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[ - ] DH and 12 year old DS want to spend every Sunday with sister in law. Driving me out of my mind. They leave around 10 AM and return at 7-8 PM. I stopped going with them as I have to do stuff at home and prep meals for the week, but now we are apart on w/e. Saturdays are full of chores and DS has two classes. I know there is no solution, but I feel so stressed thinking that my family would not want to spend time with me. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:37 PM Flag
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So sit with dh and dc and say: Next Sunday let's US do something. Every Sunday with his sister? What do they have to talk about? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:39 PM Flag
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He seems strangely enmeshed with his sister. This has been an issue between us all our marriage. They seem to be made for each other. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:42 PM Flag
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are you the poster who once posted about DH offering up your ski pants for his sister? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:25 PM Flag
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It may be that their relationship is more about their childhood and he finds it nurturing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 10:15 PM Flag
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Well it ends now. 1x a month. Really. When you marry you stop with your family and start your own traditions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 01:13 AM Flag
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Oh, I would love to have a day alone each week! But, I hear you. Shift what needs to be done to Saturday and you take every Sunday off. This may be tricky or unthinkable right now, but if you make it a win/win for everyone (they get SIL, you get time) that could be a motivator. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:41 PM Flag
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Omg this.....I would love this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:15 PM Flag
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What's the draw? This sounds strange to me. What there that is better than home? How long has this been the routine? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:44 PM Flag
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NP: It could be not doing chores! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:45 PM Flag
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What SIL do ? Doesn’t she have chores ? You need to include your family and do chores little every day. Sunday you do chores and they get bored. That explained why 12 yo DS thinks SIL on Sunday is fun. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:02 PM Flag
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it sounds like you have two issues here: the weird sister thing and lopsided chores. you should address them one at a time. first find a way to make sure DH is doing exact same number of chores as you. and then address the sister issue separately. is it possible to go with them one weekend and talk to her directly about it? it could be stressing her out that they invade her house every weekend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:40 PM Flag
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We have the same scenario over here. My husband's brother's house is way more fun than ours and my DH and kids want to spend all of their time there with their cousins. If im being honest, I like when then go so I can have the time to myself, but I hear where you are coming from. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 09:17 PM Flag
[ - ] Can anyone suggest white chairs? http://www.urbanbaby.com/topics/55935439 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:10 PM Flag
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White ghost chairs? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:07 PM Flag
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We have those already. I love them but they’re such a pain to clean. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:33 PM Flag
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I hope you are still reading this thread - will also post in the other one. I just got the new Ikea catalogue and your table was matched with black chairs. Scroll the page and check out the many options you have. The black chairs would pick up the black finishings on your coffee table. Good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 08:01 PM Flag
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Thank you. I will look at them. It makes sense to consider black then as well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 10:18 PM Flag
[ - ] Is anyone’s DH Aspergers? What’s the difference from this and just being completely self-absorbed, little empathy? 37 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:10 PM Flag
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There is a big difference. Lots of info out there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:11 PM Flag
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I’m researching. He keeps saying he’s on the spectrum. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:12 PM Flag
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My experience with DH's on spectrum is not that they are assholes. It is more like they are clueless. My BIL will talk your ear off a subject or to people who are CLEARLY giving signals that they re not interested in the conversation and I may gently guide him to another person. He doesn't realize that it is inappropriate to ask certain questions and misreads social cues. But he is one of the kindest people you will ever meet and truly loves my sister. Sometimes, she may be exasperated but is very happy. People with Aspergers don't cheat more often and aren't cruel [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 10:42 PM Flag
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Aspergers doesn’t make you love money more then your wife. Run away from him. Why you are still with him ? You deserve better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:04 PM Flag
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Read about wife of Elon Musk and don’t sign any document fore fitting your claims to your married money. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:06 PM Flag
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Agree with this. OP you keep posting. Please get a lawyer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:10 PM Flag
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Op: this is honestly my first time posting about this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:13 PM Flag
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okay, someone else is going through marital problems. Did he tell you had aspergers before you got married? I think you guys need marital therapy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:38 PM Flag
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Kind of. He says because he fixates on numbers sometimes, gets really competitive and gets consumed by whatever he’s working on... ie running, work, etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:45 PM Flag
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That isn't aspergers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 11:35 PM Flag
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does Elon Musk have aspergers? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 09:39 PM Flag
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NP what? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 08:16 PM Flag
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Op: I’m already married to him. 5 years. I think he cheated on my several times. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:12 PM Flag
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People with Aspergers have normal moral sense. The way they express feeling can be different. He doesn’t love you and he is using you. He will leave you high and dry. Please get a lawyer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:15 PM Flag
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Op: Using me for what? I’m 7 years younger. He’s 39. I’m a teacher(so no money) and I’m due with our first baby in 2 months! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:33 PM Flag
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I mean, up to you, but he's cheated 5x. He likes having you and having that. But I think it's an odd excuse for him to give, as it is very difficult for Aspergers people to connec. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 09:42 PM Flag
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You should go to couples therapy. It sounds like, not an Asperger's thing [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:41 PM Flag
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What else could it be? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:46 PM Flag
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he's just selfish? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:52 PM Flag
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Op: He’s so close with my parents. He also does a lot for me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:55 PM Flag
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and he cheats on you. so in that area he puts himself above you. the aspergers is an excuse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 11:15 PM Flag
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Well both paranoia about possible cheating and/or cheating itself are relationships problems, not really symptoms of Asperger's [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:50 PM Flag
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Op: his phone was open yesterday. There were a couple messaging apps that I’ve never seen before. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:52 PM Flag
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I don't want to freak you out, but that has happened to me before. I found a messaging app I didn't know he had, and managed to get into it one day and found messages with someone else and yes he had cheated on me. But that does not mean anything about your situation. I just had a terrible instinct that something was wrong before I found the evidence. It sounds like you have this gut instinct as well. You should see a therapist to try to get to the bottom of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 09:03 PM Flag
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Did you stay with your husband? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 09:08 PM Flag
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Women always stay. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 09:09 PM Flag
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np: I have two friends in that exact same situation who left when they found out and didn't go back. These were not one-time f*ck-ups, they discovered that the DH had been arranging his life around this for years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 11:02 PM Flag
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Why can he still love her and cheat? Maybe they have a good marriage? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:52 PM Flag
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What’s on the spectrum mean? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:34 PM Flag
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What else could it be? Is he just a prick? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:46 PM Flag
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It seems you conflate being selfish and unkind with being in on the autism spectrum. Stop. Your husband may in fact be both. That said, the Aspies I know (and love) are fiercely loyal and deeply empathetic. They can get lost in their heads and have trouble expressing their thoughts and feelings in a way that would make sense to a neurotypical person. Set expectations. Tell him when he does x, you feel y, and the. Tell him what you would like him to do instead. If that doesn’t work, try couples therapy. Slapping a label on him doesn’t fix your situation it just further separates the two of you. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 09:21 PM Flag
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+1 - mom of a kid with autism - he can be rigidly moral and have trouble with other people's breach of ethics. What you are describing just seems like a selfish jerk or narcissistic behavior. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 12:51 AM Flag
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Not every asshole needs a medical diagnosis. Some people are just assholes! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 01:36 AM Flag
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ILY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 08:16 PM Flag
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<3 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 12:13 AM Flag
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My DH. He's not a jerk and not self absorbed or lacking in empathy. The main thing I notice is that what might be a spontaneous emotional response for me (or another non-spectrum person) is more of an intellectual process for him--almost like he has to remind himself to say/do things that others might do naturally. He's not very *expressive* emotionally, but that doesn't mean he lacks feeling or that he's emotionally shallow. Quite the opposite, in fact. He is perceptive and observant but hard to read (because he doesn't project a lot of emotion), so he can appear to be disengaged--but in reality, he doesn't miss a thing. He can get very absorbed in his work (or whatever he's doing) and can concentrate for hours. He's HYP, math/physics, advanced degree. Brilliant. His mind works differently, but I love that about him. I think your DH might just be an ass, having nothing to do with Aspergers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 02:31 AM Flag
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NP Thank you. This sounds like DH, and sometimes he is an ass - doesn't everyone have their less than glamorous moments? We're humans, not perfect! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 08:19 PM Flag
[ - ] Can I, and how do, I wash DC's: (1) lunch kit? It's the kind with a clear plastic liner, and the bag makes a crinkle sound, if that helps identify the material. I'm guessing washer? Delicate? Cold? (2) Plastic toys if no paper/stickers? I'm guessing dishwasher? No heated wash, no heated dry so plastic doesn't melt. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
Preschool/Kids 01.26.20, 07:03 PM Flag
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I would wash it in the sink, just fill sink with soapy water and wash it, leave it to air dry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:28 PM Flag
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How about soap, water and a sponge? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:05 PM Flag
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1) lunch box- wash in washer on cold, delicate cycle, and then air dry. 2) top shelf of dishwasher or soap and water in your sink. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:39 PM Flag
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would avoid using plastic... BPA chemicals etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:50 PM Flag
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In the sink with soap and water, air dry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 11:07 PM Flag
[ - ] Hooked up with an old friend from college last night. We were super close then and always had a playful and flirty relationship. We haven’t kept in touch much but I feel like there’s always been an attraction. We didn’t have sex last night bc he kept saying “we shouldn’t”, “we’re too close”, etc though we were both naked in bed. What was that about? 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:55 PM Flag
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He's married, or has a long term girlfriend / committed relationship! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:10 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:11 PM Flag
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Op- nope, both single. I do hang out with him here and there (just not all day everyday like in college) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:12 PM Flag
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Np: he may have been afraid to ruin your friendship. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:18 PM Flag
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Yhis [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:21 PM Flag
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Yeah that's what he seemed to be implying. I just felt that since we were already naked, made out, went to "third base", having intercourse wouldn't have changed any future awkwardness (which I said). We're also both pretty level-headed, non-dramatic adults who don't see each other that often. Things were very normal this morning fwiw. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:54 PM Flag
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I think this too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 09:44 PM Flag
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How is that two consentually naked adults in bed, not seal the deal? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:19 PM Flag
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Op- exactly! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:34 PM Flag
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I agree. That seems super weird to me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 12:51 AM Flag
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Have either of you been in love with the other? Is your clock ticking? And push comes to shove which one of you is currently more into the other? Do either of you have a "golden" ex that you'd take back in a snap? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:22 PM Flag
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And how drunk was everyone last night, and do you live in same area and how old is everyone? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:35 PM Flag
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We're both 30. I've always lusted for him when we're together, but never in a way that's consumed me. I think he's felt similar but hard to know. Neither of us has an ex that we pine for. We were both drunk. I recently moved to his neighborhood (unknowingly) which is why we've hung out twice this month. Previously, I'd see him in 1-2x/year. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:48 PM Flag
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Also, should've been clearer about this in the post, but basically I do have a crush on him and would like to have a fling and see where it takes us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 09:01 PM Flag
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sounds like he is not sure about this and wants to save the friendship rather than explore a relationship [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 09:46 PM Flag
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Yeah, ugh, bummer! I guess I should just leave it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 09:52 PM Flag
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well, I know it's disappointing but at least you know he wants you in his life and values your friendship. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.28.20, 02:01 AM Flag
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did you choose that neighborhood knowing he was living there... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 09:05 PM Flag
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No, he also recently moved and I didn’t know he lived here until a mutual friend told me. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 09:09 PM Flag
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Did you make the first move or did he? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 09:07 PM Flag
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Pretty mutual. We were at a bar with friends, they all left around midnight. Once it was just us we were pretty cuddly and he mentioned having not seen my new place (around the corner from the bar), I said we could go check it out, he said yes and the following events seemed obvious from there. Started making out once we were on the couch at my place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 09:37 PM Flag
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Do NOT hook up with him again. If he tries, say, I can get a friend with benefits anywhere! If he wants you he will pursue as a real relationship. If he wants to stay friendzone it is much better for you if you don't keep hooking up with him. Make sure you always look cute when you see him. It's worth it with the history of being college friends not to ruin it, but it's also a good foundation for a relationship. Make sure you are . interesting and have a lot to talk about too. and get yourself out on legit dates with other people. I have a lot of experience with this, and I'm looking across the room at someone where it started out like this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 10:22 PM Flag
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NP- great advice!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 02:58 AM Flag
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Op- thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 12:03 PM Flag
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Also, if you’re still watching, his birthday is this week. Should I say something? A simple happy bday text? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 01:48 PM Flag
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Perfect, but don't suggest plans! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 02:34 PM Flag
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HE IS GAY [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 04:41 PM Flag
[ - ] 12 yo dd was very disrespectful to me this afternoon. Dh grabbed her arm to stop her from speaking to me that way but she was shocked and started crying. Dh and I then get into an argument and now everyone’s in their own space doing their own thing. This makes me sad. WWYD? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:35 PM Flag
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He shouldn't have grabbed her. Tweens are hard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:37 PM Flag
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Eh, he didn't hit her, he intervened. Not ideal maybe, but does not sound like a big deal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 05:11 AM Flag
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It's hard. From 12 to 16 our DS was a total d*ck. There's hormones, stress, peer pressure and it all comes out at home. Just be as human as you can be: Honey, you hurt my feelings when you spoke to me like that. I just want you to know. At 16.5 our sweet DS came back because continued to be loving and supportive no matter how much of a jerk he was. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:09 PM Flag
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DH should not have grabbed her. He needs to model how to stay calm when you are angry. That being said, it's good he had your back. Don't be sad about everyone in their rooms-- you all need space from each other and as kids get older this is normal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:27 PM Flag
[ - ] S/O: If your child is not admitted to a TT school for whatever reason, are you happy with the ultimate choice? 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:35 PM Flag
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Anyone? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:52 PM Flag
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Yes, went to SHS. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:52 PM Flag
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if TT has to be private, you need to realize that even in UB land not everyone applies to private schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:48 PM Flag
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Yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 01:47 PM Flag
[ - ] I love shrimp but never eat it as I d t know if it is safe. Is shrimp ok? What about frozen shrimp? Any countries to avoid? Tia! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 05:52 PM Flag
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Don't eat farmed shrimp. Get wild. Frozen wild is fine. I avoid Thailand because they have a serious problem with human trafficking in the fishing industry. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 05:56 PM Flag
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I eat shrimp in restaurants, have never had a problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:07 PM Flag
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Vegan is safer [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:42 PM Flag
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I know what you mean. I asked my MIL (she’s a great cook) and she said frozen. The fish counter employees said to look for wild and pointed me to what they said is the frozen version of what’s in the case (deveined, tail on). Just FYI, I am in flyover and partial to Gulf shrimp and I wouldn’t do farmed or non USA. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:55 PM Flag
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The stories of those shrimp boats in SE Asia are horrifying. I am avoiding. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 11:22 PM Flag
[ - ] Do people honestly think that if their child doesn't go to a TT school they won't have good lives? It seems to be the prevailing belief here. 96 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 05:43 PM Flag
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I don’t think it’s the prevailing belief here at all. I think many believe it maximize their children’s opportunities. Clearly even the most zealous TT moms understand that many people “succeed” without a TT education [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 05:54 PM Flag
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Agree [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 05:55 PM Flag
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I disagree. How often do we read that someone is thrilled that their kid found their way to a 2nd tier school cause it is a great fit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:10 PM Flag
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Pretty often actually. Some people are TT or just but there are plenty of people focused on fit, etc. But what you said wasn’t OP’s question. OP asked if people thought not going to a TT school was going to doom their child. I simply said that even parents who want TT are not saying that is the only path [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:22 PM Flag
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I've been here for a while. I can't think of a single example of that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:31 PM Flag
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There were threads about packet and Trevor earlier this week and several moms saying they didn’t want a pressure cooker for their kids - and that a smart motivated kid could still get into a great college while having some balance [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:45 PM Flag
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Links? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:50 PM Flag
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http://www.urbanbaby.com/topics/55934773 Here is the Trevor one. One mom saying she sent her 2 Kids through no regrets another saying she thinks it would be a good fit for her high scoring daughter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:56 PM Flag
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Thank you! Hope depressed mom reads this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:01 PM Flag
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It would great to see some responses to the S/O thread. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:50 PM Flag
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Packer is a great school. I applied there and a TT school as a teacher--the kids there were just as smart. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 10:23 PM Flag
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People know their children. They know when their children are incapable of success without brand names. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 09:45 AM Flag
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Of course one can be successful without TT school; however, TT education opens many doors, leading to better career opportunities through life. Don’t underestimate the power of pedigree and network. . [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:02 PM Flag
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You're confirming Op's comment there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:10 PM Flag
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To deny the benefits of TT education is silly; however, it is possible to have a successful career without it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:16 PM Flag
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Not OP's question. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:35 PM Flag
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No she’s not. You have reading comprehension issues. OP asked if people thought their kids were doomed to failure if they didn’t go to a TT school. OR said she thought it opened many doors. It does of course open doors - the real question is how much difference it makes for the same kid from the same family (given that they screen for smart kids when admitted and for families who value education and in general have significant financial needs) vs other options (lower key private, selective public, good gened) and at what cost (financial, risk of anxiety and burnout and missing childhood) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:44 PM Flag
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I don't see it as that. OP asked only about the kids being doomed to failure. Nothing about opening doors. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:47 PM Flag
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Right. That’s the whole point. OP asked if people truly believe kids are doomed to failure if they don’t go to TT schools. That was the question. I said: I don’t think most people believe that, but they believe TT schools will open doors, and some people might even believe it will open a lot of doors. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:51 PM Flag
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Fair enough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:53 PM Flag
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Fair enough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:53 PM Flag
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I do think that we are in danger of robbing kids of their childhood with this insane pressure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:53 PM Flag
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On this I agree. I posted below: to me the question is at what cost does one pursue a TT education. There is a financial cost (this is true with all privates of course) and a risk of ruining childhood or burning out to young (also a risk at places like Stuyvessant too) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:00 PM Flag
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np. I have several friends with kids in tt high schools (as well as Stuy and other SHS). For the right kid, these schools are great and not pressure. Problem starts with competitive NYC parents who want TT everything and decide even before DC is born that this is what'll be best for their DC. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:32 PM Flag
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Agree. It works for some kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 09:20 PM Flag
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this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 02:46 AM Flag
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This. I have a kid at Hunter and she loves it. Some kids enjoy homework, reading, studying etc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 03:42 AM Flag
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I question "better". Maybe more traditional big money jobs, but not necessarily better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:33 PM Flag
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the world is changing so rapidly and I'm not convinced the TT schools are evolving fast enough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:27 PM Flag
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^ I believe a more progressive education will help my child more [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:28 PM Flag
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Don’t you think most future jobs will be in STEM? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:29 PM Flag
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NP: I think a lot of those are going to be outsourced. I think the future will belong to creative people. Not necessarily inventors, but those who are entrepreneurial. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:33 PM Flag
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I know many entrepreneurs who had highly traditional educations. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:46 PM Flag
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Yes, and I know many who do not. I'm not saying you can't be an entrepreneur with a traditional education. I'm saying that that is not the only route any more to success. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:51 PM Flag
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Are you saying progressive can't teach STEM effectively? My DC is at a progressive school, has done really well in math and science, getting As in Calc II and all sciences. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:18 PM Flag
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This! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:32 PM Flag
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Same here. Our kid is a progressive high school (Not NYC) and his friends in TT high schools all seem to be receiving a "drill and spill" education. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:49 PM Flag
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I’m not even a big fan of TT pressure cookers but I’d never say it’s just drill and kill. The kids have to analyze, create arguments etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:02 PM Flag
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Are you talking about public TT schools? If yes, I believe you. TT privates have never been about drill and kill - hence the appeal. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:09 PM Flag
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Which ones? Not HCHS for sure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 03:44 AM Flag
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Agreed. I think about all the long term unemployed DH's lamented here. So many of them are TT graduates who can't handle change. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:32 PM Flag
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The truth about today's economy - previously, TT grads or equivalent would just swan their way through life through connections, sweet pensioned retirements. Today, if you're not top of the heap by 50, v. hard to get another equivalent position. Luckily, we saved like crazy (married young so that helped). I look at our college friends and the least stressed are those who set up house together young, saved like crazy. Now that we're approaching 50, that set is primed to take a step back in careers and be semi-retired. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:58 PM Flag
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I'm of your generation and I would completely agree. I also think that there is a mindset that comes with TT...I'm owed this job, this house, this lifestyle, e.g., luxury vacations, cars, etc. I don't know if that leads to a fulfilling life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:03 PM Flag
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Yes, my argument is that it was a reasonable expectation of our parents' generation, not ours. Too bad nobody warned us! We didn't necessarily planned this, but it worked out well. Seems that in our lifetime, a career of 25 years is reasonable, anything longer is not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:06 PM Flag
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Yep, I do career counseling and I'm amazed by the number of people who still think that Big Daddy Employer is going to take care of them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:11 PM Flag
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Parsimony (as much as bearable) is the name of the game. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:10 PM Flag
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PP here: I would say that for us it was deciding what we truly wanted and it was our freedom. That didn't mean living on government cheese, but not buying what we didn't need. For example, we don't live in the moutains, we don't need jeep. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 10:23 PM Flag
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NP: I've worked with a lot of TT graduates as has my husband. Many of them seem to believe that once they graduate life should be easy. Neither of us are Ivy grad, just good state schools and we know that graduating is just the start of a successful career, not the guarantee of one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:37 PM Flag
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I worked at a TT school. Basically, the high achievers get into the best colleges; the weaker students get into what would be considered by most to be pretty good colleges. The real issue is that many of the students have so much money it doesn't matter, and some of the weaker students who get into pretty good schools--or for specific reasons excellent schools--might have problems if they are at a school with other kids who are used to working harder. The school I taught at was amazing. I loved it--and it offers lots of intangibles that will help with success (seeing teachers/professors as approachable, etc.) but the kid working the hardest at the university is going to be the most interesting. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:45 PM Flag
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So, bottom line: It is work ethic no matter where you go? I wonder about the kids who have had the helicopter mom intervening and driving the kid..how that kid does. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:48 PM Flag
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The TT helps, but it's not everything. I do see some former students whose parents were overbearing and they seem to be doing nothing at college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:54 PM Flag
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My dc is in 8th grade at a TT - stellar grades across the board. No tutoring, comes naturally - no helicoptering, dc is just wired like that. Is dc better going off (in terms of college prospects) going to Bx Sci if dc gets in? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:54 PM Flag
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Ex TT Teacher: I would say no. I taught with a woman from Bronx Sci, and her approach--while for high achieving kids--still seemed very 'public school.' That sounds aswful, but it seemed to be geared towards large classrooms where the students didn't engage too much. The teacher kind of lectured (in an English class). Maybe this was just her, but if I had the money to send my kid to a TT--and I don't--I would prefer it because the classes tend to be more interactive than that and interesting for the student. Also, I doubt that Bronx Sci has the college guidance capabilities at the level of the TTs. Again, it is all at a prohibitive cost, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:01 PM Flag
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Thx for your thoughtful answer. DH & I are both products of private schools, so yeah, I get the benefit. OTOH, there are so many people I went to school with that failed to be educated in spite of having every opportunity. Our dcs go to both public and private (oldest is at an SHS) so I do wonder. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:04 PM Flag
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Yeah, I remember as a student (going to a private school) hating spoiled students who had everything handed to them and then squandered it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 10:26 PM Flag
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May I suggest (I'm a retained recruiter): If your child is self-motivated, he/she will excel anywhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:04 PM Flag
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Self-motivated when it comes to school and learning, not sure if that will translate into career success. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:06 PM Flag
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Teacher from before: It probably won't hurt. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:09 PM Flag
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I was this kid, and I've been very successful. However, my success has been as an entrepreneur/writer than as a corporate employee. She needs to find an employer who values creativity and self-directedness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:12 PM Flag
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Tell this to firms like McKinsey and Goldman Sachs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:10 PM Flag
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Those and their equivalents in law aren't what every one wants out of life. Some people want to have an actual life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:22 PM Flag
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Sour grapes? Some of these jobs can actually quite interesting, you know... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:28 PM Flag
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and some aren't [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:29 PM Flag
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None. For some people the trade offs are worth it. My husband is Big Law, I never see him, but he loves his life and the income is mind-blowing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:29 PM Flag
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Don’t forget high tech! How many people with senior positions at Google, Facebook, etc., don’t have TT degrees? The answer is almost none. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:43 PM Flag
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Not necessarily. What's most important is for dc to continue to be motivated and happy. I know two dcs who went completely lost in Bx Sci and not for lack of brains. Transferred and much happier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:37 PM Flag
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From what I have observed, students at TT high schools work harder than students at public schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:25 PM Flag
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Depends. At some of the TTs I know of, everything is group projects. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:30 PM Flag
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Name one - I know parents whose kids go to Collegiate and HM. They said the amount of work is absolutely soul-crushing. I hear the same about Brearley. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:08 PM Flag
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Brearley mom here. I confirm. However my friend’s daughter who goes to Stuyvesant and just got into HYP works incredibly hard too: 1-2am bed time on a regular basis. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 09:45 PM Flag
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My 7th grader at hunter probably does 4 hr of homework a night. At 12. Totally self motivated, but would be a nightmare for the wrong kid. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 03:48 AM Flag
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I think it’s terrible for any kid, even self-motivated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 09:15 AM Flag
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Can’t say I disagree. I am constantly telling her to stop, it’s enough. She enjoys it. Reads for pleasure all day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 10:07 AM Flag
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While that is impressive, when is there time to dream, interact with friends, explore something? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 10:24 PM Flag
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No one believes this. Look, you try to get your kid into the best school possible but if it doesn't work out, life goes on and you make the most of wherever they land. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:01 PM Flag
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You won't draw this conclusions based upon the frenzy about TT on the board. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:06 PM Flag
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Doesn’t it depend on your definition of success? If you want to build your career at a premier financial or consulting firm, you would have a very hard time getting your foot in the door, even for a much junior position, without TT education. If you do not have such big aspirations, you don’t need TT education. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:21 PM Flag
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Yes, I think it comes down to what your values might be. What I think is how many kids are pushed in that direction, find themselves at a premier firm and are miserable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:23 PM Flag
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Values? You mean, if you want to work at McKinsey, you have no values? As opposed to someone who wants to run a nail salon? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:27 PM Flag
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Now you're just deliberately trolling. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:30 PM Flag
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No, I am not. I have to say that nurses at hospitals work much harder and have more stressful jobs than partners at McKinsey. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:45 PM Flag
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My friend went to CUNY and is a nuclear engineer. His wife went to city schools and is a doctor. No one cares about tt anything but those that pay the $$ and think it meant something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:32 PM Flag
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I think there's truth to this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:39 PM Flag
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There are a few people who see a very narrow lane to life- Big Law, or one of the TT finance or consulting firms. They can't fathom another path [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:29 PM Flag
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See below. Your interpretation of the path is very narrow. The jobs you mentioned are used as a stepping stone to lucrative jobs in business development, management, and all other interesting jobs that you would not be able to get without the McKinsey experience. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 10:47 AM Flag
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I know McKinsey and I know what jobs those who leave McKinsey pursue. This is an 80 hour a week commitment to work (if not more) and going from one pressure cooker to another. Not everyone views this as a dream life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 10:25 PM Flag
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there are so many TT kids who end up in college burned out druggies who do nothing with their lives - they major in film and then spend the rest of their lives as trust fund hipsters constantly working on "projects" that never get finished. meanwhile many kids with good work ethics go to state schools and become wealthy doctors, lawyers, engineers, etc. their work ethic is what matters. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:44 PM Flag
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Work ethic does not equal wealth, signed full professor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 10:59 PM Flag
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TT only matters for law, banking, and consulting, and then mainly NY and DC, you are gonna make it there only if your kid gets into an ivy and has some upper class extra activity. If you kid is not interested in those areas, you should rethink any investment in TT. I would invest more in what my child is actually interested in and invest and helping him/her delve more and more into that. I am in law, and I do not see my kid liking this field, makes me relax a lot. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 01:15 AM Flag
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I lived in Silicon Valley, where I observed that all lucrative jobs went to TT graduates, with a heavy skew towards Stanford. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 09:16 AM Flag
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Yes, if someone's goal is a TT job..100 hours a week, no social life, then TT like Stanford would be the way to go...but that isn't what everyone values. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 10:26 PM Flag
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I think what people are missing is that these jobs in finance and consulting are typically used as a stepping stone to a variety of lucrative corporate jobs, with much better schedules, greater flexibility, and great compensation. Unfortunately these positions are much more difficult to obtain for someone without this experience. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 09:28 AM Flag
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Retained executive recruiter with 20 years of experience with TT companies...this isn't remotely true. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 10:26 PM Flag
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TT matters if you want a superior education for your child. College exmissions is no guarantee. It’s all about the journey not the destination. Setting them up for success hopefully. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 04:45 PM Flag
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If people only did this for a journey and experience then many families would not make this sacrifice if there was no upper hand in getting into lucrative professions and companies with the school name. Having a personalized and expensive education journey is a luxury for most people. I know UMC families for whom tuition is tremendous sacrifice, and they do this sincerely hoping that the name of the school will get their kids in the door somewhere to earning big bucks. Uber rich certainly can afford to buy private education for the value of the journey alone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 06:23 PM Flag
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This discussion in the later portions really seems to confirm the OP's impress that it is TT or bust for families here. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 10:27 PM Flag
[ - ] Is a healthy 60-year-old man too old to become a father for the first time? 23 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 05:34 PM Flag
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No, but I think you need to think about how that father may not have the energy to do all the "kid stuff" or be there when the kid is in college. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 05:36 PM Flag
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IMO yes! What about when you have a 10year old and he’s 70! A mom friend was complaining to me yesterday about her 66yr old husband, dad of her 11yr and his long list of ailments. She said thank god she brought a long term care policy when he was 50yr old. He’s gonna need it soon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 05:38 PM Flag
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DH was 58 when our now 18 year old son was born. It has made him super conscious of his health and fitness, and they do everything, including hiking vacations together. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 05:42 PM Flag
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Of course, the odds of something happening before that child is 20 are significantly greater than if were 35. Whether this is okay and fair to the child depends who you ask. I’d argue if there is a good support system in place (the mother is younger and healthy, there is extended family, and they are financially secure) it’s fine [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 05:57 PM Flag
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Yes, it is totally unfair to the child if his father has a very strong likelihood of dying before he graduates from high school. Or is ill for long periods. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:10 PM Flag
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My DH became a father for the first and second time at 50 and 52. We had been trying for years and this was when it happened for us. He is 55 now and while I would kind of love a third, he and I both agree that it feels like the moment has passed given his current age. That's just us, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:33 PM Flag
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“That’s just is, though” at 55?! Are you serious? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:08 PM Flag
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Yes. I was trying to show empathy. History is full of productive and well functioning people who had fathers older than 55. It's far from ideal but with love, resources, and a younger mother it can be a good thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:14 PM Flag
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Omg [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:25 PM Flag
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Whatever you need to tell yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:26 PM Flag
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agreed [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:41 PM Flag
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Grandpa [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:13 PM Flag
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What do you hope to accomplish with that remark? To insult? Hurt? We tune that out. We're happy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:18 PM Flag
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To hurt yes. I'm the woman whose husband was 58 when our son was born. We have been married for a while, our finances are secure, we both have the time/money/leisure to really enjoy family life. Our kid has a load of friends, we're deeply involved in various communities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:24 PM Flag
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Not to hurt. To be realistic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:28 PM Flag
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I have actual experience in this area...I'm PP. He's our son's Dad, not his Grandpa. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:33 PM Flag
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LOL ok [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:49 PM Flag
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I’m sure. Selfishly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:25 PM Flag
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Ridiculously yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:08 PM Flag
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sperm quality decreases with age - father's age is also a risk factor for down syndrome [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:27 PM Flag
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my father was 52 when i was born; he is now in his 80's and i am having the anxiety of how to take care of him when he's older a lot earlier than all of my friends, whose parents are all boomer age and still helping them. but i'm glad i exist so i guess not that bad of a deal! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:29 PM Flag
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My dad was an old dad before older parents was a thing. I was a nervous, anxious, super sensitive child because everyone made such a big deal of him being so old that I was terrified he would die any minute anywhere. Sadly he did drop dead but I was much older. He was a great father and I miss him very much. Everybody has a different path and tempo they march to. I wouldn’t change anything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 09:16 PM Flag
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Of course it's fine if both of you want it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:41 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone successfully take antidepressants and then stop? How did you decide it was time to wean? I started taking Zoloft for postpartum anxiety and it’s been fantastic- but my baby is 9 months old and I don’t want to take the pills forever. 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 05:01 PM Flag
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Speak to your Dr. some drugs have specific instructions for weaning [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 05:25 PM Flag
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My teen goes on/off them for a few years. It doesn't seem to hurt her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 05:47 PM Flag
[ - ] NYC public elementary students- did your dc get report cards yet? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 04:51 PM Flag
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For November, yes. SSecond period ends March. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 05:00 PM Flag
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Ah we only get 2 per year so i guess every school different [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 05:30 PM Flag
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Report cards are coming on Wednesday. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:08 PM Flag
[ - ] Is anyone going to wear an anti-viral mask while flying due to the severe flu strains and now coronavirus? I never have (and I travel frequently) but wondering if I should consider it. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 04:29 PM Flag
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I just tried to by some on Amazon and they are all sold out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 04:58 PM Flag
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I was checking on amazon yesterday too. A lot sold out already, and the rest had their prices raised quite a bit in the last few days. Good business I guess... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 05:16 PM Flag
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I'm flying internationally with kids in feb and I'm thinking about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:49 PM Flag
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Funny, I posted yesterday asking if I'd look crazy if I wore one on my flight tomorrow. But I'm doing it cause I'm getting over a cold and feeling germy. This is the one I got. Still same price on amazon today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:47 PM Flag
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that's for UV protection. you need the n95 mask to protect against the germs [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:34 PM Flag
[ - ] Going to super-fancy wedding in southern CA, bride/groom are $$$$$ (like internet $), wish they would ask for donation to charity but parents says cash. Travel plus expensive hotel. How much to give? 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 04:24 PM Flag
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give what you can.. sounds like you need the money more then they do [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 04:28 PM Flag
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We are well-off but find uncertain on the correct amount. Normally, we would do like $400-500 for a wedding but this is weekend-long thing at a high end place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 04:38 PM Flag
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Gift value is unrelated to the cost of the event. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 04:59 PM Flag
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So, $500 would be sufficient? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 05:09 PM Flag
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$500 is a very generous wedding gift. So is $300. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:30 PM Flag
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How weird they want cash. You can do donation instead or a gift if you don’t want to do cash [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 04:31 PM Flag
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It is presumptuous to make that decision when the parents said money gift to the couple. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 05:50 PM Flag
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It’s presumptuous of the parents to say that! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:47 PM Flag
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oh ffs do you know how much weddings cost??? ignore this lady's advice and give them cash. i think the internet generally advises $150 per guest [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:30 PM Flag
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the cost of the wedding is not the guests' problem. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 11:24 PM Flag
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$300 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:34 PM Flag
[ - ] Where can I donate old toys on the UWS? Goodwill won't take them. 11 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 03:33 PM Flag
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Salvation Army. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 03:43 PM Flag
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I leave them in a neat bundle in heavily trafficked place. They will get taken overnight. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 03:49 PM Flag
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^^ I've left bikes, scooters, stuffed toys (on dry days obviously, Fridays/Saturdays), books, with "Take me" signs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 03:49 PM Flag
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where do you leave? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 04:54 PM Flag
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I live near West End, so maybe 100 ft away from the corner. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 05:04 PM Flag
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Will St Francis Thrift on 96th? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 04:12 PM Flag
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Sign in your building? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 05:01 PM Flag
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Take them to a family homeless shelter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 05:01 PM Flag
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Bad idea. They can't take toys with them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 05:04 PM Flag
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Good idea. Unless they are plush animals which homeless shelters will not take or toys that have parts a little kid can swallow. I volunteer at one and those kids have nothing to do, nothing to play with, and their parent is too stressed to play with them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 05:38 PM Flag
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Do you have a neighborhood buy nothing Facebook page? I love mine. It’s the best place to get rid of items from Your home you no longer need. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:16 PM Flag
[ - ] All the appliances in our kitchen seem to be dying at the same time. Can anyone recommend a not-too-expensive brand/model of stove and refrigerator? Dishwasher possibly too, I'm afraid. Not looking for top of the line because we have to replace so many at once. 47 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 03:23 PM Flag
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We are considering an LG stove and maybe a Miele dishwasher mainly because we've already gone through 2 Bosch dishwashers in the last 16 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 03:24 PM Flag
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Our Miele dw lasted 11 years. Miele range going strong after 13 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 03:50 PM Flag
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That's great to know. Actually, our repairman (someone I know very well at this point!) mentioned Miele as one brand of dishwasher that seems to last longer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 03:57 PM Flag
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I expected it to last 20 years! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 04:17 PM Flag
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If it makes you feel any better, we are probably going to have to replace our second Bosch dw because the door falls open rather violently (like crashes open) now because some tiny little string that controls the door from opening too hard sort of fell out. Literally, a string with a piece of plastic on the end. Bosch told us they stopped making that part! So now we just have to buy a new dishwasher! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 04:23 PM Flag
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I do like Miele but 1) we have "thin" dishes 2) Our kitchen is open to LR/DR so having a quiet DW is nice 3) Our kitchen is all "hidden" appliances so it's esthetically pleasing. We bought a 2nd Miele but not top of the line, as I think that's a ripoff. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 04:42 PM Flag
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Glad you mentioned the fact it's quiet. I had forgotten that that's a deal breaker for us which narrows our options. Our whole first floor is open, so we really need quiet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 04:51 PM Flag
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Yeah, it's why we went with the Miele to start with. There's an initial gurgle, then nothing. Can't tell it's on - we have to look at the light. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 05:05 PM Flag
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I have this dishwasher! Had to buy a new door front for it too! It still works with the broken string, but is a pain to remember. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 01:46 PM Flag
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Really want a refrigerator with an ice and water dispenser because we've gotten so used to it. But our Frigidaire has ice forming on the back of it! And the icemaker died (this is our second refrigerator in 16 years). We're getting kind of tired of fixing and replacing things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 03:26 PM Flag
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Actually, even if you have an expensive brand please let me know if you like it. We're just baffled because we seem to need to replace things every 7-8 years on average. For the range, we were always thinking we'd move up to a Viking or similar, but now, given our track record, afraid we'll just need to replace it in 7 years! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 03:55 PM Flag
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It's planned obsolescence [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 03:58 PM Flag
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+1. Have been told by several sales people they are only built to last about 8 years even higher end. You pay for functionality and design [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 04:09 PM Flag
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OP: That's what our repair guy says! And he's really great. I swear, he's becoming a friend at this point. He comes over more often than some of my friends! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 04:15 PM Flag
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I also think some who say their appliance last much longer don’t use them as often. Friend orders in/ eats out mostly so her stove/ oven/ dishwasher maybe used once a week. I use mine stoce least 5 days a week and dishwasher run once a day [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 04:34 PM Flag
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Good point. We use everything daily. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 04:48 PM Flag
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We have regular GE, 10+ years old, all pretty good, fridge has needed some repairs but they've been able to fix it. Stove is fine, has a nice warming over we use a lot. Miele dishwasher isn't great, also 10+ so it lasts, but DH hates the way the dish racks are set up, doesn't really fit plates well. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 04:02 PM Flag
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OP: Interesting. I have been thinking about GE. We have a GE microwave/convection oven and it is literally the only appliance that we have never had to replace in 16 years! Of course, I'm probably jinxing that now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 04:18 PM Flag
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I've had a GE monogram dual fuel range for 13 years and never had an issue with it once. It works great and is still going strong. I wanted to put in a Viking at the time, but our contractor warned me against it; said he was seeing problems with the ones he'd installed a couple years before. The 13 yr old GE monogram refrigerator has had only one warranty repair. On the other hand, the GE profile dishwasher SUCKED; replaced with a Bosch which is just ok. But super quiet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:20 PM Flag
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^We also use the range and refrigerator a lot--I have three kids and cook most weeknights. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 09:14 PM Flag
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we have GE too. 14 year old appliances - stove and refrigerator are fine, replace the dishwasher this year with another GE because dishwashers don't have to be expensive to be good, and it's more economical to get a new than to repair. we have made repairs to the oven, but the refrigerator hasn't needed any repairs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 11:13 PM Flag
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Check Costco. Pc Richard has good 4 appliance deals too. Been happy with our Samsung suite. You can get what they call free standing stove w high back for under 1000. If want slide in with no raised back and electronics in front that’s min extra 500 just to move electronic but stove, oven work same Fridge w water in door also 500 more. Our basic suite Samsung was 4000. Depends bells whistles and look u want [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 04:07 PM Flag
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Glad to hear about the Samsung. DH saw it recommended by Consumer Reports, but I had never thought of Samsung for ranges before. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 04:14 PM Flag
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I don't know if it counts as middle of the road, but lobe my Bosch range to pieces. Good oven, good broiler, pasta burner, sauce burner, functions well and intuitively. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 04:14 PM Flag
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How long have you owned it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 04:18 PM Flag
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It's seven years old, maybe? We bought it used. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 04:47 PM Flag
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Viking Stove - 20 years, showing signs of wear. Sub-Zero fridge - 20 years, fixed 2x, ice maker broken. Bosch dishwasher - replaced after 8 years. Thermador double oven, replace with Kitchen aid after 10 years. Washer/Dryer - Frigidaire, replaced 2x, first with Kenmore then with Frigidaire again (space issue), each lasting about a 8 years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 04:19 PM Flag
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OP: We have thought about getting a Viking stove, but DH wonders if maybe they used to be built better than they are now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 04:33 PM Flag
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Sub zero is notorious for breaking down [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:32 PM Flag
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OP: We own an apartment that we rent out and it had total no-name brand appliances and those are the only appliances that are still working! Actually have never even had to repair them. It is crazy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 04:20 PM Flag
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Too many computerized parts in newer appliances & cheap internal construction. Lots of plastic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 04:35 PM Flag
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+ we have a kitchen full of kitchen aid appliances from probably 20 years ago (we bought 10 years ago) and they all keep going. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 05:08 PM Flag
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That is crazy but somehow not surprising. Higher end appliance companies know you can afford to replace more often. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 05:37 PM Flag
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I've always been happy with my GE appliances. Had them in our house and now our apt. Work without ever needing repairs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 05:02 PM Flag
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LG / Samsung - those are solid mid priced - recommend staying away from french doors and too much technology in the products - the mother board on my fridge went once after a power surge - cost $400 to fix - replaced with a perfectly nice dumb fridge from LG which is going on 7 trouble free years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 05:14 PM Flag
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NP water in doors is a big problem where things go wrong. I can't wait to get rid of the refrigerator we have now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 05:57 PM Flag
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I hated mine when I had it - too many repairs and smelly ice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 11:15 PM Flag
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I love mine. We have a good filter--no smelly ice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 01:42 AM Flag
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I would buy a Miele DW if I needed something - they're so quiet and all appliance people seem to love them. Having said that, our KitchenAid has been going strong for at least 20 years. It's noisy but reliable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 05:36 PM Flag
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Seems like everything is designed these days to start failing after the 5 year extended warranty period ends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:15 PM Flag
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OP: We are heading out to look at the possibilities, but I will check this thread later. It has been so helpful to hear the different experiences people have had!! I'd be grateful for any additional input anyone has to offer. Thank you so much! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:16 PM Flag
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Watching. I may be in the same boat soon. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:56 PM Flag
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OP: Just went to 2 stores to look. Thinking about a GE Profile stove that has a double oven and 5-burner range. If anyone knows of any drawbacks to double ovens, please let me know! I have resigned myself to the fact that appliances don't last long these days. It seems so wasteful to keep replacing things, but I guess that's the way it goes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 11:12 PM Flag
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i LOVE a double oven. as long as it isn't taking up space you need for something else, i don't see a downside. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 02:37 AM Flag
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Don't buy an LG anything, my LG refrigerator died after 1 year. The company actually gave me my money back as it couldn't keep the temperature at the proper degrees. Just go with GE Profile appliances, the high end ones, you can't go wrong. Including your dishwasher. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 01:10 PM Flag
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Thanks [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 10:27 PM Flag
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Look at AJ Madison in Brooklyn. When we renovated our kitchen, they were having a Thermador promotion - I think we bought the range and fridge and got the dishwasher and vent hood free. They have good package deals. Our Thermador appliances work beautifully - almost 5 years old so I can't speak to longevity. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 03:23 PM Flag
[ - ] I get SO depressed reading the college admissions threads on here. Admissions standards are so much higher now. A kid with my SAT/GPA today would have no chance at what I considered my safety schools in 2004. My DD is only 2 years old, I wonder how far down the USNWR rankings she will have to attend. 48 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 03:04 PM Flag
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Demographics have changed. She will likely have an easier time than kids today. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 03:21 PM Flag
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your DD will have a much easier time than my 2 DCs applying over the next three years. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 03:36 PM Flag
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I would rather be you dealing with this in 15 years than me with a high school freshman. I think things are going to be very tough for the next few years and then I actually think it will get easier. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 03:26 PM Flag
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think about your last sentence. What would be terrible about your child (who i am sure you think is perfect and wonderful) attending a school that is not in the top ten or 20? why is this depressing? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 03:26 PM Flag
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None of my kids have went to a top 20 school and they are happy, healthy and enjoying their lives. Nothing to be depressed about. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 03:37 PM Flag
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OP here. It's not just that, it's also me feeling bad about myself because I would have no shot at my alma mater today. And I attended one of my safety schools! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 03:39 PM Flag
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So what? This is a lot of drama over nothing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 11:56 PM Flag
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+1. Have you been erroneously walking around your whole life being "proud" of something you made up in your mind? It was no big deal then. It shouldn't be a loss now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 01:19 AM Flag
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IKR? I went to a Big Dumb State School (WI) in the 1980s. DCs will probably need at least a 3.5 to get in as out-of-staters now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 03:36 PM Flag
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I do think a lot of if is based on where you live. This is a NYC area heavy board and it makes it sounds like nobody gets in anywhere. I live in an area that it not as intensely competitive (not flyover) and honestly lots of kids get in to great schools, high on the USNWR ranking if that sort of thing is how you're measuring. Smart, hardworking kids, but not international medal winners. To be clear I don't think you should choose your home based on how it may affect your kids' college options, but it does seem to me that this NYC heavy board has a bit of an obsession with the "best" of everything and perhaps living in that region isn't best setup for college options. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 03:42 PM Flag
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I actually live in Northern Virginia but I'm not sure that's any better than NYC as far as college admissions. At least we don't have a competitive preschool scene here and most people are just fine with the suburban public schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 03:45 PM Flag
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Yes I believe Northern VA, at least the towns closest to DC, one of the areas that have a hard time. There are just such a huge number of kids who have had tons of opportunity/A+ schools/parental involvement and while all these things are great they make the pool they are competing against insanely hard. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 03:50 PM Flag
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Go visit a CUNY school, or other low-ranked college in your area. You will be very surprised at how much they have to offer. If you want a good education and smart, attentive professors, you can find that at pretty much any college. And you will avoid all the rich kids whose parents bought their way in. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 03:55 PM Flag
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I agree! My DS goes to a CUNY and loves it. He’s getting a great education and it’s affordable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 05:59 PM Flag
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we're looking at CUNY schools for my very bright and high scoring dc who wants to stay in NYC. we have no interest in burning through our money for some status and we'd rather be able to have the extra funds for dc to go to grad school or buy dc an apartment or something. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 11:17 PM Flag
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that's our gameplay, too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 01:12 PM Flag
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My son is a freshman at Hunter. He had a good SAT but mediocre high school GPA. He is doing very well is loving NYC. I hope he stays for 4 years but he will have great transfer opportunities as well. The CEO of Goldman just did a presentation for students. There are lots of academic opportunities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 12:45 AM Flag
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DC got in ED1 to a very nice small LAC in the midwest that is a great fit, with a significant merit scholarship. Look outside the NE and think outside the box, there are a lot of schools for whom a nice kid from a decent NYC school is appealing. There is more to life than ivies, Williams and Swarthmore. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 04:09 PM Flag
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STOP worrying about college and rankings. Many kids I know who went to top 10 USNWR schools did not do amazing things. Let them find their way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 04:21 PM Flag
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STOP worrying about college and rankings. Many kids I know who went to top 10 USNWR schools did not do amazing things. Let them find their way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 04:21 PM Flag
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I think the goal is a college where your kid will flourish. That may not be a TT school. Our son is at best a B- student, he's more of the "maker" kind of kid than a book kid. We're looking at schools that have a cooperative learning component. He'd be miserable in a super competitive TT. OTOH, we have another friend whose kid is a legitimate math genius and was courted by M.I.T., CalTech, Harvard. It is his gift and his talent. He's happy cause those environments are the ones in which he flourishes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 05:05 PM Flag
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My opinion: You can follow your child's interest and disposition or push your child to take the path that everyone seems to have concluded is the one towards lifetime success. We have friends whose only child has literally no free time. Every moment of her life is micromanaged by mom and it is filled with tutors/on-line learning programs. I don't think that kid has any clue who she is. I was academically driven, loved to read, loved to study, just absolutely adored school. I got out into the real world and I had no clue how to work with others, how to manage my own life, how to make friends. I've done well in life, but I wish I had a more balanced education that would have included diverse experiences outside of school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 05:08 PM Flag
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This is all really accurate I think. Knowing how to "do school" may have very little to do with success outside of school. And to your point about the kid who is being pushed 24/7 by mom, that really seems to be the situation that backfires frequently when it comes to college admissions. Mom is presumably doing this to "get my kid into HYP" or whatever and the kid who has been a grade workhorse but has no idea who they are or what they are interested in gets rejected in favor of the interesting kid with lower scores on a regular basis. Plus I just feel bad for the kid, she should get to chart her own path. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:44 PM Flag
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I hope this kid doesn’t flame out with depression or anxiety. We have an epidemic of this at my univ. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 10:54 PM Flag
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+1. I was an A student who loved to study but know nothing else. No people skills, no finding passions or projects I am interested in. I am a teacher/authority pleaser. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 03:11 PM Flag
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I'd look less at rankings than at employment rates post graduation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 05:11 PM Flag
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Retained executive recruiter here: I've done work across multiple industries and levels and in some industries that TT credential is mandatory. Some of the Fortune 500, but certainly not all. Big Consulting, Law, yes. We may see an obsession with TT on UB because so many of the posters are married to live or know people in those areas where a TT degree is mandatory. That does not...by any means...reflect all of the world. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 05:14 PM Flag
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Partner in Big 3 consulting. I have noticed that many of my partners, as well as clients, often the Ivy educated CXOs or Heads of businesses are sending their kids to non-Ivys. My belief is that the TT credential bias is getting less important, as the buyers of professional services realize that their own kids are super smart and driven, but could not get into Ivy. I know we have broadened our search. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 05:55 PM Flag
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Yes. I also think that perhaps the younger generation is not seeking a life that is all consumed with work. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:38 PM Flag
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Also, I think that the old model of success was Ivy, Ivy, then Big Company. Now it seems to be finding that creative endeavor or thinking outside the box. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:43 PM Flag
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Colleges would also consider your child's entire story. I'm first generation, neither parent finished elementary school, grew up in a mill town. No tutoring, no test prep. I was very happy with the colleges that actively recruited me because of my total "story" and that my academic accomplishments (top 2% SAT scores) came from intelligence and personal drive, not a lifetime of parents grooming me for college admissions. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 05:16 PM Flag
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And do YOUR kids have an equivalent story? Are you withholding a lifetime of grooming for admissions from them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 05:54 PM Flag
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I don't really understand your question, but I'll try to answer what I think it is. We never looked at the rankings of the private schools our son attended, we looked at the community and the opportunity for him to learn how to become a self-directed learner. He turned out to be a very creative kid and has written a book and is now working on another. College isn't something we're actively researching right now, but what we would look for is a fit with that self-directed, creative side of him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:41 PM Flag
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You think that not looking at the rankings of your DS's private school is comparable to being first generation with two parents who didn't finish elementary school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 09:02 PM Flag
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So it only counts if I gave our newborn away to an immigrant family? I'm answering your question about "grooming"...our kid is not being groomed, he is being nurtured. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 10:03 PM Flag
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Also, "withholding" may not be an appropriate word. I did not, like so many of my friends, start my kid on Kumon at age 4. That's what I mean by grooming. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:42 PM Flag
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I understand what you're saying but there's still tons of great schools for kids with strong but not incredible scores. My dd had an A-/B+ average and scored fairly well (but not top) on SAT, and ended up getting into an extremely competitive top public school in another state. They only took 7% of out of state applicants. They do look at the whole picture (essays, extracurricular) pretty strongly. They usually end up where they are supposed to go. You've got bigger fish to fry before thinking about college admissions, believe me! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:38 PM Flag
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Interesting. One book I love is "The Millionaire Next Door" and one of the findings was that the most successful people profiled were the C students. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:45 PM Flag
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Only if you measure success with your wallet. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 10:52 PM Flag
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Don't be silly. Enjoy your life with your child. She is 2 years old! :) Put some money aside for college, but don't spend all your time worrying about going to "The BEST" schools. That will make you and your daughter sick with worry and endless comparison. My daughter was a very good student and an honorable one. She decided to go to City College over other colleges which offered only half tuition as an incentive. It wasn't easy as some of the freshman classes had hundreds of students in them but, she loved living in Manhattan at the dorm. Junior year she and a girlfriend rented an apartment just outside of Manhattan. Now, two years out, she has a job at NYU and enough money to pay her own rent and take vacations during the year. She just returned from Japan. She pays all her own bills and is now applying to graduate school. She has no debt. Take heart and have faith in your daughter! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 06:52 PM Flag
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Thank you for replying I've written before: Our DD wants to be a pastry chef. The community college has a good hospitality program, she'll continue to build her cottage baking business, then on to two years in a highly rated pastry school. She's known since she was 14 that this is what she loves and she's worked in some tough bakery environments (120-degree heat, e.g.). OP: Your child will show you who she is, honor her individuality and help her find the best fit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:28 PM Flag
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NP - this is great advice, "your child will show you who she is, honor her individuality and help her find the best fit". You can't know at age two who your child will be. Instead of thinking how they will fit into a system that may or may not even exist in 16 years, enjoy helping her become who she is uniquely meant to be. My own dc is on a path I never would have imagined a few years ago: non-traditional and we are super proud and excited for her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 08:06 PM Flag
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This is wonderful advice. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 10:49 PM Flag
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Enjoy your two year old and forget about college for at least another decade! The world will change so much in the next 16 years, I think anyone who is counting on the next generation having lives similar to ours is delusional. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 07:16 PM Flag
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I think you may be on to something! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 10:50 PM Flag
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Actually the demographics suggest that your kid will have a much easier road because the birth rate has fallen. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 10:48 PM Flag
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It will be different when she is ready to go to college - don't worry about it now! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 11:50 AM Flag
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from my experience, a lot of what I read here is worst case scenario. As long as you accept the fact that there are 50 "top 10" and 100 "top 20" schools, you and your children will be fine. My DD had 2 C+s on her report card and is going to a school ranked in the top 30 of National Universities. Its a great school. Not an Ivy, but just one level below. Don't believe all the hype. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.27.20, 04:51 PM Flag
[ - ] Looking for great hotel recommendations for Lisbon or Sintra. TIA for anything you have! 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 03:04 PM Flag
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Sinatra is a good day trip. Use Lisbon as your base. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 03:11 PM Flag
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OP: Thank you - that's what I was thinking. We are only in Portugal for 5 nights. So do you have any great recommendations in Lisbon? I think we want to stay in Baixa/Chiaro area. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 03:12 PM Flag
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We stayed in a lovely pension on a hill near the Castelo d. S. Jorge with views of the city so I don’t have hotel recs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 03:20 PM Flag
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* that was autocorrect BTW. Sintra [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.26.20, 03:16 PM Flag
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in Lisbon: Heritage Avenida Liberdade. honestly one of the best hotel experiences i've had. [ Reply | More ]
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