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[ - ] What should I do in and around NYC tomorrow with two elementary school dc? Have a car. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Last weekend for the ice skating rinks. May be cold though. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] where in nyc can i do a jewelry making party for 13 yo dd? or where can i find jewelry people to staff an event if i can find a venue? tia. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Why do you need staff? They're 13. Give them the tools and materials and you're done. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Rejected at the Tc. Now have to decide children's all day or st Bart's? CADS is better commute, but STB has pool. Which one has better exmissions?TIA 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Exmissions for Your Kid will depend almost entirely upon Your Kid. So choose the one closest to your house. [ Reply | More ]
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St b [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] DH here. I'll be honest, I like when my wife "mom's" me. Like when she fixes my hair, removes some lint from my shirt, pats me on the head for doing a good job at something, changes my diapers, cooks for me, etc. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Lmao [ Reply | More ]
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zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz [ Reply | More ]
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Hi, DH. You're annoying. It's not cute. We have 2 actual babies. [ Reply | More ]
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
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Not funny. I'll be changing my DH's diapers before I know it. But at least I love him. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Aside from your husband, who was the "best" boyfriend you ever had? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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He was Scandinavian. We met in boarding school and by some miracle of fate we ended up at the same university. He was one of those "hot playboy" types and it took me forever to trust him (I have never believed you can change men) but after a while we started dating and I really, really loved him. He wanted me to come home with him after college and I said no. He is back in his home country and has a very prestigious public position. We exchange letter (actually physical letters) on occasion. [ Reply | More ]
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He sounds dreamy. Norwegian? I'd go in a heartbeat [ Reply | More ]
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How'd you know? And yes, he was very dreamy. Biggest regret of my life, if I'm honest. Although I might say the same if I had gone back with him. Norway was not for me. [ Reply | More ]
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Why not? [ Reply | More ]
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I LOVED it there. Wish I would've met someone and fallen in love! [ Reply | More ]
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Really? I thought it was very pretty (loved the aesthetics, lifestyle, people, etc.) but I could never spend my life there. I found Norway to be very dull after a while, there is something about the diversity of America. I spent several months there and while I had never seen him so happy, when I came home I was struck by how "alive" everything felt here. I'll take our high crime stats if it means I don't have to be bored out of my mind. [ Reply | More ]
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college boyfriend. we dated for three years, he was sweet and attentive. everything dh is not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:46 AM Flag
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Why did you dump him? [ Reply | More ]
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alas, he dumped me. [ Reply | More ]
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High school boyfriend. My parents and his parents are still holding out for us, hoping we'll end up together. [ Reply | More ]
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My best friend's parents still have a picture of her high school boyfriend on display in their house. She is married to someone else with 3dcs and yet they hold out hope... [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I posted yesterday about my wife wanting to become a sahm, well, she resigned today. I am speechless, this is not the woman I married. 69 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:24 AM Flag
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Do out think there was something going on at work that pushed her to react? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:25 AM Flag
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Op. I don't know, yesterday I tried to talk to her and she just gave me the silence treatment. When she got home from work, all she said was "I resigned today". [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:28 AM Flag
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divorce. you two are no longer partners. [ Reply | More ]
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+1. I would not in a hundred years tolerate that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:31 AM Flag
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Op. I just don't know what is going on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:31 AM Flag
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Let the dust settle and try to figure this out. Clearly she's going through something gnarly. Np [ Reply | More ]
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:32 AM Flag
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Op. I can't afford 2 households. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:32 AM Flag
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NP. This might actually be real, because both this OP and the one from earlier use "silence treatment" rather than the (correct) "silent treatment." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:31 AM Flag
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OP is definitely same lesson and is ESL but does have a female "voice" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:41 AM Flag
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^ person not lesson [ Reply | More ]
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Op. What am I supposed to do now? Deal with it? She is putting the kids to bed, and I am freaking out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:26 AM Flag
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Not much you can do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:28 AM Flag
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^ sit down and figure out budget. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:29 AM Flag
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Op. For starters I am cutting babysitter and cleaning people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:32 AM Flag
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Absolutely. Make tight food budget, very low budget for clothing etc etc. it has to hurt her as much as it hurts you. She isn't supposed to decide this without you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:35 AM Flag
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You sound like not a man. And I don't mean that in a cultural "You don't want to support your wife? You don't sound like a man!" I mean you literally sound male. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:28 AM Flag
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*You literally don't sound male. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:29 AM Flag
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Op. ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:30 AM Flag
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Yes you are not a male. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:32 AM Flag
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fake. no real man would come here and post this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:27 AM Flag
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Op. Seriously, if you think this is fake, why would you bother to reply? By the way, do you really believe this is an unlikely scenario? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:29 AM Flag
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be a man and support your family [ Reply | More ]
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Op. Is not like I have another option, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:31 AM Flag
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Says wifey sitting at home eating bonbons. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:46 AM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:29 AM Flag
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I strongly suspect this is fake, and I don't see this as the solution for most things, but I would honestly divorce over this. I would not permit myself to be taken advantage like that, especially by someone who was supposed to be my partner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:28 AM Flag
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Op. I am not going to divorce my wife, but I am speechless, I swear to God this is not the person I married, she was not like this before. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:30 AM Flag
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She may be suffering from depression. Counseling stat [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:38 AM Flag
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are you kidding? you don't divorce over this. it's a bad decision...but, for better or worse, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:31 AM Flag
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I would ABSOLUTELY divorce over this. It's unforgivable. You don't get to force another adult to support you financially. It's disgusting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:33 AM Flag
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I would leave my husband if he did this to me. No respect for your partner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:36 AM Flag
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+1 if my dh told me to support him we would be done that day [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:37 AM Flag
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I wouldn't divorce but he has a right to be annoyed. He should try to figure out what is going on with her ..; [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:31 AM Flag
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I've never heard a man use the expression "I am Speechless" before. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:32 AM Flag
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OP is fake [ Reply | More ]
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ita [ Reply | More ]
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Op. Why am I fake? Is this such an unlike scenario? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:36 AM Flag
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The plausibility of this situation has nothing to do with the likelihood that this is real. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:40 AM Flag
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Op. Then call me fake or do not comment at all. Enough with this fake bullshit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:44 AM Flag
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People like to call fake everything. [ Reply | More ]
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Do you know any men? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:36 AM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
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What happened to her? Why has she changed? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:32 AM Flag
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Op. All I know is that she was upset I didn't want her to be a sahm, the kids are at school most of the day and she "used" to make almost half of hhi. Right now I have all the financial burden and she is officially a sahm. I am very upset, but I am confused at the same time by her erratic behaivor. I sincerely do not know what is happening. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:35 AM Flag
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I could not love or respect someone who made this decision unilaterally against my express wishes. I would see an attorney tomorrow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:36 AM Flag
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Op. I am not going to divorce her, but I am very disappointed to say the least. I know she was upset, but I feel betrayed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:38 AM Flag
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You should. She has stabbed you in the back. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:39 AM Flag
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Op. Let's be honest, I won't be able to support 2 houses with my income. Divorcing is not an option. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:40 AM Flag
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She would obviously have to go back to work. You don't get spousal support when you quit your job immediately before the divorce. I understand that you don't want to get divorced, but I just can't imagine myself continuing to live with someone who had betrayed me like that. I would not be able to look at my DH without hatred if I were in your shoes. If you don't feel that way, perhaps your marriage can survive this betrayal. [ Reply | More ]
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Op. I feel this happened overnight. She never before expressed she wanted to be at home with the kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:50 AM Flag
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^Until 2 days ago. [ Reply | More ]
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don't divorce but, you have a right to be very upset. you need to spend some time getting to the bottom of her decision. turn it around...if you wanted to make a completed change in your life that includes a huge paycut, how would you feel if your wife just said "no"? talk to her seriously about the financial implications and draw up a spreadsheet together [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:41 AM Flag
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What is wrong with u people? This is HER life,HER choice.Just because u r married with kids doesn't mean that u loose yourself.She was unhappy,she deserves to do what it takes to find her happiness.If they had a nanny,cleaning person obviously they have room to save money to make this work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:42 AM Flag
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He doesn't get a say in the matter? Why should he have to support someone whom he doesn't want to support? If she were independently wealthy, I would feel differently, but she has gone from a contributing partner to a burden, literally overnight. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 Working or Not Working is not an individual decision when you are in partnership with someone else. You can only behave that way when you are SINGLE. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:47 AM Flag
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Yep and OP should make same choice on Monday [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:49 AM Flag
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It's not just her life. It's her family's life as well. And she didn't even consider part-time options or anything else to compromise. So so selfish. [ Reply | More ]
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Moron. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:52 AM Flag
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I very much support SAHMs but this is bad. She can't give you a silent treatment and then make that life choice. Now, sit down and say "This is what I make, here is the budget." Food, rent and whatever you can do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:47 AM Flag
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Maybe a mediator can help you two figure this out. [ Reply | More ]
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Op. I am done with this, she came downstairs, and I was trying my best too keep my cool and all she does is to ignore me completely. [ Reply | More ]
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I think you do need to put device on the table. No because of her work but because you don't have a say. She will have to go back to work in that scenario anyway [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:51 AM Flag
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I agree with above poster you don't sound male. But if you are real, I'd say stop being such a whinny. Running here to complain about your wife because she wants to SAHM? Get a dick. [ Reply | More ]
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You, on the other hand, sound like 240 lbs of testosterone-fueled, hairy chested aggression. np, btw [ Reply | More ]
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Get a duck and quit your job [ Reply | More ]
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Quack [ Reply | More ]
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Such double standard. Typical dumb bitch. Imagine how you would feel if DH did this... [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Just started therapy after a loss. I am wondering how I will know when I am done. I can't afford this for much longer as my insurance does not cover it but I do find it very helpful at the moment. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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If you are going to address a specific situation, I would think a finite amount. Maybe 10 sessions? [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks, I started with 4 because of the financial constraint but maybe I will extend to 8. [ Reply | More ]
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What was the loss, and what are you getting (or hoping to get) out of the therapy? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Do you know any nice swimmable/clean lakes within one hour drive of NYC? TYIA 22 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Lake Mahopac and surrounding areas are beautiful. Growing up in Westchester, I used to swim in the reservoir but that was/is illegal and highly enforced now. [ Reply | More ]
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gross you contaminated drinking water? [ Reply | More ]
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yes, i guess so. along with the turtles, water snakes, birds, etc that lived in it. This was 'up river' so to speak, so pre-filtration. [ Reply | More ]
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Everyone did it! At night, diving off the cliffs. A great rite of passage :-) [ Reply | More ]
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exactly! maybe we went together! [ Reply | More ]
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TY! Is lake Mahopac good for swimming or is it mainly for boating? [ Reply | More ]
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I have swam and boated in Mahopac, there are swimming areas/enclaves. Also, surrounding lakes have beaches and are strictly kayaks/no motor boats allowed but I am not sure if they are private? [ Reply | More ]
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There is also Lake Takhanic (spelling? pronounces like Taconic) but that is more like 2 hours. You can camp there and it is beautiful. [ Reply | More ]
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It is beautiful, but I've tried to swim there twice and there were warning signs for leeches [ Reply | More ]
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There's no public access to lake mahopac anymore sadly. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 this. It's all private. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:32 AM Flag
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Green pond [ Reply | More ]
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where is this? [ Reply | More ]
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Clarence Fahnestock Memorial State Park has Canopus Lake, which is great. Lifeguards, bathrooms, a little grab and go restaurant. You pay 9$ to park, that's it. [ Reply | More ]
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I am looking to buy a house in a lake community [ Reply | More ]
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Definitely look in Mahopac surrounding Lake Kirk. It is GORGEOUS [ Reply | More ]
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TY! [ Reply | More ]
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Check out gypsy trail club. Thoses houses are amazing and the lake is beautiful. [ Reply | More ]
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It's a pond actually, but very swimmable [ Reply | More ]
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There is an onsite caretaker, so your property is looked after when you aren't there too. I love gypsy trail club as you can tell! [ Reply | More ]
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TY! [ Reply | More ]
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Candlewood lake in Brookfield ct [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What do people mean by laid back? Why is it an automatically a good quality? Would you really want to hire a laid back employee? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Yes because they don't start shit like the uptight bitches [ Reply | More ]
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I alway take laid back as lacks initiative, motivation, drive or anything else of value to me as a worker [ Reply | More ]
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Thats lazy, not laid back. [ Reply | More ]
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I have never met a laid back person who wasn't lazy [ Reply | More ]
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You are just using the words differently... what's interesting is the poster below - IS there a difference? Yes, clearly. And one type of person seems very nice, and not lazy. [ Reply | More ]
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They mean people who get on with things, get them done, and don't create/fabricate drama out of nothing. Yes, its a terrific quality. [ Reply | More ]
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Really? I always thought laid back people are too laid back to really get things done. [ Reply | More ]
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We're debating word meanings. I like easy-going, relaxed people who get shit done and don't create drama. I try and employ those people on my teams. I do not like highly strung drama queens. Nor do I like lazy people - but I don't think that is laid back, I think it is horizontal. [ Reply | More ]
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I am laid back but admittedly lazy, so I see your point [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] If you lived in the suburbs, where would you rent a piet e terre in the city with young kids? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I wouldn't. I live living in the city and having a house outside the city but wouldn't do the reverse [ Reply | More ]
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The question is "If"... [ Reply | More ]
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I don't see what would be the use of it with little kids. What will it be for ? [ Reply | More ]
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To go in during the weekends and on breaks. Take kids to musuems and parks. Go out with Dh at night. the same as having a 2nd home in the country. [ Reply | More ]
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But it's not the same thing. The idea of city living with country place is that kids are in school most of the day so it doesn't really matter (having space, backyard etc) + you work during the week, want quick commute, etc . On weekends when kids have time and you have time you unwind and have space to roam, etc. The reverse is not exactly true ... [ Reply | More ]
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pied-à-terre [ Reply | More ]
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I would just visit and stay in hotel [ Reply | More ]
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But for most weekends? Always in a hotel with young kids? [ Reply | More ]
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Awesome hook-up place for affairs [ Reply | More ]
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Typical UB answer [ Reply | More ]
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why would you be in the city so often? [ Reply | More ]
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Why do people vacation in NYC? [ Reply | More ]
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my employer has a few, they have slowly turned in to the children's apartments as they have gotten older and wanted a place in the city. [ Reply | More ]
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Has a few? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:52 AM Flag
[ - ] Do you sometimes wonder if the things you say and think are really your own thoughts and feelings or lines you've heard on shows you watch or books and articles you've read? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Yes! I thought I was the ony one who sometimes thinks this. [ Reply | More ]
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No never. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Anyone on who has/had a good relationship with their mom? Can you please describe why, what she is like? I'm admitting to myself that my mother has more bad/destructive qualities then good ones (or we just don't get along) and she came with baggage from her mother. More then anything I want to break the cycle with DCs. TIA 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Try to forgive. [ Reply | More ]
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OP- In theory good advice, but not sure I know how, and my mother doesn't either--I don't think she's ever issued an apology in her life. Is therapy the only hope for me? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:10 AM Flag
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Some day none of it will matter [ Reply | More ]
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My mom is great. Total opposite of helicopter mom, grown kids all doing well. [ Reply | More ]
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I wish I could say that. [ Reply | More ]
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I am the older version of you. My mother did her best, but was awful to me. The fact that you recognize it puts you ahead of the game. My therapist said every generation waters down. Be aware and catch yourself when you do to your DCs what she did to you. [ Reply | More ]
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Np. Same. I spent a lot of time in therapy trying to understand the relationship my mom and I had, and what I did and didn't want with my kids. We are not bound to repeat the sins of the past. GL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:15 AM Flag
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My mom! She's just a good person. Always put my sister and I first. Wanted and still wants nothing but the best for us. [ Reply | More ]
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*my sister and me [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, my sister and me. Ty ;) [ Reply | More ]
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OP- it's funny, when I saw the correction I assumed it was OR! [ Reply | More ]
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OR. :) Well, one of the results of having such a good mother is that I can handle criticism or off-hand comments without taking it personally. [ Reply | More ]
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And she clearly instilled some healthy modesty in you! [ Reply | More ]
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I'm not sure if you're being sarcastic, but if you are, I don't think there is anything wrong with knowing where you have strengths. I have weaknesses too. [ Reply | More ]
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You should watch the episode of Roseanne with her father's funeral. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:11 AM Flag
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I have a great relationship because my mother is really happy, positive and laid back. My father, on the other hand, is a demanding tiger dad. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:12 AM Flag
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OP- hmm, maybe the reason my relationship with my mom is bad is b/c she is sometimes happy, generally negative and tightly wound.. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:13 AM Flag
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I am dealing with this problem now. I finally decided to give up on her after she hung up on me right before Thanksgiving. She was like the mom mentioned in an earlier post today, she married at 21 out of necessity, was physically abusive and was always telling me how I was just like my father often pointing out his "ugliness" after their divorce. She didn't have a relationship with my grandmother because my grandmother abandoned her as a child. My mom as a result had no one to teach her how to be a good person. To make things worse and really the reason I'm still pissed at her is she only gives a shit about one of my kids (my firstborn) and ignores the other two as if they don't exist because after 21 years she still hates my DH, their dad. I could go on but don't want to hijack your post. I came to the realization I will never have the kind of mom some people are lucky to have. It was painful but I've never felt so free. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:32 AM Flag
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As soon as we were ready to assume responsibilities and were trustworthy enough to do so, my mom entrusted us to handle things ourselves. In this way she matured as a parent as we matured from baby, to child, to teen to adult. Now we have adult relationships with our parents... they don't impose or meddle, but rather ask, as one would do for a good friend. My MIL was completely opposite: demanding, acted the child while simultaneously infantalizing her grown sons. It was a mess. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:12 AM Flag
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I have a phenomenal relationship with my mom, but my sister doesn't. The part I love (she wants to be involved and is immensely helpful- we have a baby and 3 yo and she takes them one overnight a week, plus long weekends for dh and I to get away) drives my sister crazy. So I don't know if there's pleasing everyone. Fwiw my mom regrets treating my older sister more like a friend than daughter growing up. I was 5 yrs younger and that boundary wasn't really crossed until I was in my 20s and we actually became great friends. Also, I was frankly a weird kid growing up, and she genuinely loved me for me, rather than who she thought i should be. I was very introverted and independent and she made sure to find ways to connect with me, since she couldn't just go the "how was your day" routine after school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:15 AM Flag
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My mother is a narcissist. You are breaking the cycle by knowing you want to do things differently.:) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:20 AM Flag
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my mom is the absolute best and I strive to be like her. she is my absolute biggest fan and always has my back and that is HUGE. I never feel lonely knowing she is in my life. She is ridiculously fun and admired by many and so, so full of life. She is always positive and has learned to roll w/ the punches. She is wise and more than willing to dole out advice - I often call her to get advice for serious life issues. that said she is self destructive in a way that's painful for me but, doesn't affect me except that she is physically unhealthy. I can only hope though that I will be half the person she is when I'm her age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:49 AM Flag
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My mom has some issues, but in the end the good outweighs the bad, and I know she won't be around much longer. So I nod and smile and emotionally detach when she's bring difficult and we get back to good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:51 AM Flag
[ - ] Are Russian nannies ever sweet? So many are cold 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:04 AM Flag
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Russians in general are horrible people [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:07 AM Flag
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This. Tough and grumpy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:11 AM Flag
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Hi OP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:11 AM Flag
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Hi Russian gold digging whore [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:13 AM Flag
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NP: OP, why did you ask the question to begin with. You clearly have you're md made up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:14 AM Flag
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+1 Grumpy, miserable, gold diggers. I'd be the same if I grew up in poverty in 20 below zero.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:45 AM Flag
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Lol. Russian (sort of) here. Warm and loving, darling [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:51 AM Flag
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I don't know what you mean by sweet? Like the ones who act sweet but then spend the whole day at TJ max? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:13 AM Flag
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So don't hire one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:15 AM Flag
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Agree. I don't equate Russian nanny with sweet laid back and warm. The ones I know seem very cold. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:15 AM Flag
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What's a laid back nanny? Just curios [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:17 AM Flag
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Why do you care? If you don't like them, don't hire. Plus, why would you want a nanny to be sweet to you...any nanny? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:50 AM Flag
[ - ] How many of you have trad the book of revelations? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:02 AM Flag
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The world ends. The end. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:03 AM Flag
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No the world begins [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:04 AM Flag
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For some of us [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:05 AM Flag
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Read [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:05 AM Flag
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One of my favorite. Most relevant to the present. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:46 AM Flag
[ - ] Do you feel like you have a good personality? Why or why not? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:01 AM Flag
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Yes. I'm outgoing and supportive of friends. I like talking and listening equally. I make an effort with people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:03 AM Flag
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Ditto [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:04 AM Flag
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Yes. I like myself. Other people like me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:04 AM Flag
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I like me but definitely have my moments. I like that I try to understand what makes things and people function, I also like that I value what is important to me. Many people don't like me, and I can't help that so I don't worry about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:08 AM Flag
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I know this is you future SAHM [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:11 AM Flag
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No because I am the kind of person people respect more than they like. I am good in a crisis, but I've never been a bridesmaid. I know how to be nice but it doesn't come to me naturally. I have a mood disorder. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:13 AM Flag
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Yes. I am very personable. I am outgoing and fun and interesting and interested in other people. I make my living in sales, so it's really important to have that kind of personality. I can walk up to anyone and have a good conversation with him/her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:16 AM Flag
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I used to have one but I think it's changed over the years. I love my dh but he is a bit negative and I think it has changed me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:20 AM Flag
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Yes. I'm really likable and a great conversationalist. I always make other people feel comfortable to the point of lying to agree or just make them feel better "oh I do that too". Everyone loves me but I secretly think everyone sucks. Well, almost everyone [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:51 AM Flag
[ - ] Volunteering at school with other moms and a few dads. Have gotten friendly with one dad, but don't really know his wife at all. He and I have the same sense of humor and I enjoy going out for coffee with him much like other moms I know at school. YET, I'm starting to feel weird because he is a man, like I'm hiding something from my DH. I'm a SAHM, but I used to have guy friends at the office pre-kids. Why does this feel illicit?? Any real advice welcome. Not sure what I'm asking exactly! 68 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:01 AM Flag
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yeah cut it out [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:01 AM Flag
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cut what out? i'll go for coffee etc. with mom friends from school. should I be closed off to male friends? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:03 AM Flag
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You know the difference. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:04 AM Flag
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Of course not. Fake op :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:05 AM Flag
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Be careful. This is a great way to make enemies. And if you have to ask, there IS something illicit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:02 AM Flag
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WTF? Make enemies? How old are you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:03 AM Flag
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I'm guessing early 30s. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:05 AM Flag
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I was thinking 12 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:07 AM Flag
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I'm 43. He's same age. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:08 AM Flag
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So you and DH don't have sex very often, I'm guessing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:12 AM Flag
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WTH [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:13 AM Flag
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Easier to succumb to temptation is what I mean. Attention from another man, you know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:14 AM Flag
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Oh please [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:16 AM Flag
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this is an off-base guess. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:14 AM Flag
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Maybe maybe not. OP is wondering why it feels illicit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:15 AM Flag
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NP. Look at the reactions on this thread. She probably is being made to feel that it's weird by the other female volunteers, who think like the paranoid lot on here. It's no wonder gender relations in this country are so messed up - plenty of people appear to feel that opposite-sex friends are off limits. How will we ever understand each other if we never hang out? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:26 AM Flag
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this is what i'm wondering. i'm not the only mom he's friendly though. he has a flexible work schedule so is around more than the wife. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:04 AM Flag
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Stupid. You can have male friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:03 AM Flag
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Sure. What does her wife say? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:03 AM Flag
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Crap: his* [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:04 AM Flag
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Who cares. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:13 AM Flag
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I'm the wife of a sahd and it's fine. He isn't going for Han urged when he has steak at home. Grow up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:06 AM Flag
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Weird auto correct! Hamburger [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:06 AM Flag
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hehe. I like this. i'm the op. i have steak at home too! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:09 AM Flag
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This particular DH? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:08 AM Flag
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My dh. He is sahd. He is supposed to be socializing with the other sahp. I'm not remotely worried about him having coffee with another woman. So juvenile to think this way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:14 AM Flag
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right. you can't speak for all. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:16 AM Flag
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see, this is what i'm trying to remember. i used to have male friends outside of couples! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:05 AM Flag
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Duh. O e of my best friends from college is a male (straight) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:08 AM Flag
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NP: of course she can. Men and woman can certainly be friends. Most of my friends have been men my whole life. DH isn't threatened by this at all. Some of the girlfriends or wives may have been years ago -- immature young women. I have only a few close women friends/ family - but that's just me. It's certainly possible to have non-romantic friendships with people of the opposite sex. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:08 AM Flag
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Parenthood, anyone?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:04 AM Flag
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People will think you are a homewrecker or a slut. Let me guess, he makes big bucks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:04 AM Flag
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no, he actually doesn't. probably less than my dh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:06 AM Flag
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SO why do you care if you have same sense of humor? Good for dating, but not for budding married romances. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:09 AM Flag
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um, because it makes for fun coffee chatting about life, the kids, etc.! i could care less about his income. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:12 AM Flag
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???? It's a FRIEND. They have something in common. That's how you make friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:15 AM Flag
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LOL what? Are you seriously asking why a person would want to hang out with another person with whom she gets along and whom she finds funny? Have you never been involved in a friendship? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:27 AM Flag
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Wait, you're kidding right? You are seriously going out for coffee with some other dude who is married and not telling DH? It feels illicit because you are flirting and having an "emotional" affair with some other woman's man and it is exciting to you. Really, SAHM and doing this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:05 AM Flag
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Exactly my point. If it feels wrong, that's because it is wrong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:06 AM Flag
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i'm wondering if i'm just being sexist or paranoid since it's the first "new" male friend i've made since having kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:09 AM Flag
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She didnt say she didnt tell dh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:09 AM Flag
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Invite him and his wife to dinner with you and your husband. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:05 AM Flag
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If you don't want to, that's why it's illicit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:08 AM Flag
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No problem with that [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:09 AM Flag
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this is what i'm thinking. we should hang all together, maybe at the auction or school event. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:11 AM Flag
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So unnecessary! I am the OR with a SAHD who hangs out with other SAHM and that sounds dreadful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:42 AM Flag
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Why aren't you telling dh? I tell dh if I grab coffee with someone. Why are you hiding this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:07 AM Flag
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i don't specifically tell dh when i'm grabbing coffee with mommy friends after dropoff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:10 AM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:16 AM Flag
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Because they have the same sense of humor? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:11 AM Flag
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It just feels illicit because you perceive it to be unusual in this context. I have male friends from work. My DH has met some of them and likes them. It's normal to have friends of the opposite sex. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:15 AM Flag
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thank you sane working mom! i am actually thinking i need to get back in the workforce since the idea of male friends should not be this odd! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:16 AM Flag
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Troll [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:19 AM Flag
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pardon me? i've been a sahm for 9 years. i volunteer at school so much it keeps me busy. but i don't like feeling this way! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:22 AM Flag
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It's not odd. :) You're just in a female-heavy environment at the moment. Don't let these anxiety-ridden people above convince you there's something untoward going on when there isn't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:21 AM Flag
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thanks! posting on here i expected to be flamed. i want to hear it all and i'll take it all with a grain of salt! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:23 AM Flag
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You're too old to be this naive. Good luck when your same "humor" takes you even further. Men and women are not the same, chicks for coffee yes, why not. Some other woman's man, fuck no. Why is this so hard for some of you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:42 AM Flag
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LOL do you make your husband wear his chastity belt whenever he leaves the house, or do you settle for relying on his GPS chip to keep tabs on his whereabouts? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:46 AM Flag
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No, I don't have to make him, my pussy is still plenty tight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:52 AM Flag
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some other woman's man? i'm some other man's woman! are his dad friends saying this to him, to stay away from me??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:53 AM Flag
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This! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:17 AM Flag
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OMG didn't you watch Parenthood? You're living the plot line. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:33 AM Flag
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i never saw Parenthood! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:54 AM Flag
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Here is a different perspective. The dad you are friends with may very well be my DH. He volunteers at school too as is a SAHD. Do I feel jealous knowing he hangs out with other moms? I used to at the beginning, but frankly, I don't anymore. First he does not have the free time for an affair, and most importantly I think he is pretty unimpressed by SAHMs in general - no offense, but it's just not his style. So going back to your question, I think it's ok for you guys to have a friendly relationship and hang out - the way you'd hang out with other moms. And the only reason why you might feel uncomfortable about it is because maybe YOU have afterthoughts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:36 AM Flag
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Interesting. Don't mean to highjack another's thread, but why is your DH "unimpressed by SAHMs in general"? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:54 AM Flag
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Yup. Invite your dh along and his wife along or no go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:48 AM Flag
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or go out in a group of the other moms. problem solved. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:48 AM Flag
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we sometimes go in group. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:54 AM Flag
[ - ] Tarot mom here. Time for a few questions... 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 12:59 AM Flag
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is she going to boarding school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:00 AM Flag
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The card I drew for you was Temperance, reversed. That means there is a situation where bad judgement and ill-advised behavior is at play. So, in your situation, would boarding school be a consequence of behavior like this? If so, yes. If you're in a situation where boarding school is a desired outcome, this card could mean that such behavior will be an impediment. Does that help? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:05 AM Flag
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yes, thank you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:12 AM Flag
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Will they be successful? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:01 AM Flag
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The card I drew is The Hierophant, which represents wisdom, tradition, and trusted counsel. I'd say overall this is a good indication of success. Best of luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:07 AM Flag
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Thank you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:14 AM Flag
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Can you pinpoint the time and place where your education failed you and you turned to superstition? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:05 AM Flag
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Actually, my interest in Tarot cards began when I was in graduate school, researching coded information systems. As I've said many times before, I don't believe I'm predicting the future, but I'm interpreting symbols drawn at random. I believe that the psychology of the individual is revealed and that in that light the insight can be truly useful. My education is serving me very well. Can you pinpoint the time and place where you decided to shut down your imagination and start jumping to conclusions about people you don't know? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:11 AM Flag
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What will happen with him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:05 AM Flag
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OK, for you I drew the Three of Swords, reversed. This card pictures a heart with three swords piercing it, and represents grief. Reversed, it implies that you are in a situation where grief in a relationship will present itself, but you will be able to handle it and power through. Hard times ahead, but you will survive! Best of luck to you! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:24 AM Flag
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sorry -- can't do anything below this right now! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:25 AM Flag
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Wow, I looked deeper into this card's meaning it's astonishing how accurate it is. Ty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:45 AM Flag
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Can you give me a general reading on my job search? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:07 AM Flag
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Did we pick the right school for DD? thanks! [ Reply | More ]
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I'm ready to change careers but so far not luck with my job search, would this change? what should I do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:12 AM Flag
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What month will we finally find an apartment and move? Will we move? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:22 AM Flag
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will we get off the 92Y waitlist? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:28 AM Flag
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what will happen to my business this year? tia! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:36 AM Flag
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How will an important event I have in the next few weeks go? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 02.28.15, 01:49 AM Flag
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Hi, tarot mom. You really helped give me perspective when my DH was sick. Thank you. [ Reply | More ]
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