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General Topics 06.28.16, 06:34 PM Flag
[ - ] Lilly Pulitzer suits my short curvy body and the colors flatter my olive skin. And the dresses are comfortable. But I never see anyone wearing it in Manhattan :-( 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:30 PM Flag
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So what? You do you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:30 PM Flag
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because they are too cool [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:31 PM Flag
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I wear it in Manhattan and I sometimes see others. Though I'm really not feeling some of the more recent Lilly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:34 PM Flag
[ - ] Any law part time moms? What is your arrangement and pay? Are you happy? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:29 PM Flag
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i know tons of law sahms like myself. where are these part time jobs?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:36 PM Flag
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I'm not part-time, but I work a reduced billing schedule, and probably only to the end of this year. It's been a good arrangement. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:36 PM Flag
[ - ] Truthfully I dont make all that much money. However I like to work and have my own source of income. Anyone else feel this way? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:25 PM Flag
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Of course. Lots of us do. My mom always told me to do this growing up, too - my dad was a lawyer and she could have been sah, but she always worked at least part time to stay in the game and know she was never in her marriage because she was "trapped" but because it was a choice. It also can help prevent a patriarchal power dynamic in the relatinship [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:27 PM Flag
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So sad that keeping your parents relationship sane cost your mom most of her free time! Avoiding marriage altogether might have been better for her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:31 PM Flag
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This. Can't imagine being in a relationship where I HAD to work out of fear of being trapped. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:34 PM Flag
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Yes. The key for me is staying at or less than 20 hours a week...more than that I start to feel diminishing returns. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:27 PM Flag
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No one @@ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:27 PM Flag
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Through very high investment skill and very high savings rate, I was able to become a SAHM (or retire if you wish). It's not that I didn't enjoy my job, I did enjoy it. But I was able to enjoy doing other things even more, which means: high cost of opportunity. I value my free time much more than most people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:28 PM Flag
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please explain your investment skill and how you apply it in today's mkts [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:36 PM Flag
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i feel this way but I work from home and my kids are in school. There is no way I could deal with the nanny drama, I would not do my job if I needed FT child care [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:30 PM Flag
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Same. I don't like to have strangers in my house either. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:31 PM Flag
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I would do it in a heartbeat if I could find one. Former I banker [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:31 PM Flag
[ - ] What's the UB opinion of toy guns (Nerf style) for kids? I am assuming totally opposed or am I wrong? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:23 PM Flag
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You are wrong. But you knew that. There is never 100% agreement [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:26 PM Flag
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Fine with it....do not think it turns kids into deranged killers [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:26 PM Flag
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My home houses an armory. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:26 PM Flag
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Ily [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:27 PM Flag
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I like the Nerf ones, also like all the water guns around the pool. We used to do that as kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:26 PM Flag
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My child really like the noise of a cap gun, but we only let him use it at our country house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:28 PM Flag
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My 9yo ds loves Nerf guns. I struggled with allowing him to have them, but dh convinced me it was okay. He pointed out that he had realistic looking guns growing up his entire childhood. He does not possess a firearm and supports gun control. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:28 PM Flag
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Blaming kids for crazy stuff the adults do is ridiculous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:29 PM Flag
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I'm fine with them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:30 PM Flag
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I am fine with them. Studies show that even kids with no exposure to guns create them out of other items like sticks. Boys just like to battle whether it be with swords, lasers, guns etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:31 PM Flag
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Yes. I didn't used to let my boys play with guns. Then I noticed them using basically anything as a gun and realized it wasn't worth limiting it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:32 PM Flag
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My kids love them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:31 PM Flag
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We gave in because DS' schoolmates have organized Nerf-gun play in the schoolyard many evenings - I had a weird feeling about it, but now I don't care. It seems fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:32 PM Flag
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Don't care. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:35 PM Flag
[ - ] Brooklyn, trying to get it.....honestly I have lived in NYC for 13 years and been to Brooklyn maybe twice....when I start to read a restaurant review in the Times or NYMag and it says Brooklyn, I just stop.....Maybe I should go spend a day there like a tourist would - okay where would I go to shop/eat/walk around? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:20 PM Flag
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I think it's just a matter of personal preference. I've lived in both Manhattan and Brooklyn and prefer Brooklyn. It just seems more neighborhoody and less concrete jungle. I don't know if one day in Brooklyn is going to make you like the place if you've been actively avoiding it for over a decade. It's just another area. Brooklyn Heights and Carroll Gardens are cute. But why don't you try one of the restaurants you read about? If they're well-reviewed, make a field trip. We're not that far away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:29 PM Flag
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Brooklyn is gigantic! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:32 PM Flag
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This for me is what makes SATC feel like such a dinosaur, all the talk about how moving to Brooklyn was like moving to the ultimate state of ignominy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:32 PM Flag
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Similarly, the episode from Seinfeld in the 90s where I think Elaine was scrambling to keep her 212 number so she wouldn't look like she was from anywhere but Manhattan. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Letting a 5 yo boy bring a toy machine gun to the playground just after Orlando is idiotic 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:16 PM Flag
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Oh please. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:17 PM Flag
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I think either you're okay with toy guns or you're not but what happened in Orlando changes nothing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:17 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:19 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:19 PM Flag
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Orlando aside, it's just fucking tacky. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:18 PM Flag
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It's fine [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:19 PM Flag
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are there toy machine guns? That seems odd. FWIW, I had some pretty militant boys in my neighborhood growing up and played "guns" with them - but we used wooden rifle type toy guns. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:20 PM Flag
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There are all kinds of toy guns. The kids in my neighborhood played with every kind growing up. Seems less common now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:29 PM Flag
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I don't have an opinion on that. But, I wouldn't let my kids play with a gun that isn't obviously fake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:28 PM Flag
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Toy guns are required to have that orange plastic cap now to denote they are fake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Please answer honestly: if your DH made 750K (stable with potential upside) and you made 200K, and you had 2 small kids (toddler and newborn), would you work? Assume you had a 50 hr a week job, with minimal travel, average benefits, limited upside (maybe 5% a yr). Also assume that you could get back in after taking 3-5 yrs off, but would start off in the same place, not better or worse. 39 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:16 PM Flag
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I would not [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:16 PM Flag
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No, I would stay home with the kids. This was basically my situation, but with only one child. So happy with our decision, esp after watching all the nannies around us over the years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:18 PM Flag
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OP. Thanks, this is how I'm leaning. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:19 PM Flag
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Is this your situation? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:18 PM Flag
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OP. Yes. Really want to SAH. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:18 PM Flag
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Does dh agree? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:19 PM Flag
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OP. Yes, he's fine with this short term plan. He really wants me to go back to work after the youngest is like 3, which I plan to. I think his fear is I might never work again. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:21 PM Flag
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You really cant go back until 7-8 in my opinion [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:24 PM Flag
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Then do it. I can't tell you how wonderful it is to KNOW your children are safe and sound every second of the day. The mental energy of worrying about them was something I didn't realize until I didn't do it anymore. Hard to describe but HUGE [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:24 PM Flag
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OP. Thank you!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:28 PM Flag
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You are welcome. Best of luck in making your decision [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:32 PM Flag
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If you are serious and not stirring up the pot, you would be an idiot to work in this situation unless you have years of schooling in your field [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:23 PM Flag
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Op. I am dead serious!! But I do indeed have years of schooling in my field. I am of course leaning towards quitting and am actually surprised that UB supports this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:26 PM Flag
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^TBH I'm getting a lot of shit from in-laws, etc like "you're a doctor and you're quitting?!" or "you're a doctor and your just a stay at home mom?" stuff like that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:27 PM Flag
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^*you're [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:27 PM Flag
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So you have weird relatives. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:33 PM Flag
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OP. LOL. Yeah, I think they're worried that all the burden is going to be on their son or that he's being taken advantage of or something like that. The ironic part is staying home with 2 kids is longer hours and harder work that my current job! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:35 PM Flag
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how old are you? I was happy in my career (and happy that I decided to be a SAHM), but I was 39 when I had my kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:36 PM Flag
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Nope [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:18 PM Flag
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If I loved my job and it was a fulfilling part of my life, of course. If I hated my job, probably not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:19 PM Flag
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OP. I don't love or hate it. It's fine, but I really want to be home with my kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:21 PM Flag
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I would work even if i made 50k a year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:19 PM Flag
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i would stay home [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:21 PM Flag
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Common Sense Mom No. 2: I'd stay home til they were safely in elementary school...then go back until they are in MS....as you know, when you take out taxes at a high rate from your salary you are not making all that much. We made same. I quit finally. My salary started working out to such a low number after taxes it wasn't worth the trade off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:23 PM Flag
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Also depends where you live and if you are doing public/private in city....private is so $$$ that sooner or later you will want any extra income just for that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:24 PM Flag
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OP. Exactly. After 50% taxes (we are in the City), childcare, work related costs, plus the additional stress of scheduling, etc on the family, I think it's better to have a parent at home. DH agrees short term, but I'm afraid to get off the wheel. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:25 PM Flag
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Jump [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:26 PM Flag
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I worked for many years....and was really glad to have those years at home....i worked again until kid into MS and then took off from 8th grade to his graduation...very happy I did plus he was playing sports at a level where I had to get him around.....NYC taxes just made it so not worth it to work. That said I will warn you that staying home with young kids is much HARDER than working and I had a hard job, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:28 PM Flag
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NP But is OP on track for retirement? OP will be missing out on a lot of retirement space by not working. I SAH because the numbers didn't work well for us but I sure missed the retirement space. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:36 PM Flag
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I would cut back but still work. I was absolutely miserable staying at home, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:23 PM Flag
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NO FREAKING WAY!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:24 PM Flag
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Added emphasis to be as honest as possible. And it's not that I didn't enjoy my job, I did enjoy it. But I was able to enjoy doing other things even more, which means: high cost of opportunity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:26 PM Flag
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Do I LOVE what I do? If not I would quit and try to carve out a career doing something I like better either immediately or in a few years, perhaps through freelancing or owning my own business. I'm not talking about selling Pampered Chef or making my friends buy my self-designed jewelry, but someone making $200K should have decent, transferable skills. And having another child, if you want one, would also be a possibility once the 50 hours is removed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:29 PM Flag
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^^but as a caution: I am the mom of a middle schooler and really it is true that they need you more as they get older, so if you dont go back in a few years may find yourself staying home longer than you intended. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:31 PM Flag
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OP. Well, I'm a physician, so I'm not sure how that would translate into a business job, but I know I could get back in in a few years as long as I kept up my accreditations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:32 PM Flag
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CS Mom2: yes as a physician you can definitely go back to work and you are lucky to have that credential....so quit...stay home til they are both in elementary school...work for 6-7 years until they are into MS or halfway through MS....save all of that income for college or private....stay home through high school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:35 PM Flag
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I mean... not until baby was a few months old. But yes. Flame away, but I don't want to stay home with a baby all day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:30 PM Flag
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DH makes a little more than this and I make a little less than you and I work. My hours are closer to 40 though and DCs are in elementary school. They are busy all day and a lot of the moms I know at home aren't thrilled because it was harder than they thought to get back into the workforce. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:32 PM Flag
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Yes, and this is coming from a SAHM. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:36 PM Flag
[ - ] Now that the 6th season of Game of Thrones is over with, could you suggest another TV series with great writing and awesome acting should I try? Loved The Wire, Breaking Bad... no into girly stuff like OITNB or Girls. 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:14 PM Flag
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Mad Men, The Americans, Better Call Saul [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:15 PM Flag
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I'll give "Better Call Saul" a try. Thanks! Already finished Mad Men, but I didn't like it that much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:33 PM Flag
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Happy Valley [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:16 PM Flag
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Shameless? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:19 PM Flag
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Queen of south is good so far. The housewives. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:19 PM Flag
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It took me a long time to like Shameless. I love it now, but I didn't like the earlier seasons. YMMV. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:21 PM Flag
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Ymmv? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:22 PM Flag
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your mileage may vary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:23 PM Flag
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Oh! I loved it from the beginning. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:27 PM Flag
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Masterpiece Mystery: Endeavour, Sherlock, Wallander. The "real" game of thrones: "Wolf Hall" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:24 PM Flag
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I love all these but never heard of Wolf Hall. Thanks! NP [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:34 PM Flag
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"The "real" game of thrones: "Wolf Hall" WOW!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:34 PM Flag
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Foyle's War, Doc Martin [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:26 PM Flag
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Peaky Blinders. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:32 PM Flag
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Thanks! I'll give it a try [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:34 PM Flag
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Battlestar Galactica was incredible, Sherlock, the last ship, The American is amazing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:33 PM Flag
[ - ] Only 6 months pregnant, but the fatigue seems to be setting in again already. Just fell asleep at my desk. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:09 PM Flag
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I slept a lot during my first trimester [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:11 PM Flag
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Aw. It takes a lot of energy to grow a human [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:12 PM Flag
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Congratulations :) I totally get it...I mentally checked out of work around 6 months. Left work over a month before I was due and haven't been back since. It's definitely different but i would not trade it for the world. Db is now 5 months old. Hang in there. You can do it! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:14 PM Flag
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I was pregnant with #1 at 32 and #2 at 37 - the difference was like night and day. I was a miserable lump in the first trimester with #2. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:35 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm celebrating the end of the school year with Linguine with Clams. What about you? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:03 PM Flag
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Your kids are just finishing now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:07 PM Flag
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Public school got out today [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:07 PM Flag
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YEP! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:11 PM Flag
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Can't decide. But will eat out [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:08 PM Flag
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My Linguine with Clams cost me about $2.50. Watching the movie that DCs picked while eating it at home. If there were more people like me, our consumption-based econ would collapse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:12 PM Flag
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NP - how 2.50? Please tell me!!! Post recipe. THANKS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:13 PM Flag
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You are my spirit animal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:14 PM Flag
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Where did you get linguine with clams for $2.50? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:14 PM Flag
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A frozen dinner for one? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:17 PM Flag
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From jacks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:17 PM Flag
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np: It's pretty cheap to make it yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:18 PM Flag
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THIS! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:20 PM Flag
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One clam? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:20 PM Flag
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Yep. Linguine, olive oil, can of clams, some spices. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:22 PM Flag
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Please post your recipe! How many does it serve? Thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:34 PM Flag
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Is the school year just ending now?? (no kids) I thought early June. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:36 PM Flag
[ - ] I think Donald Trump modeled his campaign after the Lego movie. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:00 PM Flag
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Am not sure what u mean. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:03 PM Flag
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You have to watch the Lego movie, I swear president Business is Donald Trump and his plans are exactly like his campaign. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:06 PM Flag
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No, it's a story line from 30 Rock. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 God I wish that show was still on the air, I'd love to see Tina's take on everything going on today! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:08 PM Flag
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Nah. "President Business" is much closer to Hillary Clinton, who is not only Wall Street's puppet, also cashed into her "pay to play" through her Clinton Foundation. [ Reply | More ]
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He was going to build a wall in the movie. [ Reply | More ]
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lol! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:05 PM Flag
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Everything is cool when you're part of a team! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:27 PM Flag
[ - ] Just remember - if something is wrong in your life it is probably your husbands fault. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 05:59 PM Flag
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Are you the depressed DH? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:04 PM Flag
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we remember from you posting this yesterday [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:18 PM Flag
[ - ] Porn question: How many of you watch with your DH? Dh really likes me to watch with him in bed before sex. He's not into anything crazy - it's just your typical (??) one-guy-one-girl having porn sex. I don't really find it to be a high turn on - I find it partly gross (I'm not a prude, I don't think, but I just don't think that the act of sex looks all that attractive, as good as it feels :))… partly offensive in a "I took women's study classes in college and this is objectifying women" sort of way… and actually partly boring (it's different versions of the same ting over and over - guy goes down on girl, girl gives BJ, sex in different positions while she mews like a kitten). But I don't HATE it and he is super into it and it doesn't seem to be inhibiting his ability to be turned on by me, so I go along. Anyone have similar experience? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 05:57 PM Flag
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OP: Oh, and we have tried different sites… he will look for "porn for women" and get all excited that he found something that he thinks I will really love… but it's really all the same. I've tried to explain that 99% of these are just geared toward men 0 not many women get turned on watching a BJ - but maybe I am wrong??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 05:58 PM Flag
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no, and i would find it irritating/problematic if he needed that to perform. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:02 PM Flag
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"this is objectifying women"--well, it's objectifying the men too. It's not like the pizza boy has some great character arc where he realizes that what drives his sex addiction is his sadness at losing his mother to leukemia when he was 7. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:06 PM Flag
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We used to have him watch porn on the iPad while I did the job downstairs. I realized it was better if I didn't look at what he was looking at, one time I saw a bunch of japanese school girls masturbating as a group on a roof. Has been a while since then, though, I presume I have been subtracted as the second human element of that arrangement. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:09 PM Flag
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He would watch porn while you gave him a blow job? I would find that humiliating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:25 PM Flag
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Not at all. It was really about my getting out of there faster so he would go to sleep and I could get back to staying up later doing my thing in peace. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:36 PM Flag
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We are similar, although the roles are reversed (I am DW and I'm the one who likes watching more, I think). That may be because I choose the porn... and it's pretty out there - probably considered "something crazy" by UB standards. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:23 PM Flag
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What??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:24 PM Flag
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Which part wasn't clear ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:25 PM Flag
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It is male-objectifying male-torture porn. I tell him what I feel like watching and he goes and finds it for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:36 PM Flag
[ - ] I think it is ridiculous how everything gets blamed on immigrants. If you are threatened by an immigrant who barely speaks English taking your job, maybe you should consider a more challenging field of work. 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 05:51 PM Flag
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fear of the "other" has always been a powerful tool [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 05:54 PM Flag
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I think it helps perpetuate a poor black (and to some extent white) underclass. I'm not worried about my job, but I am concerned about race relations, the increasing bifurcation of society, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 05:55 PM Flag
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You're talking about a less educated (perhaps less intelligent) population who tends to have a fear-based, un-nuanced world view. They blame as a problem-solving technique. I know - I spring from the working class bigot type. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 05:55 PM Flag
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Allowing, and indeed encouraging unlimited immigration of non-English speaking low skilled people will dramatically increase competition for low skill jobs. Why is this good? Your answer is that if people don't have the education or native intelligence to hold highly paid jobs that it's their fault that salaries and job availability has become much tougher for them as a result. You may no longer be working class but you're every bit the contemptuous bigot that you were growing up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:01 PM Flag
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Millions of your fellow citizens lack the ability to move up in to the professions. They are trying as hard as they can but can not do it. We need to protect them and preserve their jobs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:04 PM Flag
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Protecting them should mean things like more accessible education and Healthcare not keeping them in low level jobs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:07 PM Flag
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We're in agreement there! Absolutely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:11 PM Flag
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You're right - a bit of backlash is normal when you're swimming upstream, unsupported. I'm fine with it. Not fine with parents talking about how disturbing it is that gays can now marry or that transgendered people can use their preferred bathroom in front of my dc. I do not sidestep my contempt for the bigoted type. I own it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:05 PM Flag
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NP: IMO, no one is firing US citizens in order to hire immigrants (legal or otherwise). the industries that hire them cnanot find people to do the work. immigrants, by their very definition, will move to where they hear there's a job. they will leav ehteir kids behind eithe rin their home country or in another US place to be cared for by relatives in order to go where they might find a job. they will bunk with 10 other people who are from the same place as them so they can live on a pittance and sasve hteir money to be able to bring their family, etc. US citizens who are low skilled, uneducated, aren't willing to do this and often don't have the family and community assistance to do it. THAT is the problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:18 PM Flag
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How do you feel about H1-b visas? They are ostensibly educated & are a threat to other educated people in this country. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:25 PM Flag
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You can't just move from ignorant tomato picker to dermatologist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 05:59 PM Flag
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The MC dermatologist begins to kick and scream after realizing that their school sucks in part because of the illegal Latino kids who don't even know English. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:07 PM Flag
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Then... it realizes that they are on the hook for the inflated tuition & board cost of college for each of their kids, in part, because those Latino kids of illegal immigrants need a free ride given their low reported HHI. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:08 PM Flag
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but the child of an immigrant tomato picker can grow up to be a dermatologist! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:19 PM Flag
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What about the American born tomato picker? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:25 PM Flag
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I;m not threatened by them- I just don't like they are breaking the rules, stepping over others in the legal line, and might get rewarded for it with a voting ballot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:04 PM Flag
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Nobody takes more welfare in NYC than illegal Latinos and illegal Asians. Among the legal residents milking the welfare system, religious jews at top takers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:09 PM Flag
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ok, that too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:12 PM Flag
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The MC got the memo when even Disney fired its white MC employees but demanded them to train their Indian replacements. Too bad we didn't start outsourcing labor in USA from the top to the bottom, starting at the CEO level. That's where the real savings compensation-wise are for us, the shareholders. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:06 PM Flag
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Fuck that - immigrants effect everything that happens in this country - schools, job market, housing, crime. The only reason people won't look at it is race. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:18 PM Flag
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Whites don't contribute to any of this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:24 PM Flag
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Not everyone has the mental capacity to learn a specialized skill. Some citizens are low-iq stupid, they really aren't capable of more. Some kids still don't finish high school. They deserve to have their jobs given to a foreign national? What do you want them to do all day? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:20 PM Flag
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Don't sell them short. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:24 PM Flag
[ - ] I was walking down the street and a man walked by and picked up a cigarette butt. He carried it a few steps and then threw it back down. Was he considering smoking it? Wtf just happened? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 05:50 PM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 05:51 PM Flag
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So glad I'm not an addict. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 05:52 PM Flag
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Yes, we're glad too for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 05:53 PM Flag
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I've seen that a lot over the years. Many people empty out the remaining tobacco and roll their own. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 05:51 PM Flag
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So gross. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 05:54 PM Flag
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The things people do when they are addicts...that's just gross. I see it ALL the time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:01 PM Flag
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During times of tobacco shortage, people would take tobacco out of cigarette butts and re-roll it. I suspect that that's what he was doing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:01 PM Flag
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I saw a woman smoke a cigarette from the street the other day - it made me so sad for her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 06.28.16, 06:12 PM Flag
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