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[ - ] Do you give you babysitter money for dinner? I had a babysitter last night from 7 to 10. In the past she has asked for money for dinner. Last night, I had ordered a pizza for the kids and said that she could have that for dinner. She said she "didn't feel like pizza" since she had it a few nights ago and wanted to order something else. I left her $20 - no change! 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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how old is she? i've never had a sitter demand like that. most sitters say they have eaten or pizza would have been fine. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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She is about 20. I pay her pretty well, $20 an hr to watch two sleeping children. I need a new sitter [ Reply | More ]
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I hate that. I always feel compelled to give our sitters extra $$ for dinner, but wonder why they can't eat what the kids are eating. I never get change back either (no matter now much I leave) and always feel taken advantage of. Unfortunately I think this is just something that babysitters have come to expect. [ Reply | More ]
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You people are insane [ Reply | More ]
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said the sitter who likes to order a sushi deluxe [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 04:09 PM Flag
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why? [ Reply | More ]
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Give her $10 for food. Anything beyond she can add to. That's enough for a sandwich or an entree from a chinese restaurant [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] My friend lives far away and her mom died. What should I sent? Any ideas of places to send food from? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Zabars [ Reply | More ]
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Most people like edible arrangements. Nice fruit to nosh on and it's local [ Reply | More ]
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Better to send things that will not go bad in a day or two. That she can pick at over time. [ Reply | More ]
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Disagree. Lots of people will be coming through and a healthy option is always nice. [ Reply | More ]
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i hate edible arrangements [ Reply | More ]
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Those are really gross. I vote for real food. [ Reply | More ]
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Arby's [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] How often are you visiting your beach house during these months? Where is it? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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January and February we never go. We are in Southampton. [ Reply | More ]
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Cutchogue, on Peconic Bay. We never go after New Years until it starts warming up. Maybe once or twice at most. We prefer the city during the cold. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] In NYC, how do logistics typically work when you are in the market to buy a new place but need to sell your existing one first? Are contingency offers even considered? or do most people sell their existing place and then start the buying process? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 03:51 PM Flag
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hubbard clause? [ Reply | More ]
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^^^but any contingency will always make a deal harder. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: yeah, I'm trying to figure out if anyone even does this or whether I should just go ahead and get my apt on the market ASAP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 03:59 PM Flag
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I have never heard of a contingency clause in Manhattan. Not sure it would be accepted at most co-ops. People I know have generally put their places on the market and then started looking, tried to time it as close as they can and stay at a relatives, s/t rental or a hotel in the interim. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 03:59 PM Flag
[ - ] Question to parents who have experienced both: which group of parents would you consider to be nicer, suburban or NYC? I realize that I am asking for some generalizations here but I am just curious to hear about people's experiences. Thanks. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 03:49 PM Flag
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NYC all the way. Suburban moms are so much more clique-y and cookie cutter. [ Reply | More ]
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Unlike the UES moms with the same hair, goyard bag, moncler coat [ Reply | More ]
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UES is a small neighborhood in NYC. [ Reply | More ]
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Grante I only know HM, spence, Rodeph and Browning parents, I would definitely say suburban. [ Reply | More ]
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The city kids above are cocky and annoying [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 03:58 PM Flag
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OP: also, what differences have people noticed in the two groups of kids in terms of character and behavior. I don't care about which group is smarter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 03:54 PM Flag
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NYC kids tend to be a bit more worldly and suburbs kids are more into sports. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 04:07 PM Flag
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Haved lived in both. Both are kind of awful, but in different ways. [ Reply | More ]
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Same thing. Kids pulled out of suburban public for private [ Reply | More ]
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Which suburb are you considering and I will give you inside info [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 04:05 PM Flag
[ - ] Ex dh's new wife hates our dc. It's open hostility. She's making him choose in the most passive aggressive way. Dc don't want to visit and he doesn't force them to -- if she's away they'll go to his place. I haven't voiced my opinion but I want to kill this bitch. DD's are 14 and 12. Very good girls. Anyone btdt? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 03:41 PM Flag
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They are teenagers. No one likes teenagers besides their parents. Use this as an opportunity to teach you DD's how to deal with people who suck with grace. Its a good life lesson. [ Reply | More ]
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you=your [ Reply | More ]
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I hear you but they really are good. New wife is a total mean girl and puts them down constantly. They swear they never respond. Xdh never says anything in their defense. Why should they have to put up with the bullying? [ Reply | More ]
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They are old enough to deal. Let them [ Reply | More ]
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What bothers me more is the way xdh just stands by and lets it happen. I want my dc to have a good relationship with their father but they're hurt and will be over him before long. I worry about the long term. [ Reply | More ]
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Good advice. He's their dad and they need to spend time w/him. It's up to him to make the peace. [ Reply | More ]
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Sorry but girls that age are the absolute worst. Are they rude to her? Why is she so hostile to them. [ Reply | More ]
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You are projecting. My dd and her closest friends were truly sweet teens. Almost seemed young for thir ages in that regard, but the were polite and pleasant. [ Reply | More ]
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OP my girls are the same. The woman is just a bitch period. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 03:54 PM Flag
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OP within earshot new wife said "they're not mine. I don't want them." Just blatant stuff like that. Complaining to their faces how much they look like me and it makes her uncomfortable. Crazy [ Reply | More ]
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I don't know if it is worse when they go out of their way to cozy up. My ex has my dd serving as maid of honor at their wedding, he promised her a car. I wish she would push my dd away and show her true colors. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 03:49 PM Flag
[ - ] who do parents blame when their kids have autism and have not gotten vaccinated? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 03:39 PM Flag
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Satan. [ Reply | More ]
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We talking 'bout the 'tism? [ Reply | More ]
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Obama [ Reply | More ]
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On the upside, the 'Tism means less need for a 529! [ Reply | More ]
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old man sperm [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 04:06 PM Flag
[ - ] Neighbor told me that in addition to registering for our zoned gen ed, a school that my dcs have enjoyed but has a mediocre reputation, she is applying to other zoned schools on the off-chance that they find themselves underenrolled and will take out of zone kids. It really hurt my feelings that she would do that and tell me about it when she knows how happy my kids are in the zoned school. I told her that she hurt my feelings and she looked surprised. Was I wrong? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 03:31 PM Flag
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How is this about you? Seriously. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 03:32 PM Flag
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You were too sensitive. Each to their own.... [ Reply | More ]
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You are way overthinking. Also, she won't get an out of zone spot in any decent school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 03:34 PM Flag
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Yes. You are wrong. To identify with a school for your child to this extent is not normal. You feel what you feel but sharing this was completely OTT [ Reply | More ]
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Yes you are wrong. It is tough out there and everyone is just trying to make the best possible choices for their kids. Truthfully, if you had the chance to go to a better school wouldn't you take it even if you left your neighbor behind? [ Reply | More ]
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My neighbor used to go on and on about our assigned public elementary school and how great it was. However, test results were and always have been pretty bad. I've never asked her about it but lo and behold her kids all have been switched to a different magnet school. Eventually you may find your "mediocre public" is not a good fit for your kids so quit judging her. [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Thanks for the reality check. My mom told me that I probably should not have said that to her. I guess she was right. Oh well. [ Reply | More ]
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I have a neighbor who chose SA over our strong gen ed, where my DC have done great and we've had an enormously positive experience. It annoys me to hear her talk about it, but it's such a small blip on my radar that I just ignore and move on with my day. [ Reply | More ]
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like OP, why do you care at all? [ Reply | More ]
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np: we also bucked the common wisdom when it came to school choice. it's hard not to feel a little defensive. I get it. But you just have to learn to let these things roll off. [ Reply | More ]
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Why does this even annoy you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 04:09 PM Flag
[ - ] Lesser race: Jews or Italians? Obviously Jews are smarter and Italians stronger/more genetically fit. But taking culture, genetics, achievements, etc into account, which is the lesser race? 24 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 03:31 PM Flag
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"Jewish" and "Italian" aren't races. [ Reply | More ]
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both white [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 03:32 PM Flag
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lol.no. [ Reply | More ]
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lol.yes. [ Reply | More ]
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OR. ? Yes, they are. As what race would you identify them? [ Reply | More ]
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not white. [ Reply | More ]
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There are black Jews [ Reply | More ]
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anti-italianess is lame. i like italians. they are good european people. yeah, guidos are trash, but so are Anglo-Saxon chavs. every euro country has its riff-raff. italians have a long respectable history, and have contributed a lot to western civilization. [ Reply | More ]
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I would agree, except the guinea trash that inhabits LI and NJ are some of the most-debased and disgusting low order whites I have ever encountered [ Reply | More ]
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Agreed. NYC Italians are the most-trashy whites I know [ Reply | More ]
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have you ever been to appalachia? trashy italians at least tend to hold down jobs and have functioning families, they're just very loud and obnoxious about it. [ Reply | More ]
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I have. The people are much more genetically debased, but their culture is great compared to the Italian Americans u see in NYC. [ Reply | More ]
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i disagree here entirely. i think you're getting a little too hung up on style over substance and da yoots. appalachian oxy-riddled white trash culture is poisonous and self-destructive. trashy italian culture is really off-putting and obnoxious but it at least can sustain functioning communities [ Reply | More ]
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Your point has some merit. Maybe if I was daily exposed to meth-addled trailer trash in the way that B&T Italians infest my life, I might have a different view [ Reply | More ]
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I've not only been to Appalachia but I grew up there. I agree with your assessment. However, I think there are stereotypes in both groups, and there is a lot of strong family sentiment in Appalachia too, just different economic conditions in a lot of respects. Two very different cultures and both have negatives and positives. [ Reply | More ]
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Now I really want to know what Scandinavian riff-raff are like [ Reply | More ]
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Aren't there skinheads in Scandinavian countries? They're probably bald and an ugly shade of white, with weird tattoos. [ Reply | More ]
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Death metal idiots. It stems from boredom. [ Reply | More ]
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I am Italian American, have 2 Ivy degrees and a HHI of over $1 million. No one in my family even remotely resembles any of the Sopranos, Jersey Shore or Real Housewives characters (and I've met plenty of other NY/NJ Italian Americans who don't fit that stereotype either). For some reason, Italian Americans are one of the only ethnic groups it's considered acceptable to mock, and it bugs me. [ Reply | More ]
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I understand, and I'm not Italian. People on here (when they bring this stuff up) aren't very smart to begin with...they believe all the stereotypes and don't have a lot of critical thinking skills. [ Reply | More ]
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They have to pick the lowest class Italians to mock because most people are otherwise jealous of the way normal, middle class Italians live. We value hard work but don't value it above family, we are proud of a job well done but are prouder of the fact that the whole family still gathers around the table on Sunday. We are among the most generous and welcoming people - try walking into an Italian's house and not being fed a meal, no matter when you show up and if they were expecting you or not - and know that the purpose of life is enjoyment, not money or power. We don't believe in nannies or nursing homes, and your parents aren't looking to dump you and send you out on your own the minute you turn 18. [ Reply | More ]
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Amen! [ Reply | More ]
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Jew married to Italian here. My children will comprise the master race. [ Reply | More ]
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ILY [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] If an autistic person is autistic because of a vaccine, are they also vaccinated against the illness the vaccine was for? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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They are not autistic because if the vaccine. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
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Vaccines DO NOT cause autism. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 03:46 PM Flag
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They def. cause the 'tism. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I am so depressed looking at my HS teenager's report card. Part of me say it's her life and I have to let go. The other part of me say she is my child and I have to do something to help her. Any advices from teenage moms? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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How bad is it. Why is it bad? [ Reply | More ]
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I'm sure you don't want advice from teenage moms! LOL! I'm 52 and raised two teens. Need more info: grade range, type of school, if you feel DD really has what it takes to do better at her school. [ Reply | More ]
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LOL. Moms of teenagers. You see I am so depressed that I am not even coherent [ Reply | More ]
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My older son did ok in high school - not nearly what he could have done, but ok. My younger son though....got progressively worse year to year and it made our home life very tough. He's extremely obdurate and basically there was nothing that ended up being successful for me. He had - predictably - a very unsuccessful college search and only got into one, which is where he is now, and seems to be doing ok. I still have post traumatic stress from the calls I'd get from the school. I feel for you and wish I had something more helpful. I guess the most helpful thing I can offer is to not let it seriously damage or interfere with your relationship. [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks for any help. She transferred from a public school to a top private for HS. Was a straight A student at public. Struggled in 9th grade (almost failed and academic probation), a B student in 10th grade, and now 4 (A) and 2 (B) in 11th grade. I am depressed that she had to try so hard and give up so much sleep and social life to get there.. ! [ Reply | More ]
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np--That's a terrific report card and trajectory. You are way off-base with your original post. [ Reply | More ]
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+1. If she keeps this up, she will be in a good position for decent colleges. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 03:56 PM Flag
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No. Her 9th and 10th grade report card will hurt her overall gpa and get her out of the game. [ Reply | More ]
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You should have left her in public. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 03:47 PM Flag
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I agreed. I knew i made a mistake in 9th grade and offered her to transfer out, but she refused. Since then, I had to painfully watch her struggle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 03:49 PM Flag
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Hopefully colleges give her credit for improving. Otherwise, her 9th grade report card will kill her admission chance. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 03:55 PM Flag
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Colleges love to see a trajectory of improvement. It shows tenacity. All HS kids in rigorous schools ( public and private) are working like dogs. That's a given. College is actually a lot easier. Applaud her hard work! She will do fine. There are many, many, many college options out there for hardworking students. [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you. I just can not bear to think that I put her in this school and put her through the suffering. [ Reply | More ]
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How does your child feel about the report card? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 03:38 PM Flag
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She is stressed. She has nightmares from her 9th grade report card experience when she almost got counseled out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 03:47 PM Flag
[ - ] S/O of NOKD/OKD Post - MKD (My Kind Dear) are people of any color, religion or stripe that work an honest job, treat people of all classes with respect, value education, tolerate differences, and teach their children to have good values and integrity. The rest is just window dressing. I have found these people in churches, in synagogues, on Ivy League campuses and in soup kitchens and trailer parks. You? What matters to you? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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This is true, and it's entirely possible to be OKD on a wide spectrum of wealth. Being rich is not a requirement (and in some cases, a detriment). [ Reply | More ]
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I like this thread. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 03:29 PM Flag
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Agreed but those people are hard to find. [ Reply | More ]
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People who don't shove their schtick down my throat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 03:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Do you believe vaccines cause autism? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 03:22 PM Flag
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Of course not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 03:24 PM Flag
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No. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 03:25 PM Flag
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I believe the in tease in autism is multifauceted - the analogy is its 3 things to bring down the plane. If I had to pick I would say a genetic predisposition, and environmental factor and a trigger. [ Reply | More ]
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no and nor does SCIENCE [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 03:26 PM Flag
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Nope. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 03:26 PM Flag
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OP: related question - if you don't, but you are anti-vax, why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 03:26 PM Flag
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I'm not anti-vax at all but I think it has to do with the movement of everything people think of as "chemical" being bad for you - vaccinations, cleaners, food additives, prescribed medications, baby formula, store diapers. There are some points to some of it, but embracing the concept as a whole just throws the baby out with the bathwater. [ Reply | More ]
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I don't. I believe people will blame anything they can for unexplained tragedies, sadly endangering themselves and others. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 03:28 PM Flag
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i think people need to place blame somewhere and vaccines seem like a good place. i think it has to do with what humans have done to this planet (soil and water). [ Reply | More ]
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I just read a phrase attributed to the Scientologists along the lines of "if it's not your truth,it's not true for you". Of course vaccines don't cause autism, but that doesn't stop some people from embracing their own alternative reality. [ Reply | More ]
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Like with the Ferguson thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 03:48 PM Flag
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And 9/11 truthers. [ Reply | More ]
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I think a high fever may trigger some aspects of autism. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 03:39 PM Flag
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so we should worry every time our kids get sick? [ Reply | More ]
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High fever or flu in pregnancy is associated with an increase in autism and related disorders. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.31.15, 03:50 PM Flag
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^^^ Whoops. Just looked this up, and it seems that kids with autism may seem better with a high fever: http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=16956039 [ Reply | More ]
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It makes zero sense if you know anything about biology. [ Reply | More ]
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