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[ - ] I must really be off my diet. I took TWO, let me repeat TWO huge dumps today….and might go for three. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 12:07 AM Flag
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You're full of shit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 12:08 AM Flag
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OP: Good one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 12:09 AM Flag
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^ I meant two. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 12:09 AM Flag
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To much food. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 12:09 AM Flag
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Doody calls [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Having dinner with a male friend Saturday. It is not a date. Should I tell him this or should I talk about men I'm dating at dinner. I'd like to hope he is smart enough to know I am not going to date him. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:52 PM Flag
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Don't let him pay. That is all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:59 PM Flag
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He already texted me and said he will be paying since I am traveling to meet him. It's about a 30-45 min drive. I might take a bus. I'd much prefer to pay my own way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 12:00 AM Flag
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Just say, "It's no problem. Friends travel to meet up!" then pay your share. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 12:02 AM Flag
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This. Also, carry mace. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 12:10 AM Flag
[ - ] Do you google search the men you date? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:47 PM Flag
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Of course! And men (and women) I don't date too. People are interesting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:48 PM Flag
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I guess I mean do you do it looking to find out if they're married. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:53 PM Flag
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Yes, and potential nanny employers [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:59 PM Flag
[ - ] name poll: Michaela, Michele or Michelle? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:44 PM Flag
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Michaela. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:52 PM Flag
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None of the above. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:52 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 12:00 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 12:00 AM Flag
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Michelle is pretty, though a little 1980's. Like Michaela although, I am going to get flamed for being NOKD, I prefer a spelling like Micaela or Mikayla. For some reason Michaela just looks to me like Michael with an 'a' attached. Like Josepha or Thomasa. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:58 PM Flag
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They're all retarded. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 12:03 AM Flag
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And it is just Michael with an A. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 12:03 AM Flag
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But it is the only acceptable spelling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 12:09 AM Flag
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Michelle [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 12:02 AM Flag
[ - ] Lucy Liu is having a baby at 46???? Is this true???? Unfair!!!!! 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:38 PM Flag
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Bitch! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:39 PM Flag
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surrogate [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:39 PM Flag
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Good for her [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:41 PM Flag
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Wtf [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:42 PM Flag
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She had a surrogate [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:43 PM Flag
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Unfair as is 'by 46 we should be done with having babies, poor her that she's not?? '. OP are you that age and do you want MORE kids? Or do you not have one? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:44 PM Flag
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Isn't 46 menopause time? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:46 PM Flag
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No. More like 51 or 52. It is common knowledge that women can and do get pregnant during the final years towards menopause. It ain't over 'til it's over. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:56 PM Flag
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This. Who wants to be 46 with her looks, health and energy fading, and suddenly have to run herself ragged with a toddler? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:46 PM Flag
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^^^Not OP, but this is what I think when I hear about older pregos. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:47 PM Flag
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Hers was a surrogate but my BFF had her first baby (an ooops baby, if you will) at 46. That came as a bit of a shock to her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:45 PM Flag
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I'd be happy if this happened to me, but I wouldn't go looking for it with a surrogate either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:49 PM Flag
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Donor eggs and surrogate. No hate though, good for her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:46 PM Flag
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So she's not really having a baby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:47 PM Flag
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Well, she didn't give birth to him. But she has a baby in the same way that people who adopt now have a baby. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:49 PM Flag
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This. She's acquiring one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:55 PM Flag
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She's having one made to order for her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:56 PM Flag
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Gestational carrier implies it is Lucy Lou's own eggs, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:48 PM Flag
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Well, it does mean it wasn't the surrogate's own eggs, but it could have been an egg donor. A lot of gestational surrogacy involves donor eggs now. If Lucy was 35, I wouldn't make this assumption but unless she froze her eggs a few years ago it's very unlikely she used her own at the age of 46. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:51 PM Flag
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You're smart. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:55 PM Flag
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Maybe, it's more that it's not the surrogate's egg [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:53 PM Flag
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Donor sperm too? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:49 PM Flag
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I hate celebrity women who have children in their forties or near-fifties.they act like they have superior eggs that never age, but my doc says they are probably secretly using donor eggs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:53 PM Flag
[ - ] Guy I knew from college (10ish years ago), we've kept in contact somewhat over the years but recently decided to meet up. He's always seemed into me, and I am now single. We went out (he paid for everything despite my insistence), but he didn't try to kiss me at the end of the night and has only messaged me a little bit since. Having a hard time reading this situation. Any thoughts? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:22 PM Flag
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^OP: I should add, the meetup was not meant as a date, but it did feel datey. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:23 PM Flag
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Keep being friends and see what develops. Maybe he wants to take it slow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:23 PM Flag
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OP: Thanks. I was planning on it, but I am so new to dating that I feel out of my element. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:28 PM Flag
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Look sister, now that you are in your 30s you can't expect to have everything handed to you when it comes to romance. If you like this guy then maybe you should ask him out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:31 PM Flag
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Haha, well I inever said I was opposed to that, more just interested in seeing what you guys think. Also, I was the one who initiated this hang out, although he has tried before. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:32 PM Flag
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If it wasn't clear that you were on a date he wouldn't have tried to kiss you. Are you interested in him? Then ask him out and see how he responds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:28 PM Flag
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OP: I might be, if I was the one who suggested we hang out this time, should I wait to see if he asks the next time? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:33 PM Flag
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No. Be bold and brave, make it clear that you want to go on a date. I say this as a man who has been asked to on these quasi-dates before and not known exactly what the woman was after. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:36 PM Flag
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He's not interested. All my boyfriends called the day after the first date if not the same night. If we had texting, they'd have texted at least once every day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:38 PM Flag
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What's it like dating ghetto trash? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:43 PM Flag
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You sound like an idiot. You couldn't even get a first date with these guys. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:47 PM Flag
[ - ] Big dong? 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:21 PM Flag
[ - ] Any biglaw widows on? Does dh's hour create friction and how do you deal with this? Biglaw moms with SAH dh's please jump in too. 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:19 PM Flag
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^^^dh's hours... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:19 PM Flag
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If I wanted a rich DH who would have time for me I would have married a banker, but then again, I'd probably be a golf widow instead. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:26 PM Flag
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Probably true. But at least we wouldn't be sitting home alone late at night like single moms who aren't allowed to date. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:34 PM Flag
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Go for the hedgie. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:28 PM Flag
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I objected a lot when I was in my 30s with small kids, until I realized there were any number of women out there who would happily see him leave me to have sole custody of the kids while they'd get to be #2 and be thrilled to give him all the time he wanted. I looked around changed up my game at that point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:30 PM Flag
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op: Please tell me more, what was your new game plan and is it working well for you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:32 PM Flag
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Well, at first I recognized that I was already a lot more skilled at being by myself and dealing with the kids than I thought I was. In fact, even when he did deal with the kids, I was always criticizing him for not doing things "my way" or as quickly and efficiently as I could. I was wanting him to deal with the kids but setting him up for failure in a way. I was more of a control freak than I admitted. Next I recognized how fortunate I was to be basically paid to raise my kids my way with little to no interference in choices, and that it wasn't because DH was a bad guy, but because it just wasn't his basic inclination as a man. He was a certain kind of parent, and he did (and still does) better by being the parent at a certain distance. They can go to him at any time, but I am the bad cop. He's the good cop. I'm closer with them, but he has the better relationship with them in terms of day to day feelings and frustrations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 12:06 AM Flag
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LAST: no stepmother or blended families or step siblings, no divorce proceedings or dilution of assets. No splitting of holidays between parents or acrimony among extended family. No custody disputes. No reduction in lifestyle on either side. Just an adjustment from our 20s to the people we were in our late 30s. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 12:08 AM Flag
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What do you mean "AS A MAN" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 12:10 AM Flag
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I meant him - just him - just himself - he wasn't the nurturing type. I know some other men clearly are [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 12:10 AM Flag
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Yeah, but would he have necessarily wanted to see you get half of his stuff and then some ("I am used to certain lifestyle, your honor")? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:33 PM Flag
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No, neither one of us wanted that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 12:09 AM Flag
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Advice to my dh from an older law partner: "have just one wife and one house" for financial stability and sanity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:40 PM Flag
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Does it make you nuts to have a second home? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:42 PM Flag
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IDK, some say it's stressful. Certainly expensive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:45 PM Flag
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My DH used to do IB and worked 12+ hour days plus travel and conference calls all weekend. It was tough but we made it work mostly by giving him zero responsibilities at home. I tried very hard to treat staying at home like a 9-5 job and confined every chore except cooking to those hours. We emailed a lot, he would do good night phone calls with DCs and we made Friday date night sacrosanct. We also made to sure catch up over coffee in the morning and sometimes I would stay up late and we would order in and open some wine and stay up too late just hanging out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:54 PM Flag
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The lesson here is that both of you have to work at keeping the relationship going despite the career challenges. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 12:10 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone have bamboo towels? Are they great? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:18 PM Flag
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Watching this. I keep seeing them in the catalog. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:23 PM Flag
[ - ] DH is a real estate developer and has built two houses next to each other near to where my parents live. We took them through one of the houses just to show them the kind of work he does. They LOVED the house. They are keen to downsize and now want to move in. DH wants 500k more than their budget. He was just chatting and said maybe they could buy a block of land and he could build something for them one day. After the conversation, he asked me to unwind what he said as it wasn't really feasible given what he normally does. My mom is obsessed now with his 'business proposition' and keeps asking me if he can meet to discuss. I see this as a recipe for disaster. So many things can go wrong. I am also pregnant and do not need this headache. How do I tell my mom to forget about it? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:18 PM Flag
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He meets with mom and asks what her budget is. He tells her the house is for 500k more but that he could buy a block of land and develop it for what they can afford. End of story. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:24 PM Flag
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So, just $500k out the door? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:40 PM Flag
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Or whatever the market price of the home minus what they can afford would be, sheesh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:44 PM Flag
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Yeah, most of real estate is there land. No one builds a first rate home on some cheap piece of land. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:48 PM Flag
[ - ] Asian-cooking moms, how do you make your rice? I don't like the typical pan on the stove method. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:17 PM Flag
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Most of us use rice cookers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:23 PM Flag
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Any recommendations? I did try a Braun cooker, but it broke after a few times. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:24 PM Flag
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Aroma of a good economical one. Some people like the ones that'll keep rice not for 3 days. But the cheap ones are fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:49 PM Flag
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Rice cooker. Not expensive, and worth it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:24 PM Flag
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Thanks responders! OP :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:25 PM Flag
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Do you store leftovers? How do you reheat it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:30 PM Flag
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Fridge, microwave. You're welcome. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 12:10 AM Flag
[ - ] Hillary is again running not a good campaign. I'm unsure if Bush is even running. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:14 PM Flag
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Hilary is fine. The election is still more than a year away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:17 PM Flag
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Uh [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:19 PM Flag
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Bush has no energy and Clinton is a has been. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:18 PM Flag
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Hillary has not even started running and will wait until the email thing blows over. Bush is sucking and flat, Trump is an insane, rude buffoon, Rubio and the Ohio guy believe in forcing the mother to have a baby with downs or genetic defects or at threat to her life and Huckabee thinks the Duggars are cool. I thought Chris Christie was to loud and rude but it looks like slim pickings. I wish Bloomberg could run! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:22 PM Flag
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Oh yeah, thatts what America wants - a Jewish New Yorker who personifies Wall Street. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:24 PM Flag
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What we really need is a Jewish New Yorker who moved to Vermont and tells people he's a socialist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:56 PM Flag
[ - ] My brother's net worth is approximately 150 million. His best friend asked him for $2,000 to help him in a crisis that was really affecting his ability to care for his children and was in a desperate situation. My brother told him no and said that it made him uncomfortable. Knowing how hard it was for this guy to ask for help, I told him he did the wrong thing. What do you think? 39 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:06 PM Flag
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Yes, he should have given him 2k, what's the big deal. Did your brother inherit his money, or earn it.? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:09 PM Flag
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op: He married into it. His wife had a trust fund that was worth well over 140 million when they married. Then he earned the rest from investing it properly, etc.... Yes, I agree. It is chump change to him. It makes me sad that he didn't help his friend.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:10 PM Flag
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Maybe he feels weird about it because it's not really his money, it's his wife's [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:10 PM Flag
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np: Are you crazy? It is not his money. Wealthy people stay wealthy by not giving money away and even to relatives. If he gave his wife's money away the guy would just come back asking for more. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:25 PM Flag
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What? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:28 PM Flag
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Isn't that what she said? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:34 PM Flag
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I agree with you, assuming this was a one-time thing with his friend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:10 PM Flag
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I think you should get a money order and send it to your brother's friend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:10 PM Flag
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this is a great idea....can I do this anonymously? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:12 PM Flag
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Absolutely. You are doing a good deed, OP! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:18 PM Flag
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Absolutely not. You brother told you this in confidence. If you transfer money behind his back, it will destroy the trust in your relationship. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:14 PM Flag
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Oh please. No where in the post does it say in confidence. You sound like a jerk just like the brother [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:18 PM Flag
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If my best friend asked me for 2k in a crisis I would give it to them and I dont make nearly that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:12 PM Flag
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me too. i have lent money to friends, interest free, over the years in about that amount. I trusted them to pay me back, they did, but 2K is not a life changing amount for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:46 PM Flag
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I've been in this situation. It's wrong to mix money and friendship. Your brother made the correct decision. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:13 PM Flag
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Wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:34 PM Flag
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Your dumb brother should have offered to loan him $2k at a nominal interest rate...say 2%, sheesh. Anyone who can only make 10 million dollars after starting with 140 million is an idiot, and your brother and his wife are textbook examples of that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:13 PM Flag
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I would have given the friend the money but there may be issues w/his dw that you don't know about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:15 PM Flag
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If he doesnt have $2K he can access without his wife knowing about it there certainly is a problem [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:18 PM Flag
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At that net worth, 2K is pocket change. Fake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:15 PM Flag
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It changes the dynamics of the friendship. What happens if the friend needs more money? The "friend" should have known better than to ask. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:18 PM Flag
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For 2K? Really? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:20 PM Flag
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+1 it's not 40,000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:21 PM Flag
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It's not the amount that matters. It's the act of giving/lending money to friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:22 PM Flag
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In this case I think you just give the money and don't expect it to get paid back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:27 PM Flag
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So you wouldn't give/lend your friend $20? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:36 PM Flag
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This. It's really about at what threshold do people become uncomfortable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:47 PM Flag
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If it's really his friend, it seems really hard to understand why. If it's a 'friend' maybe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:16 PM Flag
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Fake, fake, fake [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:18 PM Flag
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op: It's really not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:20 PM Flag
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If it's really not, what's it like to have a brother who is such a massive success while you are left writing about him on message boards? Who told you that he refused to lend his best friend money for his kids? Why don't you lend the best friend money? How do you know so much about this whole situation? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:31 PM Flag
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MYOB [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:26 PM Flag
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I never call fake but this is fake. It makes no sense because your brother is worth only what he makes. Anyone with a 140 mill dollars has it in a trust and it is hers and not his. It is like asking her parents to loan 2k to a loser friend who go his car impounded. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:28 PM Flag
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he should be ashamed of himself. my brother makes 70k a year and occasionally helps his childhood friend who has had a rough go of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:34 PM Flag
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tough call, but usually once you give money, it changes things [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:37 PM Flag
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We gave my sister 1700 once to pay her rent. Our HHI at the time was 65k (I was in school working part time temp jobs). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:38 PM Flag
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I'd do it once. But once can always turn into just the first time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:50 PM Flag
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If I were your brother, I'd give him the money but feel uneasy that this would be just the first ask. No way to win on this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.15, 11:58 PM Flag
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It was his wife's money. He probably felt he couldn't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.28.15, 12:01 AM Flag
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