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[ - ] DC got into Stuyvesant and Elro. Any Stuy moms on? What time does your child finish school if they attend an afterschool club? 8 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:23 PM Flag
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Mine too! What MS? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:26 PM Flag
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Private school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:29 PM Flag
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np: I think you can easily take the SHSAT from private, right? But how do you apply for other publics without the state test? Thanks. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:46 PM Flag
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I have no idea. He had a perfect GPA and no lateness etc. That is all and maybe a letter from school? not sure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:50 PM Flag
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Schools are used to having kids from private apply. You'll ask them in the fall if you have specific questions [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 11:08 PM Flag
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Those are 2 very different schools. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 11:20 PM Flag
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Can you explain how? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 11:43 PM Flag
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Stuy has 3400 kids and Elro has 550 total. This makes a huge difference in both good and bad ways. You have to decide what is most important to you. Smaller schools- teachers really know you and you get to know most of your classmates. con- you may have the same crappy teacher more than once and it can be clicque. Stuy is massive and has more class offers and more kids to get to know. Con It is easy to get lost and peer group is smart but very competitive. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.19.19, 12:54 AM Flag
[ - ] My job is stupidly stressful (don't worry, I'm not in a so-called TT trade - just client services/project management in advertising). It's a total cluster-you-know-what recently - the blind leading the blind when it comes to some of the internal stuff at my company and 1 of my clients who is making things so complicated. I woke up at 5am this morning to respond to e-mails and felt beyond anxious all day. The silver lining I'm trying to grasp is that the difficult clients I work with are in a great city in Europe and I recently visited and have to go back for a half-day meeting next month, so I'm extending my stay. Miss my family terribly when I travel for work and am always frazzled, but I'm going to try to enjoy my time in that European city. That's all, folks. 5 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:10 PM Flag
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Ok then. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:41 PM Flag
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I'm stressed out now, and not sure why. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:54 PM Flag
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I used to work in client service in advertising and it is the most thankless job ever. And I aged out at 50. You should read this about bullshit jobs. It is humbling but keeps it real. But enjoy Europe! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:55 PM Flag
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I'm a vendor to the ad agencies and agree with you from what I've seen! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 11:38 PM Flag
[ - ] My DD 17 wants her boyfriend to sleep over. I can't imagine saying yes to this even though I know she is having sex. Still I'd sort of prefer it here than god knows where. The boyfriend is fine. She doesn't know this, but she'll dump him the minute she hits college. 42 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:57 PM Flag
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Should I say ok? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:58 PM Flag
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CSB. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:58 PM Flag
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I'd say no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:59 PM Flag
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I allow this. I know, I'll be flamed. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:59 PM Flag
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Not flaming, just curious-- Are both parental sides aware and okay with it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:25 PM Flag
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OP. His parents probably feel similar. We haven't discussed it. He's a college sophomore but lives at home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:30 PM Flag
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I was out and didn't see your reply. If you are still there, yes, his parents know. I've been clear with both of them that we are allowing this because of the circumstances. I wouldn't let DD have a new boy around to spend the night with her in our house if we were talking about a different guy every couple of months. But this boy has been around for several years and I know they really care about each other. This is her first and only serious boyfriend. She's going to be on her own soon and I won't have any say. The conversation I've had with her is about respecting herself, her body and her emotion--and I believe she does. I don't think sex, even between teenagers/HSers, is a bad thing per se. I am treating them like the young adults they are, because they're showing maturity. If she was flighty with boys or promiscuous, I would feel differently. OP, I think it's tempting to follow "conventional wisdom" on things like this, but I personally think it's best to consider the kids involved, the families/parents, and the specific circumstances. Like I said, I know others on this thread will vehemently disagree. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.19.19, 01:37 AM Flag
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No. Teaching her about safe sex and having an open dialogue with her doesn't mean you have to invite him overnight in your home. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:00 PM Flag
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THIS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:14 PM Flag
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So, considering that your 17 yo dc is having sex, where would you like them to have it? Name a place. Because if you don't, you are basically saying you don't want to know. That's worse than knowing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:31 PM Flag
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How about just not your childhood bed? Car? Sure. A couch at their house? Sure. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:35 PM Flag
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They wouldn't be having sex on my childhood bed - it would be their bed. Which has hopefully long since been stripped of Star Wars or Transformer sheets. Plus, it's their bed. Other people have to drive in the car and other people have to sit on that couch. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:46 PM Flag
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I meant their childhood beds, obviously not yours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:58 PM Flag
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You don’t have to make it easy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 11:10 PM Flag
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but if you make it harder, they have to grab sex in random places and at random times, and they're less likely to have protection available. This is well documented. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 11:54 PM Flag
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IUD [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.19.19, 12:00 AM Flag
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If the other parents were OK with their kid spending the night, I did not object. Teenage sex is not a crime, it's a fact. As long as you have confirmed they are both protected, you may as well provide a safe and secure place for it to happen where it isn't caught on security cameras or they aren't trying to do it in cars or in the woods or closets in your home, or in someone else's home. That's when you have no idea what's going on. Better to keep tabs on what's inevitable anyway. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:03 PM Flag
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They will still do it other places. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:36 PM Flag
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Of course they will. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:48 PM Flag
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is it ok with the boyfriend's parents? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:03 PM Flag
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My 13 year old came home from health class and told me "Did you know that the legal age for coitus is 17?" I actually laughed at her use of the word "coitus." She loves Big Bang THeory [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:04 PM Flag
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I started dating DH at 17 in highschool. We were always long distance and didn't break up. Don't project on her. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:19 PM Flag
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Not typical [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:36 PM Flag
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Yes, but at the same time she doesn't know what's in store for her daughter. My mom was supportive and I have a great marriage as a result [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:58 PM Flag
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Same here. Married 16 years and together since 17 (more than 25 years). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 11:58 PM Flag
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+1. Another HS marriage (together for 30 years). And my parents were supportive, too. You just never know. Sometimes you just meet the right person early in life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.19.19, 01:44 AM Flag
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Ultimately it's up to you and your morals. I think there is a huge distinction between teaching your child safe practices for an activity where most don't practice safely and enabling them inside your home because you envision them having sex "god knows where." [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:19 PM Flag
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When did you lose your virginity? In college? Because in my experience "god knows where" is exactly where my high school peers were having sex. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:30 PM Flag
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Is it too 'old school' to tell kids in high school now to wait for someone you can actually see yourself having a long time relationship with or is that out the window? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:33 PM Flag
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I gave versions of this same speech to my kids, usually while they were captive while I was driving them to school, or I had to be their +1 while they were on their learner's permit. My spin was always that if you have sex too soon, when you're too young to do anything about it (what are you going to do? Get married? Have kids?), you usually build in the end of the relationship because there's nowhere closer for it to go. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:42 PM Flag
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How was their response to it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:43 PM Flag
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They listen and mentally file it away. But their hormones rule the day. Later on they recall what you've said once they have some of their own experience to match it up with. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:47 PM Flag
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Loving a much more experienced mom's POV on this, thanks. My kids are still super young but I'm certainly prepping and soaking up as much prospective as possible. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 11:02 PM Flag
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My experience is that they listen but only apply the knowledge to later situations by which time the first sexual relationship has broken up and they can finally get some perspective. In the midst of the original relationship, they have no such perspective. You just cross your fingers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:44 PM Flag
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i don't think a lot of kids have that goal, and i think it is fine to have sex for fun if they are safe. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.19.19, 12:54 AM Flag
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I would say no because Regardless of the fact she’s having sex with him, there should be boundaries. I don’t want to deal with my kid’s sex life. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:35 PM Flag
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I let my kids have their boy friends/girl friends sleep over. Hasn't really made a problem. I get to know them better too. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:59 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.19.19, 12:02 AM Flag
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Absolutely not. I’m a pretty progressive parent but there should be boundaries. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 11:02 PM Flag
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Oh, hell, no. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 11:03 PM Flag
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allow this. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 11:39 PM Flag
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Lapsed Catholic mom. Ultimately, I was told I was going to hell if I had premarital sex. It was pretty effective! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.19.19, 12:01 AM Flag
[ - ] Anyone know anything about Camp Mataponi (for girls) in Maine? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:56 PM Flag
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Very pretty place not far from Portland. DD's friend loves it. I would have definitely sent DD there if she did not want to go to another camp with a friend. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:39 PM Flag
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TY! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 11:11 PM Flag
[ - ] My niece got in to her top choices for HS. What is a nice gift to send her? Lives in BK, sporty, smart. 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:56 PM Flag
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Now I feel cheap - I told DD she could have an extra dessert tonight [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:58 PM Flag
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when dc got into hunter he got a soda with dinner :~} [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:44 PM Flag
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Take her out to lunch or something like that - an experience is more fun [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:03 PM Flag
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Sweatshirt from that HS [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:39 PM Flag
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Isnt she going to have enough opportunities to get a sweatshirt in the next four years? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:55 PM Flag
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Op: oh, that’s a great idea! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 11:45 PM Flag
[ - ] I was rear ended la few weeks ago. I have a considerable amount of pain in neck and MRI showed a 3mm disk bulge. Going to physical therapy but it’s not really helping. Medical bills are piling up (3,500 deductible then 20% until I reach 10k max). Fortunately I am able to pay them, but the other insurance is being very difficult. Will never return my calls. They want me to pay all my medical bill then wait to be reimbursed at “end of treatment” which could be in a year or more. Should I contact an attorney? I wanted to avoid this but feel I have no choice. Wonder if my settlement will be smaller with them since they take 30%. 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:51 PM Flag
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yes, contact an attorney. a taxi ran a red light and hit my husband when he was riding his bike downtown. the cab's insurance company tried to get out of paying his medical bills and for his bike. i think that is just what they do. he ended up getting a big settlement when all he wanted was for his medical bills and bike to be paid for. it was ridiculous and stressful, but i think the insurance companies just count on people giving up. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:05 PM Flag
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Taxi insurers are the lowest of the low. If you're dealing with a non-standard insurer, you may need a lawyer. If you're dealing with Progressive, Geico, Liberty, etc, then a lawyer shouldnt be necessary. A nudge from the state insurance department might be enough. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 11:05 PM Flag
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they really are the worst. glad to hear that some insurers are better. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.19.19, 12:18 AM Flag
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people like you are the worst. a 3mm neck bulge could have been there for years you have no proof it's from this. Your neck will be fine, just do the PT and it will go away. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 11:09 PM Flag
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what the heck? she said she is in a considerable amount of pain and it started after the collision! and it sounds like they are not paying for PT in the first place, or at least not in a timely fashion. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.19.19, 12:18 AM Flag
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Shut up. Are you that crazy lady whose son hit someone and is getting sued? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.19.19, 04:30 AM Flag
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Op here, actually I do have proof because my medical records show I have NEVER in my 45 yrs complained of neck pain. And no, it will not just go away with PT, which I am paying for out of pocket right now. Why should I have to do that? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.19.19, 04:31 AM Flag
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Chronic degenerative disease of spine is common and had nothing to do with your accident. 3mm is not significant at all, especially in the C spine. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 11:28 PM Flag
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3mm on one disk IS significant. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.19.19, 04:29 AM Flag
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Anal is good. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 11:46 PM Flag
[ - ] Just saw the HCHS post which reminded me that I haven’t gotten an email from them after accepting our spot. Has there been any other communication from them? 2 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:48 PM Flag
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I have not either. I hope we get a confirm soon so I don't worry that I forgot to do something! can you imagine??? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:55 PM Flag
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I got an email when I submitted residency proof. But I did it before hunter day. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:47 PM Flag
[ - ] A close friend is a single mom of 8 yo DD. DD's dad/friends ex DH died about a month ago (they were on good terms). DF's mom died last year and her father died years ago. Her sister lives across the country. 4 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:42 PM Flag
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OP cont...she is struggling with both grieving the loss of DD's dad and also the transition to being the only parent with minimal support. Anyone else BTDT? She said she might look into books or other resources that might help her make this transition. Thoughts? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:43 PM Flag
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OP cont...she is struggling with both grieving the loss of DD's dad and also the transition to being the only parent with minimal support. Anyone else BTDT? She said she might look into books or other resources that might help her make this transition. Thoughts? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:43 PM Flag
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both she and her dd should go to a grief group. They have them for children. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:50 PM Flag
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agree! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 11:40 PM Flag
[ - ] For those who got into Elro (congrats!), can you please share GPA and test scores? Trying to gauge for next year . . . 18 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:40 PM Flag
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DD had 99 and 4.3 and 4.2 ELA and Math [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:43 PM Flag
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Was that on each and every tests and assignments, or did it include extra credit too. Wagner has no extra credit, but I hear Lab does [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:24 PM Flag
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99 is really high! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:25 PM Flag
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Must be extra credit. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 11:28 PM Flag
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Dd had a 95 gpa. I don't remember exactly - but around a 4.4 on Math and 4.1 on ELA. Got Elro. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:57 PM Flag
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One kid whose mom posted below had 96 gpa and did not get in , why ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:41 PM Flag
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I’m really wondering! The other kids seemed to have much higher gpas! She’s really smart - qualifies for Stuy, but her gpa wasn’t that high (and of course the shsat means nothing for elro). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 11:43 PM Flag
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Every year the DOE publishes stats of admitted class. You can compare to the screen. Mine had 98 or 99 GPA, low 4's on state tests. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:39 PM Flag
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Where? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 11:43 PM Flag
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Directory but I don’t think it is accurate [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.19.19, 01:31 AM Flag
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Mine had had a high 99 and barely any absences. D2 and also 4s on tests. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 11:00 PM Flag
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one thing I find intriguing about Elro is that they take kids with really high gpas, but their av SATs are kind of meh. That seem surprising to me [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 11:01 PM Flag
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Do these kids really have grades of 98 and 99 on every assignment or are the middle schools giving 5 points of extra credit?! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 11:09 PM Flag
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it's bc it's filled with a lot of kids who didn't get into SHS. Some kids are better test takers, despite any amount of prep another kid can put into it. So you have a school filled with bright kids who have proven not to knock standardized tests out of the park, vs a Bx Sci or Stuy filled with bright kids who have proven to know how to ace standardized tests. And for a public school in NYC, Elro SAt are pretty high-- 1365 last year [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 11:12 PM Flag
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Do most kids choose specialized over Elro? My dd qualified for Stuy but wants a small school and I think will choose Elro. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.19.19, 02:04 AM Flag
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This is fascinating because I was beginning to wonder this about my DC. No matter how hard he preps he gets high average scores on the SHSAT and ISEE's. Low 4's on state tests. He gets near perfect A's though including advanced math. I keep wondering if this does not bode well for all of the standardized testing to come in HS, and we should consider college accordingly or if he should push even harder. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.19.19, 01:05 PM Flag
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It isn't really that surprising. GPA are the least reliable on intelligence. It does show you how hard the kid is willing to work and how well they get along with teachers. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 11:22 PM Flag
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DC had 631 on ELA and 626 on math and 100.3 average on core subjects (97-99 plus 2.5 for honors). [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 11:22 PM Flag
[ - ] How do we accept DOE HS choice ? Through my schools ? There is no link ... 6 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:37 PM Flag
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On the letter. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:56 PM Flag
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I see the school accepts but the letter is gibberish . Guess will have to wait for the hard copy to arrive . When is the accept by date ? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:02 PM Flag
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If your letter is gibberish, try downloading it then opening within Acrobat reader [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 11:14 PM Flag
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Safari gives gibberish. Try with Chrome. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 11:23 PM Flag
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chrome works!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 11:41 PM Flag
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Thanks now it works ! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.19.19, 02:41 AM Flag
[ - ] Where should I go when I am in Barcelona and Madrid? 10 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:35 PM Flag
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The Prado in Madrid [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:39 PM Flag
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don't miss the Thyssen Bornemisza Museum in Madrid, and the Retiro (park) [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:45 PM Flag
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In Barcelona: eat paella at Los Caracoles, spend time lolling at Las Ramblas, and if you have a day take the train to Sitges to eat grilled razor clams on the beach [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:54 PM Flag
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Las Ramblas is a zoo. See as much Gaudi as poss [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 11:02 PM Flag
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In Madrid there's a beautiful geological museum. The building is amazing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:55 PM Flag
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love Tibidabo and Church of the Sacred Heart. Go up to the top of the roof. Also must go to Sagrada Familia but book your ticket now. In Madrid, love the Prado. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:06 PM Flag
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Casa Battlo in Barcelona, Art and design museum, Palace of Catalan music, Parc Guell [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:26 PM Flag
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Hang out in both, Plaza de Santa Ana, Retiro Park, Museums, tapas bars in Madrid. BCN: Picasso museum, Gothic quarter, Barceloneta and the beach, Food markets (big one off las ramblalas). Embrace the siesta lifestyle. Plan on being up late drinking gin and tonic. [ Reply | More ]
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best thing to do in Barcelona is sit at a cafe in one of the squares and watch the neighborhood go by [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.19.19, 12:01 AM Flag
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The Prado!! also the royal botanical garden next to it in MurilloSquare. The NY Times has a great new piece on visiting the Prado: https://www.nytimes.com/2019/03/18/travel/prado-bicenntenial.html [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.19.19, 01:53 AM Flag
[ - ] Has anyone been to the Vessel in Hudson Yards? 7 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:15 PM Flag
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no looks like a good workout though [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:18 PM Flag
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Wait- there's an alternative to the stairs, right? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:38 PM Flag
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yes there is an elevator - no way you can build something like that withouth accommodating the handicapped - not withstanding Roosevelt Islands Four Freedoms park which inexplicably has a few steps where a ramp could easily be installed - I guess they are exemplifying that Roosevelt would have muscled up the strength the stand [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:58 PM Flag
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No , Four Freedoms was designed before current codes [ Reply | More ]
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Yes, but not up. I don't care about those things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:18 PM Flag
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Everyone in my IG feed this weekend, apparently [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:22 PM Flag
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Yes we were there earlier today. Interesting to walk through once. Hudson Yards is still a construction zone though, far from being finished. [ Reply | More ]
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[ - ] How many kids do you have and where do you live? Are you happy with that number? 29 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:07 PM Flag
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4, Manhattan, yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:12 PM Flag
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Are you insanely wealthy? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:36 PM Flag
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No? We do well but definitely not one of the highest earners in our building. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:46 PM Flag
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What are their ages? How many nannies do you have? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:26 PM Flag
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8, 6, 4, 2. We have a part-time nanny 3 or 4 days a week for a few hours. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:26 PM Flag
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Wow, this is me but I have 10,8,6,4! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.19.19, 12:42 AM Flag
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Yikes, you're both nuts. Np [ Reply | More ]
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2, Burlington VT, yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:12 PM Flag
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how do you like burlington? its so pretty. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 11:12 PM Flag
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3 NYC. DH wants another, and would push for it if we had more space. But I'm at my limit [ Reply | More ]
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2. Brooklyn. Yes. [ Reply | More ]
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I have 2. Live in Manhattan. i had my kids late in life and happy with the number. If i started earlier i would have had 3. [ Reply | More ]
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Same here. No real regrets though. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:38 PM Flag
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3, Manhattan, yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:14 PM Flag
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I am in Manhattan too, older mom, debating a third, but a couple of close friends have confided in recent months that the addition of a 3rd child sent them "almost over the edge." As in, it became a logistical nightmare for schools, ECs, travel etc. What has your experience been? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:30 PM Flag
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NP Mom of 4 from above: Of course throwing anything new and slightly unpredictable into the mix is going a logistical nightmare at first but (at least in my case) once you master having two kids, the third is just happy to be there. There's never a "good time" to have a third. Ever. But at least you have 9 months to figure out the logistics before the child arrives. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:53 PM Flag
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3, CT, Y [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:15 PM Flag
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1; Brooklyn; yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:16 PM Flag
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same [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 11:42 PM Flag
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1, Bay Area, yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:17 PM Flag
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4. Long Island. I hope I'm happy because that's the number I'm stuck with. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:22 PM Flag
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2, seattle (former new yorker), yes--it's all i can handle. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:31 PM Flag
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Los Angeles, 2. Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:42 PM Flag
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One. I had wanted more, but once my first came I realized that's all I could manage [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:55 PM Flag
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sorry- lived in Brooklyn, moved to CT five years ago [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:55 PM Flag
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1, Manhattan. Very happy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:58 PM Flag
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3, soho [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:07 PM Flag
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3 and working on 4th. Manhattan. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.19.19, 12:22 AM Flag
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2. San Diego. Yes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.19.19, 01:38 AM Flag
[ - ] Dd got into Brooklyn Tech, it was her last choice. What do you think of the school? 30 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:06 PM Flag
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Don’t think about it that way, who cares how did you rank it. Try to think about it objectively and positively. Good luck! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:16 PM Flag
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my son goes there he is very happy, he is espescially happy he didn't rank Stuy (he would have gotten in) when he sees all the work his friends are doing. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:17 PM Flag
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np: Would love to hear about the differences. I think my DS could test into Stuy, but we live closer to Brooklyn Tech. What advantages? It mostly seems huge. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:19 PM Flag
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Stuy mom with tech friends. The tech kids have lives. Stuy kids don’t. Tech staff and administration care. Stuy gives lip service. Don’t be intimidated by the size [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:25 PM Flag
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Sure, Stuy is absolutely more prestigious but the workload his friend's parents are describing is much more than my son has, BK Tech is plenty prestigious and the amount of homework he gets it very manageable which affords him time for extra-curriculas which he enjoys. I secretely tried to nudge him to Stuy but I am glad he resisted. Brooklyn tech is huge, there is no way around that - the flip side of that is the scale lets the school offer lots of specialized programs. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:35 PM Flag
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np. If you have a techie child it has so much to offer. where else can you major in robotics or aerospace or architecture. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:48 PM Flag
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He is very into math and coding. Is Brooklyn Tech actually stronger for that than Stuy?? I wonder which does more for math... [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:08 PM Flag
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Does Stuy have a system of majors, too? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:12 PM Flag
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No [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.19.19, 01:19 AM Flag
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I don't know if you can compare them like that. Look at the courses available. Tech has a software engineering major which is somewhat specific compared to stuy's more general computer science courses. You will see what I mean when you look. Tour both and ask questions. Stuy has consistently stronger students than tech, but it is easier to get a high gpa at tech without killing yourself. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:16 PM Flag
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thanks! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:47 PM Flag
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Tech is great for kids who want school to be part of their lives and to have a good amount of other free time. Stuy is great for kids who really thrive in school being all consuming. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:48 PM Flag
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No one thrives with school all consuming [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.19.19, 01:20 AM Flag
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Some kids would really rather be doing school work or working on their robotic project or debate prep than anything else. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.19.19, 02:05 AM Flag
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np. My son missed stuy by 2 pts and is at tech. Dodged a bullet. It has been great. He's been lucky, though, almost all good teachers, great major, great friends. It looks so depressing when you go there, but it is such a happy place in a way. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:43 PM Flag
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I hear this all the time! People discount tech because the entrance score is the lowest of the other schools. But it's just because it's so big (if it took the same number of kids as bx sci, the entrance cut off would probably be similar). And the kids there seem well rounded and happy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.19.19, 02:06 AM Flag
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There is a wider range of abilities at tech than at Bx Sci and def at Stuy. It is more laid back because of that. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.19.19, 03:04 PM Flag
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I hear it's very good! How's DD feel about it? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:19 PM Flag
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Happy, but really had her heart set on Bronx science [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:43 PM Flag
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All the kids that were disappointed that they didnt get into Bronx Science or Stuy from my DD's class, LOVED Brooklyn tech. They are in 12th grade and the kids are all getting into the same schools. She will be happy there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 11:25 PM Flag
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Thank you [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 11:52 PM Flag
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I really like it. I think you will too. Gotta fun but will check back [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:23 PM Flag
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love it. tour again. there is SO much going on. your DD will find a place she fits within the school [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:25 PM Flag
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Love it, but it is not for everyone. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:41 PM Flag
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Can you be more specific? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:45 PM Flag
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My kid has had a great time as have all of his friends, but I know of one kid who was at his ms who wanted to transfer for two years. He just never connected with anyone and didn't feel like he belonged. that changed junior year and now he's happy enough. It is a big school, so you have to make a little bit of an effort to find kids to sit with at lunch during the first weeks or join a club. Mine was shy, but managed to find kids day one. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:51 PM Flag
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I think Brooklyn Tech is great. I was trying to convince dd to rank it first but she likes smaller schools and ranked hsmse first. She qualified for Stuy fwiw, but is not a kid who thrives in pressure cooker environments. Why I like BT: interesting majors, strong sports (my kid is an athlete), fabulous education but with less stress/homework than Stuy/Bx Sci/very diverse. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:47 PM Flag
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It's a great school if you are science or engineering minded. Male/female ratio is skewed which sometimes causes weird social dynamics, but kids generally are pretty happy there. It's huge enough that everyone finds a place. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:34 PM Flag
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Very good school, lots of friends' kids go, all very bright, all really like it. Congrats!! [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 11:32 PM Flag
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I think BT is awesome, actually. I know a teacher there and several kids who are students--so many offerings there. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.19.19, 01:25 AM Flag
[ - ] Divorced moms who date. Do you find men try to initiate sex on the second date? Or is this just they creeps I have been meeting? 3 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:01 PM Flag
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I have a friend who is divorced and she has met some really gross guys. Like total perverts. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:03 PM Flag
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My bf waited for fourth date. He was nervous. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:04 PM Flag
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yes [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 11:34 PM Flag
[ - ] Anyone have experience with HSMSE? My son was just got a seat there. 13 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:00 PM Flag
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Congrats! I have a friend whose son goes there and really likes it. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:09 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:13 PM Flag
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Nice to hear. Not an easy commute, but I think the small environment will be good for him. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:39 PM Flag
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Same. 9th grader & very, very happy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:40 PM Flag
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Where will you be commuting from? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:41 PM Flag
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Friend’s DS commutes from the East 90s. M96 to the B. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:56 PM Flag
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Did you know that HSMSE is ranked higher nationally than Stuy and Bronx Sci? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:09 PM Flag
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np - National high school rankings mean nothing. Read their methodology and see if you agree with them. A large percentage of their ranking is based on percentage of seniors who took AP tests - it doesn't matter what SCORE they received on it - just that they took it. So 100% taking AP tests, even if they all fail, means that that HS ranks higher than a HS where 50% take AP tests and score a 4 or 5 on all of them. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:13 PM Flag
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Rankings are mostly a scam anyway....maybe one data point to consider but as NP mentioned only once you figure out methodology [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:29 PM Flag
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uh, no [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:15 PM Flag
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Beautiful campus [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:13 PM Flag
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My friend's DS LOVES it. Great for a kid into math/science. Pretty intense academics. But seems like a great group of kids and parents. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:49 PM Flag
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df's ds goes there and loves it and dd's friend also goes there and loves. so I've only heard good things. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 11:44 PM Flag
[ - ] How is Columbia Secondary? 1 Reply [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 08:59 PM Flag
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for MS or HS? [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:29 PM Flag
[ - ] If you have a centrist/slightly left political outlook, where do you get your news and opinion pieces? I read the Times, but looking for more opinion pieces. TIA. 12 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 08:50 PM Flag
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I read the WSJ and the Times most regularly. Even though the WSJ is not left, its a good counterpoint to some more left things I read online and it's still proper journalism. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 08:53 PM Flag
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Except for the opinion section, which skews bananas. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 08:57 PM Flag
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I don't read the editorials on any papers. Opinions are like assholes. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 08:58 PM Flag
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This [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.19.19, 02:00 AM Flag
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I follow a ton of journalists and podcasters on twitter. easiest place to get news, just subscribe to the Majority Report podcast - they sum up the days events and review everything. they also have excellent interviews, but you don't have to listen to all of those. I also like the Intercept, the Young Turks and Chapo Trap House. NY Times is not great IMO. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 08:58 PM Flag
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I subscribe to NY Times, The New Yorker, The Week (which I LOVE), Vanity Fair. My husband gets The Atlantic. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:02 PM Flag
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Bloomberg [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:03 PM Flag
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Atlantic and Vox [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:11 PM Flag
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I like Washington Post more than NYT these days. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:28 PM Flag
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Same here. It just seems less agenda driven then the NYT, and I’m super liberal [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:31 PM Flag
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economist [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:33 PM Flag
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Check out medium. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 10:39 PM Flag
[ - ] Give me your thoughts on Montessori please! 16 Replies [ Reply | Watch | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 08:41 PM Flag
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it depends on the school, anyone can use the name [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 08:43 PM Flag
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+1 [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 08:59 PM Flag
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We love the Montessori method. DD is in 3rd grade in a Montessori school in CA and DS will go too in the fall. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 08:43 PM Flag
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Depends on the school: Montessori is an educational theory. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 08:44 PM Flag
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The name doesn’t correlate with the school in most cases [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 08:44 PM Flag
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I did it growing up, but for our DC we ultimate felt it was not the right fit at all (at least a "strict" Montessori). Couldn't be happier with our choice not to send DC to one, I couldn't imagine a school that doesn't allow imaginative play [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 08:51 PM Flag
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I think playing with other kids, dressing up & doing imaginative play are critical for early childhood development, so a strict Montessori program is not for us. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 08:55 PM Flag
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My kids went there for preschool. We loved our particular school. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:03 PM Flag
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You can only judge school by school. Some use the label and aren't really Montessori in practise. Some are strict about Montessori which for me is a turn off. And finally--what do YOU think it all means? I've taught at one and really disliked the philosophy. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:10 PM Flag
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It would have been wrong for my rule follower dc, but is ideal for my adhd nephew. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:13 PM Flag
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Actually I'd say the opposite. It's a misnomer to think that these kids move without rules. In fact they have to master things to move on. At the one where I taught kids were not given complete freedom. And artistic interest was not at all considered during play periods. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:20 PM Flag
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Perhaps you are right, I just know that it works for my nephew. He lives abroad and it’s either public schools that are traditional, strict and rigid, or private montessory. There are no public progressives. My dc was in both progressive and traditional schools, and we by far preferred progressive. Traditional was making dc too timid and insecure. Teachers yelled and infirced rules for the sake of rules all the time and that made my well behaved dc scared and reserved. We had to move dc to a progressive school and it was a perfect fit for a well behaved happy dc. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:56 PM Flag
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All Montessoris are different. DD went to preschool to one in Brooklyn and it was a great experience. School followed Montessori principles but was flexible enough to fit many personalities. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:19 PM Flag
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i think the school really matters. my son and my daughter both went to montessori schools, but you wouldn't guess they had anything in common (except for the same manipulatives) based on day to day experience. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:34 PM Flag
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i think very strict montessori schools, like the one my son went to, can be hard on kids. no imaginative play isn't very natural (or desirable) for most kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.18.19, 09:35 PM Flag
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My kids went to a Montessori which is traditional but no “strict”. There was a lot of playtime. Their manners are excellent because “grace and courtesy” is emphasized and it is really nice to see that translate meaningfully in behavior of 3 and 4 year olds. They also really liked “practical life” lessons like cooking and folding laundry—this would not be happening a a regular daycare but it clearly resonated w/ my kids. [ Reply | More ]
General Topics 03.19.19, 12:51 AM Flag
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