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[ - ] Would you bring a 4th grader to a hospital to visit someone? I am concerned she may pick up some kind of virus or illness - not Ebola, just the regular fall/winter stuff. Or I am just being too paranoid? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:23 PM Flag
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way to paranoid? What is the person in for? Is it something contagious? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:25 PM Flag
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You are being paranoid, unless the ill person has C-Dif or something like that. But you should consider if the person you are visiting would want your daughter to be there. Just wash hands after visit and encourage daughter the keep her hands away from mouth and nose during visit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:26 PM Flag
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paranoid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:27 PM Flag
[ - ] What am I supposed to do? Nanny said she can't stay late and we have a school event to go to. Dh said we should just be late. She won't leave the kids alone. We really have to go to this event. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:21 PM Flag
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One go, one go home to the kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:22 PM Flag
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Another sitter. Ask your friends if you don't have one. Ask nanny. Post on care.com. Or one goes one stays. This is annoying, but not rocket science. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:23 PM Flag
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We don't use a backup sitter. Our dd has very special needs. we can't train someone for one night. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:25 PM Flag
[ - ] My dumb question of the day: If Ebola is only transmitted by bodily fluid, how does one receive that fluid? Does it require an open sore? Swallowing? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:15 PM Flag
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Aha! They covered this on the news this morning. It can be an open sore, getting it in your mouth, your eyes, or your nose. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:16 PM Flag
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^^So say they sneezed on your hand, and you wiped your eyes, you could transmit it that way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:22 PM Flag
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they sneeze on your face [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:17 PM Flag
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They sneeze behind you on your hair. You don't even know. You touch your hair, then your face. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:22 PM Flag
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The people with it are exploding in bodily fluids--they projectile vomit all over the place, bleed from the mouth, etc. That's why the guy who flew to Dalls was, in my opinion, irresponsible. He had carried a vomiting victim to and from the hospital four days earlier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:22 PM Flag
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The big question is did he infect people on his flight? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:25 PM Flag
[ - ] What do you think the SB cutoff score will be for round 2 of Hunter Elementary? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 10.02.14, 02:10 PM Flag
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probably similar to the last 5 yrs. think its been between 149 and 146(?) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:18 PM Flag
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144 last year. It has been going down, interestingly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:21 PM Flag
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yes, before that 146 and higher. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:24 PM Flag
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I wonder if the same number of kids are still registering or if its fewer? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:26 PM Flag
[ - ] I am in Europe driving and someone just hit me and sped away. Shoukd I call my own insurance company, or credit card company I used? The car has a dent on the side but we are all fine. any BTDT? I have his license plate. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:09 PM Flag
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Is it a rental? Is there a phone # on your rental agreement? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:12 PM Flag
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Yes. Should I call them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:13 PM Flag
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You report it to the car rental company and have your CC company and knowledge of the coverage ready. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:13 PM Flag
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Your home insurance may cover it too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:22 PM Flag
[ - ] S/O Anyone grow up wealthy and now MC or LMC? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:07 PM Flag
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This is very common. Social mobility is high and upper middle class kids who get in to drugs or who have terrible judgement often wind up low class, living worse than parents [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:11 PM Flag
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LOL, moran [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:12 PM Flag
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Do you mean moron? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:13 PM Flag
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If I meant to type "moron," I would have typed "moron." MORAN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:14 PM Flag
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Bizarre response. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:19 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:22 PM Flag
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Upper middle class girls can certainly wind up working class [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:11 PM Flag
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Tori Spelling [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:14 PM Flag
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She's working but umc. Probably uc, even. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:21 PM Flag
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I've seen it happen to girls from families who had enough money to keep them comfortable for the first 30 or so years of their lives, but not forever. They thought the money would never end, it did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:15 PM Flag
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I know a few girls here and there who came from WASPY old money type families who landed in the shirtsleeves with all the trust money gone. They still have things like the family summer house that they share with cousins, but they live very modestly and both mom and dad work. Most of the signs of real money are only left in their speech, their manners, their taste, etc. I'd call most of them MC to UMC but the wealth from their childhoods isn't there anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:16 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:17 PM Flag
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NP. Tatoos are a sign of downward mobility. Upper middle class girls who get very visible and large tatoos are unlikely to get a job in biglaw or finance and unlikely to marry husbands who do. So these girls often have less money than their moms [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:18 PM Flag
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OMG [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:21 PM Flag
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LOL, do you have a tat? Slut! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:22 PM Flag
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Not nice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:23 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:22 PM Flag
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Not everyone wants to be in your conformist upper middle class bubble [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:24 PM Flag
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Gotta say that this is generally true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:26 PM Flag
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You are honest. That will get you flamed by the moms here [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:27 PM Flag
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I'm really not sure. I work as does DH but we have some family money to fall back on. That said I feel like we live paycheck to paycheck simply due to high cost of living. It seemed to be all coming to me as a kid, my dad did well, but he was first generation/new money and DH's family is generational money. On our salaries alone, it feels like a step down from what my dad made. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:24 PM Flag
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The money can dissipate by the third or fourth generation: hard worker, builds a company or something similar; next generation better educated, work in family business; third generation well educated, turn away from the family business, spend more; fourth generation spend it all; back to square one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:25 PM Flag
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My friend. Grew up wealthy with doctor father. Had ponies, tutors, trips to Europe, etc. Went to art school then developed food addiction and got obese. So pretty but felt insecure and didn't may until late 30s when she kicked the food addiction. But by then, good marriage prospects weren't available and unwisely chose her husband. He's a dreamer and possibly a liar. They're divorcing now and she is barely making it with no savings. Her mother still has done money though her dad is gone. So I hope she'll get some inheritance someday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:27 PM Flag
[ - ] Why us the hospital releasing the name of this man and his status?? What happened to HIPPA????? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:06 PM Flag
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Yes wondering same thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:09 PM Flag
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His name was released by his family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:10 PM Flag
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Hippa goes out the window when your dealing with a DEADLY CUNTAGIOUS DECEASE THAT COULD GET PEOPLE KILLED (whether rightfully so or not) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:22 PM Flag
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contagious disease [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:24 PM Flag
[ - ] Should be working and I'm very anxious waiting for results of MRI. Any words of wisdom? I know there's no point in worrying, but I'm scared. I have so many scary symptoms. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:05 PM Flag
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No except no matter what, there are good treatments these days and hopefully you won't need to use them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:06 PM Flag
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Actually that helps, thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:07 PM Flag
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You are welcome. Btdt and I get it. Hopefully the news will be all good anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:10 PM Flag
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Are you OK now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:11 PM Flag
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The fact that they didn't call you right away is a good sign. Friend with cancer was called back to imaging 15 mins after leaving the facility, Wishing you the best. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:08 PM Flag
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Thanks. They did pull out IV and then called me back again, but it was only for another set of images. I asked if I had moved own anything, they said no, we just want another series. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:10 PM Flag
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You would already know if it was something serious because they would have seen something during the imaging and taken closer looks then and likely consulted with your doctor on the phone. BTDT with a breast scare. Good luck, you'll be fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:13 PM Flag
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They did take additional looks. I'm not sure if it was closer. It was a 6pm, no idea. I'm trying to stay positive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:15 PM Flag
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Seriously, you're OK. They would have called you that night or at the very least, first thing the next morning. Why don't you call and see if you can get the results now? Beats waiting and stressing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:24 PM Flag
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they told me (at the desk) 24-48 hrs. Tech told me this afternoon. Should I call my doctor? He's a neuro-ophalmologist [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:25 PM Flag
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Sure, call. I would. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:26 PM Flag
[ - ] What are your dc planning to be for halloween? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:02 PM Flag
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Ninja witch for dd, dolphin for ds [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:11 PM Flag
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One is a doctor the other a ninja turtle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:12 PM Flag
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ninja turtle here too. where are you getting the costume? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:18 PM Flag
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Pokemon character, but he won't make a final decision on which one [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:25 PM Flag
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We don't celebrate that holiday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:27 PM Flag
[ - ] Any other NYC moms freaking out about Ebola and the other flue like virus? Btw that and the ISIS threats I really dont feel save. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:01 PM Flag
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i am not freaking out about either one, except somewaht about my friend who is actually working with ebola patients in africa. for me, i am not freaking out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:03 PM Flag
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I am a bit freaked out. The problem is that if you go to some rural area where you think you will be safe, you won't have access to good healthcare if you get sick. Some people do survive Ebola and flu-like viruses, but I think your chances are better with good healthcare. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:05 PM Flag
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Not freaked out but really pushing hand and respiratory hygiene for enterovirus. Ebola is not on my rad screen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:07 PM Flag
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I am moderately concerned about the virus that is circling NYC because I have a severely asthmatic tween. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:14 PM Flag
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me too. my asthmatic 4 yo is sick today and I'm worried. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:18 PM Flag
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:( Hope he or she feels better soon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Jeez, I'm away from the site and now there's all of these people I don't know. Who is MUM, STM, Dalton Sweatshirt Mom, etc.? What are they known for on the site? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 01:58 PM Flag
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MUM= Make Up Mom, gives great makeup tips. STM= Sassy Tarot Mom. Not the same as Tarot Mom, but also reads tarot, as the name implies. Dalton Sweatshirt Mom is nothing new. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:04 PM Flag
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Dalton Sweatshirt Mom was kind of a one-off: she posted that she saw someone jogging - on Park Avenue I think - wearing a Dalton sweatshirt and everyone went nuts. It was a huge thread, and everyone weighed in on whether she should wear her DC's shirt, whether or not she should wear it if she had gone to Dalton, and everything else you could think of. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:15 PM Flag
[ - ] Looking for advice on how to help my first grade DD make friends. She is painfully shy and has a hard time joining in activities with big groups. It sounds like she'll find one friend at a time that she likes to play with and hope/expect that that friend will include her, but if that friend decides to play with someone else, DD will come home upset and tell me that no one wants to play with her. She is afraid to approach groups of kids and ask to play with them. We organize tons of one on one play dates that aren't usually reciprocated - I think because she is so introverted, other kids don't always think to ask to play with her. We've also alerted her teacher and asked the teacher to try to identify some kids with similar personalities that we could encourage friendships with. DD is smart, beautiful and polite to other kids, so I don't think it's a question of people not liking her, I think she's just so shy that she gets lost in the shuffle. Any suggestions? 30 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 01:54 PM Flag
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Take in snacks for the class! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 01:57 PM Flag
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This sounds weird, but when I was faced with this, I would be sure to do something with DC once a week at school and would then interact with the other DCs, they all seemed to like me and would congregate around when I visited, this helped alot. GL, it is not easy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 01:59 PM Flag
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np. when I had this problem, we would host parties at our house every Saturday. at least a dozen kids would come to each party and eventually DD got popular [ Reply | More ]
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Very smart [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:01 PM Flag
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you were lucky people showed up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:02 PM Flag
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OP: every Saturday? What would you do at the parties? Did you invite the entire class? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:03 PM Flag
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yes invited the whole class. this was in second grade. we would get ten to twenty kids every saturday. When it was warm they played with squirt guns and water baloons. all the kids loved it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:05 PM Flag
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And we had food the kids loved, not junk but fun food [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:05 PM Flag
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....and the toys they loved. We bought a large size " spin art" and had a babysitter there running the spin art making sure the kids did not get messy. They loved it so much [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:07 PM Flag
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Please don't take this the wrong way, but were you worried that this would be viewed as desperate by the other parents? I'm just worried that in my case, people would think this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:08 PM Flag
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NP: I think it is odd to invite that many kids but a fun get-together with 3-5 girls from her class would be fun and totally appropriate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:09 PM Flag
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No, i suggest the parties. if you have the money to throw a party every single Saturday why not? kids who throw parties usually wind up popular [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:12 PM Flag
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I would be willing to spend anything to see my DD happy! I just worry that constantly initiating get together with people who don't reciprocate will start to seem desperate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:15 PM Flag
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No it only sounds desperate if you invite the parents. But if you tell the parents that your daughter enjoys the parties and you are doing it for DD, not desperate [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:20 PM Flag
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How do the playdates go? In your DD's circle are there a lot of nannies? Are you a SAHM? For us, THAT was the biggest hurdle. Most of my DS's peers have FT nannies and parents are never around. I work PT but am available afterschool hours. The nannies tend to only make plans with each other. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:02 PM Flag
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food. i found out what kind of expensive food the nannies liked and always had a lot of it lying around my house. suddenly nannies wanted to have playdates at my house [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:03 PM Flag
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OP: I WOH FT. I find that most of the kids are totally booked after school, so the play dates tend to be hosted by me on the weekends. They always seem to go well, and the other kid's parents always mention that they should have us over sometime, but that rarely seems to happen. And when it does happen, I think it's more of a matter of the other mom having a connection with me than their daughter asking for the play date. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:06 PM Flag
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Normal for 1st grade for most playdates to be planned by parents/caregivers. Do you have a nanny? What does your DD do afterschool? Maybe have her do an activity or 2? Reach out to other parents of kids she likes and see what they're up to? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:08 PM Flag
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Or vice-versa... if most of her peers' moms are SAHM and you work FT and aren't around, you and your DD might be left out of a lot of loops. I always prefer to hang out with another mom instead of a nanny. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:11 PM Flag
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OP: I should add, I WOH full time and so does DH, so getting to her school once a week is something that won't work for us, unfortunately. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:03 PM Flag
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Do you have a nanny? Who watches DD afterschool? If you do have a nanny, be sure you have one who reaches out to other nannies/moms for playdates. In 1st grade this is still largely motivated by parents/caregivers and not by the kids themselves. [ Reply | More ]
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We have a nanny. I've tried to arrange after school play dates, but they never seem to work out. Most of the kids are in after school activities, so it's hard to make this work. Most of our socializing is done on the weekends, and at my initiation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:12 PM Flag
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Aww this sounds EXACTLY like mine (now 12/7th grade) at that age. I worried, a lot, about her just kind of drifting along and never really making good friends. I would say keep doing what you are doing with the playdates 1-1, and also encourage her to try out more structured activities that put her in a group dynamic. For mine the things that really caught fire for her were theater and field hockey, she loves them and they helped her develop a more outgoing side to balance her introverted nature. Also, in all that you do to help her, never suggest to her that she should be other than who she is. I have one introverted kid and one extrovert and it is often much more anxiety-producing for me to parent the quieter one. But I think our jobs as parents is to remind ourselves that they are exactly who they are supposed to be, and just need opportunities to develop other sides of themselves. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:05 PM Flag
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How would you respond when your DC would come home upset that their friend chose to play with someone else? I am at a loss. I try to suggest other kids to play with, but she'll respond that they are already doing other things in groups and don't want to include her (which I don't necessarily believe, I just think she perceives it that way). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:10 PM Flag
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Pretty much exactly as you have, it sounds like. Until 4th grade or so my dd tended to just want to play with the same friend all the time and so when that friend (understandably) wanted to branch out a bit it was hard. One thing that did help as they got older were organized games at recess (jump rope, 4 square) because lots of girls ended up playing those together. Does anything like that go on at her school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:14 PM Flag
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They have recess, but no structured games. The kids just tend to go off in their own groups, and if DD's one friend is playing with a different group, she will tell me that no one wanted to play with her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:19 PM Flag
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How many kids are in her class? My very shy DS really struggled socially at a small private school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:14 PM Flag
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It's a small private school. Interestingly, she sometimes does better at interacting with other groups of kids (neighborhood kids, kids on her sports teams) than she does with her classmates. She takes school very seriously and seems anxious about making a good impression and fitting in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:18 PM Flag
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Well just be warned that small private schools can be very rough socially. We moved DS in 3rd grade and it made a world of difference, he did so much better in a larger peer group, easily made friends and felt in-the-mix. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:21 PM Flag
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Interesting - I would have thought the opposite. The school prides itself on being a close knit community, which is one of the reasons I thought it would be a good fit for an introverted kid who may get overwhelmed in a large public. But you think that a bigger school might work better? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:23 PM Flag
[ - ] "No presents, please" on 1-year-old bday party invitation (with many daycare classmates invited): Is this tacky in some way I'm not foreseeing or fine? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 01:54 PM Flag
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fine [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:14 PM Flag
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Why would that be tacky? We do the same -- as do many of our friends. Our apartment can't handle 20 gifts (x2 for two kids). Some people will still bring gifts anyway, and frankly, your 1 year-old won't notice. Even my 5 year old is OK with opening just a few gift (from family). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 01:57 PM Flag
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I have no idea why this bugs people. I would love to have put this on invitations but my other mom friends persuaded me not to. I don't think anyone relishes buying all these toys or taking home 400 toys that your kid will go spastic about. Do it!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:12 PM Flag
[ - ] fashion challenged mom here. how do you manage to wear boots over jeans without the jeans bunching up and looking awful? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 01:52 PM Flag
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that's why boot cut jeans were invented [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 01:59 PM Flag
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Nooo .. boot cut jeans are for putting jeans over boots and they haven't been in style in about 15 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:05 PM Flag
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Noo...bootcut jeans were in style until around 2007-8. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:26 PM Flag
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You have to wear jeggings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:00 PM Flag
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stick jeans inside your socks, or skinny jeans [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:00 PM Flag
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even my skinny ones bunch up when i walk. grrr! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:02 PM Flag
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ankle length jeans with a very very narrow leg opening [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:07 PM Flag
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Skinny jeans or leggings. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm not fashionable, but you can buy clip on stirrups that keep your jeans from bunching up - no one will see them, but they will keep your jeans in place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:26 PM Flag
[ - ] What things should we purchase to welcome a new foster child (14, female)? Things that we might not think of? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 01:52 PM Flag
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Have food out in the open and make them welcome to it, I was always afraid to ask for food. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 01:55 PM Flag
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+1 we had a homeless teen move in with us for a year and my dd told me she was eating power bars in her room when she got hungry but was afraid to come down and ask for food in the kitchen. She never really got over feeling weird about making food when we were around and I knew she liked ramen so I bought her a little hot water pot and made sure we always had instant noodles (the kind already in the bowl) and hot chocolate packets etc. available. She was very neat and I didn't mind if she ate them in her room. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:08 PM Flag
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What was that like? Why was she homeless? - NP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:09 PM Flag
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Her mom basically took off on her and moved in with a boyfriend as soon as she turned 18 and graduated from HS. DD was told 'good luck you're 18 now' and that was about it. Over several months it took us a while to realize she was staying with dd overnight quite a bit, only leaving when we mentioned that she'd been at our house quite a bit and maybe dd needed to stop with so many sleepovers. Finally they admitted she didn't actually have a place to live, so we took her in. We gave her a year to pretty much get her act together, we charged her nominal rent and gave it back to her plus matched her savings when she left. She finally moved in with an aunt and uncle in another state this summer, they found her a job, she finally got her driver's license and seems to be doing really well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:23 PM Flag
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Basically we kept things that she could take to her room and which were portable. Like pop tarts; packages of crackers; bottles of water. She seemed to want to keep very private so we didn't make it a huge deal for her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:10 PM Flag
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Stuff with her name on it, pillows, bags, whatever [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:01 PM Flag
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Do you have a photo of her, put it out in a frame, or take photos of everyone all together and display them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:01 PM Flag
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Comb/brush, toothpaste and toothbrush (no idea what she is coming with). Sanitary supplies, chapstick, hand lotion. Soft cotton pjs. A teddy bear. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:03 PM Flag
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^awesome you are stepping up like this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:05 PM Flag
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Here are a series of articles written by a former foster kid: http://looneytunes09.wordpress.com/tips-for-those-involved-with-the-foster-care-system/ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:03 PM Flag
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Full set of toiletries left for her in the bathroom (Include tampons, pads, etc). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:03 PM Flag
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you may need to go over that issue with her, just so she knows, not saying that she doesn't but... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:07 PM Flag
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Excellent idea! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:08 PM Flag
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It's nice when the UB community gives sincere and helpful answers. GL to the OP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:08 PM Flag
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Thank you, very helpful!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:11 PM Flag
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Have you met her? If you can guess her size, maybe underwear. If not, take her shopping after she arrives. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:17 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anybody on here grown up poor and became rich? How did you become rich? 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 01:41 PM Flag
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Me. I would say it was 50% IQ, 30% luck, and 20% the acceptance letter that changed my life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 01:42 PM Flag
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How poor were you growing up? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 01:46 PM Flag
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My grandmother made no more than 15,000. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 01:47 PM Flag
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I would say you'ere 56.78 % wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 01:47 PM Flag
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Acceptance to where? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 01:49 PM Flag
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Top Five university. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 01:50 PM Flag
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Most moms that grow up poor and get rich have a tremendous work ethic. Frankly those moms are not on Urban Baby [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 01:44 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 01:44 PM Flag
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I did. Worked my ass off and got out of my one horse town. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 01:45 PM Flag
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i wouldnt use the words poor and rich, but yes, i grew up in a tight financial situation and am now significantly more comfortable. i'm smart, i worked my tail off (still do), and i had luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 01:46 PM Flag
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Lmc (immigrants). Went ivy. Did OK in finance. Meet dh who was wildly successful. Done of it was luck, as one would expect, but a lot of it was my own cleverness and resourcefulness along with priorities. Dh would never have been interested if I hadn't been unusually smart. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 01:48 PM Flag
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"Done of it"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 01:49 PM Flag
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Some of it was luck. Autocorrect [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:05 PM Flag
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I doubt you are as clever as you imagine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 01:49 PM Flag
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Then it must be my great looks. I always suspected it and now I know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:13 PM Flag
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This is true. Everyone on Urban Baby pretends that Top Tier guys want to marry dumb hot bimbos. But instead they marry girls like you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 01:50 PM Flag
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They marry a lot of bimbos too, don't delude yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 01:50 PM Flag
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no you are wrong [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 01:54 PM Flag
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What a brilliant response? I'm sure you're just their type! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 01:57 PM Flag
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for second wives, maybe. won't have dc with them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:03 PM Flag
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so you would like to think... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:11 PM Flag
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Because men never have DC with their 2nd wives? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:12 PM Flag
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Or: there are attractive smart women. I have not yet met a real bimbo married to a wealthy man, though I don't know men in entertainment, just finance, law, medicine, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:09 PM Flag
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You are right [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:14 PM Flag
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Why do people talk about them like they're one single person? I know "Top Tier" guys married to brilliant women. I know "Top Tier" guys married to morons. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 01:56 PM Flag
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because she is living in la la land. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 01:57 PM Flag
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My parents were teens from fairly blue collar/immigrant families. Neither of my parents went to college. My mom left my dad when I was small and married an older man with money the 2nd time. That permitted me to go to private schools later and to a really good college. At college I met and then married an UMC guy who eventually took over my FIL's position as CEO of the family business. You would know the business if I mentioned it. So basically - marriage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 01:53 PM Flag
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I grew up LMC in the Bronx. Education and marrying the right man got me to a very comfortable place in life. I went to SUNY school, I always worked, and I married an educated, hard working guy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:11 PM Flag
[ - ] For the am crowd: I work from home with a new baby and want to get out of my ratty old sweats and upgrade to comfortable casual clothes. Any ideas on where I should shop, fashion moms? Don't have a huge budget. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 01:37 PM Flag
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loft, boden [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 01:41 PM Flag
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Op Specific wardrobe ideas are also very welcome! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 01:42 PM Flag
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Get some good key pieces (good booties, a few good sweaters) and put them with black jeans from the gap or uniqlo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 01:42 PM Flag
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If you don't have a problem wearing consignment stuff, definitely check out the website thredup.com. A colleague just told me about it recently and I am already kind of addicted. It is an online consignment store with really amazing prices. You can select things that are still new with tags, "like new" though have been worn, or "slight imperfection" which implies a bit more worn. I have bought everything either with tags or like new and they have been in beautiful shape, I can get much nicer brands this way than if I bought retail. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 01:46 PM Flag
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free bed bugs too with them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 01:47 PM Flag
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Only if they're from NYC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 01:59 PM Flag
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so run them in a hot dryer for an hour first. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 02:07 PM Flag
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J Jill has nice, comfy clothes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 10.02.14, 01:58 PM Flag
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