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[ - ] Would you allow DH to give you an enema? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:47 PM Flag
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lol. im a RN, can't wait for the day I need to give DH an enema. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:49 PM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:41 PM Flag
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If he wanted to do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:54 PM Flag
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No, I try to maintain some sort of dignity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:42 PM Flag
[ - ] Now that I hit 40, I notice that I am bruising more easily and my skin discolors to this brown, purplish color that takes weeks to go away. I remember growing up and seeing my mom with such bruises. And now it is my turn. Sigh 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:33 PM Flag
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Is that an aging thing? I got a horrible bruise that still has not completely gone away after 4 months. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:25 PM Flag
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OP: I assumed it was an aging thing because I didn't have them before. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:53 PM Flag
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My doc said it was probably a hematoma which is why it lasted so long. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:44 PM Flag
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Have you mentioned this to your primary doc? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:40 PM Flag
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OP: didn't think to mention it. Just assumed it was an aging thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:52 PM Flag
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My mom too! Do you think it's an aging thing? Low iron? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:45 PM Flag
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OP: hmmm, didn't think about the low iron. Maybe I will talk to my doc about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:53 PM Flag
[ - ] Can we meet? I've been on this site for 11 years (age of dd) and I thoroughly enjoy the wit, intelligence and honest discourse. What would happen if there was a meet - would it end the magic or further humanity??? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:28 PM Flag
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It would be good. It would be terrible. Housewives + Nice people in one room?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:29 PM Flag
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Yeah that's a really nice comment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:24 PM Flag
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I would go to a meet up of UBers [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:30 PM Flag
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Then we could turn around and bitch about each other on this site. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:19 PM Flag
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lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:27 PM Flag
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It would break the spell :( [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:34 PM Flag
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No one would be like they are on this site. Anonymity is the lure here. Face to face I'm betting everyone would be pretty boring. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:49 PM Flag
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Op - lets do it! Veterans only! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:50 PM Flag
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Op again - think it would be cool to break down racial and socioeconomic barriers and see that we all have the same concerns - fat skinny rich poor burbs NYC etc but there is spell breaking potential and that would suck ass [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:51 PM Flag
[ - ] What pads did you use immediately postpartum (esp for vaginal delivery)? We are not in the US so you don't get them at the hospital to take home (only while in the hospital). Baby due in a few weeks so I am trying to get stuff ready. TYIA 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:28 PM Flag
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regular/heavy Maxipads are fine. If you do end up needing c/s, extra-long Maxipads can be used against the incision (you wear granny panties with the sticky side taped to the waistband and the pad against your incision.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:33 PM Flag
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op - ty. are always ok to use ? I think I've read somewhere that they are no good if you have stitches. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:25 PM Flag
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I would think any unscented brand would be ok. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:35 PM Flag
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I would get both heavy w wings and overnight pads. Also, a bottle of witch hazel. Before you head to the hospital, Open up 5 or 6 pads, keep the sticky part covered, lay them flat and face up. Pour a decent amount of witch hazel (maybe a quarter cup?), then put them in a ziploc bag, laying flat, in your freezer. Seriously, the best post vag delivery soother. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:40 PM Flag
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I used Always and the largest/most absorbent ones they make [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:40 PM Flag
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^^ I just saw your other comment - I had 3rd degree tearing, so a lot of stitches, and Always worked fine for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:41 PM Flag
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Any overnight with wings. I used always, they were fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:50 PM Flag
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I mean really??? Put a blanket there if nothing works [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:52 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone with fine/straight hair tried this whole no-shampoo and/or co-conditioner thing, and if so what do you do/use? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:26 PM Flag
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I have fine hair and have tried Wen and also just using conditioner instead of shampoo. Horrible. Flat, greasy-fealing. I am better off shampooing every other day and maybe using dry shampoo in between if I think I need it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:36 PM Flag
[ - ] I saw Kelly Ripa in Southampton today. She looked good but had short hAir. Unless I just think I saw her :-) 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:26 PM Flag
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I see her in the w. Village a lot. She is SO skinny and sick-looking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:48 PM Flag
[ - ] Who has gone through admissions for private for a first grade spot? Any tips on process. Was your child accepted to a single sex school? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:22 PM Flag
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I went through it for a 4th grade spot. It was probably easier bc kids start to get counseled ou by 3rd [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:27 PM Flag
[ - ] I'd appreciate any feedback on the St. Jean Baptiste playgroup on e76th. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:14 PM Flag
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Lots of nose picking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:14 PM Flag
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No jews [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:18 PM Flag
[ - ] My new husband is relocating for me and wants to look into consulting jobs. I have a ds and we would like to have at least two more children. I WOH full time and do not plan to quit my job nor does he really wish me too. My understanding is that consulting jobs require you to travel as much as five days a week. I would not be comfortable as a WOH mom with 3 kids with my husband gone that often. To be honest I just spent 8 years as a single mom and am not up for raising three kids 5 out of 7 days a week on my own. And this is not a profession hS any experience in so I am not asking him to change. Can anyone weight in please on what these jobs really entail please? Thanks 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:12 PM Flag
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What kind of consulting? You have to be much more specific. And you don't have these imaginary babies yet, so chill. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:04 PM Flag
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You're right although I so have my own and we would like to try next year. To be honest I have no idea. I'm not sure he even knows to be honest so I am probably worrying far too prematurely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:06 PM Flag
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If you mean management consulting, yes, travel schedule is brutal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:18 PM Flag
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^but it's also not like it's easy to get a job at McKinsey just on a lark. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:19 PM Flag
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Thanks that's kind of what I'm thinking as well. I don't want to be selfish and hope that these jobs are difficult to obtain however is imagine that's the case. He doesn't have experience in this area nor did he attend business or graduate school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:12 PM Flag
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I don't think you need to worry about it. They're hard to get. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:25 PM Flag
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Very unlikely that he would get a position. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:15 PM Flag
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You still haven't said specifically what type of consulting. There are consultants for just about anything you can imagine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:26 PM Flag
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I haven't said because i really don't know. I wrote above that I don't even think he knows. I think he's interested in it because he pictures it as a glorified sales job with outstanding income potential and interesting travel opportunities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:22 PM Flag
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The consultant is the hired bitch that gets paid to get shit on and do all the work that the client doesn't want to do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:42 PM Flag
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np Or say what the client wants to hear, to justify whatever decision they've already made. "You'll definitely need to fire 100 people." "Sorry guys, it's not our fault, the consultant said." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:48 PM Flag
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I haven't said because i really don't know. I wrote above that I don't even think he knows. I think he's interested in it because he pictures it as a glorified sales job with outstanding income potential and interesting travel opportunities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:22 PM Flag
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To be honest I think my heart just sank a bit when I heard it. I've been a single parent for a long time and there are aspects that can be very lonely. My dc goes to bed at 7:30 every night and then it's just me. I waited years to find the right person most importantly because of dc and because I made the wrong choice the first time around. However the idea of having more Children at some poor with a husband who would be absent 5 nights a week seemed like I'd feel almost like a single mom again (even though as a it met single mom I know it's not even close tj the same) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:31 PM Flag
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How new a DH? Plus new town and living situation for him. New step parent for DC. New career for your DH. Lots of change. Why get ahead of yourself? I wouldn't even consider any other changes. I'd try to relax and enjoy life right now. Sounds like you are trying to control the future. Are you anxious about all this change? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:31 PM Flag
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Yes to every question you asked. I was worried about a new career change on top of finding a new job in a new city. I had no idea he was interested in consulting until he mentioned consulting jobs as part of his job search. Very new marriage as I'm we aren't even living together in the same city yet. I'm sure some part of me is anxious. I'm thrilled and love him and he and ds relate very well with one another but there is a lot of change in store. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:38 PM Flag
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How new a DH? Plus new town and living situation for him. New step parent for DC. New career for your DH. Lots of change. Why get ahead of yourself? I wouldn't even consider any other changes. I'd try to relax and enjoy life right now. Sounds like you are trying to control the future. Are you anxious about all this change? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:31 PM Flag
[ - ] Quick white wine end of summer spritzer. Equal parts leftover white wine (can be cheap) and flavored seltzer. splash of any juice except orange juice, or splash of sparking lemonade. a few frozen berries dropped in. Drinking that now. Yum. 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:07 PM Flag
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Seriously nasty. Flyover? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 10:58 PM Flag
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Let the woman enjoy her drink. To you, I say: drink your drink and shut up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:12 PM Flag
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STFU [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:48 PM Flag
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Manhattan here - it's a nice drink occasionally. Why so snotty? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:00 PM Flag
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leftover wine has gone off - even watered down you can taste the vinegar. hiding it with juice is just nasty. use good wine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:18 PM Flag
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np ITD. If you're goin to mix up all kinds of juice and seltzer, no point using good wine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:20 PM Flag
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This. OP's suggestion is exactly what less than great wine is good for. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:23 PM Flag
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How leftover do let your wine get? And I have had good wines for $10, especially Spanish reds. Get off your high horse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:09 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:53 PM Flag
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A day or two..or three won't matter. Don't be so know-it-allish. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:53 PM Flag
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I rarely have leftover wine :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:11 PM Flag
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Same. What the hell is leftover wine? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:49 PM Flag
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OP: nope not flyover, live in Chelsea. :-) We are in the wine/liquor business and there is often day old wine around that was refrigerated and makes good sangria. But you can only drink so much sangria so sometimes I want something lighter! It is equally as good without the juice/lemonade. Too much makes it sweet and I hate sweet wine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:31 PM Flag
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I'll be over in a few minutes. Sounds lovely. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:53 PM Flag
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What is "Leftover Wine"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Any divoce lawyers on? This is CRAZY. The ex wife of an ex boyfriend of 25 years ago found my name, tracked me down and is begging me to give a statement about some bad post breakup behavior he showed toward me. They are having a horrible custody battle. He has the kids and she is fighting for joint custody. Says he turned the Kidd against her after she left him. Kids are backing up very serious charges against her. He has become wealthy, she was sahm. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:06 PM Flag
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Just say you can't remember details from 25 years ago. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:21 PM Flag
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I could but dh is a lawyer and thinks I should offer to tell her lawyer what I know, because custody battles are so important for the kids. He thinks she seems crazy tho, so I should limit contact [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:28 PM Flag
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How bad was his behavior? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:35 PM Flag
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See below. Not that bad, right? But I've just got this nagging guilt over what if she's telling the truth and he does go psycho against exes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:31 PM Flag
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I really can't imagine that would be useful info. He was annoying but didn't do anything illegal. If he has a pattern of bad or escalating behavior, surely there are more recent examples. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:49 PM Flag
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No one is going to take an ex girlfriend from 25 years ago seriously for this. Unless you know of him doing something really bad back then like rape or child molesting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:17 PM Flag
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Nothing like that. I had something of his, something small, and he started obsessing over it and called my parents while I was traveling and threatened to have me arrested for theft. He was quickly put in his place and that was the end of it. It was a huge personality shift for an otherwise mild mannered guy but how could this have any impact? I so don't want to do it but am feeling guilty. The wife must be desperate to reach out to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:36 PM Flag
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Then honestly, unless you can prove he is a danger to his kids then I would decline. She might be desperate but there may be a good reason for that as in, he's done nothing wrong and she's digging for dirt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:43 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone have a DH who has a friend he likes but you dislike? How do you deal? Just make nice and pretend you like him? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:04 PM Flag
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Why don't you like the friend? Response varies depending whether the friend is just a little boring vs a sexist pig. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 10:55 PM Flag
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op: He gives off a vibe that he doesn't like me or some reason and I don't know why. He disagrees with me on minor things and criticized things he knows I like. Nothing major, I'm just not a fan of him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:24 PM Flag
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Yes, I avoid as many social get togethers with them as possible and just tell dh to have some guy time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 10:56 PM Flag
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op: Does DH know you don't like his friend or do you just have excuses ready each DH suggests you hang out with him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:25 PM Flag
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Yes, he knows and understands my reasons. The friend's dw is even worse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:15 PM Flag
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I do the same thing DH does with friends of mine he doesn't like. I just act polite and make myself scarce. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:33 PM Flag
[ - ] My Stepdaughter is engaged, and told my DH (who is paying for most of the wedding) that she does not want to invite children, including my DCs (her stepsiblings). I told DH I thought this was mean-spirited -- she does not have to invited all kids, but certainly immediate family. The crux of it is that she does not consider my kids her immediate family. DH said he will not push her on this. I can see me becoming left out at the wedding. 76 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:01 PM Flag
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How long married? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 10:50 PM Flag
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6 years, my kids are 10 and 12. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:02 PM Flag
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OK, so your dcs are not her half siblings, just step-siblings? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 10:54 PM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:05 PM Flag
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Then I'd let this go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:08 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:04 PM Flag
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Then I'd let this go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:08 PM Flag
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I think you should def be invited, I'm on the fence about your dcs. Have they spent much time together, do they even know each other? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 10:57 PM Flag
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I would guess OP will be invited, though she understandably is emotional and thinking she won't be since her kids won;t be invited. It is unfortunate. I certainly hope stepdaughter is getting married in the same city as OP; otherwise it sounds like she'll have to hire babysitters or send her kids to relatives to attend the wedding. Honestly, in that situation, I, in OP's situation, would simply stay home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:00 PM Flag
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+1 I understand stepdaughter's actions, but two can play that game. I would not waste my time going to her wedding when I could have a nice time home with my children instead. If SD isn't inviting step-siblings, it's clear she doesn't think there's a relationship there, so why should Op knock herself out to attend? Stay home with the kids and let husband spend time with his daughter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:19 PM Flag
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I doubt the bride will care. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:13 PM Flag
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She'd really be punishing her dh, not the bride. If my spouse embarrassed me like that, I'd be furious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:37 PM Flag
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np Disagree. OP should go bc she is her dh's date, and this is an important night in his life. It has nothing to do with OP's kids, and sulking at home to get back at step-dd (who certainly won't miss her) will only make her look childish and piss off her dh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:28 PM Flag
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Good point. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:01 PM Flag
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frustrating, but you're just going to have to deal. Your kids probably won't care about not going anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 10:52 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 10:52 PM Flag
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My DD worships her older sister, is very disappointed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:05 PM Flag
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np Sorry she's disappointed, but you're misleading her if you're pretending your husband's dd is your dd's sister. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 10:56 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:05 PM Flag
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This is not her older sister and the girl obviously doesn't feel sisterly toward dd so stop encouraging it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:09 PM Flag
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Yikes. Doesn't matter. Your DC need to be part of the wedding. Period. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 10:52 PM Flag
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no, they don't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 10:53 PM Flag
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Bzzzt! Wrong answer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 10:57 PM Flag
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But then they go home and do NOT attend the reception. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:32 PM Flag
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They're 10 and 12. More than old enough to attend the reception. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:50 PM Flag
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how old are your kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:03 PM Flag
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It's her wedding, she invites who she likes. Unless you are contributing money (sounds like dh is, but that's not your money), let it go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 10:53 PM Flag
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NP: no, she does not get to do whatever she wants because it is her wedding and she is queen. Other people's feelings have to be considered, always. Hate this attitude. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:20 PM Flag
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+10000000 This whole bridezilla mentality has to stop! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:37 PM Flag
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There is NOTHING WRONG with not wanting children at your wedding [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:39 PM Flag
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This is awful but I suspect it's not the beginning or end of the problems with your family dynamic. The wedding is not the right time for it, but dh needs to work on bringing his family together. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 10:53 PM Flag
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NP, I am guessing the ship has sailed on that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:07 PM Flag
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What a bitch. Even if he hates you, that's so mean to the kids. They will remember that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:05 PM Flag
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They'll care less. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:33 PM Flag
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This. The stepdd sounds like a major bitch. Good luck to whomever is marrying her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:51 PM Flag
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Your kids aren't her immediate family - they really aren't family at all, since there's no biological relationship and she was already an adult when you married her father. It would have been nice to include them, but if she doesn't want to you can't insist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 10:55 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:08 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 10:58 PM Flag
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Oh please. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:39 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:52 PM Flag
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Yes you CAN insist. She's being a brat! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:38 PM Flag
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That's really, really shitty of her. It's not like they are babies/toddlers making noise. They will feel very slighted. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:08 PM Flag
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Her day. Her Way. You had your day(s). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 10:58 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:34 PM Flag
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:39 PM Flag
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Were you the other woman? Hate to ask, but this colors all stepparent relationships. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 10:58 PM Flag
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I understand why you're hurt and in a perfect world you'd all be one big family, but in the real world kids don't necessarily jump for joy when their parents divorce, remarry, and add a new batch of kids to the mix. Step-dd probably doesn't see your dc as her siblings any more than she sees you as her mom - they aren't blood relatives and they didn't grow up together. That's reality. You can't force something that's not there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:10 PM Flag
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Is your DH paying for this wedding? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:12 PM Flag
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she said he's paying for most of it. that doesn't mean his stepchildren have to be invited. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:16 PM Flag
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If he's paying for it, he gets a say in whether or not his stepchildren are invited. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:34 PM Flag
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I agree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:44 PM Flag
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Don't parents always get a say in who from "their side" is invited, especially when they are helping to pay? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:47 PM Flag
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He already had his say, OP just doesn't like what he said. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:50 PM Flag
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No, it sounds to me like he doesn't think he gets a say ("I won't push her") [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:54 PM Flag
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No he doesn't. The guest list is the responsibility of the bride and groom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:40 PM Flag
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Not true. The bride's parents often invite relatives, friends, neighbors, co-workers, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:54 PM Flag
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:53 PM Flag
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This wedding is about her - not about you or your kids. Stop making it about you! Having a wedding with NO kids, and all the focus on the bride and groom is fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:23 PM Flag
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Oh Lord it should not be 'about her'. It is about marrying someone she loves and who loves her, and having those they care about around them. How sad the bride is so cavalier about step sister who cares about her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:34 PM Flag
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Bride doesn't care about her father's wife's kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:50 PM Flag
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Sorry, but I've never seen a case where this applied when the bride or groom has siblings that kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:38 PM Flag
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These kids are not the bride or groom's siblings. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:51 PM Flag
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She's being petty and your DH is being a coward. If I were in his shoes I would make her invite them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:13 PM Flag
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At the very least I would confront her about it and make it clear that I did not agree with her decision at all. I'd also be more stingy with my money if she's going to behave like a brat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:38 PM Flag
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I think it's a little weird to not invite them, I agree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:24 PM Flag
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It's mean but I would let it go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:26 PM Flag
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I think the step d is an asshole and your dh is an enabler! The only way this is permissible is if you were the ow and destroyed step d family...please respond. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:29 PM Flag
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Lots of people don't want kids at their wedding. Get over it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:32 PM Flag
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Siblings are very different. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:37 PM Flag
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Except these are not siblings - they're children that came into her father's life, probably after she was already grown, and she probably has little/no contact with them, so they're like strangers to her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:39 PM Flag
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Why would you assume she's had little/no contact with children that have lived with her father for the last 6 years? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:42 PM Flag
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np because she doesn't want them at her wedding. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:52 PM Flag
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This is so silly. If she has a relationship with them, they should be invited. They are her step siblings. This is a type of sibling. I'm sorry your parents new spouses upset you, but these ARE her siblings of six years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:35 PM Flag
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General Topics 08.21.14, 11:51 PM Flag
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I would let her know that her actions are petty and immature, then move on. I understand people who don't want small kids running around at their wedding but your kids are way old enough to behave and she knows this. Speaking your mind is pretty much all you can do here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:29 PM Flag
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That must hurt--sorry, OP. it's probably something to do with her mother, is my guess. Take the high road. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Need a good curly haircut ASAP - have been everywhere all the cuts are horrible!! Help!! 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 10:52 PM Flag
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Fringe NYC, lower east side. Worth the subway ride, especially for the senior stylists. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 10:58 PM Flag
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For curls? Anyone in particular I should ask for?? I can't take my hair anymore!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 10:58 PM Flag
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Yes-- i LOVE Joe there. He's nice, cute, great cuts, and talks just the right amount. Doesn't talk my ear off but can have good conversation if you are in the mood. I have curly hair also. I went to Katie last time when he was out and she was good too, but he's my favorite. http://www.fringeny.com [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 10:58 PM Flag
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Find a salon that does deva curl technique. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 10:50 PM Flag
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Btdt all suck [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:02 PM Flag
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I'm the fringe poster above, and agree. The deva dry cutting by curl thing didn't work well for me. What works best for my hair is someone that can get in there and texture the ends delicately so they lay correctly. Also-- I get $89 keratin treatments at Keratin Bar in Chelsea and it leaves my hair wavy and perfect. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:11 PM Flag
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Ahh thank you - I need a few days to get myself together - forget work and family. Thx so much! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:17 PM Flag
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they charge more than that for keratin regularly-- so get on their mailing list or buy it on the life booker/groupon deals, they email me the $89 constantly. You will feel SO glamorous! Get the keratin first, let it sit for 24-72 hours (depending on which one you get) and you will look odd with stick straight hair. Then wash it out and get the Fringe cut you will be a new woman! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:36 PM Flag
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Ask for "cut and slice" where they take out the bulk. (the Ouidad technique.) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:11 PM Flag
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I've been everywhere and paid anything and the only place that works for me is Aveda on 86th street with Cece or Ash. I was very surprised how good they were with curly hair and now can't go anywhere else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:45 PM Flag
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Ahh thank you!!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Question for older ladies here: at what age did your DH's libido and general sexual prowess really start to deteriorate? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 10:51 PM Flag
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DH is 65 and I haven't noticed any deterioration. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 10:48 PM Flag
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Right..... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 10:52 PM Flag
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Believe what you want, but guys never give up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:07 PM Flag
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My friend slept with a 50 yo professor in college and said the difference was pretty glaring. Obviously he had the libido, but performance was v different. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:12 PM Flag
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That's interesting, what was different about his performance? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:16 PM Flag
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She said it didn't get as hard and it took him forever to climax. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:23 PM Flag
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A guy friend's dad told him that he had a hard time climaxing as well, he might have intercourse but not get there. (talk about tmi!) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:24 PM Flag
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60ish. Still active but not as horny as previously. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:03 PM Flag
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My husband took a pretty big dive around 45, however alcohol and Xanax were a big factor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:45 PM Flag
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55 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:43 PM Flag
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Dh is 50. Sometimes has erectile dysfunction. Doesn't really have a sex drive. When he's on top his leg cramps up and he has to stop. He tires easily. In bed, he seems like an old man. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Pediatrician parents: my five-year-old son was at mygym. We arrived at 1:30. He played and ran around until 3. They had a snack then did arts & crafts. All the other children returned to playing and running around. My ds wanted to lie down on the bench. He fell asleep, which is very unusual (he doesn't nap unless he has been riding around in a car for 2 hours.) He slept from 3:30 to 5:30. He told me that his head hurt. I wanted to take him to the pediatrician, but he started crying, saying that he was okay. Now he is lying on the couch, very low energy and has no appetite. That's another very weird thing: he always wants to eat. Dh told him he could have ice cream if he went to pede. Ds said, no, he is okay. Ds loooooves ice cream. Opinions? 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 10:44 PM Flag
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Not a ped, but here is my guess: Your DC is getting sick. He does not like going to the doctor. Put him to bed early and see how he is tomorrow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 10:46 PM Flag
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OP: okay. That sounds pretty good. So I am not terrible for not forcing him to go to the dr? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 10:48 PM Flag
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Too soon to see the doc. Doesn't sound critically ill. Give him a day or so and see how he's doing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:04 PM Flag
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Agree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:06 PM Flag
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(1) whether or not he goes to the doctor is not up to him. WTF? (2) that being said, I don't take my kids to the doctor for every little virus. Unless he has a high fever or a fever for several days or is at risk of dehydration, I just let them sleep it off and treat at home with rest and fluids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 10:48 PM Flag
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I totally agree. Not every illness need the ped but when he does, it's the parents' decision, not the kids. And op should make that clear to the child. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:05 PM Flag
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Any temp? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 10:51 PM Flag
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No fever. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 10:55 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 10:55 PM Flag
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Motrin cold compress something to drink with a little sugar in it - Bed! (He didn't bang his head right??). Dr tomorrow if needed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 10:51 PM Flag
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I'm glad we weren't there today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:27 PM Flag
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Stomach virus. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.21.14, 11:44 PM Flag
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