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[ - ] Just read a study that linked kids who are picky eaters to depression-oh for gods sake! 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Depression as kids, or later on in their adult years? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Why on the searches for UB do you only get 6 pages? I want them all! 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Why do I only get 6 pages on an UB search? There, that's better. [ Reply | More ]
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youre right thanks grammar mom [ Reply | More ]
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what are you searching? [ Reply | More ]
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school stuff. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] There should be more food related fundraisers. I don't need a magazine subscription but I will buy several bars of the World's Finest Chocolate... 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Yay, I can send you over 4 boxes when we get them in October! [ Reply | More ]
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I like it when they are already purchased. Local girl scout troop comes buy with the packages already there, cannot resist! [ Reply | More ]
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+1 When they come around with the form, I'm all, "one box of Samoas, thanks" -- but when they are outside the grocery store with the piles of boxes, I'm all, "three of every kind!!!" Thank goodness for freezers, and guests I can pawn them off on. [ Reply | More ]
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there should be birch boxes for chocolate - that id subscribe to! [ Reply | More ]
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Same! [ Reply | More ]
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actually thats a genius idea! [ Reply | More ]
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There actually are a few companies like this. I subscribe to treatsie, which is chocolate and candy, but I know they have a few chocolate subscription boxes. [ Reply | More ]
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omg really???? Im looking right now [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I just read the Browning handbook - it says things like after gym the boy has 7 minutes to get ready for class. If locker is not presented in orderly fashion, they will get detention. Yikes! Is it really that strict? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I don't know, but I think that's great. [ Reply | More ]
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7 minutes? not 10. It seems like one step away from the cane! [ Reply | More ]
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I also thought their college placements were pretty disappointing? [ Reply | More ]
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What grade is this for? Who cares what his locker looks like, it his stuff! [ Reply | More ]
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its for all grades! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What if a company was to pay nannies as "assistants" to the employees who need them, give group healthcare, pay on the books, and these costs would be deductible to employer as business expenses. Employer could then pay employee less. Seems like everyone would benefit from this arrangement -- employee would get paid less but would balance out with lack of nanny pay, nanny benefits from legal pay and health insurance, employer benefits from happy employee, steady childcare, lower salary and tax deductions. Is this realistic? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Much better to have companies sponsor childcare [ Reply | More ]
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Nope, not a legitimate business expense. Of course some mom and pop places do it. [ Reply | More ]
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My niece's firm had childcare right in the building. She had the opportunity to go see her child at any time and the childcare staff was paid by the employer. I believe that she either paid for that service to her firm at a discount. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What's the best gift a client or partner ever sent to your office? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Big box of chocolate [ Reply | More ]
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Nonnie wallers [ Reply | More ]
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A stripper for one of the partners. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] My nanny just texted me pictures of my 18-month old DD laying down on a blanket in the grass while eating almonds (baggie of almonds in her hand). Want to tell her to sit up while eating. How do I respound without making nanny feel crappy? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:34 PM Flag
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Say: I'm going to sound neurotic, but dd almost choked eating an almond like that. Would you mind having her eat them while sitting? Thanks, and sorry for the worry. [ Reply | More ]
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18mo shouldn't be eating almonds. [ Reply | More ]
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Mine did. [ Reply | More ]
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Choking hazard [ Reply | More ]
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They have enough teeth by then? [ Reply | More ]
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Mine does. [ Reply | More ]
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+1. Mine does too. [ Reply | More ]
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Get a backbone [ Reply | More ]
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Oh good grief. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] My nanny just texted me pictures of my 18-month old DD laying down on a blanket in the grass while eating almonds (baggie of almonds in her hand). Want to tell her to sit up while eating. How do I respound without making nanny feel crappy? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:34 PM Flag
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Coming hazard, both the lying and the almonds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:37 PM Flag
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Choking hazard [ Reply | More ]
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Tell her dd looks so happy, but make sure she sits up while eating. Simple. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:39 PM Flag
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write in all caps - sit her up NOW - or she will choke!! who gives a damn what she thinks. then have serious talk when you get home, [ Reply | More ]
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OMG - wtf? who cares how nanny feels - immediately text her to sit up you child. are yo nuts? your kids could be choking right now. what is wrong with you? [ Reply | More ]
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You sound more worried about your nannies feelings than your kids life. Mom of the year award winner. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I'm 27 and visiting my parents for a week at their beach house. Whenever my mother leaves the house (to shop, play tennis, whatever), my dad takes it as an opportunity to become as insulting and verbally abusive towards me as possible. I ignore and do not respond to the insults, but he just keeps going. Sometimes he leaves, then comes back for more. I forgot this was why I hated him during my entire childhood. He does it when my mother is gone so that there are no witnesses, and it's my word against his. 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:31 PM Flag
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Time to find a new vacation spot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:33 PM Flag
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I think you'd have more credibility on your word if you simply left and said ask Dad in explaining why. [ Reply | More ]
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Left as in, went back to my apartment in the city? I've already bought a ticket, I'm leaving this afternoon. I was supposed to stay here until Saturday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:35 PM Flag
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Can you go with mom and just hang out in the car while she does her thing? [ Reply | More ]
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Yes that is what I should have done [ Reply | More ]
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The sad thing is you want to see your mom without dad around. Could she come visit you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:47 PM Flag
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Start filming it. Leave your computer on and the video recording. [ Reply | More ]
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Or record it with your phone then play it back in front of Mom. Was he always like this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:39 PM Flag
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Yes, he was always like this, and my mother is aware of it [ Reply | More ]
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^^i don't think she fully understands the impact. He was never like this towards my brothers, only me, because I can't fight back. He is able to feel powerful over me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:41 PM Flag
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i don't understand. why can't you fight back or stick up for yourself? [ Reply | More ]
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How am I going to fight back or stick up for myself? That just makes it worse. He keeps going and going. Will not stop [ Reply | More ]
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^^he is a little scared of my brothers, because they are men, but he sees me as weaker and someone he can attack easily [ Reply | More ]
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I'm sorry. That sucks. What happens if you give it right back to him? Has he ever been physically abusive? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:42 PM Flag
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Not really physically,, just verbal and emotionally. But I can't shut him up in a big deep voice like my brothers could. I think he sees me as weaker and helpless and that is why he goes after me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:43 PM Flag
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What a fucking bully. My dad was like that. Used to scream at us. And hit us. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes he is a classic bully. Whenever he has to face someone stronger than him (boss, whoever) he becomes meek [ Reply | More ]
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There's your answer -- record him and say you'll send it to his boss. Or just say calmly, "Gee I wonder if your boss knows you yell at your daughter like this." [ Reply | More ]
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you are only weaker if you believe that you are. use this as an opportunity to show him your power. "Dad, I really enjoy being here with you and mom, but i will not be spoken to in this manner. i am leaving the room now. i hope that when we are again together, you will choose to speak in a more respectful manner." [ Reply | More ]
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this will have no effect. He keeps going [ Reply | More ]
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Bring an air horn with you and blow it when he starts up. [ Reply | More ]
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Cant you go for a walk or lock yourself in a room? [ Reply | More ]
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There is no lock on my door, he keeps coming in and will not let me close the door [ Reply | More ]
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what? so odd, i guess he was always this odd [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, he was always like this. I tried closing my door and he slammed it open [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] SiL and I have no relationship but when she saw me recently asked what car I was getting. I thought that was rude so I lied and said a RAV4. Now I'm being blamed for her gossiping and asking people if we are having money problems and looking stupid when I got a GL550. I thought it was a good lesson in learning to myob and for my kids to know you don't have to answer stupid questions. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 08.04.15, 03:30 PM Flag
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Who's blaming you for her gossip? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:32 PM Flag
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My mil! [ Reply | More ]
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Tell your mil to shut it and have her go talk to sil for gossiping in the first place. If sil looks stupid it's because she did it to herself. Enjoy your GL550 and make sure to offer sil a ride! [ Reply | More ]
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Ha ha. That's a good one. She sounds like a great. [ Reply | More ]
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Like a *treat [ Reply | More ]
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I don't understand any of this post. [ Reply | More ]
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*and I changed the cars for my anonymity but they are comparable cars [ Reply | More ]
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I don't understand why you would lie. [ Reply | More ]
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Asking what kind of car you're getting doesn't strike me as a stupid question in this context. Just normal chit chat. [ Reply | More ]
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Huh? [ Reply | More ]
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But you did answer her question. You lied. But this is still answering her question. [ Reply | More ]
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This. [ Reply | More ]
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If she knows you're car shopping this is a normal, casual question to ask. [ Reply | More ]
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ITA. OP is clearly a striver and concerned with how flashy a car she drives. [ Reply | More ]
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You sound like you like drama and to stir crap up. [ Reply | More ]
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Who works to pay for this car? [ Reply | More ]
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1) asking someone what kind of car they are getting is not rude - it's not like it's a secret since soon enough you will be driving it in public with the brand/make out there for everyone to see. so get over it. 2) i don't see why you look stupid when you don't get the car you said - a long time ago we were looking at SUV's, thought we'd get a Toyota (forget what it was called then) and then one day test drove the Accord on a whim, liked it so much, got that instead! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I hate the suburbs of NYC. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I love them. westchester mom [ Reply | More ]
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+1 but I love the city, too. [ Reply | More ]
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Ugh, why? You must be that certain type of mom. [ Reply | More ]
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Huh? [ Reply | More ]
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Seroualy? You drive a large SUV, wear a baseball cap and your tennis skort, part of the PTA, wears vineyard vines and probably a SAHM with a full time nanny. [ Reply | More ]
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This! They're cloned! [ Reply | More ]
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^ and loves lilly Pulitzer! [ Reply | More ]
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I like being outdoors, tennis, golf, sailing. I WOH in the city, best of both worlds [ Reply | More ]
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Yep, tennis. Knew it. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 same here, Alpine mom. [ Reply | More ]
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Then don't live there [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Best private high school for smart, socially well adjusted girl who seems pretty decided on a future in medicine - interested in Neuroscience and surgery. Also very musical kid. What would be your top picks? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:27 PM Flag
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Something that exposes her to other career options than the top TV careers that every middle schooler sees. [ Reply | More ]
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As a physician myself, I would say to consider a school that didn't coddle/ spoon-feed her over-much. My smart colleagues who were used to having everything "given" to them really struggled when they needed to do tedious things on their own (let's say problem-solve/ fight with pharmacies who wouldn't dispense a medicine a patient really needed, advocate on the phone for an elderly person to get the home-health aide she needed, push the patient down to radiology themselves because the escorts were taking too long, etc). A colleague who attended Dalton was smart and charming, but had a huge disconnect with the impoverished population we worked with-- he really did not "get" how the parents didn't do the things for their kids that his parents had done for him. Just a few examples. There is a lot of "scut" in medicine, and tenacity and compassion that is needed to be great (in addition to intelligence and education). Don't cripple your daughter by making her unused to getting her hands dirty. [ Reply | More ]
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op-so is a great public suburban school with a diverse population a better option. we live in a district like this. [ Reply | More ]
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np: IMO, this is more about the parents than about the school. [ Reply | More ]
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ITA with the physician who posted. Why private? A couple of DD's friends who sound similar had a great experience at Bronx Science. Both came from private, FWIW. [ Reply | More ]
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op-i am actually pulling DD from a private school that was a terribly entitled environment. i really disliked how the kids really knew nothing of the real world. putting her into a top public school out in suburbs but wondering if there are advantages to moving in 10th or 11th to a Horace Mann or Brearley etc. What do you think? And how to schools like Beacon or Eleanor Roosevelt High School compare? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What's your favorite restaurant in East Hampton? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Ew [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Nick & Toni's or Bostwick's Chowder House! [ Reply | More ]
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+1 N & T's [ Reply | More ]
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Def try Mary's Marvelous for breakfast [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Does anyone have a FitBit? I'd like to get one and amazon has a number of different models. Just curious if anyone has a particular model that they really like. Thank you. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I have the FitBit charge and like it because it has a watch. I needed a new watch anyway. It defnitely motivates me to get more steps. I usually get about 15k per day. [ Reply | More ]
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I have the FitBit charge and like it because it has a watch. I needed a new watch anyway. It defnitely motivates me to get more steps. I usually get about 15k per day. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Nanny here who actually makes 80k/year. It is so funny to see everybody on here bitching about "how much" they pay their nannies. $500/week is $2,000/month or $24,000/year. It is pretty much impossible to survive on that in this god forsaken city. I can't imagine expecting somebody I entrusted my children with to survive on that salary. Something I have noticed is that the same people complaining about how they are "middle class" on 500k/year want to pay their nannies nothing. Hmm... 40 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:23 PM Flag
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how do you think daycare workers and teachers survive? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:25 PM Flag
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If they're single, they do a lot of extra babysitting [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:26 PM Flag
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so you think nannies should be paid better than teachers? [ Reply | More ]
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^^ also, you must believe that everyone in NYC must make at least 300K before they have a kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:28 PM Flag
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np - all depends on their skill set and what is being asked of them. I do believe they should be paid more than Daycare workers [ Reply | More ]
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I disagree. I hope you pay your nanny 100K a year because she is so highly skilled. [ Reply | More ]
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I never had a nanny for my children, my mom took care of them. But if I had special needs children, I would definitely get someone who was educated and could help and would pay her accordingly [ Reply | More ]
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That wasn't me. In general I think teachers should be paid more. However, teachers in NYC make 50k/year to start + full benefits, job protection, and summers off. [ Reply | More ]
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That is not true. Starting salary for teacher is lower AND there are few jobs so many teachers take jobs with charter schools where they don't have pension etc. [ Reply | More ]
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^ also, there are nursery school teachers who generally make less per hour than nannies do. Its ridiculous. [ Reply | More ]
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Having been both a public school teacher and a nanny, being a second grade teacher was significantly easier. [ Reply | More ]
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Good for you to be making $80K, but there are actually educated professionals in this city who make far less than you do and somehow find a way to survive. And for the hypothetical "middle class" family you mention who's making $500K, let's say they bring home $250-300 after tax, you really think it's reasonable to pay 1/3 of that amount to a nanny?? Who are you to judge what they can and can't afford? [ Reply | More ]
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I make more than most nannies because I have a four year degree from a decent school. Childcare is expensive, it sucks, but that is no excuse to pay your nanny $24k/year. [ Reply | More ]
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Nannies aren't slaves. They can choose to accept the job, or not, but if they are willing to work for $24k, chances are they don't have any better options. [ Reply | More ]
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You have a very limited perception of choice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:33 PM Flag
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I've worked a number of very low wage jobs in my life and understood that I would only earn more after I finished my education (which I financed with student loans) and began a different career. That is the choice I made. If someone else chooses to stay in a low wage job, that is also their choice. They can also make the choice to live in a lower cost area. [ Reply | More ]
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A lot of people don't have the opportunity to purse higher education. [ Reply | More ]
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And a lot of them could, but they choose not to. So it sounds like what you are saying is that uneducated people deserve to earn just as much as educated people because you think it's unfair that they don't? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:43 PM Flag
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Companies making billions pay workers in other countries pennies a day to do grueling work for 14 hours. This argument is poorly constructed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:38 PM Flag
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Not really, if the pennies that those workers are earning are worth more than any other job they could get in that impoverished country. Your salary is determined by they market, and if you are a $24k a year nanny (either bc you work fewer hours or lack certain qualifications), that's what you'll get paid. [ Reply | More ]
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If there wasn't a minimum wage McDonalds would be paying their workers maybe $5/hour. You think that is right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:46 PM Flag
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People starve because of that mentality. You're fucked up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:46 PM Flag
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No, you are just way entitled for a nanny. [ Reply | More ]
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And most of my nanny friends make at least $50k/year, but I know a lot of underpaid immigrants working long hours for pretty much nothing while the children they raise grow up in several million dollar apartments and the moms have ten thousand dollar bags. It's disgusting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:26 PM Flag
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It is just babysitting, after all. It's supply demand, not living wages. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:29 PM Flag
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So now the government has the role of providing for that nanny. You have a responsibility to make sure that the person you are hiring to watch your children can survive on that money. These aren't 14 year old girls watching your kid while you go out for the night. Hell, I got paid $12/hour in my crappy small town to babysit. [ Reply | More ]
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No, nanny is on her own. She is not the only one making $24k in NYC. [ Reply | More ]
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No, you don't. You have the responsibility to pay the going rate. [ Reply | More ]
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why is it my responsibility as an employer to make sure my nanny can survive on what she gets paid? does my employer have that respobsibility? bc pretty sure very few businesses in this country see it that way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:47 PM Flag
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very few nannies are working FT for $500/week unless the circumstances are very appealing. and it's off the books. and they usually get medicaid as a result. better than many other unskilled jobs. most nannies i know make $15/hour - which is what they are trying to raise min wage to in 3 years... unfortunately, domestic help is paid w after tax $. if families could deduct cost of childcare pre-tax, like business owners, then childcare workers would be paid better. that said, it's likely why no one cares that much that nannies are off the books - gov't is happier getting taxes on mom & dad's high bracket income and having nanny paid off the books, than allowing parents to deduct wages and then collecting a much lower tax rate on those wages. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:32 PM Flag
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Very few nannies make 80K [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:33 PM Flag
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Please list out the jobs that an average nanny is qualified to do and pays more than $15/hr (which is same as 12 off the books which is the lowest nannies make) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:35 PM Flag
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The job itself, childcare, is very important. Or at least it should be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:36 PM Flag
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you didn't answer my question [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:38 PM Flag
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Because it isn't the point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:40 PM Flag
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Actually it very much is the point. I am an engineer and make $120K. I can list many other jobs I am qualified to do where I will make this much money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:42 PM Flag
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Flipping burgers will pay $15 in a few years, hon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:37 PM Flag
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it doesn't now sweetie so go ahead and list out the jobs that do pay $15 and nannies can get. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:39 PM Flag
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I have a doctorate and work in academia and made $45k per year starting out in NYC. I lived on the uws with a roommate and paid $800/month rent (4 years ago). Did just fine on a tight budget. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:43 PM Flag
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Shouldn't you be off taking care of the kids you are paid $80K to watch? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:46 PM Flag
[ - ] I think benign neglect is a great way to parent and I practice it myself often enough. However once you are a guest in someone's home and you are basically ignoring your kids then what it translates to is someone else taking care of them all the time. I am so annoyed. Vent over. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:18 PM Flag
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I agree with this. I practice benign neglect at home, but not when out or with company. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:21 PM Flag
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So what did your guests/their kids do that set you off? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:21 PM Flag
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guests would just disappear(take a shower/take a nap) while their kids (including an 19 mo old) where left roaming around, pooping their diapers, whining, wanting food etc etc etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:24 PM Flag
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On, my... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:26 PM Flag
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np: that is NOT benign neglect. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:33 PM Flag
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I think if you are used to paying little attention to the kids until they really need attention and someone else is around this is how it plays out. Others end up taking care of your kids for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:37 PM Flag
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np- but when you're in someone else's home you should watch your kids more. You shouldn't leave your 19 mo old unattended at someone else's home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:47 PM Flag
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You shouldn't leave a 19 month old truly unattended for long periods of time no matter where you are. And I'm all for benign neglect. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:52 PM Flag
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No matter whose home you're in you don't just leave a 19 month old completely unsupervised and uncontained while you take a shower. Even those of us who practice benign neglect would not do this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:51 PM Flag
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I prefer old fashioned neglect. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Happy Tuesday! 5th Planned Parenthood video just -=>DROPPED<=-! This one includes a tour of mangled fetus body parts. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:16 PM Flag
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but but but WAR AGAINST WOMEN! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:17 PM Flag
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Those Chistofascists just want to control women's bodies. UHG! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:18 PM Flag
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I have no issues with mangled fetuses. It's an abortion. Chill out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:18 PM Flag
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Thanks for the reminder - heading over to the PP website to make an extra donation! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:18 PM Flag
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+1 And another round of emails to Gillibrand, Schumer, and Clarke! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:21 PM Flag
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Its just a clump of cells. Nothing to see here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:18 PM Flag
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What's the problem? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:19 PM Flag
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Killing baby girl fetii is FEMINISM. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:22 PM Flag
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Fetii, huh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:27 PM Flag
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I'm going to wear my necklace that I made out of the arm, leg and skull bones of baby fetuses to support PP and women's Right to Choose! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:24 PM Flag
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Fetal tissue was used in the development of the Rubella and Polio vaccines. Anyone who is against abortion and against the use of fetal tissue in research had better be putting her hand up and opting out of any treatments that come from research that uses fetal tissue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:29 PM Flag
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abortion after 12-16 weeks is selfish and horrible.barring rape or illness of a child that will have serious issues it is selfish and reckless. own your actions. our society wants the easy way out of everything. that's how we fu**ed up our climate, through the I want it how I want it when I want it way of thinking. Signed - mom who got pregnant and wanted to abort and kept her baby, even though it was a major difficulty and inconvenience and didn't fit into our plans.best decision of my life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:31 PM Flag
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But why would you wait until 12 weeks if raped? And anyway, the baby is a baby, whether by rape or by intention. Deciding to allow its killing shouldn't depend on how it got there. If you don't want a baby, you shouldn't have one. Bad enough raising one when you actually want it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:35 PM Flag
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No one waits that long. It's a Republican red herring. "We have to legislate women's medical decisions because there are thousands of irresponsible women getting pregnant and waiting until the second or third trimester to get abortions. Women must be stopped!" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:47 PM Flag
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The only women who wait longer than a few days are the women in states where abortions have too many restrictions and there are no clinics or doctors nearby. You'll see a lot of this coming up in the next year in Texas, now that most women live more than two hours from the nearest clinic and some have to go to other states to find a clinic or doctor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:49 PM Flag
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Pretty much every woman who has an abortion after the first trimester is heartbroken that there is something so wrong with the baby that the pregnancy has to be aborted. No one waits 16 weeks and then just decides, "no, I don't think so!" If you are so heartless that you would judge those women and the doctors and nurses who have to take them through it, you are not fit to be a parent yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:39 PM Flag
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Judgemental people, including me (pro choice btw), have children all the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:41 PM Flag
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Are you heartless? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.04.15, 03:46 PM Flag
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