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[ - ] Impressions of Morristown-beard school? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:44 PM Flag
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Rich pot dealer in my freshman dorm went there, as did other college classmates of mine. Preppy, a bit WASPy. Another top choice is Pingry. Don't know enough to compare the two. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:50 PM Flag
[ - ] I am so ashamed to say that it makes me green with envy to log onto Facebook and see everyone on vacation or at their second home. Some people I know with a summer/country home are on vacation somewhere exotic. DH is in between jobs, I WOH full-time and between all of the privileged people asking me if we went on vacation this summer ("No.") or why older DC only went to camp for a couple of weeks, I feel like we need to move far away from all of this money. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:43 PM Flag
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I hear you. I am very much in the same boat. This week is DH's last week at his job, then he will be unemployed and continuing to search for a job (I work f/t also). I think at times like this, it's really helpful to limit your exposure to social media. And there are some great staycations you can do. Concentrate on spending quality time together and enjoying it. We just went to the beach yesterday using public transit and we all had a blast. Total cost was subway fare and some money we spent at a food vendor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:46 PM Flag
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Sorry to hear. Sounds like a similar situation to what my family is in. I don't need fancy vacations - we're not even beach people - but we can't even afford to go to Hershey or Woodloch (well, that's kind of $$). Glad you got out to beach. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:48 PM Flag
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The advantage of hanging with people like yourself is not having the burden to compare. I'm happy for my older family members who can do great trips after working hard all their lives. My dear cousin, who is 63, just went to Europe for the first time! I don't compare myself to people who aren't in my socio-economic group. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:47 PM Flag
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These are parents in our neighborhood, our friends from college and high school, etc. People we thought were our peers. I don't begrudge them, but these people are mostly everyone around us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:48 PM Flag
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I'm sorry. You have to feel secure in yourself. This is the kind of stuff that eats away at your soul if you let it bother you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:50 PM Flag
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Thanks, I know. Clearly I am not very secure! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:53 PM Flag
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I actually took a Facebook break because I didn't like how it made me feel. I think sometimes it is helpful to share the reaosons. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:48 PM Flag
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Share the reasons with who? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:48 PM Flag
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With people as asking about camp etc. They might be a little embarrassed about their questions but you will feel unburdened [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:50 PM Flag
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OP here. I do say that things are too expensive/we are unable to afford... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:53 PM Flag
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I know people who live in a truly horrible rental but buying a vacation home somewhere... Not Hamptons but some other cheaper place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:48 PM Flag
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I get that a lot of people overextend themselves/are leveraged to the hilt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:49 PM Flag
[ - ] I work out a lot (cardio and strength training) but I have that bra bulge with upper back fat. What can I do to get rid of it? Is my bra the wrong size? Am I fat but in denial about it? Is it just genetic in terms of fat distribution? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:21 PM Flag
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OP: Meant to write: I don't think I'm fat, but maybe this means I am? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:22 PM Flag
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Have you had a professional bra fitting? The right bra can do wonders. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:22 PM Flag
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Have you looked into bras or underpinnings that target that area? I bought a bra that trageted the back/underarm bulge and it had a wider band. My mom used to just wear a spanx-type tank top. She always looked smooth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:25 PM Flag
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This bothers a few of my friends who are into crossfit and strength training - very fit women- I pointed out to one of them, if you look at many of the female Olympic swimmers, they are soooo poured into their racing suits that it appears their back "fat" spills over. And those women are NOT fat. It really does seem to be a function of certain bra design. I like the Panache brand of sports bras, seems to lessen this for me . . . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:39 PM Flag
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Sounds like me - I am tall so I hide it, but do you eat well? I work out a lot but am a total PIG and emotional eater :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:46 PM Flag
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You can definitely target that area by working on chest, shoulder and core as part of your strength training. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:47 PM Flag
[ - ] Kids birthday party last week, the only couple without kids brought their small dog. This dog was snapping at every kid and they were scared and this couple did not even care. It was not my home so I could not say anything but I was so close on going of on my friend's friend. The dog almost bit the birthday boy. WTF 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:14 PM Flag
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The hostess should have said "no dogs in the house, we're sorry!" as soon as they arrived. Or at the very least, "let's tie him up out back, some of the children are obviously scared by his snapping" once he started snapping. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:19 PM Flag
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if your kid was afraid or ever seemed to be in danger, you should say something directly, and if that doesn't work, say something to the hosts, and if that doesn't work, leave. there are polite and easy/breezy ways to do so, but i would definitely do it. e.g., to couple: seems like boxer might be overwhelmed with all the kids -- is there a place you think we could take him in the house/backyard/apartment where he might be more comfortable? to hosts: i thought it might work if boxer were put in the other room but he's still lunging at kids and snapping. can we put him on the patio or leash him in X room? etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:23 PM Flag
[ - ] The 'At the beach in my burkini' article in today's Times is so vague and vapid, it makes me sad even as a non Muslim. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 08.28.16, 06:09 PM Flag
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I agree. Don't know why it was published. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:12 PM Flag
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Heard an interviewer recently on the radio who is the inventor of the burkini. It was interesting and I'm glad I was able to hear her point of view. Islam is an evolving culture and this is the next step. It will continue to evolve and that is great. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:44 PM Flag
[ - ] Why do people here find it such a burden a burden to watch nieces and nephews. I don't see mine that often and actually enjoy time with then without their parents around. 34 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:51 PM Flag
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Love all my nieces and nephews (at least the ones I see). We have fun and DD is an only child so hanging out with them is important for us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:53 PM Flag
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We don't like being taken advantage of. Have kids and you'll see. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:56 PM Flag
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NP: what does that mean? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:57 PM Flag
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Op: I have three, they like being with their cousins. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:57 PM Flag
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How old yours? Cousins? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:09 PM Flag
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I have nieces and nephews between 2 and 25. My own are 9,12 and 14 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:20 PM Flag
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No wonder. Your kids can basically watch themselves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:29 PM Flag
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This wasn't always true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:30 PM Flag
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We don't watch them all the time, but I like watching them. My DD loves having older kids to play with, and they're well behaved. My sister returns the favor, and my BIL/SIL do other favors for us - although it isn't like we're keeping score. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:58 PM Flag
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Bingo, the keeping score part. I don't understand why people can't enjoy family anymore OR have normal families anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:00 PM Flag
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Right? But then again, neither my sister or my sisters in law would take advantage of us, or vice versa. And all of them have well-behaved (for the most part) DCs, so it isn't difficult to watch them. With my SIL who has young kids, it's also nice when we have just one for the weekend and get to do things just they like, and spoil them a bit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:16 PM Flag
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PP: we're very much alike. We don't see family often but we shower them with love when we do see them. Maybe it sounds cliché, but both our families (DH's and mine) are very precious to us. I still have great relationships with many of my cousins (they are in their 50s and 60s) and at the latter part of life, that's what you've got. I'm so glad that my parents and aunts/uncles and grandparents made family so wonderful. It means a lot when the kids grow up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:40 PM Flag
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My sister's 3 girls fight constantly. It's not really enjoyable to be around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:02 PM Flag
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I don't mind if asked and I have the time/energy but what happens is we go some place (like the beach) and my BIL/SIL disappear without notice and I end up watching 5 DCs. Or, they will come over to the Apt and announce 30 mins into their stay they have dinner plans and leave the kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:05 PM Flag
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This! I'm always giving them a break, and it is never a trade-off. My kids are slightly older, so they act like they aren't asking me for a favor, they just are asking my kids to keep track of their kids while they play. But a 9 and 7 yo can't be responsible for a 5 and 3 yo at the beach, so it turns out to be all me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:08 PM Flag
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If you're referring to the beach hous post, I think it's the unequalness of it that bothered op. If SIl said How about if you watch all the kids Saturday evening and I do Sunday evening or something, that would be better. But a guest shouldn't assume child care comes with the lodging. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:10 PM Flag
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"I don't see mine thast often" speaks volumes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:11 PM Flag
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Really? Because when I'm with my own 2, and my sister comes over with her 2 and then announces she is going for a jog and will be back in an hour- I'm not all like "oh, great, a chance to see my nephews without their mom around!" I'm like... WTF [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:16 PM Flag
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Spot on. OP sounds like she doesn't leave anywhere near her nieces and nephews. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:20 PM Flag
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It's a burden if you have your own kids to watch and the parent of your niece/nephew is relaxing with a book on the deck while her kids are clamoring for attention down by the pool. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:18 PM Flag
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Or better yet can barely swim and not being watched. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:19 PM Flag
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That's the worst. At least my sister's kids are strong swimmers- but with that, comes a lot of rough and loud games like rollocking sharks and minnows and it makes it hard to supervise my own toddlers at the same time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:21 PM Flag
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Her being there is not going to stop their play. It would be exactly the same work for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:28 PM Flag
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No, actually, because I could have my back to them and pay solely attention to my toddlers at the shallow end, instead of keeping an eye on the deep end at the same time. Are you insane? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:30 PM Flag
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Np: No. When its her sister's kid being the abnoxious one or being picked on she has to intervene even of her kids are not even playing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:31 PM Flag
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How is watching 4 kids in the pool the same work as watching 2? (np) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:32 PM Flag
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And two of them have to be held onto at all times because they're too little to swim [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:50 PM Flag
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I see mine once every 2 months or so and they routinely destroy my apartment when they come over while their parents relax on the couch with a drink, trying to catch up with me and my DH and make chit chat with us. I'm all like listening with one ear while hearing my dresser drawers being emptied with my other ear. It's not relaxing for anyone besides my brother and SIL, since for once it is not their own apartment being destroyed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:23 PM Flag
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Op: do you have kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:29 PM Flag
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Yes, just one, a 5 month old. So you can add in "waking up the baby" to the stress their visits put on me recently. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:31 PM Flag
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It is really good for babies to be exposed to older children. Ask the kids to clean up and they can be told to stay in the living room no reason for them to be going in the bedrooms. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:37 PM Flag
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So it's my job to babysit them, discipline them, etc while their own parents sit 5 feet away enjoying a cocktail? Exactly what I figured. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:42 PM Flag
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It's only a Burden if it's a one-way street. Quid pro quo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:24 PM Flag
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My single brother watching my DCs for among weekend once a year. If we lived in the same city, he would do more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:34 PM Flag
[ - ] S/o is it gross that I wash my sheets and towels in the bathtub? Don't have a w/d so bringing them to the laundromat is just more lugging, time, and $$.. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:43 PM Flag
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That sounds like a lot of work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:45 PM Flag
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Not really- just soak, swish them around in soapy water and then rinse. 10 minutes worth of "work". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:47 PM Flag
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Takes a lot more than ten minutes to get them sufficiently rinsed and wrung out. BTDT. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:48 PM Flag
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God bless you, Woman! You're a throwback to an earlier age. Where do you hamg them to dry? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:45 PM Flag
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Air dry, I have a big patio. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:47 PM Flag
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how do you wring them enough so that they don't get mildewy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:14 PM Flag
[ - ] About Trumps new campaign chief "I was scheduled for an amniocentesis and was told by the respondent that if the babies were normal we would get married. After the test showed that the babies were normal the respondent sent over a prenuptial agreement for me to review.”" 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:43 PM Flag
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I don't really care about his divorce, but he's a nut job in general. And absolutely love that he flim-flammed Trump into stupidly hiring him. A thing of beauty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:51 PM Flag
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Trump is doing well with him [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:00 PM Flag
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Not enough to get to 270. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:31 PM Flag
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+1 this is really the only important thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:34 PM Flag
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He's getting hammered in the press. Not sure that's "doing well" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:32 PM Flag
[ - ] Wow just wow 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:38 PM Flag
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Hey there, Breitbart employee. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:41 PM Flag
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This is huge. Do you think the msm would even touch this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:43 PM Flag
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I can link you to the online term paper my son just wrote. It has about as much credibility in the journalism community as BB does now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:43 PM Flag
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Breitbart didn't make up his words dummy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:46 PM Flag
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The video is on there clear as day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:47 PM Flag
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No one here cares. Bye! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:50 PM Flag
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You don't care. Don't speak for me. I find this very interesting. Could be a game changer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Someone asked if a one year old really eats cookies. Lol babies can eat cookies at like 8 months old. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:32 PM Flag
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Soft cookies anyway. Not hard ones. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:34 PM Flag
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Mine could eat any kind of cookie by 9 months or so. Np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:37 PM Flag
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(And of course that varies by baby, but I don't think mine was THAT unusual) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:37 PM Flag
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If you give a mouse a cookie... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:36 PM Flag
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Flyover. Their brains are developing. Make every calorie count and you're feeding then junk. Flyover [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:40 PM Flag
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Oh please. Nothing wrong with a cookie [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:41 PM Flag
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Fat mom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:42 PM Flag
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Diabetes. Say goodbye to your toes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:42 PM Flag
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All in moderation [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:59 PM Flag
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Np What does this mean? I live in NYC and agree that a one year old is capable of eating a cookie. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:44 PM Flag
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My kids ate those teething biscuits. NBD [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:16 PM Flag
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My 11 month old devours Nilla wafers like the Cookie Monster and he only has one tooth. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:26 PM Flag
[ - ] I am sure this has been asked 1000 times. Best way to lose 10 pounds in a month? I am recovering from surgery (nothing serious) and cannot exercise aggressively so this needs to be diet based. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:30 PM Flag
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You have so little to lose, I would do fast five (intermittent fasting), then just go back to your normal exercise and diet routine once you are recovered. It's the only thing that has ever worked for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:40 PM Flag
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Np. I am considering this too; why do you think it's the only thing that ever worked for you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:43 PM Flag
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Probably because you can still eat foods you love - although I did eat fairly healthy. I'm not sure - I think everyone just has a different metabolism. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:46 PM Flag
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What can you drink or eat in the hours you are not eating? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:48 PM Flag
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Anything without calories. For me it was water and black coffee. No eating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:51 PM Flag
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OP here. I have a lot more to lose, sadly, but I have an event in a month that requires some formal attire. I won't feel comfortable unless I drop a little weight beforehand. Afterwards, it's time to tackle the rest of the weight loss. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:44 PM Flag
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I lost 30 pounds using fast five, and most of it in the first two months. You can definitely use it longer than that. You just can't go crazy once you're done fasting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:54 PM Flag
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NP? How does Fast 5 work? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:10 PM Flag
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You pick a five hour window and only eat/consume calories during those five hours. It doesn't work for everyone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:28 PM Flag
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Cleansing/fasting. Try the cleanses at Pressed Juicery. You can start with a 1-day cleanse, then move up to a 3 (or even a 7!)-day cleanse. The 2:5 "diet" works for many, where you cleanse/fast for 2 days every week, and then eat normally for the other 5. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:44 PM Flag
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Atkins or intermittent fasting [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:00 PM Flag
[ - ] Does anyone here (married with DCs) split weekends with DH, like you would if you were divorced? I saw this idea on UB. DH and I argue constantly, so might be better for DCs. How does it work, practically? Do you have to leave the house? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:19 PM Flag
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We have a vacation home and 4 kids. Sometimes DH will take 1 or more kids up there while I stay home with the others. This makes for some nice peaceful weekends. And it's good to have the chance to miss each other once in a while. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:44 PM Flag
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What are you arguing about? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:03 PM Flag
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Not consciously, but we do have some weekends apart due to activities we don't share. It's a nice break. Just one DC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:11 PM Flag
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^^We have two homes. Sorry, just saw the how-to question. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:16 PM Flag
[ - ] Is it gross that I put two fitted sheets on my mattress and then just take the top one off after a week, and wash them both every other week? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:16 PM Flag
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I only change my sheets seasonally (summer winter) barring a physical reason to change them. I take showers before I go to sleep, sleep alone, don't have sex or have a period anymore. During the days if there's no one visiting I leave the covers off and open the balcony door to air the mattress in the sun. I do wash my pillows. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:19 PM Flag
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Question, what did you do during menopause, did you have night sweats? Or did it just not bother you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:44 PM Flag
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I'm not sure I've gone through menopause yet. I had to have a hysterectomy some years ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:44 PM Flag
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This is gross. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:38 PM Flag
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It's not really any different than putting the new one on when take the dirty one off. Yiu stil have to put on two fitted sheets [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:20 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:10 PM Flag
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Sound like a good idea as far as protecting the mattress. I'm going through menopause and have night sweats and have a mattress cover for that reason. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:21 PM Flag
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But don't wash the mattress cover as often. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:25 PM Flag
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The sweat is real!!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:27 PM Flag
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OR: OMG, yes. Often drenched. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:35 PM Flag
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Yup. I have to sleep in the nude all the time [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:37 PM Flag
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OR: I still sleep in a tank top with the air conditioner blasting. DH and I sleep in separate rooms because I'm such a night mess. Ha ha. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:54 PM Flag
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Dont you sweat on the comforter? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:36 PM Flag
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Yet you can afford to live in Manhattan. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:47 PM Flag
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But if you perspire during the night it can soak through, so it's still like the bottom sheet was on for two weeks. I'm fine with two weeks though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:12 PM Flag
[ - ] If my DH asks me once more when I am going to send out preschooler DC's bday invitations, I might scream. And now my SIL texted him asking "what's up with the party?" Weird for everyone to be this concerned. It's not for at least 4 weeks and I am on top of it, as I am with everything else at work and home. Just venting here. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:14 PM Flag
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Why can't DH send them out? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:16 PM Flag
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Eh. My calendar is normally booked up a couple of months in advance. Four weeks is cutting it a little close. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:17 PM Flag
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It's a preschooler's party. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:19 PM Flag
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I understand. I'm just saying you are likely to have fewer acceptances the later they go out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:35 PM Flag
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Totally understand. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:06 PM Flag
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Say "IN A WEEK OR SO. IF YOU WANT THEM SENT SOONER, THEY ARE ON THE KITCHEN COUNTER WAITING TO BE ADDRESSED AND STAMPED, BE MY GUEST" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:19 PM Flag
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It's an electronic invite and I gave him the login details twice and told him he was more than welcome to change it or send it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:20 PM Flag
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To be honest then if it's an evite and it's already been prepared, why not just click send and be done with it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:30 PM Flag
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Have to add in guests, figure out if we're inviting other friends' DCs, etc. Yes it's simple but he could certainly do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:43 PM Flag
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your sil just wants to know when you are having the party...she probably has other offers or things to do and needs ot know if you are definitely having a party or not, sounds like they want to be able to attend [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:08 PM Flag
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If his family is nagging him about it, I understand his eagerness. Can't you just email details to his side so they'll leave him alone? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:13 PM Flag
[ - ] What agw would you be OK with DC getting married? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:11 PM Flag
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Any age provided that DC is supporting himself. I would not want my kid to get married while still on my payroll. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:12 PM Flag
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It wouldn't be my call, as my DC would be an adult. However, ideally I would not want him or her getting married before his/her late 20s. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:15 PM Flag
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I got married at 25 and I was ready, but had already been supporting myself since 19. Everyone has different life skills at different ages. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:23 PM Flag
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I got married at 23 before we started our phds. It depends on the individual. We are happy and have grown together over the years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:49 PM Flag
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As soon as possible. I'm granny mom and need those grandchildren while I can still lift them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:59 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm the poster who relocated for a job that was a bait and switch. My stomach is in knots right now and I'm hoping for some practical coping advice. This past friday I was given two contracts to bid out and choose subs for. I was just informed those contracts have been awarded and I'll be "filled in." They are not any of the subs Im in the process of getting bids from (timing wasn't an issue because Monday was the earliest I would hear anything anyway). 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:05 PM Flag
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Op:It seems I'll be relegated to the parts of the job no one else can do - which was a small part of my original position that I agreed to move for. I didn't need to relocate to work this job - they are plentiful where j came from. For now I have to make the best of this. I wear my heart on my face and I really need to not lose my cool because right now I'm SOL in terms of a new job in this new place. I'm so pissed and scared I gave up a pretty good life to essentially start over from where I was 15 years ago, basically. I'm just at a loss. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:05 PM Flag
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I guess my question is how can I work around the rage and fear and sadness I'm feeling toward these fuckers who got me to move for some bullshit? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:06 PM Flag
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You need to get the facts on this one before you react. Did the "big boss" dictate something that was out of thr hands of the people you report to? Unless it was an unusual one off, in which case, let it go, talk to your supervisor about the job and what you were hired for, etc. someone promised you something and thst person ought to have an answer vis a vis what your role will actually be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:18 PM Flag
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You're right [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:26 PM Flag
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I'm not sure I completely understand what has happened here, but if things aren't going as you planned (or as was agreed upon when you accepted the position), I would be open and honest about your understanding of what the position entailed and how things are now playing out. In the end, any time you accept a job (even, and perhaps especially, a relocation), there are never guarantees. It's always a risk. You took the risk and sometimes it doesn't pan out. Be prepared to walk away. Find a new job in the new city, or move back to you prior city. But don't expect the company to bend over backwards. They need what they need and if those needs aren't a fit for you, then move on. Don't personalize it--don't wear your heart on your sleeve, just be proactive and do what's right for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:20 PM Flag
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Ok thanks. You're right. I'm definitely taking this personally. It's a little hard not to after uprooting myself and DC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:22 PM Flag
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It's a pretty complicated situation and I'm simplifying it for clarity but I hear you. Thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:24 PM Flag
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Can you return to your previous job? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:20 PM Flag
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I have to give it some time. It was so brutal to move. But yes I could return. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:23 PM Flag
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I'd cut and run immediately. Why wait if you know it's not for you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:30 PM Flag
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I don't know for sure this was a mistake. The things happening are opening up tons of baggage and I'm afraid I'm not thinking clearly. I don't want to react in a knee jerk way like I always do! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:39 PM Flag
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You need to cut your losses and go back. Sorry [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:37 PM Flag
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This. Get out of there and go back to your old job before they hire your replacement, and before your kids get attached to their new school, neighborhood. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:39 PM Flag
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Someone posted a quote just now on FB "enthusiasm is the best protection in all situations". So pretend? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:13 PM Flag
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is it a huge jump in salary? if not, run back now before school starts, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:37 PM Flag
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It's substantial plus the COL is much lower here so it's like getting double the raise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:41 PM Flag
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I worked with a guy who was a genius at managing up (something I'm not good at). our bosses were maniacs but he handled them as well as anyone could. He would often focus on the money he made and that he wasn't the owner. he would go along with whatever ridiculous thing they said or did - and we are talking RIDICULOUS. so go along to get along? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:48 PM Flag
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this is what men do. unless someone is going to get shot in the head such that they'd feel morally obligated to peep, they'll go along to get along. women take things MUCH more personally, are concerned about process, doing the right thing, etc etc. just disengage, OP. you'll be a lot happier and at the end of the day, does it really matter?! (this is what my dh would say . . . :)) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:01 PM Flag
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Separate your job from your career. You are paid to do a job and you do it to the best of your ability. What you do on your own time and what opportunities you seek to pursue a year from now is up to you. For the time being you should do the job that is asked of you. The majority of people are not as lucky as to work in a job they truly love. Many find pride in otherwise, such as being a provider for their family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:47 PM Flag
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otherwise* = otherway [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:49 PM Flag
[ - ] Where do you shop for your tween girl's clothes? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:04 PM Flag
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Forever 21 was popular with my kids when tweens. I think spending money on tween clothes is stupid it will only fit one season. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:10 PM Flag
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Forever 21 and Zara are the current "it" stores with my tween [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:42 PM Flag
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Old Navy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:48 PM Flag
[ - ] We do milk and cookies every night before bed...kids are 5, 3, 1. Is this unhealthy? We just had our yearly checkups and kids are all 95% for weight and height. Not overweight but not thin either. 45 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:00 PM Flag
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95% for weight is kind of big. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:01 PM Flag
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They are also 95% for height. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:01 PM Flag
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Yeah still big. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:03 PM Flag
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Not if height and weight match [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:03 PM Flag
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Okay, whatever [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:12 PM Flag
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ok. keep telling yourself that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:12 PM Flag
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If height and weight correlate they're not overweight [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:12 PM Flag
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Is this true. Isn't it a comparison to other children in the US, who are overweight? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:11 PM Flag
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No. It's just the raw number vs other kids. So if you're taller than 95 percent of kids your age it would be normal to be heavier as well [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:16 PM Flag
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This. What you'd see with an overweight kid would be that they're only taller than 50 percent of kids their age but weigh more than 90 percent (for example). There's room for variation but generally with an overweight kid you'd see a big difference between the two markers [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:22 PM Flag
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If weight and height match they're fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:24 PM Flag
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Future porkers. Stout kids... Husky [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:43 PM Flag
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No one needs cookies every night before bed. Why do you do that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:02 PM Flag
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Tradition. I did it growing up. I think it's a nice bedtime routine. I don't always get home in time to eat dinner with the kids [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:03 PM Flag
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Read them a story instead. They shouldn't go to sleep with milk and food on their teeth anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:24 PM Flag
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It seems totally unnecessary. Why give them junk food every night? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:03 PM Flag
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I never thought of it as a huge deal. It's 2 cookies and a cup of milk, not a whole jar full [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:04 PM Flag
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But it's completely unnecessary, empty calories. I wouldn't want my kids to be in the habit of consuming super sugary foods every single day just because. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:09 PM Flag
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That's the calories of a whole meal. Wtf. Just two cookies?! Did you not see the new sugar guidelines [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:49 PM Flag
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And right before bed. Just make them insulin resistant now. Liver is doomed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:50 PM Flag
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^ Meaning the cookies, which have no nutritional value and IMO are fine sometimes but every night is a lot. Can you tweak the tradition to involve something else they like? Maybe a song or something? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:05 PM Flag
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troll [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:04 PM Flag
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Given that they are proportional for height and weight, I don't think it's necessarily a problem. But I will offer you this word of caution (as someone who has struggle with weight all my life): getting into habits like this is not what I do for my kid. Teach kids to eat because they're hungry, not because it's noon, or after school or right before bed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:05 PM Flag
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All three are exactly 95/95? Not likely. Your 1 yo eats cookies? Not likely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:06 PM Flag
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Yes, he is 14 months and has been eating solids since age 4 months. He happily eats his cookies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:07 PM Flag
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Why would this be unlikely? Your 1 yo can't eat cookies? Np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:13 PM Flag
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I doubt she means EXACTLY 95/95 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:13 PM Flag
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not a big deal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:13 PM Flag
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cut it back to one cookie, and NBD. it won't make or break them being overweight or thin. it's a nice tradition. dessert with mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:21 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:24 PM Flag
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Maybe switch it up with fruit or something without added sugar. Berries with fresh whipped cream...yum! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:25 PM Flag
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adds up to a lot of calories too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:57 PM Flag
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This is a HORRIBLE habit you're instilling in them. They will forever associate warmth, safety with sweets and food. Welcome to obesity. The will come to need it every night. Do you want them to do this forever and get diabetes and heart attacks early? I guess so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:36 PM Flag
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Of all the habits to instill, you choose one that is destructive to their health and the hardest to break. This is why fat moms have such fat kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:48 PM Flag
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Oh good grief. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:49 PM Flag
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np My mom gave us a bowl of ice cream every night before bed and we are all fit, healthy, normal adults. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:50 PM Flag
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No. You're fat. Fat people always say they're normal thinking size 12 is normal. You've normalized obesity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:52 PM Flag
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I'm not at all fat but not really worth arguing with a troll. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:55 PM Flag
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Because you're fat and sleepy from dunkin donuts [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:57 PM Flag
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Hey trollina, give it up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:59 PM Flag
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We do that too, and our kids are skinny-skinny-average. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:56 PM Flag
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At this point it's not the weight that's the issue. You're setting up a life long habit. They will crave for sweets before bed from now on, and that's going to be their comfort food. It's a very difficult habit to kick. Honestly I'll stop it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:20 PM Flag
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Yes!!!!!! Future of fat and failure next stop. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:24 PM Flag
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Ah the loving memory of fat mommy setting us up for a life of hardship, failure and pain. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:52 PM Flag
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My mom was a super skinny kid and got milk and cookies before bed every night. I was a slightly chubby kid and there were no cookies in the house ever. Bummer for me! Every kid is different. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:50 PM Flag
[ - ] If you saw a family who brought their dog into a NYC playground, would you say something? I find this fucking disgusting. 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:29 PM Flag
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No. Those playgrounds are plenty disgusting already for reasons having nothing to do with dogs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:33 PM Flag
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Actually they are usually spotless! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:33 PM Flag
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No public place is spotless, much less one frequented by large numbers of children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:36 PM Flag
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I don't think it's disgusting (I have a dog) but it is wrong to bring a dog to a playground for many reasons. It's not a dog run. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:34 PM Flag
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Would you say something? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:36 PM Flag
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Depends on how the family looked, to be honest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:43 PM Flag
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Are there rules against this ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:41 PM Flag
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Yes, dogs aren't allowed in playgrounds [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:45 PM Flag
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Thanks. Don't have a dog so I didn't know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:46 PM Flag
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Eh, your kids are more disgusting and germy than a dog [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:47 PM Flag
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Maybe, but my kids also aren't shitting and pissing on the playground either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:49 PM Flag
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Maybe your kids aren't [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:59 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:59 PM Flag
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this may be, but they are at a playground for kids, not a dog park for dogs. if my kid is running around the dog park peeing in the corners, then you can get back to me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:23 PM Flag
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I visited Barcelona with my daughters and they kept stepping in dog poop. Once my younger daughter slipped in dog poop and got it in her hair. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:51 PM Flag
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How odd. I was just in Barcelona for a week in July, and we walked all over the city - miles every day. I did not find this to be a problem. NP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:52 PM Flag
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Another NP Just there last summer. We spent a lot of time at the playgrounds in Barcelona. I don't remember any poop. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:55 PM Flag
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Interesting [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:59 PM Flag
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Dogs are not allowed in playgrounds in NYC: http://www1.nyc.gov/nyc-resources/faq/311/can-i-bring-my-dog-to-the-park [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:56 PM Flag
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I would say something, but not because it's disgusting...because the kids might bother the dog and this could lead to issues. A dog doesn't belong in a playground full of kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 04:59 PM Flag
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I don't find it disgusting but super annoying. The other day someone brought a small yappy dog to the playground and it just barked at all of the children and of course DS (18 months) and his friends wanted to go and pet it. I spent the whole time leading them away from the dog and trying to distract them. I had no idea who the owner was otherwise I would have said something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:00 PM Flag
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This is why I cannot stand dog people. They think their disgusting animal is somehow the same as one of their kids and expect everyone else to play along. What if I brought a racoon on a leash to the park and let it hiss at everyone who walked near it and just said"ih, dont worry, hes friendly!" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:09 PM Flag
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This. Dog People should go live on their own island, full of dogs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:14 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:27 PM Flag
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They should just all get mauled by their own dogs and left to rot in the sun on garbage island [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:41 PM Flag
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In the town I live in, people routinely bring their dogs into retail stores - even large dogs. Seriously, why the f does your dog need to accompany you into Banana Republic? Last time I was there, two large dogs got into a fight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:44 PM Flag
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Is the dog just walking around or taking a leak? Quite frankly rats are probably all over the playground at night so I'm not disgusted by a dog walking around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 05:16 PM Flag
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Maybe it's a service dog. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.16, 06:52 PM Flag
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