39 PM Flag
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Please don't procreate with him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:44 PM Flag
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He sounds very small-minded but probably thinks he is very intellectual. Typical. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:45 PM Flag
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If you haven't had DC with this man, please don't. He doesn't know anything about relationships, life, or what really brings happiness - and he probably never will. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:54 PM Flag
[ - ] I think it's really gross that my SIL calls my brother "daddy" in front of the kids. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 02:52 PM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 02:53 PM Flag
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Ew [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 02:53 PM Flag
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fake [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 02:55 PM Flag
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No. But your mind is screwed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 02:55 PM Flag
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Really? Like "Did you play catch with Daddy?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 02:56 PM Flag
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Yes, everything is "daddy." Like, "Daddy, Cameron wants to know if he can play on his iPad. I told him to check with you first." "Daddy, what do you want for dinner?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 02:58 PM Flag
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so completely normal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:05 PM Flag
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+1 i do this too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:08 PM Flag
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lots of people do that - not sure why, but it is not unique to your SIL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 02:56 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 02:58 PM Flag
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Many people do this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 02:57 PM Flag
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Do you mean when referring to him to the kids? That is totally normal. TO call him "daddy" herself, instead of Bob/whatever, is weird, but not gross. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 02:58 PM Flag
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Look I'm guessing you hate your SIL and this is just one of many, many things that irritate you - correct? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:06 PM Flag
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exactly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:53 PM Flag
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What's the problem? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:11 PM Flag
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So? Abe Lincoln sometimes called Mary Todd Lincoln "mother". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:12 PM Flag
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You must not have kids yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:21 PM Flag
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No, but my DH does and we don't do this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:23 PM Flag
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You need more things to think about [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:24 PM Flag
[ - ] My DIL was bragging on Facebook about how she got her mother's present out in the mail in time for mother's day - in her mother's country, I guess mother's day is celebrated the first sunday in May - but when I jokingly asked her what she had got me, she didn't write anything in response. She also didn't respond to my brother in law who invited her and the rest of the family to a BBQ upstate in three weeks. She is completely shutting us out and I don't know why. I wish they would just announce their divorce instead of keeping us in suspense. 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 02:50 PM Flag
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So you were being passive aggressive when you commented on her FB status? [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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No, I wasn't being passive aggressive. She was so proud of having gotten the gift out on time, that I simply wanted to remind her to get me something as well. It sounds like she gets her mom something that involves a lot of thought. I usually just get a potted plant or flowers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 02:59 PM Flag
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you aren't her mother. Your step son can get you a gift but your DIL has nothing to do with you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:00 PM Flag
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what do you think passive aggressive means? [ Reply | More ]
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I wasn't trying to be mean and I wasn't trying to be aggressive. I just wanted to know if she was thinking of me as well because it seems like she's more focused on her mom who doesn't even live here. [ Reply | More ]
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She is not your daughter. Your child is the only one responsible for getting you a gift and remembering you on Mother's Day. That child is also the only one responsible for ensuing that your grandchildren call ukh. Ever [ Reply | More ]
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I call her my daughter in law and I have helped her out more with those children than her own mother who only visits once per year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:18 PM Flag
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well, you still are not her mother - talk to your own children about their gift giving if you are not happy about what you receive [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:21 PM Flag
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you understand that it is right and normal that she should be more focused on her mother who lives far away than her DH's stepmom, right? your actions are classic passive aggressive. [ Reply | More ]
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Right and she displays the minimum amount of gratitude for all of the work that I have done for her, in spite of the fact that if it weren't for me, she wouldn't be able to do most of the things that she does. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:19 PM Flag
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so stop doing it and shut your stupid face. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:22 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:23 PM Flag
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she is not your daughter, that's why....go bother your own daughter and son for gifts, leave their spouses out of it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:03 PM Flag
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so your stepson hasn't responded to his uncle? and its best not to respond to passive aggressive snark on facebook. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 02:55 PM Flag
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Oh, it's her again... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 02:57 PM Flag
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My brother in law posted the invite directly onto one of her pictures on HER Facebook wall. He didn't send the message to both of them. [ Reply | More ]
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so you stalk her facebook page? maybe she sent him a private message back or maybe she hasn't seen it. also, that is not much of an invite [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:02 PM Flag
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who uses facebook to invite people to a family bbq, so weird - I would probably ignore it also [ Reply | More ]
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Same. Also, I would find it so weird for dh's uncle to send that invite to my FB page and not dh's. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:15 PM Flag
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My son is not active on Facebook. My DIL posts almost every day, which is why it is easier to reach her than him [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:20 PM Flag
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SHE NO LIKEY YOU [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 02:55 PM Flag
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And why not? I have done everything for them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:00 PM Flag
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Because you do invasive things like "remind" her to buy you gifts in a public forum and you think you've "done everything for them" [ Reply | More ]
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Everyone knows that I have done everything for them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:13 PM Flag
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lol, you cannot be for real, we have all told you numerous times what the issues are and you still insist on weaseling your way into their lives [ Reply | More ]
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your poor dil, wonder why she has not blocked you in fb yet [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 02:59 PM Flag
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I'm confused- why on earth should she get you anything? You're not her mother [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:04 PM Flag
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You are not her mother. This is your son's job [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:18 PM Flag
[ - ] Does John Boehner like Ted Cruz? 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Delightfully, no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 02:50 PM Flag
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Why do you think he doesn't like him? [ Reply | More ]
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Are you trolling or do you just not pay attention to the news? http://www.politico.com/story/2016/04/john-beohner-ted-cruz-lucifer-222570 Like I said, delightful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:42 PM Flag
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like two peas in a pod [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 02:50 PM Flag
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Maybe just teasing him because he has a crush? [ Reply | More ]
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Orange crush? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:08 PM Flag
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Everyone hates Ted Cruz. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 02:51 PM Flag
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Not Carly Fiorina. I saw her holding hands with him? I wonder if his dw is jelly? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 02:54 PM Flag
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She looks like the terminator. I doubt Heidi is jealous. Heidi doesn't give a fuck about Ted Cruz. She wants to be 1st lady so she can run for president in 12 years. She's an opportunist and a lot smarter than he is. [ Reply | More ]
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Carly Fiorina is what the C word is used for, unfortunately. I absolutely HATE Ted Cruz but I don't think he's dumb at all. Hard to be both dumb and completely unlikeable (which he is) and get as far as he is. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:28 PM Flag
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No. She's peanut butter, actually. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:46 PM Flag
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This, almost to a person .. It's actually alarming and a huge red flag for anybody who would vote for him. If the people surrounding him and working with him every day don't uniformly don't like him - in the senate and going all the way back to his law school and college days - how can he be president. This isn't to say I care if somebody is popular or charming, but there is a big difference between not being a great retail politician and being disliked by people who know you well. he's clearly a nasty piece of work [ Reply | More ]
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Have you ever read the tweets about him from his college roommate? Hilarious. I agree it says something about a person when those who know him almost universally revile him. He's like people repellant, how can he deal in international relations? [ Reply | More ]
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Yeah, at first I gave him a pass because I have two college roommates who would have some nasty things to say about me (they were spoiled rich kids who moved out because the other roommate and I complained about the drinking parties that were happening in our room twice a week), but when Lindsay Graham says that no one would be upset if you were killed on the Senate floor, that says a lot. [ Reply | More ]
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And it wasn't just his college roommate but everybody he went to college with. I think somebody would have to be pretty terrible to say these things 20-25 years later. I had roommates I had friction with over the years but I wouldn't say anything bad about them publicly. In fact, there are only a handful of people I've known in my entire life I would publicly say bad things about. And one of them is in jail now (not a criminal when I knew him) [ Reply | More ]
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I think his ex-roommate's observation is that he would rather vote for someone he picked at random out of the phone book. Wow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:55 PM Flag
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Yes, hilarious. How can he do international relations, deal with Congress, comfort families after tragedies, etc. Even the people who have worked for trump don't uniformly dislike him: most are actually pretty positive (and I can't stand the guy) with a few notable detractors. Carly appears to be almost as bad -- very unpopular amongst those who have worked with her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:22 PM Flag
[ - ] Kind of amazing how many 40-somethings I know whose current lifestyle or future contingency plan is Mom and Dad. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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it's crazy, but if they have parents who are willing to support, and they feel okay with this, it's their business. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 02:41 PM Flag
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Indicative of how little financial security many MC people of our generation have compared to what their parents enjoyed. My very MC aunt is now living very comfortably in retirement, because her DH had a pension from his employer and fully paid healthcare for life. Those benefits are basically nonexistent today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 02:43 PM Flag
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my parents never had that. but they saved a lot and they are very comfortable now. never made more than $50K tops two income. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 02:45 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
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Is that true? No one I know lives like this. (Or maybe I'm delusional!) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 02:43 PM Flag
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i see posts about how people are upset that grandparents aren't paying for private schools here all the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 02:44 PM Flag
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Well I'm upset George Clooney didn't choose me to marry, but not sure if that's something people really BELIEVE will happen to them. (like, wish I'd won the lottery, too!) [ Reply | More ]
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I don't know anyone who lives like this either. But, I'm just a regular professional UMC "new money" mom. Maybe OP has a lot of "old money" friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 02:53 PM Flag
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My UMC town is filled with people living like this. SAHMs with three kids and a husband who makes $175k who buy a $1.3 million house, drive around in $60,000 SUVs, take $15,000 vacations and spend $20,000 a summer to belong to a club. You do the math. [ Reply | More ]
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How do you get a loan when you make $175K? I'm SAHM/grad student and DH makes $200K and we were only approved for $620K, which feels like a stretch for us since we have to save for retirement, college, etc., so we bought a place for around $500K instead. I drive a $60K SUV that I bought certified used with 7000 miles on it for $35K - 2 years old. We probably spend about $15K on vacations, maybe more - flights for 5 are expensive. Also spend $33K belonging to a club because we have 3 kids in activities and it helps a lot. Why so angry? [ Reply | More ]
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Not angry. But if you think you're doing fine with those expenses on a $200k gross income you're nuts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:04 PM Flag
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Hardly. 33yo and $2MM in the bank. Doing better than 99% of this country. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:11 PM Flag
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Oh, so you're a liar. Got it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:15 PM Flag
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No. You simply don't know about other people's finances. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:22 PM Flag
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So true. Same in my town in the South [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:55 PM Flag
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I agree. My kid is now in HS and I know a surprising number of people who have relied extensively on their parents to help with pretty much all aspects of parenting their kids (full-time childcare, driving to/from school and activities, discipline, potty training, paying for private, etc.). We don't have family close by and they don't have enough money to help pay for things like a down payment or private school, but I've often though that people with that kind of support have a lot less stress and it would have been easier. [ Reply | More ]
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My 40 something BIL lost his job 4 years ago and DH's parents have been supporting him and his wife and 2 DC ever since. He refuses to work for someone else, fancies himself some kind of 'entrepreneur' now. However he has no product and no income. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:19 PM Flag
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My BIL married a woman whose family is not wealthy, but well off, and they help a lot. They bought their DD an HDFC apt, which BIL, wife and two kids live in. It is a small 2 BR and they make it work. BILs wife teaches at a private school, they pay almost no tuition. They vacation at the wife's country home, get free babysitting. They borrow the MILs car when needed. They are living an UMC lifestyle on about 75K per year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:25 PM Flag
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These people have money like you can't even imagine, and the strategy is very smart smart. Otherwise about 60% of that money will go to the government when Mom and Dad die. Having them pay for things like tuitions, real estate, etc. is an easy and tax-free way to transfer wealth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:38 PM Flag
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Inherited wealth. The system is "rigged". Donald Trump too had inherited wealth. And we still sell the myth of 'anyone' can make it. No, just the truly exceptional (Bloomberg) and the lucky (fill in the name of any no-talent who's made a million, or idiots who strike it rich betting on Wall St) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.29.16, 03:45 PM Flag
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