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[ - ] Sorry for another political post but which presidential poll is the most accurate and unbiased? Thanks. 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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The one whose results they announce late in the evening on the day after the first Monday in November. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:24 PM Flag
[ - ] So many shades of stupid 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:21 PM Flag
[ - ] A liberal is something you were proud to be, when I was growing up. Now it just means snarky clueless moron. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:14 PM Flag
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But I have hope that we will rise again. [ Reply | More ]
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Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzz [ Reply | More ]
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I love my husband but I swear every opinion he has is straight from NPR. I just stay quiet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:17 PM Flag
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Ahh, that is where this rhetoric is born! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:21 PM Flag
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Anyone who is a slave to any external one dimensional opinion will be a loser. Open your minds by reading and selecting vs. hearing and being fed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:24 PM Flag
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Sure it does sweetie. Time for your meds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:19 PM Flag
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That's the scary thing - whenever you disagree with a lib they suggest you go on meds. Mind control - Huxley, Orwell, Mao, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:25 PM Flag
[ - ] Dh posted pictures of db on fb over my vehement objection. Such a betrayal. Wwyd? So angry and so so disappointed with going behind my back. Wwyd? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:14 PM Flag
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Oh FFS. I feel bad for your DH. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:16 PM Flag
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And I feel bad for you. You sound even more awful than he. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:20 PM Flag
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Is your db really ugly or something? [ Reply | More ]
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Ok. Clearly only trolls on. I'm [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:24 PM Flag
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calm down. You have much bigger fish to fry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:18 PM Flag
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Indeed. This is just icing. [ Reply | More ]
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Post pictures of DH on facebook. Ideally one where he's coming out of the shower. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:20 PM Flag
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So FAKE, Trollie. [ Reply | More ]
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Not fake. Why would I post this as a troll post?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Oh god what did Kaepernick do 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:12 PM Flag
[ - ] Thoughts on the name June? Middle name suggestions? Tia. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Old fashion. Not that it matters but I know several who are Asisan. Middle names - Marie. [ Reply | More ]
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Love it. Middle name "Bug." [ Reply | More ]
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NP Not a given name but a nn of Buggie could be so cute. [ Reply | More ]
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Love it. [ Reply | More ]
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Louise [ Reply | More ]
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Elena [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:22 PM Flag
[ - ] S/o of boys alone in the locker room post, people who think a boy is at risk of molestation in the men's room, do you envision a room that is empty except for DS and the fiend? Or do you think all the other men will just watch someone drag your son into a stall and rape him and do nothing? Truly curious about scenarios people are envisioning and how they would apply in the always crowded NyC locker rooms. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:04 PM Flag
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No, they won't watch, they'll pretend to be tying their shoes or replying to a very important text. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:06 PM Flag
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Or just run out and throw up, like the Penn state guy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:21 PM Flag
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Its usually places like the park bathrooms which are not frequented often by men. I also just read about a man murdered in a mall bathroom in the middle of the day. Places like baseball games are crowded enough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:08 PM Flag
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Another man was Raped in a mall bathroom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:09 PM Flag
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If you read about it, that's because it's a rare occurrence. Did you read about the five million men who used mall restrooms that day with no ill effect? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:11 PM Flag
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You take chances with your kid who legally can't even be left at home. I'll do what I think is best. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:13 PM Flag
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New to this thread - but there is no "legally can't be left alone" law [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:18 PM Flag
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In what state? Are are you making that up? My state has a law. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:19 PM Flag
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NY. No, I'm not making that up. Can you link me to the law for your state? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:22 PM Flag
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Any many states there are and even with no minimum, your going to be arrested if you leave your 6 year old to their own devices. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:20 PM Flag
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I was addresses the law that was referenced. So many people think there are laws when there are not. It's a mistake often repeated [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:23 PM Flag
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But that assumes there is no downside to helicoptering. When your son gets to college and has a nervous breakdown because he's never done anything for himself, then what? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:23 PM Flag
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I live in an area where men have sex with each other in public bathrooms. I am not sending my son in. Flame me, I don't care. Dh would flip out if I let ds go in alone without checking that it was completely empty first. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:14 PM Flag
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It just takes a few minutes to molest or rape someone. A watched a 60 Minutes segment on child molesters who said they've even done it in the backseat of a car while the parents sat in front. The child never made a sound because he was terrified. Once a child is sexualized in that way, they go on to a lifetime of torment, abusing drugs, even becoming gay because that's how they were sexualized in formative years. This is why molesters were often victims who turned that way. Brain development cannot be ignored. A child's body is not meant to feel those things early. If you do and screw them up, they will forever be messed up. So be lazy and let your sons go alone to restrooms and see what happens. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:15 PM Flag
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Many teens were violently raped in public bathrooms, too. It doesn't have to be a child. [ Reply | More ]
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+1000000000. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:16 PM Flag
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Most victims don't become child molesters but most child molesters were victims. The ugly truth is that most incidents aren't even reported. I was molested by my eye doctor and I was teenager. My mother still doesn't know. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:17 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:25 PM Flag
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It depends. In many parks & rec bathrooms my kids went into (not country clubs) they were empty. Same at beach many times. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:20 PM Flag
[ - ] Seven ways the Clinton Foundation failed to meet its transparency promises (The Hill) 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I would like to unsubscribe from Clinton Foundation facts [ Reply | More ]
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Ok, I have unsubscribed you and signed you up for our Wikileaks group. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:04 PM Flag
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My friends and I are all still voting for her. Go Hillary 2016! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:02 PM Flag
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You all define stupid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:04 PM Flag
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Clinton Foundation is soo much more transparent than Trump. Can we see his taxes? About his businesses? [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 08.27.16, 08:04 PM Flag
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I don't think your quiitte understanding what the issue is lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:05 PM Flag
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Yes...transparency is the issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:06 PM Flag
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Um no, public corruption is the issue lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:07 PM Flag
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Then your post is way off the mark. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:08 PM Flag
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No it's not you freaking idiot - read the article. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:10 PM Flag
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You must work for Trump. Resort to name calling when you have got nothing else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:14 PM Flag
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You must work for Clinton - resort to deflection when you can't win the argument. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:15 PM Flag
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Actually,I am an independent who is fed up with this election but things like saying that article means Hillary Clinton is corrupt is what makes me know I will likely not vote for Trump. I read it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:19 PM Flag
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Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzz [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:10 PM Flag
[ - ] Got a plus one for a wedding. If not dating is it ok to bring a friend? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 07:58 PM Flag
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I'm morally opposed to plus ones. Go alone and meet your future husband instead. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:00 PM Flag
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What if I bring a female friend? [ Reply | More ]
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Screams...I am insecure! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:03 PM Flag
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Oh. [ Reply | More ]
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This is not what it screams to me. Np [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:07 PM Flag
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"I bought my friend along for the free food and booze" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:07 PM Flag
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I would cover her plate and more in my gift. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:09 PM Flag
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It's too easy to soend all your time talking to the person you already know. Why not meet some new people? [ Reply | More ]
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:00 PM Flag
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I would not. [ Reply | More ]
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You're going to be asked all night if you're dating and you might be missing out on a good singles table. [ Reply | More ]
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The singles table could be fun but, honestly, do what you what. If you want to bring a friend, do so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:07 PM Flag
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I wouldn't. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:10 PM Flag
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Depends on the circumstances. Are you travelling? Will you know others? I think if you will know very few others I would bring a male friend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:15 PM Flag
[ - ] I would take Bernie sanders, Marco Rubio, or Jeb bush over these 2 numbskulls. Can't remember the name of the 3rd guy running on the dem ticket. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 07:54 PM Flag
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Bernie would be easily 10-15 points ahead of Trump. That Clinton has such a small lead is pretty sad. Martin O'Malley was the third Democratic candidate. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 07:57 PM Flag
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I don't think so. He didn't have the donors or the backing of the Democratic party. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:01 PM Flag
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Hell no. [ Reply | More ]
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Bernie was the one I hated most [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:22 PM Flag
[ - ] New Yorker here: I have lived here 6 years & have only had Dominos pizza. Ready to branch out. Where should my first slice be from? Willing to travel. 34 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 07:43 PM Flag
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Lbj in Brooklyn [ Reply | More ]
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Oops name off. Here it is http://www.spumonigardens.com/m/ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 07:46 PM Flag
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Any pizza place which is every other block in NYC will have better pizza than dominos [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 07:50 PM Flag
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That's right. [ Reply | More ]
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sbarro [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 07:58 PM Flag
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you're joking, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 07:59 PM Flag
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Op here : Not joking. I am not a big pizza fan. And DC always wanted Dominos but he is a teenager now and willing to try something new. I usually didn't eat his dominos but would eat pizza from somewhere else with him. So looking for a place for us to try for lunch tomorrow. Its not something I like enough to go seek out on my own. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:07 PM Flag
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I'm sorry but you've been guilty of depriving your child of some of the finer things in life. You should be ashamed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:09 PM Flag
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I am so not ashamed and stop being a food snob. He loves it. Obviously people do as they have been in business a long time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:11 PM Flag
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tourists and transplanted people who fancy themselves New Yorkers keep it in business [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:13 PM Flag
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You don't know everyone who orders dominos. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:18 PM Flag
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Its a suburban staple. If you grew up in New York, you would never even consider Dominos [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:24 PM Flag
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I hate to break the bad news to ya. You are not a real New Yorker. Real New Yorkers are born here. Real New Yorkers have never eaten Dominos Pizza. Try Artichoke for a thick slice or John's for a thin slice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:07 PM Flag
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Shut up. I am whatever I say I am. You don't get to decide what I am. [ Reply | More ]
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you're an ass [ Reply | More ]
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I decided. I'm a real New Yorker [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:11 PM Flag
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Right back atcha. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:18 PM Flag
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Artichoke is no where near authentic NY pizza. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:12 PM Flag
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It was founded by an ex sanitation man from Staten Island. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:14 PM Flag
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So what??? A lot of NYers do a lot of things that doesn't make them authentic NY! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:16 PM Flag
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And where do you come from [ Reply | More ]
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Wow.R u scared to try new things?I guess pizza is a safe start.Kind of a waste that u r living in NYC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:08 PM Flag
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Not scared. I just don't choose to eat pizza if I have other options. Going with DS tomorrow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:12 PM Flag
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There are many other options in nyc. Good for you! Pizza is not my fav either [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:18 PM Flag
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1) I've always wondered who the hell was ordering from the pizza chains. Mystery solved. 2) you're not a NYer. [ Reply | More ]
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1) my son 2) yes I am [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:17 PM Flag
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Do you and your son eat frozen bagels too? [ Reply | More ]
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Do you and your son eat frozen bagels too? [ Reply | More ]
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Myob. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:21 PM Flag
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Calm down. don't get so excited. We're just teasing you. [ Reply | More ]
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6 years doesn't make you a new yorker. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:23 PM Flag
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Worry about yourself. [ Reply | More ]
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lol [ Reply | More ]
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I'm proud of you for your admittance. Now go to Eataly Pasta Pizza pronto. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:21 PM Flag
[ - ] Hello ladies, what's the easiest and least expensive way for me to find some great music to listen to when I run? I'd like to set up some playlists on my iPhone but I'm not good with this stuff. Thank you! 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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You can use Pandora, but it won't be a consistent playlist. Or Amazon prime music if you're a prime member. [ Reply | More ]
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Neat!! Yes I have Amazon prime, any idea if I can link it to my music app on my iPhone? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:23 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm confused. People who work in finance get fired in their 50s? Even the managing partners? My dh is a partner in a lawfirm. He can work as long as he wants. They can only get rid of him if he becomes incompetent. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 07:39 PM Flag
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Ask your husband to explain this to you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 07:42 PM Flag
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LOL [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 07:57 PM Flag
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It is not hard. Overall profits are down and given the business environment it is cheaper to replace senior people with juniors. [ Reply | More ]
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And even then, erectile dysfunction is not generally something people are let go for. [ Reply | More ]
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Law is different. However, I used to work in a law firm and they do put old partners out to pasture. [ Reply | More ]
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Not in their 50s?? That is very young. [ Reply | More ]
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Depends on revenue new clients they bring in [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:19 PM Flag
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Yep. [ Reply | More ]
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My dad is 75 and still practices medicine. [ Reply | More ]
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Engineers and doctors are the oldest practicing professions I've seen. I don't count professors because most are totally out of touch with the world at large. Or politicans because that shouldn't be a career but a short service. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Great... Only a few months after we bought a house we managed to get mold b cause of a leaking A/C... Ugh. We need to replace a wall (luckily only sheet rock and probably another spot (leaky roof) will have to be replaced too. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 07:35 PM Flag
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You should have homeowners insurance to cover this cost. [ Reply | More ]
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Many have mold excousions these days. [ Reply | More ]
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^ exclusions [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 07:42 PM Flag
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My homeowners insurance covered all that when our dishwasher's pipe had a small leak. Didn't notice the leak until the entire wall crumbled away behind it one day and the inspector said the mold meant all the cabinets had to be ripped out. That meant we had to get a new kitchen. It was 100% covered. We were shocked. [ Reply | More ]
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Can you share the name of your insurance company? Ours wouldn't cover a wall that molded after a flood! [ Reply | More ]
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np: A similar thing happened to my mother but hers happened when a built-in Sub-Zero leaked. Of course it decided to leak when she was out of the country for my wedding. When she returned, the floor was flooded and the wall and cabinets were also destroyed. The insurance company (State Farm) then promptly dropped her after 40 years and no prior claims. [ Reply | More ]
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Can you share the name of your insurance company? Ours wouldn't cover a wall that molded after a flood! [ Reply | More ]
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Did you use the word flood? Next time say Water Damage. Flood insurance is separate -- homeowners never covers it. [ Reply | More ]
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Sorry, but you have spores all over your house, in the duct work, and clinging to the walls. You need to move. [ Reply | More ]
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LOL. Give me a break. [ Reply | More ]
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This is dumb. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:18 PM Flag
[ - ] WSID? Or WWYD? We moved about 18 months ago - close enough to old city to visit on occasion but not enough for DH to commute on daily basis. Feeling as if I have been dumped by a BFF. Had started to pull away a bit before we moved, which I understood But now there's nada. If I text or email, I get a courtesy reply but not inviting of further engagement (so technically, not ghosting). I feel as if perhaps I did something, which troubles and saddens me as I would hate to have caused pain. The move has been hard for whole family - for me doubly with absence of this BFF. I knew it would be different but didn't expect that there would be a complete cessation of contact. Do I broach it or forget it? Our families are intertwined in some ways so there will be interactions. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 07:34 PM Flag
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When we moved it was like planes trains or autos hadn't been invented. I used to think it was me, but people just do not value friendship and do not go overboard trying to maintain ties. My mom's friend moved to LI and it was like she might as well have moved to Alaska. When she came to town all the gals got together but no one made a move to try to see that person in her home. She invited people out but it was always inconvenient. People are provincial. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, i think that's true in many ways. But this BFF has lots of friends strewn around the country and makes an effort to see them and be in touch on a regular basis. If I didn't know this, I would probably have more of your view. Knowing that is not the case makes it that much harder [ Reply | More ]
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well sounds like you tried. Hard to say what caused it not knowing either of you. Maybe move on and make new friends. It's hard, for sure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 07:40 PM Flag
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So don't bother to ask? Am trying to make new friends - does take time. I assumed that text/email/phone would make it easier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 07:42 PM Flag
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OK, she's not getting back to you so you may never know. You tried, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 07:45 PM Flag
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Sounds like op started this friendship later in life and as locals; friends that are geographically elsewhere may have been when bff was younger or met via travel [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 07:48 PM Flag
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What is ghosting? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 07:57 PM Flag
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A friend disappears from your life. No goodbye. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:02 PM Flag
[ - ] S/I the MP. It is not true that all second wives want nothing good for SDCs. I insisted that we make sure we paid for DDS college. It was not in DH'S divorce agreement. I'm sure lot of second wives and second husbands believe that marriage to someone with kids means a sacred obligation to those kids. 25 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Do you mean your SDD's college? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 07:33 PM Flag
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Sorry. I meant SDS. Fat fingers. [ Reply | More ]
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if he had money, it would only make sense. i'm sure the ugly comes out when the resources get tight. [ Reply | More ]
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He was unemployed. I was making 85k. We sold a house, got 200k. I insisted we take out enough to prepay college before rolling the rest into a new house. Yes, resources were more than many have. But, I suspect not a lot more than that poster has. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 07:39 PM Flag
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Did you have kids with him? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 07:42 PM Flag
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Yes. I had one. Our second was born later. He now makes 100k. I do also. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 07:47 PM Flag
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Would you feel the same if your own dc was older at that point and it was either college for step DC or your DC? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 07:51 PM Flag
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That is a very different situation and details matter. Where did whatever money come from etc? And, that is not at all that poster's situation. Her's is more like mine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 07:58 PM Flag
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Not true. She has 2 kids and her step DD is a senior in HS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:23 PM Flag
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I read her kids were 3 and 5. [ Reply | More ]
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This. OP is acting like she is so magnanimous. No. She would pick her own child first. Duh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:08 PM Flag
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+1. I treat my step-DD the way I would want someone to treat my child. In the infamous words of Mel Horowitz, "You divorce wives, not children!" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 07:35 PM Flag
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This. I am a step mother too. I had the will redrawn so his children would not be deprived due to me (we are citizens of different countries and USA estate and probate sucks). Mom is leaving her children nothing. Another example I spend countless hours discerning health concerns like recurrent nose bleeds and had them healed. Mom does not do this for her own children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 07:51 PM Flag
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OP wow. That's great. I am lucky. His mom is great and caring. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 07:59 PM Flag
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Would you feel same if it meant no college fund for your dcs and no extras for your dcs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 07:38 PM Flag
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I think that if your kids are a lot younger it's apples to oranges. My kids college is not yet fully funded. Neither was my step's at their age. It is possible my kids won't get loan free college, as my SDS did. That is the risk, but I couldn't short change him just to eliminate any risk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 07:44 PM Flag
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I wouldn't feel great paying for step dc's college, SAT prep and travel if my own DC had 0 in college fund and we couldn't afford any extras for our own dc and leaved a meager lifestyle to pay 70K a year for private college for step. It's a balance. You sound like a good person. As my mother says, being good to others usually costs your own family twofold [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 07:55 PM Flag
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What did mom suggest doing then? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 07:56 PM Flag
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I am not a step mom. This is just my moms life experience [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:12 PM Flag
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I guess that is a fair point. She is in a different situation. I was probably a little judgemental. Sorry for that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:03 PM Flag
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True. And I think OP is thinking that she is better than she is. I also think women should not marry men with prior children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:10 PM Flag
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OP ok. I am not perfect. And like I said, I am sorry if I sound like that person is a jerk. I don't know all the particulars. I just think overall that post, the way it all played out, made it sound like second marriage is all about throwing step kids under the bus. I think that lots of families try to do their best by all the kids. That is all I am trying to do. And it's not about swimming in money. I am not rich by UB standards. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:24 PM Flag
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I wish more stepparents were like you. My ex rushed into marriage with a truly evil person. Thankfully the marriage was brief, but that woman did a lot of damage in the few months they were married. My kid has enough material to write her memoirs and she's not even a teenager yet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:06 PM Flag
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OP thanks. I'm sorry. Being a step parent isn't always easy. I mean, I think that my step probably would have preferred his parents stayed together. And I knew in a way that all I could be was a caring person who was second best to that. But, it's been great having him in my life and my kids practically worship him. I know that I am lucky. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:12 PM Flag
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Not my experience. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 08:07 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone feel like talking admissions? What do you think of this list: St B's, A-S, Buckley, Browning, Cathedral, CGPS? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 07:30 PM Flag
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Add St. D's [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 07:34 PM Flag
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OP: Thought about that. Not Catholic.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 07:34 PM Flag
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I don't know if St Bernards and Browning are the extremes of your list but those schools are very different. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 08.27.16, 07:36 PM Flag
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