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[ - ] Omg have you heard of what happened at the Cincinnati zoo?? 31 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:03 PM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:04 PM Flag
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Yes, did you see the gorilla drag that kid in the water? And now people don't understand why it had to be shot. I like animals more than dumb people too but the zoo had no choice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:05 PM Flag
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idiots are all upset. i'd like to see their take if it were their kid in the pen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:06 PM Flag
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The zoo keeper is kind of hot [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:07 PM Flag
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Responsible parents wouldn't have let their kid end up in the pen! That is problem here! An animal died unnecessarily because the parents are idiots. - np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:16 PM Flag
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Yes, I just saw the video!! I agree, what, were they going to let the gorilla kill that little boy?! That video was horrifying. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:06 PM Flag
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I saw a video but it didn't look sinister. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:07 PM Flag
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At the ver end, you can see that he dragged the boy by his leg through the water. It was scary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:08 PM Flag
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There's another video [ Reply | More ]
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It's very scary, but again at the end the gorilla seemed to be fine. The kid seemed fine. I think they could have waited, but I'm not a gorilla expert. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:12 PM Flag
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Couldn't the just have tranquillized the gorilla? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:07 PM Flag
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It isn't instant so there would be a few minutes of an angry gorilla. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:08 PM Flag
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They said it takes at least 5-10 minutes and could provoke a reaction that would have hurt the child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:09 PM Flag
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They said since he was so agitated that it could have taken a long time for him to feel the effects. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:09 PM Flag
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They tried calling the gorilla in, the females went but the male wouldn't. No choice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:08 PM Flag
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have you seen the video? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:07 PM Flag
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Yes! That poor boy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:07 PM Flag
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It was his own fault. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:10 PM Flag
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He was 4. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:11 PM Flag
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At the very least, the mother should be fined for negligence. Enough is enough. People need to take responsibility for their actions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:12 PM Flag
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You suck. God forbid something like that ever happens to your kid. You can be the best mom in the world and keep a watchful eye and things still happen. That's life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:13 PM Flag
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Nothing happened to her kid. They shot the gorilla because she can't control her brats. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:13 PM Flag
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My question is, how did the mother allow this to happen? Nobody watches their brats anymore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:10 PM Flag
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She was watching 10 kids! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:12 PM Flag
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Ok well that is the first problem. Why was she watching 10 kids without help? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:12 PM Flag
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Not sure if it was a momentary thing--like someone ran to a bathroom, or it was a trip of her watchiing a bunch. Have to see further stories I guess. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:15 PM Flag
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I was just watching, she said it was very easy for a small person to slip through where they were standing. The mom could have turned her back for 2 seconds. You really can't blame anyone in this situation. Awful, but things can happen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:12 PM Flag
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Please. I bet she was playing candy crush on her phone when this happened. I see this all the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:13 PM Flag
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Ok. I pray your kids will always be safe and that you never go through something like this. Truly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:13 PM Flag
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I have a problem with it for the following reason: a human-like animal is unnecessarily dead because a parent didn't watch their kid. The gorilla was just doing what is normal if any small animal were to fall into his enclosure! The parents of the 4 yo should be fined out the wazoo for being so irresponsible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:15 PM Flag
[ - ] If you have moved as an adult with a family,how did you develop a new community for yourselves? Church? Work? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:57 PM Flag
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Church, building, work [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:00 PM Flag
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It's hard. Real tough in the suburbs. Everyone stays in their house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:02 PM Flag
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Less so than in the big city. Lots of the people you meet in town are through your kids, school, Scouts, Little League etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:08 PM Flag
[ - ] Best zoos in the city? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:45 PM Flag
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Wow. That's tough. Obviously bronx is world known. But it's big and the habitats can sometimes make you miss seeing the animals. Central Park is tiny but convient. I also like queens and com one the trip with science hall -- and prospect has (had) wallabys -- they are all good! I did not care for SI [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:50 PM Flag
[ - ] If a normally sweet, polite, and well-mannered child turns into a disrespectful brat around only *one* of his grandparents, what would you attribute this to? I ask this as an unrelated third party. This is a dynamic I've noticed in a friend's family and I'm curious why this might be. 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:43 PM Flag
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Either the GP is great fun or something else that I'd rather not speculate about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:45 PM Flag
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OP - By "great fun" are you being sarcastic? I have noticed that this grandparent is quite uptight and doesn't seem to be much fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:47 PM Flag
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No no. I thought the GP was rambunctious himself/herself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:52 PM Flag
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Myob [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:52 PM Flag
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OP - Collapse and move on if you're not interested. I'm asking an honest, non-judgmental question about a relationship between two people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:58 PM Flag
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I am interested. You just don't like my response [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:00 PM Flag
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How old is the kid? Generally, until kids are tweens/ close to teenagers, they may not have the emotional ability to hide their feelings if they dislike someone or something strongly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:52 PM Flag
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OP - Good thought. The kid is young enough that he wouldn't be able to hide it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:59 PM Flag
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If that grandparent is the one providing childcare I would assume it is because the child feels very comfortable with them. My kids are way better behaved with my inlaws, but with my mom they are more like how they are with me - they are very close to my mom so they misbehave the same way they would try with me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:05 PM Flag
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OP - Hmm, I could see that, but the child doesn't see this particular grandparent a whole lot. The child doesn't misbehave with the parents either! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:10 PM Flag
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That gp allows it. I never allowed my children to be disrespectful to my IL's no matter what. My MIL pulled me aside one day and said she appreciated that immensely. She said it made her job disciplining them when I wasn't there much easier b/c they knew I supported her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:06 PM Flag
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OP - This is good to know. Currently pg with my first, which is why this dynamic interests me. Wondering how to prevent that type of behavior. Your approach is obviously effective! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:11 PM Flag
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Lol. The best laid plans, darling... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:12 PM Flag
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I just believe my kids should respect teachers, grandparents etc. I was pretty no-nonsense. I remember my dc trying to explain to me why he had been nasty to his grandmother (who was an angel to him then). I remember just saying--absolutely NO. You are to go there and say you're sorry and that you'll never talk that way to her again. It was a moment and set the tone I think. They were very very close to her death. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:14 PM Flag
[ - ] Are kids inherently active or lazy, or are these qualities developed? My sister's kids are constantly climbing anything in sight. My best friend's three DDs skip and cartwheel everywhere instead of walking. My 6yo DD is such a little blob. We have her in physical activities after school 4 days a week, but, other than during these, she is so inactive. Is there any way I can help to redirect her physically? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:41 PM Flag
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Does she eat red meat and lots of vegetables? Is she getting enough sunshine? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:43 PM Flag
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And how active are you and your dh? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:43 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:44 PM Flag
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Play physical games with her when you catch her sitting around like a blob. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:44 PM Flag
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I think it's a combination. DH was a lazy, computer nerd as a small child but became quite an athlete and is very active now. His BIL was out-of-control rambunctious--constantly climbing and injuring himself--but never participated in organized sports and is very sedentary now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:45 PM Flag
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Do you live in an apartment without a backyard? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:46 PM Flag
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Which has what to do with the question? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:53 PM Flag
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Seriously? If a kid doesn't have the opportunity to freely be active, they will naturally adapt to a more sedentary lifestyle. This isn't rocket science. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:00 PM Flag
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FWIW, my kids are active, but they are at their least active when it's just us. You may get a slightly inaccurate view of other kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:55 PM Flag
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Mine were blogs. We're blobs. I prefer it that way so I don't have to deal. They're now adults. I think it's organic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:56 PM Flag
[ - ] What a LOSER! EXCLUSIVE: Man found dead from apparent drug overdose at Junior’s Cheesecake http://www.nydailynews.com/new-york/brooklyn/exclusive-man-found-dead-overdose-junior-cheesecake-article-1.2653985 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:39 PM Flag
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gross [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:40 PM Flag
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Jesus Christ what is wrong with you people? Don't you have any respect for the dead? He's DEAD. How are you going to badmouth the dead. I feel sorry for him an you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:41 PM Flag
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FUCK that! He should have died in his home, NOT in a bathroom in which kids can enter and get to see the narcissistic piece of shit! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:42 PM Flag
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We all make mistakes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:44 PM Flag
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This is not a mistake. It's giving a FUCK about everybody else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:47 PM Flag
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Clutch my pearls!! Won't *somebody* pleeeease think of the children?!?!? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:45 PM Flag
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I'm not a child, but I don't appreciate going to the bathroom and having to deal with the dead body of a junkie either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:48 PM Flag
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Don't worry it's just a troll with no life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:43 PM Flag
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+1 some of us value what drugs add to our lives! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W-ZdQ0z5cLM [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:49 PM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:49 PM Flag
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The guy was clearly sick and had problems. So are you if you take pleasure in berating a person like that who died. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:49 PM Flag
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It's a way to commit suicide, like many others. Too bad he opted to do it in public. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:51 PM Flag
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NYC is going back to the 80s! The good news: it will hep bring home prices down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:50 PM Flag
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There is a positive side to everything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:50 PM Flag
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A guy just died this weekend on Cape Cod. He drowned during the fitness portion of his lifeguard exam. Riddle me that one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:54 PM Flag
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You're the loser. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:57 PM Flag
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Wrong. I don't do drugs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:14 PM Flag
[ - ] What does an expensive, 10k+ watch on a man say to you? Does this matter, is it important for business, for social settings, for anything? Why not just wear a timex. 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:37 PM Flag
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he likes nice watches. watch = jewellery [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:38 PM Flag
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He makes foolish financial decisions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:39 PM Flag
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Not everyone's house is in foreclosure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:00 PM Flag
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Says new money and shallowness. It disgusts me. Says that he lacks in intellect. Gross, huge turn off imo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:39 PM Flag
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You're weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:47 PM Flag
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why? I would NEVER date a guy with an expensive watch. EVER [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:54 PM Flag
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Why so? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:59 PM Flag
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What watches are old money wearing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:48 PM Flag
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probably swatches [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:54 PM Flag
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Either he's into precision/perfection, it has sentimental value, $10k means nothing to him, or (most likely) he's pretentious and full of himself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:41 PM Flag
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I wear a $10k watch. I won it kn a raffle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:45 PM Flag
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Perhaps it was inherited or a gift. I have friends who were gifted expensive watches upon college/ grad school/ law school/ med school graduation by generous relatives [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:46 PM Flag
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Ugh "gifted" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:49 PM Flag
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Get over it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:51 PM Flag
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Depends on the watch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:46 PM Flag
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Most of my friends like their Rolexes and Tags, a few older family friends wear Patek philippes. Most male colleagues wear watches in the 8-20 k range. I think they like nice things. Not sure what that says to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:48 PM Flag
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It does matter in business and society; men do power dressing based on occasion. Suits, watches, shoes, ties - all part of how they put themselves together for the occasion. I'm not sure why some folks seem to frown upon this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:50 PM Flag
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Right? Some people here are SUCH hypocrites. Wear a $40K engagement ring, fine... but a man wearing a $10K watch is a "gross, huge turn off." That's so weird. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:53 PM Flag
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I like nice things too. And I LOVE a nice watch. Getting a nice watch is pretty standard for people who are grown-ups and make good money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:49 PM Flag
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Are we not supposed to have nice things when we can afford them? At least you wear a watch every day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:55 PM Flag
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Lol. OP follows the sun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:56 PM Flag
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My DH wears a 10K watch that I bought for him at a Singapore duty free shop. He would wear a $30 timex if it weren't for his superficial brand hoaring wife. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:59 PM Flag
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You misspelled a key word. :)) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:00 PM Flag
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ok spelling mom. Point it out, don't be coy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:02 PM Flag
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*whoring* [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:04 PM Flag
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I knew that. It's amazing how I just re read the sentence and the word didn't just jump out. Sorry, don't normally use distasteful words like *whoring* [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:05 PM Flag
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haha I'm not spelling mom, just saw it but hey, I use much worse and usually get called out for misspelling things here so you're all good :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:11 PM Flag
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Oh, I thought you were being coy, misspelling on purpose. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:13 PM Flag
[ - ] What does an expensive, 10k+ watch on a man say to you? Does this matter, is it important for business, for social settings, for anything? Why not just wear a timex. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:37 PM Flag
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Says new money and shallowness. It disgusts me. Says that he lacks in intellect. Gross, huge turn off imo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:38 PM Flag
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unproductive show off [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:43 PM Flag
[ - ] So a person can get into both bronx science and bard early college queens, correct? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:35 PM Flag
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Yes. Bronx Sc ia Specialized HS. Bard is Selective HS. You are allow to choose one in EACH category PLUS a performing arts school like Laguardia. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:40 PM Flag
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Yes. And laGuardia too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:44 PM Flag
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Of courses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:45 PM Flag
[ - ] please give a suggestion to this situation. A friend has been living pay check to pay check. Her boyfriend suddenly moved out and she found his stuff gone when she got home from work. He has not been paying his half rent which is about 1700 for 1 bd in BK. My friend is a terrible money manager as well so the rent not being paid must also be her fault. She is now $6000 in debt and can not afford to pay it, yet is living there. She is so helpless and this is driving me insane. She has been seeing this fucked up guy as well, who promised her he would move in but backed off- of course he did, they had been seeing each other for 1 month!!! She is crying that he screwed her over and now she, again, can't afford the rent. Can she just pack up and moved out while never looking back? I have been telling her for years to move into someone else's place as a roommate; that way, she would only worry about paying for her room and wont fall behind in rent because the boyfriend does not pay his share. What would happen if she just left? UGH! 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:34 PM Flag
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^^the rent is $1700 a month, they each pau $850 a month [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:35 PM Flag
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anyone? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:43 PM Flag
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1) She cannot afford to live in NYC, tell her to move to Atlanta, for example. 2) It's better for you to have quality time on your own than to hang out with people like her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:45 PM Flag
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OP, I might sound harsh, but you deserve good quality time that benefits you (whether it's a great audiobook while taking a bath, a nice walk on the park... doesn't matter) than the stress from having to deal with the problems that this kind of people constantly fabricate. You can't fix stupid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:46 PM Flag
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I am telling her to get out of there without paying and move on w her life. Get a room in someoneelse's apt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:53 PM Flag
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Did she ask for your advice? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:45 PM Flag
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she keeps calling me to tell me that this new guy screwed her over and now she has to get someone to sleep on her couch in order to afford to live there. This is a 1 bd apt in Park Slope. I have been telling her to get out of there for years because her ex was also not paying his part and she always ended up paying the entire amount. I told her she should pay for a room in someone else's apt and only worry about herself. I am telling her to pick up and leave. She says she can't, because she owes rent. She will never pay it. This has been going on for years and im just sick of hearing it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:52 PM Flag
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Bankruptcy no? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:54 PM Flag
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yes sure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:54 PM Flag
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but she is 38 and perhaps does not want to apply for that. She is so clueless [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:55 PM Flag
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Is that a no? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:54 PM Flag
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my questions is, what would happen if she just picked up and left? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:56 PM Flag
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Are you guys just out of college? She can perhaps move in with her friends or parents until she gets her finances straight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:58 PM Flag
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she is 38, no, not out of college [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:06 PM Flag
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Does this friend have other parents or family that serve as emergency bail out? My guess is yes because people who have absolutely no safety net don't get into these situations unless they are mentally ill. In any case you do nothing and say nothing except, "That sounds like a difficult situation...this must be hard for you" or anything else non-engaging/judgemental/ reflective. If she specifically asks for your advice, THEN you can give advice. Otherwise, she's just stirring up drama for herself for whatever reason and it's not your problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:58 PM Flag
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she calls me and whines about how everyone is screwing her over. She is one of my very close friends. She needs someone to tell her to grow up, she is 38!! Her parents live upstate and she works in the city so no option for her to move back home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:06 PM Flag
[ - ] Is 6 million too much for a brownstone in park slope? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:31 PM Flag
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how nice is it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:38 PM Flag
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Really nice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:38 PM Flag
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normal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:39 PM Flag
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^ but they bought it for 4 million a couple yrs ago. No new renovations. Seems way too high [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:39 PM Flag
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this is the market, I guess. The bought for 4 mil from someone who prob bought it for 500k [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:41 PM Flag
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1.5 in 2004, 4 million in 2012. They changed the kitchen cabinets. Seems like quite the spike in price. Our realtor thinks it's too high [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:43 PM Flag
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ok [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:55 PM Flag
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I agree it's high. Also agree someone will pay it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:59 PM Flag
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This is what I think. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:00 PM Flag
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YES [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:14 PM Flag
[ - ] We are social losers - yes, I have a DH who is "insufferable" so we don't get invited much. What are UBers doing this Memorial Day weekend? 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:22 PM Flag
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Got invited to a nice dinner on Friday. Nothing rest of the weekend - just chilling, catching up with housework. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:22 PM Flag
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In the Hamptons hosting for the weekend! Why do I do this to myself?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:23 PM Flag
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Same here. Alcoholic dh who has burned all bridges went home to see his mother and I am sitting on UB. Marital bliss. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:23 PM Flag
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Love you. My DH is not alcoholic but he might as well be. Once he hangs out with people for over an hour, we are finished every being invited to anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:25 PM Flag
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I am sorry. How do you stand him? Does he just have social anxiety? My ex was like that socially but great at home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:34 PM Flag
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No, he does not have social anxiety. He loves talking and dominating every conversation, and believe me, he is not a good storyteller. He also manages to insult people by talking as if he knows their profession/religion/ethnicity better than they do and generally having 0 idea if a person is dying to leave the convo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:53 PM Flag
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Without others quiet judgement, I generally see him as an endearing, funny, easygoing guy but I do hate him when we are out together. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:54 PM Flag
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Watching cheesy drama on Hulu. I'm already on episode 15/20 - in the past 48 hours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:24 PM Flag
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do you have kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:25 PM Flag
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duh! They are watching kiddie shows on Netflix. I know, I try to be a Tiger parent but it's so darn tiring. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:26 PM Flag
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hahahaha this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:40 PM Flag
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My kids have 2 major end of the year projects due Tuesday and Wednesday. I can't get them to sit down for more than 5 minutes this entire weekend. And the irony? My kids are Asian - I always assumed they would be an obedient bunch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:07 PM Flag
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Brunch tomorrow with friends (my idea and invite) Shakespeare in the park with different friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:28 PM Flag
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Could have gone out today but we're home cleaning, how lame is that? House is a wreck. We live like pigs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:34 PM Flag
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:( We're in the Hamptons for the weekend. Had my sister and her family over last night, just chilling tonight, a BBQ at my friend's house tomorrow [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:39 PM Flag
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Sounds like my kind of weekend. Live in California, so don't see the Hamptons appeal as much but do like the idea of living in the city and jetting away to a nice beach house on the weekends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:55 PM Flag
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No, I get it. We love living the city and like the hamptons because it has nice beaches. We couldn't care less about the "scene." (We don't live in an area with a scene anyway, ha!). We like having the best of both worlds [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:06 PM Flag
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WORKING [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:44 PM Flag
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sorry. What line of work? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:54 PM Flag
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DH is on call all weekend. Can't do anything, but we just went out for a nice lunch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:56 PM Flag
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Beer garden with friends Friday, MLB game with extended family yesterday, cleaning house and trip to the pool today, tomorrow meeting a few families at lake beach. No BBQ for us... Too lazy and we didn't get an invite. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:11 PM Flag
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Oh, and OP, my DH had Aspergers. I decided long ago that he doesn't need to do everything all the time. DD and I still have a nice social life. Your DH shouldn't hold you back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:15 PM Flag
[ - ] What's everyone doing today? With little kids? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:15 PM Flag
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bronx zoo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:36 PM Flag
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3 yo DS and I bfed outside, got juice press, went for a run, playground with fountain, lunched, napping now. DH ran a real estate errand. DH is in charge of surprising us with a family special outing so no idea what's next. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:37 PM Flag
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breastfed? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:38 PM Flag
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Yew. I was being lazy. Now I get to type "had breakfast". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:54 PM Flag
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bfed? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:44 PM Flag
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DH just left to pick up a late lunch, watching the kids in the pool with my Rosé. Bliss. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:40 PM Flag
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watching the 500. 8 year old is sick so taking it easy [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:51 PM Flag
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French open. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:55 PM Flag
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I'm the one who posted this morning asking about south street seaport. We took the ferry over there from Dumbo at 10 and then went to a little kids fair on Fulton. Then went to the SSS Smorgasborg for lunch, then a park nearby. Then stopped at a restaurant outside for a glass of wine and some water for the kids. Then walked down to the seaglass carousel. Just subway-ed home and the sitter shows up at 5. DH and I have a dinner for a friend's birthday back in Dumbo. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:04 PM Flag
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two kids are docile like lambs listening to Audible. The content is trashy (Minecraft) but are they quiet as a little country mouse! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:08 PM Flag
[ - ] I can't believe I'm not at the F'ing beach! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:11 PM Flag
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So very hot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:37 PM Flag
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And better to be in NYC? Or a boring suburb? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:46 PM Flag
[ - ] MIL here this weekend. She is of Greek descent, but she is 2nd generation American, does not speak the language, not a practicing member of the Greek Orthodox church. She is highly critical and overbearing (as was her mother) and aware of this, and told me and DH this weekend that this is "her culture" and she intends to hang on to it because it means a lot to her. This is bs, right? Her interactions with our 2yo are mostly to tell her what to do, and she already clearly isn't a fan of MIL because of this. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:09 PM Flag
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So she's dh's mom. What does he say? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:10 PM Flag
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OP. He can't stand her but feels obligated. She is single and he is an only child. I am not Greek but I can't believe that this is of cultural value. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:12 PM Flag
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Watch my big fat greek wedding. It's a culture of very very strong women (and men). I'm surprised she allowed him to marry outside of Greek. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:00 PM Flag
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Sounds exactly like my Indian MIL. Blames all of her assholery on "this is just my culture". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:12 PM Flag
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Op. What do you do? I don't want my daughter to dislike her, even though I do. We are both careful not to say anything negative about her in front of dd. But MIL is kind of shooting herself in the foot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:18 PM Flag
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I used to be too nice and ignore, but eventually my marriage suffered because I was taking my anger with her out on my husband. He agreed that she was ridiculous (examples: insulting cleanliness of our home, insulting my parenting abilities, the list goes on) and shut her down when she made remarks in his presence, but most of her nasty comments were saved for when he was not around. I eventually just started giving it back to her and found she became flummoxed very easily and would shut up the rest of the visit. For example, when she would start going on about how she found some dust under my couch (true story), I would stop what I was doing, stare at her for a minute and say "Do I make comments about things I notice in your home? Absolutely not. I'd ask that you extend me the same courtesy, it doesn't make our visits very pleasant." Would your DH be on board with you saying something along these lines? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:40 PM Flag
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Wow. You're awesome. I'm totally going to try this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:42 PM Flag
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2nd generation is not a "culture." I am an American but of Eastern European origin (grew up there until HS, all my family is there) and if my DS blamed his behaviour on his, aka my, culture, I would call bs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:30 PM Flag
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Curious. Do you feel American or do you still feel like a foreigner. Eastern European culture is very different from American culture though you probably don't get comments like, "where are you from"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 07:01 PM Flag
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Limit exposure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:38 PM Flag
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My MIL was well liked by my children until they were about 8 years old, and then her nagging really started to annoy them. They are teens now, and have no relationship with her at all. She says that if she doesn't teach them, nobody will. My dh are not exactly leaving them to the wolves to be raised! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:39 PM Flag
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^^my dh and I [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:39 PM Flag
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This. Kids wise up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Worth the cost to ensure an engagement ring? We couldn't easily afford to replace it, but 2-3% per year seems like a pretty high premium. Would it be better to put that in a "replacement fund" of some sort? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 05:41 PM Flag
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Honestly it depends on your mental state. If you could lose it and just laugh it off. Then do not insure, If losing it will emotionaly bother u then paynthe 3 percent a year [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 05:46 PM Flag
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why do you need to replace it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 05:54 PM Flag
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I think if she loses it, she can't replace. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:39 PM Flag
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1) insure not ensure 2) it is rarely worth it to specifically insure jewelry. it's a racket for the insurance companies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:02 PM Flag
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Strange. My travelers policy for personal items is not this high. A rate comparison will help. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:05 PM Flag
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And yes, I insured because I am careless and have lost jewelry while traveling esp. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:29 PM Flag
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it would be $10k a year to insure my jewelry. i just keep it all at the bank. wear one thing at a time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:06 PM Flag
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That wasn't her question. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:18 PM Flag
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But don't you wear a couple of rings, may be a bracelet or necklace/chain and a good watch at a time? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:29 PM Flag
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just ring and watch [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:37 PM Flag
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It would be better to get a refund on the ring, use a little of the money to have a paste copy made, and put the rest into your savings account. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:31 PM Flag
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If it's symbolic, then just buy a cheap one. If it's for investment, then just put it away in safe deposit box. If it's for show and tell, then buy a fake one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:45 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.29.16, 06:50 PM Flag
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