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[ - ] I am so fat right now. Tell me I need to workout. Something is better than nothing, correct?! 26 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:05 PM Flag
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There was a piece on NPR yesterday about the benefits of walking. You don't have to go to a gym and lift weights to get exercise. Everything counts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:06 PM Flag
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what about a 30 min brisk walk? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:07 PM Flag
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I'll go to my basement and walk/run on the treadmill and then maybe do a 30 minute exercise video. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:12 PM Flag
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perfect. you will feel better [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:14 PM Flag
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I know. I need to lose 6 pounds. It's driving me crazy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:15 PM Flag
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OK, six pounds. Just exercise and eat less for two weeks, and you're there. And if it's only six pounds, you can't be "fat." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:19 PM Flag
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I feel fat though. We've all been there, right. I guess we are our harshest critics. Thanks. Two weeks. I have to be more disciplined. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:20 PM Flag
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Try free month of Weight Watchers... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:24 PM Flag
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I could just skip lunch and lose 6 pounds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:28 PM Flag
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I get it. I need to lose 4 or 5 and it isnt a huge amount so it is hard to actually do it. my clothes arent fitting well and I feel heavy. no one would be able to tell by looking at us though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:29 PM Flag
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You've taken the first step. Good for you. Toss all junk food you have at food and change your diet immediately. And work out. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:08 PM Flag
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On keto you can eat cheesecakes, cookies, fudge, and ice cream, but you have to make them homemade. You can buy Lilly's chocolate bars and chocolate chips. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:10 PM Flag
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What do you use to sweeten them? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:21 PM Flag
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swerve, monk fruit sweetener, or truvia [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:27 PM Flag
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Yuk. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:33 PM Flag
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If you purge yourself of sugar for a few weeks, you can slowly add these back and enjoy them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:34 PM Flag
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They aren't sugar, though. They have sugar alcohols and stevia. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:51 PM Flag
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We avoid xylitol, sorbitol and maltitol, but erythritol is fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:52 PM Flag
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Gassy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:34 PM Flag
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No beans on keto. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:48 PM Flag
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sugar alcohols cause a lot of gas. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:51 PM Flag
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See above about sweeteners. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:52 PM Flag
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how much do you want to lose? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:14 PM Flag
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6 pounds. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:15 PM Flag
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"so fat" is not about losing 6 lbs. 6 lbs is easy. I recommend focusing more on the food intake part of it. limit potions [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:28 PM Flag
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SIX POUNDS!?!? Collapsing thread. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:50 PM Flag
[ - ] People please-sometimes kids need music or a tv on to do their homework. My 16YO son was at the library working on a project. He had his ear buds on and music on soft. He had his laptop on with a video on mute that went with his project as he was working. I was there too working myself. Some random lady came up to him and said “you will do better work if you turn off the music and the video.” Yes with me right there. I told her “it’s fine. I’m his mother.” She just looked at me and walked away. 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:01 PM Flag
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One time an old lady told me I shouldn't have my baby at synagogue because it was too cold out. When I told dh, he said I should have replied "Why? We don't have heat at home!" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:02 PM Flag
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have brought my baby, I mean [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:03 PM Flag
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Busybodies are everywhere. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:05 PM Flag
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This. Teach your kids how to deal with them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:08 PM Flag
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“Thank you for your concern” with a withering stare. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:05 PM Flag
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Whenever someone makes a comment, I always assume they were horrible parents and feel guilty so they like to judge others. "Well, I screamed at my kids constantly, and was never home for them, but at least they always wore a hat!" [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:30 PM Flag
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Hahaha-true [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:49 PM Flag
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She’s right- only because when you take a test or write a paper at school you can’t listen to music and you’ve trained your brain to think with music. But she shouldn’t have butted in, helpful as her intent might have been. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 04:17 PM Flag
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Have you been in a high school recently? Times have changed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 06:03 PM Flag
[ - ] s/o of the "shooting up the school" post. Does it seem like there's a higher percentage of difficult, acting-out, mentally ill kids these days than in our childhood? Is it a lack of discipline? There supposedly are more treatments and better methods nowadays, but it's so disruptive and even violent -- what accounts for this? Any teachers or psychologists who can weigh in? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:57 PM Flag
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At my elementary school, teachers used to paddle kids. Two of the issues on the news were corporal punishment (in schools) and capital punishment; as a kid I'd try to keep those two issues separate in my mind since they sounded so similar. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:59 PM Flag
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Just as many troubled kids. Fewer guns. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:59 PM Flag
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OP: I'm not even specifically talking about guns (although I agree that there are a lot more in our society now). It's the behavior. You think that hasn't changed? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:03 PM Flag
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Well, I was at math camp for gifted kids, and the boy who was following me around got expelled for climbing up the pay phone and banging his head on the ceiling, so... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:06 PM Flag
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Social media, YouTube [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:06 PM Flag
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Columbine (and I don't know if there were ones in schools by students before that) happened in 1999. ONce that happened, it kind of put the idea out there. There aren't more mentally ill kids but there is a WHOLE lot more pressure on kids now than there was back before that. The internet, social media, 24 hr news cycle. Kids are under vastly more stress now than they were before, and hearing about columbine put the idea out there and people who are seriously mental ill and under all this new stress start to think about it and obsess about it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:20 PM Flag
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I think kids used to get kicked out of school or sent to behavioral programs that focused on teaching a trade. Now everything is college or bust and kids are jammed into stressful academic programs whether or not it is a good fit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:32 PM Flag
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Military school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:56 PM Flag
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 03:23 PM Flag
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Shit always happened. 24 hour news cycle means we hear about it all and fear rare things more than common things. For example, the stranger abducted girl in Wisconsin. Only 7% of kids are harmed by people unknown to them but it is what parents fear more than the 93% of those known to them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:49 PM Flag
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Parents can't "discipline" the way they used to (or child protective services gets called), teachers know they will be sued if they are tough, kids on medication, kids influenced by video games. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:55 PM Flag
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not this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 03:03 PM Flag
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More information about incidents, so more copycat behavior [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 03:03 PM Flag
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IT'S THE EASY ACCESS TO GUNS. When my father was a child (he would be 87 this year) he would have to run through certain blocks or avoid them altogether because there were gangs--Irish, Italian, Hungarian, whatever--that would attack outsiders. He himself was in a mostly-Jewish gang. This was totally normal at the time in NYC. They would beat each other up, occasionally there would be stabbings, and some of the real lunatic kids would have zip guns, which are guns you can make at home. There has always been violence in the lives of children, and some lunatic boys who would push it farther than it should be. The difference is that now kids are more isolated (no street gangs, or fewer) and--most importantly--they have access to (or think they can get access to) real guns. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 03:31 PM Flag
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TRAUMA. There's more childhood trauma. And it will be worse next generation because it increases exponentially with each generation. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 04:06 PM Flag
[ - ] Interviewing someone for our residency program today - s/he is a lawyer who then went to med school. I am curious how his/her law career went, and also a little nervous the way doctors are always a little nervous around lawyers. I already know we aren't allowed to ask about someone's family situation, geographic preference, etc. and I wonder if I shouldn't ask about this candidate's previous career. 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:55 PM Flag
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You should totally ask. There were a few doctors in my law school class -- I think they were just interested in the overlap between law and medicine/medical ethics. I believe at least one went on to become general counsel at a hospital. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:59 PM Flag
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op: I was recently deposed as a fact witness in a malpractice case, afraid I'll start talking about that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:00 PM Flag
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There are medical experts who write reports and testify in personal injury cases. Very lucrative career, and low-stress. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:02 PM Flag
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op: I wasn't asked, I was served. I am not a defendant though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:07 PM Flag
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That's good (I mean that you weren't personally sued). I'm just saying -- there are careers where law and medicine are interrelated. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:11 PM Flag
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Most people who go to law school don't actually like being a lawyer. There are also people who are just very, very good at vastly different things - enough to have a career out of each of them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:03 PM Flag
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I do!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:12 PM Flag
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That is great! You are lucky! My brother is like you - loves, loves, loves it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:22 PM Flag
[ - ] My DD is a sophomore college. The college's parents FB group recently discussed monthly allowance for kids. Many said they give $0 or just pay for a ski pass to the nearby slopes. I may have gone overboard in giving her a very generous allowance, but I think it would impede friend-making and socialization to give NOTHING, let alone laundry, shampoo, tampons, etc. When I was in college, my parents discouraged me from getting a job during the semester so that I could concentrate on school work full time, and I want my daughter to do the same; she does work over the summer and save that money. I don't want to spoil her completely, but I feel that a small ((~$100/mo) allowance would limit her socially, which is already a problem -- she laments not having many friends. Thoughts? 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
New York City 01.15.19, 01:53 PM Flag
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My first thought is that it is ridiculous that a FB group for parents exists. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:56 PM Flag
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agree with this. what the spread between $100 a month and a very generous allowance? I think we need to know that. I didn't work during the school year during college. I don't recall my parents giving me an allowance. I definitely stocked up on shampoo, tampons, etc. on their dime before going back to school for the semester. I would 2-3 jobs each summer, and would use a credit card during the school year which I would then work off the following summer (usually took about half the summer, before I started earning to cover my expenses). My grandmother would also send me cards every month of so with $5 or $10 in them which was that night's drinking money. I hope your DD makes more friends. It seems unlikely that the money is the probably (except maybe if she is a a school in a really city like NYC, LA or Miami). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:02 PM Flag
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+1 - there is actually a parents group? please let these kids grow up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:05 PM Flag
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+1. My second thought is that I worry about my 6th grader making friends, but realize that this year, he really needs to branch out on his own. Cannot imagine worrying about my adult daughter's "friend-making." Then, there's the fact that you don't need to "concentrate on school work full-time." College is pretty easy, much easier than high school. Sounds like a job would do her some good (also a way to make friends). I'd send care packages, put her on my insurance and give her an emergency credit card. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:35 PM Flag
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NP -- you have no idea. i'm on one of these too. Can you say helicopter?? Some of the questions and discussions are over the top. "What time does the dining hall open on weekday mornings?? My son has an 8:00 class, and I'm concerned he won't get to eat beforehand." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 04:04 PM Flag
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Aim for the middle range of what the other parents are doing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:57 PM Flag
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:04 PM Flag
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Helping her with spending money is fine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:58 PM Flag
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If she always has a lot of money and she wants to hang out with people who have limited spending money, giving her too much money could limit her socially if she mentions it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:05 PM Flag
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I hate to say it - it's not money or lack thereof that dictates whether or not a kid has friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:06 PM Flag
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yep, this [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:14 PM Flag
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^^^ tell her to just keep trying activities and meeting people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:14 PM Flag
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This. I have no friends from college and money was not the issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:15 PM Flag
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THIS THIS THIS. I had to have a--gasp--job(!) to have any money in college. Tons of friends. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 03:32 PM Flag
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I don’t see how they can operate w NO spending money. My guess is that the parents who say they give no allowance have kids who earned money during breaks, have a job or gave them a bulk amount manage vs allowance. My parents gave me a small amount of spending money as they didn’t have much money and I had part time jobs starting my junior year. I paid for all of my living expenses by senior year. When I left college and moved to the city, taking over all my bills was a non issue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 03:14 PM Flag
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Too much information sharing. When you were in college, did you have any idea of other students' financial situations? I sure as hell had no clue. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 03:16 PM Flag
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Your daughter's lack of friends has NOTHING to do with how much spending money you give her. You know where I made some of my friends in college? At work! She needs to find a way to make friends...and she will. Just back off! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 03:34 PM Flag
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I'd expect dc to work during the summer to save for expenses during school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 11:02 PM Flag
[ - ] Is it possible to have a wonderful marriage when there is no intimacy? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:50 PM Flag
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That would be the ideal marriage for a person with no libido. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:52 PM Flag
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Intimacy isn't only about sex. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:54 PM Flag
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You can be intimate friends with anyone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:56 PM Flag
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Of course, you can. But we're talking about marriage. Not if you can or cannot be intimate with people. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:59 PM Flag
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This. Also intimacy does not equal sex. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:56 PM Flag
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No, that's called a friendship. A marriage is unique because it's a deep friendship unlike any other because of intimacy not despite of it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:54 PM Flag
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Or former intimacy in one's younger, healthier, more carefree days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:01 PM Flag
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People are saying intimacy is friendship so if no intimacy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 03:25 PM Flag
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Viagra representative here: of course not. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:56 PM Flag
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Intimacy is physical and emotional. Sex does not automatically equal intimacy. Intimacy is the connection you get when you have sex AND emotionally available. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:04 PM Flag
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No. Don't need sex, but need intimacy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:36 PM Flag
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No. And if I had intimacy in my marriage then may e it could be saved... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:47 PM Flag
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Yes I have one. Lots of fun, cuddles, sitting on lap, very affectionate...even flirty at times, but sexual intercourse is not in the picture right now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:56 PM Flag
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It would be "wonderful" if that is fine for both spouses. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:58 PM Flag
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Do you mean sex? I have to imagine when you get to a certain age the frequency of sex diminishes and possibly down to nothing? I don't know if this is 60's, 70's or 80's... But you stay for other reasons... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 09:56 PM Flag
[ - ] Let me hear your best Marie Kondo tips for organizing 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:49 PM Flag
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Marie Kondo wrote the tips already. I recommend following her process, even the steps that feel inefficient or silly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:51 PM Flag
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I think her recommendation to use open boxes in drawers is seriously overlooked. I also love her suggestion to place drying dishes on the stove so that you are forced to put them away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:53 PM Flag
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If it doesn't spark joy, throw it away. Works great for men. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:32 PM Flag
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DH lacks spark joy, I'm going to throw him away too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 03:19 PM Flag
[ - ] What do people on this board think of a CPW address, but for an apartment that faces west? Half of the apartment overlooks brownstones with good look, half looks into the building shaft. Good short-term investment (i.e., 10-15 years). DH thinks if you're on CPW it doesn't matter, but I'm worried facing west neutralizes appeal. Thoughts from those of you obsessed by RE? In the 80's if that matters. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:40 PM Flag
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You are still close to the park. No different to me than being on cross street. If apt is geared to families, D3 is on its way down. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:42 PM Flag
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The address will still help it hold value. And the lack of park view is baked into the price already. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:47 PM Flag
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50% shaft view = deal breaker [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:48 PM Flag
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Depends on price [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:49 PM Flag
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That's our situation. CPW address, apartment faces west. The reality is that those apartments are always priced slightly lower because they don't have a park view. As long as the light is good in the rooms that you care about, it's not a big deal (at least in my estimation). Most park facing apartments have multiple rooms facing air shafts too - generally, only LR and MBRs actually face the park. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:49 PM Flag
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I like sunsets. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:51 PM Flag
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I’m with you. I think it’s sort of stupid to live on CPW without park views. Makes you seem desperate for address, without funds for best apartment, unless it’s massive. Same goes for fifth, but back apartments on fifth tend to be huge. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:11 PM Flag
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This is silly. Of course everyone does not have the funds for the "best apartments" on CPW. There is a significant difference price (not slightly lower) in apartments with park views vs. building views. It's still desirable and a good investment because people like to be close to the park. That being said, I disagree with the DH that there's no difference between park view vs. no view -- there's a huge difference which is reflected in price. If you can afford a park view apartment, of course that would be nicer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:22 PM Flag
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It depends on the specifics of the apartment, particularly on higher floors. The light/views of the west-facing apartments can be as good or better than those on the side streets and without having to go all the way to Riverside or West End. They also tend to be much lower priced than the Park view apartments, with the same services & Park access. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:24 PM Flag
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We spent a long time searching for an apartment on the UWS, and ultimately CPW. A CPW w/o views has no more value than an apt 1/2 a block away. You have proximity to the park, but there is no bump simply for the CPW address. - However, the CPW buildings often have higher floors with better light, larger building with more services or better staffing, pre-war if you are into that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:37 PM Flag
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I don't care about the address. I care about the apt I live in. As an investment, there are always people who care about the address more than anything else [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:54 PM Flag
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+1. dont care about address, but want open view [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 06:43 PM Flag
[ - ] I'm bone tired and happen to be able to leave work around 3:30 today. For various reasons, if I come home the kids are there and I can't easily sneak past them to rest. Any thoughts on what I can do for those few hours? 27 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:20 PM Flag
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Could you go to a spa like Great Jones and sit on one of their lounge chairs and nap...hit the sauna, pool? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:29 PM Flag
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Go to a really quiet, boring movie and just sleep through it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:29 PM Flag
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i would go to a movie I want to see. Or one of those napping places, do they still exist? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:31 PM Flag
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Go to one of the "storefront" places and get yourself a massage. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:33 PM Flag
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I wouldn't even know where to start in finding one. Work downtown [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:40 PM Flag
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Go to google maps on your phone and type in "closest massage" or "closest tui-na". I'm sure one is closer than you think. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:43 PM Flag
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There's one on grand St. just west of Lafayatte, down some stairs. It's run by a nice older woman. But if tuina places are to sketchy for you, most spas will have an appointment available. Red Door or Soho Sanctuary or in the financial district there are many also. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:46 PM Flag
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Keisey on East 9th. Only if Kevin is available. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:52 PM Flag
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Literally any place that says Tui-Na is fine. Cheap and relaxing as long as you aren't too much of a snowflake. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 03:35 PM Flag
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That's a good summary: very through but not luxurious. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 03:52 PM Flag
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Do you have any friends that live near you where you could access their empty apartments via a doorman or super letting you in? I used to live in a really convenient area in the west village and my girlfriends would frequently come by either after work to get ready for a date or pop in on the weekend for a spell. We nicknamed it the British Airways lounge - no idea why we picked that name. Tons of people had my keys. It was super fun. But I was a single person in a 2 bedroom 1 bath, so plenty of room for visitors. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:34 PM Flag
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You are very generous! No one left a mess? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:48 PM Flag
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do you have an office? honestly, i would get a travel pillow and a blanket from duane reade and take a nap in my office, which I have done. Good luck. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:44 PM Flag
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How old are the kids? Is someone watching them? If so, can they take the kids somewhere else? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:44 PM Flag
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This. There is nothing like a nap in your own bed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:47 PM Flag
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Op, my nanny hurt herself last week. While she's fine to work, I don't want to have her outside and lugging stuff more than necessary. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:50 PM Flag
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Can she take the kids somewhere for 5 minutes (could even be taking a toddler to climb the stairwell) while you slip in and close your bedroom door? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:54 PM Flag
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If kids are w a nanny, send them to the movies. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:54 PM Flag
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What area of the city will you be in? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:51 PM Flag
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Downtown. I live on the 2,3 line and would be taking that home [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:58 PM Flag
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Who will the kids be w? Have someone take them for a play date or to the CMA drop in for the afternoon so you can have a couple hours alone to nap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:22 PM Flag
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Go to Nap York. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:38 PM Flag
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Not criticizing - there's a Nap York close to my office - but it's interesting how some people think a massage can be sketch, but have no issues with sleeping in a pod. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:46 PM Flag
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I don't have issues with either one, but a massage is very different from a nap. I often dream about opening a business where you can get an hour massage and then just stay on the table and nap. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:47 PM Flag
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LOL, I was once so relaxed that I nodded off during my session! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:51 PM Flag
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Um, I fall asleep every time. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:55 PM Flag
[ - ] Got order of protection on my husband (we are divorcing) and now hes seems to want to file a baseless one against me and looking like ill be in court tom with my atty. Ughhhhh Divorce sucks but it was my choice and happy (but stressed) i finally did it. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:20 PM Flag
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I am sure he says yours is baseless as well, it is a common tactic to get the husband out of the house and everyone in the courthouse knows it. The court will not care about his order of protection unless evidenced about real violence, they will just tell you to stay away from each other. I imagine he had to move out of the house which is really all you wanted - congrats - enjoy your divorce. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:41 PM Flag
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Have you been posting? We have some moms in really bad situations. I am so glad you got your order of protection. Hang in there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:08 PM Flag
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yes and keep your left up [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:36 PM Flag
[ - ] Moms who went to tt private schools. Did the network help u? Or just the good education? I went to 2 Ivys and the network has been very useful. Wondering if the same applies to tt coed or single sex privates from nyc. Dc are at a tt coed. Thx 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:14 PM Flag
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It helps you navigate college better. You have immediate base of kids who, sadly, want to befriend you. You have a sort of social currency you wouldn’t have otherwise. But in terms of kids I know from hs? Fewer than ten are impressive in any way. Much more impressive from Ivy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:30 PM Flag
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Op: the social currency is due to nyc or the school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 05:50 PM Flag
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I went to tt in dc and the network is still very strong. Many of my classmates are doing amazing and/or interesting things. I went to mediocre regional undergrad (in region I don’t live in) so not much of a network there. I went to good but not tt grad school and the network Is pretty strong. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:55 PM Flag
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went to middle tier private in NYC years ago and network is very strong, has definitely helped just in terms of long standing friendships with connections who enjoy helping each other. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 03:18 PM Flag
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Op: thank you. We are very pleased w the academics but not the materialism. So happy to hear that the network helps a bit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 05:49 PM Flag
[ - ] DS (10) refuses to consider sleepaway camp. Any great art-focused day camps in Brooklyn/Manhattan/a bus ride away that we should know about? He specifically loves drawing/comic book making. 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:09 PM Flag
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CMA [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:25 PM Flag
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On Governors Island. [ Reply | More ]
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Creative Arts Program at Berkeley Carroll. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 03:05 PM Flag
[ - ] So apparently a kid in DCs school threatened to shoot up the school. The story has been all over their social media and we got a message from the principal that police has been notified and the incident is under investigation. In the meantime, both of my kids are freaking out. This is middle school. This world is so messed up. 30 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 05:19 AM Flag
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Sorry to hear this. Even sorrier to know that it will only get worse. Your DCs should be freaking out. How can they go to school knowing they may get killed there? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 11:28 AM Flag
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Wasn't that eamil the worst? "Your children are safe and don't know what's happening." Uh, neither do I. I'm sure that girl will be transferred to a rubber room place. Thank goodness we live in NYC and she could only find a picture of guns instead of the real thing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 12:42 PM Flag
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PS--Is there any parents message board or Facebook group? I don't live in the neighborhood and so do t really know any parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 12:59 PM Flag
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Seriously--where I'm from in the midwest, she'd have had her pick of a few guns in the house. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:26 PM Flag
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I honestly can't think of a high school or middle school that hasn't had something like this. I can think of two times it's happened where I am, and we're in a top school district. Fortunately it's usually overwhelmingly empty threats and kids wanting attention. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 12:57 PM Flag
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What does freaking out accomplish? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:10 PM Flag
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NP not sure middle school kids are at an age where this question is helpful to them [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:28 PM Flag
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What school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:31 PM Flag
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If you have to ask... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:55 PM Flag
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I do. Which school? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:00 PM Flag
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You could just Google it [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:30 PM Flag
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np: sorry this or is such an ass. here you go ----> https://honey.nine.com.au/2019/01/14/13/37/school-shooting-hoax-new-york [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:33 PM Flag
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Op here. This is not our school but I guess it’s more common than I thought. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:42 PM Flag
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the why wouldn't you just name the school? whats the hard. geez [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:46 PM Flag
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Assuming public. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:32 PM Flag
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Is this in NJ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:35 PM Flag
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Op. This is a public school in nyc. The kid was just transferred to our school from another middle school from which he was expelled. The kid is a trouble maker. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:43 PM Flag
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np. I just heard about this at a nyc hs and not a ms. Wonder if it was just a rumor. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:20 PM Flag
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Males are violent and need to be controlled [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:49 PM Flag
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Girls don’t shoot up schools. Boys do [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:50 PM Flag
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Well, this was a girl who made the threat. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:54 PM Flag
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OP just said the kid was a "he". At least give girls credit for not being violent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:36 PM Flag
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Hmm, op is wrong according to my dc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:38 PM Flag
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Op. At our school the threats were made by a boy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:45 PM Flag
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np. The hs threat was made by a boy. Guess this is a different one from both of yours. Are they really threats or just questionable stuff being posted? I really wonder based on some of the things that kids got in trouble for in ms at ds's old school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:49 PM Flag
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np: there is an article posted above that lists Wagner as a school with a threat, though the op said that's not her school so perhaps there were two incidents. Not sure why people are being so cryptic about the name of the school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:47 PM Flag
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np. Sounds like rumors. Happens at one school and kids spread it that it happened at their school. Gossip is rampant among that crowd. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 03:00 PM Flag
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Why are your kids freaking out if it is a hoax? Are you feeding their nervousness? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:59 PM Flag
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Op here. So I just got an update from one of the moms who works at the school. The kid did say something in class. The police have been there all morning. They also went to the kids house yesterday and assured that everything was ok. The father brought the kid into school today but they’ve been in with the principal and police all morning. I just hope the kid won’t be staying..but again where is he going? What do they do with troubled kids? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 03:08 PM Flag
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Oh come on. You don't know the details. It could be complete bullshit. You won't even name the school, so chances are that this is bullshit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 03:21 PM Flag
[ - ] How closely can you do IVF implantations? Meaning if I get implanted in May and I get my period in June, can I get implanted in June? Wait till July? Or longer? 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 04:34 AM Flag
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In my experience it was 4-5 months between [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 06:31 AM Flag
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They usually want a month between cycles. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 12:38 PM Flag
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Depends on your circumstance. I was able to do two cycles one after the other but they were natural cycles ( no hormone injections). Do your best to not set expectations and time limits because there are many factors that can delay each cycle and procedure and it’s hard if you’re counting down the months [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:38 PM Flag
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I don’t know, but I wish you luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:53 PM Flag
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They have TTC boards on youbemom and dcurbanmom [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:18 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone send their tween to Middlebury language summer camp? Recommend it? 15 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 04:24 AM Flag
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No, but sounds interesting. Do they do immersion? Any sports or fun activities or only language classes ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 04:26 AM Flag
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Immersion ...with activities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 05:08 AM Flag
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yes, it was great but the dorms and facilities were not nice, the high school kids are at st michael's or green meadow. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 04:30 AM Flag
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Green Meadow better? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 04:39 AM Flag
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No but several of my friends sent their tweens to Concordia language village sleep away language immersion camp. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 04:49 AM Flag
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I know kids that go to sleep away in Spain [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 12:50 PM Flag
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do you know the name of the camps in spain?? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:12 PM Flag
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It's a fucking hike up Route 7 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:01 PM Flag
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Not if you know how to get there. If you are coming from NYC, you shouldn't be taking 7 at all. It's barely 4.5 hrs, if you take 87 up to Glens Falls. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:13 PM Flag
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I always had to because my other one was at Williams. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:26 PM Flag
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Then Rte 7 makes sense. My sister went to MIdd and I went to Williams, but not at the same time (she had already graduated before I started college). My parents never had to go to both schools on the same trip. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:36 PM Flag
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Could have been worse I guess. At least it was always scenic in the fall. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:42 PM Flag
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I went to the college one and it was amazing how much my language skills progressed over the course of the summer. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:33 PM Flag
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My brother went to a summer language program there like 35 years ago. It was for hs. It was good. He made friends he's still in touch with today. I think the dorms were bad, though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:31 PM Flag
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Sorry I can't help with how it is now. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:32 PM Flag
[ - ] Perimenopause sucks. Frequent, irregular heavy periods, hot flashes, poor concentration, constipation , weight gain, am I missing ANY symptoms? 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 04:22 AM Flag
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Depression. Moodiness. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 04:47 AM Flag
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So this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 05:19 AM Flag
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Horrible itching/dryness [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 06:32 AM Flag
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This too [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:50 PM Flag
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hair thinning, no sex drive [ Reply | More ]
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Yep. [ Reply | More ]
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Psychotic PMS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 12:39 PM Flag
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+1. I was also bleeding for 3 weeks out of 4 and my doctor ultimately put me on contraceptives. That has helped to an extent. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 12:58 PM Flag
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Anxiety and panic attacks, heart palpitations [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 12:53 PM Flag
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Overwhelming urge to smother spouse with pillow while he sleeps [ Reply | More ]
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Migraines!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:08 PM Flag
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Sleepless, sensitive to noise, really irritated at just about everything, weepy...and NOTHING is predictable. Fun times. [ Reply | More ]
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Weeping [ Reply | More ]
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Insomnia before period. [ Reply | More ]
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Night sweats for a week...before my three-week long period begins! [ Reply | More ]
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Night sweats were one way the doctor diagnosed me with pneumonia/pleurisy last year. They were awful! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 04:05 PM Flag
[ - ] DD on sports team with some mean girls and frenemies. Sometimes they are friendly with her and sometimes they blatantly exclude her from hanging out with them and also say crappy things to her. It's hurtful and mean spirited. How do you handle this? What advice do you give girls about the mean girl stuff? 9 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 04:11 AM Flag
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Does she need to be in that environment? Is it a school team ? If club, find a nice one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 04:15 AM Flag
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This. I would find another team, honestly. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:20 PM Flag
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Live should be fun and sports should be a joy. I would not try to help her with these mean girls, I would help her find a place where kids are nice and supportive/ caring. That's the concept of a team sport. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 04:20 AM Flag
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What sport? Some are more vicious than others. What are they saying? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 04:32 AM Flag
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This happened to my dd. You have to acknowledge that what they are doing is mean. Not everyone in life is going to like you, but it doesn't mean anything. I know it hurts now. Just stick with the kids who you feel good being around. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 04:51 AM Flag
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UGH this sucks and is a part of childhood for girls, I am sorry to say. Another team, or is this the only option? Is the coach totally cluelesss?? [ Reply | More ]
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How old is your dd? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:11 PM Flag
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Make her social world as big as possible, by this I mean, foster relationships with cousins, neighbors, church groups, whatever. The more relationships she has the less important any single one is. Mean girls thrive on their games, if the other side isn't playing, they move on. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:36 PM Flag
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Exactly. I keep my dcs busy with league sports, school sports, Art and dance class, a community group, and friends in our building. Mean kids at school are completely irrelevant to them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:58 PM Flag
[ - ] Can someone explain what is the difference between HBO Now and HBO I signed up for now about 2 weeks ago, but not even sure where I can watch it and if I can see the same things that are on HBO... I was interested in particular in the series “My Brilliant Friend” anyone who can explain how the service works? Thanks 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 04:04 AM Flag
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I think you get the app for HBO now and sign in using your local cable provider credentials [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:02 PM Flag
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Np. I don't have tv, so I only get internet service (no cable TV service, etc), but I want hbo for game of thrones. Can I sign up as a stand alone? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:22 PM Flag
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Absolutely. I'm pretty sure that's what it's made for. Unfortunately I don't know too much beyond that, I go through comcast to sign into everything. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:28 PM Flag
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you can probably watch it on amazon from your computer if you have log in credentials. that is how i would sign up if I didn't have cable. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:46 PM Flag
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I think you log in to hob.com or whatever and then click the hob now button. It will ask for your credentials and you can choose the series from there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 02:18 PM Flag
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op - just coming back to this post. Thank you everyone! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 06:30 PM Flag
[ - ] My job is super high stress. I often wake up at night so angry and it’s often directed at different people and then I can’t slee. It’s like my brain doesn’t know who to blame - and it’s always a little bit me. I work 10+ adrenaline fueled hours every day. dh and parents say I complain too much and I should ‘laugh it off’ . Anyone else experience this from a stressful job? Should I be able to process better? 20 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 04:00 AM Flag
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Sleep! Typo [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 04:01 AM Flag
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I think you have to find a healthier way to deal. Few people can laugh it off, more people work it off [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 04:02 AM Flag
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It’s hard bc I have 2 very little kids so all my free time is them. I wish I could leave work and go do some activities that burn stress! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 04:06 AM Flag
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What do you do? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 04:02 AM Flag
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I run the US wing of a startup. Scaled from 2-40 in a year. Only senior exec over product, creative. Operations etc [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 04:07 AM Flag
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Sounds awful. Why do you think you deserve this? You are not tied to this miserable line of work. You can wake up seriously sick one day and miss having joy and peace when you were healthy. Please stop and reconsider everything. [ Reply | More ]
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I am applying to other roles. I agree! But I’ve had trouble meeting my current comp or close to and I don’t think anyone is on board with me taking a cut [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 04:08 AM Flag
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I mean dh is not on board and our finances are not on board! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 04:10 AM Flag
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Well, maybe you need to downsize. No money in the world would make me consider living this way. I am sorry, OP. I hope things get easier. You deserve something better [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 04:12 AM Flag
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Thank you - you are the first person to say this! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 04:12 AM Flag
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You're welcome. You can do it! :) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 04:14 AM Flag
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Well, DH needs to get a grip [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:52 PM Flag
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I find this issue incredibly common with any job in my industry where you make $100K or more. Basically you are always on call, schedules and budgets are consistently unrealistic. And nothing ever changes. I am freelance, so I at least don't have to get involved in the office politics. But it's still incredibly stressful. Honestly, I don't know the way out other than changing industries. But I just feel like any job where you can afford to live at even a basic level in NYC (and not 20 subway stops out) is going to be a bit like this. Am I completely delusional? Are there people out there that make $150K and aren't completely overworked and stressed out? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 12:53 PM Flag
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Yes. I am an attorney making 120K at an insurance company. I rarely work weekends or past 7 pm on weekdays. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:09 PM Flag
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OR: That's great. I'm advertising and it just doesn't stop. I feel like every day is just a dead sprint and there's no real way to be 100% away from your email/text. If you aren't responding, you're not considered doing your job and they'll find someone else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:31 PM Flag
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This was my previous job. I left and took a 130k pay cut in the process. It stings but fortunately we could afford it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:11 PM Flag
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Give a lot of though to whether this is the right job or company for you. You're not happy, 10+ hours a day of high stress isn'thealthy, and the feedback from your family is you complain a lot. It doesn't sound like you get anything positive out of it. Why stay? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:20 PM Flag
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I am looking around but we need my salary. It’s hard to come even close in the industry I’m in - I kind of got lucky salary wise I think bc they know there is stress. Hoping I find something [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:57 PM Flag
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You need to get out. You will have a heat attack [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 01.15.19, 01:51 PM Flag
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Lean out a bit. [ Reply | More ]
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