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[ - ] DH frustrates the hell out of me sometimes. I posted recently asking how others split their marital finances. I mentioned how DH and I have a small joint account that we use for groceries etc. however if that runs out before we get paid, we just takes turns paying but it always seems to devolve into this tit for tat over who paid for what. Case in point, he went to pick up a few groceries yesterday, couldn't have spent more than $40. Today he says "Do you have anything on the money I spent on groceries yesterday? I had to go into my savings" Meanwhile, we got paid today and he makes $150K. Seriously? Just seems so unmanly (or something) to badger your wife over $20 (which would have been my half of the grocery bill). I don't know. Just really frustrated. Vent over. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:42 PM Flag
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why a joint account? get rid of it. pay as you go. keep separate checking accounts with a "slush" built in so no going to savings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:43 PM Flag
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No we absolutely HAD to get the joint. Otherwise we'd never stop arguing over whos turn it was to pay for groceries or wine, etc. Then lets say I pay for something and its his turn to pay for something, then comes the "well I did pay the cab ride last night.." or "well I did pick up some toilet paper and paper towels the other day.." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:46 PM Flag
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This is why you don't marry a poor man. Yes, 150K is poor in NYC. What an ass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:44 PM Flag
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How long have you been married? How old is he? did he come from zero money? that might be part of the problem. i would ditch that practice. tit for tat has no place in married finances. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:45 PM Flag
[ - ] Was at my child's school yesterday. The school social worker has a bad attitute towards me. Don't know what her problem is but someone needs to put her in her place. Venting. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:39 PM Flag
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There is exactly one reason that someone becomes a school social worker or counselor. So they can shit on the parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:41 PM Flag
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She has never been very helpful at anything. You're right. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] 32 yo with DC starting K in Fall. Thinking of applying to law school. How crazy am I? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Why do you want to go? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:36 PM Flag
[ - ] I can't stand when someone calls something "crack." Very LC but I am starting to see it more and more. Example: Crack cake which is supposed to imply it is addictive. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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why do you think that is a trigger for you? [ Reply | More ]
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I just find it very crass. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:40 PM Flag
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LC? lol Get a grip. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:37 PM Flag
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One of my clients who is def not LC sends me a crack pie every year from Momofuko. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:42 PM Flag
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It'll be fine [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:44 PM Flag
[ - ] I was feeling really pissy this morning. So I came on UB and was letting out some snark. While I feel better I do realize that's not the healthiest way to release stress. What are your feel good suggestions? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:34 PM Flag
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They do it the same way, relative to procedure, every time, but because every one reacts differently to medication they don't always 'get it right'. If you still have feeling, ask for more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:35 PM Flag
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take a walk. work out. clean. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:36 PM Flag
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Buy four or five slices of pizza, eat them all, then throw up. I can only do it on evenings when dh takes dc to tennis. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:36 PM Flag
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oh gross. really? why do you do that. Just eat one and keep it in there. ugh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:41 PM Flag
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Exercise gives me a total high. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:43 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you expect your dentist to properly administer novacaine before drilling a cavity? Do they get it right every time? What has happened when they don't? Is it upsetting for you? 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:32 PM Flag
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no. but i am a masochist [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:35 PM Flag
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Yes, I expect it. I have had more than 40 fillings in my life and my dentist has never numbed me incorrectly. Once, he used a more "short acting" injection because it was a very shallow filling, and I felt a pang or two- I told him immediately and he stopped and gave me the stronger injection before he continued. It wasn't upsetting because he had told me it was a more short acting injection and that if I didn't like it, he'd stop. I could have just told him no to start with and it would have been a moot point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:35 PM Flag
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I posted earlier. I'm feeling really upset about my dentist appointment today. I was late, but I'm not normally. Have had to cancel/reschedule appts lately, couldn't get in when I needed to for quite some time, beyond my control. Dentist (female) was very cold and pissy. Undermedicated me and she KNOWS I am a wuss when it's time for the drill. I feel really upset, like she undermedicated on purpose. I'm supposed to go back in 2 weeks for more work (another cavity.) Feeling very strange about it all, and I'm not sure why? It's just the dentist afterall but I feel really violated and I don't usually get this upset over stuff like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:38 PM Flag
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Did you stop her immediately and say "I am not numb enough"? If you did, and she kept going, I'd switch immediately. Otherwise, she could have just honestly not used enough I suppose. Although, like I said, my dentist has never made that error. Maybe she used that short acting stuff that my dentist tried on me once that I didn't like? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:41 PM Flag
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op: Oh hell yes, and she numbed me up pretty good, 4 hours later still pretty numb. The thing is, she KNOWS that I hate the dentist, sensitive to mouth pain, etc. She knows this and yet undermedicated. It felt like punishment or something. Just not sure what to think. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:43 PM Flag
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Wait, if she numbed you up, what exactly are you complainign about? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:45 PM Flag
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OK, you sound kind of like a baby. Why does it matter if dentist is "cold"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:46 PM Flag
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^I should add- once, I was on a 2 week vacation and a filling fell out. I went to have it replaced, and the dentist that I went to in this other (American) city did hit a nerve when he numbed me- I felt this shooting pain as he injected me and he said he just got too close to the nerve (I was still numb, however). I asked my regular dentist about it and he said that it can happen and it was probably just bad luck on that dentist's part. I have also heard that if your root is super infected and inflammed it can be very difficult to numb no matter how much novocaine you use- but when I have had root canals, even ones where I had toothaches prior to getting the root canal done, the numbing was done perfectly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:39 PM Flag
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op: not at RC level yet, fortunately only have had one crown done so far. taking better care of my teeth in the last few years. But what happened today really upset me. Is she trying to get rid of me as a client? I don't get it and I feel kind of angry about what happened. Not sure what to do other than take my mouth/biz elsewhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:41 PM Flag
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I would tell her when you go back that you were not numb enough last time and to make sure she uses the stronger/longer acting injection. If you didn't speak up while it happened, she might have had no idea she didn't use enough. I believe my dentist just gives a massive amount to me every time I go in, because I am typically numb for 4 hours or more after my appointments. But, that is because I am kind of a nervous patient and he has assured me I will never feel anything (and I havent) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:45 PM Flag
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Hell to the yeah. Would it be upsetting to me if not??? That would be putting it mildly. Why do you ask? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:36 PM Flag
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op: I just posted more above. I'm feeling really strange about an experience I had with the dentist today. [ Reply | More ]
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I always need more than she gives me. But she knows that about me. Still she tries for one shot and waits, starts drilling, if I can feel anything, she gives me more. And so on. It works for me and I've been going to her for 22 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:40 PM Flag
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After 22 years you'd think she'd just give you the larger dose right off the bat. Why the hell not? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:42 PM Flag
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I usually need like four shots to get fully numb, and at some point my dentist just starts drilling because he can't wait on me any longer. So I just bear it for the 30 seconds he's drilling. It sucks, but what can you do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:42 PM Flag
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That's completely unacceptable and I'd find a new dentist. I posted above that I've had over 40 fillings and 3 root canals and I've never had that issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:45 PM Flag
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hate novocaine, it never seems to work that well imo - i get laughing gas as well [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:43 PM Flag
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Yes but I don't know about "upsetting," if it hurts I just speak up. [ Reply | More ]
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In 54 years I have never had a filling or anything requiring novocaine, but if I needed it, I would hope to be shot full of the stuff. Who wants to feel pain? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:44 PM Flag
[ - ] anyone have sun allergy/Polymorphous light eruption? It sucks so much. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:31 PM Flag
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I do. Started in my 20s. It is horrible. I just had a breakout on the tops of my feet from wearing the first open shoes of the season. Should be a fun spring :( btw look into an ointment made by shirudo.. I got it online last spring and it did alleviate things. I might do light treatment this year as my dermatologist has been trying to get me to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:40 PM Flag
[ - ] help! I am a very checked-out mom. I love DH and DC but lately I am very depressed/not present. any BTDT and advice? I want to be a good mom and wife. but sometimes it is so difficult. even having sex. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:26 PM Flag
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I feel very checked out lately too. More present with DH than DC. I love DC, she is 5 and adorable and so sweet. I just don't want to play with her at all lately. I have so much to do, stopping to play with her makes me feel stressed out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:33 PM Flag
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what is wrong? work problems? parent problems? health problems? could be just mid life crisis. why are you checked out? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] how can i get a site to move up from page 3 of google results 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:21 PM Flag
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as a former web designer, let me just say: ROFL [ Reply | More ]
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send money to google via their paypal account [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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You have to put a giant mass of invisible keywords at the bottom of your web page. [ Reply | More ]
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lol [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] how/where should i denounce someone that employees an illegal? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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crap. Is this MIL again. You'd best back off lady. [ Reply | More ]
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op i need to do it anonymously btw [ Reply | More ]
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Who is the employer / employee? [ Reply | More ]
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my frenemy / her nanny [ Reply | More ]
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in soviet russia, nanny denounce dirty capitalist pig employer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:22 PM Flag
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Why would you do this? MYOB. Karma will get you in the end. [ Reply | More ]
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it is against the law of the USA; as simple as that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:24 PM Flag
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The majority of people on this board who are not SAHM are breaking the law this way. Gross but true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:27 PM Flag
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True. But let the authorities deal with it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:27 PM Flag
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The nanny will be deported and employer will get s fine at worst. Unless you are out to get the nanny because the nanny has truly wronged you, don't do this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:31 PM Flag
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ICE? [ Reply | More ]
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op many thanks for this!!!!!!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:28 PM Flag
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guess you aren't familiar with google. [ Reply | More ]
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you are a sociopath. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone have an opinion about Preschool of the Arts? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
NY Schools 03.31.15, 08:18 PM Flag
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Too artsy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:24 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
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Run by Chabad. So if you are into that.. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:42 PM Flag
[ - ] My nanny went to visit her home country and asked us to store some of her stuff in our storage unit. A few days ago it was broken into, some boxes including hers were open and her stuff was thrown out. Went there today to inspect the damage. Found several sex toys of hers (thankfully still unopened, some in gift packages) . Now I just feel weird about it. I am sex-positive and all, but it still feels weird. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:17 PM Flag
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ew [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:18 PM Flag
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In the alternative, is she supposed to invite men into your home or refrain from any sexual pleasure while in your employ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:19 PM Flag
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BTW, for the record, anyone would feel weird seeing someone else's sex toys. Anyone's. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:20 PM Flag
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OP: exactly, thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:23 PM Flag
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try harder troll [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:21 PM Flag
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OP: is that an automatic response? I am not a troll. Life is strange sometimes. One could of course ask who puts her unopened sexual toys in her emloyers storage but its in her character. One aditional thing I found there were some unused tea pockets. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:26 PM Flag
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Yeah, your storage unit was "broken into" just a few days later....try harder. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:22 PM Flag
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I am laughing now...It really happened and you don't believe it! Not a few days later, a few days ago. She is away to visit them for a few months, because her sister has cancer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:28 PM Flag
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np. I get called fake here every single time I actually come close to outing myself, because the story simply wouldn't make sense if I changed any of the details. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:33 PM Flag
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Yes, and the irony is that I am never called a troll when posting something fake for laughs. But when life throws at me such a genuine gem all I get is "troll" responses :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:40 PM Flag
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suurreeee it was broken into.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:26 PM Flag
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so the people that broke in, threw out stuff? what [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:38 PM Flag
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np. They probably started going through the boxes, seeing if there was anything good to take. Throwing stuff around as they did. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:40 PM Flag
[ - ] my kids are 5 and 6.5. i am feeling depressed, like i can't get any traction with anything...work, exercise, diet, self image...everything is a half-ass attempt that sort of ends in failure.... is this normal for kids this age? it is so much easier than it used to be but somehow i am feeling really lost. sigh.... 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Preschool/Kids 03.31.15, 08:13 PM Flag
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same. same. same. add in aging, sick parents and an impending move and you are me. or I am you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:27 PM Flag
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can i just run away and construct the life i've always wanted....national geographic explorer? [ Reply | More ]
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mine is living in one of thoes parisian apartments and drinking wine and smoking and painting all day... [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Nausea, (no vomiting, yet) bloating, headache, and one eye is red and hurting. What do I have?? Miserable. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:13 PM Flag
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Stomach virus [ Reply | More ]
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is there an empty vodka bottle nearby? [ Reply | More ]
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:39 PM Flag
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Just threw up on a commuter train. The worst. Now I have to get home covered in puke and feeling sick. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:39 PM Flag
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covered in puke and posting on UB? really? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.31.15, 08:41 PM Flag
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