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[ - ] Hopefully, a lawyer mom can share her experience. What are your billable hours and how many hours do actually work and what's your schedule to achieve that? Thanks, new lawyer. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Completely depends on what you're staffed on, and how stingy they are with the bills. Sometimes you can bill pretty much every relaxed hour in the office, other times you have to work intensely for every hour you bill and they'll still mark down your time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 01:37 PM Flag
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I don’t have billable hours but I bill about 2100 a year. Typically bill 40-45 a week, work 50-60. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 02:21 PM Flag
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I work PT, 20 - 23 hours each week and bill 10-15 hours each week. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 02:37 PM Flag
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1900 requirement until a week ago, when I went in-house. Paid my billable dues! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 02:49 PM Flag
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What happened if somebody didn't hit 1900 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 04:00 PM Flag
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Are you stupid? Look at your firm's total lawyer count over the past five years to see it hasn't changed (the industry hasn't so I'm guessing your firm is similar). Then look at the number of Summer Associates you bring in every year. Then figure out that nonperformers have to get kicked out to make room for the Summers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 05:27 PM Flag
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I am not a lawyer. Was merely curious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.18, 02:56 AM Flag
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Typically in the office for 10-12 hrs per day with average billables of 8-10. Soft billable requirement was between 2,000-2,100. Official target was 1,950 or 1,900 for a while andn then removed entirely. Definitely some days in the office for 10 and billed 5 and others in the office for 16 and billed 15+ [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 03:21 PM Flag
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So awful! A true rat race. [ Reply | More ]
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It's horrible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 05:27 PM Flag
[ - ] New York Times article shows that Democratic Party’s immigration plan badly hurts black men and that Trump policy of ending unskilled immigration has been an incredible benefit to black men. 19 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 01:03 PM Flag
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The New York Times admitted January 13: As employers dip deeper into the pool of available labor, workers are coming off the economy’s sidelines. The participation rate for what economists call prime-age workers — those ages 25 to 54 — hit a seven-year high in December. Employment gains have been especially strong for groups that often face discrimination — unemployment for African-Americans fell to 6.8 percent in November, the lowest rate on record. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 01:03 PM Flag
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Read the Times Article. Democratic party’s plan to allow unskilled immigrants to come to America means black men can’t get jobs But if all unskilled immigrants are prohibited from moving to America ever again ir becomes easy for black men to get jobs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 01:05 PM Flag
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I'm sorry, are there some black men available who want to come clean my home, do my laundry, and do my gardening? No, there aren't. [ Reply | More ]
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collapse. [ Reply | More ]
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The immigration debate is all about good wages for American citizens, Democrats demand massive immigration as a tool to lower wages. Here is an article about a demand to allow in millions and millions of immigrants happy to accept $2 a day and thus push down wages, If you support unskilled immigration, YOU are the problem [ Reply | More ]
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Gina Rinehart is a Conservative (Republican) billionaire who wants more migration of cheap labor into Australia so she doesn't have to pay the people who work on her mines so much. This article ENTIRELY contradicts the point you are trying to make. You idiot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 03:32 PM Flag
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I definitely support unskilled immigration. I employ undocumented workers to both clean my home and do my landscaping. They're better at it and they charge less. Very few people in the US are going without jobs right now, we have over 95% employment. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 02:19 PM Flag
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This is so true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 01:19 PM Flag
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General Topics 05.26.18, 02:20 PM Flag
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Dems want immigration to get voters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 01:43 PM Flag
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So true [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 05.26.18, 02:20 PM Flag
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No, it's because immigration is good for the economy. And instilling fear of immigrants is good for republican elections. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 02:18 PM Flag
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BINGO [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 02:50 PM Flag
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Rep want them for cheap labor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 03:17 PM Flag
[ - ] DC had a play date with a kid in her new class. The mom kept telling me how she always hangs out with the other moms and they go for drinks etc. Since I am new to this class, I said, that would be fun. She made no attempt to mention that she would include me next time. Wow. 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 01:01 PM Flag
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^ another mom asked me once and that day I really couldn’t go but I said that I would love to join next time. I never heard from them again... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 01:03 PM Flag
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Maybe she was exaggerating her own popularity to impress you. Don't take it personally. Just take your time and observe, figure out who you really want to befriend before you do. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 01:15 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 01:23 PM Flag
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God you women never get past high school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 01:48 PM Flag
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Right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 03:53 PM Flag
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Isnt it kind of late in the year to be saying " the new class" ? obviously groups have started earlier in the year ...why the new friendship so late in the year ? what effort did you make earlier in the year to acclimate to the moms ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 02:07 PM Flag
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She doesnt have to say it, so long as she does it next drinks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 02:29 PM Flag
[ - ] Where to buy baby clothes for a fat baby? Ds is too fat for Jacadi. 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 01:01 PM Flag
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Bonpoint has loose fitting tops and dresses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 01:02 PM Flag
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Learn to sew and knit, slacker. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 01:07 PM Flag
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I can't believe your baby is fat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 01:23 PM Flag
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EBF. I’m tiny. DH wasn’t that big either. 13 pounds at 8 weeks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 01:44 PM Flag
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He will shed it all once he becomes mobile. Also I suggest Boden, their sizes seem larger and the quality is great. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 02:56 PM Flag
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I don’t like much of their stuff. I really like plain and simple. Love jacadi. And this is my turn to pick his clothes. Soon enough he will ask for those hideous ts with dinosaurs and trucks and then I will buy them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 03:14 PM Flag
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I used hanna andersson and Carters for my fat babies [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 01:26 PM Flag
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Thanks. I’ll check Hanna. Does Carter’s have cute stuff or mostly t shirts with character? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 01:45 PM Flag
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carters for babies is adorable. How old is your baby? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 02:14 PM Flag
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Two months [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 02:37 PM Flag
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Carters is so much cuter than they used to be. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 02:38 PM Flag
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Love Carter's for babies! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 04:18 PM Flag
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Just buy the next size up? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 01:45 PM Flag
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In some things. Some clothes have a slim fit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 01:50 PM Flag
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Hanna A runs wide, DS was chubby and Carter's was fine too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 01:56 PM Flag
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There’s a Fat Baby outlet store at Woodbury Commons. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 01:55 PM Flag
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KMart [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 02:26 PM Flag
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Go to Harlem where the fat black and Hispanic babies get their clothes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 03:19 PM Flag
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I’m assuming Walmart [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 04:34 PM Flag
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JC Penny has a plus size kids department [ Reply | More ]
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WTH is a "fat baby"???? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 10:29 PM Flag
[ - ] How did the Santa Fe shooter get his dad’s gun? Were they locked up? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 01:00 PM Flag
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kids always know where the guns are and how to get them if they want [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 02:50 PM Flag
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It says it is unlikely Dad will get the misdemeanor because kid was 17. I am still curious if kid knew codes for lock or how exactly he got the guns. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 02:54 PM Flag
[ - ] I believe there are only a handful of truly racist people on this site but they are almost always here and they post incessantly. There is at least one angry asian supremacist, there is a person who is dark skinned or who has mixed children, there is that lunatic who's always talking about Muslim invasion. I believe that person is an Ashkenazi Jew who lives in NJ or Borough Park. I make that deduction based upon reading hundreds of his/her (I'm guessing it's a man) posts. Most people are just trying to get by and really have no grudge to bear against people of a different race. Do you agree? 49 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:43 PM Flag
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I’d like to believe this but the fact that our current president is in office sadly confirms the deep seeded misogyny and racism alive in this country. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:46 PM Flag
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Kanye West supports Trump. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:47 PM Flag
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So? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:47 PM Flag
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So the OP claims that all sixty thousand of us that voted Trump hate blacks, When in reality polls this week show Trump’s support among black men is rising. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:48 PM Flag
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Why? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:48 PM Flag
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The reality is that today, Democratic party policy is to allow millions of desperate illiterate Central Americans move here and compete for jobs and push down wages for black men. It is in the economic best interest of black men to end immigration of illiterate unskilled immigrants, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:50 PM Flag
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Says who? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:50 PM Flag
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Barbara Jordan, in her report clearly shows that the main reason the jobs black men have pay so little is because democrats allow unskilled immigrants in. Read her report. If you read it you will see why SOME black men are starting to support Trump. It is all about the immigration. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:51 PM Flag
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Again and again and again. You never tire. You repeat the same things again and again and again. Barbara Jordan a million times. Enough. I will collapse any post where I see your spewing. I recognize you. I'm collapsing my own post now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 01:05 PM Flag
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Good. You have made up your mind, so why waste any of our time? [ Reply | More ]
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You are the anti muslim poster, aren't you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:51 PM Flag
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Why not try reading the FBI stats instead of pulling things out of thin air? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:52 PM Flag
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Because you have an agenda and you hijack posts with your repetitive narrative. Have you ever been influenced by anything you've ever read on UB? I don't think you have. You just repeat yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:54 PM Flag
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Nope. It is you who has a shut down brain. There are thousands and thousands of FBI stats that prove you wrong, dead wrong, but you choose to ignore them and post exclusively based on your feelings, [ Reply | More ]
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If you continue to hijack this post I will collapse it. People have read your view possibly thousands of times. Please go away. [ Reply | More ]
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That person isn't OP. [ Reply | More ]
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General Topics 05.26.18, 12:48 PM Flag
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We can all talk about the pain we've experienced. Every race has experienced it. If you don't believe poor white people experience the pain of being reviled, forgotten, and shamed for their ignorance and poverty you haven't been exposed to many different kinds of people. We are just talking here. It's a conversation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:50 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:52 PM Flag
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And even privileged whites can experience hardship. They can become critically ill and lose their life savings. They can lose their job at 50 and all their life savings go to waste because they can’t find a new job at that age. They can grow up in an abusive home. Lots of bad things can happen to anyone. To say that whites all live a life of luxury and are free of any worries and hardship is grotesque. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:55 PM Flag
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I hear you. This is op. But, I think it's important to listen to other people, too. I have learned things about myself and how my own ignorance has hurt people over the years. I never meant to hurt but it did. for example, saying stupid things like "But where are your ancestors from?" in conversation with a beautiful co-worker , or another example, many, many years ago I assumed an asian friend was born in another country. (this was back in the early 70's) I still remember her eyes clouding over. I have been ignorant but I am growing. [ Reply | More ]
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PP. I am from Europe and people always ask me where I am from, mostly right after meeting me. Even here, when I say Europe, they want to know which country exactly. Even if it doesn’t matter. I have lived here for my entire adult life and am still defined by where I was born. That’s how everyone here is, no matter which race. [ Reply | More ]
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True. But we are a nation of immigrants so we are always fascinated by where people are from. This happens more in New York than in other parts of the country. [ Reply | More ]
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Thanks to Trump cutting off the flow of desperate illiterate immigrants, employers are now willing to hire blacks. The Washington Post shows employers reaching out to people just paroled from prison, people living in ghettos, people who dropped out of high school and offering them jobs, only because the supply of immigrants is down. [ Reply | More ]
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Read the article. If you support allowing any illiterate desperate unskilled immigrants in to America, YOU are personally resonsible for black unemployment. Black men are starting to see this and all surveys of black men show black men HATE politicians that want to allow unskilled immigeation. Trump’s poll numbers back this up. [ Reply | More ]
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There's your narrative again. Please leave my post. Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
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Why not simply stop bringing up race? [ Reply | More ]
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My doc was just called the Number word by a black kid. In his class. Elementary age. What the hell is that about? [ Reply | More ]
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N word. DC is white. [ Reply | More ]
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It doesn't sound like it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 02:24 PM Flag
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Maybe your kid isn't very well liked in school. So sad. [ Reply | More ]
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ESL? [ Reply | More ]
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i agree that you're retarded. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm all of those people sometimes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.18, 12:06 AM Flag
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The whole idea of "racism" is not a helpful concept. Races exist. There are differences between different racial groups. Acknowledging these very real differences does not make you a bad person. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.18, 03:56 AM Flag
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It makes you a race realist. Not a racist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.18, 06:00 AM Flag
[ - ] Regarding "style-influencers: and lifestyle blogs: I'm curious how these things will be viewed in 20 or 30 years, I know they will be viewed as anachronisms, but will they be ridiculed and will the people who produced them be viewed as anything other than try hards? 14 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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I know a woman who married into incredible wealth and lives in a 4 bedroom, 5 bath on the UES. She travels, she entertains and for a while she tried to become an online stylist. Nothing became of it. It's interesting how even lucky/wealthy people need to feel recognized. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:46 PM Flag
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We all want fame. [ Reply | More ]
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Many people who post on UB are introverts and really don't want fame. But, I believe we would all like to be recognized as worthy. [ Reply | More ]
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I think this is true. I honestly don't want fame, but I do like it when my small efforts are recognized (in a low-key way). [ Reply | More ]
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True. [ Reply | More ]
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Sure but fame? No. [ Reply | More ]
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No, we don't. [ Reply | More ]
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No. Not everyone. Facebook and Instagram are ridiculous. No interest in it. [ Reply | More ]
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She was probably still insecure because she only married into this lifestyle and didn’t grow up with it. She’s a wanna be compared with her new peers. [ Reply | More ]
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She actually considers herself European aristocracy. *shrug* I don't know. I can't relate. [ Reply | More ]
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Trust me, European aristocracy does NOT consider her one of them. I know many such people and they are a closed society. Sure they’re polite and make small talk with others but that doesn’t mean that she belongs. [ Reply | More ]
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So this. [ Reply | More ]
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Oy. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes. Also makeup gurus! My teen DD is getting away from that now and she realizes that their makeup jobs are awful. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 04:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Our beach association annual meeting is today, and I am dreading it. Permission to let DH go and represent the family? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:27 PM Flag
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no u should go [ Reply | More ]
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Why does anyone need to go at all? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:32 PM Flag
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They need a quorum to approve the budget and slate of new officers. [ Reply | More ]
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^^That said, they only need one of us — DH and I combined get one vote. [ Reply | More ]
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granted! [ Reply | More ]
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Since you asked, I do NOT give you permission to skip the meeting. Go and show support for your DH and your community. There's power in numbers. [ Reply | More ]
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What’s on the agenda? Why do you dread it - are the other members horrible, will it take hours? [ Reply | More ]
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I’m an introvert and hate the milling about, drinking coffee and asking people how they’ve been. [ Reply | More ]
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Is your DH more outgoing? Would be enjoy going? [ Reply | More ]
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Oh yeah, he freaking loves talking to the neighbors. He knew the names of everyone on our street by the end of the first weekend here. I still don’t know them. Bought the house in 2008. [ Reply | More ]
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DH and I divide tasks like these. I hate grocery shopping so he does it. I don't mind small talk, etc., so I go to the association meeting for our second home. [ Reply | More ]
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I'm you and dh always goes. I claim I'm with the kids. [ Reply | More ]
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Oh yuck. Let dh go! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 03:20 PM Flag
[ - ] My DH stays up until 1 or 2 on the weekends. He plays guitar, drinks, and sits outside. I am ready for bed at 11. Should I make myself stay up and be fun even though I'm exhausted? 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:24 PM Flag
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no, My advice is, have sex with him seven days a week instead of hanging out with him. You need your sleep [ Reply | More ]
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Have drinks and sex with him on one of those nights, the other one let him stay up late. I also go to bed early and DH never refuses sex at 10pm. [ Reply | More ]
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 04:36 PM Flag
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No, he wants his alone time. DH and I are the reverse — he goes to bed at ten, and I stay up. I would HATE it if he stayed up to “keep me company.” [ Reply | More ]
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So true. It is a myth that DH and DW need a lot of time together. Let him have his space. Just make sure to have sex once a day, and then give him space [ Reply | More ]
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Does he ask you to stay up with him? If he asks then you should do it occasionally. [ Reply | More ]
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I would stay up every other weekend. [ Reply | More ]
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This [ Reply | More ]
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Go to bed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:46 PM Flag
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I like to stay up and sometimes crave time alone. So for all you know, he doesn't even want you to stay up and "be fun" with him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 01:29 PM Flag
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nah i am sure he is happy solo. but offer once in a while. or surprise him by pouring a drink and joining and listening to his music. you would do that when you were dating i'm sure...it probably will be fun :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 02:16 PM Flag
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Ask! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 04:36 PM Flag
[ - ] DD, 4, probably has a sensory processing disorder. Anyone here in this boat? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:03 PM Flag
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Many people. I have an oral sensory issue. I hate fruit, retainers and dick in my mouth. [ Reply | More ]
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Many of us are grateful to you. Oral sensory issue, OK? [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, my son. He's 12 now and diagnosed with ADHD. [ Reply | More ]
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I am sort of numb. I feel like my whole life is collapsing on me. [ Reply | More ]
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I hear ya, but it's not that big of a deal. Is she sensory seeking or sensory averse? It's totally manageable. [ Reply | More ]
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If it is affecting her life and behavior, put her in OT. [ Reply | More ]
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I did. not helping so far [ Reply | More ]
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How often are you going? 2 times per week? Good luck. Hang in there. [ Reply | More ]
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seeking. is in a fancy fucking preschool where they are already talking about how she is having trouble participating. she cant concentrate, gets really tired [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 01:51 PM Flag
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Have you observed the preschool? Is she having tantrums at home? [ Reply | More ]
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Who diagnoses this? It is not in the DSM? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 01:20 PM Flag
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it has a billing code. who diagnoses it - developmental pediatricians [ Reply | More ]
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Get her in to OT. There are two kids who had this at 3 and did OT. They were really hard kids before OT. Both "graduated" from OT and were totally calm normal kids (more calm than my kids!) by kindergarten. They paid oop for OT and i know it was expensive but it worked. Get your dd help, find the momey for OT. She will get better and will be fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 01:32 PM Flag
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^^^I mean, I know 2 kids who had it at 3. They are both in high school now. Great students, doing really well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 01:33 PM Flag
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Mine too. Cant pay attention in K and has to repeat. Where do I call for OT? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 03:37 PM Flag
[ - ] White Privilege is... 134 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
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Having a global embarrassment of a President of the highest order and no one saying we should never have another White President. [ Reply | More ]
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Lol this. [ Reply | More ]
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Only fringe would even say Obama was a bad president. He was good & the most morally upstanding out of any recent presidents [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, agreed - Obama is morally upstanding. And there is no way that he could have gotten away with 1/100th of what Trump gets away with. [ Reply | More ]
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+A million. He was also significantly more intelligent, well read and respectable. [ Reply | More ]
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Sure, he was a nice guy, but he basically did nothing. [ Reply | More ]
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Not for want of trying! [ Reply | More ]
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This about sums it up. [ Reply | More ]
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This is 100% true. I personally would argue, however, that we shouldn't have another orange president, That is a different issue, though. [ Reply | More ]
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Lol! [ Reply | More ]
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Good one! [ Reply | More ]
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This! [ Reply | More ]
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D3 "LIFE SUCKS!" mom. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 11:55 AM Flag
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Not sure what you mean. If there was white privilege, the mayor wouldn’t be trying to mix black students in with white students. [ Reply | More ]
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What? [ Reply | More ]
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De Blasio’s entire administration is all about mixing whites and blacks. He just opend a homeless shelter so that homeless blacks hang around all the time on white billionaires row and hurt the white billionaires. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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And De Blasio has repeatedly demanded that blacks with lower test scores be given preference over Asians with very high test scores when it comes to Stuy admission. [ Reply | More ]
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Um. I’m so worried about all of these white billionaires who are in grave danger from the black homeless!! [ Reply | More ]
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Well, you should be, Each time the black homeless make life bad for white billionaires. the billionaires may decide to spend their money at restaurants in another city. NY loses jobs when black homeless drive out white billionaires, [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:26 PM Flag
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I see the white billionaires leaving nyc in droves! Where do you think they will go? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:37 PM Flag
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To their special white billionaire city that they rest of us are too poor to even know about. [ Reply | More ]
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The white parents might consider that life sucks more for poor kids who are stuck in under-performing schools and even more for kids who might be in foster care or have a parent who is incarcerated. [ Reply | More ]
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Shooting up dozens of people and being taken into custody unharmed. [ Reply | More ]
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this. [ Reply | More ]
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what is this in reference to? Don't understand this response. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 04:06 PM Flag
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No explanation needed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 04:29 PM Flag
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Exhibit A for white privilege. [ Reply | More ]
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Lol [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Do you really not get it??? [ Reply | More ]
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Compare police response to unarmed Black men vs. police response to well-armed white men who have committed mass shootings. [ Reply | More ]
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THIS! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 10:45 PM Flag
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Fuck off. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 11:56 AM Flag
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Hoarding opportunities for generations and complaining that only Blacks and Olympic caliber athletes are getting in to HYP. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 11:57 AM Flag
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This. There are close to zero non-white legacies at the top universities. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.18, 02:39 AM Flag
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Adopting 6 Black children and then abusing and starving them, and being able to pull them out of school and no one asking you any questions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 11:58 AM Flag
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Sitting in Starbucks and not buying anything. [ Reply | More ]
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Just being anywhere, unmolested. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:38 PM Flag
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interesting, I never thought about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.18, 04:53 AM Flag
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A myth. Life is hard for everyone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 11:59 AM Flag
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+10000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 08:51 PM Flag
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It’s all relative. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 09:12 PM Flag
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+ 10000000000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.18, 12:00 AM Flag
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Sounds like you're living the white privilege dream [ Reply | More ]
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+100000000000 [ Reply | More ]
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+100000000000000000000 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.18, 07:34 AM Flag
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being UB MC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 11:59 AM Flag
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Having your ancestors come to this country, massacre and steal land from Native Americans, break hundreds of treaties and then complain about "illegals" coming into the country [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:00 PM Flag
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my ancestors were in Europe being exploited by other whites [ Reply | More ]
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Don't forget kidnap blacks from Africa and bring them into slavery here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 01:38 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
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Stop. They were sold by other blacks to the whites. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 09:13 PM Flag
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Even so, how does this justify 300 years of chattel slavery and racial oppression? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.18, 12:57 AM Flag
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Supply doesn't drive the market—demand does. [ Reply | More ]
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First of all, the OP lives in a fantasy world where blacks behave in an identical manner to whites and yet bkacks are treated differently. The actual realiy of America is blacks decide to commit many more murders than whites. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:00 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:01 PM Flag
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This is a gross and ignorant over simplification. Clearly you choose to justify your racism. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:12 PM Flag
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Sorry, it is not an oversimplification. Ask any cop, he will tell you that per capita, blacks commit more murders than whites. And if you do even five minutes of research, you will find FBI stats that show the very high black propensity to commit murder. [ Reply | More ]
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Right. Are “cops” unbiased and race blind? Do you think the propensity to commit a crime begins at birth and is based on skin color? And did you ever watch Eddie Murphy in Trading Places?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:21 PM Flag
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You are mistaken. Black babies adopted by white parents and raises with love are still more likely to murder than whites raised by whites, Black propensity to murder [ Reply | More ]
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Ah. Your thought is that the color of one’s skin influences likelihood to murder. Is this true in predominantly black countries? Are there more murders and crimes in predominantly black countries than in America? [ Reply | More ]
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I am sad to report yes, blacks commit many more murders than whites i just about every nation in the world. Nations where the government is all black, nations where the government is all white, nations that are rich, nations that are poor. In every single circumstance around the world, blacks kill more than whites do. [ Reply | More ]
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Where are you getting this data that you are sad to report? And do you think propensity to murder is in one’s DNA? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:35 PM Flag
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FBI crime stats all show blacks much more likely to murder. [ Reply | More ]
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Ask yourself why this is so. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 09:15 PM Flag
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Ivanka and Jared. [ Reply | More ]
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 09:45 PM Flag
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Seriously?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.18, 12:01 AM Flag
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No, that’s just plain old Privilege.. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.18, 12:14 AM Flag
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The OP blames whites for the fact that the average black is more likely to commit a violent crime than the average white. OP is just wrong, the average black is more than 100 times as likely to rape a white as the average white is to rape a black. That is the reality of life here. [ Reply | More ]
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Define the “average” white and the “average” black. Where does each live? What is their income? Family situation? Opportunity for growth? [ Reply | More ]
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You are completely wrong when you say blacks only commit all these murders because blacks are poor. Actually, at ALL income levels, blacks kill more. That means rich blacks kill more than rich whites, poor blacks kill more than poor whites. Want more evidence? [ Reply | More ]
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Go to the web and look up the murder rate in El Paso. El Paso is one of the poorest and most depressed cities in America. But it has a very low murder rate because almost no blacks live there. Poverty does not cause murder. Blacks cause murder. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:20 PM Flag
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For anyone that doubts that a very large number of blacks decide to commit murder as compared to the number of non blacks, Candidate for Governor Ron Uns wrote a highly detailed analysis of why blacks murder so often. http://www.ronunz.org/2013/07/20/race-and-crime-in-america/ [ Reply | More ]
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NP. Thank you. [ Reply | More ]
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His name is Ron Unz and he has been linked to white supremacy so I’m not sure his “analysis” is unbiased. [ Reply | More ]
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You are mistaken. He was a candidate for Governor, He is a self made Silicon Valley multi millionaire. And he simply presents FBI stats in a clear unbiased manner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:46 PM Flag
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Yes, to the first two points. He is also linked to white supremacy which makes me discount everything else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 01:39 PM Flag
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This is a troll post and you were all snagged into it. [ Reply | More ]
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OP here and just want to gloat that this post is now a MP!! [ Reply | More ]
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collapse. [ Reply | More ]
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My 11 yo and friends having unsupervised water gun fights at the local park and no parents worrying that the kids will be shot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:34 PM Flag
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This. [ Reply | More ]
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Crack user were animals who belonged in jail. Opioid users deserve sympathy and help from the government. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:36 PM Flag
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+10000. Also the huge sentencing disparities between crack and powder cocaine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:41 PM Flag
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What is that movie, Gangs of New York? That's tells you all about white privilege in this country. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 02:53 PM Flag
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Nonexistent, but black privilege certainly exists [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 04:40 PM Flag
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volunteering to help. [ Reply | More ]
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Tipping in a restaurant so you're more likely to get good service. [ Reply | More ]
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Huh? Don’t you tip after the service? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 08:51 PM Flag
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the inability to dance well. [ Reply | More ]
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inability to make good music without relying on inspiration from blacks.(Elvis, Beatles) [ Reply | More ]
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This! [ Reply | More ]
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Inability to play basketball, football. [ Reply | More ]
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Yet feeling outraged when Black pro football or basketball players use their platform to protest racial injustice [ Reply | More ]
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Rigid, lack of soul, lack of humor [ Reply | More ]
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stinginess when it comes to feeding people at social gatherings. [ Reply | More ]
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Lol! [ Reply | More ]
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looking at historical books and getting blamed for all the historical bullshit you had nothing to do with. [ Reply | More ]
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Yet, you still continue to benefit from this historical bullshit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.18, 01:01 AM Flag
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being treated fairly because it's assumed that you will also treat others fairly, so you in turn treat others fairly too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 05:24 PM Flag
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Again, are you drunk? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.18, 02:41 AM Flag
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NP: what is hard to understand about this? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.18, 03:58 AM Flag
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I am not white and I treat others fairly because that's how I want to be treated and it is the right thing to do. Not sure what the golden rule has to with white privilege. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.18, 04:51 AM Flag
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Or defining "being treated fairly" through a skewed lens of white entitlement and treating others according to this warped view (i.e. Trump voters) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.18, 05:31 AM Flag
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being selfish and thinking only of number 1 and number 1's family. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 05:24 PM Flag
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going down with the ship because the shame is too horrible if you fuck up, that you're doing to give it your all rather than making it out alive and being a loser for the rest of your life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 05:25 PM Flag
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huh? [ Reply | More ]
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NP: you must not be white, if not I will explain it to you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 10:51 PM Flag
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Are you drunk? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.18, 01:54 AM Flag
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the luck of being a segment of the north african population that flowed north to a more hostile environment that culled the human population into developing sophisticated ways to kill other human beings, develop zero sum hierarchical systems that benefit only a few, instead of a whole village, destroying the environment to build ships, sail to other continents, slaughter the people, take their gold, enrich the european continent, keep the colonies in despotism, segregate them from education, prevent them from reading, and congratulate self for being highly advances, while wondering why the planet is being destroyed, and climate change is happening. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 05:32 PM Flag
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well that and the wheel [ Reply | More ]
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well that and the wheel [ Reply | More ]
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Thank you!!!! [ Reply | More ]
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Getting to play nearly any role in the high school musical without other people thinking it’s weird. [ Reply | More ]
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Not having to answer this question from random strangers once a week: so, what are you? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 09:30 PM Flag
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This! "Where are you from?" "I meant where are you really from?" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.18, 12:59 AM Flag
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Oh, what a hardship that people might take an interest in you. I truly feel for you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.18, 03:59 AM Flag
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Be honest. Do you get asked this every week, year in and year out for decades? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.18, 04:21 AM Flag
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Does not exist. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.18, 12:00 AM Flag
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MmmmmmmK [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.18, 12:07 AM Flag
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NP. To me white privelege is being in the majority. In places where control the blacks kill whites and steal their land. Look what is happening to white farmers in South Africa... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.18, 01:27 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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But the white farmers were the ones who originally stole and colonized the land of Black Africans [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.18, 01:57 AM Flag
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Having accommodations for more time on assignments, tests and standardized tests. I'm a prof and all the rich kids have LDs with accommodations. Rarely do low income kids have these. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.18, 01:59 AM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
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Nothing compared to Jewish Privilege. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.27.18, 03:58 AM Flag
[ - ] I’ll inherit at least 500,000. I know it’s a small amount in UB land but it’s enough to actually pay for a down payment. I’d like to get a starter place and need help with the down payment. Am I terrible to ask for help from my parents now? 28 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 11:23 AM Flag
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Please stop with the nonsense that half a million dollars is a small amount--even on UB. My dc qualified for full Pell grants (household income under 25K) for four years in a row. We live in NYC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 11:29 AM Flag
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This is how I grew up. So this inheritance will Be life changing. Access to 10% of it over the next five years would be such a game changer. I’m pissing away money on rent. Delaying starting a family. I just want to buy a little tiny place in nyc. I found a place for under 500k, two beds in Bk. Another place on 96th, only 1 bed though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 11:39 AM Flag
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Why aren't you looking in the Bronx? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:00 PM Flag
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Very far from where I currently work. Once I have the money I will likely switch jobs and need to be close to work and childcare. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:40 PM Flag
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Invest it vs. real estate. Getting old comes quickly. Real estate doesn't appreciate in NYC that much. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 11:31 AM Flag
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I’ve had a rough ten years. I am finally set in my career. But I am just now starting my retirement savings and saving for a home seems impossible. I have 10k in retirement from my 20s, and on target to add 18.5k this year and going forward. I should be able to save 20k a year for housing going forward but will take me 5 years to really get the down payment together plus the savings most buildings want you do have. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 11:42 AM Flag
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This. Primary residence in NYC is not a good investment. Stock market, even just a moderate mutual fund, is a far better investment over time. $500,000 over 20 years at an average growth of 12% will yield close to 5 million dollars. With no further investment. All you do it invest and forget about it. Some years you will lose some, and some you will gain, but with moderate goals on your mutual fund, you will multiple your investment exponentially more than you would buying a home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:37 PM Flag
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^^^ sorry for typos. Am on phone. Logged in just to reply you. Google compound interest calculator and play with your numbers. Think very hard before you decide to buy a place. If you are older and single, you will need to start building your war chest. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:41 PM Flag
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I might not get anything until I’m 60 or older. That’s 40 years of rent down the drain. I’m trying my best. Living with a roommate to continue saving. Never eat out. Try to do free things. I just paid for my last semester of grad school and finish in June. So I should be saving more next year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:42 PM Flag
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I get that, but reasonable rent is still better than owning in NYC. You will still have to pay maintenance which can, in some cases, be more than reasonable rent. If you take whatever money you have and invest, you can start compounding immediately. [ Reply | More ]
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Where do you find reasonable rent?? I have a roommate so that helps for now but I can’t have a roommate with a baby. I am applying for the housing lotteries while my income qualifies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:53 PM Flag
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I would seriously hesitate before having a baby on my own. That's a big financial nut. You will need to pay for childcare on top of everything else. figure out school district, and if you can't afford private school, you will need to be in a more expensive real estate district for public. And that isn't even a guarantee now with what the current administration is planning to do. See the most popular post about screened schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:59 PM Flag
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NP:12% returns annually? I want to park my investments with you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:56 PM Flag
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Ha ha. This is the historical 10+ return on a moderately aggressive portfolio, the bulk of which is a mutual fund, invested with Charles Schwab. I've done nothing with it for over 10 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 01:02 PM Flag
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Are you an only child? If so, I would ask. DH would not though — his family is weirdly noncommunicative. So I trust you to know how your parents would take the request. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 11:49 AM Flag
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My sister’s husband’s parents gave them a house. I can buy my own home but I’m at least 5 if not ten years away and already in my 30s. She’s 25. I’m also single and considering single mom by choice of I don’t meet someone soon and really want to figure out housing so I can move onto motherhood and figuring out childcare. [ Reply | More ]
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I’m also really happy in nyc. And I know that’s a luxury so I don’t expect support. But I kind of imagine I’ll return to the depression I had in high school if I gave up on this life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 11:57 AM Flag
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OR Are your parents okay with single motherhood? I would be less likely to give my dd money if I thought it would cause her to produce a fatherless grandchild. And your sister’s situation is separate — your parents still probably want to treat you both equally. [ Reply | More ]
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They would much rather me have a child alone than with someone who is not like them. I am still dating. Met two really nice guys recently but who knows where any of this will go. Preparing financially to go it alone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:43 PM Flag
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Nothing wrong with asking. They will have tax implications if they simply give you 50k. They can gift you 23k (13000 each) annually. You could also ask them for a “family mortgage” where they give you the cash and you pay them the mortgage at a low (but reasonable) interest rate and they forgive 23.000/year of the loan until it is paid off. They may say no—which is also ok. But nothing wrong with asking. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:06 PM Flag
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You will both have to claim the mortgage in your taxes etc. totally legal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:07 PM Flag
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Even if they did 10k a year for next five years, I’d have more savings then too. Fwiw, my dad died. Mom remarried. Inherited quite a bit. So assuming she uses all of her retirement money on self care my sister and I would each get a half million tomorrow if she were to die. I feel like an ass and a failure to ask but owning now vs in ten years seems like a good idea. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:46 PM Flag
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Ask! Many people get help from their parents. In nyc maybe most! I think a large percentage of elite private school tuition is paid by grandparents. But recognize mom may say no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:49 PM Flag
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np. Just ask, I don't see why this is a big deal if you are a responsible adult otherwise. Family has always been there to help, this modern day idea we have to do everything on our own baffles me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 01:34 PM Flag
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Don't spend your parent's money, they may need it. What if they live another 10, 20. 30 years? What if they just want to spend it? If one of my kids came to me with this request, I would be seriously annoyed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:47 PM Flag
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Let’s say there’s 3 million potential inheritance. Is a 50k gift to provide housing for their daughter and grandchildren really going to destroy them? Assuming mom spends 2 million in her retirement sister and I would each get 500k. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 12:55 PM Flag
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it's not your decision, it's your mom's. I have more than that and if my kids asked me outright I would say no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 01:56 PM Flag
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How much do you need for down payment - 10%? That’s $50K. We’re you going to ask for the whole $500k so you could pay cash for a place? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 05.26.18, 01:58 PM Flag
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