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[ - ] I'm so unhappy with my marriage. Anybody else? Why am I so disappointed? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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did you date for a very short period of time? [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] If your DH was dying would you turn a blind eye to him having an affair? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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He can't be all that bad if he has that kind of energy. [ Reply | More ]
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He's not really dying, I'm just trying to construct wish fulfillment scenarios that don't involve me maiming OW with a weed digger. [ Reply | More ]
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np. DH now wants to know what I'm snickering at. lol [ Reply | More ]
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Don't blame the OW, blame DH. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. Direct your anger toward the person who failed you. [ Reply | More ]
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LMAO [ Reply | More ]
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Weird [ Reply | More ]
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probably not [ Reply | More ]
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Queen Victoria was so stylish. When her husband Albert was dying, she allowed a visit by his favorite mistress. [ Reply | More ]
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He had mistresses? I thought they had a perfect marriage and were so in love with eachother? [ Reply | More ]
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ha. ha. ha. [ Reply | More ]
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tell me more! I love this stuff. [ Reply | More ]
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Well everything I know is from that movie that was made recently. Please enlighten me:) [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Who is as mean and catty in real life as they are on this board? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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They wouldn't dare irl. They are all passive aggressive women that dont' have the guts to say how they really feel. [ Reply | More ]
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Well, me, because I'm not mean and catty - I'm supportive on this board, and weird/awkward/socially "off" irl. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:40 AM Flag
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me too, it's one of the reasons I don't hang around too long - too depressing to and energy zapping to read all the nastiness [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:46 AM Flag
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Ditto on the above two posts. [ Reply | More ]
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Parenting is long, hard, difficult, and embarrassing. Thank goodness for ub. [ Reply | More ]
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Yeah but the majority of the bitchy posts have nothing to do with parenting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:58 AM Flag
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unfortunately, I think they all are, but it would come out as behind-the-back bitchiness and backhand comments in real life. And if grown women act this way on an internet forum, it is no wonder the younger generations have such an incredible problems with cyber bullying. Why can't everyone just play nice! Teach our daughters that your words hurt even when they are typed and you can't immediately see the impact. I worry so much for my daughter as she grows up. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Thinking about summer camps for 2015? where to begin? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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lrei [ Reply | More ]
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what is irei? [ Reply | More ]
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if you have to ask.... [ Reply | More ]
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nobody - it's why UB exists [ Reply | More ]
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wrong post, bro [ Reply | More ]
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what do you mean wrong post? i am still confused. [ Reply | More ]
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you make absolutely no sense....i was just asking for suggestions on starting my search. no need to be obnoxious. i am not a regular user of this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:42 AM Flag
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How old is dc? Daycamp? Sleepaway? [ Reply | More ]
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sleepaway camps.....age 8 now. starting to do some online searches [ Reply | More ]
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i want to have an independent search and not get pushed to the same 12 camps everyone is recommending by a camp lady [ Reply | More ]
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you'll get the same 12 camps from these biatches [ Reply | More ]
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I am not even done planning for this summer! [ Reply | More ]
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i am searching now on sleepawaysearch.com which seems good - takes a long time to find the right camp for my daughter [ Reply | More ]
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are you looking for sleepaway camps for this summer? been told to try to see a few the summer before....but i hope to only visit 3-4 and make a decision. [ Reply | More ]
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Frost valley [ Reply | More ]
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Need to select a few and go to the rookie days/parent tours. DS knew immediately which one he wanted. DD was tougher...worried about being homesick so chose a 3-week option which was great for her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:51 AM Flag
[ - ] Just met a guy who has a "you see it, you suck it" tattoo. I'm bailing. 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Oh jeez. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:34 AM Flag
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Run like the wind [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:52 AM Flag
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Tell him you've just seen another guy... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:36 AM Flag
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What is wrong with you? You have a serious trolling addiction. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:38 AM Flag
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no I'm not the meth poster [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:41 AM Flag
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seriously? yea, not my type [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:54 AM Flag
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Maybe you should stop picking up guys at truck stops. [ Reply | More ]
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where is the tattoo? [ Reply | More ]
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hip/groin [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:42 AM Flag
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so did you suck it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:59 AM Flag
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no he just showed me casually [ Reply | More ]
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run [ Reply | More ]
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like he was proud of it? [ Reply | More ]
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:53 AM Flag
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Is his name Whitey or Bob [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:42 AM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
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He sounds like a keeper. [ Reply | More ]
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what on earth is that in reference to??? [ Reply | More ]
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fried chicken [ Reply | More ]
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Hi UB Troll! I truly dearly wish this did happen to you. Just think how in demand you would be if your BJs were as good as your OBVIOUS TROLL POSTS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:08 AM Flag
[ - ] RHoNY. I bet Kristen has a guy on the side. Josh probably cheating too. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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yep [ Reply | More ]
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She is gorgeous but sooooooo boring [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Prenatal SSRI Use and Offspring With Autism Spectrum Disorder or Developmental Delay 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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and here you go, "the strongest association occurred with first-trimester exposure" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:39 AM Flag
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Association is the key word here. [ Reply | More ]
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I stopped taking prozac as soon as I learned I was pg even though psych said it was "safe". [ Reply | More ]
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crazy moms have defective babies. duh [ Reply | More ]
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+2 [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Can you have a chic lifestyle in NYC on a budget? How so? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:36 AM Flag
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Well troll, first step is get off UB and get a job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:21 AM Flag
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not trolling, i swear. and btw, i have a job. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:38 AM Flag
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The word "'lifestyle" makes my ass twitch. [ Reply | More ]
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omggggggg [ Reply | More ]
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Chic isn't about money. It's about taste and style [ Reply | More ]
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What does chic mean to you? [ Reply | More ]
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when a hen and a rooster love each other very much, they hug in a special way. a few months later they have a baby chic [ Reply | More ]
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Cute [ Reply | More ]
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To a degree, but you'll have to cut-back somewhere. It will also take work - you'll need to shop sales, etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:33 AM Flag
[ - ] "The separation of the races is not a disease of colored people. It is a disease of white people. I do not intend to be quiet about it."-Albert Einstein 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:35 AM Flag
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Wow take that Racist Mom. [ Reply | More ]
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Non-white here: Piss off. [ Reply | More ]
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Einstein was a jew with a living memory of ww2, in the us during a time of Jim Crow. of course he would be sensitive to this. if he saw black people today, i doubt he would be so quick to trumpet blacks [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] s/o Starting to look at buying an apt in Manhattan. What % should I expect for the down payment? Is it realistic to think I can put down 10% or will I need considerably more? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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20 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:51 AM Flag
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condo, 10% [ Reply | More ]
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At least 20% [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:39 AM Flag
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Really? That seems so high! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:58 AM Flag
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Many coops want more [ Reply | More ]
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25% [ Reply | More ]
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can people even get mortgages anymore if you don't have 20% [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:56 AM Flag
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It's very difficult right now to buy an apt. Inventory is low. Lots of extremely wealthy all cash type buyers out there [ Reply | More ]
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op: That makes a lot of sense, and a buyer who can pay cash is obv more desirable for the seller... Fuck! haha [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:59 AM Flag
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Coop boards like a big downpayment too. [ Reply | More ]
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20%+ if you go anywhere reputable with competitive rates [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] What a rip-off! US citizens need a visa to vacation in Australia (even if you can apply online) 17 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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how is it a rip off? part of the expense of the trip [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:13 AM Flag
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Its a $20 visa fee. New Zealand does not require it [ Reply | More ]
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so new zealand is different - if 20 bucks is upsetting you, then you need to rethink your vacation plans [ Reply | More ]
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If you can afford to Australia, I'm thinking you can afford the visa. Get over it. [ Reply | More ]
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What do we charge Australians? [ Reply | More ]
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$14 [ Reply | More ]
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it's $20, your plane ticket is in the thousands [ Reply | More ]
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I didn't know trolls travel. [ Reply | More ]
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China and Vietnam will cost you a lot more. [ Reply | More ]
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20 dollars.ok [ Reply | More ]
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OP: Its the concept. Being originally a citizen of a 3rd world country and harassed by visa officials of just about every country I visited, Iid not expect this. Took me 15 years to become a US citizen and theres STILL a visa. Bastards! [ Reply | More ]
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Americans don't have a free pass to the rest of the world. [ Reply | More ]
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I had to get a visa for my country of birth. Though US passport got you more freedom [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:55 AM Flag
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Australians need a visa to visit Indonesia, their nearest neighbour, to whom they provide immense amounts of financial aid. And it costs $25. No-one thinks twice about that, its just a cost of Bali holiday. You may be a US citizen, but it doesn't mean you are superior to other nationalities. [ Reply | More ]
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I had to pay $150 or so to get my visa for Bangladesh. And it's Bangladesh! Not exactly the most desirable destination of all-time... [ Reply | More ]
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Those visas are often retaliatory. This is when I use my alternate passport. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Getting priced out of Manhattan and feeling so sad right now. 39 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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play the lotto [ Reply | More ]
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Details? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:13 AM Flag
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This will happen to us most likely too. Stinks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:15 AM Flag
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I almost wish we were getting priced out. I'm feeling like I want to raise my kids somewhere a little less aggressive and cleaner, but creating a commute for my husband would fuck us all over. [ Reply | More ]
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It's really exhausting, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:34 AM Flag
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A commute or NYC (exhausting)? We love NYC but decided to try suburbs for one year because we wanted to try the schools. Rented out our apt for the year. We like it here. Lower westchester. If you work in midtown commute isn't a big deal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:39 AM Flag
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Are you surprised that you like it? What do you like about it? [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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right [ Reply | More ]
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Starting to really hate it here- never thought I'd move. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:36 AM Flag
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where will you move to? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:39 AM Flag
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Not sure. People in burbs also seem like assholes. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 but we are doing it anyway! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:27 AM Flag
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us too. you are not alone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:33 AM Flag
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how much is your rent as % of HHI? [ Reply | More ]
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OP: rent is $1400 jr 2 bedroom in manhattan. HHI - 120k which feels very poor. I realize it's not but it feels like it [ Reply | More ]
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That's really cheap! [ Reply | More ]
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OP: yes but I live in bad neighborhood and apt is TINY [ Reply | More ]
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Can you be more specific about neighborhood? [ Reply | More ]
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uf, walk up in Hamilton Heights? [ Reply | More ]
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not exactly Manhattan [ Reply | More ]
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And you're sad to leave? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:43 AM Flag
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If we didn't buy we would have been priced out [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:20 AM Flag
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we have a rent stab, so not priced out. but we would like more space... so that's the trade-off we face. [ Reply | More ]
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Can you afford a small inexpensive "2nd" home? [ Reply | More ]
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wouldn't want to. i'll only buy our definite retirement home if we don't inherit one free and clear in a place we can call home (will inherit several apartments in my home country but no idea what condition, floor plan yet). the rest, i prefer to rent. learned a lot from "other's people mistakes" during the past housing bubble crash. [ Reply | More ]
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Why are you complaining then? [ Reply | More ]
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If we stay in NY we will never own our home, that worries me [ Reply | More ]
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Me too [ Reply | More ]
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OP: this is my concern too. I have lived in Manhattan my entire life and can't imagine my life anywhere else. But rents are so high that I'm not sure how much longer we can keep paying rent and we don't have enough money saved for down payment to buy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:43 AM Flag
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I wiped out my 401K for down payment 9 years ago - best decision ever. Could not afford Manhattan otherwise. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:53 AM Flag
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but you save by renting right? that's our case. we'll buy the definite house or inherit it when retiring. no worries. the American style of buying a different home each 7 years was very wasteful and didn't really created net worth anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:43 AM Flag
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No we aren't saving right now, our rent is high & we only have 175k HHI [ Reply | More ]
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OP: we aren't saving much either [ Reply | More ]
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wow we have 120 HHI and save about 30%, but i'm super resourceful [ Reply | More ]
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as it should [ Reply | More ]
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it's ok, it's not so bad out there. [ Reply | More ]
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I am a landlord and I am about to raise the raise the rent from 3500 to 4500 - too many increases in everything (taxes, maintenance, assessments, etc) [ Reply | More ]
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I need to move [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:45 AM Flag
[ - ] Did you take prenatal vitamins in the months BEFORE conceiving? 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I never took them at all [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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You should be taking them throughout your child bearing years no matter what. [ Reply | More ]
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Um, what? [ Reply | More ]
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no that is not correct [ Reply | More ]
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Yes it is. Prenatals off the shelf aren't that different than a regular vitamin except for the folic acid. If you aren't on bc you should always be taking a vitamin high in folic acid in case you get pregnant. It will help prevent neural tube defects. [ Reply | More ]
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Sure, if you want to intake a huge amount of iron. You don't need all that iron. [ Reply | More ]
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^When not pregnant [ Reply | More ]
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Your body excretes whatever it doesn't need. You don't absorb much from vitamins anyway. The best way to get what you need is by eating a balanced diet. [ Reply | More ]
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This is not true. Depends on the mineral you are talking about. Some are stored and can be toxic in large doses. [ Reply | More ]
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There's nothing in a prenatal vitamin that would create that level of toxicity. Get a grip. [ Reply | More ]
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It is if you have hemochromatosis, which most do not know. [ Reply | More ]
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Ok, what % of the population has that? You sound like a hypochondriac. [ Reply | More ]
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1 in 100 white people [ Reply | More ]
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
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What about while breastfeeding? [ Reply | More ]
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
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For how long before conceiving ? [ Reply | More ]
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I take them continuously along with a calcium supplement. There's no reason breastfeeding would be an issue. [ Reply | More ]
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Yep [ Reply | More ]
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yes and they tasted like vanilla [ Reply | More ]
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yum what brand? [ Reply | More ]
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no, and not after. Centrul +vitamin B was enough [ Reply | More ]
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Just take folic acid ffs [ Reply | More ]
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yes. just take them everyday. but if you are asking bc you are pg, just start taking them now and don't stress about what you should have done. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes for about 6 months before but not religiously. Got pregnant first try so glad I did. [ Reply | More ]
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you need to take folic acid for 3 mons before, everything else is optional. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:42 AM Flag
[ - ] Been with bf for several years. He is estranged from his wife but tells me the reason why I can't attend sport and school functions for their dc's is bc he doesn't want to hurt her feelings. Wtf? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Fake. [ Reply | More ]
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Estranged as in not divorced as in still married? [ Reply | More ]
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STOP TROLLING. [ Reply | More ]
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Yeah. Her trolling efforts have become pathetic. Hey, UB Troll! You had a good run. Just leave on a high note. Don't debase your oeuvre with these obvious posts. What I thought was just fun for you is starting to look like a desperate attempt at recognition. I'm a bit concerned for your general well being and mental health. Making the "Most Popular" isn't everything, you know. [ Reply | More ]
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This. [ Reply | More ]
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He is married. Move along. [ Reply | More ]
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A blessing. School shit is boring as hell. Thank your stars. [ Reply | More ]
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UB Troll you should try and find a more respectable addiction, like meth or maybe heroin. I hear crack is making a comeback. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:46 AM Flag
[ - ] TMI, but it's really embarrassing how bad I am capable of stinking up a bathroom. I'm much worse than DH even. Anyone else have this delightful problem? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:18 AM Flag
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drink chlorophyll [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:36 AM Flag
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What does that do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:21 AM Flag
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takes away your body odor [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:38 AM Flag
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poopouri - it works [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:43 AM Flag
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My sister uses that. Is that you K? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:02 AM Flag
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no, i only have a brother [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:04 AM Flag
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douche [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:54 AM Flag
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poop more often. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:56 AM Flag
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eat radishes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:41 AM Flag
[ - ] Today on UB, I learned... 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:15 AM Flag
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That not liking sushi must mean I'm from a flyover state. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:15 AM Flag
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no one wants sushi in a flyover state. EXCEPT the chicago airport. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:34 AM Flag
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You think they're pulling your toro from the East River? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:24 AM Flag
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direct light, gets to nyc faster. could you imagine frozen fish switching planes to get to peoria. gross. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:55 AM Flag
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^flight [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:55 AM Flag
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They can keep frozen fish frozen in these new fangled things called freezers. And yes, they have them on special planes and trucks.... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:08 AM Flag
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This. I commented how stupid that was. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:24 AM Flag
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I am not fond of sushi either. The only thing I like raw are clams. Fresh, just off the sand clams. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:44 AM Flag
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I am not fond of sushi either. The only thing I like raw are clams. Fresh, just off the sand clams. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:44 AM Flag
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I am not fond of sushi either. The only thing I like raw are clams. Fresh, just off the sand clams. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:45 AM Flag
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I am not fond of sushi either. The only thing I like raw are clams. Fresh, just off the sand clams. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:45 AM Flag
[ - ] Latest article in NY Times about the Nanny Tax. 11 Aprill 2014: 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:09 AM Flag
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We pay all nannies except ad-hoc evening sitters that are way below 1900/yr on the books. This isn't news. And we use GTM to do it - two lawyers, we couldn't figure out a way to make sure we get everything done consistently so we outsource it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:06 AM Flag
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How much does your nanny net? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:07 AM Flag
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No one said it was new. Why so aggressive? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:19 AM Flag
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We pay all nannies except ad-hoc evening sitters that are way below 1900/yr on the books. This isn't news. And we use GTM to do it - two lawyers, we couldn't figure out a way to make sure we get everything done consistently so we outsource it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:06 AM Flag
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We pay all nannies except ad-hoc evening sitters that are way below 1900/yr on the books. This isn't news. And we use GTM to do it - two lawyers, we couldn't figure out a way to make sure we get everything done consistently so we outsource it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:06 AM Flag
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I have been thinking of putting our nanny on the books, but will it come out that she has worked off the books for several years? Also how much more can we expect to pay so she nets 900 a week? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:21 AM Flag
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my nanny netted 450 and we paid about 160 in taxes. Plus unemployment insurance, workmans comp (i think those two together were <1000/yr) and fees to our service provider (60/mo) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:13 AM Flag
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So, about how much more would I have to pay to gross my nanny up to 900? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:17 AM Flag
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If NY, she would have to gross about $1200 to have $900 after tax. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:22 AM Flag
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So about 4000k a year? Not terrible [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:41 AM Flag
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Not terrible at all. Plus, she can apply for health insurance under Obamacare, and not rely on Medicaid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:28 AM Flag
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I never understand this. the nannies want to net the same on the books as they did off. but on the books has many added benefits to them like unemployment insurance, workers comp, and social security. why should they get all of the benefits while the employer has to pay 1.5x as much? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:17 AM Flag
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it means they think they can negotiate a higher gross to keep the net equal. it's not a definite, they are negotiating. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:21 AM Flag
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it's the guilt factor. parents feel guilty about not being there for DCs, so they give nanny whatever she wants to avoid having a disgruntled employee. It is certainly worth it though. Once she knows that you pay her as a professional, and respect her as a professional, she can't guilt trip you. After all, you are doing everything you can to make sure she can draw benefits when she's old/sick. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:42 AM Flag
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I don't blame nannies for wanting to keep more $$$ in their pocket. The real issue is that the market is set by the majority of families that pay off the books. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:42 AM Flag
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actually, she has a point. the gap between what is acceptable to that particular nanny on and off the books is precisely the amount by which the nanny values those services the taxes are providing her with (say, SS/Medicare in the future). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:29 AM Flag
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chances are, they know they will get Medicaid and get SSI by hiding all assets when all anyway. so there's no much difference between their SS and SSI. and actually Medicaid is a much better deal for the old than Medicare. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:30 AM Flag
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np. My question is, how are they nannies able to rent apartments in greater nyc? Landlords are getting very strict about credit checks, and income verification, even asking for tax returns. How can nanny prove she can afford apartment, if she works off books? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:33 AM Flag
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Section 8. they hide their income, only show their dhs. they have 3-5 kids, all with FA, food stamps, medicaid. that's how they buy their cars for cash. it's the tax avoidance + welfare programs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:59 AM Flag
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give you an example of one of the Mexican nannies i know: 5 kids, free ride on parochial schools and at SUNY they wouldn't qualify for if they presented their $85k/year income. ditto with their project rent that doesn't even cover the utilities and Medicaid and Food Stamps. they own a house in CT which they rent to her brother who works entirely off-the-books also to collect more benefits. they also get free childcare through HeadStart because funny enough, she presented a letter from her employer who pays her OFF-THE-BOOKS to qualify for free headstart. this is happening because NYC and NY State don't bother to cross data bases. if they were doing it, taxpayers would save TENS OF THOUSANDS of dollars on this family per year for at least the last decade and the next. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:05 AM Flag
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False. If a family finds a great nanny, they will do everything they can to keep her as long as possible. If that means putting her on the books, they do it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:29 AM Flag
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Why is the burden on the employee to demand that the employer obey the law? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:40 AM Flag
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In my experience, the nanny tax avoidance is mostly nanny driven. Mostly because nanny is an all cash game for immigrants. Illegal immigrants? No, not necessarily. But immigrants, yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 02:03 AM Flag
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ehhh, if it starts to cost you $1300+ per week you think, eh, I could find somebody else and start from scratch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:46 AM Flag
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This broke exactly zero new pinches of dirt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:37 AM Flag
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Hey troll, are you being upstaged by a legitimate post?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:43 AM Flag
[ - ] How much does you nanny make a week? On or off books? How many DCs? How many hours? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:09 AM Flag
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600, off the books, 2 dc's, 45 hours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:11 AM Flag
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900; off books; 2 kids; anywhere from to 45-52hrs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:12 AM Flag
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750, off, 45 hrs, but both dcs in school for almost 30 hours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:29 AM Flag
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700, off, 3 dc, 50 hrs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:13 AM Flag
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500, 2 dcs, 32hrs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:32 AM Flag
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450 (net), on books, 2 dcs (but 1 in daycare full time, so she just drops off and picks up right before she leaves) 45 hrs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:34 AM Flag
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700 week, 45-50 hours, off books [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:18 AM Flag
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240, 12 hours, 2 DCs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:27 AM Flag
[ - ] I am 41 and due with #3 in July. I don't know why, but lately I've been torturing myself, reading all these articles on older mothers and genetic damages in the fetus. Babies born to older mothers are more prone to childhood cancer, etc. Why am I doing this? Chance are db will be fine, right? 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:08 AM Flag
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Right. Knock it off and just enjoy your pregnancy. Congratulations :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:26 AM Flag
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why would you have a third at your age??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:10 AM Flag
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accident [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:29 AM Flag
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OP. Not an accident. We wanted a third. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:19 AM Flag
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Is there statistic that also shows any difference between older mother of 1st vs 2nd or 3rd? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:15 AM Flag
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op. I don't think it matters, from what I've read. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 04.19.14, 01:19 AM Flag
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