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[ - ] DH has an aunt whom I find odious. She is snobby, eccentric, tone-deaf. She is self-centered and when you get around her she talks and talks and it's all about her illustrious ancestors. I really don't want to spend time with her. I don't even think she was particularly nice to DH as a boy etc. Now my DH is a decent person but not exactly warm-hearted. He swears he just feels sorry for her because she is all alone. I secretly think he wants her to leave us her money - not tons but maybe an estate of $1-2mm (this amount is not life-altering for us). Am I awful for thinking this and not believing it's really his kind heart that forces us to pay court to her every so often? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:20 PM Flag
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Not awful. There are plenty of people that would have the money in the back of their heads. Just be polite. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:22 PM Flag
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OP: I should say he's not just a "decent" person, he's a very moral person and very loving to me and our DCs. But not like some soft touch who weeps over the stray kittens or anything... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:23 PM Flag
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I have family members like both your DH and his aunt. I think it is normal for someone to pay an occasional visit to aunts/uncles even if they don't particularly enjoy (or even actively dislike) spending time, and it really is a sense of obligation, pity, responsibility, and not even a little about the money. Doesn' tmean you're awful for thinking that or that it's not in the back of his head, but he does not have to have a bleeding heart to think he ought to visit this lonely self-absorbed aunt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:28 PM Flag
[ - ] UB has broken me! A post earlier said people got an immediate confirmation after sending their R2 confirmation to Hunter. I sent mine a half hour ago and have not received anything back. And yes, I sent to the correct email address (did not hit reply). (1) Are people lying / has anyone else not received a confirm and (2) should I resend at some point or assume it went through? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:19 PM Flag
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We got ours right away, but it went to the spam folder. (It came from a different address then did the original email.) Check your spam folder. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:22 PM Flag
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Oops, than did . . . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:23 PM Flag
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OP: Thanks, I checked spam before posting. Not there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:25 PM Flag
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You are kind of losing your mind over this, at least if you're the poster who has posted like 8 times since yesterday. I think you have to maybe make peace with the results not going your way. All your over-revving on this isn't doing you any good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:25 PM Flag
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We got ours and everyone else I know got theirs as well and it seems like from hearing from other R2 families that if you did not receive yours by now that Kyla has decided to pass on you and that you should not even bother showing up. Oh, and forget about reaching out to the school or admissions office. From what I've heard Kyla is just really nasty and will hang-up on you immediately after she is done cursing you out. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] My 401k just crossed the 1 mil mark today 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:18 PM Flag
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Nice [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:19 PM Flag
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hi5! [ Reply | More ]
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how long have you had it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:20 PM Flag
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since first year after college [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:23 PM Flag
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how old are you now? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:25 PM Flag
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mid to late forties lol [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:28 PM Flag
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I tell any young person working in their first job to participate in a 401k, if offered, bc of the time element. It may hurt to not get that money in their paycheck at first, but the payoff is well worth the discomfort. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:28 PM Flag
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congrats! I am only at 250k and fear I will die of old age at my desk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:20 PM Flag
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Congratulations! Have you had company matching along the way or had great investment returns, or just got there with max contributions each year? Tell us how it's done! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:21 PM Flag
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I had it since first year after college and always maxed it out, match varied greatly (I've worked for 5 different companies), very few adjusts during this time, I really think consistency is key, I always had a mix of very aggressive 50% and moderate other 50% within the plan available funds (but 100% equities), always did the rollover to keep the $ in the same place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:27 PM Flag
[ - ] I want to look fabulous on new years eve in a dress the juuuuust fits today...considering timing, would you spend your time running or going to Barre classes over the next week? I can budget about an hour/day to work out. FYI..don't need to lose a ton of weight - just want to look fit. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:10 PM Flag
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Personally I would do Barre or Pilates - will help you stand in a way that looks lean and healthy, running a lot / daily can make people look gaunt if it is not part of their regular routine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:23 PM Flag
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If it 'just' fits, then I feel like a diet modification to de-puff might be a good idea. Slow down on the carbs for a week? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:26 PM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone done a kids' birthday party at Jekyll & Hyde? Thoughts? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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sometimes its nice and sometimes it sucks so go figure [ Reply | More ]
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OP: yes, the reviews are very mixed. It's $10 less pp at the Greenwich Village location, but I suspect that's because it's less polished. [ Reply | More ]
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be wary! [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] I think I'll get my boyfriend a pair of nice optical frames... Can anyone please recommend good eyeglass store? I work on UES. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:08 PM Flag
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With him trying them on, right? [ Reply | More ]
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Right [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] Are guinea pigs disgusting pets? My kids want one so badly. We can't handle a puppy right now so I'm this close to getting a GP. Pros? Cons? 21 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:06 PM Flag
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absolutely disgusting. they fart a lot (esp if you feed them broccoli, had a college roommate who did this) [ Reply | More ]
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they bite, smell, squeal and are nocturnal - not sure if there are any pros [ Reply | More ]
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makes a good mitten? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:09 PM Flag
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They are nocturnal and they poop a lot. Dogs are more work but much more reward. A fat little rodent is nothing like a dog. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:09 PM Flag
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GP are not nocturnal. Hamsters are. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:22 PM Flag
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My friend bought her dd a guinea pig instead of a puppy. She said it was the best thing they did. You have to stay on the kids to keep their cage clean. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:10 PM Flag
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Go with Chinese dwarf hamsters. Much cuter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:11 PM Flag
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Their urine reeks like cat pee. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:11 PM Flag
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Gross. They smell and take up a lot of space. Also, if you have a cat allergy, you may be allergic to them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:12 PM Flag
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I've found the only pets worth having are cats and dogs. These caged rodents smell, and they aren't much fun for the kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:13 PM Flag
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We have them as preschool class pets and they're great! Very sweet and gentle and happy to be held and petted. They are stinky when you need to clean their cage but that's a fairly easy job. They are social creatures so I think it's better to get a pair (but make sure they are the same sex!) [ Reply | More ]
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OP thanks can you bathe them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:16 PM Flag
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No! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:18 PM Flag
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Animal lover here- they are the worst pets. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:17 PM Flag
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I love em. Gentle, Sweet. Just change their cage every 2 days. [ Reply | More ]
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How about a rabbit? More interactive than a GP and can be litter trained very easily. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:18 PM Flag
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You, your apartment, your children, everything will smell like their feces, wood chips and urine. Plus I think it's mean. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:19 PM Flag
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We kept the class pet this past summer. It was similar, a hedgehog, and an awful pet. Others have mentioned they are nocturnal, don't do much and cleaning the poop off of its stupid wheel is the worst. ITA that dogs are much better. Maybe get an adult rescue rather than a puppy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:19 PM Flag
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Don't. They are cute. It poop constantly and cleaning gout the cage is gross. We just found ours a home thankfully [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:27 PM Flag
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^Cleaning out the cage [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:28 PM Flag
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The easiest pet we ever had for kids was white mice. Cheap. They are decently interactive with paper towel tubes and making their homes. Easy to clean, don't smell. And they don't live long. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:28 PM Flag
[ - ] Hey North Korea: We Gonna Git You Sucka 0 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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[ - ] My dd 2yo woke me up this morning by stroking my face and whispering "mommy you're my best friend. I love you mommy". She went to bed last night trying to claw my eyeballs out... 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:05 PM Flag
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csb [ Reply | More ]
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Well, you probably are his best friend ... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:08 PM Flag
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it's a her [ Reply | More ]
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Oh, well, totally different then. [ Reply | More ]
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Then you know that toddlers are mercurial (like kids up until around 23) and you shouldn't spend much time worrying what they think about you or taking that stuff seriously. [ Reply | More ]
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Mean girls say those "you are my best friend" line at younger age these days. It used to start at 8yo, then 5yo, now 2yo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:19 PM Flag
[ - ] Scene in the Suburbs: SAHMs who drink too much wine. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I am an urban WOHM who drinks too much wine. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:07 PM Flag
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wow that sucks. never happens in the city. [ Reply | More ]
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Scene in the Suburbs: SAHMs who stay at home a lot [ Reply | More ]
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how are you supposed to tolerate the burbs if you don't drink too much booze? [ Reply | More ]
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And they all think that they're big shots for drinking $15 bottles of Pinot Grigio. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:10 PM Flag
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Those suburbanites! Ha! [ Reply | More ]
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Don't get me wrong. I'm a born and raised suburbanite and I love living in the burbs. And I drink $5 bottles of wine all the time. But I don't put photos of me doing it on Facebook. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:16 PM Flag
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Said it once and I'll say it again: scenes from the most boring movie ever written. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:23 PM Flag
[ - ] I have decided to stay in my marriage and just have some life of my own to feel less oppressed and happier. I don't want another man but I want to have a fulfilling social life and some happiness that isn't just about kids. I am going to get a sitter as if for date night and am going to make my own plans with friends on Friday night after kids go to bed. I hope this works. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 04:59 PM Flag
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What would derail you being social with your friends? Is your DH against this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:00 PM Flag
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He is not against this in theory but if I go out he will call every 30 minutes and text to make sure I am going to get home soon and safe. My biggest issue is that I don't have anyone to stay with kids and that I feel guilty to leave the kids with a sitter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:03 PM Flag
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Have you ever told him that your phone would be in your purse and you'll see him in 3 hours? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:09 PM Flag
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He knows where I am and who I am with. He just does this anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:10 PM Flag
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But do you ignore his pestering or do you engage? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:18 PM Flag
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Good luck. It never does. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 btdt [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:02 PM Flag
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divorced? [ Reply | More ]
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yep couldn't handle it anymore, the separated but together crap [ Reply | More ]
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Together but alone seems worse to me right nigh. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:09 PM Flag
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Sounds reasonable. [ Reply | More ]
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I suppose it's worth a try. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:02 PM Flag
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Build the life that you think you would have if you were divorced. Spend more time with family and friends. Develop an interest. Exercise and eat better. Have a good relationship with your kids regardless of what their relationship is with their dad. I guarantee you that your life will improve [ Reply | More ]
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That is my resolution for 2015. TY! [ Reply | More ]
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You should've never stop doing that. [ Reply | More ]
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I know but I did and am very unhappy now. [ Reply | More ]
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This is normal, isn't it? To have friends and interests outside of DH and DC? A bit sad if DH can't or won't spend time with his children but if getting sitters helps, go for it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:05 PM Flag
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He spends time with children just not with me. [ Reply | More ]
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Why do you need a sitter if Dh isn't going with you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:26 PM Flag
[ - ] Any Sutton Terrace moms on? The staff list for the building is crazy. Do you think the doormen will be upset/angry if we do not tip? We just cannot afford to give this year. Do the doormen really except big $$ for Xmas, even though it is faculty housing? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 04:57 PM Flag
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cannot imagine how much these guys rake in TAX FREE. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 It's not like they are waiters who depend on tips for a decent living wage. They are unionized and get overtime for any weekend/after 5 pm service. I won't be crying for them. [ Reply | More ]
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is it true the doorman can make 50-80K? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:03 PM Flag
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But what gets me is that ST is not some fancy CPW building. It's subsidized faculty housing. I don't know anyone who tips at Payson House-- why are ST residents expected to tip? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:11 PM Flag
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What I really hate is the fake-nice they do around Thanksgiving. They ignore my kid all year and all of a sudden, "HI FIVE, LITTLE BUDDY!!!" Ugh. [ Reply | More ]
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^^The fake-nice starts around Thxgiving and stops right after Xmas. [ Reply | More ]
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OMG THIS [ Reply | More ]
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LOL, so true. One of them never opens the door after Xmas, even if he sees me juggling a baby and a toddler in a stroller. [ Reply | More ]
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of course they will be pissed if you don't tip. Cut back somewhere else and you can afford it [ Reply | More ]
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+1. gotta play the game. [ Reply | More ]
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No, we really can't. We are taking care of my mom's hospital bills this year. DH is just a postdoc, and I do not work. Honestly, we cannot afford to give. I could barely scrape together $20 for my kid's class gift. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:06 PM Flag
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so is it bad to not tip at all or tip little? [ Reply | More ]
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Honestly, in your case I'd be straight with them. Just walk up to them and say straight out - "guys, you know I appreciate everything you do throughout the year, but you know I'm not working and my husband is a post-doc so things are tight this kind of year. I'd love to do something nice for you guys - what can I do? A case of beer? A few bottles of wine? Let me know." They're blue collar guys - they get that some years are rougher than others. It will only piss them off if they think you deliberately stiffed them. [ Reply | More ]
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But they will be checking out your shopping bags and mail deliveries all year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:17 PM Flag
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They do that anyway, of course. But yes, if you have the money, you should throw them something. If you really don't have the money, then what are they going to see in your bag? A loaf of bread? Milk? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:19 PM Flag
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When there are that many staff, how do you even hand them out? We have to go looking for them one by one in our building and it's a drag. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:23 PM Flag
[ - ] Need a new sectional couch but I have a 4yo. Any suggestions re a brand/fabric, etc that's easy to clean? I want something somewhat modern (so a little more modern than a pottery barn type). TIA 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 04:57 PM Flag
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OP: Sorry for multiple post. Computer glitch. [ Reply | More ]
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Room & Board. [ Reply | More ]
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+1. Go leather if you can. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 Have had fabric for several years -- tan with some texture/pattern. Easy to clean, and any lasting stains blend-in. Not the most elegant piece, but comfortable and decent looking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:18 PM Flag
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IKEA ektorp sectional - washable covers [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 05:17 PM Flag
[ - ] DH is turning 40 soon. We have two DCs in pre-school. What should I get him? He is very into sports and doesn't really want/need anything. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 12.19.14, 04:56 PM Flag
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tickets to a sporting event? [ Reply | More ]
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+1 - rangers tix [ Reply | More ]
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blue pill [ Reply | More ]
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lol [ Reply | More ]
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Telecaster. [ Reply | More ]
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Life insurance. [ Reply | More ]
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