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[ - ] Anyone here with dds at private ss school? What school? Is it diverse? TIA 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:06 PM Flag
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Daughter at TT SS. Very diverse, they recruit them actively. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:14 PM Flag
[ - ] My friend says her husband(who is a professor at Barnard) said that school doesn't really matter all that much for kids but rather that it's their socioeconomic background that will determine how they fare. I read something about this recently from a Finnish educator as well. Thoughts? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:05 PM Flag
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of course this is true. think about how much enrichment children of educated parents get before they even start school. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:08 PM Flag
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but don't you think BOTH count? i mean school has got to count for something. I think i can name some stupid rich kids! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:04 PM Flag
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THIS!!!! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:06 PM Flag
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this is stupid? i'm not rich or stupid. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:13 PM Flag
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np: I think she's responding to the first OR, making the point that well-educated parents tend to provide kids with an educational environment to begin with. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:16 PM Flag
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1st thought: Professors at Barnard aren't that bright. 2nd thought: Finland is an awesome kid-friendly society, so kids do better than in USA... and their schools are awesome, the best in the world. They wouldn't put so much energy and be so proud of their schools if they thought as a society that schools don't matter. As a matter of fact, Finnish think that school matters and a lot. You misunderstood the Finnish educator about "which school" the kid will go, it's true for Finland because there's tiny variation on quality between their schools (very much the opposite as in USA). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:04 PM Flag
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if you are talking elementary thru high school - duh. Even undergrad. It doesn't matter anywhere close to what people on UB believe. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:10 PM Flag
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Connections are very important in life, especially for getting jobs. Socioeconomic background makes a huge difference! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:11 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:06 PM Flag
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Of course this is true. The rich stay rich. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:06 PM Flag
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ITA. I'm an adjunct professor and in almost every case, the students who are faring poorly in my class come from a lower income. I know this because when I go in to report how much a student's grades are slipping to the student affairs office, usually I can see any scholarship information or financial aid information (not how much they're getting, but that they are getting aid). There's only been 2 instances out of a couple dozen where students who were not doing well who were not receiving aid of some sort. The university accepts many of these students as a way to create "diversity," both socio-economic and racial, and ultimately it does not benefit anyone, at least in my experience. These students either come from backgrounds that don't encourage the pursuit of education and they just aren't invested, or they have to work multiple jobs to pay for basic costs of living and come into class exhausted. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:08 PM Flag
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Socioeconomics is the most important variable ON AVERAGE. Obviously, other factors matter too, and every individual case is different. I am sure the Barnard professor understands this, even if his DW and her friends do not. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:14 PM Flag
[ - ] I just ordered two pairs of shoes from zappos with the idea of returning one. They mailed both pairs in a giant box. I'm moving soon and would like to keep the giant box. Can I just stick the return label on the shoe box, and send it back? What if I wrap it in paper to protect the box? TIA 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:56 PM Flag
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Wrap it in paper. You can even use an old Whole Foods bag turned inside out and put the label on it. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:58 PM Flag
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Thank you, that's smart [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:00 PM Flag
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No problem. Boxes aren't cheap so when I have to return stuff I try to think out of the box. :) [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:05 PM Flag
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Maybe you will have some bubble wrap after the move? Wrap in bubble wrap and then lots of paper so the box doesn't get damaged. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:07 PM Flag
[ - ] Hungry and pregnant. What should I eat? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:54 PM Flag
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Ice Cream, avocado and cream cheese sandwhich [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:49 PM Flag
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hmm i can do avocado and cc but no ice cream! i NEED ice cream holy shit! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:50 PM Flag
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Everything, because I'm not post partum and the dieting the lbs off sucks. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:49 PM Flag
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^^ now post partum [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:50 PM Flag
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Pbj sandwich [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:56 PM Flag
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I would but I have the "healthy" kind, you know the mulitgrain bread, the natural pb and the less sugar natural jelly. BORING. I want the old time stuff, the real deal, Skippy, Welches grape and Wonder white! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:55 PM Flag
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Me too! I made cinnamon toast. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:57 PM Flag
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How about avocado spread across whole grain bread. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:04 PM Flag
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+1,000,000. Add a dash of salt and pepper, maybe a squeeze of lime juice. Yum. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:16 PM Flag
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Pizza and a big bowl of cereal. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:59 PM Flag
[ - ] What's the difference between SAHMs and Prostitutes? 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:53 PM Flag
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I'll bite as a SAHM. What? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:55 PM Flag
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What's the DIFFERENCE BETWEEN SAHMS AND PROSTITUTES? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:56 PM Flag
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Yeah I figured but thought you actually might have a punchline. Well let's see. Prostitutes don't do the following: Take care of demanding kids all day long, feeding them, cleaning them, changing poop diapers (often really nasty poop diapers!), cleaning the house and always tidying up (have you even seen a hooker's lair?), laundry, cooking (hookers typically order out) and oh yeah a whole hell of a lot LESS sex! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:53 PM Flag
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If your child is pooping into diapers for more than about two years, you're doing it wrong. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:07 PM Flag
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Oh here we go. So a child has to be potty trained according to you by 2? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:02 PM Flag
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Also, having kids is your choice. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:03 PM Flag
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Prostitutes own it? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:50 PM Flag
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Prostitutes get paid ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:51 PM Flag
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But WOHMs do not get paid for having sex with the man. I guess in certain ways SAHMs get pay for having sex. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:52 PM Flag
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"WOHMs do not get paid for having sex with the man" are you so sure? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:00 PM Flag
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same differences as WOHMs and prostitutes [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:57 PM Flag
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Prostitutes work harder. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:57 PM Flag
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Prostitutes don't clean. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:52 PM Flag
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That prostitutes sleep with many men on a everyday basis and SAHMs only sleep with the pool boy, the chauffeur, the Manny, the Trainer, The chef, The. . . Well I guess is the same. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:53 PM Flag
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prostitutes are working for more than room and board. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:00 PM Flag
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ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:01 PM Flag
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Prostitutes are WOHM for the most part. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:03 PM Flag
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SAHM don't sell their time. WOHMs sell their time, some of them rent their body too (what you call "prostitutes" in a demeaning way). [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:59 PM Flag
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Of course SAHMs sell their time--to their husbands, at a very, very low hourly rate. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:15 PM Flag
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SAHMs don't always deliver [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:59 PM Flag
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Prostitutes aren't married, prostitutes have sex with multiple men, sahms don't have to worry about their pimp beating them, sahms are usually happy. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:06 PM Flag
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studies have shown sahms unhappier across the board [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:06 PM Flag
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I highly doubt that. Have they done studies comparing prostitutes with sahms? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:14 PM Flag
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unhappier than WOHMS- you said they are generally happy- data shows otherwise [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:15 PM Flag
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Prostitutes can be married--you could say SAHMs are prostitutes with an exclusive contract for one client. Proprietary whores, if you will. Also, not all prostitutes have pimps or get beaten by pimps. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:15 PM Flag
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SAHMs work for free and a Prostitute works ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:06 PM Flag
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People are all in your business if you are a sahm, if you are a prostitute no one cares what you do. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:12 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm getting my first diaper bag. What's actually needed/important/practical? Any recs? Thanks! 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:52 PM Flag
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Must get a Gucci that's what matters most! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:55 PM Flag
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Space and lightweight. Don't spend a ton, it'll be grubby [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:51 PM Flag
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Then you just buy another one! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:02 PM Flag
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Just use a tote bag. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:06 PM Flag
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Actually Skip Hop is the best. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:01 PM Flag
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I have one, but lets be honest skip hop is made like crap. Saw a great one recently, petunia pickle bottom [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:09 PM Flag
[ - ] I just finished The Fountainhead and loved it. Can anyone recommend similar books, but by different authors? Thank you 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:45 PM Flag
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Aw, I remember when I was 15 years old. Good times. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:48 PM Flag
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Lol [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:43 PM Flag
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np: lol wow, someone is insecure. Is Fountainhead one of the 10 books you have read in your lifetime? (all assigned during high school). I went to a TT boarding school and we never read Foutainhead. There are millions of books. It's hilarious that you try and one up someone for having read different books than you in high school. You must be really poorly educated. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:52 PM Flag
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OR: I think you misunderstood. I was never assigned the Fountainhead in school. It's one of those books you read on your own as a teenager and take on as your worldview for a few months. Then you grow up a little and move on to The Stranger. Lather. Rinse. Repeat. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:56 PM Flag
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Why so you assume every teenager wanted to read the same books you read as a teenager? I read mostly biographies and science books as a teenager. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:59 PM Flag
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NP: I agree with OR. The Fountainhead is a teenage book, with an outlook that appeals intensely the the very young and the very immature. Perhaps you skipped it. If you did read it and are still badgering OR, perhaps you are very young or very immature. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:02 PM Flag
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This. Next are you going to tell us you read The Bell Jar? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:08 PM Flag
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op: Do tell, what other books are we not allowed to read as adults? I wasn't aware great books had a shelf life. My opinion was that the more people read, the better. The more new ideas people are exposed to, the better off we are as a society. But sorry to break your official book rules. I'll cross Bell Jar off my list. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:13 PM Flag
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I also think you misunderstood her. The Fountainhead also makes me think of being a teenager, b/c that's when most ppl I know were interested in Ayn Rand, and it's true that from there to Camus is a well-traveled path.:) FWIW, I don't recall these books being assigned, don't remember what twigged us to them. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:59 PM Flag
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Maybe you should assign a list of what books everyone in society should read at each age. God forbid people just read the books that internet them at the time. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:15 PM Flag
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Any Rand was a huge Victor Hugo fan, so I would recommend anything by Victor Hugo. Similar philosophical underpinnings if that is what you're looking or [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:56 PM Flag
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This is completely false. Hugo's and Rand's views were nothing alike, philosophically or politically. Their work shares the concept of an idealized hero but not much else. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:59 PM Flag
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+1. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:59 PM Flag
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They both go on and on and on and on... [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:07 PM Flag
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PP: If length means that authors are similar, then Rand is like Rousseau and Jonathan Littell is like Proust. What kind of criterion is that? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:13 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:15 PM Flag
[ - ] Sheryl Crow, Tory Burch, and all the rest really dodged a bullet with that loser Lance Armstrong. Wow, what an ass. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:43 PM Flag
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He is so gross [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:45 PM Flag
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What did he do now ? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:52 PM Flag
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His ex wife too. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:54 PM Flag
[ - ] Where should I go next Christmas. Dcs will be 3.5 and 9mos. don't mind traveling with our dcs and will want a vacation. live in NYC. No more than 4-5 hr flight. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:43 PM Flag
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Asia. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:52 PM Flag
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Not sure of your budget but love the Rosewood Mayakoba in Riviera Maya. Kid friendly and very beautiful resort. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:54 PM Flag
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Don't want to do Mexico now, not safe [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:52 PM Flag
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It's totally safe. I was there last month. Please inform yourself. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:00 PM Flag
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And you live in NYC...LOL! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:57 PM Flag
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Four seasons costa rica [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:56 PM Flag
[ - ] The Cat and I are in a fight. Everyone leaves (I work at home) and he sits next to my computer and tries to bite my hands or hair if I don't play with him (I do sometimes but can't always). Petting doesn't do it. Doesn't do this with any of the kids or DH. He's two years old and aside from this neediness is a good cat. Ideas? Kids love cat, by the way, but it's wearing me down. I put him in the bedroom and close the door when he does this and he fights me all the way and mews constantly from the other side of the door. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:42 PM Flag
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You should just stop fighting. He will win because cats always win. Could you rent an office space and go work there? Maybe the library? He is letting you work from home so you either pay the fee (play with him) or finding another place to work. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:47 PM Flag
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^^^find [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:48 PM Flag
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Yeah, but today is saturday and he won't let me read the paper or go on UB. He can't drive me out completely. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:58 PM Flag
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He can and he will if you don't go along with his plans. You could always try to bribe him with a cool cat house or if you want to be able to decide what to do with your Saturdays you could get another cat to take the focus off of you. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:01 PM Flag
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jsut play with the cat, whats the big deal [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:00 PM Flag
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Dress him in one of DB's old outfits. I promise you'll get the cold shoulder to work as you please for a long time after. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:01 PM Flag
[ - ] Any recommendations for an all-inclusive in the Dominican Republic? DC is going - he's 8 and not athletic. Also, no one cares about golf. Thanks! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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Whatever you do, stay away from the melia resort in punta Cana [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:42 PM Flag
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All inclusive is often gross food and watered-down drinks. Try Boardwalk in Aruba if you're on a budget. Stop at the grocery store on your way in and make breakfast and lunch in the room. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:49 PM Flag
[ - ] Took DC to the toddler section of the park. Another parent brings her dog in, unleashes it, and proceeds to let it run around. I had to ask her to take it outside. What is wrong with some people? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:27 PM Flag
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did she have a child too? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:25 PM Flag
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yes. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:35 PM Flag
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Pp, are stupid it's not a freakin dog park [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:35 PM Flag
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Dogs are not allowed in playgrounds in nyc. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:35 PM Flag
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But...but...but it's her furry child! In other words, she's an obliviot. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:32 PM Flag
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So what? Kids love to play with dogs [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:34 PM Flag
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It's not a dog park. Keep your animals on leashes when outside. It's the law [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:44 PM Flag
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I'm with the so what thing unless the dog did something wrong. Children love dogs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:45 PM Flag
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the nicest dog can inadvertently scratch a child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:53 PM Flag
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ture, but that doesn't change my mind about what I just typed above. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:58 PM Flag
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are you insane? assuming op is in NYC, it is against the law to have a dog in the playground, even on a leash? Crazy. and your assumption that all kids love dogs is completely wrong. Many kids are very scared of dogs. Regardless, it's illegal! [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:48 PM Flag
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no, mental fit. I jaywalk too. If your child fears dogs, I can understand why you might have a different opinion. Feel free to state. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:59 PM Flag
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honestly - who are you? what kind of manners do you teach your child? to call other people insane for expressing an opinion you don't share. What in the world?? [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:54 PM Flag
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Dog owner here: it's really inconsiderate to assume everyone wants to play with your dog. Some kids are terrified of dogs, and others are allergic. Also there are rules prohibiting dogs from NYC playgrounds. If a child approaches my leashed dog I will warn them "she won't bite, but she will jump up and lick your face". My dog is only 25 lbs, but when she stands on her hind legs to lick your face (which we're working on) she towers over a toddler. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:54 PM Flag
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People are the WORST! I live in Hoboken - full of young kids and dogs. Idiots bring small dogs into the fenced playgrounds all the time. Bigger idiots bring young kids into the dog runs all. the. time. I have 2 young kids and a pitbull mutt (rescued / abused as a puppy). Now - my dog is very skittish (doesn't like strangers touching him) - but good w/ kids. I know tons of dogs that are not though. Kids are on their level and move erratically - dogs can get confused -see them as a threat. I try to MMOB - but I've left the dog park more than once when children go in - I don't need that liability even though I know my dog wouldn't hurt a fly. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:38 PM Flag
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I have two dogs who I love, and that is insane. It doesn't bother me personally when someone brings a small, well behaved dog to the park and ties it to the stroller, but it makes me anxious because they are breaking the rules. She should have brought her kids to the dog park and let them chase the dog around. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:42 PM Flag
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It makes me anxious because I have been bitten by dogs. I wish people could just follow the rules, not everyone likes dogs. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 08:09 PM Flag
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wtf? isn't that against the law? I bet she's the type that if her dog were to harm a child would blame it on the child. [ Reply | More
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General Topics 05.18.13, 07:44 PM Flag
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